You will bro it’s a whole life process but don’t be too hard on your self.. step by step.. I found my self grow in this area the most when I go and push my self when especially and that time especially when I feel like I want to be alone..
same however i dont care about going outside my shell just to be able to talk normal a waiter once asked me "do you know what your having" and all i said was "yes" nothing else was fucking awkward
1. Be efficient in your speech 2. Use Pauses to emphasize 3. Conversational Threading(this is mindblowing) 4. Use Statements instead of questions - Opinion statements - Cold read statement - Random/spontaneous statement Sir improvement pill, i suggest to put summary in your descriptions or at the end of videos for better recall for the viewers :)
About 4... what if nobody wants to listen to you? What if you are always the only one to ask questions, even if you get answered? Even if I give the other person a topic to talk about, it usually ends with me having to ask and almost never the other way around. Why is that?
I am a shy person and all my life all i've been asked is "do you talk?" "I've never heard you speak" this is why I am watching your video today, its very helpful and im trying my best to be able to do the most basic of things in life, to talk and communicate
Another tip: people like talking about themselves A LOT, so make sure you don't talk about yourself too much, they honestly don't care. Talk about yourself only when it's interesting enough or that person is genuinely interested in your conversation. Also, be genuinely interested in what they are talking about and ask small questions here and there. It's a great way to open up conversations and keep it going. I hate asking questions because now it just drags on and on and on lol. Sometimes it sucks when no one genuinely ask about your life whether it's interesting or not, people are sometimes so self centered and they forgot about the other person's interests or conversation. - Dale Carnegie, "How to Win Friends And Influence People".
The thing is that altough we care about having interesting conversations and improve our communication skills we also want to enjoy the conversation itself. If I let the others speak about themselves but when it's my turn to do the same they're visibly not interested they can go to hell😉
This is largely true, but it is also necessary to share information about yourself. People generally don't have a sense of rapport with people they know very little about. They want to know your values, hobbies, and interests.
Batwoman So true, in school I see so many sad and down kids walking around usually having a person come up to them to start a friendship, but the kid who was too shy and anti social wouldn't know the basics to conversing to make friends of their own. A class like this would be very useful considering it's essential to the adult life
Never used to be antisocial until highschool. Closed myself off without actually being aware of it. Im currently in grade 11 and im very quiet in public and even scared to get a job and go to an interview yet at home im the most talkative and loudest in my family.
ShockingRotom omg it’s like we’re living the same life..😳 lol I’m watching vids like this so I can be comfortable when I get a job bc I already dropped after school programs for this year
David Soule it takes practice. when you first rode a bike you probably fell off or was wobbling everywhere, but after a couple of tries you got better and better.
^^This^^ : One day a man rolled up to what looked like a musician strolling down the street with a trumpet under his arm.. the driver figured he knew his way to where he wanted to go and so rolled down the window and asked.. "hey bruh, how'd I make it to the Calypso Club" the man, heading there himself said "buddy, you'se gotta practice, practice, practice" :)
Disposable Hero555 The first and the easiest place to apply this advice would be in online chatting. That way, you get more time to think and recall about what you learnt in this video. 😉
Hey mate, it's probably because you suffer from overthinking, you care about what other people think about you, and what's their opinion about you. Look I suffered from this issue from years, and I still sometimes do it. What I actually realized that through so much social conditioning through our entire lives we are taught to think that we have to think, prepare and control everything, I'm not saying it's wrong to do it but with talking to people, strangers or women it just doesn't work. If you're interested to get better socially with men, women and strangers hit me up on my Instagram :@theboringkaps
@@anthonykaps9174 Hey, just searched you on IG, and you seems Lebanese, which i am too! I Deleted my insta account long time ago, and i don't use it, do you have twitter?
Wow extremely insightful! I think the biggest struggle in communication today is that we are all focused on complicating our communication over just simplifying it. ❤
Keep it short and simple 1 Be efficient with speaking Remove all extra fill in words like actually, well, eh. Sounds more confident Pauses can be powerful and emphasise 2 use pauses to emphasise and make it powerful 3 conversational threading (mention more topics, they can branch of from) to avoid a death-end Dont bombard a person with questions, you dont share info about yourself. 4 use statements instead of questions Story/opinion statement. Tell something about yourself. Other gets other option to talk about Cold lead station, an observation you make about the other person: you look like a fun person, I bet you have interesting hobbies. Random statement: can be everything, says something about yourself 5 humor 6 story telling 7 deep conversation Can learn these skills, practise
virtually every social media kid needs this. i swear developing social skills is simply nonexistent in primary education. I’m 28 now, but my social skills were pretty poor 5-10 years ago. Spending too much time on the internet and HOW I was using my time on the internet compounded that Social skills take practice. You wont get it immediately it, but you have to keep an open mind. Its trial and error.
