No that’s not true. The reality is both simpler and more complex than that. People want all kinds of things and that can be based on the person, the situation or just how they’re feeling that day. Dudes fatal mistake is thinking there’s some cheat code or one size fits all “solution” to women. There isn’t because just like everybody else they’re individuals w/ human brains that oscillate from moment to moment. Just don’t be weird and don’t overthink it. It’s really not that deep
Something that I've noticed that made me incredibly uncomfortable is how he constantly assumed a position which enclosed her in an even smaller space, between him and the wall/corner. Meanwhile she constantly physically recoiled from his touch and proximity. I treasure my personal space and this made me incredibly uncomfortable. This man is either completely oblivious or a creep and doesn't care.
To be fair, this guy wasnt the absolute worse (we've all seem the pickup artists compilations) and basiacly noone coud make this experience not awkward. That said the obvious horniness and desperation were kindoff umbearable
A woman not initiating physical contact also has to do with the fact, that al lot of men completely misread an innocent little touch. They often think that gives them automatic permission to immediately go ALL in.
I wonder if part of that has to do with how physical touch is gendered in society. Since guys are taught that physical touch = romantic/sexual attraction, while platonic touch is a common thing in female friend groups, but almost never an acceptable thing in male friend groups, then when a girl touches them, they're like "oh yeah, she totally wants sex!"
As we continue throughout the video, the more and more I understand why this seemingly attractive dude has never been in a relationship past 10 months.
Hasan brought up so many good points about dating dynamics, and I'm especially glad he brought up the point of society training women to take it. I wish this kinda stuff was taught in schools.
Exactly, if your a dude, approach a random woman on the street and they will always smile. Its a defense mechanism saying "please be nice to me". Some dudes think its a green light, but most of the time its just women being polite because they're scared of random stranger that can overpower her if it wants to.
@@jandipopo_art2012 this, exactly this. this is literally EXACTLY ehy i put on a smile especially if i make eye contact with a dude. (im nonbinary but i still outwardly dont present as i want so i still pass as a girl a young looking one bc im short and just have baby face syndrome, thats not s real thing but thats what i call it lmfoaoao) so im like prime target for creepy old people and creeps in general. its really scary walking past a group of guys even if they only look like older teenagers around my age i get hella uncomfortable and on edge still. ive unfortunately been through CSA and SA in my lifetime so teo incidences, one was by and older family friend, the other was a highschool boy who i had sat next to on the bus and had referred to as my friend before the point he started making me sit on the inside of the seat and he would touch my legs and back and rub his hand up my thigh and touch my chest, and i literally didnt say anything just so i could get it over with faster and not cause trouble because the first time i wasnt believed by police i literally just went "no one is going to believe me this time either" i remember the only time i said anything i just went "if you keep touching me im going to have a fking breakdown" i have mild ptsd even before that incident from the childhood traumatic event, then this happened and spiked it further. i am 19 now, the first incident i was around 3 and the assaulter was a 22 year old, the second, i was 16 on the bus multiple times and my second assaulter was a 19 year old boy who i had called my friend, i though he was my friend, on the bus. i dropped out of highschool shortly after. and never looked back. i now literally struggle to live my life normally bc of these events on top of mental disorders that now plague me. anyways to get to the point, we are absolutely taught to take it. but its a silent life lesson, no one has to say it aloud, but through peoples reactions to said thing and the consequences of speaking out, we are taught through that alone wed rather be silent than ridiculed and told its our fault etc etc etc. its an awful world, both my attackers go unpunished and the one dude we did report didnt get persecuted because the police basically told us "its a 3 year olds word against a 22 year old mans i wouldve even persue this nothings gonna happen" basically told us to F off. so thats what i mean by a silent lesson. no one has to say a damned thing, its ingrained so deep in our society that the message comes across without a single word needing to be spoken.
As xqc made a great point, hasans dating advice is dog sh because he is s tier hot and literally can't fail with women and the average guy won't even get a chance to follow his condescending advice
@@aneeshfroome4464 umm not every woman is attracted to Hasan or one type of guy. And the point he made in the video, is that regardless of how attractive someone finds you initially, being pushing and touchy without consent will make you less attractive to them
I have a lot of difficulty reading body language in conversations with others both platonically and romantically. It's a skill I'm working on now. Even I recognized that she just didn't want to be touched even though she didn't say no with her voice. She said it with her body and how it shrank and turned away from him.
the confidence that men have to just touch ppl like that astounds me im always so worried abt possibly making ppl uncomfortable that i avoid being too touchy w ppl until i can pick up on where their boundaries r n dudes like this r just out here boldly touching ppl when theyre visibly uncomfortable
@@jennifervasquez I’m not sure it’s a gender thing, but weird/creepy people thing. I’ve had women do this to me too, and it’s very uncomfortable and unsettling, so I understand completely the feeling. I wish some people would respect personal space and think about the other person and that a lot of people are not okay with touching, especially someone they don’t know well.
When he pulled her towards him and opened her legs during the staring part made me feel unpleasant feelings that I can't put into words. And that knee thing he did. What is going on through his head I wonder lol
If a guy talks about sex on a first date in a way where it didn't organically come up in the conversation, I'm already turned off & have decided I won't have sex with him. And it's a shame, because I am a sexual person. But like....if your mind is already there when we're just meeting....I'm out. What turns women on is people who are interested in them as humans.
10/10 can confirm that asking for consent is drop dead sexy. And Hasan’s reaction to dude doing the “spider on her knee” thing was absolutely perfect and EXACTLY what I did when I saw it. I’m not squicked out easily by many sensations but THAT maneuver is just Fucking gross to me.
First part so true, me and my girlfriend has done it several times before kissing because both of us love it. Most people tend to enjoy when the person they like is an inch away from their face and asks them in a breathy voice if they can kiss you. I don’t know why so many people protest it for “ruining the atmosphere” when it could literally make the atmosphere better. Anyone who says asking for consent ruins chemistry just doesn’t know how to say it in a sexy way
@@elliefuller3667 fuck yeah. Reading the room ain’t that hard. And consent can be incorporated into the moment, definitely! You aren’t ruining it, you’re enhancing it.
