Fearful Avoidant & Anxious Attachment Style Key Differences & Similarities

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    In today's video, Thais Gibson shares the key characteristics of a fearful avoidant attachment style (disorganized attachment style) and the anxious attachment style (anxious preoccupied attachment style). Watch now to learn about the differences and similarities, as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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    00:00:00 - Intro
    00:01:10 - Characteristics of the Anxious Attachment Style
    00:02:11 - Characteristics of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
    00:02:35 - Fears / Core Wounds
    00:04:15 - Emotional Tendencies
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    00:05:48 - Needs
    00:07:47 - Activate and Deactivate
    00:08:50 - Boundaries
    00:09:13 - Conclusion
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  • @koala01111986
    @koala01111986 14 днів тому +14

    I thought I was anxious preoccupied due to the high level of anxiety I've always had in pretty much any area of life, but in reality I am a fearful avoidant

    • @kristindawn
      @kristindawn 14 днів тому +2

      Pretty much my story too! ❤

    • @TMH792
      @TMH792 14 днів тому +2

      I thought the same for years! So nice to figure out I was FA to know what to heal.

    • @nategubbins8871
      @nategubbins8871 12 днів тому +2

      I just found this out. Yay for learning about yourself during healing from a divorce....

    • @Hhej927
      @Hhej927 День тому +1

      Twinning🤳💁🏼‍♀️💅🏻✌️✌️✌️

  • @UnicornsAreReal1
    @UnicornsAreReal1 14 днів тому +17

    I totally thought I was anxiously attached until I took a few tests and saw I was a fearful avoidant. I've come a loooong way since then and healed a lot of that.
    You know how you can measure how healed you are? When someone unhealthly asks you out or comes back into your life and you kindly turn them away and feel great about it. I hear a LOT of people say "My exes are toxic!" Well, if you keep dating toxic or a better term is unhealed, then it's time to look into yourself to see why.

    • @TMH792
      @TMH792 14 днів тому +1

      👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @daniellediaz2516
    @daniellediaz2516 13 днів тому +2

    When i was first introduced to attachment theory i initially thought i was AP and my partner was FA. With more learning and further understanding and really getting in tuned with the information, i later learned that i am in fact the FA and he is DA.

  • @jeanelliott2561
    @jeanelliott2561 14 днів тому +2

    Sometimes, I cannot help but laugh out loud when Thais expresses something the FA does because I know that she has experienced those traits, and I have done them too (namely having zero boundaries until the boiling point). It makes for a funny and self-reflecting "ah-ha" moment. Thank you for all you do to shed light so we may all become securely attached 😊

  • @roshalllambert
    @roshalllambert 6 днів тому +1

    This makes things clear and gives great signs to differentiate the two!

  • @GeoffreyAngapa
    @GeoffreyAngapa 14 днів тому +1

    Nice breakdown. I remember reading a study where they observed couples parting, temporarily, at the airport. I can't remember if it was pure avoidant or fearful, but the latter group showed distancing from their partners, whereas the others were the opposite, if I remember rightly. It's logical, if confusing at first, when one realises it's the same worry---separation from a loved one---but the response to that worry can be quite different, depending on the person. And to partners not clued up on these intricracies, it can be puzzling.

  • @NoGrip
    @NoGrip 14 днів тому +1

    As always, you’re incredible. Stuff I wish I knew years ago, sadly just late for the person I needed it the most for. Thanks as always. Another FA

  • @alainpatry
    @alainpatry 14 днів тому +2

    So glad my ex FA showed me the worst of her in the end - made it possible for me to wake up and clearly see the kind of person she really is. To think I pictured myself married to her one day...I dodged a bullet wrapped in layer upon layer upon layer of secrecy, smoke and mirrors, but the trauma impact is likely there for life.

    • @MrChachiyo
      @MrChachiyo 14 днів тому

      You dodged a nuclear bomb.

    • @tgpomy
      @tgpomy 14 днів тому +1

      Did she cheat on you with an ex as in my case?

  • @triplejmom7826
    @triplejmom7826 14 днів тому +1

    I’m a fearful avoidant & my husband & mom are anxious. I love both of them dearly & they love me. I’m grateful to be becoming more secure as are they. I’m also learning how to understand them better as I am myself

  • @anitawieman3900
    @anitawieman3900 14 днів тому

    Thanks again ❤lots of love from a recovering FA

  • @starr234
    @starr234 14 днів тому +1

    I pretty much fit the fearful avoidant style.

  • @Rosejordy
    @Rosejordy 14 днів тому

    This was great! Thank you Nika❤

  • @ryanw903
    @ryanw903 14 днів тому +2

    By saying deactivating, is that equivalent to pulling away and activating means anxious?

    • @jeanelliott2561
      @jeanelliott2561 14 днів тому +1

      I believe activating is fighting and/or fawning and deactivating is fleeing and/or freezing.

  • @annaeidhis
    @annaeidhis 11 днів тому

    If they have no boundaries, as you said, aren't they codependent?

  • @acaciastone4019
    @acaciastone4019 14 днів тому +2

    LOVED the info!!! Thanks so much for sharing! I am definitely the Fearful Avoidant 🥲
    (Also, it would be even more helpful if you had visuals to follow along as you are talking.. maybe in color also? Especially as you are describing the 2 types and going back and forth between the 2.)
    Again thank you for deep diving on this information!!! This has helped me tremendously to better understand the last connection I was in🙏🏽