How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection | Brian Tracy

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  • Опубліковано 21 вер 2024

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  • @yasha1989
    @yasha1989 7 років тому +96

    Copy-Paste Cheat Sheet:
    1. Define the problem or situation you're worrying about clearly in writing
    2. Write the worst possible outcome
    3. Accept the worst possible outcome
    4. Begin immediately to improve upon the worst
    Thank you, Brian!

    • @danidemir7762
      @danidemir7762 3 роки тому

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  • @coachiwuaba514
    @coachiwuaba514 7 років тому +33

    Brian Tracy is a legend. I look forward to meeting you one day

    • @BrianTracyOfficial
      @BrianTracyOfficial  7 років тому +14

      I look forward to it as well, Coach!

    • @dongwonkwak.official
      @dongwonkwak.official 7 років тому +5

      Coach Iwuaba One of my friend actually met Sir Brian. She said it was amazing! I hope you meet him too.

  • @ElliottSamson
    @ElliottSamson 6 днів тому

    Thank you, Mr. Tracy, for simplifying this for me. Your method is correct.

  • @akshaychandras1531
    @akshaychandras1531 3 роки тому

    Love you Brian, Wish you the happy and healthy life ahead.

  • @zhouwu
    @zhouwu 4 роки тому

    I like this man. I like the way he thinks. Because he thinks like me. He's not afraid to face the worst possible scenario. He's not another "optimist" who just goes around telling me to: "don't worry, be happy" or: "think positive" or something you might as well tell someone to get a gambling addiction.
    No. He's right. Even my worst case scenario is not too bad. I can live with it. And I can improve it. I like this. This man is smart. And wise. He doesn't mess around. He doesn't talk fluff. He's not another one of those notorious "UA-cam gurus" of "success" or "motivational speakers" or one of those people who say: "you can do it!" Or one of those people who tell you to do this and this and this, and you're guaranteed success or some other nonsense like that.
    This man genuinely understands my problems and genuinely has my best interests at heart in how to resolve my issues without enslaving me into his philosophy or methodologies.
    He's won my trust. He's one of the few people I wouldn't have any reservations about recommending to the people I value as human beings.
    Thank you for your genuine service to humanity, sir.

  • @rominavargas8919
    @rominavargas8919 Рік тому

    Mr. Tracy. Sus enseñanzas son muy atrapantes y simples para aprenderlas. Lo encuentro en uno de sus seminarios traducidos. Aprendo inglés para poder entenderlo mejor. Un gran saludo desde Argentina. Y muchas gracias por su aporte al mundo!

  • @Niceguyhidden
    @Niceguyhidden 7 років тому +15

    Hmmm... I really like this. I've actually known of the first 2 steps for awhile now and they've definitely helped me in overcoming a number of obstacles. I've always written reflections whenever I've had built up feelings inside me and simply the act of writing has relieved a lot of that tension. Elliot Hulse taught me in one of his old videos the 2nd part. "What's the worst thing that can happen and can you live with it?" "Now what's the best sting that can happen and can you live with it?" This comparison and contrast like you said in regards to the first part makes one come to grips that the worst is not as bad as it seems. Like you said, it's resistance to realizing the worst possible outcome that causes the most anxiety. Never identifying the worst causes the worry to stay swirling over and over in our heads because we haven't pictured what the worst can be. And what the worst can be seems a lot worse and scarier than it really is! I can definitely relate to that as writing out my problems has helped me come to grips that the worst is really not that bad and upon realizing that gives me more courage to take that action.
    Upon finishing your video, I've come to understand better the mindset people have when it comes to taking a risk. People naturally take the action when they feel that have a high chance of succeeding aka getting their desired result. An example would be starting and finishing a project. That factor is the main reason people take action. Another factor is that the "bad" things they think can happen have a low chance of happening. The higher the chance of having "bad" results, the riskier the action becomes and the less likely they will take it. Their assessment of these 2 characteristics are the main things that determine whether they take action or not.
    So now your 3rd step is accepting the worst possible outcome. The key part about that is that when one fully does that, the aspect ofin the possibility of having the bad things that could happen lose its power. That aspect becomes meaningless and as a result, anything above that becomes good! Accepting the worst means that you have so much gain from taking the action and having nothing to lose, because what you have to lose means nothing anymore. Losing an opportunity, money, or whatever stops having an effect on you that would really cause you to lose what's important: your self-esteem, self-love, confidence, and so on.
    Well, in the end people will usually not be able to have "nothing to lose." Failing will still hurt like it naturally does, but by following your method, the pain that would be produced is lessened by a lot.
    To conclude this simple 6 minute video taught me a lot. I will definitely apply this technique towards overcoming my fear of giving a lecture in the cool chill Hispanic style here in Puerto Rico. I will have to do it in Spanish and after living in the US for 14 years of my life, Spanish stopped being my primary language and needs some work. My worst fear (the worst possible outcome) that could happen in giving a the lecture in Spanish is losing my train of thought, and then having my anxiety freeze up my brain causing me to become unable to finish the lecture, causing an abrupt finish and humiliating myself in front of all my peers. The chances of that happening are slim, and even if that were to happen, upon coming to grips and really being able to identify the worst possible outcome, I've been able to eliminate that fear of rejection. Before identifying the worst, I assumed that I'd lose friends' love, the group's support, and I'd become an outcast. But really that would never happen as even if I fall, the fact that their genuine people and genuine Catholics, their unconditional support would never waver.
    I thank you Mr. Tracy for this wonderful insight and I know when the time comes, I'll ready to give an amazing presentation.