@@GothBarbie3000 The way you took my word vomit and made it into a perfect clear comment was actually so impressive, thank you for understanding my weird brain 😭
the situations where asking will turn a yes into a no far outweigh the situations where it will turn a no into a yes. that isn't enough reason for me personally to stop asking, but lets not pretend this reality is something its not.
someone mentioned it in a comment about this exact video and i felt like it was important to echo it. what he is basically doing is called Boundary Probing. guys will basically tell mundane stories about sex and get really touchy in order to coerce the girl into consenting. its super disgusting and seeing in action like this knowing shes in a situation in which she cant leave just pains my stomach
That's not what boundary probing is. Boundary probing is a perfectly normal and healthy way to get a feel for someone's boundaries so you don't cross them. He's not coercing her into anything. You're literally viewing normal boundary inquiring as sexual harassment. Y'all literally know nothing about human interaction and it SHOWS. His actions making her uncomfortable is not inherently a him problem, it's a her problem for not communicating her boundaries. Once communicated, if he does not respect them then yes that's a him problem.
@@lich109 Okay and? Does that make him a sex abuser? no, no it does not. He should ask yes but 've had my boundaries violated a million times over. Many times people, esp neurodivergent people, don't know.
It always sucks when you’re on a date with an objectively hot guy and he acts like this. Just ruins any spark you might’ve had. I had a crush on a guy who worked at the same mall as me once for a couple weeks, and then we finally met and went on a date. As soon as he started talking my crush vanished.
Amen, sister! Idk how many times I've said, "You just had to talk and ruin everything, didn't you?". Really pretty guys sometimes learn bad manners because they don't have to try to be considerate or have a personality to get attention.
This is why younger me when ever I had a crush I would do everything to get over it. Or my best friend and I would share which crushes we had and never pursue just grow that fantasy because we KNEW that most likely they wouldn’t be what we though they would be. These guys were popular or semi popular and we were self aware. I was not popular but I am very out going so I made friends with everyone. After HS and College this was the same and this is why after 15 years I only dated two men ever and the last one I’ve been with 12 years now.
Never have I had a bad result from asking for consent. If they want you to, they still want you to. If they didn’t want you to, you just avoided _doing what they didn’t want_ also, if you handle that no properly, you just went up in their eyes. Maybe you even went up enough that they’ll want to at some later time, but more importantly, you’ve got a better reputation, you’re known as a better person, not a creep Down the road, someone interested asks about you, what do you want people to say, y’know? Just be a decent human being.
Did they not talk about hobbies at all??? Man just went straight for feet and did the lightest touch on traumas and nothing else but overstepping physical boundaries for 12 hours?? 😭 this hurts so bad to watch oh god
How is this guy so oblivious to her consistently physically recoiling to his advances. It's either A. He doesn't realize it, or B. He doesn't care. Both are bad, but one is way worse lol. 2nd hand embarrassment pinned at 11 rn.
or C, cringe videos do very well on youtube and the creators know this. Something like this would be insane to see happening at a random bar. If its on camera, its just an act,
@@2wickie686 being neurodivergent does not mean you can't be critized for being a creep. From experience I would never act like this because I know I can't tell how people feel from social cues alone, specially when it comes to romantic/sexual stuff. He's probably not neurodivergent anyway. Don't use wokescold language for random bs like this
the fact that for the whole 6 hours where she was uncomfortable with him touching her so much, she never felt comfortable enough to tell him to ask before touching her. like she had to have the producers tell him.
@@Idk_shsjsj It's a vicious cycle, men do it because women just let it happen to play along and not be confrontantional, so men feel free and without resistance to do whatever the fuck they want and be total dicks.
@@Idk_shsjsj probably that it gets them to pump their ego or eventually have sex if I had to guess? Idk whether i agree with that lol. More often than not it just creeps everyone out.
@ All dudes. I promise you if a girl is already attracted to you and you ask for consent before doing anything, that will only increase her attraction to you. It won't make it awkward or weird. Always ask for consent. ITS HOT.
I'm a bi dude with a preference for guys and i've always seen it as an awkward, annoying thing you simply have to do when you are with someone. I do ask for consent (sexual or just physical) but it very much makes it awkward and weird for me.
@@sycration If you've known the person for awhile and know what they like you don't have to ask every time. They'll be comfortable enough at that point to tell you to stop. But it should NOT be weird for you to ask to touch someone on your first meeting. He should not have been touching and grabbing her on the first date without asking.
@@melanopygus I know, that was really gross and weird and I wouldn't have the impulse to touch the first time. For me, I often won't be intimate with my boyfriend because the asking beforehand is just so un-sexy. Maybe I should go to therapy or something 🙃
@@sycration Have a conversation with your boyfriend about it. Ask him if it's okay if you don't ask for consent every time and if he'll speak up if you make him uncomfortable. You can also have safewords like yellow if he's a bit uncomfortable and red if he wants you to stop.
Noah, keep up the good work. I assure women see that behaviour of his and any attraction we might feel on first sight just get grinded to dust. Looks gives advantages but it's definitely not the most important factor.
i relate so much to what you've said about women being trained to people-please and it's just so sad. I have been in situations that i felt had to "just take it" and pretend to like it in fear of the man becoming verbally or physically violent
Went on a couple dates with a couple people like this. They escalated things so quickly, almost immediately bringing up fetishes, body count, childhood trauma, your deepest insecurities, etc. in the very first date. They [appear to] interpret your discomfort and your hesitation as you playing hard-to-get. Your “No” means “Change my mind”. I’m still not sure exactly how self-aware they are. Is this part of some dating strategy they use, or…?
my first date, the guy i was with said to me "i really appreciate you and I'm glad your alive" after endlessly making moves like the guy did in the video and when i tell you i turned around so fast i rlly wish guys pick up on those cues because it makes for the worst experiences for women
This video doubled in length for me because I had to keep pausing to collect my fragmented soul after having it be destroyed by cringe. Most painful video he's ever watched.
Most guys suck at dating. They’re all horned up and all they’re thinking about is kissing and banging when it should just be two people getting to know one another. Seems simple but guys make it weird and difficult.
