Women over 40 on dating, sex, societal expectations and why they are not damaged goods | LNN

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  • @LynnNgugi
    @LynnNgugi  11 місяців тому +29

    Good morning team LNN,
    What is your take home from today's conversation?
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    • @daisyhidaya7329
      @daisyhidaya7329 11 місяців тому

      Irudiwe Akotheee akiwa ndani yake😂😂😂❤

    • @judyroth5461
      @judyroth5461 11 місяців тому

      Kudoz womens power 💪🏾💪🏾 #40 for voting ❤❤

    • @tribe_pearl
      @tribe_pearl 11 місяців тому +1

      Ooooh my God Lynn, I'm so happy there's room for 20's in on this conversations. I'm 25 and for a minute i swear to God, i had this marriage pressure, and the more i sought it the more it pulled further, because unbeknownst to me, i hadn't bought into marrying, because i literally felt quite still young, jameni. This societal construct can be heated at times. I'm elated and waiting on those girlies in the next, i'm already intrigued at the thought of hearing the thought process of my fellow girlies in their 20s. I want marriage yes, but can i at least be bold enough to say, it's not just for me as of now, without feeling stressed that 'men will be scarce' ama feel threatened by all the social norms surrounding the 'late marriage' narrative.

    • @miss60kiss
      @miss60kiss 11 місяців тому

      Lynn Lynn Lynn............Turning 41 on Thursday and wow whatdo i come across the minute i come online!!! I am so heere for itI have so much to say but let me watch first!!!! Im so excited

    • @khloecalala7606
      @khloecalala7606 11 місяців тому

      Hello Lynn thank you for bringing these beautiful ladies! I loved this conversation it is necessary now days! We need them back please! Thank you Lynn you are a blessing to the world 🌎 we love you!

  • @janekibue7620
    @janekibue7620 11 місяців тому +265

    Am 51 with 3 grown up kids and a grand child and am getting married next month to a very wonderful man .

    • @estherkatile7944
      @estherkatile7944 11 місяців тому +4

      Waoh congratulations 👏

    • @mwebazacharity1240
      @mwebazacharity1240 11 місяців тому +7

      🎉🎉wowwwww congratulations...this is amazing...would be good to hear your story

    • @CatherineNduta-lr7ic
      @CatherineNduta-lr7ic 11 місяців тому +2

      Happy for you

    • @MyJOSE2013
      @MyJOSE2013 11 місяців тому +2

      Wow. how great

    • @janekibue7620
      @janekibue7620 11 місяців тому

      @@mwebazacharity1240 my story is amazing story I would one day like to share it with the world.

  • @slykaruri8567
    @slykaruri8567 11 місяців тому +131

    This is a great episode. Lynn could you bring men over 45 who have never married but would love to marry? I would love to hear their view

    • @judysheyl6632
      @judysheyl6632 11 місяців тому +3

      Would love to hear this too

    • @judysheyl6632
      @judysheyl6632 11 місяців тому +2

      Would love to hear this too

    • @judysheyl6632
      @judysheyl6632 11 місяців тому +2

      Would love to hear this too

    • @judysheyl6632
      @judysheyl6632 11 місяців тому +1

      Would love to hear this too

    • @herb_a_day
      @herb_a_day 11 місяців тому +2

      Would love to hear this too

  • @overandabove9821
    @overandabove9821 11 місяців тому +179

    I've been single for 15yrs..no headache,no stress, no questioning, I actually wonder why people fear to be single 😮😮. It's the best life, for me.

    • @isaackamali1978
      @isaackamali1978 11 місяців тому +3

      Single and contented or to a certain point nature demands ?
      How have managed!!

    • @julietkutegeka1513
      @julietkutegeka1513 11 місяців тому +2

      @@isaackamali1978 I am also wondering what happens if nature demands..we really need God's intervention

    • @lilianambete1361
      @lilianambete1361 11 місяців тому +3

      ​@@isaackamali1978 it's true to be single and have peace 😢

    • @RuthNaya-qh2dv
      @RuthNaya-qh2dv 11 місяців тому +3

      ​@@julietkutegeka1513If nature demands what🎉? Ama you mean societal demands?

    • @rhodawangari2137
      @rhodawangari2137 11 місяців тому +6

      All that matters is money 🤑

  • @Alba-Shi
    @Alba-Shi 11 місяців тому +69

    I was told i was 'old' since 13😥😥. By 18 i felt like 30... society will tel you anything. Choose what to listen to

    • @dorothykioko3028
      @dorothykioko3028 11 місяців тому +3

      This....i went to campus at eighteen and felt too old. It is due to expectations, once you hit puberty, but now I love life. No longer care about age. Just live until you can't

    • @dorothyanyango2197
      @dorothyanyango2197 11 місяців тому +1

      Pole. People are always projecting their insecurities and biases on to others. That's why it's very important to know who you are so that you can remain stay true to what you want and need

  • @Over50andMe
    @Over50andMe 11 місяців тому +102

    I am 50. It’s exciting to be YOU and in charge of YOU. Those who can’t handle you should pass they’re actually blocking the way for the RIGHT PERSON. Menopause is a phase not a factor for definition. Being a grandma is not personality or character. PLEASE NOTE “it’s our children who have had their own children “ This should not stop me from being ME.

