Great advice! I hadn’t realized before that you want to try to avoid having your nagging and prompts be their trigger to do something. Thanks for taking the time to make this! 😊
Thanks for the video! I don’t have kids but am learning as I prepare for kids someday. What’s amazing is the depth of your psychological understanding, in conjunction with your Biblical connections. The Bible explains the metaphysics behind human nature designed by God, which is revealed in psychology, and you seem to be a natural pro at this!
I have older children (11, 9 and 5) that I really need to work on this with. Our primary issue is keeping a tidy floor in their bedrooms. Would you say this as a habit is too much to start with? Would you focus on one item, such as keeping shoes in the right place or could it be beneficial to focus on this area all together? Hope that makes sense!
This is going to sound eye-roll-inducing; I only say that because for me, I rejected this concept for the first several years of parenting. If their rooms are overwhelming to tidy, it’s because they have too many toys. If it can’t be easily cleaned in 10 min, I’d reevaluate how much stuff they have If this isn’t the issue, then working the habit isn’t too much to start with. Though to benefit you in all aspects, I’d consider the habit of orderliness. Everything has a place, when you’re done with it; when you go to put it down, put it back in its place. Thsi will help everywhere in the house So I’d make sure they had ample space to store their toys and items and they knew where each item went Before they leave an area, don’t allow the next activity to take place of the area they were in is still a mess This caused me to have to change my awareness and be more involved. It was so difficult initially. If I knew we had a dentist appointment I’d have to consider the amount of time to get ready and leave, but also the time it would take to put the house back in order before we left. I have stopped lots of times as baby is needy, I’m sorry for my choppy thoughts!
This seems so simple hearing you say it, but sure was enlightening for me, thank you! What would you do or consequence would you have for say a five or six year old that refuses to do that task or what you tell them to?
This is happening right now at my feet as I stand here to type this- I told them to pick up their toys and they did not. I said, “I am setting the timer for 5 minutes. If they are not picked up, I will put them in a bag for a long time and hide them where you can’t find them.” This is a consequence they know I’ll follow-through with Long ago I’d say, “or I’ll throw them away!” And of course I wasn’t going to, and they knew it. So if you don’t mind, perhaps give me a specific scenario and I can try to help elaborate more Otherwise, the video called, how i discipline, answers this well.
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Great advice! I hadn’t realized before that you want to try to avoid having your nagging and prompts be their trigger to do something. Thanks for taking the time to make this! 😊
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This was helpful to me. Thank you.
Thanks for the video! I don’t have kids but am learning as I prepare for kids someday. What’s amazing is the depth of your psychological understanding, in conjunction with your Biblical connections. The Bible explains the metaphysics behind human nature designed by God, which is revealed in psychology, and you seem to be a natural pro at this!
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I have older children (11, 9 and 5) that I really need to work on this with. Our primary issue is keeping a tidy floor in their bedrooms. Would you say this as a habit is too much to start with? Would you focus on one item, such as keeping shoes in the right place or could it be beneficial to focus on this area all together? Hope that makes sense!
This is going to sound eye-roll-inducing; I only say that because for me, I rejected this concept for the first several years of parenting.
If their rooms are overwhelming to tidy, it’s because they have too many toys.
If it can’t be easily cleaned in 10 min, I’d reevaluate how much stuff they have
If this isn’t the issue, then working the habit isn’t too much to start with.
Though to benefit you in all aspects, I’d consider the habit of orderliness.
Everything has a place, when you’re done with it; when you go to put it down, put it back in its place.
Thsi will help everywhere in the house
So I’d make sure they had ample space to store their toys and items and they knew where each item went
Before they leave an area, don’t allow the next activity to take place of the area they were in is still a mess
This caused me to have to change my awareness and be more involved. It was so difficult initially. If I knew we had a dentist appointment I’d have to consider the amount of time to get ready and leave, but also the time it would take to put the house back in order before we left.
I have stopped lots of times as baby is needy, I’m sorry for my choppy thoughts!
This seems so simple hearing you say it, but sure was enlightening for me, thank you! What would you do or consequence would you have for say a five or six year old that refuses to do that task or what you tell them to?
This is happening right now at my feet as I stand here to type this-
I told them to pick up their toys and they did not. I said, “I am setting the timer for 5 minutes. If they are not picked up, I will put them in a bag for a long time and hide them where you can’t find them.”
This is a consequence they know I’ll follow-through with
Long ago I’d say, “or I’ll throw them away!” And of course I wasn’t going to, and they knew it.
So if you don’t mind, perhaps give me a specific scenario and I can try to help elaborate more
Otherwise, the video called, how i discipline, answers this well.
what bibical parenting books do you think is best?
The Bible, really. But I love everything by Sally Clarkson
Educating the wholehearted child and
Heartfelt discipline are two great ones
This is the mistake I make, letting habit lapse