💰SUMMER WITHOUT MONEY 💵 I Stopped Spending For 90 Days 💸 | no buy challenge

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  • @lului1456
    @lului1456 5 місяців тому +28

    watching every video on this concept to convince myself AND MY SUBCONSCIOUS that i don’y need to be spending all this money 😅

    • @SpirituallyGs
      @SpirituallyGs 17 днів тому

      I’m about to do my first no spend month this June ! How was your experience?

  • @confessionsofajadedoptimist
    @confessionsofajadedoptimist 8 місяців тому +47

    Yes it is okay to unsubscribe ,hit that not interested button or don't recommend button. I want to support but protecting my peace comes 1st

  • @victoria9663
    @victoria9663 6 місяців тому +31

    I like this a lot! I was thinking the other day about how marketing is so similar to an abusive relationship, where someone else is trying SO hard to manipulate you into giving up something you have (money). I agree with what you said at the 4 minute mark - there's nothing wrong at all with buying new things as long as YOU are the one making the decision consciously, and you're not being manipulated or lulled into making a decision without thinking.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  6 місяців тому +1

      such an apt analogy

  • @emilytruman7318
    @emilytruman7318 5 місяців тому +11

    I relate to so many of your triggers!! This was super validating to hear your perspective. I was also searching for more bipoc creators to learn from bc literally 90% of “no spend low spend” content is made by wealthy white women. I’m so glad I found your acct!

  • @nataliegardner2551
    @nataliegardner2551 5 місяців тому +6

    This video was so relatable for me! Thank you for reminding me that failures are ok, and not feeling like I’m the only one who commits to a low-buy, only to mindlessly buy something! 😂

  • @J_Summer69
    @J_Summer69 8 місяців тому +26

    You succeeded. I need to try something similar. Since the pandemic my online shopping has increased significantly and I struggled to stop. Even as I click ‘submit order’ my inner voice is saying do I really need this…

    • @TheTjoy910
      @TheTjoy910 8 місяців тому

      Me too!! 🙃🥲😫

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому +2

      I realized that the ways I coped during the pandemic need to be unlearned now that we're outside in full force again

  • @gemnilocs
    @gemnilocs 4 місяці тому +9

    Happy to have found this video…I’m currently on a no spend and boy it’s been interesting so far..before I spent money on books, bags, accessories, and more stuff.
    Also I am a huge fan of Snoopy and love your sweatshirt!!!

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  4 місяці тому +2

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @MelissaAdams-Wade
    @MelissaAdams-Wade 6 місяців тому +12

    I love how you discovered yourself through your low buy. I’m starting a low buy in 2024 but have been in the mindset of a low buy since August. I’m excited to see where it takes me.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  5 місяців тому +2

      You got this!

  • @mossymindful
    @mossymindful 6 місяців тому +5

    And to answer your "did I fail?" Question I provide this quote I saw today!
    "If you attempt anything meaningful in your life, you will fail, guaranteed. The question is, will you quit?"
    Success is not the absence of failure or mistakes. Failure is PART OF reaching for success. Have a great day!

  • @ElaineWill131
    @ElaineWill131 8 місяців тому +16

    I needed to be reminded of this soooo bad! lol My impulsive shopping was definitely out of control this summer and I lost focus of my long term goals for saving towards my relocation plans. Getting back on track as we speak. Thanks Achia 👍🏾👍🏾

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      I totally understand veering off the path you set for yourself. This definitely helped me get on track with saving my One Month Fund.

  • @starmaxx4
    @starmaxx4 8 місяців тому +10

    This video came right on time! “Impulsive” is my middle name 🤦🏾‍♀️.. you did amazing! 🥰💙

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому +1

      Yay! Thank you!

    • @starmaxx4
      @starmaxx4 8 місяців тому

      @@ALove4Me 🥰

  • @salimatasore3735
    @salimatasore3735 8 місяців тому +6

    I don't think you failed at all. You may have not reached all you expectations but you put in the effort and disciplined yourself! This video is very important to me because it made me realize my bad spending habits and how i lie to myself so i can purchase more and more things.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much!

