Hi! I've been married to my Taiwanese spouse for over 10 years, and within a couple of years we're planning to move to Taiwan. I just wanted to say thanks to your channel for all the great information you provide. Your videos have been a huge help for me to learn more about the culture and prepare for our move. I appreciate that the content is both fun to watch and informative. Thanks for the fantastic work, you all do a great job!
When I first moved to Taiwan (ten years ago), my friends and I used to joke that it's "dry-wan" because the dating scene was kind of a desert for foreign non-asian girls 🤣 now ten years later, I'm married to a Taiwanese man and we have two kids 😅 😅 So it can happen~ keep looking, ladies 😂
I’m impressed by Jay maintaining a friendly disposition even when some people gave answers that COULD provoke derision. Jay: You should be an ambassador or an international liaison: you already proved you’re excellent in this sort of mission 🙌 ❤️ 🇹🇼
That's very cool, good luck in your studies. I do agree it is really hard to learn a new language without being in an environment where people speak that language. I'm currently trying to learn tagalog (my mom's language) and a little bit of mandarin.
Taiwanese are the south Chinese and they are very different from the north Chinese. North Chinese are very out going and very assertive and never shy just like Koreans
it has more to do with the difference in dating culture. IN Asian countries, like Malaysia, Taiwan, Japan, South Korea and etc, men don't generally approach women and ask them out. Unlike men from western countries who view dating as fun and casual, Asian Men don't. Dating for Asian men is something serious that leads to marriage eventually. Most men from Asian families are shy and socially awkward. Even many of the those who have grown up in the US are categorically ill-prepared to interact with other social groups. As a result, I see many Asians forming their own cliques. Someone who spends most of their time in a clique is most likely going to date and marry another person from that clique. Thus the high number of Asians-only couples. On top of this self-imposed logistical problem, most Asian men are never taught the qualities that make a man sexually attractive. In fact, most Asian parents I know ACTIVELY stunt their children's development in the social and romantic aspects of their lives, without realizing the tremendous damage being done to their future.
That’s totally not true. It’s the truth that Asian men are the one that ask women out. The west is full of feminism and women are there behaving like men and whyte men are not men and they only approach women for hook ups cause they are so desperate
In my experience people are not acknowledging the race issues that really frame all the dating experiences here. I did not realise how racist the Taiwanese were until I started living here. Of course it's a very naïve, unquestioned kind of racism; not hateful (like in the US). But the dynamics are clear, white on top of the list, Korean and Japanese below that, then Taiwanese, and at the bottom Indonesian, Philipino, Indian. A friend told me they didn't hire black teachers in her cramschool because "the children would be afraid of them". You can interview black people, but they won't always know this because the are not told this to their face, the Taiwanese have a tendency to treat people well despite their prejudices. And Taiwanese people will not discuss their racism because they don't notice it or see it as racism and when they do, because ots embarrassing and because of the culture of not losing face they will avoid the topic. My own dear friends bless their heart but they all didn't like the mermaid movie because "she wasn't pretty", and you know what that's code for... But as for the dating, people who speak English launch for the "top" (white) of the hierarchy and people who do not shy away, insecure of their English abilities. This is why the bilingual policy is risky in my mind. There are lots of social issues for which there is a lack of awareness. I also met kids from the European and American schools, they were born here but only speak Chinese with their family, their dominant language is English by far, they are sheltered in alternate realities and their trained to feel superior to regular Taiwanese people. I would like to see more awareness of these issues, and less obsession with English in this country. I actually personally benefit a lot from the emphasis on English, and I am "white-passing" enough in some situations, so I also benefit from the racial dynamics here, but I am sensitive and empathetic about Taiwanese people self-discriminating, especially because I am from Mexico and Mexicans do that too, in quite similar ways actually. I think awareness is key to solving these strange things, and for that we should be honest and clear.
