What's Still Stopping You? | Imp And Skizz Podcast (Ep76)
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- Опубліковано 18 січ 2024
- In this episode of the Imp And Skizz podcast, we revisit the "What's Stopping You" podcast from over a year ago and dive into what other nuances play their part in keeping us all from getting a move on!
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Can we revisit “what’s stopping you” in January every year? I’d love next year to have y’all include stories from listeners who were impacted.
Maybe add someone as a guest. I like to hear someone else’s view for such topics. Having Grian added for this talk would be amazing and probably funny I can already hear him procrastinate to come on this channel. 😂
Love this idea
It should be called "What stopped stopping you" if its stories from listeners
Grian could talk about procrastinating the back of his bases@@Questerer
Ep77 Should be the DocM77 episode , just dreaming.
Great idea
Ever since the first "what's stopping you" episode. I started my very own business. It's slow going but I really think it was the best decision I ever made. Just wanted to say Thank You both for giving me that little nudge in the right direction. Love you guys!!
I quit smoking years ago by flipping the switch in my head.
"I'm no longer a smoker".. not " I'm trying to quit".
Years later I did the same with alcohol.
Now that I have quit bad habits, it's time to start good ones. Procrastination is my biggest hurdle.
Im 6 months in on not being a smoker and i still hate it. Sure hope it will get better
Skizz just needs to stream himself as he's fixing up his office, like a just chatting stream where he can also be like, "is this working? Does this look good?". It'll be a win-win situation.
Skizz. A suggestion for that wall you want *without stress* : keep the green screen, use it to cover your (slow scheduled) progress on the build, until you finally reveal the finished wall, sans green screen. Those bricks won’t care when the next brick is laid. Do a row after lunch, or whenever. No stress. Gradual progress. “It’s happening” satisfaction. Exciting reveal. You can do it! ❤
I second this
I like this idea!
What's stopping you? "It's not monday" -Impulse
I felt that lmao.
I'd love to see Joel and Lizzie on the podcast
Definitely! An update on their "how we met" story as they're older now and would have more to say (I love a sappy story lol), maybe talk about the reality of being a couple so publicly in the gaming world and how that translates to their life - advice they have. What Lizzie has been doing on the side when she's not making much content! They're some of my favourite UA-camrs, separate and together, and I'm always wondering what else Lizzie is up to. Maybe get some hints about what next SMP they'll be doing 😊
I turned 40, started a master’s degree and ran my first half marathon! I listened to that episode several times!
That's amazing! I'm proud of you, and I wish you great success.
Skizz is so great with quotes. that one at the start "your not still trying - your still doing" . so true
I have to chime in here. I was binging y'alls podcasts (particularly the What's Stopping You podcast) while I was driving to Colorado for a class that I was really hoping would get me motivated to take the next step in a career that I have been working toward for a while now. I'm still stuck in a rut and haven't been able to get anywhere. I'm at a point to where I think there is something rooted deep in my mind that makes me freeze up when I try to move forward. I don't see how anyone can desire change so much and have such a hard time getting to that next step. I'm coming to the realization that it may not have been the profession that I wanted as much as needing to get away from what I was doing and making my own way. Procrastination has been my bane for a while now. I've learned in this past year, that it's actually a trauma response.
While I still haven't gotten started, I did manage to make some positive changes in my life. I left my job which helped my mental well-being tremendously. Not long after I left, I completely quit drinking alcohol which also helped me mentally as well as physically. I also managed to stick to a workout program and am currently learning to love training my body. I've read that positive changes in one aspect of your life can fuel change in other parts.
Steps. You’ve taken several steps! Building momentum! 🎉 What wonderful news! ❤
“stop finding reasons why you can’t have it” is honestly so inspiring. i’m disabled and mentally ill, and i often come up with all the reasons why i can’t reach my dreams, but that’s just not the truth. anyone can manage to do at least a little bit of what they love!
Scar said something in one of his videos. His swim coach told him, "life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you respond."
As a spoonie, that's helped a lot. Scar helped from being "I can't do this because of..." to this channel which has been a ray of light.
You got this.
Me too that bit hit hard. I’m a don’t fix it if it ain’t broke person and I know I have things I want But tell myself, I don’t need it. It’s not worth the money or I don’t need it to survive. I just thought it was a really cool thought and is making me reevaluate some things.
I wrote that and "you have to find a way to love/enjoy the process" in my journal
My tip for getting going on a day-to-day basis is the "10 minute" rule:
- Come up with an amount of time to spend working on a task that you feel is impossible to fail, that there's no way you could mess up. E.g. 10 minutes cleaning a room.
- Do what you can working on the task for that amount of time.
That's all there is to it. Working on something for 10 minutes is far less intimidating than getting the whole task done, so it's much easier to launch yourself into action. Often you'll find you can continue working past that initial time goal, because you've overcome the biggest hurdle -- starting. But even if you don't continue, at least you made an honest effort, which resulted in some progress. It's surprising how much difference ten minutes can make!