I really hope that I don't ever behave like this guy. One of my fears is coming off as a creep, not having self-awareness in situations like this and in general, and not thinking about how my actions could affect others.
@@christophergreen6595 yeah literally was abt to say this, the fact youre scared abt making other uncomfortable like this or coming across as a creep bc it can make other u comfortable and not bc you want to save ur reputation but genuinley care about the feelings of others is already more self-awareness than most. so youre doing a good job, just remember if you do mess up or cross a boundry simply sincerely apologize and learn and dont do it again, also remember that person is not obligated to accept your apology so whatever they say yo you apology is just that dont get defensive just simply say okay and walk away
20:09 while i think hasan has a point, i feel like the guy in the vid is old enough to be able to search outside of his bubble and question whether the things hes doing are ok to do. hes like 28. to not recognize most social cues and not think about consent at that age is totally his fault. im 20, i grew up thinking consent was stupid and my social cue recognition was ass but i grew up and thought more about what i was doing and how people were responding to me and took charge. its not easy but its not that hard. definitely not hard enough to think its ok to be as touchy as that guy is in the vid. anyways, sick content, thanks hasan :)
On our first date my now husband let me make the move for that first kiss and I did it but I have social anxiety and he didn’t really say anything after so I actually apologized to him just in case he wasn’t into it 💀 he still laughs about it even now. Being respectful in the very beginning is so attractive. He accidentally like bumped his hand slightly into my chest on like the third date and apologized profusely but I didn’t notice so I had no idea what he was talking about. This was five years ago and I love looking back at how cute it all was. Guys and ladies and everyone in between, never feel weird about asking for consent or looking for confirmation in case you’re making anyone uncomfortable, if they do truly find it weird I think that’s a red flag of incompatibility
Always so sad that there are men that just assume because they're attracted to a woman and want to be all over her that she wants the same thing. They specifically said to ask for consent and then in the next frame he grabs her leg again, so sad people don't realize consent applies to any physical contact smh
Men are so unaware of how unaware they are. It's insane how as a woman we just laugh things off to get through a bad interaction, but the guy on the other end thinks he's actually charming you. This guy physically laid all over her, spilled his beans like she was his therapist, and came away thinking it was a "mutal opening up." Mental illness level delusion - and then they go around crying that women just reject them for "no reason." He was OUT after five minutes.
This is a perfect example, men really don't understand consent, and I say this as a man. They also seem to really fail at social cues, or intentionally miss them but I feel like that's back to not getting what consent is.
Unfortunately it's usually more about being goal oriented and selfish than being ignorant. People who act like that don't care about other people and it shows. That guy was on his best behavior for the camera. Imagine how bad he is in private. Guys like that have an extreme sense of entitlement, and get belligerent when told no. It's nice to see that some guys also find this behavior appalling.
You've said it well. It seems part of not understanding consent is that men can see it as "optional" since there's too often no repercussions for it. I also forgot that he would of course be aware every action of his is being filmed, which makes it all so much worse
idk how people just talk about dating to other people, if I'm on a date I wanna know about the things you like and find out if we share interests not how you've dated before I wanna know if you like dinosaurs and archeology not about what you do on dates because you are literally on one right now.
The point you made about how some people may not have had adults telling them about consent is so true! That is why at the daycare I work at we are trying to teach the preschoolers to ask for hugs, hold hands etc. They ask us the teachers for hugs and we prompt them to ask the other children as well. Consent is not just for sex and can be taught to younger children. It is not a taboo topic.
Its a paid actor no way bro no way. Please say that thats a paid actor. How did this bro not pick up anything like wtf its a paid actor. Im in physical pain
I've had experience like this and it wasn't even a date, it was a group of friends hanging out and he was being all sneaky to me behind everyone else. Super uncomfortable and it got to a point I just blatantly spelled it out to him, multiple times, to stop doing whatever he's doing. He still continued 😑
@@iii2594 Guys really need to be taught that no means no. They persist because someone told them persistence wins. It's a half-truth, as persistance is viable if a guy actually takes the time to make friends with the girl first before jumping to intimate touch. The reality is, persistance does not equal pushing the girl. Persistance equals supporting the girl.
this reminds me so much of a bad tinder experience. man couldn't read how uncomfortable i was from the get go. looked like a rat version of his photos. By the end asked me for a kiss and i said no. He responded "please?" and begged me to kiss him until I told him to get out of my car.
As a woman this is like 70% of all the dating I have done in my life. I usually very automatically try to be okay with all of it to the point that I even try to convince myself that I’m actually not uncomfortable. This was very painful to watch, it’s like living through my own experiences again.
Asking for consent is the fastest way to build trust with me personally. The person I’m dating now asked for consent before everything new we did no matter how “small” it was and I’ve never trusted someone so much or quickly.
Bro, I'm a fourteen years old boy and when I was twelve I was exactly who that guy on the video is. I had problems with porn addiction and in my old sight, the way he acted was totaly normal for me, making me do these things in my dates. I really regret all those actions of mine, but I know that if I was educated porperly and porn hasn't formed me really wrong conceptions of sex, I would not be what I was. I'm not used to comment in videos, mainly English ones (this is not my mother language), but this is a very important content that alerts not only women, but men not to act like what was shown in this video.
Dude really thinks that since it's a 12 hour date it's really the equivalent of 3-4 dates, so it's no surprise he began to get progressively hornier and expecting physical contact that arouses him. Also, "women like it when they see manly men cry!" - This dude is on that PUA shit with those crocodile tears.
The amount of times I've been talking to dudes online and in our FIRST conversation they bring up wanting to "cuddle"... yeah ok dude you haven't even asked me about a single hobby of mine yet
spent the video bouncing between laughing at how hard Hasan was cringing to cringing very hard myself to having violent flashbacks of my own dating experiences as a woman. 10/10 would do again
We saw Stockholm syndrome at work, and then she eventually was put into the mindspace of "oh he does have some depth and emotions, maybe I could fix him. He has some redeemable shit to him, this could work".