  • @2FrenchiesItsCrazyAllTheTime
    @2FrenchiesItsCrazyAllTheTime Місяць тому

    You are not alone in capsule wardrobes being a path to secret spending. I realized that I am ten times more likely to go on a buying binge if I’m focus on trying to build a capsule wardrobe

  • @tireshekastewart913
    @tireshekastewart913 8 місяців тому +4

    And on cue, the Ulta & Temu ads play 😂😂😂. I really enjoyed this content. Yes, you succeeded. For one, the goal was not deprivation. Two, you gained wisdom and introspection even in the "oops" realizations. Additionally, sharing the oops heightens your accountability moving forward. truly appreciate your methodical approach instead of just saying, "I on a no buy" in general and without a measurable plan of action. Thank you for sharing jewels that I will certainly apply, such as the unfollowing/unsubscribing from traps & triggers in the forms of hauls, under 40, and other advertisements. I can always depend on you for practicality 💯💪🏾🤓

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much! Your comment drove home the main point of this exercise. Thanks for the reminder that perfection is not required.

  • @1409musiclover
    @1409musiclover 8 місяців тому +8

    No I definitely feel this. I'm definitely getting more intentional about what I buy. "Will I actually use or wear this? Do I actually like this or is it just because it's cheap or on sale? Can I plan out a new outfit immediately with this item?" If I hesitate or can't answer these questions, then I won't get it.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Great self accountability system

  • @shellyg202
    @shellyg202 6 місяців тому +4

    You 100% succeeded. One item a month, you rocked it. I've been doing low spends but books are my downfall as well. You have a TBR shelf. I have a TBR closet. Thankfully 90% thrifted. After the holidays I plan on a no spent. Definitely will have enough reading material. 🤞😉😊

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  6 місяців тому +1

      😂 I will never judge a fellow book lover

  • @hellolexinphx
    @hellolexinphx 6 місяців тому +2

    I love that you posted about this! Clearly I am a little late but I have been interested in doing a No Spend/Low Spend year to deal with some on my impulse buying or spending to "fix my problems"

  • @carolalvarez3925
    @carolalvarez3925 6 місяців тому +1

    I loved this video . I am a senior and love fashion. I have much more than enough for my simple retired lifestyle. I am addicted to fashion and influencers. I actually stopped a holiday movie last night- " Holiday in Handcuffs" because I loved the cable knit sweater like zippered hoodies that the mom character was wearing , to google them. I tried for about 10 minutes, gave up and went back to finish the movie. Have to stop my clothes cravings.

  • @ellacsarno411
    @ellacsarno411 29 днів тому

    ah i loved this video so much. thanks for the honesty! I'm doing a replacements-only no-buy year, and I also bought stuff three times now without even stopping to think. the capsule wardrobe lie is so so so accurate too. and I really wanted to hug you when you said that the expenses on experiences are what keep us from being lonely - so so true! and such valuable insight. I buy all this stuff to make myself feel more perfect/"appropriate" and LOVABLE when in fact none of the stuff will ever love me back.

  • @takethatshushu
    @takethatshushu 5 місяців тому +2

    I don’t think purchasing a few items makes it a failed attempt. I really think that completely cutting yourself off is a mistake.
    The best thing I’ve ever done is unsubscribe from all the emails and turn off app notifications!
    Well done ❤

  • @Meloyadina
    @Meloyadina 8 місяців тому +3

    You definitely succeeded💯, especially because you now know your triggers. My issue has been subscriptions to so many things... I just started going through them all and seeing what is actually necessary & getting rid of those that aren't.

    • @confessionsofajadedoptimist
      @confessionsofajadedoptimist 8 місяців тому +1

      yes everything is a subscription nowadays. I was looking at that 8 sleep thing that all the influencers are talking about and it is an subscription service too. The base price was like $3000 and if you want the thing to work you have to pay another $25 to get is to work smdh. These brands keep trying.

