Wow. Family members are so worried about Kyle's reputation and don't give a damn about OP's safety. Typical. NTA. She did what she had to do in order to stay safe.
Agreed. Given how things are going at that rate, OP will move to another city to get away from her mother, stepfather, stepbrother, and her family, find solace with/marry a guy who's tyrannical and violent, fall pregnant while locked in her abusive relationship, then, file for divorce, escape to another state with the help of cops and DV social workers, stay at a women's shelter until she finds a job and an apartment, disconnect her phone number, deactivate her social media accounts, and change her identity, for her own safety plus, to avoid making the same her mother is making, OP will need stay away from potential new partners and stepkids, concentrate on raising her kid, protect his best interests, and create a stable and safe home environment for him, as a good single mom.⚠️
S2: I don’t agree with the last comment. At the end of the day, the sister has her own family who could help her out. Her biological family isn’t her family, whether people want to acknowledge that or not. She was adopted into another family, which means they’re her family (i.e. the people who raised/adopted her).
"At the end of the day, the sister has her own family who could help her out" Helping out with a decade or 2 of savings vs a full frickin $6 million in inheritance from the grandparents who had zero access to the adopted child is a big difference. Unless the adoption was an open one there is no reason to suggest that the grandparents would even know their adopted grandchilds name, let alone how a lawyer could get in contact with her in event of their deaths to leave money for her. Either it's a completely fake story or the OP is just a greedy cow. At $6 million she could pay off her college education and still have enough to buy a halfway decent house and retire at a very young age no problem.
It's not about being greedy, she just met this person n has no feelings only as a person SHE JUST MET. If mom wants help she can help with adopted parents. OP isn't her parent n had NO ties to her. She has every right to keep what her grandparents left for HER.
Well said. OP seriously needs to go full NO CONTACT with her mother, stepfather, stepbrother, and her family, move to another state to start her life afresh, disconnect her phone number, and deactivate her social media accounts.
Everything the OP said sounded like a greedy person making lame excuses for not giving any of it away. $6 million is a lot, and it's not like the half sister even asked for it, the mother did. University education isn't nothing in costs, and by her own admission her own parents were in a far better place financially that her half sisters parents. Even if she didn't give her enough for a house or something, paying for a few years of college isn't exactly that much to ask for. Also it's NOT the OP's money, it was the grandparents money given to her - she didn't make that money herself to say "oh ye that's mine and I worked hard for it, why should I even think of sharing it?" The entire point she made about the grandparents knowing about the half sister sounded incredibly weak - knowing she exists and being able to find her without the half sister reaching out first are entirely different things. Once a closed adoption happens there is no contact from the new parents to know where to send the money, or even to know what the name of the adopted child is if the new parents give it a name themselves after the adoption process is done. ie the grandparents would have no clue how to contact the adopted half sister regardless of how they felt, and might have feared to push their daughter away by even mentioning the adoption while they were still alive. All things considered the OP sounds like a very selfish person just making a lot of very feeble excuses for being greedy. If it was like $60k, or even $600k I could maybe sympathise if she had already made plans for college and a house and what not, but at $6 million to flat out say no without even considering is just PURE greed at work. That sort of person is not someone I would trust with my money as a friend or a partner.
@@mnomadvfxAt the end of the day, it is still HER money that HER grandparents gave to her. It doesn't matter how much it is. It will be nice if she helps her, but she if she doesn't want to help her, she is not wrong!
As an adopted child, i would never ask the child my bio parents kept for money. I had great parents who loved me very much. I would never shame them like that. But i would, and do have a relationship with my bio half sister. We aren't close, but we do keep in touch
"As an adopted child, i would never ask the child my bio parents kept for money" That's not what the OP said. She said her mother asked her. With $6 million to pull from it isn't worth damaging the relationship with her mother to be a miser over paying for the half sisters college education when you still have enough to buy a house and retire on at 20 almost.