very interesting video, thank you ! 🙂 im going to Taiwan in 3 weeks for a 5 months long school exchange, and it is a good thing to know now that I might struggle making myself boy friends, but I hope I can at least make myself some girl friends with whom ill be able to practice speaking Chinese 😅
我一般只會對亞洲女生有興趣，不過當談論到在台歐裔外國人的狀況的話，在十幾年前，我所看到一對對這類的伴侶的裡面，十對有九對都是歐美男/台女，就跟Chen的觀察一樣。但是2023年，這幾個月我在台中的觀察，台男/歐美女跟歐美男/台女的比例感覺是1:4或1:3，上升了蠻多，現在的情況跟十幾年前不太一樣，這些都是我自己看到的。可能不同的城市，這方面會有差異。 另外我發現的一個現象，就是那些跟台男牽手走在一起歐美女生，有一半以上都是說英語，但是這些歐洲臉孔的女生說的英語聽起來通常都不是Native English Speaker，更像是歐洲其他地方的人。
5:55 that girl pointed out something important, even you pass the language barrier, but it lacks sense of humor and chemistry, which makes communication hard and uninteresting.
@@JayChenTaiwan Thanks. Now, I'm learning Japanese. Also wanna learn Mandarin but still don't know which to choose Simplified or Traditional. In Asia, Japan and Taiwan are the first two countries I love the most. 🇲🇲🤝🇹🇼 And I support Taiwan as an independent country.
@@o.ot.t_5076 If you are interested to learn Mandarin then I would suggest you to learn Traditional.Because you can understand Simplified easily if you can read Traditional.
@@o.ot.t_5076 I think it depends on where you plan on spending more time. In my case I often go to Taiwan and I don't plan to go to China so Traditional makes more sense. I also just happen to like knowing characters that have been in use for thousands of year.
@@squattingtaiwan I love Taiwan more. I don't like China cos of Xi and his CCP. But, in my country, Chinese companies are more than Taiwanese companies. 😐 I wanna learn Mandarin to communicate with Taiwanese on SNS but also wanna work with this language.
Im taiwanese and I live in the US, I have yet to meet a single taiwanese person in my college. I mean my roommate is half, but hes pretty much British.
As usual, most of the foreign girls deflect the question and claim that foreign guys have a fetish for Asian girls. When they eat Asian food six nights a week, does that mean they have a fetish for Asian food as well? Or are they simply LIVING in Asia, and adapting. The foreign girls I knew in Taiwan 20 years ago hardly made ANY effort to chat up local guys, and they would all blame it on either the local guys being shy, even though the foreign girls didn't need an invitation to approach the foreign guys. Frankly, the foreign girls are just a bit racist.
Well, 20- 15 years ago Taiwanese were kind of racist to black people. At kindergartens, and cram schools they'd hire blond non-native English speakers instead of native English speaker black teachers. I don't know how is the situation now
I'm a Polish girl. Planning to go to Taiwan. Looking forward to my studying Chinese there and finding love. I think Taiwanese people are the best 😊
Taiwanese men are nansy pansy... They're smart but love to look down on mainland Chinese and aee cheap little girls on the inside
Hi! I've been married to my Taiwanese spouse for over 10 years, and within a couple of years we're planning to move to Taiwan. I just wanted to say thanks to your channel for all the great information you provide. Your videos have been a huge help for me to learn more about the culture and prepare for our move. I appreciate that the content is both fun to watch and informative. Thanks for the fantastic work, you all do a great job!
Hey Fabiano ! Glad you like my work 😀 Welcome to Taiwan
無意間發現Jay的頻道, 一下就把全部刷完了, 好專業的街訪, 一定會紅👏👏
雙語字幕好讚, 讓我可以學習英文~ 謝謝你😊😍
感謝你大力的支持 😊 希望有幫你學習到英文口語 ~
When I first moved to Taiwan (ten years ago), my friends and I used to joke that it's "dry-wan" because the dating scene was kind of a desert for foreign non-asian girls 🤣 now ten years later, I'm married to a Taiwanese man and we have two kids 😅 😅 So it can happen~ keep looking, ladies 😂
Love how you describe it 😆 a desert for foreign non-asian girls 😂
It’s not much better for Asian women. I dated Taiwanese men for 10 years and eventually gave up due to cultural differences and expectations.