  • @garypenfold4017
    @garypenfold4017 7 років тому +10

    your continued wisdom never ceases to amaze me

  • @brianseweya
    @brianseweya 5 років тому +3

    Your voice is so captivating and thus ine can listen to you for the whole night and day, especially because if the wisdom you possess. Thank you Brian. Regards: Brian Seweya 😊😊

  • @EzekJohnson
    @EzekJohnson 4 роки тому

    Brian Tracy. You are a genius.

  • @itisabin
    @itisabin 7 років тому +17

    thanks sir

  • @TaeNicoletm
    @TaeNicoletm 2 роки тому

    This method has helped me so much I’ve had better outcomes to the situations!!

  • @realcheshirewags1965
    @realcheshirewags1965 4 роки тому

    Got rejected from a job today. Felt really down then I watched this video. Feel so much better now

  • @muralidharmaraj3613
    @muralidharmaraj3613 6 років тому

    This is an important message for backbenchers.
    Tracy is analysing a complicated issue,by offering concrete solutions.
    Ever thank ful to you for these kind of constructive solutions

  • @DamonCart
    @DamonCart 5 років тому +2

    He nails the explanation and the steps are good steps. In my experience though with myself and with my clients it takes a few more steps to fully overcome this fear.

  • @saturn52
    @saturn52 2 роки тому

    Simple and profound advice.

  • @PerLiTasGirl
    @PerLiTasGirl 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you!! You have made my life easier to manage with all your methods and advice.

  • @deepikadinesh1477
    @deepikadinesh1477 7 років тому +1

    Will surely work out this technique as I am currently experiencing a severe fear of rejection. The message reached out to me at the right time. Thank you, Sir.

  • @ngoctramvuong6983
    @ngoctramvuong6983 7 років тому +1

    Nothing helpful more than Inspired and valuable lessons. Thank you so much, Mr Brian Tracy. Wishing you all good health. Your meaningful lessons will never fail to inspire and motivate people all over the world overcoming their struggle to achieve their goal.
    ...from Vietnam

  • @gregorionierves7868
    @gregorionierves7868 7 років тому +5

    Thank you so much Mr. Tracy.

  • @Kaimas7
    @Kaimas7 3 роки тому

    This is good. Points 1 and 2 especially.

  • @vivianemele3017
    @vivianemele3017 6 років тому

    Thanks Vivian from Nigeria

  • @jojester21
    @jojester21 4 роки тому

    I studied the Psychology of Achievement years ago but it makes more sense now...thank you Mr. Tracy!

  • @ashokmahindroo7789
    @ashokmahindroo7789 5 років тому

    My biggest fear was people finding negative videos on the net about the direct selling company I’m associated with, resulting in my friends distrusting me.
    I got over that fear by deciding to talk to them about the negative media first and explaining to them why I felt the videos or articles had feeble ground.

  • @bibekdhungana5686
    @bibekdhungana5686 7 років тому

    i like your each words ....you are my first teacher from whom i get chance to learn more about success...can you give some knowledge about the people who dont know value of helping other and being rude........lots of respect and love sir....

  • @syedammargillani4555
    @syedammargillani4555 4 роки тому

    I wish to meet Brian Tracy one day. You are a legend Sir.

  • @Itssimplyaisha
    @Itssimplyaisha Рік тому +1

    Extremely life changing for someone like me❤

  • @maimaidumdum7143
    @maimaidumdum7143 7 років тому

    Thank you Mr. Brian Tracy. You are a blessing. God bless you.