This is a small example of how men treat women in dates. They think this is okay to do even when the girl outright says no. I used to believe sh** like this, and now I'm overwhelmingly grateful I've learned so much since then. What I would have done if I were participating in this video: Kept my hands to myself the entire time. No matter what. I have no reason to touch her at all on the first date. Even if she asked me to touch her, I wouldn't, because I'm not comfortable putting her or me in such an intimate setting on the first day. I wanna talk on the first date more than anything. So I'd cross my arms comfortably, sit opposite to her while facing her, and speak to her like a friend the entire time. That would be a comfortable first date.
@@ravenswood118 I'm not a prude. I explicitly said I myself [personally] do not want a hug on the first date even if she wants one. Read and understand before speaking.
10000% needs to happen is like fresh n' fit or shapiro needs to react to the cut video because i wonder so hard for what they hell they think and what they focus on. then have Hasan react harder.
When I’m on a first date I’ll just full on let it rip in front of her. My logic is that if she gets mad she’s probably not chill enough for me to date long term anyway. I full on loud farted in front of a person on the first date once, and they didn’t get upset. We’ve been dating 6 months now and it’s the happiest and most mutually beneficial relationship I’ve ever been in. Moral of the story: don’t worry about letting it rip Edit: I wasn’t cringing super hard at first but 15:33 had me clenching my cheeks and involuntarily nervous laughing/saying “no no no no no” for like 30 seconds Edit: okay it gets so much worse
These actions are bad on their own, but especially when the situation of being in a small box (hard for her to make separation) and also stuck for 12 hours (especially hard for her to reject him outright). Like this is the one situation where someone needs to not be pushy, but he goes ahead anyways. Much of the time physically blocking her from the exit of the box. Like I have a thing where since my bed is against the wall, if someone is in it with me I will always try to be in the wall side, so that they never feel guarded or trapped.
Doesn't matter how "attractive" you are. People want empathetic, interesting, and self-aware partners. This was painful to watch.
Hes not even good looking at all lmao
No that’s not true. The reality is both simpler and more complex than that. People want all kinds of things and that can be based on the person, the situation or just how they’re feeling that day. Dudes fatal mistake is thinking there’s some cheat code or one size fits all “solution” to women. There isn’t because just like everybody else they’re individuals w/ human brains that oscillate from moment to moment. Just don’t be weird and don’t overthink it. It’s really not that deep
@Nonaya Bidness the bar for men attractiveness is so low.
@@xstoofpeer aaaaaaayye ✌😎✌
@@xstoofpeer glad to hear
Me every five minutes: "This can't get any worse."
Also me every five minutes: "Never mind. I was wrong."
Something that I've noticed that made me incredibly uncomfortable is how he constantly assumed a position which enclosed her in an even smaller space, between him and the wall/corner. Meanwhile she constantly physically recoiled from his touch and proximity. I treasure my personal space and this made me incredibly uncomfortable. This man is either completely oblivious or a creep and doesn't care.
Dude's face when the producer told him to ask for consent. End me now, I'm done.
I have unironically never felt so much secondhand embarrassment from a video. I feel like I'm going to cringe into non-existence.
🪩cringed into the mirror dimension
Hasan actually reacted to a different vid from the same series and holy shit the dude was normal it was like heaven
I think I crawled under my desk at one point.
You know it's a bad one when the cringe induces muscle spasms.
To be fair, this guy wasnt the absolute worse (we've all seem the pickup artists compilations) and basiacly noone coud make this experience not awkward. That said the obvious horniness and desperation were kindoff umbearable
A woman not initiating physical contact also has to do with the fact, that al lot of men completely misread an innocent little touch. They often think that gives them automatic permission to immediately go ALL in.
^^^
I wonder if part of that has to do with how physical touch is gendered in society. Since guys are taught that physical touch = romantic/sexual attraction, while platonic touch is a common thing in female friend groups, but almost never an acceptable thing in male friend groups, then when a girl touches them, they're like "oh yeah, she totally wants sex!"
Physical contact? Just talking nice sometimes do that.
As we continue throughout the video, the more and more I understand why this seemingly attractive dude has never been in a relationship past 10 months.
Now I understand the men are bad shorts I keep seeing on the web
Seemingly is too much of a compliment
He isn’t even that attractive facially lol
Do you mean 10 years?
Omori profile pic, you're correct by default.
Hasan brought up so many good points about dating dynamics, and I'm especially glad he brought up the point of society training women to take it. I wish this kinda stuff was taught in schools.
Exactly, if your a dude, approach a random woman on the street and they will always smile. Its a defense mechanism saying "please be nice to me". Some dudes think its a green light, but most of the time its just women being polite because they're scared of random stranger that can overpower her if it wants to.
@@jandipopo_art2012 this, exactly this. this is literally EXACTLY ehy i put on a smile especially if i make eye contact with a dude. (im nonbinary but i still outwardly dont present as i want so i still pass as a girl a young looking one bc im short and just have baby face syndrome, thats not s real thing but thats what i call it lmfoaoao) so im like prime target for creepy old people and creeps in general. its really scary walking past a group of guys even if they only look like older teenagers around my age i get hella uncomfortable and on edge still.
ive unfortunately been through CSA and SA in my lifetime so teo incidences, one was by and older family friend, the other was a highschool boy who i had sat next to on the bus and had referred to as my friend before the point he started making me sit on the inside of the seat and he would touch my legs and back and rub his hand up my thigh and touch my chest, and i literally didnt say anything just so i could get it over with faster and not cause trouble because the first time i wasnt believed by police i literally just went "no one is going to believe me this time either" i remember the only time i said anything i just went "if you keep touching me im going to have a fking breakdown" i have mild ptsd even before that incident from the childhood traumatic event, then this happened and spiked it further. i am 19 now, the first incident i was around 3 and the assaulter was a 22 year old, the second, i was 16 on the bus multiple times and my second assaulter was a 19 year old boy who i had called my friend, i though he was my friend, on the bus. i dropped out of highschool shortly after. and never looked back. i now literally struggle to live my life normally bc of these events on top of mental disorders that now plague me.
anyways to get to the point, we are absolutely taught to take it. but its a silent life lesson, no one has to say it aloud, but through peoples reactions to said thing and the consequences of speaking out, we are taught through that alone wed rather be silent than ridiculed and told its our fault etc etc etc. its an awful world, both my attackers go unpunished and the one dude we did report didnt get persecuted because the police basically told us "its a 3 year olds word against a 22 year old mans i wouldve even persue this nothings gonna happen" basically told us to F off. so thats what i mean by a silent lesson. no one has to say a damned thing, its ingrained so deep in our society that the message comes across without a single word needing to be spoken.