Seeing what this episode was about made me cry. This wednesday morning my mom had a brain bleed. They werent sure if she was gonna be okay. She woke up late the next day and has started speaking. Today she made an attempt to get out of bed while being in the ICU in hospital.
Ive been so tired lately and just got the adrenaline to keep going to the hospital twice a day every day now. My test week started today and she asked me why im with her and not studying and working (i work in a restaurant).
She has been making jokes and messing with the nurses because she gets her energy from humor.
Shes the litteral meaning of "nothing is stopping you" for me right now.
She has been moving the affected side of her body and is scaring the doctors with how quick shes wanting to start movement therapy.
Nothing is stopping you is the phrase that gets me up in the morning to go to her.
I can't say how much i appreciate listening to this in the moments i can't be with her.
Thanks for being awesome!
I am one of those people that the first what's stopping you episode really helped. It's been a year of learning how to draw, and 6 months of playing guitar. I still really suck at guitar, but I can draw bodies now instead of stick figures! 😅🎉
Hey thats awesome! Keep it up
🔥 Progress, not perfection! Keep it up!
If you are stuck in your progression to play the guitar try to isolate why you can’t progress right now and try go improve that skill. If you are not accurate enough, try and slow down and do it a bunch of times so your accuracy can improve. Speed it slowly up from there till you are at the right speed.
I love how so many people impacted by OG episode were stuck at drawing... it's also so wonderful to know this one of the most beautiful art fields get so much love now
Skizz just needs to hire Mr and Mrs Impulse as a duo. Mrs Impulse decorates the space so the wall behind isnt ugly or whatever, and Impulse installs all the tech!
Thanks for doind podcasts like this one, i need the motivation
I wanted to start my own channel for a very long time, and your original 'what's stopping you' podcast is what got me going. I draw continuous support from a smaller discord channel I have been in for many years. I suggest finding a smallish group of people with similar likes or goals and giving each other that verbal/written support to motivate yourself. It has worked for me, I am proud to say that I now have subscribers whom I don't actually know, and I am happy with the work I have done. I am by no means a 'professional', but I am loving what I do and I thank you for the motivation to give it a try. At this point, I am now 18 episodes in, and each episode has had some viewership. It is not high numbers, but it is way more than the zero I would have had without putting the videos up.
My marketing teacher taught me something when I was 17 and will always remember it. You do or you dont. You can't "try" to pick up a pencil, you pick it up or you don't. So when our homework was not done and you say you tried to do it, his response is well you didn't because if you tried you would have something to turn in. He didn't grade you on correctly doing the homework, he graded if you turned it in.
Whoa...... I litterally just attempted the "try" to pickup my pen.... Yeah... No it's either I did or I didn't. Do, or do not... There is no try
“Happiness is not doing what you want, it's loving what you do.”
Picked up a workout regimen, started a new job, and following through with my dream schooling, all because of a podcast from these two cool dudes. 😊
So I watched the first video just after a big break up and it was while I was decorating the new rental to make it habitable, that was 6 months ago, since then I have got myself going to the gym at a minimum once per week, I also train with my reenactment friends twice a week AND I'm now in the middle of editing my first ever Minecraft Lets play. I have achieved so much in the last 6 months alone because of that first video so I just want to thank you both so much for being a beacon of light in what seemed like a never ending dark tunnel at the time, I'm now much happier in myself and in a much better place mentally with so much to look forward to this year. You guys are fantastic. Plus this came out on my birthday, so what a fantastic present this is!
Hey guys, the original "What's Stopping You" episode made a tremendous impact in my life. At the time that it came out, I was in the middle of editing the first batch of 4 videos for this channel, and I was having serious reservations about finishing and releasing them. But that episode came at the perfect time to put the fire in my belly and just send it. Since then, it's been an absolute life-changer and the craziest roller coaster I've ever experienced. More subscribers than I could have ever imagined in this short span, connections that I didn't think were possible, and even international travel... As you know, it's been an absolute TON of work, but i guess I proved to myself that I really do want it. Hoping this turns into my full-time job one day, and I am working every single day to make that a reality. Thank you guys ❤
I just want to say, I have been listening to your podcast for about 3-4 months now and it has been life changing, because lf the "Whats stopping you" podcast I finally got the courage to actually start a channel myself! Thank you for all the amazing content!
Hi!! I've been listening on Spotify, and 24 mins in, the audio from Bdubs' "If not been area" is still overlayed over your speaking
Because of this, I moved to a whole new state. I have a new career that is my first salary job with benefits and a 401k. I have even started working out and have lost 15 lbs in the 3 months.
Good for you! That is really really awesome to hear
If your being sarcastic I support that. Idk why they had to ruin their podcast.
As a great woman once said "In every job that must be fun... there is an element of fun...find the fun and *snap* the jobs a game!" - Mary Poppins. I try to find the fun in everything I do. I try to gamify my work or house cleaning or anything that is hard. I appreciate this podcast. I'm struggling to get my business done. I'm trying to push through the fear and unknown.