    • @tabithagithuka7960
      @tabithagithuka7960 11 місяців тому +1

      This is a new one, great!

    • @sxc642
      @sxc642 11 місяців тому +1

      What you need is a young man to drain the drainage. Don't be scared to spend. Its what he needs.

    • @kathurewasgaiti9241
      @kathurewasgaiti9241 11 місяців тому

      I love you

  • @BibleMadeEasy247
    @BibleMadeEasy247 11 місяців тому +37

    So refreshing to see women know themselves, love themselves, and unapologetic about their choices. We need more of these conversations to be heard in our younger generations meetings ❤

  • @TheNiloticEmpress
    @TheNiloticEmpress 11 місяців тому +33

    Being single is liberating but at some point..you really cant help but wonder why ,especially when everything seems to be in place but finding a mate is what seems difficult..i was by myself for the longest time,and was always pondering and asking myself when and why?it reached a points i let it go..i stopped Being negative and saying negative things about men and marriage, i convinced myself that i would be just fine by myself until He came by my place of work ..asked to be his girlfriend, 6 months later got married and now living together.

    • @radarltd9292
      @radarltd9292 11 місяців тому +1

      Wow to God be the glory

  • @nssetakariuki5209
    @nssetakariuki5209 11 місяців тому +16

    I gave my parents and teachers my first 20 years, i then gave my family ( husband and children) the next 20 years. At this stage i gave up a lot of my comfort to carry pregnancy, breastfeed and nurture the children. I decided in my next 20 ( 40-60) i want to live my life.

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 11 місяців тому +35

    I have enjoyed the conversation ❤i love how felgonah is honest giving her experiences she's soo authentic, Rodah i love the way she is affirming and positive finally judy is calm and minding her own happiness without allowing negative vibes

  • @mambojambo7486
    @mambojambo7486 11 місяців тому +22

    I loved this session today. I’m a 45 year old lady, enjoying my 40s totally since here we live with no reservation or regrets. We know what we want and we don’t hold on to what doesn’t develop us. About sex in our 40s, Judy is so right. We orgasm so easily because to us making love isn’t a chore or a competition. We know our bodies and we can guide our partners on how to please us without feeling shy. Women in their 40s have a higher sex drive than when we were in our 20s and I guess that’s why we resonate with younger partners in their 30s since our sex drives are at the same level. Amazing Panel.

  • @anitaobeid758
    @anitaobeid758 11 місяців тому +46

    Am 40 with two daughters and currently dating a 70 year old divorced man and he truly loves me ❤❤❤

    • @Beingme2024
      @Beingme2024 11 місяців тому +8

      Go go mama I started dating my man when I was 38 and he was 59 after few years he married me in a big wedding am 51 and he’s 72 the love my man has for me God knows stick there mama

    • @allanmureithi8692
      @allanmureithi8692 11 місяців тому +4

      Weeeehhhhhh😅

    • @damariszuckschwert9489
      @damariszuckschwert9489 11 місяців тому +6

      I was 30 he was 52. 20yrs later our son is turning 19. Llife is beautiful I will chose him again.

    • @MyJOSE2013
      @MyJOSE2013 11 місяців тому +2

      so happy for both of you. be good to his kids and the whole family

    • @esthermwaura6369
      @esthermwaura6369 11 місяців тому

      So happy for you

  • @jospheenkagwiria4706
    @jospheenkagwiria4706 11 місяців тому +31

    Am 44 I have a kid 18 yrs and am getting married next year🎉🎉

  • @jacklinejechirchir7295
    @jacklinejechirchir7295 11 місяців тому +33

    this is a real talk ,i am married but not happy.i feel like i got married before i understood myself..iam now 28 only and i feel like nimefika mwisho,i feel i wasted myself,sometimes i feel like commiting suicide but i remember i have a kid ,i have to be there for her.i watched these ladies today talking,they are full of life,they are enjoying life at their 40s and i told myself i can still start over again

    • @irenenanjavi43
      @irenenanjavi43 11 місяців тому +6

      You can dear I got married barely after high school 10 years later I couldn't take it anymore I walked out with my 2 boys very happy and peaceful

    • @olphamoraa9134
      @olphamoraa9134 11 місяців тому +6

      Yeah,u can start over again,l was barely married for two years,l was drained emotionally,and myself esteem was at zero.l gatheed my courage and left the marriage with my son,now single and happy forcussing on myself and my baby's life.

    • @mikekaringa1433
      @mikekaringa1433 11 місяців тому +3

      Stick to your marriage and adjust to what you can get respect your partner and be humble good days are ahead

    • @sherrisolomon2843
      @sherrisolomon2843 11 місяців тому

      ​@@mikekaringa1433Both parties should.

    • @josetusingwire9541
      @josetusingwire9541 11 місяців тому

      Not yet ! You are still a baby

  • @JoyRBLX
    @JoyRBLX 11 місяців тому +12

    This was a very healthy conversation. The panelists nailed. It's true life begins at 40. Women in their 40s know what they want and how they want it. Sex drive is top notch and enjoyable. Self esteem is 100% courage to speak up their mind. I got married at 40 and life has been enjoyable 12 years and counting. 😅😅

  • @thegodlyprincess_kenya
    @thegodlyprincess_kenya 11 місяців тому +17

    I love Fel. She seems happy, self-aware, lovable and content. I love a woman who is comfortable in herself as a whole and has nothing to prove. Cheers Fel!Love the discussion.