As xqc made a great point, hasans dating advice is dog sh because he is s tier hot and literally can't fail with women and the average guy won't even get a chance to follow his condescending advice
This video should be played in schools during health class or anytime students are taught about sex, as what one SHOULDNT do.
@@aneeshfroome4464 umm not every woman is attracted to Hasan or one type of guy. And the point he made in the video, is that regardless of how attractive someone finds you initially, being pushing and touchy without consent will make you less attractive to them
When he said to switch socks my neck literally jolted backwards at 50mph giving me whiplash. I’m writing this from the hospital
I was hoping I had just missed that part then it happened
😂😂😂 bruh same tho
Get well soon
My favorite comment 🤣
Hope you're doing better
We feel ya bro
I have a lot of difficulty reading body language in conversations with others both platonically and romantically. It's a skill I'm working on now. Even I recognized that she just didn't want to be touched even though she didn't say no with her voice. She said it with her body and how it shrank and turned away from him.
Exactly and been there ugh gross
He also recognizes it, but he keeps doing it because most of the times women will go along anyway and he is happy that he got to hit
the confidence that men have to just touch ppl like that astounds me im always so worried abt possibly making ppl uncomfortable that i avoid being too touchy w ppl until i can pick up on where their boundaries r n dudes like this r just out here boldly touching ppl when theyre visibly uncomfortable
@@jennifervasquez I’m not sure it’s a gender thing, but weird/creepy people thing. I’ve had women do this to me too, and it’s very uncomfortable and unsettling, so I understand completely the feeling. I wish some people would respect personal space and think about the other person and that a lot of people are not okay with touching, especially someone they don’t know well.
I thought your name was AlmostHerpes LMAO, had to do a double take.
When he pulled her towards him and opened her legs during the staring part made me feel unpleasant feelings that I can't put into words. And that knee thing he did. What is going on through his head I wonder lol
That "knee thing" is total PUA brah tactics dying 🤣🤣🤣 this dude is outta 2008
I reflexively pulled my legs in seeing that, that’s how uncomfortable it made me
that felt rapey tbh. i would have felt threatened if there were no camera crew around
If a guy talks about sex on a first date in a way where it didn't organically come up in the conversation, I'm already turned off & have decided I won't have sex with him. And it's a shame, because I am a sexual person. But like....if your mind is already there when we're just meeting....I'm out. What turns women on is people who are interested in them as humans.
hypocritical of you
@@boa9557 lmao how so
10/10 can confirm that asking for consent is drop dead sexy.
And Hasan’s reaction to dude doing the “spider on her knee” thing was absolutely perfect and EXACTLY what I did when I saw it. I’m not squicked out easily by many sensations but THAT maneuver is just Fucking gross to me.
First part so true, me and my girlfriend has done it several times before kissing because both of us love it. Most people tend to enjoy when the person they like is an inch away from their face and asks them in a breathy voice if they can kiss you. I don’t know why so many people protest it for “ruining the atmosphere” when it could literally make the atmosphere better. Anyone who says asking for consent ruins chemistry just doesn’t know how to say it in a sexy way
@@elliefuller3667 fuck yeah. Reading the room ain’t that hard.
And consent can be incorporated into the moment, definitely! You aren’t ruining it, you’re enhancing it.
@@GothBarbie3000 The way you took my word vomit and made it into a perfect clear comment was actually so impressive, thank you for understanding my weird brain 😭
@@elliefuller3667 well met, fellow weird brain!
the situations where asking will turn a yes into a no far outweigh the situations where it will turn a no into a yes. that isn't enough reason for me personally to stop asking, but lets not pretend this reality is something its not.
When he put his head in her lap and she went like "🙂🙂" I SCREAMED-
I genuinely feel so incredibly uncomfortable on her behalf.
someone mentioned it in a comment about this exact video and i felt like it was important to echo it.
what he is basically doing is called Boundary Probing. guys will basically tell mundane stories about sex and get really touchy in order to coerce the girl into consenting. its super disgusting and seeing in action like this knowing shes in a situation in which she cant leave just pains my stomach
That's not what boundary probing is. Boundary probing is a perfectly normal and healthy way to get a feel for someone's boundaries so you don't cross them. He's not coercing her into anything. You're literally viewing normal boundary inquiring as sexual harassment. Y'all literally know nothing about human interaction and it SHOWS. His actions making her uncomfortable is not inherently a him problem, it's a her problem for not communicating her boundaries. Once communicated, if he does not respect them then yes that's a him problem.
@@2wickie686 if you find what the guy did at all acceptable then you might need to rethink how you view decent human interaction lmfao
@@2wickie686 wtaf is wrong with you? Incels are so easy to spot, especially when they feel the need to declare themselves. Gross.
@@2wickie686 You should not need to be told you should get consent BEFORE you touch someone.
@@lich109 Okay and? Does that make him a sex abuser? no, no it does not. He should ask yes but 've had my boundaries violated a million times over. Many times people, esp neurodivergent people, don't know.
It always sucks when you’re on a date with an objectively hot guy and he acts like this. Just ruins any spark you might’ve had. I had a crush on a guy who worked at the same mall as me once for a couple weeks, and then we finally met and went on a date. As soon as he started talking my crush vanished.
Amen, sister! Idk how many times I've said, "You just had to talk and ruin everything, didn't you?". Really pretty guys sometimes learn bad manners because they don't have to try to be considerate or have a personality to get attention.
This is why younger me when ever I had a crush I would do everything to get over it. Or my best friend and I would share which crushes we had and never pursue just grow that fantasy because we KNEW that most likely they wouldn’t be what we though they would be. These guys were popular or semi popular and we were self aware. I was not popular but I am very out going so I made friends with everyone. After HS and College this was the same and this is why after 15 years I only dated two men ever and the last one I’ve been with 12 years now.
How did you reach the point of going on a date before talking?
