Its so sad to hear these stories. So many Muslims out there trying to avoid fitna by getting married only to find a different fitna within the marriage. May Allah guide as all Ameen.
I know many revert naive sisters who fell into the hands of those charlatan scammer monsters and suffered overseas. This topic needed to be addressed on behalf of our sisters who've been treated unjustly.
I agree with everything mentioned here however I have to mention a point that may have gotten overlooked. Many parents (or sons and daughters) agree with the marriage without batting an eyelid because they want their child to go to a foreign country (possibly out of greed). That's very unhealthy and blind. May Allah protect our brothers and sisters when tying the knot. Ameen.
I'm a South Asian & a guy from my village married a Romanian girl whom he met through internet & she reverted to Islam. He moved to Romania & they are now a happy family with kids, masha'Allah.
@@Sheen023 have he look ugly?? Sorry for ask this, in Europa we most men woth money aim only to asia, next years... Europe, usa, "white women", are so with feminism, that the men say, to married, is like kill yourself... Love, only exist, if you are supermen and then she think too, maybe i found some better.. some men say, maybe we have only 15% good women and 70% of women, try to become the top 20% of men, The 10/10 become the rich and beautiful and the 9/10, become the rich men, with not perfect bodys... Why asian men, take a roman girl, if many roman men say, asia wifes are bether.. Have Them maybe The same hobbys or Jobs... Like he blond women... Its hard to understand.. If God plan this and this is good for this world and Paradies, elhamdulillah...i wanna understand the human point!
@@itachiphoenix33 he is very handsome and theirs was a love story. 99.9 % of my people are happy with our women here. They're so modest and make good mothers for our children. Only very very rare cases of men look for European women, because they find them attractive or because they fell in love while staying in Europe. Sorry to say, but White women have very bad image over here. Just imagine, princess Diana was rejected by an ordinary Pakistani woman from marrying her ordinary son.
@@Sheen023 mashAllah... Iam turkish, if i found no women in Turkey, i try maybe Uigure women to find, because Kommunism mother, asian mother, islam mother... Malaysia and Indonesia are Options too... Yes, maybe some german wife or American is the best muslima in the world now, i dont talk about nation or genetic, nobody is bether, black or white, ecept who fear God more, this are the best person... And to fear God or to respect the family and respect and love the husband, is her more rare... All wanna here the best and highprise... But the world dont work Like that... And if the people dont start to ever look the own realtionship with Allah, make the money more and Help the family, they start to look wrong thinks and become a bad mindset.. And i love asian disciplin or to accept the Situation, controll the emotions....maybe a bit like a robot, but this is better, then are ever shameless or chaotic with emotions... MashAllah, i hope Allah hold this in Asia and make europe like asia... Africa i hear good women too... But i try to safe a little bit the asian culture... But if a black women have Nur and spirit, maybe its a option too, i Hope Allah make it easy for me or choose for me, Amin!
I am Russian, gonna marry Mauritian Muslim guy and we will live in Canada (I would prefer Mauritius tho). Our meeting was a coincidence, in real life (not in Internet). I am having nice relationships with my fiance's parents. I hope it will work for both of us. Inshallah
In my case I am not feeling scared because: 1)I know English (not very well but I can communicate with people for sure and still have time to improve) 2) I have my own apartmentment in my home country. If the situation is too bad I always can go back 3) I have known my fiance for a long time.. And as I see he is not hiding things. I know his schedule, his life style even though we are living in different countries right now. He is not shady.
Btw I dont recommend to get pregnant very quickly to all girls, doesnt matter if they live in their home countries or they move somewhere. Because it is the most vulnerable situation in every woman's life. It is better to live being married for 1-2 years at least and then plan a child, not earlier (but it is just my personal opinion)
I hope so too sister. Everyone seems 'nice' at the beginning including the potential in-laws, as westerners we tend to be more straight forward and genuine. Unfortunately they have fined tuned the skill of 'making a good impression' in Muslim countries. Sorry to be skeptical but that has been my observation in Muslim countries I have lived in. I hope you have someone you can trust who has met him and his family.
@@yasminm5385 stop lying. Clearly you have issues or you wouldn't be spreading false information about muslims. There are just as many fake people in the west as any Muslim country or even more. Also I'm not sure if you're a westerner or an immigrant because westerners have the name jasmine not yasmin
@@yasminm5385 Thank you, sister. I have my own fears still because moving to another country is very risky. But I trust my fiance. Luckily my back is covered, I have been kinda Independent the whole my life. So I hope that everything should be fine). We are not conservative conservative Muslims, both will be working. Both are kinda lonely because the guy moved to Canada and all his family is in Mauritius.