  • @sheerow371
    @sheerow371 11 місяців тому +35

    Am 40 single and a mother of 2. We parted ways with their father. I chose to be happy no matter the status. I feel happy and peaceful. We are not encouraging people to be single but to accept and embrace your status and choose happiness. Still waiting for my match, i believe i will get one..

    • @MyJOSE2013
      @MyJOSE2013 11 місяців тому +2

      thats the way to go. a happy lady is attractive . stress and bitterness makes one undesirable

    • @johnmutathi1383
      @johnmutathi1383 11 місяців тому +1

      That's the spirit

  • @DD0504
    @DD0504 11 місяців тому +12

    Part 2 please with the same panel and more..
    Bring single men over 40 we hear their take on this....

  • @shirleyodongo6439
    @shirleyodongo6439 11 місяців тому +15

    Loved the energy in the room. I love how women are so liberated, doing their thing and loving it. More grace, ladies!

  • @schirhj3078
    @schirhj3078 11 місяців тому +10

    The energy coming from Miss Musyoka is way out of this world. I would listen to her the whole day😀

  • @janetwambui9234
    @janetwambui9234 11 місяців тому +64

    At 40 everything becomes more clear. And everything matures to a higher level at 40 😊. Thanks Lynn for such talks. Now set a hook up meet up for single 40 woman. 😅😂.

    • @shikuliz4134
      @shikuliz4134 11 місяців тому +1

      That's where IAM

    • @sherrisolomon2843
      @sherrisolomon2843 11 місяців тому +1

      @Janerwambu934, 😅😅😅I had to wait 10 yrs longer.

    • @janetwambui9234
      @janetwambui9234 11 місяців тому

      @@sherrisolomon2843 ooh my pole sana😊... Hope your in the right space now.

    • @lucykinyua
      @lucykinyua 11 місяців тому

      Me too to that

  • @erical8428
    @erical8428 11 місяців тому +32

    Lynn a few episode ideas
    1. Feature persons from the childfree community both women and men of varied ages and even those who changed their mind on the issue
    2. People who have left toxic work spaces. The experience, the effect and life after especially here where the job market has crumbled and people are desperate.

    • @nyamburamwende
      @nyamburamwende 11 місяців тому +5

      Hapo kwa leaving work places that seems perfect kumbe 😢😢

    • @mercynamikoye9084
      @mercynamikoye9084 11 місяців тому +1

      number 2 ppl are suffering in toxic workplaces the conversation needs to be had i agree completely

  • @CompassionQueen
    @CompassionQueen 11 місяців тому +68

    Lynn please now bring people who are over 25 and they have chosen a childfree life. We need to debunk this issue and stop the negative stereotypes against us

    • @MyJOSE2013
      @MyJOSE2013 11 місяців тому +25

      The best to interview are those above 40 like Sheila mwanyiga. those from 25 are probably reasoning with hormones or heartbroken

    • @CompassionQueen
      @CompassionQueen 11 місяців тому +7

      @@MyJOSE2013 thats why I said Lynn Ngugi needs to debunk this issue, particularly among the younger demographics, because we have people like you who spread negative stereotypes about them

    • @CompassionQueen
      @CompassionQueen 11 місяців тому +3

      @@MyJOSE2013 Not all of us suffer from broken hearts or imbalanced hormones.
      Thats harmful mis-information

    • @internet_fun
      @internet_fun 11 місяців тому +2

      @@CompassionQueen summit vine ring a bell?

    • @akotheffie8087
      @akotheffie8087 11 місяців тому +7

      At 25 they might change their mind later

  • @leahmwangi5804
    @leahmwangi5804 11 місяців тому +12

    I was left by baby dady at 20 my son was 2yrs i met a guy at 24yrs he told me to take back my son to his father ndio anioe i left the guy i sucrificef for my kids stayed single for my kids at 38yrs a started to pray for my rib at 40 got married officially life begins at 40

    • @a_k3730
      @a_k3730 11 місяців тому

      Good for you baby girl.

  • @emmily2693
    @emmily2693 11 місяців тому +24

    On Friday, the 29th, I am making 54 years. I am a smart, clean, and elegant woman, so composed that I am admired by all ages.
    It's up to me to choose who date 😂😂

    • @Beingme2024
      @Beingme2024 11 місяців тому +2

      Same here 51 smart clean elegant looking good people who wants me in their 30s they think am there age mate it’s me to choose 😂

    • @allanmureithi8692
      @allanmureithi8692 11 місяців тому +3

      Maumau😅

    • @shonkairu228
      @shonkairu228 11 місяців тому

      How can i meet you

    • @danfordabuti4591
      @danfordabuti4591 11 місяців тому

      😂😂😂😂sawa

    • @Vixymush
      @Vixymush 11 місяців тому

      ​@@allanmureithi8692utazeeka pia, ata labda hutaona hio miaka! Respect women, walikuzaa

  • @sarahwanjiru4002
    @sarahwanjiru4002 11 місяців тому +16

    I'm 39yrs but by the time I was 31 I was made to think that there was something wrong with me for not dating, being married or better still have at least a child. I lost myself as I tried to get into either of the suggested status, got into the wrong relationship and ended up with being heart broken of a lifetime and I'm now nursing my broken heart and healing from a trauma that I don't know how or if I will ever recover from. This episode was quite enlightening. I felt home while listening to it since I could relate with the ladies experiences as well. God bless you Lynn really did a good job with interview. The ladies are gorgeous and I loved their energies.

