Do Americans Know These 13 Habits Are Seen as RUDE?

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  • @Eirewolf
    @Eirewolf 3 дні тому +29

    Saying "what" or "huh" instead of pardon is just plain rude. Also, nice Trek reference Diane!

    • @DianeJennings
      @DianeJennings  3 дні тому +5

      ✌🏻

    • @Eirewolf
      @Eirewolf 3 дні тому +3

      🖖

    • @TrianglesAndCircles
      @TrianglesAndCircles 3 дні тому +1

      I had no idea. Okay oops?

    • @jack-of-all-trades1234
      @jack-of-all-trades1234 3 дні тому +11

      What is just short for what did you say?
      It seems like a reasonable question to ask if you didn't hear.

    • @jishani1
      @jishani1 3 дні тому +18

      Fun fact: no one is beholden to behave the way you think they should, and if someone offends you, that's a problem and not theirs, because they aren't going to pay you a second thought and you're going to seethe over it for days due to your fragility and thin skin.

  • @gkiferonhs
    @gkiferonhs 3 дні тому +12

    I taught physics for 45 years and had often noticed some students whose voices would just penetrate through a loud environment. Kids would sometimes claim that they get yelled at for talking when everyone was talking, too. By analyzing voices it seemed that the penetrating voices were more "pure", that is consisting of a single tone. The more additional frequencies (harmonics) that were added in, the less the voice penetrated. Personally, my speaking voice doesn't carry very well and sometimes I have to put on my "coaches voice" to be heard; it's not just louder, but more harmonically simple.

    • @themaven2017
      @themaven2017 3 дні тому

      Thank you for the validation! I am 59 and still get told to "turn down the volume"!

    • @thomastimlin1724
      @thomastimlin1724 3 дні тому +1

      @@themaven2017 What? Huh? lol

    • @themaven2017
      @themaven2017 3 дні тому +1

      @thomastimlin1724 yep, growing up my mom always said "turn the volume down" and even now people say I am loud

  • @anbu.hinata
    @anbu.hinata 3 дні тому +46

    I’m American and a waitress. Not saying “thank you” when being tipped IS rude 🤠

    • @DianeJennings
      @DianeJennings  3 дні тому +1

      👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻

    • @mikesilva3868
      @mikesilva3868 3 дні тому

      ​@@DianeJennings😊

    • @johnlabus7359
      @johnlabus7359 3 дні тому +6

      When I waited tables decades ago in college, I would thank them when presenting the bill, but I am not sure that I thanked them again because when running their credit card and bringing it back to the table, I usually didn't hover around them and wait for them to complete the transaction. They would often sit for a few more minutes and complete the process and leave when I wasn't there. That said, I always did at least thank them at some point in that end of service sequence.

    • @anbu.hinata
      @anbu.hinata 3 дні тому +3

      @ that’s also true, it is weird to hover. It’s normal to say thank you when they personally hand it to you, some customers love to see you light up from a tip!

    • @andreabryant9979
      @andreabryant9979 3 дні тому +4

      I don’t expect a “thank you.” I put the tip on the table & I’m out the door! 🚙

  • @Jeff_Lichtman
    @Jeff_Lichtman 3 дні тому +6

    I often get a "thank you" when I put money in a tip jar. But when I write a tip amount on a restaurant check I'll usually be gone by the time the waiter sees it, so they have no chance to thank me.
    How many times can you ask someone to repeat himself without being rude? If you didn't understand the first couple of times, is it best to just smile and nod?
    I'm sure you were trained as an actor on how to project your voice. Some people do this all the time.
    I'm with you re: labeling people. I don't like putting people in a box. The way to get to know someone is to spend time around them. It takes time. And there's a difference between character and characteristics.

  • @paladinpage1895
    @paladinpage1895 День тому +3

    Sharp diction can make us more audible as well, we don’t swallow our Ts, for example.

  • @claddagh143
    @claddagh143 3 дні тому +8

    I work in the service industry - it's my job to say hello to the customer first, so when I go somewhere else and the worker doesn't greet me I assume they're busy and I don't greet them because I feel uncomfortable interrupting them.

  • @Kelnx
    @Kelnx 3 дні тому +9

    Any time someone says "Americans are too loud", I think they've never been around Spanish speakers. As you said, Spaniards are loud, but Mexicans and other central Americans can get even louder. So I'm thinking it has something to do with both language and dialect/accent, not necessarily culture.
    And the not saying thanks for tips is probably because customers are usually gone before they see the tip. If you're not then it becomes kind of awkward. Like they know what you tipped them, and you know what you tipped them, and they know you know what you tipped them and bringing it up by saying "thanks for the tip" would just break some unwritten rule or something. Especially if it was a good tip. It's expected to be kind of quiet about good tips. Public praise for that sort of thing would be embarrassing for the tipper. I dunno, our tipping culture is weird.

  • @piggylumps3823
    @piggylumps3823 3 дні тому +8

    I think we think it’s “awesome” when we meet someone from across the pond is because most of us haven’t been there and probably never will be. Conversely, you can go to other countries like we can drive to another state

  • @mattheweudy2396
    @mattheweudy2396 3 дні тому +6

    6:01 I never thought I’d miss this aspect of shopping in the US till I couldn’t find anyone to help me in foreign shops

    • @Ninja_Penguin
      @Ninja_Penguin 2 дні тому

      Why would you need help? You pick what you want, and you take it to the till.
      If someone tries pestering me in the shop, I'll just leave

  • @wtk6069
    @wtk6069 3 дні тому +4

    In the US, we even have this sort of cultural misunderstanding between different parts of our own country. As one example, New Yorkers are famous (notorious?) for insulting people without even realizing it when they visit us here in the South. They don't mean it (usually). It's just two totally different cultures. Honestly, when I visited Ireland, I found that it was closer to us here the South than some of our American urban, northern or coastal cities in terms of manners.