  • @TheTjoy910
    @TheTjoy910 8 місяців тому +4

    Thank you! I'm doing the same thing starting today. I have everything I need for myself for at LEAST a month, so I'll start there and extend to 3 months as it is feasible. My boyfriend said he would do the same thing. No buying for ourselves for 1-3 months.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Smart! That 's what I did. I started with 30 days and realized that I could and should keep going. Y'all got this!

  • @emilycurci1429
    @emilycurci1429 26 днів тому

    I don’t think you failed at all! I think you learned so much from this experience, even the impulse purchases. And you gained so much awareness, therefore, you succeeded!

  • @carmendevine7244
    @carmendevine7244 11 днів тому

    There's a beautiful children's book called Ox Cart Man about a colonial farmer going to the market annually, he brought home a pot for his wife, a needle for his daughter, a knife for his son, and a pound of peppermint candy. I love reading it, I'd like to live it..

  • @vi4543
    @vi4543 Місяць тому

    Honest , to the point and absolutely lovely ! Amazing video

  • @dravonwalker2352
    @dravonwalker2352 6 місяців тому

    This was really inspiring and insightful! Thank you very much for putting this out there.

  • @tangybrandford8475
    @tangybrandford8475 8 місяців тому

    Omg….. I needed this video. Thank you 🙏🏾

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      No problem 😊

  • @flufftronable
    @flufftronable День тому

    The library is your friend.

  • @bellesourire514
    @bellesourire514 Місяць тому +1

    I started going to the library for books!

  • @acestarone
    @acestarone 5 місяців тому

    this is such an important video. thank you

  • @sbyg4586
    @sbyg4586 2 місяці тому

    Came across your video today. Your honesty is inspiring. I need to reassess and realign my No/Low Buy Year habits. Thank you! 😊

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  Місяць тому

      THanks for watching!

  • @Sobermama927
    @Sobermama927 6 місяців тому +1

    Awesome and very inspiring video!!!!! Thank you 🎉

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  6 місяців тому

      So glad you enjoyed it!

  • @jennifergoode437
    @jennifergoode437 3 місяці тому

    I'm encouraged! Good for you :)

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  2 місяці тому

      Yay! Thank you!

  • @alexandrapoole997
    @alexandrapoole997 Місяць тому

    This video was SO helpful, frank, down to earth. Excited to do a low buy month.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  26 днів тому

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @eileenward5668
    @eileenward5668 8 місяців тому

    Wow! Thanks, I needed to hear that because it is just ridiculous how many clothes are in my closet, with tags on them.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @tigah457
    @tigah457 8 місяців тому

    Success! I need to follow your lead! Great video!

  • @TheChocBeauty
    @TheChocBeauty 8 місяців тому

    You learned and made changes!!! I found myself getting caught up and realized I had clothes from COVID which still had the tags on them. That was an eye opener for me and I made changes!!

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      It’s wild how much COVID continues to affect our lives

  • @candicemay
    @candicemay 18 годин тому

    I plan to do a no buy year in 2025 but I’m gonna stock up on essentials like laundry detergent, beauty/healthcare products to last for awhile so I don’t need to spend money besides food & bills

  • @genboulay9831
    @genboulay9831 2 місяці тому

    Great video!

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  Місяць тому

      Thanks for watching!

  • @lisaroberts1729
    @lisaroberts1729 4 місяці тому

    All great advice

  • @hocuspocus8433
    @hocuspocus8433 Місяць тому

    The saved money can be put towards the mortgage ;)! WOW

  • @claireworld_
    @claireworld_ День тому

    Books is my thing too haha

  • @pamelaforts5210
    @pamelaforts5210 8 місяців тому

    I needed to hear this. My birthday is coming up and I wish I could go stay in a hotel somewhere, but because of my impulse spending I won't be able to do that.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Good on you for recognizing limitations you unintentionally put on yourself

  • @aylalg
    @aylalg 8 місяців тому

    imo, congratulations!!! you were highly successful!! You gained more clarity and joy (in parts thanks to noticing your 'mistakes')...

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much!!