Well I must say this worked great for me Mash a Allah. I am British and met my Arabic Emirati Husband when I was working in UAE. My Father was not pleased of course as he was stereotyping him and thought he would take more wives. But he met him and his family and all my Family eventually welcomed him and his accepted me. This was unusual in the early 2000s. Now 21 years later we are still strong Mash a Allah. I became a practicing Muslim went to Hajj etc. Allah sent me to this Muslim Country and I could not be happier. Alhumdullilah it was in my favour. But I know others who did the same and it didnt go so well. Qadr Allah I guess. I am so grateful. Subhan a Allah.
Assalamu alaikum warrahmatullah. I just want to thank you for this comment. Thank you. It gives me hope. May Allah increase the love and bond in your marriage, and make it beneficial for you fid dunya wal Akhirah.
@Stranger Random stranger Hi well I would say U.A.E. The Sun shines always. Lots of Masjids and you hear the Athan. Head cover is not frowned upon. It's just more bright and Beautiful with lots of Cultutres and I met some amazing people. It's certainly what I call Home now. Thanks for asking. Stay Blessed.
@Stranger Random stranger Hi again. Yes unfortunately it is true. They have Private Helicopters private Islands and Private Parties. You can imagine the rest.
In the UK it is mostly men who go to a Muslim country to pick up and bring back here, although some women desperate for marriage do this also, the number is small, the women who come here from abroad for marriage generally are not respected because it is commonly understood that they have come here because they think the west is the road to el dorado, and these women are referred to as 'take aways' a man marries and those around him ask, is she a 'takeaway' very degrading but, if your going to degrade yourself by leaving a muslm country to marry a random guy on holiday in yours, then what do you expect, Men 'believe' women from Muslim countries are more likely to be happy with less, not question them, will be more inclined to accept them if their unattractive, poor, still live at home etc etc etc, because their just happy that they will get out of their country, whereas they don't want to bother with a woman who will refuse to live with his mommy and daddy, a woman who enforces her islamic rights, or leaves if she doesn't get them. The tables are turning slightly, from what I have seen and heard, these women that are brought from back home, have cottoned onto the above and have retaliated, now chances are, if you can get a women here, there is a high possibility YOU the man will get screwed over, they will show your their whites and flutter their eyelashes and then...... they'll be gone, or they'll be demanding money for their family, I have seen it, but I do not feel sorry for either. I think that both these men and women deserve each other, the man is trying to take advantage of the woman and so the woman is trying to take advantage of him, its like a competition now on who will do the other dirty, what kind of woman or man leaves a Muslim country to go to a kafir country? for marriage? like you couldn't get married back home , like no one in the whole country? no respect for these people and I am glad at least in the UK it is now really hard to bring someone here. I heard a long time ago, a pakistani man went to morocco and met a beautiful moroccan girl, he married her and brought her back here, he said she changed and became evil, I'm like, she always was, no self respecting Muslim woman marries a randomer on holiday and now self respecting muslim man marries this way either, were you expecting her to be a stay at home mom? idiot
LMFAOO that muslim man from Australia deserved everything that came his way. He rejected pious muslim women from Morocco (Hijabi) and opted for a beautiful woman instead who made his life hell...YOU reap what you sow...
Only bitter western feminist believing evil sisters would say that. U think you know everything but you don't. It's encouraged in islam to go and explore, travel, migrate.
I have lost trust in imams and Muslim Sharia council in London.. my in laws want me to leave my husband for their own desires and cultural reasons .they dont follow Islam they follow culture we were very happy in our marriage but they are forcing us to break and causing fitna between my husband and myself .. they threaten my husband and blackmail him and turned him against me im broken by their zulm but no one is helping me .our imams have a title but not willing to help our ummah who are suffering oppression injustice under the hands of zaalim.
Am stake in Egypt unable to go back home since I married him and moved to Egypt am very worried even though he's not an abusive husband I miss my mom back home alot depressing
@Stranger Random stranger asalaamu Alaikom, yes, of course there are SO many issues to discuss, I understand that. This issue (in my opinion) has such a knock on effect for the Ummah... After all, creating families is the most important root out of which a healthy spiritual life can grow. A strong Ummah is only as strong as individual families are strong. Healthy marriage is VITAL. So... to get back to what brother Gabriel was talking about... It's crucial that brothers and sisters enter marriage in the most serious, sincere, respectful and honest way possible. This is a HUGE topic. HUGE.