  • @debjorgo
    @debjorgo 3 дні тому +2

    You ever go to a crowded neighborhood bar for lunch? At the other tables, everybody is talking all at once. You don't get interrupted, if you keep talking.

  • @Serenachan02
    @Serenachan02 3 дні тому +2

    I worked for Claire’s for a while in college. They had a whole list of things we would have to say to customers as they walked in. If a manager heard you not giving the whole speech you would get in trouble. Trust me, the workers there are just as frustrated with the process.

  • @David-l6c3w
    @David-l6c3w 3 дні тому +2

    Self-promotion among American's has grown in the last 30 years. It wasn't as much when I was a teenager. I think the Internet and social media seemed to play a big role in that.

  • @richarddevine205
    @richarddevine205 3 дні тому +25

    You ever hear about the Irish girl that visited America and then proceeded to complain how rude we are? How rude!

    • @mjb1475
      @mjb1475 3 дні тому

      At no time did she complain. She is just discussing cultural differences. I guess even talking about differences is too hard for pussies like you.

  • @santamanone
    @santamanone 3 дні тому +3

    Actually no. The reverse is true. YOU mean “what” when you say “pardon.” If somebody says “Pardon.” I’m gonna ask, “away? What did you do?”

  • @claytondosier6197
    @claytondosier6197 3 дні тому +3

    I feel like I'm arrogant when I say, "You're welcome." I don't know if other Americans feel that way too or if it's just me. Like, yes, I'm so awesome for having done that for you.

    • @MrHorse-by3mp
      @MrHorse-by3mp 2 дні тому

      I think "you're welcome" is okay if you've really gone above and beyond to help someone. But I agree it's a bit much for the average mundane thing that cost you no real effort or inconvenience.

  • @theTemplar08
    @theTemplar08 3 дні тому +9

    Asking about someone career is small talk or a way to start a conversation for Americans

  • @bossfan49
    @bossfan49 2 дні тому +2

    I don't say 'pardon' or 'what?''. ..I furrow my brow and loudly exclaim *EH??!!* 😀

  • @llamasarus1
    @llamasarus1 3 дні тому +10

    Tips aren't seen as a gift deserving of a formal "thanks" every time as much as it's expected since we're all held hostage to this system that compels people to have to do it since employers are allowed to lower servers' base pays with the expectation that tips will make up for it.

  • @theonlymoo5e
    @theonlymoo5e 2 дні тому +1

    In most restaurants & bars here in Canada, tips are split up between all waiters & waitresses, ,and bar staff.

  • @MichaelW-nu3nv
    @MichaelW-nu3nv 3 дні тому +3

    Oh the video just showed up! I got the "yep" response when I first moved from the southern US to the north and I wasn't used to it, but soon found that it was just common dialogue. Thanks Diane and have a good weekend!

  • @justinrutledge822
    @justinrutledge822 3 дні тому +5

    I can't imagine going into a Wal-Mart and saying "Hi" to all the workers so I guess I'm guilty of that one. If there is a greeter working, I'll say hello if they say hello first. If it's just eye contact only, I'll do a quick head nod to acknowledge them.

    • @ajdenzer3039
      @ajdenzer3039 22 години тому

      @@justinrutledge822 I can't imagine going to my local Walmart and actually being acknowledged by one of their associates.

  • @lindacarroll6896
    @lindacarroll6896 3 дні тому +4

    Especially in restaurants, once you have paid the bill and tipped, you never see the server again.

    • @thomastimlin1724
      @thomastimlin1724 3 дні тому

      Well I did see my daugher again lol. even kissed her right in the restaurant. We both got a laugh out of the stares we got. I said outloud yuur sevrice was so good I just had to kiss you. Thats how we got the stares. We both laughed outloud. The manager knew who I was and was laughing too.

    • @nochannel1q2321
      @nochannel1q2321 2 дні тому

      It's another thing to consider how awkward or embarrassed you might be if the server opened the bill folder and read/counted your tip in front of you and then looked at you. You'd likely feel judged and uncomfortable as a result. Especially coming from a place where tipping is not essentially mandatory.

  • @uncleterry2148
    @uncleterry2148 3 дні тому +17

    I don’t spend my day worrying how others perceive my words or actions. In this era when everyone is offended by everything, I just be myself and if someone doesn’t like it, they can just go have a good cry.

  • @jamesglendening5180
    @jamesglendening5180 3 дні тому +22

    As far as interrupting goes, it's often the only way we Americans can contribute anything to a conversation. I once challenged myself to not interrupt anyone for a whole day. During that day, I was only ever able to speak for about 1 minute per hour or two and only when I started brand new conversations during moments of silence.

    • @andrewft31
      @andrewft31 3 дні тому

      And everyone was better off for it

    • @josephlathrop1914
      @josephlathrop1914 3 дні тому

      @@andrewft31 🤣

    • @llamasarus1
      @llamasarus1 3 дні тому +1

      There are always those catch 22's where they make us sound like we're weird for doing them but there's not a reasonable way around it. Like how it's considered odd that we strike conversations with strangers and other countries don't do that. But since all friends start out as strangers then how else would you make friends if you don't talk to initial strangers? Same thing with that.