@@BrooklynBalla : you know what she meant 🤦♂️
@@BrooklynBalla they don’t act like this before the date, it’s like a bad magic trick
They grabbed the most ape minded dude around and put him in a box with a girl who looked uncomfortable for most of this
HELPJFS this is such an accurate description of him 💀💀
OOOGAAA BOOOGAAAA
Never have I had a bad result from asking for consent.
If they want you to, they still want you to.
If they didn’t want you to, you just avoided _doing what they didn’t want_
also, if you handle that no properly, you just went up in their eyes.
Maybe you even went up enough that they’ll want to at some later time, but more importantly, you’ve got a better reputation, you’re known as a better person, not a creep
Down the road, someone interested asks about you, what do you want people to say, y’know?
Just be a decent human being.
Yeah! Exactly
Amen. Women are not your sexual buffet.
Did they not talk about hobbies at all??? Man just went straight for feet and did the lightest touch on traumas and nothing else but overstepping physical boundaries for 12 hours?? 😭 this hurts so bad to watch oh god
Lets be honest, the guy does not have any hobbies and is about as interesting as a stale breadstick.
I’m pretty sure they did in the full unedited version. It’s in the description of the original vid.
Yeah when I think about it, by the end we still don't know what these people do 😭lmaoooo like what does he do for a living, and her too wtf
How is this guy so oblivious to her consistently physically recoiling to his advances. It's either A. He doesn't realize it, or B. He doesn't care. Both are bad, but one is way worse lol. 2nd hand embarrassment pinned at 11 rn.
or C, cringe videos do very well on youtube and the creators know this. Something like this would be insane to see happening at a random bar. If its on camera, its just an act,
There's nothing "bad" about not noticing. Stop this ableist neurotypical rhetoric.
@@2wickie686 you don't think there's anything bad about non-consensual physical touch?
@@2wickie686 being neurodivergent does not mean you can't be critized for being a creep. From experience I would never act like this because I know I can't tell how people feel from social cues alone, specially when it comes to romantic/sexual stuff. He's probably not neurodivergent anyway. Don't use wokescold language for random bs like this
@@2wickie686 this is such an ignorant take
the fact that for the whole 6 hours where she was uncomfortable with him touching her so much, she never felt comfortable enough to tell him to ask before touching her. like she had to have the producers tell him.
one of hasan's best reactions yet
after that 'casually explained' reaction ofcourse
crazy to see a man with enough brain cells to see how uncomfortable this shit is from a woman's perspective
Women are conditioned to play along and most guys do this because it actually works
@@xstoofpeer what do u mean actually works?
@@xstoofpeer wym by that?🤨
@@Idk_shsjsj It's a vicious cycle, men do it because women just let it happen to play along and not be confrontantional, so men feel free and without resistance to do whatever the fuck they want and be total dicks.
@@Idk_shsjsj probably that it gets them to pump their ego or eventually have sex if I had to guess? Idk whether i agree with that lol. More often than not it just creeps everyone out.
@ All dudes. I promise you if a girl is already attracted to you and you ask for consent before doing anything, that will only increase her attraction to you. It won't make it awkward or weird. Always ask for consent. ITS HOT.
I'm a bi dude with a preference for guys and i've always seen it as an awkward, annoying thing you simply have to do when you are with someone. I do ask for consent (sexual or just physical) but it very much makes it awkward and weird for me.
@@sycration If you've known the person for awhile and know what they like you don't have to ask every time. They'll be comfortable enough at that point to tell you to stop. But it should NOT be weird for you to ask to touch someone on your first meeting. He should not have been touching and grabbing her on the first date without asking.
@@melanopygus I know, that was really gross and weird and I wouldn't have the impulse to touch the first time. For me, I often won't be intimate with my boyfriend because the asking beforehand is just so un-sexy. Maybe I should go to therapy or something 🙃
@@sycration Have a conversation with your boyfriend about it. Ask him if it's okay if you don't ask for consent every time and if he'll speak up if you make him uncomfortable. You can also have safewords like yellow if he's a bit uncomfortable and red if he wants you to stop.
You think Babe Ruth ASKED to go to second base? Naw he just went for it.
"I'm not having much luck with dating apps so I'm going to be trapped in a box with a blind date for an uncomfortable amount of time."
😐
"Apps are too much of a time commitment so I'll sit in a box with a total stranger for 12 hours straight." - Her probably
Basically forcing it full on instead of the messy dating apps.
This actually boosted my confidence quite a lot. Despite my flaws and problems, least I’m not that fucker
facts, good for you, Noah, keep up the good work 👺👍
Noah, keep up the good work. I assure women see that behaviour of his and any attraction we might feel on first sight just get grinded to dust. Looks gives advantages but it's definitely not the most important factor.
This man is sober.
Bro when he pulled her towards him I was like: "😨"
He found a way to corner her in a tiny box of corners… let’s read body language friends, don’t me that person.
Body language should be taught at school
She was literally sticking to the wall so hard and he didn't get it 😭
i relate so much to what you've said about women being trained to people-please and it's just so sad. I have been in situations that i felt had to "just take it" and pretend to like it in fear of the man becoming verbally or physically violent
I always thought I was a loser cause I felt I need to ask for consent. Thought it ruined the vibe. Now that I'm older I'm proud of my young self
Went on a couple dates with a couple people like this. They escalated things so quickly, almost immediately bringing up fetishes, body count, childhood trauma, your deepest insecurities, etc. in the very first date. They [appear to] interpret your discomfort and your hesitation as you playing hard-to-get. Your “No” means “Change my mind”.
I’m still not sure exactly how self-aware they are. Is this part of some dating strategy they use, or…?
Unfortunately most guys are like this, but it's nice to see the comments from normal guys.
That’s how they try to trap you and shit
my first date, the guy i was with said to me "i really appreciate you and I'm glad your alive" after endlessly making moves like the guy did in the video and when i tell you i turned around so fast
i rlly wish guys pick up on those cues because it makes for the worst experiences for women
This video doubled in length for me because I had to keep pausing to collect my fragmented soul after having it be destroyed by cringe. Most painful video he's ever watched.
this feels like every date i've ever been on omg
right????? literally why I cannot for the life of me find the energy to date
Most guys suck at dating. They’re all horned up and all they’re thinking about is kissing and banging when it should just be two people getting to know one another. Seems simple but guys make it weird and difficult.