This is a thing one sees time and time again happening in the UK. Some Indopak men find women from their native countries to marry and bring them over- the idea is that such women will be easier to control amongst other warped notions. I see it so much, the man divorces his British wife and thus goes "back home" to pick a wife like a cherry. The girl's family are just overly eager to send their daughter to this rich country (possibly paving the way for the others to come over too). Sometimes they don't care whether he is 50 years old with 5 kids... anything goes. He may have been an abuser but even then he finds it easy to find a wife there due to his British passport. When such a marriage starts to go haywire, the sister is stuck- she can't speak the language and she is literally trapped. The worst is if she is divorced and there is no one of her family her. It's terrible- they end up living in bad conditions. I would always advise brothers and sisters from the west to always marry within your country folk- the fitn are rising here and you need a spouse that knows the society inside out- the children are desperately in need of parents that can help them navigate through these societal turmoils they are currently facing. How will a villager in Bangladesh, for example, appreciate the challenges of our youth over here? Think about the future of the ummah please.
Then teach her the women, dont be like rappers, stop talk feminism-sh*t from then 3d wave and 4d wave... Wtf, i take a girl from my country, my sister wanna a men from our village, but we 2 live in Germany, and all friends are muslims... But yes, european muslims... Because this, many people, wanna have, muslimcountry-muslims... And if i marry, i dont wanna come back to germany...
these things do happen. I know of a couple, once the man got his "papers" in the u.s, he would tell his wife to "go sell herself" in order to make money. all kindsa sickos on this earth.
These stories happen a lot between France and Algeria, marriage only for papers, whether it's a man or a woman. I will never understand how one can play with the heart and feelings of the others.
I think that one more issue is that in inter-cultural marriages, there's often not much in common. They speak different languages, have different interests and tastes. You get married out of physical attraction or a feeling of novelty, and within a few months, you get bored of it. If you're unable to find much in common and adapt to each other, it can become a big problem.
Yeah I may be facing this problem. I'm an American Muslim potentially marrying a pakistani woman, im pakistani as well. No issue on speaking my home language. The only problem is how our cultures will clash and whether or not there is any compatibility.
Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah. Barakullāh fik for your efforts. I have not come across anyone who took this fight of the battle of the hearts and minds in the topic of lgbt. How can I get in touch? There is a sister with a severly disabled child who lives in Malaysia. She was funded to come there for medical reasons for her child from Somalia and speaks not much Malay or English. My family knows her. She has no family there. We are currently do donations for her for a special wheelchair. Her story is really sad and has touched all those who donated. I hope you can reply brother, our sister needs us. Baraku Allāhu fik wa salaamu alaykum.
I’m not here to name ethnicities or countries but I was born and live in a strong western country. People did marry from my home country for our passport to live here and earn money. After getting the passport they change colours. Mainly from my experience the woman was neglected and the guy used her for the passport. Only successful marriages I’ve seen in my family from our home country is that they are part of our family and friends circle and we have background knowledge of their character since they were young.
When a Muslim man marries a women from a different ethnicity, are there any guidelines/nasihah he should follow? Every culture has its good and bad, is it OK for a husband (or wife) to use it against the other? Should the wife adapt to the husband's culture? Jazaak Allah khayr brother Gabriel.
What I advise is people should marry those who are close and similar to them as long as this is possible People are now suffering from consumerism we have to tackle this issues before it destroys our communities
I've realised that there are two main problems. Sometimes, we only think about the first part of the hadith of our beloved prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) about not turning down someone whose 'religion' you are pleased with but we forget the part of 'character' (“If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption”). That's maybe why we think that if the guy is a student of knowledge or a student of such and such sheikh then all will be well. It's like we assume that someone who has religion will automatically have good character even though our prophet mentioned them separately. Secondly, the friends of the guy need to be really honest when a girl's wali asks about him. The friends are the ones who spend time with him and they shouldn't hide even little doubts that they may have as those doubts could be signs of a bigger underlying problem with the guy's character. I think that one of the things that friends should consider is if they would be happy for this guy to marry their sister. If they wouldn't then they shouldn't reassure the wali that the guy would be good for his daughter.