  • @zandruyamanay6885
    @zandruyamanay6885 7 років тому

    What a genius and humble man ! I always watch your videos as habit to learn from you . God bless !

  • @spmarunkumar
    @spmarunkumar 3 роки тому

    Wow video...with immediate outcome. Thanks 😊

  • @enocktps2335
    @enocktps2335 4 роки тому

    Very valuable and insightful.

  • @dishas
    @dishas 7 років тому +2

    Today I had interview with Facebook ,I was going to cancel it because of fear but then i decided to accept the worst and started taking action ,though I won't clear but it was a great learning and I am glad i did it ..now I know what I need to focus on to get through my next one ☝️

  • @maryfinigan1615
    @maryfinigan1615 7 років тому

    I have been listening for so long that I found myself using these steps without knowing it was from you! Thank you for all your practical wisdom.

  • @felmarengel3878
    @felmarengel3878 5 років тому

    Keep inspiring people..You are heaven sent! You are deeply appreciated.Thank u so much.

  • @geopopos
    @geopopos 4 роки тому +4

    Amazing video! I went through this exercise and realized that as I was going through it I don't know what I am worried about. I am going to spend some time identifying my fear because the one I listed for the exercise did not seem to speak to my fear. Looking forward to what I find :)

  • @lavanyageetha13
    @lavanyageetha13 7 років тому +11

    Nice video I will surely follow your steps to your overcome my current problem. Thank you Sir :)

  • @TheBenBenitaShow
    @TheBenBenitaShow 7 років тому

    I haven't used this yet, but DEFINITELY WILL!!! Also, regarding "the worst" outcome, I'd encourage everyone to think "what COULD be good about the worst"? What could I learn from this? What could I share with others about my experience when going through "the worst". .....keep in mind, there is truly no such thing as failure, you either get it right or you learn....PERIOD!!!!

  • @Katrinasana
    @Katrinasana 2 роки тому

    So helpful. Exactly what I was looking for 👍🏾 I have been fearful of how people could judge me after being assaulted.

  • @moseskarema4232
    @moseskarema4232 7 років тому +1

    Brilliant,Brian...

  • @SuperMispi
    @SuperMispi 7 років тому

    This exercise is allowing me to bring my fears to the forefront. These fears revolve around my separation and possible future divorce. My worse case scenarios are all not likely; however, it is good to be cognizant of the possibilities; good and bad.

  • @ThanhDang-id6qc
    @ThanhDang-id6qc 7 років тому +5

    As always, Thank you Brian for the insight!

  • @deandrerobertson9632
    @deandrerobertson9632 7 років тому

    Overcoming is the main solution

  • @survive2010
    @survive2010 7 років тому

    I send you many thanks, sir ... from Egypt ... I hope one day come to Egypt and meet you ... my best wishes for you Tracy

  • @rajendramhalgi9051
    @rajendramhalgi9051 Рік тому

    Great one, thanks for this video!

  • @ashokmahindroo7789
    @ashokmahindroo7789 6 років тому

    You are beautiful. You will solve a problem 99% are dealing with. Thank you!

  • @felmarengel3878
    @felmarengel3878 5 років тому

    Sir Brian..i learned a lot from u..And youre like my father who advises me..Im truly grateful to God for u.

  • @mdshahriar4894
    @mdshahriar4894 3 роки тому

    Thank you sir

  • @dani45987
    @dani45987 7 років тому +8

    Thank you from Chile

  • @Yolo-Man-26
    @Yolo-Man-26 4 роки тому

    My greatest fear is fear to face unknown prospects . I'll try this method tomorrow and edit the results. Thank you : )

  • @AngelaPhuongBui
    @AngelaPhuongBui 4 роки тому

    Thank u so much Brian 😍😍😍

  • @priscilapinizenatti1489
    @priscilapinizenatti1489 7 років тому +3

    Do you believe that one of my fears is about speaking English in public? I would like to be a much better English speaker and listener. I need to face my fears and move on! Thank you, Brian. You are awesome and inspirer.