    • @sherrisolomon2843
      @sherrisolomon2843 11 місяців тому +3

      @sarahwanjiru4002 Don't worry YOU DEFINITELY WILL. Just pray and ask our Divine Creator to heal your heart and give the healing time.

    • @sharonjumba4648
      @sharonjumba4648 11 місяців тому +3

      Good vibes to you Sarah, may you experience full recovery.

    • @dorothyanyango2197
      @dorothyanyango2197 11 місяців тому +1

      Pole. Just pray and go for therapy. It well help you heal

    • @janiezkihara706
      @janiezkihara706 11 місяців тому +3

      This reminds of my lovely cousin ,,when she turned 32 her mommy started pressuring her azae mtoii atalea...but u know the mommy had her life..akhi let pple be if they are not comfortable with the opinions well and good..

    • @rebeccapasipanodya8051
      @rebeccapasipanodya8051 10 місяців тому +1

      😊

  • @beenjeery7959
    @beenjeery7959 11 місяців тому +25

    I'm 37yrs single and no child and I don't feel anything odd about it niko sawa tu and I DON'T stress over it, it's God's work to give us good husbands and children not me and if it's in my destiny to have a GOOD husband and children well and good if not it's still well and good.

    • @sophianasiekukatampoi7824
      @sophianasiekukatampoi7824 11 місяців тому +1

      Very well said🎉🎉🎉

    • @mercywamunga2965
      @mercywamunga2965 11 місяців тому

      His timing is the best .

    • @a_k3730
      @a_k3730 11 місяців тому

      Don't settle mami. You deserve the very best.

    • @lucyboboh3024
      @lucyboboh3024 11 місяців тому

      haha siz open your eyes..such thinking will lead to regrets. God has never chosen a spouse for anybody. Its upon you to decide for yourself

    • @lucyboboh3024
      @lucyboboh3024 11 місяців тому

      ​@@mercywamunga2965why do we spiritualize everything for heavens sake?????matters concerning relationship are yours to decide.God has nothing to do with choosing a spouse for you. God has given us brains.

  • @RosyKilele
    @RosyKilele 11 місяців тому +11

    Indeed with age comes great wisdom. Proud of these 40+ ladies and all the best

  • @Mosh-p5f
    @Mosh-p5f 11 місяців тому +9

    Truth be told every age is enjoyable..i enjoyed my teens, twenties, thirties and now early forties the sweetness continues..Take care of your health, have your own money, love God, love people, forgive easily and enjoy every moment. life is beautiful!

  • @ermasmall5509
    @ermasmall5509 11 місяців тому +14

    Love your show Lynn. Please remember your international audience who do not speak your language ,so please translate whenever such is interjected.

    • @confusedbutexcited
      @confusedbutexcited 11 місяців тому +1

      Just turn on CC, the translations are there. Thanks LNN team

    • @rosemaryfuankeh5328
      @rosemaryfuankeh5328 11 місяців тому

      What is CC? I have issues with translation tooo.

    • @rosemaryfuankeh5328
      @rosemaryfuankeh5328 11 місяців тому

      What is this CC translation please? I am Cameroonian and there are times I delete a show bcos of language barrier

  • @anitablessed3556
    @anitablessed3556 11 місяців тому +4

    Lynn bring More of these...I am turning 45 Year's old.... Divorced 4 Year's ago and a Mother of 1 Boy 8 Year's old....Not yet ready to date....I am giving time to My Son... traveling the world for now with Him

  • @annebobol3801
    @annebobol3801 11 місяців тому +21

    Thanks Lynn for this talk. Some of us a staying in bad marriages due to society.

  • @NaturalktedyEdna
    @NaturalktedyEdna 11 місяців тому +9

    Single is peaceful. Relationships are good if ni peaceful pia no forcing things

  • @abundancechurchinternational
    @abundancechurchinternational 11 місяців тому +7

    Loved the maturity here. Kuna generation ingine inawana sana ata basic convo becomes a non starter. Well done.👏

  • @mrnoahwaswa3360
    @mrnoahwaswa3360 11 місяців тому +4

    Good and Real discussion, we need now a panel that will have Men on the table so that we get a balanced response from both perspective. My key Lesson is that everyone has different experiences as per the Panelist and my only concern is sometimes people respond depending on their experience which may be good or bad. But the best approach is everyone to know themselves and ensure a balance. An extremes has its own shortcomings. Thanks

  • @carolinemuriithi9784
    @carolinemuriithi9784 11 місяців тому +8

    I'm 43 yrs a widower with 2 grownup kids getting married again next year

  • @aishamwende684
    @aishamwende684 11 місяців тому +3

    Am 27 watching this and all these inspiring women, telling us what our mothers never told us,and giving us encouragement and lessons learned.this is great

  • @chickulenfuka3354
    @chickulenfuka3354 11 місяців тому +3

    please Lynn bring Judy lesta again am a woman at 40s but I really don't like my marriage life ...she has inspired me with her calmness and she is very intelligent she knows what to say ..I love watching this show amazing

  • @peacepatience
    @peacepatience 11 місяців тому +19

    At 40, we are more aware of ourselves, we ask important/difficult questions on dates and maybe it challenges the men and they see us as difficult compared the younger women.
    But also at 40, we don’t know how to receive love because we have taught ourselves to be independent and we have been on the giving side of life.
    At the end of the day, love comes to all of us. We just have to be open to see it and receive it.