I met a worker in a hotel, and his story telling technique was amazing. We all got so drawn into his stories every time and we got hyped to learn the end. It is great and makes you feel rapport instantly
Just stumbled across this video while browsing through various self-improvement vids; never have I subbed a channel so damn fast! This is some top shelf content right here.
Many people thinks they are introverts but they are simply shy. Introverts usually dont find it difficult to go talk with someone but they just dont like it
to someone who's reading this just know that you're a fun and intelligent person and you have a great personality be who you are don't be afraid to let them see it
The fourth tip is an eye opener for me. I usually have a rough time when I'm trying to build rapport with new people, and now I know why. I realize now how often I break into a series of questions, even with close friends. Thank you for enlightening me.
Same here!! I do tend to do a lot of questioning but only because I thought people like talking about themselves, but it turns out it could play as as interrogative approach.
@@HayaBaqirEveryone likes talking about themselves, only what the part they are interested in sharing with others. But if you keep asking question about things they don't want to share, it becomes a interrogation
I really like the simplicity in your way of explaining. The illustrations are also beautiful and self explanatory. Just by viewing the illustrations you can get the points. Have you thought to, or is it possible to share the illustrations as PDFs or something ? Awesome work continue what you are doing 👍
These videos are so beneficial! I feel very grateful and privileged to be learning so many life tips. Thank you, so much for taking the time out of your day to make them!
Dear Improvement pill, thank you for teaching me a lot of this video. You made me see the idea of the friendship as a tree. The solid trunk of it will be the main information that we are seeking from people and then after our comment and additional questions, the tree will grow branches and the deeper the conversation becomes, the stronger roots it will grow in the hearts of the ones, leading it. I understood so much about and it made me realize that there is hope, as I am a loner or someone who is struggling finding friends and leading conversations. The thing that interests me is how to prevent the people from only talking about themselves? I am following the rule: Share and let be shared with you, but usually when I try to lead a conversation, the people are starting to talk only about themselves and even if I try to say something about me, they're like: Oh, that's cool. I was saying... Blah, blah and there it goes, error 404, connection not found. They are not interested, even if I have something interesting to share. Thak you very much, I really enjoy your videos, they way you are doing them and you're voice. :)
4:16 (Make Statements that share information about your self and gives the other person opportunities to talk about different topics ) 5:30 (For someone you just met. Used based on an observation about the other person)(you’re sharing information first and it’s up them on how to respond)
Is it just me or do o have this fear of being rejected...? Not like relationship type of thing. Here's an example: "You look like you come from a big family." You said a person could branch off into many topics from these types of questions. What if the person replied with "Um... okay I guess..?" that would make the whole conversation flip
Leen the Queen You're not alone in feeling this way. But I think that if a person responds that way, then to me, it would seem that they just aren't interested in conversation at that point of time. In such a case, I find that it's best to politely excuse yourself and leave them alone. Sometimes, the other person would have reacted that way because they were caught off guard and will realize that and will try to restart the conversation. But if they don't, then they're probably not in the frame of mind for a conversation.
You need to develop effective strategies to cope with rejection, in the case it present itself. This way you'll reduce the fear of being rejected, because you'll know that, whatever happens, you can deal with the situation. If you make a comment and the other person reply with something like that, you need to be able to identify if the person isn't interested (based on his/her body language and facial expressions) or if you just took him by surprise. In the first case you excuse yourself and leave, in the second case there are a number of strategies you can use to keep the conversation going (the video covers many of them but there are more), like humor (if you're skilled enough), telling a story about something related to the context where you are, plumbing (making random comments 'till something "hits"), acknowledging the awkwardness of the situation and commenting on it, etc, etc, etc.
Thanks for all these tips. I just met an old friend but find that talking to her is really awkward as I bombard her with questions. Now with these tips, i can finally talk to her confidently!
If you think you can't do this on the moment, then my advice is first write these in a notebook and apply them in an online conversation. Don't stress out too much, just look when you need to or once in a while. You'll be much comfortable, and it'll be easy to learn them. And after doing that for a while, you can use these a lot easier in actual situations.