They never heard the term “think outside the box”?
I really hope that I don't ever behave like this guy. One of my fears is coming off as a creep, not having self-awareness in situations like this and in general, and not thinking about how my actions could affect others.
The fact that you're concerned is a good way to avoid it.
@@christophergreen6595 yeah literally was abt to say this, the fact youre scared abt making other uncomfortable like this or coming across as a creep bc it can make other u comfortable and not bc you want to save ur reputation but genuinley care about the feelings of others is already more self-awareness than most. so youre doing a good job, just remember if you do mess up or cross a boundry simply sincerely apologize and learn and dont do it again, also remember that person is not obligated to accept your apology so whatever they say yo you apology is just that dont get defensive just simply say okay and walk away
If there is one thing to Cancel Hasan for, It’s for Torturing his stream with this video.
R.I.P. to the Chatters who had to watch this shit💀
i absolutely hated this stream, i need more
when the guys asked "do you normally kiss on the first date" and hasan went 'EWWWWWUUUGHHGHGHHGG" that was literally the same noise i made
LMFOAOAO thats the noise i make whenever i watch shit that give me second hand embarrassment i just sit and seethe like "NOOOWHGEHEHEGEHEH EEWEEUEGEH"
20:09 while i think hasan has a point, i feel like the guy in the vid is old enough to be able to search outside of his bubble and question whether the things hes doing are ok to do. hes like 28. to not recognize most social cues and not think about consent at that age is totally his fault. im 20, i grew up thinking consent was stupid and my social cue recognition was ass but i grew up and thought more about what i was doing and how people were responding to me and took charge. its not easy but its not that hard. definitely not hard enough to think its ok to be as touchy as that guy is in the vid. anyways, sick content, thanks hasan :)
at that point hasan thought he was younger, in the uncut version he corrected himself by saying he is old enough to know better.
nah kid has no boundaries
"Girl looks around and she's on the open ocean, what she gonna do? Turn around and say no? It's the implication."
fucking Dennis 😂😂😂
Dennis is the opitome of toxic masculinity
On our first date my now husband let me make the move for that first kiss and I did it but I have social anxiety and he didn’t really say anything after so I actually apologized to him just in case he wasn’t into it 💀 he still laughs about it even now. Being respectful in the very beginning is so attractive. He accidentally like bumped his hand slightly into my chest on like the third date and apologized profusely but I didn’t notice so I had no idea what he was talking about. This was five years ago and I love looking back at how cute it all was. Guys and ladies and everyone in between, never feel weird about asking for consent or looking for confirmation in case you’re making anyone uncomfortable, if they do truly find it weird I think that’s a red flag of incompatibility
Hasan dry heaving when he asked “do you normally kiss on the first date”
Yep. Cringe lol
This was fucking horrible. As a Cis-Het man, it made me want to never date again, just as a means of recompense.
fckin same bro…fckin same
I think this is my favorite react video ever lmao your expressions and sounds have never been more accurate 😂
Always so sad that there are men that just assume because they're attracted to a woman and want to be all over her that she wants the same thing. They specifically said to ask for consent and then in the next frame he grabs her leg again, so sad people don't realize consent applies to any physical contact smh
I normally would not be able to withstand such levels of cringe. If I hadn't been watching this live I don't think I would have made it through
Me watching this shouting "no" every other minute and then devolving into a "NOOOOO JUST NOOOO"
Men are so unaware of how unaware they are. It's insane how as a woman we just laugh things off to get through a bad interaction, but the guy on the other end thinks he's actually charming you. This guy physically laid all over her, spilled his beans like she was his therapist, and came away thinking it was a "mutal opening up." Mental illness level delusion - and then they go around crying that women just reject them for "no reason." He was OUT after five minutes.
This is a perfect example, men really don't understand consent, and I say this as a man. They also seem to really fail at social cues, or intentionally miss them but I feel like that's back to not getting what consent is.
Unfortunately it's usually more about being goal oriented and selfish than being ignorant. People who act like that don't care about other people and it shows. That guy was on his best behavior for the camera. Imagine how bad he is in private. Guys like that have an extreme sense of entitlement, and get belligerent when told no. It's nice to see that some guys also find this behavior appalling.
You've said it well. It seems part of not understanding consent is that men can see it as "optional" since there's too often no repercussions for it.
I also forgot that he would of course be aware every action of his is being filmed, which makes it all so much worse
I cringed myself into a singularity watching this - WHY DO I WANT MORE
Exactly idk what it is it’s just soo bad that it’s great
idk how people just talk about dating to other people, if I'm on a date I wanna know about the things you like and find out if we share interests not how you've dated before I wanna know if you like dinosaurs and archeology not about what you do on dates because you are literally on one right now.
thank you for posting more on YT 💚💚
Literally high pitched screamed out loud when he pulled her towards him 🤮
The point you made about how some people may not have had adults telling them about consent is so true! That is why at the daycare I work at we are trying to teach the preschoolers to ask for hugs, hold hands etc. They ask us the teachers for hugs and we prompt them to ask the other children as well. Consent is not just for sex and can be taught to younger children. It is not a taboo topic.
Its a paid actor no way bro no way. Please say that thats a paid actor. How did this bro not pick up anything like wtf its a paid actor. Im in physical pain
So many guys are like this. A LOT of guys are like this.
As a woman, at least half my dates are like this.
Unfortunately he's in the majority. It's so gross.
I've had experience like this and it wasn't even a date, it was a group of friends hanging out and he was being all sneaky to me behind everyone else. Super uncomfortable and it got to a point I just blatantly spelled it out to him, multiple times, to stop doing whatever he's doing. He still continued 😑
@@iii2594 Guys really need to be taught that no means no. They persist because someone told them persistence wins. It's a half-truth, as persistance is viable if a guy actually takes the time to make friends with the girl first before jumping to intimate touch.
The reality is, persistance does not equal pushing the girl. Persistance equals supporting the girl.
If I was the director, this video wouldn't have been published cause I'd have cut part way through the 5 minute eye contact experiment.