YES, I've seen this pattern before, Pakistani and Bangladeshi marrying outside of their race.... which is not a problem if they can understand each other's culture but sometimes the issue is more than that... immigration issue, bringing the woman away from her family, and the problem that the brother said...
@Haarith Al-Awwal Indeed. The irony is that feminism is a reactionary movement that eventually spawned another reactionary movement (Red pill and its derivatives). Toxic men begets toxic women and so cycle continues...
I married someone I don't love and not sure about bringing him to a western country 😢. ..I feel his aim is to get green card and I worry I will be taken advantage of for that Reason 😭😭😭
I have met many people especially Pakistani and Bengali nationals who marry Eastern European women for purpose of gaining a Eu or British passport and they are treated badly and forced to adopt and Pakistani customs .
@@Sheen023 Yep. Many Pakistanis are willing to go to great lengths to get their hands on Western passports. And very rarely do such marriages work out.
@@Sheen023 yes really they get passport then marry a Pakistani women from Pakistan without telling the first wife and bring the Pakistani wife from Pakistan pretending to be his sister or cousin astaghfirullah.. I know of one lady a Romanian who married a Pakistani when the man was refused a passport or stay in Britain he took her to Pakistan gave her a child and she had a child from first marriage she is forced into Pakistan culture and cannot return to Romania because her 2nd child is a Pakistani national.
So shouldn't this advice also be sent towards Muslim governments and their law enforcement and immigration authorities? Little people at the bottom may get the message but enforcement and proper rulings come from the government.
Jazak Allah Khair gor your guidance. Your exactly right and I know a story that the brother looked exceptional. Highly educated, had deed, and supposedly never married. This brother had many secrets including a non curable disease, previous marriage, and he did not have his papers as well. I think having this knowledge, asking the right questions, and even having a background check is necessary. We are not living in a world of 50 years. Hidden zalems. This applies to both genders since I saw how a poor brother married a sister who abused him which he lost everything including his health. You need to be your advocate and attorney.
As a guy marrying from back home just makes it seem like you settled in my opinion tbh lol. Usually the guys who do it got tired of constantly being rejected by girls in America so they catch a flight and find a wife back home in one summer, knowing it won’t be that hard as most women “back home” find a foreign passport very appealing regardless of what you look like or how much money u make. It’s like taking the easy way out and you gave up basically.
Assalamualaikum brother Your right I went to imams for help also the Sharia council for help .not one imam helped me to mediate .my husband's parents threw me out of my husband's home and forcing us to stay apart and took away our marital rights ..even Sharia council said we cant do anything to mediate .So my in laws are getting away with zulm oppression and injustice .
@Moo Miller Kevin isn't about red pill if anything he is bigger than the red pill. He is non muslim so he will at times say things that are wrong but the judgement of modern woman as a whole is pretty spot on.
Move with some one I don’t know oh heck no I would make a visit for one week or two weeks first and see what’s going on there first before I can move in also make sure I have a back up from family so it is for them to locate if they need to but even that option may be a trap and some people don’t care about their daughters.
Mankind has gotten from God Cuma and Sabath so you can beat the cycle if proper. One verse says that you look like kings in heavon to eachother. So it also motivates that way. You get this info how ? By repeatable remembering God God states in Koran and forsure we made the Koran easy to remember. By just thinking always positive can get to you. There are letters none knows except Allah. Selamun aleykum
Here is a thought. What is the point of a sharia that intervenes in the most just and fair way that doesn't have any power to enforce anything. You have spoken about punishment and mahkama briefly but I think that is the main point. There has to be punishment and there has to be mahkama and jurists must have the power to enforce these. Otherwise why would anyone do anything they say when they are not even afraid of God or has justified for themselves whatever they are doing
I feel like while marrying a man we should investigate how he treats his sub-ordinates. And sadly almost all so called Muslim countries have corrupt judicial system.
True,generally there is a mix of secular law and some components of sharia which results in injustice and disaster. Sharia is an entire system with different components countering issues.
@@123-wf3dn its not rude I'm looking for wife too. i been to egypt many times like giza, cairo, 6th October, tahrir square. but the women too mean in egypt. they only want boyfriend haram!