For some reason I can't see your reply to me on here but I wanted to say thank you for adding the CC. I know its a lot of work adding them in but I'm super grateful. Got yourself a deaf subbie lol Look forward to seeing more of your work!
Great video 😊 I’d really like to get away from the surface level stuff and have deeper conversations with people. I’d really appreciate a video on that. Thanks
Watching this video has made me want to improve upon my own conversation tactics and also provide me with some skills to keep my conversations from going so stale
im really onhere learning basic human interaction. im a human and dont even know how to act like one lmao. even children are social. anyways thanks for this vid. took me a long time to get my life together but im locked in now, no going back, im gonna become the person i was always supposed to be, even tho it may sound corny. have a nice day whoevers reading this.
I found this account from Practical Psychology, and I like both so much! I like the way of telling and I'm not only learning the content of the video's, but also great English :D (I speak Dutch). Please keep going, I love it!
Just discovered your channel today your video on why reading is important and this on conversation is fantastic! :) I'm also working to improve myself (socially) learning how to build rapport because my fault is that I tend to dig deep too early sometimes I don't even realize. it's a struggle but I'm improving by tiny bits every day! :)
I'm the type of person that enjoys deep conversations and I can't connect with people easily it has been a struggle for me since i am a English learner but I'm nota giving up, I know i can break out from this cycle and have the best speaking skills; I'm pushing myself out of my comfort zone by speaking more to people My conclusion is that is just práctice once I get used to speaking to people everyday it'll become so natural that I won't notice it
Using Statements Instead of Questions: This is a nuanced approach that can change the dynamics of a conversation. However, it's crucial to be aware of the risk of sounding presumptuous or overbearing when making cold read statements or opinion statements. Questions, on the other hand, open up a space for the other person to express their thoughts and feelings, fostering a more balanced dialogue.
Been very bad in social skills since 2020 Like my face has 0 expression on it. Even a doctor needed to get uncluded. I haven't started a single conversation without looking in every direction. Even my voice has 0 emotion in it. I feel emotion. But i cant express them. This video changed it a very little bit. My mom is so proud of me for such little changes
Since I'm a master of killing conversations,this helped quite a lot. I always find it difficult to find topics to discuss and then jumping off from that point and continuing the conversation.So thank you so much for this, and I can't wait to start practicing these tips
The making statements concept changes everything, i was always focused on asking the right questions , which would never lead to building a raport. The information in this video is gold!
Thanks for this valuable contribution. I've certainly learned some great ways to improve in conversation, an area I'm not so confident in. More of these videos would be helpful for sure. Thanks again. ☺️
I'm an introvert, I recently landed a job where I have to talk to a lot of people, it's stressful but the job pays well and I really like it so I'm willing to improve my soft skills so I can make sure I can keep this job
Ill tell you a story... Let me tell you 'bout a girl I know Had a drink about an hour ago Sitting in the corner by herself, in a bar in downtown Hell She heard a noise, and she looked through the door And saw a man she'd never seen before Light skin, light blue eyes A double-chin and a plastic smile Well, her heart raced as he walked in the door And took an empty seat next to her at the bar "My brand new car is parked right outside How'd ya like to go for a ride?" And she said, "Wait a minute, I have to think" He said, "That's fine, may I please buy you a drink?" One drink turned into three, or four And they left and got into his car And they drove away some place real far "Now, babe, the time has come How'd ya like to have a little fun?" And she said, "If we could only please be on our way I would not run".... that's when things got out of control.. She didn't want to He had his way She said, "Let's Go" He said, "No Way! Come on, babe, it's your lucky day Shut your mouth, we're gonna do it my way Come on, baby, don't be afraid If it wasn't for date rape, I'd never get laid"
Deep conversation, please. And more tips on how to be casual I order to keep someone interested in talking more in order to get to the deeper conversations.
Dude this was awesome thank you so much for doing this. As an introvert all of the stuff you talked about didn't come naturally to me. It was hard to learn and felt forced but the way you put it was easy to understand and really helpful! I've never been good at storytelling! if you could make that one hour next project I would totally appreciate it! thanks again(:
I had no social skills and even I couldn't say for people about what I was thinking. But then after watching this video I PROMISE you that I will certainly change my attitude although it is tough but I know l am given only one life to improve and change it
Just the thought of making conservation makes me anxious, everytime I communicate with others my body starts to overheat, and I just blank out, I literally cannot think of anything
Great video and idea bro, about humor i think would be cool but not as a focus but something to add up, anyway congratz for the great job , i appreciate it . Peace!