    • @Sylvia-sd4mf
      @Sylvia-sd4mf 11 місяців тому

      You are so right

    • @alphamode4660
      @alphamode4660 11 місяців тому

      At 40 you have hit the wall and simply unattractive to high value males.

    • @muchemikimani5318
      @muchemikimani5318 11 місяців тому

      Younger women will give men their own children. That's the difference. Has nothing to do with "asking questions while being difficult".

  • @sylviaakinyi310
    @sylviaakinyi310 11 місяців тому +9

    My mum died before reaching 40yrs am looking forward to reach 40yrs in 2yrs time and celebrate kabisa

  • @glslatifahnsubuga51
    @glslatifahnsubuga51 11 місяців тому +11

    Am here with my 📝 thanks LYNN and all LNN community you are really doing an impactful job to the world 🌍

  • @tinambongo8993
    @tinambongo8993 11 місяців тому +19

    I'm 40 single 2 kids. I'm living my happy life, no stress. Anything that is possible at any age is a mindset issue, not a number 🎉🎉🎉

  • @wanjikunjuguna8386
    @wanjikunjuguna8386 11 місяців тому +39

    This is a great show, but what I know everyone runs their race. Its a high time society respects the single mums, they have done a great job raising those kids alone especially Mt. Kenya men, style up and support your kids out there!!!! To every single mum
    👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @bernardthuo2455
      @bernardthuo2455 11 місяців тому +2

      You claim you are independent women. The reason men don't care about those kids is because some of them we are not even sure that we fathered them. Again, the ego and pride with Mt Kenyan women is so huge. How can you take care of the kids where the woman pretends that she don't need a man

    • @marthamuthoni8322
      @marthamuthoni8322 11 місяців тому

      ​@@bernardthuo2455I dont follow very well what the conversation is about.

    • @phillipsidhojapap1461
      @phillipsidhojapap1461 11 місяців тому +1

      many of those single mothers are raising broken children. Because they are often bitter and often transfer their pain to children. Nothing special for being single mom

    • @newton_matabi
      @newton_matabi 11 місяців тому +1

      Great job raising them to where? to prostitution! Poverty! Prison! Suicides! Drugs! Social degenerates....I'll wait.

  • @2blackice
    @2blackice 11 місяців тому +42

    There is no problem 40 year old ladies dating but please leave the boys under 25 alone let the boys find their purpose in life and build their families we need our boys for a better Kenya please ladies

  • @Tanita_Fay
    @Tanita_Fay 11 місяців тому +17

    It's so powerful thank you Lynn for always enlightening us cause it's through your platform where we get to learn, unlearn and re_learn

  • @shikoshiko9342
    @shikoshiko9342 11 місяців тому +16

    Life begins at 40

  • @julietkutegeka1513
    @julietkutegeka1513 11 місяців тому +9

    I think life starts at 40 only if you did the necessary and proper preparations in your earlier years

  • @poptvkenya
    @poptvkenya 11 місяців тому +10

    Nobody is damaged goods we all have a second chance to redeem ourselves. ❤

  • @charitynduati5460
    @charitynduati5460 11 місяців тому +5

    The things i have learnt just from listening to the shows from Lynn, i could never have learnt in a lifetime. Thankyou Lynn, God always bless you & the guests who share their experiences with us.

  • @raelvivian2057
    @raelvivian2057 11 місяців тому +7

    Goodmorning Nyambu...40's girls we are rocking the street😍😍😍

  • @florenceojowa7706
    @florenceojowa7706 11 місяців тому +7

    What a fun show!!! You ladies have made my day.

  • @ethelbertamutagaywa7874
    @ethelbertamutagaywa7874 11 місяців тому +2

    This show is real....@ Lyn niko 5th floor and soon walking down the aisle. Napenda kupendwa, and nime Pata yule ana elewa My language of love and I understand his❤

  • @Stephgonnafrofitness
    @Stephgonnafrofitness 11 місяців тому +2

    This was an amazing panel of empowered ladies who shared their experiences.
    You have opened up conversations that are an eye opener.

  • @jackiesithole4185
    @jackiesithole4185 11 місяців тому +3

    Love yourself first before looking for love somewhere else.
    It is also very important to heal and let it go from your past relationship first before you get involved with someone.
    Above all, God loves us all.