  • @mattheweudy2396
    @mattheweudy2396 3 дні тому +2

    1:41 I think it’s my way of trying to move the conversation along, I often follow “yep” with some talking point because I don’t like being put on pedestal

    • @LindaC616
      @LindaC616 3 дні тому +3

      I think that's the case with most Americans. It's like accepting a compliment

  • @mcverisimilitude
    @mcverisimilitude 2 дні тому +1

    LOL, I enjoy watching your channel. Your view point can be refreshing at times but off, but it also shows how much the world misunderstands us. There is a lot of diversity here and not just in the people, the land itself. You would have to live here for over a decade to start understanding. Thanks for your effort. Reaction videos to Americans is always going to be a hoot!

  • @kolchak357
    @kolchak357 3 дні тому +3

    Seen as rude by non Americans, but most of these are perfectly acceptable behaviors in the US. We are just not overly formal in most situations. In fact the more we know you and the more we like you, the less formal everything becomes.

  • @anbu.hinata
    @anbu.hinata 3 дні тому +19

    “Of course” means that they were very happy to help you! :)

    • @DianeJennings
      @DianeJennings  3 дні тому

      🙄

    • @anbu.hinata
      @anbu.hinata 3 дні тому +5

      @ it does! “Of course I will help you!”

    • @nochannel1q2321
      @nochannel1q2321 2 дні тому +2

      We have lots of variations because Americans tend to thank others a lot. Saying only "You're welcome" 30 or 40 times per day would start to get tiresome and irritating.

    • @anbu.hinata
      @anbu.hinata 2 дні тому

      @@nochannel1q2321 this is actually so true

  • @dwightgruber8308
    @dwightgruber8308 3 дні тому +2

    I'm an American, the thanks/(not "you're welcome") thing bugs me. Fyi Starbuck's employees are encouraged to use the "of course"/"no problem"-type rejoinders.

  • @andrewkline5611
    @andrewkline5611 3 дні тому +6

    Maybe it’s because I grew up in the Midwest, but I’m gonna claim not guilty to a lot of these.

  • @EL_Duderino68
    @EL_Duderino68 3 дні тому +1

    From an Aussie, I'd never say "what" I'm not even sure why. I say "Sorry I didn't quite get that"

    • @thomastimlin1724
      @thomastimlin1724 3 дні тому

      I love Australia, we just have different language patterns. If we were all the same, the whole world would be dull!

  • @stormchaser7992
    @stormchaser7992 3 дні тому +2

    What I can't stand is people not holding the door open for the person behind them. It takes less effort to hold the door than it does to open the door, which you already did. I instinctively check behind me when opening a door to see if anyone is behind me. Most people don't even bother to look.

    • @andrewft31
      @andrewft31 3 дні тому

      That is doable in a slow pace place but in a fast pace place that isn’t always doable, like I live in NYC, everything is rush and a lot of people get irritated if you hold the door, so you you get in the habit of not doing it because you can never be sure what kind of personality you are going to get so best to just avoid it.

    • @andreabryant9979
      @andreabryant9979 3 дні тому

      Yep, I was always taught not to let the door close in someone’s face. AND When someone holds it for you, say thank you!
      Now, it’s just a habit; open a public door> look behind myself. 😃

    • @stormchaser7992
      @stormchaser7992 3 дні тому

      @@andrewft31 Interesting, makes sense I guess. I live in the Midwest in a town of like 2,000 people. So we're all hold the door, ope let me sneak right past ya, tell yer folks I said hi kind of people

  • @michaelwalsh2498
    @michaelwalsh2498 3 дні тому +8

    I've traveled all over Ireland for 45+ years, since equal parts of my family live in America and in Ireland. I'm very used to the ways, mores and customs there. But I've noticed many Irish people treat Americans in a very condescending manner. I'm prepared to go back and forth with Irish people when I'm being "wound up". But many unsuspecting American visitors are needled by Irish people and don't recognize it. This needling often isn't done in a good natured way. Also, many Irish people do not compensate for other English speakers who have no idea what some of their unique usages mean. They assume these usages are universal, and act as if the visitors are slow on the uptake, when in actuality the visitors have no idea what these colloquialisms mean.
    Irish people are also great for assuming all Americans share the same attributes. The Irish will label "Americans" as completely lacking any knowledge of other countries. They also assume all Americans have zero respect for other nations and cultures. This has gotten much worse in Ireland over the last 25 years (with stronger EU ties). The Irish try to mimic a sophisticated continental European outlook, and instead it comes of as a silly form of snobbery.
    Many Irish people get very worked up about Americans who consider themselves "Irish". They don't look at this as a product of America's ethnic identity, where all groups try to color their identities with ethnic pride. The Irish take this as some sort of cultural appropriation of their national culture and citizenship. It isn't, it's a product of ethnic identies in the USA. This may be changing with the influx of migrants from Africa and Asia into Ireland. But it seems American assertion of ethnic Irishness annoys the Irish to a greater degree than sub Saharan or south west Asians who now call themselves Irish.

  • @ginger00022
    @ginger00022 3 дні тому +2

    I did know the 13 Habits would seen as rude.