Hi there. I really like the way you made this video. What I found interesting for me is there are many things to work on. I would like to hear more about deep conversation and storytelling.
thersten Ohh you meant literally where.... Well thats quite easy: go out. Bars. Discos. Gym. Maybe get a social hobby or two. You know like team sports. Squash. Football. American Football. Tennis. Or just sign up for courses which interest you. There will be other people, too. And just talk to them.
thersten if you take public transportation then when ever you get on look for someone you think looks interesting or available to have a conversation sit down next to them and just talk try your best and the more you do it the better you will get
Theres billions of people on this planet, we are not a rare specie. It may seem creepy to some people if a stranger starts talking to them, but if you manage to relax, then other people Will also automatically relax in your presence.
A few weeks ago the idea of looking up some social skills video (exactly like this one) pooped up in my head but I didnt do it, for some reason. So yesterday I started watching TED talks and then this video was in my suggestions. Thats just cool.
I've been an introvert my whole life, I'm now trying to break out of my shell...its tough but I know I can do it
Introvert and being shy is not the same...
You will bro it’s a whole life process but don’t be too hard on your self.. step by step.. I found my self grow in this area the most when I go and push my self when especially and that time especially when I feel like I want to be alone..
same im trying to watch communication nd social skill videos
same however i dont care about going outside my shell just to be able to talk normal a waiter once asked me "do you know what your having" and all i said was "yes" nothing else was fucking awkward
@@wavethatcrashed9155 I can relate to that
1. Be efficient in your speech
2. Use Pauses to emphasize
3. Conversational Threading(this is mindblowing)
4. Use Statements instead of questions
- Opinion statements
- Cold read statement
- Random/spontaneous statement
Sir improvement pill, i suggest to put summary in your descriptions or at the end of videos for better recall for the viewers :)
I wrote a little piece of paper with my favourite tips&tricks and store it in my wallet.
Pretty useful
+Beatebrain me too!!
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About 4... what if nobody wants to listen to you? What if you are always the only one to ask questions, even if you get answered? Even if I give the other person a topic to talk about, it usually ends with me having to ask and almost never the other way around. Why is that?
I am a shy person and all my life all i've been asked is "do you talk?" "I've never heard you speak" this is why I am watching your video today, its very helpful and im trying my best to be able to do the most basic of things in life, to talk and communicate
Aww, that's sad :(, I feel you
Same
Same, I need to talk about myself, but am scared... That I'll embarrassed myself.
Keep grindin' dude youll get better
Nah fr 🤣
Another tip: people like talking about themselves A LOT, so make sure you don't talk about yourself too much, they honestly don't care. Talk about yourself only when it's interesting enough or that person is genuinely interested in your conversation. Also, be genuinely interested in what they are talking about and ask small questions here and there. It's a great way to open up conversations and keep it going. I hate asking questions because now it just drags on and on and on lol. Sometimes it sucks when no one genuinely ask about your life whether it's interesting or not, people are sometimes so self centered and they forgot about the other person's interests or conversation. - Dale Carnegie, "How to Win Friends And Influence People".
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The thing is that altough we care about having interesting conversations and improve our communication skills we also want to enjoy the conversation itself.
If I let the others speak about themselves but when it's my turn to do the same they're visibly not interested they can go to hell😉
@@gaviota9143 😂😂
Yessss
This is largely true, but it is also necessary to share information about yourself. People generally don't have a sense of rapport with people they know very little about. They want to know your values, hobbies, and interests.
If this was only put in school. Wish they had a social skilled communication teacher.
That's why we have so many antisocial people and anxiety.
Batwoman So true, in school I see so many sad and down kids walking around usually having a person come up to them to start a friendship, but the kid who was too shy and anti social wouldn't know the basics to conversing to make friends of their own. A class like this would be very useful considering it's essential to the adult life
Word!
Never used to be antisocial until highschool. Closed myself off without actually being aware of it. Im currently in grade 11 and im very quiet in public and even scared to get a job and go to an interview yet at home im the most talkative and loudest in my family.
ShockingRotom omg it’s like we’re living the same life..😳 lol I’m watching vids like this so I can be comfortable when I get a job bc I already dropped after school programs for this year
Exactly!
this video makes perfect sense, but doing it out and in the moment is a lot harder than the video makes it seem.
David Soule
it takes practice. when you first rode a bike you probably fell off or was wobbling everywhere, but after a couple of tries you got better and better.