@mnomadvfx op, also didn't include the other kid in the discussion. I, personally, would be horrified if a bio parent pushed me on and made demans on my behalf with their kept child. And while i haven't been offered money there were a number of inappropriate requests made by my bio mom and her kept child. Truth is. Most of us don't want anything to do with these entitled bio people. We weren't good enough to keep so why would they think we want their pity crap.
@@mnomadvfxIt is her money that her grandparents gave to her. Her mother has no right to tell her what to do with it. The mother is a nurse, she can help her if she wants.
I'm the 1st in the story, this is the first time I hear someone find it cute that a man is bothering a woman. P.S. If someone doesn't like you regardless of gender, take a hint.
It's simply not realistic. Even if they weren't your blood family, the women would find it creepy or entirely inappropriate and put their foot down until his parents dealt with him. The one who shared her number was a creep too.
That relationship is headed for failure regardless of who compromised and who didn't. If she followed him, shed resent him. If she didn't and he still stays, shes going to end up cheating as military wives are notorious for infidelity regardless of rather they serve themselves or a spouse is serving in the military. There's no real way to salvage this now or in the future unless both of you give everything up and start a business together that won't hit it big for another 15 years and both be happy to do it, and he doesn't seem built for that life though military people are adaptable, and she can't as women are not wired to go that far for a man they have to convince themselves and him, that they're in love, and that's an effort that takes energy for women though they have logic run on Sony's emotion engine CPU designed only to run through the PC, and since it's more of a forced effort than a natural one, she couldn't make that decision without regretting it 3 seconds after she gave her consent. Yall need to break up and go your separate ways. Never to interact again.
Wow. Family members are so worried about Kyle's reputation and don't give a damn about OP's safety. Typical.
NTA. She did what she had to do in order to stay safe.
Agreed. Given how things are going at that rate, OP will move to another city to get away from her mother, stepfather, stepbrother, and her family, find solace with/marry a guy who's tyrannical and violent, fall pregnant while locked in her abusive relationship, then, file for divorce, escape to another state with the help of cops and DV social workers, stay at a women's shelter until she finds a job and an apartment, disconnect her phone number, deactivate her social media accounts, and change her identity, for her own safety plus, to avoid making the same her mother is making, OP will need stay away from potential new partners and stepkids, concentrate on raising her kid, protect his best interests, and create a stable and safe home environment for him, as a good single mom.⚠️
S2: I don’t agree with the last comment. At the end of the day, the sister has her own family who could help her out. Her biological family isn’t her family, whether people want to acknowledge that or not. She was adopted into another family, which means they’re her family (i.e. the people who raised/adopted her).
"At the end of the day, the sister has her own family who could help her out"
Helping out with a decade or 2 of savings vs a full frickin $6 million in inheritance from the grandparents who had zero access to the adopted child is a big difference.
Unless the adoption was an open one there is no reason to suggest that the grandparents would even know their adopted grandchilds name, let alone how a lawyer could get in contact with her in event of their deaths to leave money for her.
Either it's a completely fake story or the OP is just a greedy cow.
At $6 million she could pay off her college education and still have enough to buy a halfway decent house and retire at a very young age no problem.
It's not about being greedy, she just met this person n has no feelings only as a person SHE JUST MET. If mom wants help she can help with adopted parents. OP isn't her parent n had NO ties to her. She has every right to keep what her grandparents left for HER.
#1 Op is not a member of their family. So they jut laughed it off. Too bad Kyle is such a jerk , he deserves what he gets.
Well said. OP seriously needs to go full NO CONTACT with her mother, stepfather, stepbrother, and her family, move to another state to start her life afresh, disconnect her phone number, and deactivate her social media accounts.
This is where you go to the cops
You threaten them with that and it's amazing how fast they'll switch sides
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth
story 2: there is a difference between sharing and helping out,
but in the end it is ops money so it is her choice
Everything the OP said sounded like a greedy person making lame excuses for not giving any of it away.