I like this topic. Feels like you are getting more comfortable interviewing strangers 👍
Thanks man 😎
下個影片就試試看直接問interracial couples. I cannot wait to see it! Thank you and 加油！
感謝支持! 陸續推出~
你的影片主題總是很酷 哈哈哈哈 好喜歡
哈哈 謝謝 😎
要先讚賞Jay，這裡真是寶藏頻道，討論的議題都具有探討性👍
語言隔閡一定是有的：「女性在語言方面比男性較有天賦。」（依據我本身是外文系加上在語言補教業工作的經驗，伴侶是不會說中文的非洲人）畢竟女性一天講的話要比男性多出好幾倍😂 在台灣，如果遇到一位英語流利者的男性，大部分他不是ABC就是有待在國外生活的經驗。當年在學校學習西語的時候班上也只有5位男生。甚至大部分的台灣男生日語比英語還熟悉，這也驗證了文化差異（日本文化對台灣的影響）而可以觀察到的是，即使是英語流利者的男性，通常伴侶還是亞洲人，可能以心理和文化層面來看，亞洲男性本來就比較偏好亞洲女性。
外國女孩們不用太在意，也是有很多台灣女性只喜歡亞洲男性的，也有許多外國女孩嫁給台灣男孩的😊青菜蘿蔔各有所好
謝你的支持以及分享 ☀
I’m impressed by Jay maintaining a friendly disposition even when some people gave answers that COULD provoke derision. Jay: You should be an ambassador or an international liaison: you already proved you’re excellent in this sort of mission 🙌 ❤️ 🇹🇼
我個人認為害羞跟語言佔很大部分吧
以前唸書的時候，有些名校都像女校一樣，後來還有男女分數入取分數不同
大多數名校出生的同學都說男生很少
到現在身邊勇於出國待在國外工作生活的依然是女性朋友，她們可能過去功課不好，但都蠻敢說走就走
可能有些人會嘲諷她們喜歡洋人，但不是每個人都往西方國家去，也有待在亞洲地區的。現在伴侶跟老公都是台灣人
非常感恩,當我發現這視頻如獲至寶,這是個超級有效的學習英文視頻,雖然我不知道你做這視頻的目的.但是對一個欠缺英文環境的人來說,這就是真實的日常口語情境,Thats what I want! hops you can do more-more kind of chat show .thank you!
感謝你的支持 😎 我最初的目的就是替自己創造英文環境 ! 也能夠國際人士學習不同的文化以及看法, 很開心你喜歡
That's very cool, good luck in your studies. I do agree it is really hard to learn a new language without being in an environment where people speak that language. I'm currently trying to learn tagalog (my mom's language) and a little bit of mandarin.
"How about your dating life?" Hahahaha....(awkward cricket sound🦗....in the background)
😆
Taiwanese are the south Chinese and they are very different from the north Chinese. North Chinese are very out going and very assertive and never shy just like Koreans
可以聽到不同國家口音 真的不錯 !
國際化😄
it has more to do with the difference in dating culture.
IN Asian countries, like Malaysia, Taiwan, Japan, South Korea and etc, men don't generally approach women and ask them out. Unlike men from western countries who view dating as fun and casual, Asian Men don't. Dating for Asian men is something serious that leads to marriage eventually.
Most men from Asian families are shy and socially awkward. Even many of the those who have grown up in the US are categorically ill-prepared to interact with other social groups. As a result, I see many Asians forming their own cliques. Someone who spends most of their time in a clique is most likely going to date and marry another person from that clique. Thus the high number of Asians-only couples.
On top of this self-imposed logistical problem, most Asian men are never taught the qualities that make a man sexually attractive. In fact, most Asian parents I know ACTIVELY stunt their children's development in the social and romantic aspects of their lives, without realizing the tremendous damage being done to their future.
I disagree about South Korean men, they’re more active and assertive when it comes to the chase.
That’s totally not true. It’s the truth that Asian men are the one that ask women out. The west is full of feminism and women are there behaving like men and whyte men are not men and they only approach women for hook ups cause they are so desperate
@@judyc6820Same thought. I agree. Korean mens are different. They are not very shy to approach people and women
I think South Korean mens are quite different than other East asian men. Korean mens are not very shy to approach people or women.
It will be interesting to see if Taiwanese men are interesting dating foreign women and what sort of physical attributes they like
Yes I will make a video to talk about it😎
Just like other Asian men, most of them like thin white skinned women.
