You are so right! I just became aware of this second body a few weeks ago. I can really feel it like there is a layer of skin just under my tangible skin which aches so hard so no one can touch me without causing even more pain. I was abused and locked alone in a room at the age of 2 and, after doing my inner child work I realised that this pain body is triggered when I feel or think someone likes me and wants to get to know me better. I then feel like I'm imprisoned in my own body and will soon get hit. And got the message from this pain body that it decided to not allow any love to myself 'cause will just hurt so badly.
Emotions, thoughts, all come and go...its not a problem. But in the moment it feels like it will never go away. Just watch it...don't run away. You have to sit there and stay with the feeling. When i was younger, when ever the pain body comes, i would want to run away, by going out. Looking for a thrill or love or drink. Last time it triggered, i just sat there and accepted it. Let it be...and you will be set free. What you want is not the object, what you want is the feeling to go away. Be there fully and just watch what is going on. Big events like a break up, i remember it would take me months and months for the pain to go away. Last time it happened, after a week of observing the pain, it went away after a week and a half.
Hi after recent traumatic events I have that huge pain and it’s been a month. It definitely takes over and puts me out of my joy! So scary. So you just sit through it? Without any distractions? How can you work and live with a pain so deep?
@@nicholeh3025 I remember channel mentions in one of her vids to acknowledge the pain. I just don't remember for how long etc...She has so many vids. I go through many vids now for I am also in high anxiety bc of narc abuse and I want to move out but finances right now are limited. But I just want you to know that you aren't the only one and this too shall pass. Sending you hugs from afar.🤗
@@nicholeh3025 I found one of her latest vids where she explains the emotion process really well. Here's the link if interested. ua-cam.com/video/nHv6dAFWEAQ/v-deo.html
Thanks for this informative video. It helps also to know that your painbody is actually cellular memories. Yup, Everything is stored in cellular memory, &, directly & instantly commanded by our subconscious. That's why it's paramount to reprogram/replace old belief systems & the negative emotions associated with them. Reperceive the old events, give new meaning from the wiser adult perspective (eg, that was their lower consciousness & not about my worth/value), & adjust up your self esteem. I remember when I decided, "I'd rather feel whatever this is today rather than ignore/bury it, only to have to feel it even stronger the next time it's triggered!" Not easy, but we deserve to have us solidly in Our corner rather than in someone else's all the time, yes? Blessings to all ~*~
Laura Elizabeth Goodyear how did you deal with these emotions coming on even stronger? I started to reprogram and have been through some recent triggers. Plenty of them and am now experiencing a pain so bad. I have panic attacks and am acting in such self sabotaging ways. My life turned upside down kind of. Not sure what to do
You don't know how much you are truly helping people. Especially people like me who are just becoming aware of my gift after taking other people's and my incredible pain and It has almost completely crippled my mind and body! Thank you so so much! Bless you!
I had a major healing of emotional body pains after giving birth to 4 kids. As a wounded healer Ive been able to heal the majority of my pain through self love, meditation and being in a conscious state of mind. I resonate. ❤️❤️❤️
You say exactly what I also think; that it is not a thought that triggers the pain body. Even many spiritual teachers are saying that but my experience is the same as yours. Thank you so much for your very helping and understanding videos ❤
I seriously can't thank you enough for these videos. I've went through almost entire decade of extreme anxiety and depression, never figuring out what was wrong with me. It took going through a really nasty break up for me to realize that I'm a very codependent person. With that realization all of my past depression finally made sense. Your videos have been such an important part of my healing process, and for understanding how to process the emotions that I'm going through.
Thank you for dealing with this important topic. When you notice negative thoughts, feelings or emotions starting to appear, you can also say to yourself "the pain body is awake". I have been able to get myself out of emotional pain in 1-3 days just by saying those words. In other words, you don't need to try to do anything else, just say those words. (I think I have learnt this technique in the Power of Now exercise book by E. Tolle.)
YES, that is what Eckhart Tolle teaches. For those that are ready to go deeper or need a slightly different technique they can try what I teach in the video. I'm so happy that works for you! Blessings!
I can SO relate to feeling unconscious when the pain body takes over - because when I'm 'out' of it when I've felt through it, I think to myself - who was that? It almost felt like it wasn't me dealing with that, because it feels like the most BASIC OF BASIC spiritual knowledge fell out of my head. Emotion-to-mind makes so much sense..
Oh Candace, such perfect timing! I am coming up on my 53rd BD in December and this EPB has been running my entire life into a ditch for decades now, this is the first time it has actually made sense, and I have been on the spiritual, self improvement, new age blah blah blah path for decades now and my life has only been getting smaller and darker and lonelier. Luckily for the past few months I have been really learning to connect to that part of my self that is not my thought's or emotions or even my body, I have been becoming the witness to them all and I cannot wait to start reading the book..just ordered it on Amazon! I sincerely thank you for expressing this so well :)
Up until now I had never considered that the pain body could dictate the thoughts as opposed to the way it usually works, this understanding explains quite a bit as to why I myself and so many others have had such trouble trying to heal it from the typical direction our society uses...change your thoughts first.
I have found this technique still difficult to do, but I try my best and still continue to use it. I have also been using Eckart Tollle's BP technique. Both have helped me and for the last 3 weeks, I have felt the PB become weaker. This is a major break through, because I have had enough of suffering with the PB. It has affected me for decades and I only came across Eckart Tolle's Power of Now book 3 years ago. The ego/mind oh it won't work/don't bother with this. Listen to me. I'm your truth. It's been hell. But i came to a point of I can't live like this any more. I want my life back. That kept me going. And in some sense, it's all for a reason right?! Yes I had my moments of my real "Truth". A beautiful inner God Light/blissful moments/peace/joy. That has kept me going. At times that aspect of me my "Truth" would laugh at the PB. Now I am learning to trust myself, I can and will come through this and I can say YES I will. I'm not giving up. A big THANK you to Candace and Eckart Tolle. :)
The thing that gives me more discomfort than the pain body itself is the feeling of not being able to detach myself from the pain body. This makes me feel those two pains simultaneously. However, realizing that you can only detach yourself if you don't live through your thoughts gave me comfort. It just means you have to practice meditation (etc.) more and only then are you able to work with this method.