I went through 4 stages of grief with this, I don't think I will ever find accaptence...
this reminds me so much of a bad tinder experience. man couldn't read how uncomfortable i was from the get go. looked like a rat version of his photos. By the end asked me for a kiss and i said no. He responded "please?" and begged me to kiss him until I told him to get out of my car.
Literally one of the best reacts you’ve ever made
This is the most uncomfortable thing I have ever seen
The cut needs more like this
As a woman this is like 70% of all the dating I have done in my life. I usually very automatically try to be okay with all of it to the point that I even try to convince myself that I’m actually not uncomfortable. This was very painful to watch, it’s like living through my own experiences again.
Yes. This self-convincing is essentially a part of rape culture.
Hasan, something similar just happened to me and this is so fucking triggering omg I can’t and you are literally right about everything you said
Hit the nail on the head with "women always trying to make it work".
Damn, now I'm not gonna be able to go out on a date ever again without this vid playing over and over in my head.
holy shit I hope that woman’s ok. god bless her soul jfc
HASAN, BROTHER. This content is great bro, I literally reacted the same way 😂 💯
Oh thank God she said no.
15:30 was literally horrendous holy crap
When he cornered her i thought he was gonna whip out his tablet and show her his new cool apps
Nah man, he was boutta get that Switch our with some mfin Mario Ksrt
Asking for consent is the fastest way to build trust with me personally. The person I’m dating now asked for consent before everything new we did no matter how “small” it was and I’ve never trusted someone so much or quickly.
"Women are conditioned into eating shit nonstop" I just cried
good job to cut finding the most ameri-guy and showing how normalized manipulation is in our society.
Bro, I'm a fourteen years old boy and when I was twelve I was exactly who that guy on the video is. I had problems with porn addiction and in my old sight, the way he acted was totaly normal for me, making me do these things in my dates.
I really regret all those actions of mine, but I know that if I was educated porperly and porn hasn't formed me really wrong conceptions of sex, I would not be what I was.
I'm not used to comment in videos, mainly English ones (this is not my mother language), but this is a very important content that alerts not only women, but men not to act like what was shown in this video.
??? Ur high. You are 14. Go live your life and stop watching youtube
Oh god, not this again.
THIS HURT MY SOUL
Dude really thinks that since it's a 12 hour date it's really the equivalent of 3-4 dates, so it's no surprise he began to get progressively hornier and expecting physical contact that arouses him.
Also, "women like it when they see manly men cry!" - This dude is on that PUA shit with those crocodile tears.
so i’m gonna need more of these blind date reactions from hasan bc he held my hand through the cringe
The amount of times I've been talking to dudes online and in our FIRST conversation they bring up wanting to "cuddle"... yeah ok dude you haven't even asked me about a single hobby of mine yet
spent the video bouncing between laughing at how hard Hasan was cringing to cringing very hard myself to having violent flashbacks of my own dating experiences as a woman. 10/10 would do again
Thank you for this video Hasan. It helped me be more introspective.
We saw Stockholm syndrome at work, and then she eventually was put into the mindspace of "oh he does have some depth and emotions, maybe I could fix him. He has some redeemable shit to him, this could work".
This is a small example of how men treat women in dates. They think this is okay to do even when the girl outright says no. I used to believe sh** like this, and now I'm overwhelmingly grateful I've learned so much since then.
What I would have done if I were participating in this video: Kept my hands to myself the entire time. No matter what. I have no reason to touch her at all on the first date. Even if she asked me to touch her, I wouldn't, because I'm not comfortable putting her or me in such an intimate setting on the first day. I wanna talk on the first date more than anything. So I'd cross my arms comfortably, sit opposite to her while facing her, and speak to her like a friend the entire time. That would be a comfortable first date.
A hug is okay on the first date if both people are comfortable and want to, don't be SUCH a prude.
You sound like a blast...
@a user yeah. I know. this person just said "under no circumstances." which is weird, point blank.
@@ravenswood118 I'm not a prude. I explicitly said I myself [personally] do not want a hug on the first date even if she wants one. Read and understand before speaking.
@@ravenswood118 calling people prudes for having boundaries is extremely yikes
This video should be showed in schools to teach men how NOT to act
One of the best videos hasan has reacted to
The assessment of the vibes when he fucking pulled her, I lost it
watching this hurt.
"women are trained to take it"
YEAP
Oh God as this goes on I really feel like I'm about to watch SA wtf
This was so painful to watch. Please make more of this content.
10000% needs to happen is like fresh n' fit or shapiro needs to react to the cut video because i wonder so hard for what they hell they think and what they focus on. then have Hasan react harder.
When I’m on a first date I’ll just full on let it rip in front of her. My logic is that if she gets mad she’s probably not chill enough for me to date long term anyway. I full on loud farted in front of a person on the first date once, and they didn’t get upset. We’ve been dating 6 months now and it’s the happiest and most mutually beneficial relationship I’ve ever been in. Moral of the story: don’t worry about letting it rip
Edit: I wasn’t cringing super hard at first but 15:33 had me clenching my cheeks and involuntarily nervous laughing/saying “no no no no no” for like 30 seconds
Edit: okay it gets so much worse
Lol that's beautiful man❤️
I hate how much I love and need more of this
This one’s gonna be a no from me dawg. I’m too awkward to do this myself though, I’d be cradling my knee in the corner talking
This boosted my confidence level to start dating again
I watched this video multiple times to avoid doing the things the guy did.
Love Hasan's analysis on this. I definitely squirmed at some parts, but also give me moreee
For the record I’m exploding and dying from gas buildup on our first date if I can’t find a pocket 😂
These actions are bad on their own, but especially when the situation of being in a small box (hard for her to make separation) and also stuck for 12 hours (especially hard for her to reject him outright). Like this is the one situation where someone needs to not be pushy, but he goes ahead anyways. Much of the time physically blocking her from the exit of the box. Like I have a thing where since my bed is against the wall, if someone is in it with me I will always try to be in the wall side, so that they never feel guarded or trapped.
I didn't think a video like this could trigger a gag reflex but okay. It's just like a passive, nonchalant dry-heave the whole way through