  • @wildbill1519
    @wildbill1519 3 дні тому +9

    For those of us fluent in sarcasm, we are able to audibly distinguish between being upbeat and being sarcastic in our tone.
    As far as a server not saying thank you when tipped, us old school tippers leave the money on the table as we leave and don't expect a verbal acknowledgement. I went to a Golden Corral today, which is a buffet style restaurant, and the server brings refills. The first time she came around, she asked what kind of tea I was drinking. Occasionally, as she would go by she would ask, "You good?" or, "Do you need anything?". I personally do not find, "you good", to be rude. Yes, it is the informal mode of speech, but gets the point across. The two times she brought refills, I thanked her each time, and received the appropriate, "you're welcome" response.

  • @user-sc2gz2mv5h
    @user-sc2gz2mv5h 3 дні тому +1

    Well, I know you're not going to see this answer; but, I'll give you the answer anyway with tipping. When the individual is working, you're paying them for their work. It's like saying I should think my paycheck every time I get it. But exceptions to tipping people and saying thank you. For instance; I gave this waitress 800 dollars in a tip. But I went there for so many years and she was always kind to everybody regardless of what kind of day she was having. So that day I decided to be kind and do that. Yes, she thanked me. But I told her why I did it. Because she was kind to everybody. I never saw her upset about anything. So I want to make her happy and besides she's a sweet old lady. Everybody deserves kindness once in their life regardless of them work or not. I hope everybody has a lovely day. Smash the like button 💗 Keep the world blue beautiful 🎉🎉

  • @jasonmalstrom1043
    @jasonmalstrom1043 День тому

    "Pardon" in America can have inference of, "Did you actually just say what I think I heard you say?"

  • @dalemurray1318
    @dalemurray1318 3 дні тому

    In America "Welcome" is an invitation. Like Welcome to my home or welcome to my party. We acknowledge statements of gratitude rather than invite someone to EXPECT what they should appreciate

  • @bryandawkins
    @bryandawkins 3 дні тому +1

    I see your video is reloaded well I wish you and Chewie the luck of the Irish Each day your whole life through! May your pockets be heavy and your heart be light. May good luck pursue you each morning and night.

  • @Veritas-TheGoader
    @Veritas-TheGoader 3 дні тому +2

    2:19
    Why should I be sorry I can’t understand what a person is saying?
    They should be sorry and pardon themselves for me not understanding.

  • @kenbrown2808
    @kenbrown2808 3 дні тому +4

    Victor Borge said it best. something to the effect of America is so spacious, people talk on the outside of htheir mouths, while european countries are so crowded, people have to keep their talking inside their mouths.

  • @claudiaclark6162
    @claudiaclark6162 2 дні тому +1

    Some people have a loud pitch some people talk to people who are hard of hearing all the time and forget

  • @danbarry4772
    @danbarry4772 3 дні тому +14

    I don't need you to pardon me. I need you to repeat WHAT you just said.

  • @markw999
    @markw999 3 дні тому +2

    We should rethink everything about our tipping culture. It's gotten ridiculous.

  • @josephlathrop1914
    @josephlathrop1914 3 дні тому +4

    No "What" is what did you say? would you repeat that? Pardon is Pardon me. which is an Apology Commonly said when dealing with strangers. Like Pardon me you dropped this. (to a stranger)

  • @TheDreamtimezzz
    @TheDreamtimezzz 3 дні тому +6

    Rude is not having chewy in your videos. 🐶 ❤😊

  • @Larry660
    @Larry660 17 годин тому

    Verbal exchange that my wife overheard:
    "Are you being deliberately rude?"
    "No."
    "Then you must be from New York."

  • @mikeses4392
    @mikeses4392 21 годину тому

    Hey, we have greeters at Wal Mart! 😂😂

  • @wabash9000
    @wabash9000 3 дні тому +3

    Trying to remember my comment from the original video.
    There is an older gentleman that works the door at the walmart near me for the last few hours of the day. He always genitures people to the exit. I always thank him and tell him to have a good night. I find it odd when people are rude to service workers. I had gone through the drive thru at Taco Bell recently and after they told me my total and told me to pull forward, I said thank you. They were kind of caught off guard and said 'oh... you're welcome"

  • @Harrison1Bergeron
    @Harrison1Bergeron 2 дні тому +2

    Fun because we aren’t a deviant part of any European culture, we are our own multiple of cultures. We may look like many of you but we are so very different in how we think.

  • @CM-ey7nq
    @CM-ey7nq День тому +1

    As a European I've encountered nothing but nice Americans (for the most part, there are a-holes everywhere on the planet). When I was stationed with them, and even the drunk ones are just another human. But, yes, you guys are loud. So are the Spanish, the Filipinos, whatever. But you guys have a distinct way of making yourselves *heard* :) I don't know if you're even aware of how loud you talk most of the time.

  • @nochannel1q2321
    @nochannel1q2321 2 дні тому +1

    Why would we moving away from categorizing people? Finding out all of a person's individual characteristics, traits, opinions and so on is not practical for all but family and close friends. So to avoid having no social contact beyond that it helps to have general ideas about people. If I'm approaching someone and interested in possibly asking them out determining if they're actually single or not is helpful to know earlier rather than later. If someone you know might pair well with another person you know well, but neither chooses to be grouped how would you know what kind of people they tend to find attractive or not? If I know my friend is a lesbian and I've met someone who is bisexual or also a lesbian I'm more likely to be able to be possibly helpful in suggesting setting them up than if I don't and one is actually a gay man and the other is a trans woman attracted to straight men.
    Grouping and labeling isn't new at all and is unlikely to be going anywhere because as much as people have nuances about themselves,. those are almost always variations in the overall group or label and it's really only practical from a standpoint of time to get to know the overall grouping of something for a person and then find out the qualities they have within that overarching category that differ from what's typical.
    If I say I am politically on the left easy follow-up questions can establish which areas I am especially passionate about, particular areas where I diverge from typical points of views or opinions of those with the common grouping as being on the left, etc. In contrast trying to avoid labeling anything political and just treating each opinion that's politically as its own particular thing will take far longer and will essentially mean the same thing: mostly left, some hard deviations, some areas in center, etc.