As soon as someone says they appreciate the pain because it made them who they are, you know either they haven't fully embraced/faced it and actually healed or didn't experience the full erasing of all sense of self in childhood such that functioning was barely possible.
I got this suggested video after watching eckhart. I like your energie. It gives some perspective where i could be after desolving the painbody, which im "working" on now. Cheers 🍺
Thank you, Candace. You met me where I am at. Now I just need to start applying your healing method to my life. Great video!!! I learned a lot!!! Thanks for sharing!!!
I can relate to you about going through things at such young age I went through a lot of stuff in my childhood and teenage years so I have went through a lot of emotions and experiences and today it's my birthday and I'm 20 yo!! I'm so aware of a lot of things going on in my body and all these emotions and much more positive about them by understanding them and accepting them the way they are so thank you so much for this video much love 💕
Great content. This is definitely a way to heal. You bring light into the darkness this way. My personal opinion is that this technique is a little bit too complex but I love that there are different paths for different people. Whatever someone is comfortable with and resonating with they should try it. Great that you're making a difference in the emotional realm, it's so needed!
This sounds like it’s going to be interesting to get on top of. I get hit with these EPB triggers that feel like someone poured adrenaline in my body and my brain goes into an overwhelming surge and sometimes I just shout out loud STOP. OMG, this topic is so relevant.
@Candace van dell. Hi Candace! This explanation of the 'emotional pain body' is something I have been searching for because at different times a trigger arises and completely throughs me off my game. The experience usually leaves me feeling discouraged and bewildered because pre trigger I had a sense that I had moved past this and let go only to land right back in what you are describing as the 'emotional pain body'. Now that I know what it is, I can name it, but it still has me thinking maybe I won't be able to stop this from happening if I am unable to change the old pattern of reaction to a trigger (when I travel back into my emotional pain body). I am not sure what peice I am missing? I don't think I understand the 'how' part, I think that's where I am stuck. This is a vulnerable topic, and I am so thankful and very glad you made a video that touches on this subject. It's given me a name to something I didn't even understand, much less try to explain to others who are sitting in misjudgement and lacking true understanding and totally mislabeling something they unfortunately haven't had the fortune of reaching an understanding. I still think I am confused about 'how' to prevent the 'pain body reaction' if it comes up again? It's so funny how my mind has me convinced that I'm over all the pain until I get badly triggered and then it transports back into the 'emotional pain body' again, and again. It pains me deeply that this is still happening. I am 36, and I thought that maturity or life experience or developing certain philosophies or simply time itself would fix it or heal it, but so far I think the triggers are a sign and a message that it hasn't been fully healed. I have deep gratitude to you for making this video and sharing it with the world, and I. In life we never know who is listening and might really need to hear something, so for this I thank you very much, I needed to hear this. Namestae 💛💞
It's really really REALLY challenging to attempt to do this when the feelings coming up are exceptionally overwhelming. Sometimes I have to just let them pass because i go into panic mode and all i can think of is reacting so at this point, in the beginning stages of me learning to do something different, I just have to force myself to sit with the feelings otherwise I will put them on someone else to attempt to get them to take care of them and that isn't fair. I'm wondering if you have any input on this or can relate and if this intensity decreases over time so that it is easier to focus on those soothing, more self connected feelings? Because right now I'm not sure I am capable of doing that until I can just learn to sit with my feelings first. I like to think of this "emotional pain body" as my inner child and the unhealed wounds. Sometimes the child takes over and takes control, but I am becoming much more aware and would like to get to the point where it is not so overwhelming and where I don't allow the child to act in ways that are detrimental to the well being of the adult me, the conscious me :)
You are doing great! This is a process. You are in the beginning stages which is amazing! My advice is to not "resist" or "judge" yourself when your pain body kicks in. Just try to start to "watch it" as soon as you react. When you watch it rather than engage in the "false power" of it you start to be able to relax and allow it as if it is not you. Over time you will react less and less ;-)
Kate Grace I can totally relate, may I suggest rcommitting to a daily practice that allows you to connect with the deeper aspect of yourself that can watch your thoughts and emotions, Rupert Spira has a lot of videos here on YT that has been a god send for me, another on would be Mooji or Adyashanti, their work blends so well with what Candice is offering, I can't wait to start using all of them together!
Kate Grace I hope you're doing well. I just wanted to say that what began the process of healing for me (and I'm 55 years old, I've struggled with healing myself for many years, but "winging it" with no help except what would be presented to me by...I suppose...the Universe) was to mentally and emotionally going back to that little girl I used to be, giving her a hug and love, telling her she was great, that all will eventually work out, that she did nothing wrong, that she is beautiful. It was an emotional cleansing that I can't compare to anything else, and helped me immensely. Blessings and love to you.