  • @kimwieczorek1879
    @kimwieczorek1879 6 місяців тому +1

    ❤❤yay!!!!! No amazon. Me too

  • @ShaniceYanique
    @ShaniceYanique 8 місяців тому

    Thanks!

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much!

  • @HappyFeet216
    @HappyFeet216 8 місяців тому

    Great video

  • @lemongeth
    @lemongeth 10 днів тому

    Ok I have to do this too 😭 starts June 2024

  • @marleyhill34
    @marleyhill34 8 місяців тому +3

    I've been impulsive buying and impulsively binging social media and streaming. It's a hard habit to break after the breakdown my my marriage and mental health. I've given myself another goal to focus on now which involves building health and building wealth. If it's not contributing to my health or wealth why am I buying it/investing my time into it?

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому +1

      Sometimes you need a coping mechanism when going through very stressful moments in life, so don't forget to give yourself grace

  • @WhatTheKink
    @WhatTheKink 8 місяців тому

    I don’t even buy stuff and I loved this video!

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much!

  • @ccnapoole
    @ccnapoole 8 місяців тому

    I think you succeeded. I need to do this too. I've been influenced in the best way!

  • @animatedmoi
    @animatedmoi 8 місяців тому +2

    I love that Snoopy sweatshirt. Where from?
    I am so glad I found your channel through AfrickanHairGod. Life is different when you are 40+ so I appreciate a UA-camr with substance.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Thank you for sticking around! I bought the sweatshirt from Zara a year or two ago

  • @laurab4570
    @laurab4570 5 місяців тому

    Scythe is sooo good! Read that series 😊

  • @NokulungaMacu-uq8qu
    @NokulungaMacu-uq8qu Місяць тому

    I'm an impulsive buyer especially earrings perfumes and groceries for recipes 😢😢. I don't want that anymore 😊

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  Місяць тому

      I totally get you. I encourage you to learn your triggers so that you can start to actively decide when to purchase

  • @naomifreya1481
    @naomifreya1481 5 місяців тому +1

    You did not fail, you had a few mishaps, but look at all the stuff you did not buy...

  • @IAmPhasion
    @IAmPhasion 3 місяці тому

    I love this video. The influencer community is getting wack lol especially when you grow up and value money, I don’t even call myself a influencer anymore but just a content creator because I don’t want to keep influencing people to spend their hard earned money.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  2 місяці тому

      I totally get you

  • @ireneroy8820
    @ireneroy8820 2 місяці тому

    I bought a book in 3 years and felt it was a waste of

  • @chellwilliams9898
    @chellwilliams9898 5 місяців тому +3

    I live this way anyway because I have a mortgage and student loans. I can go a few years without buying clothes. I don’t drink or smoke. It actually amazes me that people shop as much as they do. If my clothes fit me, why buy more? I don’t get my hair or nails done either. I don’t buy jewelry either. I watch TikTok for entertainment. Social media is entertainment for me.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  5 місяців тому

      to each their own

  • @pameladavis895
    @pameladavis895 8 місяців тому +3

    Your tax $$$ support libraries. I stopped buying books a long time ago when I came to this reality!

  • @autobotdiva9268
    @autobotdiva9268 6 місяців тому

    so what did your friends and family think? so common for family do side eye you while you gain a fat retirement/bank account and their drowining.
    everytime i hear capsule wardrobe, lol.....that was a store called casual corner back in the day for the modern 80'-902s working woman.

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  5 місяців тому +1

      I didn't tell them and they didn't notice

  • @sagraphicsofficial
    @sagraphicsofficial 8 місяців тому

    Hello
    Do you want intro outro banner 💜

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Nah, but thanks

  • @katsea17
    @katsea17 8 місяців тому

    I unsubscribe from these ad emails then they wait a few months and start up all over again. Uggh

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому +1

      It's so frustrating! I know I unsubscribe and end up having to do so again and again.

  • @rpierrelou
    @rpierrelou 8 місяців тому

    Great video!

    • @ALove4Me
      @ALove4Me  8 місяців тому

      Glad you enjoyed it