  • @jamesblossom-y1u
    @jamesblossom-y1u 3 дні тому +3

    "Yup" is very much like the Spanish "de nada"

  • @thundernels
    @thundernels 2 дні тому +1

    I soooo wish Editor Diane would break in to say, “What?” concerning the audio which seems to be more echo-y than most of your videos. All is cool. It just would have been funny for Editor Diane to check in.

  • @UncleMikeDrop
    @UncleMikeDrop 3 дні тому +14

    I like saying "anytime" instead of "you're welcome" as I feel like the latter makes me sound condescending.
    I know it's irrational, but there it is.

    • @anbu.hinata
      @anbu.hinata 3 дні тому

      @@UncleMikeDrop exactly! Idk why we are like this

    • @justmare111
      @justmare111 3 дні тому +3

      Or, 'my pleasure'.

    • @stix7662
      @stix7662 3 дні тому

      @@justmare111 This 💯‼

    • @CptCalicoJack
      @CptCalicoJack 3 дні тому +1

      Yeah. To me, saying "You're welcome" makes whatever I was thanked for seem like some huge, life or death favor. "Anytime" and "My pleasure" are my most used responses.

    • @georgiancrossroads
      @georgiancrossroads 3 дні тому

      It sounds too formal now to many younger American ears these days.
      But this whole super casual thing has really become a problem for us. It's really hard to take anything seriously when nothing is taken with a degree of respect. And if we travel outside of our bubble, we come across as being insensitive and rude for expecting the rest of the world to be on our page.
      Example: In France, you are expected to say 'bonjour', when entering any establishment or beginning a conversation. It is considered rude not to do so. Which is one explanation as to why we are sometimes considered rude in France and will often (in Paris!) be treated in kind. The idea is that if you can't even do the minimal amount of research about a country before visiting it there is something wrong. This is true everywhere. Americans tend to think that the rest of the world is pretty much just like us. And without learning a few cultural rules to begin, especially about what is considered formal and what is not, we end up coming across as immature.

  • @allengardner4672
    @allengardner4672 3 дні тому +7

    Do you really believe that Americans care what Other countries think that we are rude? LOL.

    • @bobair2
      @bobair2 2 дні тому +2

      When you are selfish and ignorant then you do not care-LOL.

    • @allengardner4672
      @allengardner4672 2 дні тому

      @@bobair2 If you need other people to notice you that means you are pretty insecure about who and what you are. It's silly and foolish to give that kind of power over you, that is what you seem to be ignorant of. Just for your information, all acts are selfish. But if you believe otherwise you've been brainwashed. I think you don't know the difference between selfish and selfless. Your reply to me is clear evidence of your own selfishness, that somehow in your opinion, your point of view is that if a person doesn't see the world as you see they are ignorant and selfish which is only half true. Selfish, yes because everyone's action is selfish stemming from their point of view, no. that is where you are wrong. Tell me something you think you have done something for someone that you thought you weren't being selfish without using I.

    • @bobair2
      @bobair2 2 дні тому

      @@allengardner4672 yes and that is the problem MAGA America has going for it. Try being humble and quiet for a change instead of brutish and ugly with the selfish and ignorant attitude. LOL

    • @bobair2
      @bobair2 День тому

      @@allengardner4672?

  • @davidwillford3119
    @davidwillford3119 3 дні тому

    I've never worked in a job that gets tips, so I don't know how you can get casual about it and not express your thanks more clearly. It apparently is something that often happens, though.
    I'm glad that you and Editor Diane managed to re-upload the video and UA-cam isn't messing with the audio this time.

  • @vickimorrissey905
    @vickimorrissey905 День тому

    We go out quite often and I do hear many servers say thank you for the tip

  • @rmcbeigh
    @rmcbeigh 3 дні тому +1

    when someone says thank you to me and I say yup it is because the thank you was not needed or I am busy and have other things to still do. To be fair this only happens at work. Being told thank you over and over 100 times a day gets old.

    • @thomastimlin1724
      @thomastimlin1724 3 дні тому

      Gets old and wears out it's impact of sincerity unfortunately. Sometimes I feel beng positive and polite is viewed more an act of weakness rather than kindness...very strange.

  • @nothanks4509
    @nothanks4509 3 дні тому +8

    I flat out refuse to believe that the server didnt drop off the bill and say something along these lines "heres your bill, pay anytime you want and thanks for coming in" I was a server 10 years and just the fact that we as Americans typically have conversation it would flow to thank the guest for coming in and dining, no way in hell they said ok and walked away.

    • @stardogMLB
      @stardogMLB 3 дні тому

      I live in small town in Washington and I always get a "thank you have a great rest of your evening.". But when I go to Seattle or Portland I often get one and not the other and occasionally, neither..

    • @mjb1475
      @mjb1475 3 дні тому

      It absolutely happens.