I'm Pakistani American and married a Pakistani girl because most American Muslima are zaniyas. Alhamdulillah she's a wonderful person and I will make hijra after a few years with her to a Muslim nation
Bro most so called muslim men living in the West go out of their way to not only commit zinna with no Muslim women but brag about it with pride. After having their fun they demand virgin wife then make a bee line for hijab women when predictably they get reject for their munafiq behaviour go abroad to get virgin wife they feel entitled to.
bruh MOST FAMILIES are not ok with their daughters marrying overseas unless the guy is a relative or something, so if she’s going overseas to marry, I’d put the most blame on her, and then the family if they had control over the situation. It’s like picking a gangster for Marriage and then complaining about how he he abuse you. But the opposite is the real problem.
The example the brother gave in the video is of a woman marrying a student of knowledge. How was she supposed to know she was “picking a gangster”? If a guy is presenting himself as religious a woman will be more trusting of him. The guy was a fraud and worse that he was studying religion yet had a demonic side which he expressed after marriage. No woman could predict that.
@@SA41959 sure some of the blame falls in the man, but she and her family are to blame for most of it, especially her. I understand she might have gotten tricked, but that’s why she has a wali.
@@abdula16 Absolute nonsense. So her wali and herself are to blame for failing to exercise psychic abilities that would determine this chameleon is a sham? Beyond ridiculous.
@Stranger Random stranger Agree, but if he’s supposed to be a student of knowledge he may not be agreeable to spending time getting to know the woman. It depends on his religious view on the matter. This would then influence the woman and her family who may feel pressured into saying yes, taking into consideration that he is religious they would be more trusting of him and proceed with the marriage.
Blessings in marriage come if it is granted to you by Allah. Housing,visa,food and culture are irrelevant. Checklist before marriage: Have Allah given you izzah (honour)? Do you have a resolute mind(Quwwah)? Are you a concerned person regarding family system of the community?
A man said: O Messenger of Allah, should I tie up [my camel] and rely on Allah, or should I leave it loose and rely on Him? He said: “Tie it up and rely [on Allah].” Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (2517); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan at-Tirmidhi (2/610).
@Lion Imo, if you're financing her while living apart overseas and visiting her once or twice a year, that's beta. But if you get married abroad and make arrangements to start living together, it's not beta.
Its so sad to hear these stories. So many Muslims out there trying to avoid fitna by getting married only to find a different fitna within the marriage. May Allah guide as all Ameen.
People used to get married to complete the other half of their deen, now when they get married it just destroys their deen completely.
It's very tough and hard times now the devil is trying his hardest he knows his days are numbered be on your guard
I know many revert naive sisters who fell into the hands of those charlatan scammer monsters and suffered overseas. This topic needed to be addressed on behalf of our sisters who've been treated unjustly.
Are you being honest? How many can you count?
@@Sheen023same happens with naive brothers who become a victim of monster girls from back home..
@@Sheen023 many
@@IM-3000 unbelievable
I agree with everything mentioned here however I have to mention a point that may have gotten overlooked. Many parents (or sons and daughters) agree with the marriage without batting an eyelid because they want their child to go to a foreign country (possibly out of greed). That's very unhealthy and blind. May Allah protect our brothers and sisters when tying the knot. Ameen.
I'm a South Asian & a guy from my village married a Romanian girl whom he met through internet & she reverted to Islam.
He moved to Romania & they are now a happy family with kids, masha'Allah.
Masha Allah may you have a happy future together Ameen
@Good Personality don't you have women in your country? Well, be manly enough for one woman before crying around asking for 2 & 3 😏
@@Sheen023 have he look ugly?? Sorry for ask this, in Europa we most men woth money aim only to asia, next years... Europe, usa, "white women", are so with feminism, that the men say, to married, is like kill yourself... Love, only exist, if you are supermen and then she think too, maybe i found some better.. some men say, maybe we have only 15% good women and 70% of women, try to become the top 20% of men, The 10/10 become the rich and beautiful and the 9/10, become the rich men, with not perfect bodys...
Why asian men, take a roman girl, if many roman men say, asia wifes are bether..
Have Them maybe The same hobbys or Jobs... Like he blond women...
Its hard to understand..
If God plan this and this is good for this world and Paradies, elhamdulillah...i wanna understand the human point!
@@itachiphoenix33 he is very handsome and theirs was a love story. 99.9 % of my people are happy with our women here. They're so modest and make good mothers for our children.
Only very very rare cases of men look for European women, because they find them attractive or because they fell in love while staying in Europe.