I’m American mixed, Taiwanese men are some of the most beautiful in the world. 💗✨🌷
It’s way better with the older men. Including older men in Taiwan like older than your dad age. They are not shy and they are way more confident
總是有趣❤值得分享🎉
感謝支持😀
In my experience people are not acknowledging the race issues that really frame all the dating experiences here. I did not realise how racist the Taiwanese were until I started living here. Of course it's a very naïve, unquestioned kind of racism; not hateful (like in the US). But the dynamics are clear, white on top of the list, Korean and Japanese below that, then Taiwanese, and at the bottom Indonesian, Philipino, Indian. A friend told me they didn't hire black teachers in her cramschool because "the children would be afraid of them". You can interview black people, but they won't always know this because the are not told this to their face, the Taiwanese have a tendency to treat people well despite their prejudices. And Taiwanese people will not discuss their racism because they don't notice it or see it as racism and when they do, because ots embarrassing and because of the culture of not losing face they will avoid the topic. My own dear friends bless their heart but they all didn't like the mermaid movie because "she wasn't pretty", and you know what that's code for...
But as for the dating, people who speak English launch for the "top" (white) of the hierarchy and people who do not shy away, insecure of their English abilities.
This is why the bilingual policy is risky in my mind. There are lots of social issues for which there is a lack of awareness. I also met kids from the European and American schools, they were born here but only speak Chinese with their family, their dominant language is English by far, they are sheltered in alternate realities and their trained to feel superior to regular Taiwanese people.
I would like to see more awareness of these issues, and less obsession with English in this country. I actually personally benefit a lot from the emphasis on English, and I am "white-passing" enough in some situations, so I also benefit from the racial dynamics here, but I am sensitive and empathetic about Taiwanese people self-discriminating, especially because I am from Mexico and Mexicans do that too, in quite similar ways actually. I think awareness is key to solving these strange things, and for that we should be honest and clear.
great comment
I have sooooo much to say 😂 really cool video
Glad you like it 😀
very interesting video, thank you ! 🙂
im going to Taiwan in 3 weeks for a 5 months long school exchange, and it is a good thing to know now that I might struggle making myself boy friends, but I hope I can at least make myself some girl friends with whom ill be able to practice speaking Chinese 😅
1:54 "how it's going" should be "How did it go?"
Thank you 🙏
我一般只會對亞洲女生有興趣，不過當談論到在台歐裔外國人的狀況的話，在十幾年前，我所看到一對對這類的伴侶的裡面，十對有九對都是歐美男/台女，就跟Chen的觀察一樣。但是2023年，這幾個月我在台中的觀察，台男/歐美女跟歐美男/台女的比例感覺是1:4或1:3，上升了蠻多，現在的情況跟十幾年前不太一樣，這些都是我自己看到的。可能不同的城市，這方面會有差異。
另外我發現的一個現象，就是那些跟台男牽手走在一起歐美女生，有一半以上都是說英語，但是這些歐洲臉孔的女生說的英語聽起來通常都不是Native English Speaker，更像是歐洲其他地方的人。
Also most girls don’t travel to date but guys do
5:55 that girl pointed out something important, even you pass the language barrier, but it lacks sense of humor and chemistry, which makes communication hard and uninteresting.
Yes I did
I’m thinking of going to Taiwan partly for that reason 😂
Jay 就請你幫台灣男生加點分吧 哈哈..
哈哈 😆
台灣男人真的不行，太害羞了，而是大多數都不會英文，在遇到外國女生的時候連基本的問候都不會。
加油 ! 我在路上想找台灣男生的國際情侶 , 確實很難找 😅
@@JayChenTaiwan 我遇到不少～～
3:56 台灣男生加油💪💪
加油
well...if you're a 4 u automatically become an 8 in taiwan especially if you have light skin
Um...To be honest, I think it's true in some cases
Only if you’re not Asian
If your a white 4 you become a Taiwanese 8. If your Black or Brown you wither stay the same or you downgrade xD
其實在台灣南部,更多的是東南亞女生跟台灣男生
台灣男生通常害羞不主動，但國外男生就非常主動就算路上隨便搭訕失敗他們也不痛不癢，久而久之數量一大總是容易約到女生
4:27 求ig
可以到不同城市將會得到不同答案😂
I like your videos
I just wanna know are many Taiwanese proficient in Japanese?
I think it's true in some cases, because Taiwanese like Japan a lot
@@JayChenTaiwan
Thanks. Now, I'm learning Japanese. Also wanna learn Mandarin but still don't know which to choose Simplified or Traditional. In Asia, Japan and Taiwan are the first two countries I love the most. 🇲🇲🤝🇹🇼 And I support Taiwan as an independent country.