  • @JoeServo
    @JoeServo 3 дні тому

    1:16 I usually reply “Totally!”, when people say thank you, I once had an Irish patron at a bar get incredibly offended over it, go figure!

  • @georgiancrossroads
    @georgiancrossroads 3 дні тому +2

    Why you can hear Americans through just about anyone else. It does have to do with volume. But you are right, they aren't the loudest people on earth. Part of it is also enthusiasm. If two Americans are discussing a TV show they will have strong feelings about it. But another aspect most people don't take into account is pitch. In New York City for instance, the hardcore New Yorkers have figured out a way to talk at a pitch and tone that can be heard over the subway noise. But other Americans have a reedy voice that cuts through, say, the din of a restaurant. It so it's a combination of pitch and tone. Where I live now in the country of Georgia (not the US state) I have never heard any women talking in those pitches, with the exaggerated emphasis, that Americans put on their words. They often talk in low tones, almost below the audible level. And they rarely talk on the metro or buses. Just saying.

  • @misake
    @misake 3 дні тому

    For tips here, in Quebec and Ontario Canada, what I learned was use the tax rate as a tip basis and go from there. You can give hire if you think they did a great job. (I usually give 15% as standard.)

  • @markadams7046
    @markadams7046 3 дні тому +1

    by being audible do you mean talking with confidence?

  • @roykay4709
    @roykay4709 2 дні тому +1

    I tend to say "more than welcome" or "my pleasure" / Americans may be better at voice projection, which coming from theater you might relate to. / It makes sense to express interest is what sort of work people do, after all they will spend 80,000 hours of their life at it. Surely they have something interesting to say about it. // Please continue. I love your commentary 🙂

  • @Risejugger
    @Risejugger 3 дні тому +2

    In the US, hospitality workers (wait staff and bartenders) are not paid even the minimum wage so their tips make up the difference. Americans, at least decent ones, understand this and and tip these people. What is unusual is not tipping; either you are an a**hole, and we Americans hate these types, or the service person was particularly unpleasant.

  • @rebeccareilly7807
    @rebeccareilly7807 3 дні тому +1

    I think Americans don't say thank you for tips because tipping is normal and expected.

  • @SoleilRobbie
    @SoleilRobbie 3 дні тому

    how ‘bout “whats’up?” When someone doesn’t hear what you said? 😂

  • @jamescooper2618
    @jamescooper2618 3 дні тому +2

    I wonder if the rest of the world knows that Americans don't give a steaming crap about what they think about us. The USA helps most every other country in one way or another so they can all take their opinions and sit on them.

    • @sterling557
      @sterling557 3 дні тому

      The US has paid 67% of the costs of NATO for the last 30 years, because other nations are not keeping to their agreement (before Trump made them pay!) And they still treat us like crap. They all suck.

  • @davedove67
    @davedove67 3 дні тому +3

    I wonder if the volume of Americans comes from a childhood of being constantly told to speak up so people can understand you.

  • @jueneturner8331
    @jueneturner8331 День тому +1

    Question: Why should Americans care? Do people in other countries care if they are seen to rude by Americans?

  • @themaven2017
    @themaven2017 3 дні тому

    I prefer to differentiate between "interrupting" (rude) and "interjecting." An interjection shouldn't stop the flow of the conversation and let's the speaker know that you are paying attention. Sometimes and interjection can be as simple as "uh-huh" or even longer like "yeah! that happened to me, too, when I was a teenager" as soon as the idea of the story is presented, but the story isn't finished yet. It's a regional thing and some Americans get real upset at interjections and stop talking. After a bit of silence, they will say something like "are you done? can I continue my story now?"

  • @aura81295
    @aura81295 2 дні тому +1

    I suspect that the tendency for Americans to self-promote has a lot to do with hypercompetitiveness built into our culture. From very early, we learn to strive to be best at whatever we do. Opportunity must be acted upon or may quickly disappear. That opportunity may be limited in many ways where those that are most (fill in whatever the criteria may be) actually benefit whereas everyone else will have to look/wait for other opportunities.

  • @heidiwhite4630
    @heidiwhite4630 3 дні тому +1

    I really don't think many of these are accurate. My only quess as to why people might think this is dependent on where you are visiting. These things might be more common in larger cities.

  • @dqan7372
    @dqan7372 3 дні тому +2

    People treat 'being offended by rudeness' like it's an important life skill. 🤷‍♂ Apart from restaurants I can't remember the last time employees regularly greeted me as I walked in the door (Blockbuster in the late 80s?) or waited for the same from me. Around here employees are doing double and triple duty and don't have time for such things. Are they supposed to 'interrupt' the customer they are already dealing with to say 'hi' to me? We'll have time enough for polite banter when I'm checking out. As for the American that was speaking too loud, she'd have to talk a lot louder for me to hear her. I've given up saying "what?" to people; now I just smile and nod to whatever they're politely mumbling. 😀 If I want to have a proper conversation with a friend I need a boring old people's restaurant with good sound absorption and a decent salad--because I'm diabetic.