^
PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE
^^This^^ : One day a man rolled up to what looked like a musician strolling down the street with a trumpet under his arm.. the driver figured he knew his way to where he wanted to go and so rolled down the window and asked.. "hey bruh, how'd I make it to the Calypso Club" the man, heading there himself said "buddy, you'se gotta practice, practice, practice" :)
Disposable Hero555 The first and the easiest place to apply this advice would be in online chatting.
That way, you get more time to think and recall about what you learnt in this video. 😉
"i'm actually not fun, but what makes you say that?"
panicks* "a youtube video told me to say that!"
strawberyjustice hahahahhaahhaha
strawberyjustice searched for thet comment
strawberyjustice you could compliment them? maybe something talking about how they look really happy or cheerful, or something along those lines.
strawberyjustice be all like "Oh you just looked like a really happy/ cheerful person,that's all"
strawberyjustice lmao. This is me.
I can't relax in conversations, because i only think about what to say next in order to avoid lulls. It makes me so anxious...
The Ancient Prisma your profile picture makes me anxious lol
Same
Hey mate, it's probably because you suffer from overthinking, you care about what other people think about you, and what's their opinion about you. Look I suffered from this issue from years, and I still sometimes do it.
What I actually realized that through so much social conditioning through our entire lives we are taught to think that we have to think, prepare and control everything, I'm not saying it's wrong to do it but with talking to people, strangers or women it just doesn't work. If you're interested to get better socially with men, women and strangers hit me up on my Instagram :@theboringkaps
Same here
@@anthonykaps9174 Hey, just searched you on IG, and you seems Lebanese, which i am too! I Deleted my insta account long time ago, and i don't use it, do you have twitter?
Wow extremely insightful! I think the biggest struggle in communication today is that we are all focused on complicating our communication over just simplifying it. ❤
I'm bad at having conversations. Everytime I speak, all I can ever come up with is hi,yes, no and okay.
Penguin Melt IKR IT SUCKS
You’re filtering yourself too much
IKR I just laugh and say yup the whole time
Paralysis by analysis
Are you sure that's not autism
This channel is so valuable! So many skills to learn, thanks a lot!
+Improvement Pill you're definitely gonna grow!
I was just watching videos about UX Design, damn selective marketing
I enjoy looking at your penmanship (whether it is real or not, idc, that font looks so clean) and your drawing. THUMBSSS UPPPP!
Keep it short and simple
1 Be efficient with speaking
Remove all extra fill in words like actually, well, eh.
Sounds more confident
Pauses can be powerful and emphasise
2 use pauses to emphasise and make it powerful
3 conversational threading (mention more topics, they can branch of from) to avoid a death-end
Dont bombard a person with questions, you dont share info about yourself.
4 use statements instead of questions
Story/opinion statement. Tell something about yourself. Other gets other option to talk about
Cold lead station, an observation you make about the other person: you look like a fun person, I bet you have interesting hobbies.
Random statement: can be everything, says something about yourself
5 humor
6 story telling
7 deep conversation
Can learn these skills, practise
virtually every social media kid needs this. i swear developing social skills is simply nonexistent in primary education. I’m 28 now, but my social skills were pretty poor 5-10 years ago. Spending too much time on the internet and HOW I was using my time on the internet compounded that
Social skills take practice. You wont get it immediately it, but you have to keep an open mind. Its trial and error.
I met a worker in a hotel, and his story telling technique was amazing. We all got so drawn into his stories every time and we got hyped to learn the end. It is great and makes you feel rapport instantly
Hey, you look like a fun person.
DID YOU JUST ASSUME MY LIFESTYLE
Richard Wilks hahahaha
u seem so ;)
lol xD
what is this [Highlighted reply ] next to the comment time of yours ? o.O
Richard Wilks The world we live in...HE VERBALLY SEXUALLY HARASSED ME!
thanks.... :)
I'm a doctor and my profession demands communication skills... thanks a lot for helping out...
Dream Hawker why don't you make some video's on advancement of medical science?
As a pharnacist, i could say the same
Just stumbled across this video while browsing through various self-improvement vids; never have I subbed a channel so damn fast! This is some top shelf content right here.
Awesome! 👍🏼😄
Many people thinks they are introverts but they are simply shy. Introverts usually dont find it difficult to go talk with someone but they just dont like it
to someone who's reading this just know that you're a fun and intelligent person and you have a great personality be who you are don't be afraid to let them see it
The fourth tip is an eye opener for me. I usually have a rough time when I'm trying to build rapport with new people, and now I know why. I realize now how often I break into a series of questions, even with close friends. Thank you for enlightening me.