Wonderful consul...it is a miracle, to one be aware..conscience by logic of being aware... there for= I am... thank-you for disclosure of evolution imperative. And.. to all you out there!.. do not misplace your sense.. you don't need distraction..you need Good will. See, hear, feel balance..personalized on logic
You could've been describing my life experience, so similar to yours. In my experience when ever I get triggered or something is bothering me negatively I ask myself where did this feeling originate where did it happen the first time is this feeling have to do with what's going on now or in the past, chances are if it's triggered has to do with an emotional upset from your childhood or early adulthood . When I identify the trauma and connect it to its origin then I I mediately feel a release and the negative emotion goes away like wave, this prevents me from being triggered with that same trauma in the future because I've already identified where is the trigger what created. Once the triggers identified and connected you can release it. When a childhood trauma trigger is released you never have to feel that pain again you can have the memory without the pain that to me is a symbol that I have cleared that emotional trauma and it no longer affect me emotionally. A small example for me was my roommate locked me out the apartment by accident but the hurt feeling that I had I couldn't understand I thought why does this bother me so much it doesn't make sense then I remembered it's a trigger where did it originate I went back to when I was five years old my mother used to lock me out when she didn't want to deal with me or my brothers, as soon as I remembered that memory I was like oh that's where this feeling is coming from, the emotion immediately dissipated I can now have that memory and not feel that pain. The next time I'm locked out I will not be triggered because I will mediately know I've already cleared it and I don't feel pain . For me just recognizing a negative emotion is a trigger doesn't correct it until I connect it . By doing this I feel it heals my inner child as well as my adult. It's a twofer heal your past and your future with one connection. Thank you for bringing awareness to the people most people don't realize they're walking through life reacting to their childhood traumas I just wanted to to share what I had learned for my triggers that works for me anyway. I too can be grateful for my traumas because it made me who I am it made me search for truth and understanding and I like who I have become. Thank you so much much love to you and all beings. Peace love and harmony to all.
Agreed , connecting to the root cause when it was first established before the pattern evolved into a pain body is helpful in understanding the triggers and bring us out of the current emotional feelings
Thanks. I am a yogini myself. I love your work and as I clean myself and move into my dark knight of the soul, your work gives me immense freedom. Please let me know if emotional pain body can manifest as a physical disease of any sort.
Just found your channel. It helps so much! My spirit has been feeling lost in the darkness. I tend to be misunderstood easily & it makes me feel pretty overreactive & a bother 😔 but ill learn to find a purpose for it... tysfm💕💖
I had Trauma , attempted murder in 2009, than PTSD, & alot of growth , journalling from my triggers than processing which have been very hard, I've had an enlightenment , also I've given my life to God , my friends & Family haven't been there for me though , it seems to be part of the journey ,is this what you mean ,pain body
When it takes over me and I do stupid things I feel embarrassed and then I remember that this is common in everyone and there is no shame on having wounds.
I know this is cliche as per what u said in the video but I swear how did you know I was going through this? THANK YOU for explaining this. Please envison me giving you a bunch of sunflowers as a thanks :)
Can you make a video on Maladaptive Daydreaming? I'm highly sensitive and was traumatized at the age of 4. Since then I'm suffering from it. I really wanna know your views on Maladaptive Daydreaming & could it be possible that it's some how connected to highly sensitivity..
Maladaptive Daydreaming sounds like a medical term, that pathologizes what might actually be a very natural human tendency. Moderm psychiatry is very good at that. at pathologizing everything that makes us human and at making us feel defective and wrong for being who we are. I won't go into all of this in this short comment, but one has to understand where this mindset of modern psychiatric mindset came from. It is VERY intimately tied to an economic system that dominates our times, that is concerns only with producing more and creating profits, turning us into productive machines no matter what the cost. and if something in our humanity isn't productive to this economic system then it is pathologized and medicated to bring us back to the productive "normal" (that they decided for us we should be like). In that regard, I would highly recommend to you a very profound video here on youtube called 'Jeannie Zandi - Show 31', which I think will give you a whole new perspective, much more humane perspective on yourself and on life (you can search for the title, or you can also find it on my channel under the playlists 'jeannie zandi' or the playlist 'wisdom'). If you do watch it, I recommend doing so with a quiet mind and without distractions. Yes, It IS that special and important of a video. And the peaceful still energy that comes from her can be very very healing and clarifying and enlightening, if you allow it and don't come with a mind burdended with pre-conceived ideas (it is VERY different from most buzz words and new age positivity stuff and quick fixes that are so popular today).
I would like you to be my spiritual coach.I really need help even though you gave me some powerful tools on this video.Thanks a lot...I can 100% relate.
I'm so happy I found your channel. I'm working through A LOT of issues that came to a head around 12 months ago. Working with a counsellor, reading information and watching your videos is helping me find an authentic self that has been hidden since childhood. Richard Grannon ( @spartanlifecoach ) talks about EMOTIONAL FLASHBACKS where you're unconsciously triggered back into a place of hurt and pain..often and in my case the original wound of rejection and abandonment and invalidation. Would you say the emotional pain body reaction to triggers and an emotional flashback are the same idea? I've struggled for years with these issues but only recently became conscious enough to recognise what was going on. Thanks so much for your videos. This year is my year of growth and understanding.
I love this video, however , after losing my brother a couple of months ago it’s feels waaaay more challenging to be conscious and to master the emotion when my emotional pain body feels its at its highest level. I feel very angry, sad, irritable, moody, and EXHAUSTED layered on to my childhood trauma and healing that. I’m sure theres an opportunity to turn this pain into wisdom or is there? Is any of this different because it’s grief and loss?
I am a little confused because I feel like on my journey to nonresistance I am not only resisting my resistance but I also try to excessively feel all the sensations often with the mindset to finaly handle/finish them for good. It does feel very pushy and I sometimes feel like I can't catch up (somaticly/emotionally/intellectually) with myself. I wish you could talk about that.
Water of Babylon let them be what they are. Total surrender is to not TRY to do or finish anything but instead to love and accept it all exactly as it is. In this state, it will start to heal itself in its own time. 🙏🏻
Candice. Ty for the video. My experience is that the pain body is so dense, that after years of Vippassana Meditation, some emotions come through, I.e. sadness, frustration, but mostly what feels like blocks, and they are wound -up and tight. Seem so solid. I'm aware of shaking, TRE, and Bioenergetics, but have honestly run out of resources. Physically and emotionally abused as far back as can be recalled, but probably, by this persistence, earlier....in the crib. Any ideas? Ty and Namaste.