  • @JohnMountonyoutube
    @JohnMountonyoutube 3 дні тому +4

    i got yelled at in a clothing store in Italy, for touching the clothes on a rack. i was just looking through them to see the sizes and prices , which is a normal thing to do in america, but maybe i did it too aggressively, idk. she came up to me speaking Italian though im sure she knew I was american (someone previously called me a Yankee in the street) and when i asked politely if she spoke english she yelled "Don't Touch!!" . i really still don't understand why it was wrong to do that

    • @DianeJennings
      @DianeJennings  3 дні тому +1

      😦

    • @tonys1636
      @tonys1636 3 дні тому +5

      High end, expensive shops don't like the garments touched particularly in hot places as fingers can leave sweat stains, the clothes hanger has the size in EU sizing on it, bust/chest, waist, hips and leg length will be in cm. Only move the hanger by one's hand. An assistant will take it to the changing room if one has to try it on for size, one may have to look for one though unless a very expensive shop and if the price not displayed then don't ask as that indicates one can't afford to shop there.

    • @johnserosanguineous1886
      @johnserosanguineous1886 3 дні тому +1

      @@tonys1636No prices on clothes at a garage sale =/= you can't afford it. Same in countries outside of the west. 👌

    • @andrewft31
      @andrewft31 3 дні тому +5

      @@tonys1636we have a word for that, pretentious

    • @TheOtherBill
      @TheOtherBill 3 дні тому +1

      @@tonys1636 If it's really a high end shop you shouldn't have to go looking for an assistant.

  • @glennblackwell9679
    @glennblackwell9679 3 дні тому +1

    Happy Friday to you Diane. It must have been the Friday 13th jinx that throwed the whammy on the video today lol. I couldn’t tell that there was anything wrong with it though when I saw it earlier. Anyway whatever it was don’t stress about it, life happens. I always enjoy your videos. 😊

  • @PoppyJone
    @PoppyJone 3 дні тому +1

    Yeah because saying yep to thank you is like saying it was no trouble. I find saying you're welcome sounds rude because it's like yeah you're welcome i did that for you or handed you that thing. Its pretentious sounding

  • @celesteunderwood1094
    @celesteunderwood1094 3 дні тому +37

    You know what Americans find rude? Foreigners coming here and thinking their customs or way of life, are better. Or people that think all Americans are the same, we’re not.

    • @TheOtherBill
      @TheOtherBill 3 дні тому +11

      Many Europeans think that the US is one place and that it's the size of Germany and it's all the same as NYC and LA. Blame movies and TV and the now obsolete news media. If I only saw the US the way they do I'd feel the same. It's not really their fault because what they're shown and told is so misleading.

    • @alexp8764
      @alexp8764 3 дні тому

      You are the first to disrespect other countries and their cultures and treat people like idiots believing they are the best in the world (when you are ignorant and don't even know European geography......)
      Not to mention the fact that when you come to Europe you get drunk, bathe in fountains and vandalize monuments.
      In the media and in general if out of 52 states only Los Angeles, New York, San Francisco and Seattle are talked about, ask yourself a question.

    • @alexp8764
      @alexp8764 3 дні тому +1

      @@TheOtherBill Europeans know the difference between a state like Germany and that the United States has 52 states, we are not stupid. In the way of reasoning, what changes between one state and another? You are mostly descended from the English, the basic mentality is that, while in Europe there is much more variety between countries and their respective cultures.

    • @joelspaulding5964
      @joelspaulding5964 3 дні тому +10

      ​@alexp8764
      "We are not stupid..." proceeds to state that the US has 52 states. (It has Fifty states). That doesn't make one stupid, but it is a bad look.

    • @alexp8764
      @alexp8764 3 дні тому

      @@joelspaulding5964 Many of you believe that in Europe (especially in Italy) we live in the times of the 1500s. It happened that some people even believed that we have neither traffic nor cars, while others even asked if we had running water.. ...

  • @PatrickOneal-nl7xk
    @PatrickOneal-nl7xk 3 дні тому +1

    I know at least most of the time i say your welcome and thats what i find rude... people from other countries assume that all americans have the same manner system... we don't because we are a caldron of different cultures and races that dwell among the rest of us.

  • @thomastimlin1724
    @thomastimlin1724 3 дні тому +2

    I am partially hearing impaired [loss of treble hearing frequencies to a degree] I don't need to apologize to any SOB just because I can't hear them. I just say" I can't hear you, let me step up closer." I realize saying a convenient "huh?" or "what?" is a language habit but not necessarily rude. But I won't apologize for it just because I am an American, or Japanese , or Ethiopian or whatever. If you can't handle hearing impaired people or blind people, and assist them, because of perceived impolite language on your part [with your nose up in the air] etc., then you're the same dumb ass that won't hold a door open for someone who needs help no matter what country you're from.

  • @candicelitrenta8890
    @candicelitrenta8890 3 дні тому

    There was a time when you would walk into a department store, and someone would stand there with a fragrance bottle and spritz you just like that. It is like being perfume bombed. That would make me angry because what if I was allergic to it

  • @Eduardo99922
    @Eduardo99922 3 дні тому

    Happy Friday The 13th. This Friday The 13th. Was very lucky. We got a video from you on Friday the 13th.

  • @KenGibbs1
    @KenGibbs1 3 дні тому

    In much of the US getting "notions" would be known with the colloquial idiom getting "too big for your britches", although this is said more in reference to a persons general attitude becoming "uppity". Oh yes, in much of the US we'll also often use the word "uppity".