Skizz, do it. (improve your office)
Actually, I think for the Webcam, you should do it while you're streaming just sound. Then we can celebrate together when we see you!
I am trying to apply the Kaizen principle to doing stuff.
Instead of just making a massive task of things I try to break it into the smallest credible part and then do that because when you achieve that you’re more inclined to want to do the next small part and before you know it you’ve done the whole task.
The idea is that you’re looking to do something, but if the task is too big you’re more likely to leave it or put it off, but if something is small and achievable easily, you’re brain gives you a dopamine reward and your more likely to decide to do more.
The "what's stopping you" episode really gave me the last bit of motivation to kickstart my UA-cam channel recently.
Starting it made me very happy, as hearing my voice on youtube felt so absurd to me that it made me laugh out loud quite a few time !
Glad to see a classic podcast, i do miss these it seems like there have been a lot of interviews lately. Which are also fantastic, definitely dont stop those. In fact, maybe INTERVIEW ETHO NEXT WWWOOOOO! Etho is simultaneously one of the most well know but mysterious minecraft youtubers, he needs to be on here
Dude, some of us really needed a kick in the ass. I had been jumping from job to job that I knew wouldn't work for me, for 10 years. I was setting myself up on the failure T and getting mad when I swung at the success T and missed the ball entirely. The whole time, I had been putting off figuring out what I want to do with my life. I would justify it by telling myself I would figure it out once I found a stable job.
So, I was in a rut of putting off the future to focus on failing in the present. Your words kicked me in the ass the way my family should have done years ago. That podcast episode most likely saved me from becoming hell for myself and those around me. Since then I've been more focused on mental health and becoming a better person, I haven't told many people but I've been slowly reading through self help books. Once I can afford it I'm going to start therapy.
I also have a job I love now. I went in a completely different direction than I ever had before and instantly fell in love with my job because I picked one that worked with my brain rather than against it. I'm never going back to retail again. I have a plan for the future, I'm going back to school for a degree that will help me make my future dreams come true, and I might actually succeed in making it happen. You helped get the ball rolling with a simple conversation.
Thank you, thank you, so much. ❤
I didn't watch the first video, but I've been watching for a while. Yall have inspired me to do better and better. Thanks to yall Ive been able to help make change in my community and have started looking into sharing my story. Today I went to a cafe that encourages you to sit with strangers and for the first time I did. I met a wonderful woman and new people because of doing so. Yall have helped me and helped me help my community and I sincerely appreciate it.
I live up here in Washington State and deliver lumber. I was on Bainbridge Island the other day, and this homeowner I was delivering lumber to said that the people down the street invented pickleball back in the 60s basicly just for family and friends to enjoy. Who knew it would have a slow burn and explode.
I think one reason people fail is they do not know how to set S-M-A-R-T (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely) goals. This is something Skizz mentioned in a previous podcast, but I feel is key to this topic. People set too big (unrealistic, unachievable) or vague (unmeasurable, untimely) goals. Baby steps ….. start small and build up to the end result. Make it more manageable.
I wanted to say thank you Impulse and Skizz, after watching part 1 of "what's stopping you" close to end of last year it flipped a creative switch in me. I wanted to start a content creation journey and I was doubting so much, but you real conversation and insight helped me to reflect and realize that I can do this if I'm willing to put the work in. Part 2 now encouraged me again, to keep going, the journey might be bumpy and difficult, and I might procrastinate and overthink but I'm moving forward, step by step, one art project, one video at a time. I can create my own catalysts for change. Love your podcasts and gaming content! Keep at it guys and thanks again.
When you guys say "Kinda Want it" It reminds me of a book I read called "Rebecoming" whose Author I don't remember. The writing was pretty average in my opinion, but the point of the story was the similar themes of Wanting and not wanting to change. The Three levels of wanting in that book were referred to as such: 1. Do Not Want 2. Want to want (but not directly wanting) and 3. Actual Wanting.
When you "Want to Want it" you're in the stage of shaming yourself for not having done it yet, while simultaneously shaming yourself for thinking of changing at all. It's difficult to get past the shame that we grow up with to make positive differences in our lives and that very averagely written book helped me conceptualize that problem so I could even begin to want.
There were a lot of other mental health steps between "wanting to want" and "wanting" and I am not sure I have actually made it to "Wanting" at all, despite having quit my job beneath a tragically unironic "Lumbergh", gaininng two more jobs and applying for a second degree. Is this Wanting? It just doesn't feel like I have gone anywhere yet.
I'm a bit more like Skizz, I can't move until what I am doing stops working. Case in point, Last job was giving me ulcers, so I had to quit or my medical bills would exceed my pitiful income.
Turns out Phone Anxiety doesn't go away with exposure for Autistic people.
Phone anxiety sucks, it’s true. Also true, first steps, while perhaps small, are still steps = movement. That’s my autism talking: stark reality. It’s my “super power”….highlighting the, to me, obvious reality, despite emotions. What’s your super power?