Hi Candace, this is a really helpful video, Thankyou. I have what feels like a very severe pain body at times. I've practised watching it but what I want to ask is do you go directly 'into' and feel the pain itself whilst retaining awareness or stay 'apart' and aware of it? This is where a bit of confusion lies for me. I sometimes go directly into the pain and stay there with it which initially helps and removes it to some extent but then I feel after a short period of time that a dark mood has descended upon me which can be hard to shake. Cheers
I have dense pain body... im now to the point where im able to recognizing it... its just im having next to impossible to break to it... so it will take sone time. Ill still do it.. probably journal would help.
I have codependency issue. I start a relationship with one guy, but I recognize old pattern, that I'm not acting normal because I have a sence that he is colder than on the begging. And that's impossible to handle in some moments. It's scares me a lot! The worst thing is I can't break up. I just can't. And I have no choice except to stay in and heal myself throught that relationship. I got temperature because of worry! Any advice? Thank you in advance!!!
So here... how long does the pain body last prior from being triggered?... I am aware of it as the thoughts and emotion floating on me and persistent to get me on somber mood.. but im not losing my guard at this point. How long? I knew it will trigger time to time, but how soon I can bypass it if I continue bringing my awareness to it? I no longer understand this as words or letters, I just got the hang realizing this. Im still quite surprise about knowing this..
I disagree that these are "Negative Emotions." They just are. I don't feel in my experience that there needs to be put a label on these emotions. They serve a purpose which is very important. Grief and sadness assist in a person opening their heart. Anger assist a person in learning what their boundaries are. And all the emotions offer a gift to us. I just don't like it when people call their emotions negative. In my personal experience, I just feel that that is completely untrue. I embrace my emotions full heartedly.
Charli Haynes yes and they are still called negative emotions in this society. The point is that we ALL experience what has been deemed “negative emotion” and if you watched this video, you may have gathered that the entire point of my work is to upgrade this belief into seeing that nothing is negative or positive but just IS. Good job.
Sooo... I understand my pain body and to some degree I can see and feel when it arises but my actions are almost instinctive, It literally takes over the second it arises I can bring my self back with some time and effort but I just can't stop the initial explosion and it's quite literally an explosion which leaves me looking loopy when I explode and then bring myself back moments later. Any advice?
That is exactly right. It takes over like an explosion. The next step is to recognize that and not judge it. The next step after that is to recognize it, don't judge it and then start to step away and observe it WHILE it is happening. The less you resist it and the more you accept it, the less power it will have over you eventually. You are doing great! The awareness of it is the beginning of change ;-)
Candace van Dell thank you so much for the reply ☺️ and for the video. I will work on accepting it. I guess before I felt that accepting it was allowing its thoughts and actions but somehow reading your response gave me some epiphany and I get it. Now, in a weird way, I'm sort of looking forward to seeing my pain body when it next pops up. Your a beautiful person doing a beautiful job 👍 xx
You are so right! I just became aware of this second body a few weeks ago. I can really feel it like there is a layer of skin just under my tangible skin which aches so hard so no one can touch me without causing even more pain.
I was abused and locked alone in a room at the age of 2 and, after doing my inner child work I realised that this pain body is triggered when I feel or think someone likes me and wants to get to know me better. I then feel like I'm imprisoned in my own body and will soon get hit. And got the message from this pain body that it decided to not allow any love to myself 'cause will just hurt so badly.
Emotions, thoughts, all come and go...its not a problem. But in the moment it feels like it will never go away. Just watch it...don't run away. You have to sit there and stay with the feeling. When i was younger, when ever the pain body comes, i would want to run away, by going out. Looking for a thrill or love or drink. Last time it triggered, i just sat there and accepted it. Let it be...and you will be set free. What you want is not the object, what you want is the feeling to go away. Be there fully and just watch what is going on. Big events like a break up, i remember it would take me months and months for the pain to go away. Last time it happened, after a week of observing the pain, it went away after a week and a half.
Hi after recent traumatic events I have that huge pain and it’s been a month. It definitely takes over and puts me out of my joy! So scary. So you just sit through it? Without any distractions? How can you work and live with a pain so deep?
Thank you Sephs
@@nicholeh3025 Love the pain, treat it with love, love is loving what is.
@@nicholeh3025 I remember channel mentions in one of her vids to acknowledge the pain. I just don't remember for how long etc...She has so many vids. I go through many vids now for I am also in high anxiety bc of narc abuse and I want to move out but finances right now are limited. But I just want you to know that you aren't the only one and this too shall pass. Sending you hugs from afar.🤗
@@nicholeh3025 I found one of her latest vids where she explains the emotion process really well. Here's the link if interested. ua-cam.com/video/nHv6dAFWEAQ/v-deo.html
And at 7:57 the loving dog companion, she looks up with such attention and care for the next ten seconds making sure you're ok. So lovely. ^^
Thanks for this informative video. It helps also to know that your painbody is actually cellular
memories. Yup, Everything is stored in cellular
memory, &, directly & instantly commanded by our subconscious. That's why it's paramount to reprogram/replace old belief systems & the negative emotions associated with them. Reperceive the old events, give new meaning from the wiser adult perspective (eg, that was their lower consciousness & not about my worth/value), & adjust up your self esteem.
I remember when I decided, "I'd rather feel
whatever this is today rather than ignore/bury
it, only to have to feel it even stronger the next time it's triggered!" Not easy, but we deserve to have us solidly in Our corner rather than in someone else's all the time, yes?