    • @Niceguyhidden
      @Niceguyhidden 7 років тому +3

      Priscila Pini Zenatti I can definitely believe that. It's also the most common fear when it comes to learning a new language. Here in Puerto Rico, everyone has varying levels of knowing English. And of the many friends I have, those who know how to speak English less are afraid of speaking it due to how bad they think they'll sound. But not practicing limits their ability to learn the language. It's sad really. They would really benefit from this technique.
      So you Priscila (beautiful name btw) can definitely get really good at English. Even if you sound "bad" (never as bad as we really do since we are our worst critics), people will actually be impressed. They will actually appreciate your attempt at speaking their language. It's amazing actually how nice people are when it comes to foreigners trying to learn a new culture and language. They get a feeling of pride (there's another word that fits better but I don't remember what it is) that someone new is really interested in understanding their language. If you mess up, they might laugh a bit, but it's not to make fun. It would be because of something funny you said in your pronunciation or grammar. Ask them and they'll correct you and you can laugh together. 99% will not make fun of you being inexperienced with the language. That fear that people would is just in our heads. It's completely false. Those people would support and welcome you with open arms. So you don't even have to follow Tracy's technique when it comes to this. There's really no worst case scenario. There's nothing bad that can come out of speaking your new language. Well only if you encounter those few snotty people who have problems in their lives that you can just shrug off and move on since their opinions won't mean anything to you.
      So speak English to your heart's content! I know you can do it!

  • @ruthnavarro9479
    @ruthnavarro9479 7 років тому

    Finishing my AP English Summer Homework thx a lot for what you said, I saw a majority of videos to assist me, however yours was the only one that cause me to do action.

  • @raveeshkumar8486
    @raveeshkumar8486 4 роки тому

    Thanks brian this techniques really works you are a very good mentor. I leaned a lot with your videos

  • @vladsamsonov4851
    @vladsamsonov4851 7 років тому +3

    Thank you very much Brian Tracy.
    I have a question to you. What should I do, if it's very difficut to get up on mornings because of 'Reality' is not satisfying me?

  • @maniyadav7500
    @maniyadav7500 5 років тому

    Loved Your technique sir.....it helped me remove my fear of talking to new potential clients in my business.
    Thank you

  • @samsiahintang7222
    @samsiahintang7222 6 років тому

    Tq Brian Tracy

  • @Genesispersonaltransformation
    @Genesispersonaltransformation 6 років тому

    We got to face our fear. We can let fear control our life our we move towards our fear.

  • @rafaelgomez1989
    @rafaelgomez1989 5 років тому +1

    AWESOMENESS.....THANK YOU BRIAN !!!

  • @JariSatta
    @JariSatta 7 років тому

    Fear always feels about the same, so handle the emotion itself, not the labels of them. / fear of A, B, C, D, E ,F ....

  • @alpeshdhokia7774
    @alpeshdhokia7774 6 років тому

    These suggestions is very helpful ! I apply these formula ! And now my mind is clear ! These is amazing tips !

  • @triettran4021
    @triettran4021 6 років тому

    Thank you, sir. You are the proof of an ongoing contribution. I will learn from you!

  • @ricky7598
    @ricky7598 Рік тому

    Thanks 👍

  • @rustoo3823
    @rustoo3823 7 років тому

    Really helpful tips...I will try this method out to overcome my fear of rejection and also social anxiety. Thanks Mr Tracy!

  • @joshdugdale8688
    @joshdugdale8688 3 роки тому

    Thank

  • @dieguitomartinez4579
    @dieguitomartinez4579 7 років тому

    thanks

  • @MsDreamzuk
    @MsDreamzuk 4 роки тому

    It’s made me realise I shouldn’t fear rejection from strangers

  • @fasasiazeez8701
    @fasasiazeez8701 7 років тому

    Very beneficial

  • @marcellusrobinson7708
    @marcellusrobinson7708 5 років тому

    Just became a business to business salesmen and I find myself terrified of the rejection I know I will face everyday

  • @kuanli6794
    @kuanli6794 7 років тому

    Thank you, Brian. I really like your quote at the end of each video.

  • @markviana4960
    @markviana4960 7 років тому

    Thank you Brian! This video will help someone i know who is facing this issue.

  • @kamalkannan9985
    @kamalkannan9985 7 років тому

    You are really an inspiration... Looking forward for more good speech's...😊

  • @sputnick2779
    @sputnick2779 6 років тому

    I fear my finals tomorrow but this advice has made me feel much more confident :)

  • @gopalkrishna4359
    @gopalkrishna4359 7 років тому

    Thanks sir sharing your valuable experience and motivational ideas.

  • @virginiasubadallrecipes7720
    @virginiasubadallrecipes7720 6 років тому +2

    I can ; everything is possible 😁

  • @boostdujour
    @boostdujour 7 років тому

    Thank you for you videos and steps to follow. YES...