When i watched that episode i really hoped there would be an ongoing follow-up. A great one would be to keep this going. Goal setting and then review and reflection down the line. I hope you were able to find stuff on the Stages of Change Model Skizz. I work within addiction treatment (although no longer directly) and as you guys know that's all about change. You would probably find the principles of Motivation Interviewing interesting as well. 😁
"Because 100% consistency was their barometer as to whether or not they were actually successful"
Holy crap, thank you Skizz
Enablers impede the journey. I think a good podcast would be how to get family and friends onboard with your goals without the relationship suffering. Also, having different timelines or approaches to a goal when your spouse is involved. These two areas are still holding me up. I feel like if i would be successful if i lone wolf it, but i feel my relationship would suffer.
I’ve spent most of my life deathly afraid of failure and believing that I was unworthy of success. Only recently as I’ve been working to better myself as an artist to get into a specific art program at my school did I realize how much I really want it. Enough to look past the reasons why I can’t have it, enough to ignore my fear of having it, because I am more afraid of NOT having it. And so I’m submitting my portfolio for the program. I’m getting work together, I am going out of my comfort zone to talk to people. 38:52 when Skizz says to stop finding reasons why I can’t have it, it may not have changed me in that moment, but Skizz, you imbuing that energy into all you do has slowly opened my eyes over the last year and some y’all have had this podcast. Thank you.
One of the subdivisions of "I really want it" is actually below "I don't want it" and "I kind of want it" which is simply, "I really want something else that's incompatible more." And no matter how much I want some things, that's the one that stops me most. The thing I normally want more is time with my family. And even that falls far behind providing for them, and those two things are sometimes exact opposites. So it's a cascading series of priorities, and I'm ruthless about defending those priorities, and that includes risk. Example: I could spend time with my family and provide for them at the same time if I were my own boss and made my own schedule. And that's possible. But if I fail at that, I've lost more than I'm willing to lose. Risk is real, and fear can be a good thing. (The flip-side to all this is while I may only have moderate success to the outside observer, I'm also insanely happy.)
This has really helped me. I've always been looked down upon for multiple different reasons. One was because I stutter and want to work in sports broadcasting, which requires me to speak a lot. Another one was I'm young. I'm really young to be where I am. I also am more privileged (money-wise) than my friends. It reached the point where I did not want to get/do anything I actually wanted. I kept being stopped, not by others, but by finding reasons why I shouldn't be the one to have it. Mainly because I feel like I am not the one who needs it since I am more privileged.
Thank you for talking about this topic again! Both of the podcasts about this topic have been my favorite ones so far.
Just wanted to share some procrastination things! I recently spoke about this with my therapist because it is an area I struggle with, and honestly why I didn't make any big life changes after the last stopping you podcast. Procrastination often comes from rules we set ourselves that make no sense, like Impulse's Monday thing. If you can identify rules that keep you from starting something but don't actually matter, you can really start making some serious change a little at a time.
I guess knowledge and skill are often things that keep us from doing things we’d like to do. Finding reliable ways to gather this knowledge (through peers, school, internet,… ) has many challenges of its own and might be worthy of some discussion
I remember that 2nd episode. It was a massive turning point in my life. I was in such a bad place then, not any more ❤ thank you guys 😊
37:08 Impulse brought up some very good strong valid points!!!!!
Thank you so much for making a follow up video for this! Even though these comments are all just text on a screen you truly have been changing people to go about their lives in a more positive way. Thank you sincerely 🙏
Hey guys I typically listen to the audio only version but as soon as I saw this one I thought who gave them a mind reader. So I hopped over here to tell you guys that what you’re doing and talking was very much needed. Btw on the audio version of this episode at 24:07 bdubs randomly cuts in and makes it hard hear. Great work on the podcast guys!
After watching the podcast from last year. I set myself too many goals and I only stuck to one. And I achieved it, mine was to stop caring what others think about me and it was a long inner battle, but by the end of the year I finally done it. And honestly not only does the world feel like it's lifted off my back but I feel way more happier for it. U guys podcast really inspired me to evaluate the way I think. Thank you guys. 😊
These are always interesting, especially to me who puts off projects. (Currently as of me typing this I haven't finished watching. I'll finish it later as I need to sleep.)
But I think my main issue are laziness. That's a habit I've struggled to kick for years. I'm not there yet, but I have been trying.
As for goals, I don't know. I guess finishing up an animation project and drafting 3 stories finish. Definitely more art, I have so many ideas. It's just that life outside of the digital space calls. (It's completely separate from this yt space.)
An artist always keeps a sketch pad of some sort. Maybe a digital one, you can save to “air” then download to workspace would help? Just a thought… ❤
@@StarNanny that is true. My issue is I would start a project, then drag it out and not complete it.
Much appreciate the advice though. I should probably get doing that and not drag it out. :D
Today I made myself follow through and go busking for tge first time in 30 years. My mood was foul but I forced myself. Well, not only did I make a little spare change, but being "on" for people as they passed absolutely fixed my mood. I am going back every day until the transit strike. If I make as much tomorrow and sunday, We can affors a chicken dinner! Winner winner chicken dinner.