Sorry to say, but White women have very bad image over here. Just imagine, princess Diana was rejected by an ordinary Pakistani woman from marrying her ordinary son.
@@Sheen023 mashAllah... Iam turkish, if i found no women in Turkey, i try maybe Uigure women to find, because Kommunism mother, asian mother, islam mother... Malaysia and Indonesia are Options too... Yes, maybe some german wife or American is the best muslima in the world now, i dont talk about nation or genetic, nobody is bether, black or white, ecept who fear God more, this are the best person... And to fear God or to respect the family and respect and love the husband, is her more rare... All wanna here the best and highprise... But the world dont work Like that... And if the people dont start to ever look the own realtionship with Allah, make the money more and Help the family, they start to look wrong thinks and become a bad mindset..
And i love asian disciplin or to accept the Situation, controll the emotions....maybe a bit like a robot, but this is better, then are ever shameless or chaotic with emotions...
MashAllah, i hope Allah hold this in Asia and make europe like asia... Africa i hear good women too... But i try to safe a little bit the asian culture... But if a black women have Nur and spirit, maybe its a option too, i Hope Allah make it easy for me or choose for me, Amin!
I am Russian, gonna marry Mauritian Muslim guy and we will live in Canada (I would prefer Mauritius tho). Our meeting was a coincidence, in real life (not in Internet). I am having nice relationships with my fiance's parents. I hope it will work for both of us. Inshallah
In my case I am not feeling scared because:
1)I know English (not very well but I can communicate with people for sure and still have time to improve)
2) I have my own apartmentment in my home country. If the situation is too bad I always can go back
3) I have known my fiance for a long time.. And as I see he is not hiding things. I know his schedule, his life style even though we are living in different countries right now. He is not shady.
Btw I dont recommend to get pregnant very quickly to all girls, doesnt matter if they live in their home countries or they move somewhere. Because it is the most vulnerable situation in every woman's life. It is better to live being married for 1-2 years at least and then plan a child, not earlier (but it is just my personal opinion)
I hope so too sister. Everyone seems 'nice' at the beginning including the potential in-laws, as westerners we tend to be more straight forward and genuine. Unfortunately they have fined tuned the skill of 'making a good impression' in Muslim countries. Sorry to be skeptical but that has been my observation in Muslim countries I have lived in. I hope you have someone you can trust who has met him and his family.
@@yasminm5385 stop lying. Clearly you have issues or you wouldn't be spreading false information about muslims. There are just as many fake people in the west as any Muslim country or even more. Also I'm not sure if you're a westerner or an immigrant because westerners have the name jasmine not yasmin
@@yasminm5385 Thank you, sister. I have my own fears still because moving to another country is very risky. But I trust my fiance. Luckily my back is covered, I have been kinda Independent the whole my life. So I hope that everything should be fine). We are not conservative conservative Muslims, both will be working. Both are kinda lonely because the guy moved to Canada and all his family is in Mauritius.
This world is becoming a silly place to live you know
Lol you just realized that?
not silly, but definitely crazy.
Love how you only realised this now 😭
Well I must say this worked great for me Mash a Allah. I am British and met my Arabic Emirati Husband when I was working in UAE. My Father was not pleased of course as he was stereotyping him and thought he would take more wives. But he met him and his family and all my Family eventually welcomed him and his accepted me. This was unusual in the early 2000s. Now 21 years later we are still strong Mash a Allah. I became a practicing Muslim went to Hajj etc. Allah sent me to this Muslim Country and I could not be happier. Alhumdullilah it was in my favour. But I know others who did the same and it didnt go so well. Qadr Allah I guess. I am so grateful. Subhan a Allah.
Assalamu alaikum warrahmatullah.
I just want to thank you for this comment. Thank you. It gives me hope.
May Allah increase the love and bond in your marriage, and make it beneficial for you fid dunya wal Akhirah.
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Thank you Sister. And the same to you.
@Stranger Random stranger
Hi well I would say U.A.E. The Sun shines always. Lots of Masjids and you hear the Athan. Head cover is not frowned upon. It's just more bright and Beautiful with lots of Cultutres and I met some amazing people. It's certainly what I call Home now. Thanks for asking. Stay Blessed.
@Stranger Random stranger
Hi again. Yes unfortunately it is true. They have Private Helicopters private Islands and Private Parties. You can imagine the rest.