Same here!! I do tend to do a lot of questioning but only because I thought people like talking about themselves, but it turns out it could play as as interrogative approach.
@@HayaBaqirEveryone likes talking about themselves, only what the part they are interested in sharing with others. But if you keep asking question about things they don't want to share, it becomes a interrogation
I really like the simplicity in your way of explaining. The illustrations are also beautiful and self explanatory. Just by viewing the illustrations you can get the points. Have you thought to, or is it possible to share the illustrations as PDFs or something ?
Awesome work continue what you are doing 👍
These videos are so beneficial! I feel very grateful and privileged to be learning so many life tips. Thank you, so much for taking the time out of your day to make them!
yeaah
You explained this really well!
Thank you for your points about many life tips!
I’ll remember this for next time 😄
Dear Improvement pill, thank you for teaching me a lot of this video.
You made me see the idea of the friendship as a tree. The solid trunk of it will be the main information that we are seeking from people and then after our comment and additional questions, the tree will grow branches and the deeper the conversation becomes, the stronger roots it will grow in the hearts of the ones, leading it.
I understood so much about and it made me realize that there is hope, as I am a loner or someone who is struggling finding friends and leading conversations.
The thing that interests me is how to prevent the people from only talking about themselves?
I am following the rule: Share and let be shared with you, but usually when I try to lead a conversation, the people are starting to talk only about themselves and even if I try to say something about me, they're like: Oh, that's cool. I was saying... Blah, blah and there it goes, error 404, connection not found.
They are not interested, even if I have something interesting to share.
Thak you very much, I really enjoy your videos, they way you are doing them and you're voice. :)
Love the minimalistic simplicity of how you get your ideas across. Thank you for sharing. Very helpful!
4:16 (Make Statements that share information about your self and gives the other person opportunities to talk about different topics )
5:30 (For someone you just met. Used based on an observation about the other person)(you’re sharing information first and it’s up them on how to respond)
Please do them all three :) Thanks for this improvement!
my god your older videos feel so much more dead compared to your newer ones. I'm glad you improved on delivering the content in a better way
Improvement Pill practice makes perfect
Is it just me or do o have this fear of being rejected...? Not like relationship type of thing. Here's an example: "You look like you come from a big family." You said a person could branch off into many topics from these types of questions. What if the person replied with "Um... okay I guess..?" that would make the whole conversation flip
Leen the Queen You're not alone in feeling this way. But I think that if a person responds that way, then to me, it would seem that they just aren't interested in conversation at that point of time. In such a case, I find that it's best to politely excuse yourself and leave them alone. Sometimes, the other person would have reacted that way because they were caught off guard and will realize that and will try to restart the conversation. But if they don't, then they're probably not in the frame of mind for a conversation.
You need to develop effective strategies to cope with rejection, in the case it present itself. This way you'll reduce the fear of being rejected, because you'll know that, whatever happens, you can deal with the situation.
If you make a comment and the other person reply with something like that, you need to be able to identify if the person isn't interested (based on his/her body language and facial expressions) or if you just took him by surprise. In the first case you excuse yourself and leave, in the second case there are a number of strategies you can use to keep the conversation going (the video covers many of them but there are more), like humor (if you're skilled enough), telling a story about something related to the context where you are, plumbing (making random comments 'till something "hits"), acknowledging the awkwardness of the situation and commenting on it, etc, etc, etc.
if you want to be a badass with women
Read Joshua policer's The Tao Of Badass
Jake Parker Mate, she's a girl.
Tiny Hands Donald even if she is a girl
She will be a badass with Men believe me
This video really helped me to understand what I have been doing wrong for so long. No wonder the conversations that I have didn’t last longer.
I would love to here all of those topics! Firstly #7 then #6 and after #5
Thanks for all these tips. I just met an old friend but find that talking to her is really awkward as I bombard her with questions. Now with these tips, i can finally talk to her confidently!
STORY TELLING !!!
Great work dude ! Very interesting
I am waiting for it
My favourite channel so far, I've learned and improved a lot by watching it. Thank you so much!
If you think you can't do this on the moment, then my advice is first write these in a notebook and apply them in an online conversation. Don't stress out too much, just look when you need to or once in a while. You'll be much comfortable, and it'll be easy to learn them. And after doing that for a while, you can use these a lot easier in actual situations.
Exposure theraphy babi.
Appreciate you ✊
For some reason I can't see your reply to me on here but I wanted to say thank you for adding the CC. I know its a lot of work adding them in but I'm super grateful. Got yourself a deaf subbie lol Look forward to seeing more of your work!