I don't know how old your kids are but they are going to love having these videos oneday. I would give anything to hear my Dad talk about these topics now that I'm middle aged and he's gone. Great podcast guys, I look forward to the next one!😊
This podcast was exactly what i was missing from the original "what's stopping you". Thank you guys, this is gold, and your approach to improvement and peeling back the layers is what makes me connect so well and I love it. Thank you both so much.
37:13 Dr. K from HealthyGamer made a great point there a few days ago: If you set up a huge goal, every small step becomes less significant in relation to the goal. So let's say you want to go to the gym 5 times per week. That's 260 days of the year. Skipping a day is just about 0.4% percent of your goal. But if you tell yourself to go to the gym 5 times this week and skip a day, it would be 20% of your goal that you miss.
Not sure how often the ImpAndSkizz Twitter gets checked, but wanted to reiterate what I said there and say how thankful I am that some of my favorite content creators have such great podcasts! Just an underrated feeling having enjoyable podcasts to listen to.
I'm so glad you touched on Atomic Habits. That book absolutely changed my life in big way. I really recommend it to whoever is stuck in a bad spot because of procrastination. Especially if you've already heard the same tips and trics every self-help speaker talks about on repeat but don't work for you. The author takes a completely different angle of approach and has lots of small and actionable things that really have an impact.
Oh my goodness, Skizz saying you're not trying you're doing....it totally took me to Yoda - do or do not, there is no try - but it finally applied to real life! Thank you so much guys.
I learned to allow myself the time I need to do a project. I suffer from severe back and leg pain. I still bake and cook for my grown family to make meals and things to send home with them to make their lives a little bit easier. it just takes me a lot longer to do these things than it would have a few years ago or someone else to do. I plan rest times into my day no matter what I have planned. I recently laid all new flooring (wood plank vinyl tiles). This project took me 3 months to do. I did one room at a time and took a week or so off in between each room. (sitting on the floor is one of the worst things for my back). Now I have the floor I wanted and the satisfaction of having done it myself.
The point is, you can do it, but you have to be realistic for your life and circumstances.
Guys, I just listened to this on Spotify. I quit smoking 12 years ago, and I just started again 2 months ago. My wife and I are trying to have a child now, and I am quitting again. I was like, you were talking to me. Thank you for the reminder to stay the course.
i struggle a lot with motivation and follow through on a lot of tasks - even ones that excite me. through some therapy i’m finding that i just need to give myself a lil more grace and be kind to myself. i keep myself from accomplishing things bc i’m proactively beating myself up for an imperfect product or because i’m not doing something in the way other ppl expect me to. some of it is also understanding that life changes and shifts and that means that some tasks may evolve and look different over time. i was a collegiate athlete and i have such a hard time working out at all now bc the only definition of “workout” in my head is a two hour workout filled with weights i hated lifting and conditioning that left me incredibly worn out (not to mention the competitiveness and negative self talk that went with it). i have to be a lil more gentle with myself and celebrate the smaller actions like going for a walk. it’s nowhere near what i used to be able to do but it’s still something and that should be acknowledged. the completionist and perfectionist in my head don’t usually leave room for error or for performance less than my peak, but i’m trying to unlearn some of that so i can really take off with things that excite me and stop holding myself back.
I quit smoking back in 2014 but switched to vape. Then I quit that in 2018 and switched to chewing tobacco. Now I'm a year and a half nicotine free. Just woke up one day and told myself, "you are done." It wasn't a new years resolution, didn't have a death in the family. Just out of the blue I'm done. Now if only I could do that with drinking...
This video came at the perfect time for me! I just mentally decided last night to tackle a goal that has been over my head for a while. As a side fact, I could listen to both of you talk about tech equipment for hours.
I love listening to these two laugh, it's so contagious :)
Gents I really need markers in these videos so I can re listen to certain portions and stay motivated! Thanks for everything you guys are putting out into the world. Love your positivity and your enduring sense of compassion for your audience.
listening to this podcast inspired me to go back to college. I dropped out when I was 18 and always told myself I just wasn't cut out for it. but it was always something I wanted for myself. I got accepted a few months ago but I was apprehensive about actually enrolling. you've inspired me to go ahead with it. thank you guys.
I was diagnosed with ADHD late in life and there is something to be said about knowing the thing that impedes you. Whether it's your own hang ups or something different with your brain itself, knowing "the why" stops you from feeling guilty about it and allows you to be proactive about fixing or managing the issue. I actually do similar things to what Impulse suggested to Skizz in order to get myself to do certain things.
39:25 Advice to viewers here: don’t mistake a reason why something is HARD for a reason why it can’t be done. Do hard things.
This episode is sort of a kickstarter for me. Really perfect timing.
In the past few months, maybe half year even, I’ve felt like I’ve fallen behind in the amount of effort I put into things music (I take piano lessons, but have stunted my growth from lack of practicing due to procrastination and “it’s not fun” mindset… like three practices of 15-30 minutes at most each week.)