@@o.ot.t_5076 If you are interested to learn Mandarin then I would suggest you to learn Traditional.Because you can understand Simplified easily if you can read Traditional.
@@o.ot.t_5076 I think it depends on where you plan on spending more time. In my case I often go to Taiwan and I don't plan to go to China so Traditional makes more sense. I also just happen to like knowing characters that have been in use for thousands of year.
@@squattingtaiwan
I love Taiwan more. I don't like China cos of Xi and his CCP. But, in my country, Chinese companies are more than Taiwanese companies. 😐 I wanna learn Mandarin to communicate with Taiwanese on SNS but also wanna work with this language.
Im taiwanese and I live in the US, I have yet to meet a single taiwanese person in my college. I mean my roommate is half, but hes pretty much British.
哈哈哈因為不好好讀書啦英文不好那敢交友
其實很多外國人來學中文，你可以衝ㄧ波😆
Mainland Chinese people are less westernized and more traditional and so the men in Mainland China are very manly and take the lead and the initiative
Taiwanese guys also don’t seem to approach. I don’t think we would be attracted to each other though
As usual, most of the foreign girls deflect the question and claim that foreign guys have a fetish for Asian girls. When they eat Asian food six nights a week, does that mean they have a fetish for Asian food as well? Or are they simply LIVING in Asia, and adapting.
The foreign girls I knew in Taiwan 20 years ago hardly made ANY effort to chat up local guys, and they would all blame it on either the local guys being shy, even though the foreign girls didn't need an invitation to approach the foreign guys.
Frankly, the foreign girls are just a bit racist.
I heard it's changing and the foreign girls are giving locals a chance now. Is that true?
I followed you
Thanks😀
為什麼你的街訪會突然中斷,especially in the end?
因為影片結束了😅 不過有觀眾建議可以做結尾 還在研究中
我比較喜歡沒有結尾，比較自然
i want to marry a taiwan guy❤
Well, 20- 15 years ago Taiwanese were kind of racist to black people. At kindergartens, and cram schools they'd hire blond non-native English speakers instead of native English speaker black teachers. I don't know how is the situation now
亞洲第1同婚😂😢😢😢
我老婆是菲律賓人，皮膚也很黑，剛認識時也是沒什麼話題，也是慢慢找到共同話題，才有話題聊。
菲律賓很不錯啊 台灣新住民有明顯增加的趨勢
@@JayChenTaiwan
至今我跟老婆的溝通依舊是用英語，兒子的母語是英語不是國語。
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台灣男性娶外籍配偶，生出來的混血兒，混的帥的不多😅😂🤣🥲
Date me.
其實看到很多台灣女生配外國男生也不用覺得奇怪啦，女生的價值在外表跟生育能力，男生的價值是文化決定的，所以女生更能夠跨文化找伴侶，這是有研究過的結論
很多跟外國人交往的女生英文也沒很好，也更做實這點
這個有人有研究是因為西方優越感
東方以前科技發展慢 被殖民統治
亞洲人也都看國外電影 電視 時尚雜誌 審美也是被國外影響 要眼睛大 五官深邃 等等總覺得國外比較厲害 走在前面 才會有CCR
國外薪資高所以外國男來台灣比較容易
反而台灣男要去歐美生活的比例當然低很多
而且台灣 外國男生比例一定比外國女生多
亞洲一定都是這樣 看看泰國一堆白人 去那邊住幾個月每天嫖妓
亞洲人真的要站起來 尤其是台灣部份女生 不要看到外國人跟看到錢一樣
最後一個女生說得很好
因為亞洲女很簡單就可以拿到手導致過來說你是真愛 結果是來開箱亞洲鮑 拜託一下 不要讓外國男讓他們覺得你們那麼廉價
我在澳洲也是看到一樣的情況，但我也不知道原因，雖然很不想這樣想，但是我覺得和種族有關係💁
就像在台灣很少看到有男生會選擇跟黑人女生一起，在白人的世界也是一樣的
但是韓國和日本因為軟實力的輸出，他們已經成功脫離西方女生的舊印象
很多歐美女生更願意和日韓男生走在一起，這是我逐個去問的答案
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我跟加拿大交往過 對性愛很飢渴 我嚇到了 😟
Taiwanese guys also don’t seem to approach. I don’t think we would be attracted to each other though