  • @claryceonyinge8933
    @claryceonyinge8933 11 місяців тому +8

    Hi Lynn, I would like to share experience on inspire series...I've been in long distance dating and been married to the same man for now 18yrs and known him for 21yrs . This story will inspire those who wants to give up on long distances relationship and or marriage. I will also share tips

  • @joycembau
    @joycembau 11 місяців тому +21

    Am 40 a single parent of one teenage boy,and am hopeful i will still get my match.a good man who knows worth of a woman

    • @davemusyoka5144
      @davemusyoka5144 11 місяців тому +1

      then accept men who are asking you out.

    • @Herhealingtouch6683
      @Herhealingtouch6683 11 місяців тому

      ​@@davemusyoka5144maybe you should ask her ....

    • @Jojo-pv3uf
      @Jojo-pv3uf 11 місяців тому

      @@davemusyoka5144 that is not good advice. You can’t just say yes to anyone they must be the right person.

    • @gerezakatembo
      @gerezakatembo 11 місяців тому +1

      what is your worth?

    • @petronillahmueni7577
      @petronillahmueni7577 11 місяців тому +1

      @@gerezakatembo worth is not always money,worth is a man treating a woman with dignity that she deserves,you already projecting just because she mentioned,good thing men are different

  • @sarahnamazzi8855
    @sarahnamazzi8855 11 місяців тому +3

    True its a mindset.
    I am 60 yrs old woman & young at heart.

  • @josephineachieng6048
    @josephineachieng6048 11 місяців тому +1

    The girl just next to lynn.... the ways she's expressing her truth is so amazing. Then Judy... you are just amazing. There's nothing as good as understanding who we really are❤

  • @kevinkiplagat1755
    @kevinkiplagat1755 11 місяців тому +6

    I love how Lynn knows how to lead these ladies to talk 😂

  • @user-zh6bm6hm8v
    @user-zh6bm6hm8v 11 місяців тому +2

    I love this discussion ..all this women are living their lives ...Judy lesta doesn't look 46 she looks 30...I admire her so much...rhoda is bold all the best

  • @podcastszangu6025
    @podcastszangu6025 11 місяців тому +3

    This was a very entertaining panel😅😅😅 Please please have them on again. Perhaps they could next tackle, work life balance Also could you consider interviewing men over 40 who are unmarried. Its assumed that single men over 40 have a 'kasoro' but perhaps society is wrong. That would be an interesting one

  • @damariszuckschwert9489
    @damariszuckschwert9489 11 місяців тому +3

    Waah her sister died at 33 like mine as well. It teaches me to appreciate every single day of my life.,and thank God for it.

  • @AngeLaure02
    @AngeLaure02 11 місяців тому +1

    I've just started the showw and i can't hide my excitment and cant fail to say that I ALREADY LOVE THE LADY IN THE MIDDLE!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ If we could meet smhwere, we wld bcme very good friends automatically!!! I m even pausing to ready the subtitles for what she is saying in Kiswahili!!! She is a vibe!!!!!!! She is sooo amazing!!! She makes you pay attention and listen to her!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I SALUTE U MAMA!!!!

  • @dorisgakii6926
    @dorisgakii6926 11 місяців тому +6

    THE BEST AGE IS THE AGE YOU ARE IN NOW. WHY? BECAUSE YOU CAN'T CHANGE YOUR PAST(OR GO BACK TO IT), AND YOU CAN'T CONTROL THE FUTURE. MAKE THE MOST OF THIS PRESENT MOMENT....

  • @gw7768
    @gw7768 11 місяців тому +21

    ..and you missed Akothee 😊..she should have been here
    I have been thinking, every generation got fed stuff that made them who they are, good and bad. Most say 40-55 women were hammered to study and be strong and not depend on husbands. That's because their parents aka the generation before them had suffered the negative consequences of being dependent on men, so naturally they wished better for their daughters. In the process, all the liberal and feminist movements cashed in big time at the expense of balance and at the expense of these young women. So the women focused on careers and independence.
    Meanwhile, their male counterparts fell behind with little to no support and mentorship. All these are gen x and earlier.
    In comes gen y and millennials who observe the failures of gen x and older and also find themselves in the thick of technology and speed. So now they try to strike a balance. Notice how these ones get married very young only to divorce young too....they notice their parents utter misery and the labels of 'singo matha', 'old and independent spinster' and want none of that. In trying to be more super women and strike a balance they still end up also in their own type of problems.
    Note now all kids grade 7 and below are from a totally different planet. Their share of problems is coming too.
    So, if we all appreciate that ideologies fed to so called 'generations' are the problem, them we will all be ok in our lanes. It's about keeping to your lane and loving it
    I dont think men are really 'afraid' of women. Just like generations and ideologies, they are also caught up in their situations which they dont understand, so they label it. They label 'strong, independent' women (if we insist on such terms) as 'old'. Then women label them 'afraid'. Men are just as confused,and to make it worse they have no male models and mentors. Women have all along had churches and feminist movements etc Men have not had these, actually their besties have been clubs, alcohol and sex.
    Basically, its not those vs these, its just confusion. 😂😂😂😂everyone is confused and is confusing everyone else😂😂
    Meanwhile, lets all acknowledge that a good or bad relationship will be just thay no matter our age.

    • @rogath_silayo
      @rogath_silayo 11 місяців тому

      Yeah I agree with you, ideas and ideologies have consequences.
      We are human beings and the best thing we have to agree is that even choices have consequences. As time goes things become more complicated and tough, relationship s, finance, culture and human life.