Anyway, it results in a lot of negative feelings for me, feeling like a disappointment to myself and others. And I love all things music, but it’s become tedious and a negative experience for me.
So, not a New Years resolution, but for myself, it’s getting up and playing more. Being more intentional to push through. I decided to do this last night, and now that I’ve finished the podcast, I will get started once I finish this comment. Procrastination and “I’ll do it later” has become the death of me in this area.
For anyone habit-building like myself, I heard the tip of make the baseline really easy and dumb. (For me, two to five minutes of practicing a day, or during the week. The baseline is so easy that it’d be laughable if I didn’t finish it.)
It’s making the task more palatable than “practice 45 minutes each week day and then feel terrible about yourself because you can’t motivate yourself to do that much, let alone 30 minutes”.
That’s my spiel for the day. I may show up in a twitch chat and talk about the success. (Because yes, I will do this. We’re saying it here, folks. I will be more consistent and show up for myself in this area.)
Gave em up for a second time about a month ago. Since then, probably smoked about 5 cigarettes. I knew it was "bad" to smoke em. But I didn't beat myself up over it.
As someone who always worries about having bad breath, Impulse’s story makes me feel very validated 😅
I thought about putting this podcast episode off because I knew what was coming and I figured I’d be upset about someone I don’t know describing my life telling me what I’m doing wrong. The approach you guys take to this topic is so applicable and helpful and I’m glad I didn’t put it off. Thanks guys.
I had many of the same issues as Skizz. I've just come out of an ADHD diagnosis at 41, and even though Skizz may not have the same, I've found some coping mechanisms that really help. I have an app called Due that yells at me all the time, and I wear an apple airpod that announces the notifications to me. or you can have them pushed to a watch. You can set a mode wo no social media can come though, just the Due app and a calendar. The calander is a good idea, but if you are away from your office you will have to remember to add in anything later. Maybe another monitor with a calanering app specifically only used on that, then you can update when you are away, but its in your face in your office. I also set timers on my watch and started using a pomodoro at work so I come up for air every once in a while. Just some ideas!
Guys the "what's stopping you" podcast changed a lot in my life, I went back to the gym, lost the panedemic weight (more than 15kg) and I now feel great! After this I'm thinking to quit smoking after more than 10 years. podcast
Love from Rome.
PS. It would be super intresting to have Iskall in, talking about HC and game design
I also find the best way to start something is to lock an activity you really enjoy behind doing it. For instance, if you really like cookies you gotta finish your dinner before you get one. And if you break the rule add a punishment. If you eat a cookie before dinner, you need to eat extra veggies or you have to do something you don't really enjoy. My parents made us do 10 jumping Jack's whenever we were rude to each other growing up.
The first version of this episode was my absolute favorite. When I clicked on your podcast last year I never thought it would be so inspiring - you’ve actually made real differences in peoples lives! Thanks to both of you!!!
imp, skizz, i have to thank you tremendously. i've been streaming on twitch for a long while, and i have been talking for over a year to move my streaming to youtube (not with this account; this isn't a promo comment so i'll be leaving my channel names unlisted). but i kept getting held back by my own anxieties. i was already an affiliate with twitch, i didn't have everything set up and that would be work, oh well i'll do it at the start of the week/month/year. the list of excuses just kept growing and consuming me
a few days ago, i went onto the vent channel of a private server of just a few friends and myself. i talked about my unhappiness being on twitch and wanting to move to youtube. and my friend just asked me, "what's stopping you?" word for word. i didn't have an answer. i truly did not have a single answer that wasn't an excuse
i thought about your podcast and what you've talked about here and in other videos. i looked into the move again. and yesterday? yesterday, i had my first youtube stream on my other channel. it went... so well. so darn well. i had so much fun on that stream. so many people supported me and while there is still more to do, i can finally say with my whole chest that i'm ready to take the plunge towards youtube
thank you, to the both of you, the people you interview, my husband who has always supported me, and my friend who made me stare at my screen with a pikachu face. i feel strongly that this is a huge step toward where i want to be
Just wanted to say how much respect I have for you Skizz. We’re similar age, and work in the same industry. I couldn’t imagine trying to just juggle work, family, and the streaming/life series. It’s really inspiring to me. I play Minecraft with my 12 year old and I’ve gotten to become a huge fan of the “older” players that show age doesn’t matter. If you are fun, and empathetic, people will be drawn to you and watch.
I’m really excited and enjoying Hermitcraft so far. Keep it going, and this episode is great. I literally just changed out our network equipment…a week after it got here.
What was mentioned around 36 minutes - thank you. You gave me a better way to recognise my issue (YT and fitness) - I think I'm just going to jump in with baby steps now. 5 minutes a day in the morning, 5 minutes a day in the evening.
Thank you, it's a way better way to think of how to build my habits again after what I suffered.