Blessings to all ~*~
Laura Elizabeth Goodyear how did you deal with these emotions coming on even stronger? I started to reprogram and have been through some recent triggers. Plenty of them and am now experiencing a pain so bad. I have panic attacks and am acting in such self sabotaging ways. My life turned upside down kind of. Not sure what to do
You don't know how much you are truly helping people. Especially people like me who are just becoming aware of my gift after taking other people's and my incredible pain and It has almost completely crippled my mind and body! Thank you so so much! Bless you!
me too
This is probably the most important video i have ever seen. Such a huge syncronicity for me. Thank you so so much.
You are 100% REAL.
No fakeness AT ALL!
Just GLOWING LIGHT AND TRUTH.
YOU ARE TRULY RARE DIAMOND.
I had a major healing of emotional body pains after giving birth to 4 kids. As a wounded healer Ive been able to heal the majority of my pain through self love, meditation and being in a conscious state of mind. I resonate. ❤️❤️❤️
Omg..she is so true, this is what I've been going through from trauma.
How are you? Im going thru the same and im in so much pain.
You say exactly what I also think; that it is not a thought that triggers the pain body. Even many spiritual teachers are saying that but my experience is the same as yours.
Thank you so much for your very helping and understanding videos ❤
I seriously can't thank you enough for these videos. I've went through almost entire decade of extreme anxiety and depression, never figuring out what was wrong with me. It took going through a really nasty break up for me to realize that I'm a very codependent person. With that realization all of my past depression finally made sense. Your videos have been such an important part of my healing process, and for understanding how to process the emotions that I'm going through.
Thank you for dealing with this important topic. When you notice negative thoughts, feelings or emotions starting to appear, you can also say to yourself "the pain body is awake". I have been able to get myself out of emotional pain in 1-3 days just by saying those words. In other words, you don't need to try to do anything else, just say those words. (I think I have learnt this technique in the Power of Now exercise book by E. Tolle.)
YES, that is what Eckhart Tolle teaches. For those that are ready to go deeper or need a slightly different technique they can try what I teach in the video. I'm so happy that works for you! Blessings!
Fantastic!! The power of Good yummy stuff can take Over the nasty negative ! Awareness is so powerful!!!
I can SO relate to feeling unconscious when the pain body takes over - because when I'm 'out' of it when I've felt through it, I think to myself - who was that? It almost felt like it wasn't me dealing with that, because it feels like the most BASIC OF BASIC spiritual knowledge fell out of my head. Emotion-to-mind makes so much sense..
Maryam A yes yes and yes!!!!!!
Oh Candace, such perfect timing! I am coming up on my 53rd BD in December and this EPB has been running my entire life into a ditch for decades now, this is the first time it has actually made sense, and I have been on the spiritual, self improvement, new age blah blah blah path for decades now and my life has only been getting smaller and darker and lonelier. Luckily for the past few months I have been really learning to connect to that part of my self that is not my thought's or emotions or even my body, I have been becoming the witness to them all and I cannot wait to start reading the book..just ordered it on Amazon! I sincerely thank you for expressing this so well :)
Awwwww so wonderful! I am so happy synchronicity brought us together. I hope you find the tools in my workbook helpful to you. Have a lovely week!
Up until now I had never considered that the pain body could dictate the thoughts as opposed to the way it usually works, this understanding explains quite a bit as to why I myself and so many others have had such trouble trying to heal it from the typical direction our society uses...change your thoughts first.
I have found this technique still difficult to do, but I try my best and still continue to use it. I have also been using Eckart Tollle's BP technique. Both have helped me and for the last 3 weeks, I have felt the PB become weaker. This is a major break through, because I have had enough of suffering with the PB. It has affected me for decades and I only came across Eckart Tolle's Power of Now book 3 years ago. The ego/mind oh it won't work/don't bother with this. Listen to me. I'm your truth. It's been hell. But i came to a point of I can't live like this any more. I want my life back. That kept me going. And in some sense, it's all for a reason right?!
Yes I had my moments of my real "Truth". A beautiful inner God Light/blissful moments/peace/joy. That has kept me going. At times that aspect of me my "Truth" would laugh at the PB. Now I am learning to trust myself, I can and will come through this and I can say YES I will. I'm not giving up. A big THANK you to Candace and Eckart Tolle. :)
I am so grateful for videos like this and the people who share them. It helps. A. LOT.
The thing that gives me more discomfort than the pain body itself is the feeling of not being able to detach myself from the pain body. This makes me feel those two pains simultaneously.
However, realizing that you can only detach yourself if you don't live through your thoughts gave me comfort. It just means you have to practice meditation (etc.) more and only then are you able to work with this method.
As soon as someone says they appreciate the pain because it made them who they are, you know either they haven't fully embraced/faced it and actually healed or didn't experience the full erasing of all sense of self in childhood such that functioning was barely possible.
This is how I feel... Like there was a lack of identity development and social development and more.
Jeez wow seriously love ya sister. Just the words I needed to hear (again!) The collective sigh of relief you provide is glittery magic.
I got this suggested video after watching eckhart. I like your energie. It gives some perspective where i could be after desolving the painbody, which im "working" on now. Cheers 🍺
Thank you, Candace. You met me where I am at. Now I just need to start applying your healing method to my life. Great video!!! I learned a lot!!! Thanks for sharing!!!
I can relate to you about going through things at such young age I went through a lot of stuff in my childhood and teenage years so I have went through a lot of emotions and experiences and today it's my birthday and I'm 20 yo!! I'm so aware of a lot of things going on in my body and all these emotions and much more positive about them by understanding them and accepting them the way they are so thank you so much for this video
much love 💕
Right on time! Thanks, this is exactly what I'm working on
Paula Delgado Awesome! My pleasure :-)
Yay! I love it ;-)
Great content. This is definitely a way to heal. You bring light into the darkness this way. My personal opinion is that this technique is a little bit too complex but I love that there are different paths for different people. Whatever someone is comfortable with and resonating with they should try it. Great that you're making a difference in the emotional realm, it's so needed!