  • @_Azaria
    @_Azaria 11 місяців тому +2

    I'm proudly 46,had many lessons which are guiding me thru life. I'm living my queen life unapologetically.

    • @alphamode4660
      @alphamode4660 11 місяців тому

      Shosho mode pro max edition.

  • @liliantina4804
    @liliantina4804 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank u Lynn for bringing this discussion obout ladies over 40s,me am happy Lynn am 46yrs with 6kids and still rocking ❤usijidharau in this life,jipende tu

  • @raisingremarkableteenagers
    @raisingremarkableteenagers 11 місяців тому +6

    Yes yes children need to see us having healthy relationships!!!

    • @njiruy655
      @njiruy655 11 місяців тому +1

      16:58 ❤40 is so young any age any time, with God there is no age, it is his appointed time and the right time, ( that's your Kairos moment)

  • @wanjirungokonyo3028
    @wanjirungokonyo3028 11 місяців тому +1

    Wooow. Such amazing content... who feels like the interview was soo short... @Lynn, we don't mind a season 2 with these amazing ladies❤.... aki lakini nimecheka... they are soo funny....

  • @rosenjue-dx3nb
    @rosenjue-dx3nb 11 місяців тому +6

    Please bring the men in 40 to hear their view's on dating,sex .

    • @muchemikimani5318
      @muchemikimani5318 11 місяців тому

      ua-cam.com/video/IXxCfswdH68/v-deo.htmlsi=Uk3RVIi4K1PLHndA

    • @buildplanconsult4411
      @buildplanconsult4411 11 місяців тому

      They should probably bring 50yr old men. 40yr old men are very comfortable coz of the wider dating sample space.

  • @ethansamuel5671
    @ethansamuel5671 11 місяців тому +8

    its sad when we dont face reality men have their limits and women also have their limits.. what matters is to get along and have people who take us for who we are.

  • @newton_matabi
    @newton_matabi 11 місяців тому +22

    As a woman at 40, is it possible to get married? Yes. Is it probable? No.

  • @AMANIPRINCES
    @AMANIPRINCES 11 місяців тому +1

    All the woman are great But I love judylesta ..I love how she calm and she brings her points the topic is great ....thank you.....lynn Ngungi

  • @streetsprofits
    @streetsprofits 11 місяців тому +13

    Young ladies on your 20s avoid listening to this type of conversation your time is now and not later

    • @lucyboboh3024
      @lucyboboh3024 11 місяців тому +5

      Yes..your 20s are your prime years.

    • @shikuliz4134
      @shikuliz4134 11 місяців тому +8

      Chase the bag young gals get married with your own career men of nowadays aren't providers but sex chaser's and deadbeats

    • @MyJOSE2013
      @MyJOSE2013 11 місяців тому +1

      the discussion if for women in their 40s though. not for the younger women

    • @streetsprofits
      @streetsprofits 11 місяців тому

      @@MyJOSE2013 cheating you and energetic women on their 20s that their doing good in 40s

    • @Favoured446
      @Favoured446 11 місяців тому +3

      I really hope that too coz they are really misleading…they are 40 and lonely

  • @terrymwenda
    @terrymwenda 9 місяців тому +1

    Women at 40:are the cutest...I'm almost 50 and I look hotter than I was in my 20s.keep soaring.

  • @beautifullyMade2024
    @beautifullyMade2024 11 місяців тому +1

    I admire Judy Lesta....she is so firm and feminine....I have gained so much masculinity mentality but looking around keenly I have come to realize it too destructive and a very strong personality even for many men,including strong men.Aging make people better...hiyo nayo ni ukweli.

  • @kenntyapllication
    @kenntyapllication 11 місяців тому +1

    From the first interview I will always love this show ..listening to the three I have come to love Judy ..lesta she calm and smart..amazing Lynn ngungi show

  • @peninawariara622
    @peninawariara622 11 місяців тому +2

    Am at 40 and the show today brought a wakening point 😅

  • @hellenwanjiru7989
    @hellenwanjiru7989 11 місяців тому +1

    Thanks much Lynn. This are wonderful girls/ ladies on board. I appreciate their openness of heart as they have communicated. The conversation was good

  • @linusamondo7055
    @linusamondo7055 11 місяців тому +1

    JUDY LESTA is looking young and beautyful...you should bring her back ..her English is on point....she understand herself .....love all the ladies

  • @alicenyambuu2273
    @alicenyambuu2273 11 місяців тому +1

    its too sweet to see this ladies the lovely judylesta I admire you mum you are so inspiring ...thank you Lynn please have them back

  • @faithkawira9712
    @faithkawira9712 11 місяців тому +2

    Have gone through the comments and it's interesting how men are uncomfortable with this conversation.. anywho... Beautiful women there.

    • @akotheffie8087
      @akotheffie8087 11 місяців тому

      I noticed it too. Too much negativity from the men

    • @ichooseviolence2532
      @ichooseviolence2532 11 місяців тому +1

      Men are just logical and women are just delusional, period!

    • @rubierawbiz1165
      @rubierawbiz1165 11 місяців тому

      All I see is opposing views rather than negativity or uncomfortability, some even coming from women themselves. (Hope no one will call them pickme for their views) it is all in everyone's experiences.