A trick to getting starting is making sure your project you want to tackle has both big and small tasks. Big tasks are what will make the most progress, but the smaller tasks are essential for rebuilding momentum. The first step is always the hardest so do what you can to make it easier.
For example, if you're updating your streaming setup and you realize a cable needs repositioning, don't do it immediately. Even if will take 30 seconds, write it down somewhere to save for later. Then the next time you come back to this project and need to build up that momentum again, you have that cable to move. It takes only 30 seconds, and you can cross it off your list to get that little dopamine hit. From there you can ride that wave to get back up to speed.
I can't tell you how many projects I've burnt out of because I knocked out all the easy stuff early on and only had the larger stuff for last. Interlace them best you can.
Man....I know I'm late to this podcast, but i remember listening to the original when it came out. I was in a dark place honestly, academics that i couldn't leave were absolutely kicking my ass, and there were many things on the scale of wanting it, but the thing i really wanted was to kick-start livestreaming on youtube, to follow my real passion for minecraft (yep, really. I know this game inside out-)
Fast-forward to now, and I'm still not really where i want to be, at a day job i don't want to continue, but i really should.
But guess what, I'm not gonna let that be the thing stopping me from continuing what i actually want, i have one stream under my belt now finally, and I'm not giving up on my passion!
And plus, the quote of Skizz's he called out? Straight on my phone's home screen.
I need to digest what all this means to me still, and how i can take advice from you two, and really put it to good use, but there's no doubt that you've impacted and will continue to impact my life for the better.
To quote AJR, "No i ain't happy yet....but I'm way less sad-"
And sometimes that's all it takes :)
Have to tell Impulse my new life motto because I used to have the same issue with his "case of the Monday's" always wanting to start things on a Monday or the 1st of the month or what have you. "You don't have to start at the beginning." As soon as I told myself this, my life finally began changing for the better. You don't have to start at the beginning of the year, you don't have to start at the beginning of the week, you don't even have to start at the beginning of the day. You just have to start sometime. Waiting for the beginning of the week, waiting for Monday, is like waiting for someone else's permission to do something and you really need no permission to improve yourself, especially since no one will ever give it to you. You don't have to start at the beginning :D
Discipline equals Freedom is a book by jocko willink that tackles this subject perfectly. He keeps it simple reminds you to have fun and doesn't sugarcoat the solution. Being better isn't easy but it is worth the trouble.
Absolutely love this podcast, it inspired me to get into content creation, and I can't thank you enough!
skizz and impulse, once again a pearl necklace of pearls of wisdom. i also feel like if it works then it doesn't need changing or upgrading.
Another brilliant episode. Skizz, your ability to understand and connect with people is impeccable, I love your wisdom and agree with every word you say. What a great thing this podcast is. Love you guys ❤
I'm finally caught up with the latest episode after all the binge-listening. It's great to be here.
I've been at this kind of stuff for years and I've learned for me, it's a weird balancing act of positivity, a desire to do more, feeling like I'm building towards something and a realistic starting point. Also, clearly defining why I want to do the action. My main focus is fitness at the moment because I feel like it's the catalyst to improving everything else I'd like to improve on.
Positivity
I'm excited if I did some form of exercise once but I'm even more excited if I've done it 3 times. I don't even think about or beat myself up for missing days because I know it's counterintuitive to actually keeping up the new habit.
Even though I got knocked out of my routine for all of December and most of January, I don't feel bad about it. I'm just happy that I've learned how to kickstart things again by listening to podcasts that amp me up when I need it and I've restarted it faster than last time.
A desire for more
I'm aiming to do an intense bodyweight routine 3 times a week but I'd like to do Yoga or some form of cardio on my off days. So I'm simultaneously feeling good about myself when I do exercise but I also want to do more. Instead of feeling bad that I want to do more or beating myself up that I'm not exercising 7 days a week, I'm just happy that I have that desire. It means I'm in the proper mindset to build the life I want.
Building towards something
Every time I exercise, the habit is getting more solidified in my brain. Even when I get knocked out of the habit, once I get over the initial hump of starting again, I get better at maintaining the habit. Every time I exercise is a victory and every time I have to kickstart things after non-activity, I learn something new about myself and get slightly better at restarting.
Realistic starting point
I pretty much walked off and on for 2 years before I finally integrated a real strength building routine. I've rarely exercised most of my life and that was the only thing I could consistently keep up. That was my realistic starting point and I've had to learn a lot about changing my thinking in that time period. Some people might be able to go straight to the gym, I couldn't. If I tried to brute force it by being "perfect" I'd still be where I was 2 years ago.
Defining what you want
I'm more motivated by living a pain-free and emotionally balanced life than something like losing weight. So I work on keeping that in mind every day.
There are tons of other methods. Like making it fun, which was mentioned in the podcast. These are just the main things that have helped me stay on track :)
Another great podcast, I heard the first one and got to work. The most important thing I discovered was you need a why. I want to lose weight is such an open-ended goal. The why is so important, it needs to be stronger than those days that aren't fun. It can be done and it is worth it.