Great video with useful advices to have a short but effective conversation, and how to branch off the topic without asking too many questions.
Please make a video of removing the thought from our head what other people r thinking and to open up
Your content is just so well put together and balanced, I would even pay money to see your content.
I don't think I have ever looked at/considered the details of a conversation in such detail. Thank you.
Great video 😊 I’d really like to get away from the surface level stuff and have deeper conversations with people. I’d really appreciate a video on that. Thanks
Watching this video has made me want to improve upon my own conversation tactics and also provide me with some skills to keep my conversations from going so stale
3:23 to the rest: very insightful, fresh perspective and mind blowing tip, never heard anywhere before. Thank you so much!
once i cant find topics for talks.THESE INFORMATIONS ARE RARELY.Thumbs up
wow this channel is amazing and you're voice is so comforting
If only the world had more promise than this. Wow looking back, this could of been what I needed back the day. Well said Sir
im really onhere learning basic human interaction. im a human and dont even know how to act like one lmao. even children are social. anyways thanks for this vid. took me a long time to get my life together but im locked in now, no going back, im gonna become the person i was always supposed to be, even tho it may sound corny. have a nice day whoevers reading this.
I found this account from Practical Psychology, and I like both so much! I like the way of telling and I'm not only learning the content of the video's, but also great English :D (I speak Dutch). Please keep going, I love it!
Just discovered your channel today your video on why reading is important and this on conversation is fantastic! :) I'm also working to improve myself (socially) learning how to build rapport because my fault is that I tend to dig deep too early sometimes I don't even realize. it's a struggle but I'm improving by tiny bits every day! :)
Thank you for the information. This improves my communication.
I'm the type of person that enjoys deep conversations and I can't connect with people easily it has been a struggle for me since i am a English learner but I'm nota giving up, I know i can break out from this cycle and have the best speaking skills; I'm pushing myself out of my comfort zone by speaking more to people
My conclusion is that is just práctice once I get used to speaking to people everyday it'll become so natural that I won't notice it
Using Statements Instead of Questions: This is a nuanced approach that can change the dynamics of a conversation. However, it's crucial to be aware of the risk of sounding presumptuous or overbearing when making cold read statements or opinion statements. Questions, on the other hand, open up a space for the other person to express their thoughts and feelings, fostering a more balanced dialogue.
I am actually an extrovert but i forgot how to communicate during Lock down.
Been very bad in social skills since 2020
Like my face has 0 expression on it. Even a doctor needed to get uncluded. I haven't started a single conversation without looking in every direction. Even my voice has 0 emotion in it.
I feel emotion. But i cant express them.
This video changed it a very little bit. My mom is so proud of me for such little changes
Short and powerful video mate!
yeah
It is hard to switch from using questions to statements, yet it is so rewarding and effective
Your channel is pure gold.
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If i had the money, i would have donated alot to this channel. I owe this guy so much.
deep conversation and humour
Ok tnx..Keep up the good work.👍
I don't think so, you should go for small talk first unless the person is interested in deep conversation right away.
Since I'm a master of killing conversations,this helped quite a lot. I always find it difficult to find topics to discuss and then jumping off from that point and continuing the conversation.So thank you so much for this, and I can't wait to start practicing these tips
Very good videos. doing a great job can't wait for more of your videos. well researched and presented
Well I like filling words like hmm and umm and pauses it makes my thought process transperant and assuring to whoever I am talking to
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The making statements concept changes everything, i was always focused on asking the right questions , which would never lead to building a raport. The information in this video is gold!
Thanks for this valuable contribution. I've certainly learned some great ways to improve in conversation, an area I'm not so confident in. More of these videos would be helpful for sure. Thanks again. ☺️
I'm an introvert, I recently landed a job where I have to talk to a lot of people, it's stressful but the job pays well and I really like it so I'm willing to improve my soft skills so I can make sure I can keep this job
PLEASE DO STORY TELLING
Ill tell you a story...
Let me tell you 'bout a girl I know
Had a drink about an hour ago
Sitting in the corner by herself, in a bar in downtown Hell
She heard a noise, and she looked through the door
And saw a man she'd never seen before
Light skin, light blue eyes
A double-chin and a plastic smile
Well, her heart raced as he walked in the door
And took an empty seat next to her at the bar
"My brand new car is parked right outside
How'd ya like to go for a ride?"
And she said, "Wait a minute, I have to think"
He said, "That's fine, may I please buy you a drink?"