  • @monicahlishiar6631
    @monicahlishiar6631 11 місяців тому +1

    Self love start by one self and am grateful for you ladies. You do not need to hide something for someone to love you

  • @Gray-Be
    @Gray-Be 11 місяців тому +2

    Strong Beautiful Ladies, determined , telling the way it is, Thanks Lynn for yr site.. so inspiring ❤❤❤

  • @elizabethwanjiru9502
    @elizabethwanjiru9502 11 місяців тому +2

    Wah thanks Lynne for this discussion i have noticed that am not alone my hope is renewed

  • @jeddymoon3803
    @jeddymoon3803 11 місяців тому +4

    They are looking good at their 40's..

  • @jeskadalizu953
    @jeskadalizu953 11 місяців тому +5

    I wish these amazing ladies would speak in English so we can all understand!

    • @rodahmusyoka831
      @rodahmusyoka831 11 місяців тому

      ❤❤❤Thanks for the positive feedback Jeska,my apologies for speaking in Swahili and sheng 🙏be blessed

    • @sarahadhiambo1368
      @sarahadhiambo1368 11 місяців тому +1

      Turn on the CC button

  • @dubilajane2134
    @dubilajane2134 11 місяців тому +1

    This dark woman is so beautiful,all of you are beautiful as well. Thanks for the insightful conversation.❤❤❤❤❤

  • @muthonimacharia4913
    @muthonimacharia4913 11 місяців тому +7

    Your age is a mindset. At 40 and my mind is renewed. Am about to become what God called me to be. Old for who?

    • @dominicorero712
      @dominicorero712 11 місяців тому +1

      😂 you mean with your beauty you were unable to find a man with the charms of a beautiful woman.

    • @JulzJewel
      @JulzJewel 11 місяців тому

      @@dominicorero712and a low caliber man watched the show and had an opinion. To reduce beauty to looks is so low boss

    • @lucyboboh3024
      @lucyboboh3024 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@dominicorero712😂😂you gonno chills😂

  • @harrietkorir5088
    @harrietkorir5088 11 місяців тому +1

    Fire! Fire! Fire! Best show yet 🎉🎉 I wish I'd watched it earlier. Love all these women, I'm very inspired ❤

    • @rodahmusyoka831
      @rodahmusyoka831 7 місяців тому

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏Karibu saana be blessed.

  • @balancedviewpoint7418
    @balancedviewpoint7418 11 місяців тому +2

    Oyuga, your upbringing must have been great. I affirm you as I wish you the best in getting a man. With your sense of humour, natural beauty and intentional in your pursuit for companionship, you are spot on👏🙌

    • @CarolineNzoka
      @CarolineNzoka 11 місяців тому

      I use tap tap Lynn and I love it. You are amazing ❤

    • @CarolineNzoka
      @CarolineNzoka 11 місяців тому

      Next time you're in the UK give me a nudge🙏❤️!

  • @theresemadjou5047
    @theresemadjou5047 11 місяців тому +4

    This episode was so refreshing 😍

  • @annewenjiku-oc8bk
    @annewenjiku-oc8bk 11 місяців тому +2

    I have gained strength thanks girls and all the best

  • @lucietee4354
    @lucietee4354 11 місяців тому +5

    My take away ...@43 there is no scarcity of men.Great conversation .

    • @alphamode4660
      @alphamode4660 11 місяців тому

      What is great about it? Do not be delusional a high value man would not marry or date a woman over 40 with kids.

    • @alphamode4660
      @alphamode4660 11 місяців тому

      A single male pilot at 43 yrs cannot date a woman over 40....

    • @lucietee4354
      @lucietee4354 11 місяців тому

      ​@@alphamode4660 ...Your thoughts are respected...the over 40 will not lack men to marry them.

    • @alphamode4660
      @alphamode4660 11 місяців тому +1

      @@lucietee4354 Weak men that is the case.Alpha and Sigma males are not attracted to women over 40.

  • @BlessedLady1978
    @BlessedLady1978 11 місяців тому +5

    IAM 45 with an energy of 25....Single mama of 2....Was married for 18 yrs....nikaachwa...the best blessing EVER....

    • @BlessedLady1978
      @BlessedLady1978 11 місяців тому

      @@minjirekurutu1560 yep...God ndio nilibakisha ikabidi nikazane Na watoto and healing too coz it's very important too.

  • @beau25449
    @beau25449 11 місяців тому

    This was a very lively session. Thanks sana Lynn now its time we heard men in their 30s and a second session in their 40s. Barikiwa

  • @johnpeter5912
    @johnpeter5912 11 місяців тому +1

    It is imperative that we also gather insights from men within the same age demographics. There appears to be a communication gap that requires further elucidation.

  • @agnesnjeri8402
    @agnesnjeri8402 11 місяців тому +1

    Great conversation with beautiful unapologetic ladies 😍😍 Lynn pole Kwa homba😅😅but on a serious note pole, love you girl 💗

  • @raisingremarkableteenagers
    @raisingremarkableteenagers 11 місяців тому +2

    Mindset development and growing together is very important --

  • @juliamwalwala7089
    @juliamwalwala7089 11 місяців тому +2

    I love this and you forgot something at 40+ we become more juicer ❤❤