You guys did it again!!! I super needed this right now. Funnily enough, I’ve got a Heart Foundation Skizz cos-shoot coming up and I just haven’t done my wings. I can, I have the base and the feathers, but I just haven’t. This is a Valentine’s shoot. I’m running out of time. But I keep putting it off. I’m finally gonna kick into gear today though thanks to this podcast! So thank you
Quiting Smoking is harder then quiting drinking. Smoking was a breaktime moment, an after meal "treat" and a social connection. Drinking has different triggers that each person may need to deal with. But if you quit smoking...... You just accomplished the most difficult thing to conquer..... I speak from direct experience. I Quit smoking but still struggling with drinking.... And I need to just do it... Not try just do!
Here's potentially a tip for anyone who has 'small things' they keep procrastinating, which also can help in general if you struggle to 'do small things' like washing the dishes, throwing in a wash or having to send out an e-mail.
Do it during physical idle time, ideally in the place where you're idling.
Putting off washing the dishes? Do it while you wait for the water to boil. (THIS IS HUGE FOR ME.)
On a phonecall listening to your mom tell you a story? Grab those clothes and either throw them in the wash or take them out, fold them whatever. Undust, prepare some bottles in a bag to put next to the door etc.
Hell, I purposefully leave cleaning supplies around the house just so that when I'm looking out the window, the dust-cloth is just an arm's-reach away.
Like this more often than not at least I start something and make progress. Most of the time I'll finish what I'm doing anyway, and otherwise I'll just continue it in another idle moment.
I'm the kind of person that NEEDS to manage stuff this way, otherwise I'll put it all off until whatever it is is a mountain.
Make the steps you need to take to achieve something smaller and smaller. One step at the time if necessary.
Have that box with equipment that you need to unpack and install to your pc? Put it on your desk next to you within reach. In the kitchen an hour later? Grab a knife to bring back to your box.
Have that letter you have to write? Just grab the pen and paper and have it next to you.
I wanted to exercise more so we bought a small cheap stationary bike. I don't use it everyday, but I do exercise much more often because the bike is literally behind me. I don't have to go out, I don't have to prepare anything, I just hop on.
The thing is, I learned I need to minimize the amount of steps I have to do. And if there is a longer route to something, WRITE IT DOWN.
To get X you first need to do A B and C? Write it down, now look at A, how can I dissect A as it's own goal and make it approachable in steps.
I know it might sound like I'm a completely non-functional adult needing these things haha
That's not the case. I just know I have a problem with shoving things out in front of me, pushing the snowball until it's too heavy to push forward any further and suffocating under the snow.
This is how I found I can manage my shortcomings in this area with it having minimal impact. And many things I struggled to do before on a regular basis now are loose habits :)
(This worked for me with falling and getting up again and again. I still fall sometimes but it's easier to get back on the horse each time!)
Daaaang, never would have known the background was sound soak and not stone. Looks amazing!
Looking into SMART goals might be helpful for folks. It's framework for goal creation in public health (and likely other fields) that focuses on making realistic and achievable goals. I'd also recommend creating smaller consecutive goals that build up to your overarching broad goal (e.g., If you want to get to the recommended 150min of moderate intensity activity per week and are starting at a baseline of little to no exercise per week you can have a set of goals such as: goal 1=15 min/week, goal 2=30min/week, goal 3=60min/week, goal 4=90min/week, etc.). I'd also encourage doing things to make it easier for you to accomplish your goals (e.g., setting out workout clothes for the next morning as part of your bedtime routine).
My procrastination manifests differently. If something is easy, quick to do or the like I seem to put it off because when I would do it, it won't take long. But, by putting it off I make it take more time and become more complicated because of the delay. If a project needs a lot of thought and effort I tend to approach that first. Maybe by putting off easy things I make them complicated on purpose?
lets go , new episode :)
Yay! This episode of the podcast is working for me in every way except one: actually practicing my music. You guys said “don’t go for a hundred percent” because if you go for a hundred percent and then don’t get it, you just won’t keep moving forward, but in this situation I have to; my Orchestra teacher told me if I don’t practice six times a week at home and at least twice a week at school (during lunch), I’ll get demoted to second violin. Which wouldn’t be great for me because my grades would also drop. Gotta keep going 100% I guess 🤷
I, for one, would love to see the office renovation progress in the background of Skizz's streams. I love me a glow up!
Funny story about my wife. She often gets rid of perfectly fine things because she wants to put in something better. One day, I went into the restroom, and the toilet paper hanger was gone. It was gone for two weeks before she had the one she finally wanted ;) The new one is AWESOME, but yeah, that's a strategy for some...
Another amazing podcast, honestly. I listened to that podcast back in September - i have a new job now (same company tho) and I've changed my hours, so I've been setting aside 30-45 minutes every morning to work on my debut novel.
about career changing: I have been making changes, working on myself gotten some help and that episode gave me "a kick in the butt" indeed.
I vividly remember what i was doing when I was listening to that episode!!