$6 million is a lot, and it's not like the half sister even asked for it, the mother did.
University education isn't nothing in costs, and by her own admission her own parents were in a far better place financially that her half sisters parents.
Even if she didn't give her enough for a house or something, paying for a few years of college isn't exactly that much to ask for.
Also it's NOT the OP's money, it was the grandparents money given to her - she didn't make that money herself to say "oh ye that's mine and I worked hard for it, why should I even think of sharing it?"
The entire point she made about the grandparents knowing about the half sister sounded incredibly weak - knowing she exists and being able to find her without the half sister reaching out first are entirely different things.
Once a closed adoption happens there is no contact from the new parents to know where to send the money, or even to know what the name of the adopted child is if the new parents give it a name themselves after the adoption process is done.
ie the grandparents would have no clue how to contact the adopted half sister regardless of how they felt, and might have feared to push their daughter away by even mentioning the adoption while they were still alive.
All things considered the OP sounds like a very selfish person just making a lot of very feeble excuses for being greedy.
If it was like $60k, or even $600k I could maybe sympathise if she had already made plans for college and a house and what not, but at $6 million to flat out say no without even considering is just PURE greed at work.
That sort of person is not someone I would trust with my money as a friend or a partner.
@@mnomadvfxAt the end of the day, it is still HER money that HER grandparents gave to her. It doesn't matter how much it is. It will be nice if she helps her, but she if she doesn't want to help her, she is not wrong!
As an adopted child, i would never ask the child my bio parents kept for money.
I had great parents who loved me very much.
I would never shame them like that.
But i would, and do have a relationship with my bio half sister. We aren't close, but we do keep in touch
"As an adopted child, i would never ask the child my bio parents kept for money"
That's not what the OP said.
She said her mother asked her.
With $6 million to pull from it isn't worth damaging the relationship with her mother to be a miser over paying for the half sisters college education when you still have enough to buy a house and retire on at 20 almost.
@mnomadvfx op, also didn't include the other kid in the discussion.
I, personally, would be horrified if a bio parent pushed me on and made demans on my behalf with their kept child.
And while i haven't been offered money there were a number of inappropriate requests made by my bio mom and her kept child.
Truth is. Most of us don't want anything to do with these entitled bio people. We weren't good enough to keep so why would they think we want their pity crap.
@@mnomadvfxIt is her money that her grandparents gave to her. Her mother has no right to tell her what to do with it. The mother is a nurse, she can help her if she wants.
I enjoyed the five minute video.
I'm the 1st in the story, this is the first time I hear someone find it cute that a man is bothering a woman.
P.S. If someone doesn't like you regardless of gender, take a hint.
It's simply not realistic.
Even if they weren't your blood family, the women would find it creepy or entirely inappropriate and put their foot down until his parents dealt with him.
The one who shared her number was a creep too.
I really enjoyy the storyyy
Story #2 FDB
The bible says go in private then go public if they don't listen so from where I'm standing the first OP did fine.
Story 4. We know it’s Covid. Yall need to stop elongating it to get the word count up.
Story two. Tell ur mother to pay for her since she cares so much not you. Don't let ur mother guilt trip you.
5:08 story 2
That relationship is headed for failure regardless of who compromised and who didn't. If she followed him, shed resent him. If she didn't and he still stays, shes going to end up cheating as military wives are notorious for infidelity regardless of rather they serve themselves or a spouse is serving in the military. There's no real way to salvage this now or in the future unless both of you give everything up and start a business together that won't hit it big for another 15 years and both be happy to do it, and he doesn't seem built for that life though military people are adaptable, and she can't as women are not wired to go that far for a man they have to convince themselves and him, that they're in love, and that's an effort that takes energy for women though they have logic run on Sony's emotion engine CPU designed only to run through the PC, and since it's more of a forced effort than a natural one, she couldn't make that decision without regretting it 3 seconds after she gave her consent. Yall need to break up and go your separate ways. Never to interact again.
Karma is a bitch