Thank you!
This sounds like it’s going to be interesting to get on top of. I get hit with these EPB triggers that feel like someone poured adrenaline in my body and my brain goes into an overwhelming surge and sometimes I just shout out loud STOP. OMG, this topic is so relevant.
Thank you so much for this articulation. I have a regular triggering setting that takes me back to extremely disempowered states. I will apply this.
@Candace van dell.
Hi Candace!
This explanation of the 'emotional pain body' is something I have been searching for because at different times a trigger arises and completely throughs me off my game. The experience usually leaves me feeling discouraged and bewildered because pre trigger I had a sense that I had moved past this and let go only to land right back in what you are describing as the 'emotional pain body'. Now that I know what it is, I can name it, but it still has me thinking maybe I won't be able to stop this from happening if I am unable to change the old pattern of reaction to a trigger (when I travel back into my emotional pain body).
I am not sure what peice I am missing? I don't think I understand the 'how' part, I think that's where I am stuck. This is a vulnerable topic, and I am so thankful and very glad you made a video that touches on this subject. It's given me a name to something I didn't even understand, much less try to explain to others who are sitting in misjudgement and lacking true understanding and totally mislabeling something they unfortunately haven't had the fortune of reaching an understanding. I still think I am confused about 'how' to prevent the 'pain body reaction' if it comes up again? It's so funny how my mind has me convinced that I'm over all the pain until I get badly triggered and then it transports back into the 'emotional pain body' again, and again. It pains me deeply that this is still happening. I am 36, and I thought that maturity or life experience or developing certain philosophies or simply time itself would fix it or heal it, but so far I think the triggers are a sign and a message that it hasn't been fully healed.
I have deep gratitude to you for making this video and sharing it with the world, and I. In life we never know who is listening and might really need to hear something, so for this I thank you very much, I needed to hear this. Namestae 💛💞
wonderful! thank you for sharing and you are doing great!!! XO
The first and hopefully not the last really in touch with consideration. Many thanks
Thanq. You're actually pointing indigo issues and totally correct down to every detail.
This made so much sense to me! I have started to make a conscious awareness to my reactions to bring about different outcomes. 💙
I stumbled across your channel and I had to subscribe. Your content is so relatable. It is helping me so much...bless your soul.
thank you so much for explaining the pain body !! I really got a lot out of it ! ! I listened TWIce to really really get this ✊🏼
me too
@@sll110 so helpful ….
Yup, perfectly timed for me!! Keep it up, you are dong great work!!
Duane Nash Thank you so much! 😊
Thank You so much. After trauma my whole body hurt in emotion. Bob
Bob Hunley I’m in the same situation any luck getting out of this? I feel it is sabotaging my life!
It's really really REALLY challenging to attempt to do this when the feelings coming up are exceptionally overwhelming. Sometimes I have to just let them pass because i go into panic mode and all i can think of is reacting so at this point, in the beginning stages of me learning to do something different, I just have to force myself to sit with the feelings otherwise I will put them on someone else to attempt to get them to take care of them and that isn't fair. I'm wondering if you have any input on this or can relate and if this intensity decreases over time so that it is easier to focus on those soothing, more self connected feelings? Because right now I'm not sure I am capable of doing that until I can just learn to sit with my feelings first. I like to think of this "emotional pain body" as my inner child and the unhealed wounds. Sometimes the child takes over and takes control, but I am becoming much more aware and would like to get to the point where it is not so overwhelming and where I don't allow the child to act in ways that are detrimental to the well being of the adult me, the conscious me :)
You are doing great! This is a process. You are in the beginning stages which is amazing! My advice is to not "resist" or "judge" yourself when your pain body kicks in. Just try to start to "watch it" as soon as you react. When you watch it rather than engage in the "false power" of it you start to be able to relax and allow it as if it is not you. Over time you will react less and less ;-)
Candace van Dell thanks so much!!! I will continue to work on it!!
Kate Grace I can totally relate, may I suggest rcommitting to a daily practice that allows you to connect with the deeper aspect of yourself that can watch your thoughts and emotions, Rupert Spira has a lot of videos here on YT that has been a god send for me, another on would be Mooji or Adyashanti, their work blends so well with what Candice is offering, I can't wait to start using all of them together!
Makoa thank.you!!! I will check them out!!
Kate Grace I hope you're doing well. I just wanted to say that what began the process of healing for me (and I'm 55 years old, I've struggled with healing myself for many years, but "winging it" with no help except what would be presented to me by...I suppose...the Universe) was to mentally and emotionally going back to that little girl I used to be, giving her a hug and love, telling her she was great, that all will eventually work out, that she did nothing wrong, that she is beautiful. It was an emotional cleansing that I can't compare to anything else, and helped me immensely. Blessings and love to you.
Wonderful consul...it is a miracle, to one be aware..conscience by logic of being aware... there for= I am... thank-you for disclosure of evolution imperative.
And.. to all you out there!.. do not misplace your sense.. you don't need distraction..you need Good will.
See, hear, feel balance..personalized on logic
Finally, a real coping technique I can use that is explained in detail.