  • @rickeycarey4556
    @rickeycarey4556 3 дні тому +2

    Fabulous Fascinating Famous Fridays Video is Here Yay! Party On! Food On! Movie On! Music On! Thanks for bringing lots of Happiness, Cheer, and Christmas Vibes with 2 Premieres and Videos Two Days in A Row. Sent another Christmas Gift today to Bring Some Extra Joy to Yours and Chewie's Weekend. Ate a Steak Fajita Bowl with Guacamole, Fries with Ketchup, and some Strawberry Cheesecake Ice Cream earlier. Celebrate the weekend with some good Food, Snacks, Desserts and Christmas Movies, looking at Christmas Trees and Decorations. Give Chewie some Treats and Cuddles. Happy Friday

    • @DianeJennings
      @DianeJennings  3 дні тому +1

      🎉🎉🎉

    • @rickeycarey4556
      @rickeycarey4556 3 дні тому +1

      @@DianeJennings 🎉🎉🎉I know You worked extra hard today to fix the video. Enjoyed chatting with You when the internet was working. You Truly Always Bring Me Joy. I know Your tired so get a good nights sleep. I am sure Chewie already asleep.

  • @rickeycarey4556
    @rickeycarey4556 3 дні тому +1

    Today is Popcorn String Day for Christmas Trees, Cocoa Chocolate Day that sounds super good with some Fresh melted Chocolate, Cream Cheese Frosting Day that also sounds good on a cake, Ice Cream Day. Treat Yourself to Some good Ice Cream, Cream Cheese Frosting Cake, and some Popcorn this weekend. Maybe make two bags of popcorn so You can make some popcorn on a string for the Christmas Tree.

  • @wabash9000
    @wabash9000 3 дні тому +1

    The audio sounds better in this version. Sorry that I mentioned it before and made more work for ED. We don't deserve how hard she works for us.

    • @tofargone16
      @tofargone16 3 дні тому

      wrong. it sucks, you deaf pube

  • @Veritas-TheGoader
    @Veritas-TheGoader 3 дні тому +1

    1:52
    Not everyone is welcome

  • @luisaquino-s1w
    @luisaquino-s1w 22 години тому

    most servers wont pick up the bill until after you leave the table, unless you've been sitting there too long. Hence why you aren't getting that extra thanks

  • @rupp420
    @rupp420 3 дні тому +10

    It's rude to say "Americans" do something when it is just specific regions of America that you happened to visit. People from several regions say, "Pardon" or, "sorry, I didn't catch that."
    The different regions of America are like completely different countries.

    • @EL_Duderino68
      @EL_Duderino68 3 дні тому

      The majority of America voted in Trump ? So should we get down to the suburbs where they live?

  • @chuckdawg2799
    @chuckdawg2799 3 дні тому

    Just found your channel. Hello from Florida's emerald coast! I'll hit the food vid next. Thank you:-)😊

  • @domingo954
    @domingo954 3 дні тому +3

    Good guide for visitors from other countries so they understand our customs and don't get their panties in a bunch. It is our country and our customs. But I do believe some of your examples are not very common and outliers.

  • @MichaelSSmith-hs5pw
    @MichaelSSmith-hs5pw 19 годин тому

    I don’t say 💩 to anyone, people are way too offended by what I have to say, so I don’t say 💩to people. Used to be you could speak your mind, not anymore. People will label you with all kinds of names just for speaking the truth! I hope they bring back common sense soon!

  • @Festus171
    @Festus171 3 дні тому

    OMG! The store greeting thing. YES! I try not to engage with the staff in large stores in big cities, for the reasons you mentioned. However, when visiting small shops or any store in my tiny home town I absolutely greet the shopkeepers like old friends (of course, many of them are). I agree with you about the tip; even if it's a low tip. Our tipping culture is off the rails. I tip well for good service, but I don't subscribe to the pre-programmed tips offered on tablets to the customer. Some are really audacious and although not the employees fault, I don't play. I'm talking about getting a restaurant receipt on an electronic device and the low end of the basic tip option is 20%. NOPE! I make two decisions at that point. #1: I will tip according to the service I received based upon my own calculations. #2: that is definitely my LAST visit to that restaurant.

  • @jmcg6189
    @jmcg6189 3 дні тому

    I was surprised yesterday. I went to a bakery and as they slid the machine over to me to tap my card they asked me for a tip. Well, I did give it because they are a good bakery. I just didn't know they were doing that. Maybe just the machine. Serves me right for not paying cash. Rant over.

  • @Reubinv
    @Reubinv 3 дні тому +2

    Yea I hate when people ask what you do for work. Like what if I only work part time at pizza hut, I don't want to necessarily admit that

    • @DianeCasanova
      @DianeCasanova 3 дні тому +2

      Maybe a person could just say they work in the 'service industry'.

    • @LindaC616
      @LindaC616 3 дні тому +1

      ​@DianeCasanova I'm on the other end of the scale. Instead of saying "I'm a professor'", I would just say, "I teach." It was always interesting to observe people's behavior if someone persisted and figured out that I had a doctorate.

    • @DianeJennings
      @DianeJennings  3 дні тому +1

      😂

    • @qynoi42
      @qynoi42 3 дні тому +1

      As a disabled person with an invisible illness, I also find this question awkward. End up feeling like I have to justify why I can't work and my whole medical history.

  • @gregmcmahon957
    @gregmcmahon957 3 дні тому

    Happy Friday!! I enjoy this a lot. Have a great weekend.

  • @asmith7876
    @asmith7876 3 дні тому +1

    Asking or offering what medications you're on??????? NO ONE DOES THIS! At least no one I know. Wow.

  • @Veritas-TheGoader
    @Veritas-TheGoader 3 дні тому

    3:34
    Some voices stand out to particular audiences over others.