One drink turned into three, or four
And they left and got into his car
And they drove away some place real far
"Now, babe, the time has come
How'd ya like to have a little fun?"
And she said, "If we could only please be on our way
I would not run".... that's when things got out of control..
She didn't want to
He had his way
She said, "Let's Go"
He said, "No Way! Come on, babe, it's your lucky day
Shut your mouth, we're gonna do it my way
Come on, baby, don't be afraid
If it wasn't for date rape, I'd never get laid"
wow America/10 would definitely read stories from you XD
Deep conversation, please. And more tips on how to be casual I order to keep someone interested in talking more in order to get to the deeper conversations.
Dude this was awesome thank you so much for doing this. As an introvert all of the stuff you talked about didn't come naturally to me. It was hard to learn and felt forced but the way you put it was easy to understand and really helpful!
I've never been good at storytelling! if you could make that one hour next project I would totally appreciate it!
thanks again(:
I had no social skills and even I couldn't say for people about what I was thinking. But then after watching this video I PROMISE you that I will certainly change my attitude although it is tough but I know l am given only one life to improve and change it
Just the thought of making conservation makes me anxious, everytime I communicate with others my body starts to overheat, and I just blank out, I literally cannot think of anything
Thank you for Your wisdom .it really helps me .and all others who are struggling with low communication skills ..Thank you verymuch
Your video are about very interesting topics. I really enjoy it!!
Storytelling! In my humble opinion is the best way to communicate.
Great video and idea bro, about humor i think would be cool but not as a focus but something to add up, anyway congratz for the great job , i appreciate it .
Peace!
Thanks for the high quality content!
this is cool I actually feel like I'm going to be able to improve on this skill that I'm lacking in.
This is the best channel I came across with.. thank you and keep making great videos and topics
Woah i love this video.
I can't even stop watching it.
This video just taught me something I have not understood for my entire life. Thank you.
Very helpful tips. Nice video.
Improvement Pill I love your videos, can you make the video about story telling next? I could use some improvement there haha
Representation and Voice made me watch this video Twice.. Well done Bro..!!
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THATS NOT HOW U DO IT. UR SO DUMB
Your all stupid and dumb, COME HERE AND THEN LETS GO!
What a fucking loser.
Hi there. I really like the way you made this video. What I found interesting for me is there are many things to work on. I would like to hear more about deep conversation and storytelling.
Communication skills, 250 exp gained after watching this awesome video.
I think we improvement pill should make a group and make us communicate.
Efficient! Yes, great tip.
internet is full of shit...your videos are diamond....so real, to the point and practical
Hey Improvement Pill dude! I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate your work. Thank you so much!!!
I’m lucky to already have these skills integrated in me already even thought I was an extreme introvert, even now I’m but no more because of NoFap.
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i keep hearing no fap come up, who or what is that
Another modern fad, much like popping steroids
your video are great! i want to keep your video so i can refer to it often. keep it up bro !
Me: how are you doing?
Them: im doing fine
Conversatin ends
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I am a Big Fan of your “Improvement Pill” videos.. I have learn a lot and it has help me with many things! Keep up the great job! Thank you!
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Am glad someone pointed it out.
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communication skills is something I always wanted to cultivate for themselves. Thanks!
hopefully ya eventually do them all
awesome stuff.. just found your channel today. even the stuff i do not have problems with i think this channel will make me better at.. so thanks bud
finally, I understand why I feel so awkward when I start the conversation with that question you mentioned in the video. Thank you so much!
where can i find a good place to practice communication skills? I hardly get to talk to anyone at my job.
thersten Meet people. Talk to them.
obiwanfisher537 the question was where?
thersten Ohh you meant literally where....
Well thats quite easy: go out. Bars. Discos. Gym.
Maybe get a social hobby or two. You know like team sports. Squash. Football. American Football. Tennis.
Or just sign up for courses which interest you. There will be other people, too. And just talk to them.
thersten if you take public transportation then when ever you get on look for someone you think looks interesting or available to have a conversation sit down next to them and just talk try your best and the more you do it the better you will get
Theres billions of people on this planet, we are not a rare specie. It may seem creepy to some people if a stranger starts talking to them, but if you manage to relax, then other people Will also automatically relax in your presence.
A few weeks ago the idea of looking up some social skills video (exactly like this one) pooped up in my head but I didnt do it, for some reason. So yesterday I started watching TED talks and then this video was in my suggestions. Thats just cool.
I'm actually here because I don't know how to communicate.