Literally this happened to me again yesterday. Speaking in depth to a girlfriend of mine. Resonates beyond belief
You could've been describing my life experience, so similar to yours. In my experience when ever I get triggered or something is bothering me negatively I ask myself where did this feeling originate where did it happen the first time is this feeling have to do with what's going on now or in the past, chances are if it's triggered has to do with an emotional upset from your childhood or early adulthood . When I identify the trauma and connect it to its origin then I I mediately feel a release and the negative emotion goes away like wave, this prevents me from being triggered with that same trauma in the future because I've already identified where is the trigger what created. Once the triggers identified and connected you can release it. When a childhood trauma trigger is released you never have to feel that pain again you can have the memory without the pain that to me is a symbol that I have cleared that emotional trauma and it no longer affect me emotionally. A small example for me was my roommate locked me out the apartment by accident but the hurt feeling that I had I couldn't understand I thought why does this bother me so much it doesn't make sense then I remembered it's a trigger where did it originate I went back to when I was five years old my mother used to lock me out when she didn't want to deal with me or my brothers, as soon as I remembered that memory I was like oh that's where this feeling is coming from, the emotion immediately dissipated I can now have that memory and not feel that pain. The next time I'm locked out I will not be triggered because I will mediately know I've already cleared it and I don't feel pain . For me just recognizing a negative emotion is a trigger doesn't correct it until I connect it . By doing this I feel it heals my inner child as well as my adult. It's a twofer heal your past and your future with one connection. Thank you for bringing awareness to the people most people don't realize they're walking through life reacting to their childhood traumas I just wanted to to share what I had learned for my triggers that works for me anyway. I too can be grateful for my traumas because it made me who I am it made me search for truth and understanding and I like who I have become. Thank you so much much love to you and all beings. Peace love and harmony to all.
Agreed , connecting to the root cause when it was first established before the pattern evolved into a pain body is helpful in understanding the triggers and bring us out of the current emotional feelings
Thanks. I am a yogini myself. I love your work and as I clean myself and move into my dark knight of the soul, your work gives me immense freedom. Please let me know if emotional pain body can manifest as a physical disease of any sort.
Just found your channel. It helps so much! My spirit has been feeling lost in the darkness. I tend to be misunderstood easily & it makes me feel pretty overreactive & a bother 😔 but ill learn to find a purpose for it... tysfm💕💖
Amazing this is exactly what I thought the emotions hurt like a ball of pain rolling round my stomachs before I start the thinking thought x
OMG you have no idea how much I needed to hear this... Thank you very much
Thanks for this video. So sweet, you made a shock sound and your dog looked up to see if you were okay 😍
When I listen to you I sense your overwhelming honesty ♡
You are incredibly articulate and effective at describing and teaching these things. One of the best I've heard. Thank you.
Wow this is ridiculous , thia is the first time that i am hearing this and i really needed this video . I had no idea of other people feel this too.
Thank u so much.l feel that a clear conscious is like a soft pillow.U sleep soundly on it!!
Fantastic, this makes a lot of sense and really helps me. Thank you so much for your powerful videos
I had Trauma , attempted murder in 2009, than PTSD, & alot of growth , journalling from my triggers than processing which have been very hard, I've had an enlightenment , also I've given my life to God , my friends & Family haven't been there for me though , it seems to be part of the journey ,is this what you mean ,pain body
Great job Candace!
Thank you!
This just healed me . . .
If starts at 4:18
Thank you, this idiot babbles on...
When it takes over me and I do stupid things I feel embarrassed and then I remember that this is common in everyone and there is no shame on having wounds.
Awesome video thank you Candace.
you’re amazing for making these videos!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
I identify tremendously 🙏☺️
Thank you so much Candace :)
I know this is cliche as per what u said in the video but I swear how did you know I was going through this? THANK YOU for explaining this. Please envison me giving you a bunch of sunflowers as a thanks :)
Carly Pastore awwwww thank you! That's so sweet XO
Does it feel like your stomach is turned?
Yesterday and this morning I wondered if thoughts cause emotions or emotions cause thoughts abd then I see this😂
wonderful!!!
Thanks I will try this !
wonderful!
I've had mine active and blocking for about 10 years. I need it gone.
Can you make a video on Maladaptive Daydreaming? I'm highly sensitive and was traumatized at the age of 4. Since then I'm suffering from it.
I really wanna know your views on Maladaptive Daydreaming & could it be possible that it's some how connected to highly sensitivity..
Maybee you want to look into dissociative disorders (derealisation, depersonalisation, maybee even DDNOS and DESNOS). Best wishes!
True🌸🌸thank You🌸
Same here oh God..
Maladaptive Daydreaming sounds like a medical term, that pathologizes what might actually be a very natural human tendency. Moderm psychiatry is very good at that. at pathologizing everything that makes us human and at making us feel defective and wrong for being who we are. I won't go into all of this in this short comment, but one has to understand where this mindset of modern psychiatric mindset came from. It is VERY intimately tied to an economic system that dominates our times, that is concerns only with producing more and creating profits, turning us into productive machines no matter what the cost. and if something in our humanity isn't productive to this economic system then it is pathologized and medicated to bring us back to the productive "normal" (that they decided for us we should be like).
In that regard, I would highly recommend to you a very profound video here on youtube called 'Jeannie Zandi - Show 31', which I think will give you a whole new perspective, much more humane perspective on yourself and on life (you can search for the title, or you can also find it on my channel under the playlists 'jeannie zandi' or the playlist 'wisdom'). If you do watch it, I recommend doing so with a quiet mind and without distractions. Yes, It IS that special and important of a video. And the peaceful still energy that comes from her can be very very healing and clarifying and enlightening, if you allow it and don't come with a mind burdended with pre-conceived ideas (it is VERY different from most buzz words and new age positivity stuff and quick fixes that are so popular today).
I would like you to be my spiritual coach.I really need help even though you gave me some powerful tools on this video.Thanks a lot...I can 100% relate.