  • @robertorojnic4370
    @robertorojnic4370 7 років тому

    Thank you for this video Mr.Tracy. You are awesome!

  • @JorgeUribeRojas
    @JorgeUribeRojas 7 років тому

    Thank you Sir.!!! I´m going to apply to my life and theach to my family.
    Muito Obrigado
    Thank you from Brasil!!!

  • @maheshk5376
    @maheshk5376 7 років тому

    Thanks for this video sir. Your every video help and guide me a lot during my failure period.

  • @NoelJoseph4824
    @NoelJoseph4824 4 роки тому

    This is the first video I’ve seen from Mr Tracey. Love this wisdom. Time to dive deep into Traceys channel. 🌊

  • @Schlachtfest03
    @Schlachtfest03 7 років тому

    There is much wisdom in your words, i appreciate your work, thank you!

  • @aurum3404
    @aurum3404 3 роки тому

    This is actually a great technique, amazing

  • @joemanonaveenxavier1465
    @joemanonaveenxavier1465 7 років тому

    Thank you Sir, your plans are very practical and easy to follow.

  • @premavatipetanyapatipvshra7819
    @premavatipetanyapatipvshra7819 7 років тому

    This video is so true, deep and accurate, kudos to your work.This helped me a lot!

  • @tellmust4666
    @tellmust4666 7 років тому

    worth realy.

  • @Rishnagar
    @Rishnagar 5 років тому

    I actually need this video right now ,
    Thank you so much Brian sir ,
    Love from India.

  • @Bala2102
    @Bala2102 7 років тому

    Thank you Mr Tracy.

  • @mariuszmariusz547
    @mariuszmariusz547 4 роки тому

    Yeah your theory is easy to say but hard to do. What if the worst possiblility is losing some friendships, you will be ridiculed too young to lose your life. If you have been rejected one time just like me though I did my best all day few months and after this. When you overcame fear of rejection and after confession when you have been sure that you will say 'yes' you hear 'no' all this work went into bin.You're bent and broken even if you barley remember about it and don't understand WHY? You won't overcome it again

  • @snizerblu2970
    @snizerblu2970 7 років тому

    Mr. Brian Tracy thank you. i had experience a lot of failure i've watch also your video about breaking out the comfort zone. i want to share my experienced ive been working almost 6 years in our company and done everything and suppose to get promoted but they kept it pending now for coming 3 years now for the reason that the higher management hold all the promotion. my question is should i stay?

  • @suzakuk2300
    @suzakuk2300 5 років тому

    Thank you Brian. Loving all these videos. Very helpful. God bless you🌻

    • @BrianTracyOfficial
      @BrianTracyOfficial  5 років тому +1

      Thanks for watching, Suzaku!

    • @suzakuk2300
      @suzakuk2300 5 років тому

      @@BrianTracyOfficial and have been sharing them to my loved ones and as a teacher I am thinking of showing these videos to my students in daily basis. Appreciate you very much. Keep posting your great work. ♥️♥️

  • @josephumaru1553
    @josephumaru1553 7 років тому

    Wow incredible, I enjoyed this, I'll keep listening to it untill it seats on the Word of my spirit.

  • @stijnhaki
    @stijnhaki 7 років тому

    my sincere thanks for this information. it is greatly appreciated!

  • @madhumitapandit2988
    @madhumitapandit2988 7 років тому

    Thank you Mr Tracy , it was awesome

  • @sujitrapanyanantasirikul
    @sujitrapanyanantasirikul 6 років тому

    Thank you Brian

  • @freedomfunwithjlbfriends7193
    @freedomfunwithjlbfriends7193 7 років тому

    overcome fear

  • @aneesuddinmian9768
    @aneesuddinmian9768 6 років тому

    Brilliant video, very useful and practical steps

  • @margaretodonnell4814
    @margaretodonnell4814 7 років тому

    Brian, I am currently job hunting (for 4 months now) and my biggest fear is not being able to finding a job. The worst possible outcome will be that I am unable to support myself financially if I don' t get a job pretty soon. I am interested in your thoughts on this around step 3, as I am loath to resolve to accept this type of outcome. Thanks for a really informative video and messages on FEAR.

  • @SmallsGang_773
    @SmallsGang_773 7 років тому

    I can do all things!

  • @manjarishukla8787
    @manjarishukla8787 5 років тому

    Thank you Brian 😇

  • @ahmedkocher7443
    @ahmedkocher7443 7 років тому

    Thank you so much Sir

  • @TockTooktik
    @TockTooktik 7 років тому

    I am super fearful of public speaking.