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Do you have any suggestions on how to be the Observer or how to be able to maintain presence through the emotion??.. I am not very clear on this
You have to take drastic measures to solve your problems I'm bugging everybody to the point of life or death
This makes complete sense to me now, thankyou
I'm so happy I found your channel. I'm working through A LOT of issues that came to a head around 12 months ago. Working with a counsellor, reading information and watching your videos is helping me find an authentic self that has been hidden since childhood.
Richard Grannon ( @spartanlifecoach ) talks about EMOTIONAL FLASHBACKS where you're unconsciously triggered back into a place of hurt and pain..often and in my case the original wound of rejection and abandonment and invalidation. Would you say the emotional pain body reaction to triggers and an emotional flashback are the same idea? I've struggled for years with these issues but only recently became conscious enough to recognise what was going on.
Thanks so much for your videos. This year is my year of growth and understanding.
I love this video, however , after losing my brother a couple of months ago it’s feels waaaay more challenging to be conscious and to master the emotion when my emotional pain body feels its at its highest level. I feel very angry, sad, irritable, moody, and EXHAUSTED layered on to my childhood trauma and healing that. I’m sure theres an opportunity to turn this pain into wisdom or is there? Is any of this different because it’s grief and loss?
Thankyou Candace ☺️
I am a little confused because I feel like on my journey to nonresistance I am not only resisting my resistance but I also try to excessively feel all the sensations often with the mindset to finaly handle/finish them for good. It does feel very pushy and I sometimes feel like I can't catch up (somaticly/emotionally/intellectually) with myself. I wish you could talk about that.
Water of Babylon let them be what they are. Total surrender is to not TRY to do or finish anything but instead to love and accept it all exactly as it is. In this state, it will start to heal itself in its own time. 🙏🏻
such a great video!!
Candice. Ty for the video. My experience is that the pain body is so dense, that after years of Vippassana Meditation, some emotions come through, I.e. sadness, frustration, but mostly what feels like blocks, and they are wound -up and tight. Seem so solid. I'm aware of shaking, TRE, and Bioenergetics, but have honestly run out of resources. Physically and emotionally abused as far back as can be recalled, but probably, by this persistence, earlier....in the crib. Any ideas? Ty and Namaste.
Thxs for ur wisdom Candace
Isn't this just another way of describing an emotional flashback that people with C-PTSD experience?
Oh God this is amazing!! Thank you!!!!
Hi Candace, this is a really helpful video, Thankyou. I have what feels like a very severe pain body at times. I've practised watching it but what I want to ask is do you go directly 'into' and feel the pain itself whilst retaining awareness or stay 'apart' and aware of it? This is where a bit of confusion lies for me. I sometimes go directly into the pain and stay there with it which initially helps and removes it to some extent but then I feel after a short period of time that a dark mood has descended upon me which can be hard to shake.
Cheers
I have dense pain body... im now to the point where im able to recognizing it... its just im having next to impossible to break to it... so it will take sone time. Ill still do it.. probably journal would help.
Great video-thanks!
Bless you
Bless you back! ;-)
Great video!!
NICE WORK CANDACE
Upbeat Buddha Thank you!!
I love your videos, thank you!
Thank You for this.
omg.... me in a nutshell thank you I appreciate you 😛💙
My pleasure XO
Thank you!
developing nature!
I have codependency issue. I start a relationship with one guy, but I recognize old pattern, that I'm not acting normal because I have a sence that he is colder than on the begging. And that's impossible to handle in some moments. It's scares me a lot! The worst thing is I can't break up. I just can't. And I have no choice except to stay in and heal myself throught that relationship. I got temperature because of worry! Any advice? Thank you in advance!!!
Thank you!! 🙏🏼💖
So here... how long does the pain body last prior from being triggered?... I am aware of it as the thoughts and emotion floating on me and persistent to get me on somber mood.. but im not losing my guard at this point. How long?
I knew it will trigger time to time, but how soon I can bypass it if I continue bringing my awareness to it?
I no longer understand this as words or letters, I just got the hang realizing this. Im still quite surprise about knowing this..
Liked listening
I disagree that these are "Negative Emotions." They just are. I don't feel in my experience that there needs to be put a label on these emotions. They serve a purpose which is very important. Grief and sadness assist in a person opening their heart. Anger assist a person in learning what their boundaries are. And all the emotions offer a gift to us. I just don't like it when people call their emotions negative. In my personal experience, I just feel that that is completely untrue. I embrace my emotions full heartedly.
Charli Haynes yes and they are still called negative emotions in this society. The point is that we ALL experience what has been deemed “negative emotion” and if you watched this video, you may have gathered that the entire point of my work is to upgrade this belief into seeing that nothing is negative or positive but just IS. Good job.
@@CandacevanDell Thank you!!💖
Sooo... I understand my pain body and to some degree I can see and feel when it arises but my actions are almost instinctive, It literally takes over the second it arises I can bring my self back with some time and effort but I just can't stop the initial explosion and it's quite literally an explosion which leaves me looking loopy when I explode and then bring myself back moments later. Any advice?
That is exactly right. It takes over like an explosion. The next step is to recognize that and not judge it. The next step after that is to recognize it, don't judge it and then start to step away and observe it WHILE it is happening. The less you resist it and the more you accept it, the less power it will have over you eventually. You are doing great! The awareness of it is the beginning of change ;-)
Candace van Dell thank you so much for the reply ☺️ and for the video.
I will work on accepting it. I guess before I felt that accepting it was allowing its thoughts and actions but somehow reading your response gave me some epiphany and I get it. Now, in a weird way, I'm sort of looking forward to seeing my pain body when it next pops up.
Your a beautiful person doing a beautiful job 👍 xx
great video this is helping me :
How do you stop the emotion from boiling over?
Hey Doc you looking pretty I want give a hug 🤗 🤗 🤗.
You're an Earth Angel
“It” & you, are the same, of course.