@@taraa9087 The UAE Deported a student for saying Free Palestine
In the UK it is mostly men who go to a Muslim country to pick up and bring back here, although some women desperate for marriage do this also, the number is small, the women who come here from abroad for marriage generally are not respected because it is commonly understood that they have come here because they think the west is the road to el dorado, and these women are referred to as 'take aways'
a man marries and those around him ask, is she a 'takeaway' very degrading but, if your going to degrade yourself by leaving a muslm country to marry a random guy on holiday in yours, then what do you expect,
Men 'believe' women from Muslim countries are more likely to be happy with less, not question them, will be more inclined to accept them if their unattractive, poor, still live at home etc etc etc, because their just happy that they will get out of their country, whereas they don't want to bother with a woman who will refuse to live with his mommy and daddy, a woman who enforces her islamic rights, or leaves if she doesn't get them.
The tables are turning slightly, from what I have seen and heard, these women that are brought from back home, have cottoned onto the above and have retaliated, now chances are, if you can get a women here, there is a high possibility YOU the man will get screwed over, they will show your their whites and flutter their eyelashes and then...... they'll be gone, or they'll be demanding money for their family, I have seen it, but I do not feel sorry for either.
I think that both these men and women deserve each other, the man is trying to take advantage of the woman and so the woman is trying to take advantage of him, its like a competition now on who will do the other dirty, what kind of woman or man leaves a Muslim country to go to a kafir country? for marriage? like you couldn't get married back home , like no one in the whole country?
no respect for these people and I am glad at least in the UK it is now really hard to bring someone here.
I heard a long time ago, a pakistani man went to morocco and met a beautiful moroccan girl, he married her and brought her back here, he said she changed and became evil,
I'm like, she always was, no self respecting Muslim woman marries a randomer on holiday and now self respecting muslim man marries this way either, were you expecting her to be a stay at home mom? idiot
LMFAOO that muslim man from Australia deserved everything that came his way. He rejected pious muslim women from Morocco (Hijabi) and opted for a beautiful woman instead who made his life hell...YOU reap what you sow...
Only bitter western feminist believing evil sisters would say that. U think you know everything but you don't. It's encouraged in islam to go and explore, travel, migrate.
I have lost trust in imams and Muslim Sharia council in London.. my in laws want me to leave my husband for their own desires and cultural reasons .they dont follow Islam they follow culture we were very happy in our marriage but they are forcing us to break and causing fitna between my husband and myself .. they threaten my husband and blackmail him and turned him against me im broken by their zulm but no one is helping me .our imams have a title but not willing to help our ummah who are suffering oppression injustice under the hands of zaalim.
I’m so glad Allah chose to guide you Brother. Allah hu Akbar.
Am stake in Egypt unable to go back home since I married him and moved to Egypt am very worried even though he's not an abusive husband I miss my mom back home alot depressing
Where are u from sister?
Go to romanian embassy they should assist , as British nationals are assisted to return to britain
Why can't you return? Visa problem?
Green card seekers
Why marry someone from another country? What could you possibly have in common with them?
Great advice brother, Alhamdulillah... this is the kind of thing that should be spoken about in the Masjids.... probably on a weekly basis!
@Stranger Random stranger asalaamu Alaikom, yes, of course there are SO many issues to discuss, I understand that. This issue (in my opinion) has such a knock on effect for the Ummah... After all, creating families is the most important root out of which a healthy spiritual life can grow. A strong Ummah is only as strong as individual families are strong. Healthy marriage is VITAL. So... to get back to what brother Gabriel was talking about... It's crucial that brothers and sisters enter marriage in the most serious, sincere, respectful and honest way possible. This is a HUGE topic. HUGE.
@Stranger Random stranger I'm an Irish Muslim.... reverted almost 4 years ago
This is important subject
بارك الله فيك
This is a thing one sees time and time again happening in the UK. Some Indopak men find women from their native countries to marry and bring them over- the idea is that such women will be easier to control amongst other warped notions. I see it so much, the man divorces his British wife and thus goes "back home" to pick a wife like a cherry.
The girl's family are just overly eager to send their daughter to this rich country (possibly paving the way for the others to come over too). Sometimes they don't care whether he is 50 years old with 5 kids... anything goes. He may have been an abuser but even then he finds it easy to find a wife there due to his British passport.
When such a marriage starts to go haywire, the sister is stuck- she can't speak the language and she is literally trapped. The worst is if she is divorced and there is no one of her family her. It's terrible- they end up living in bad conditions.
I would always advise brothers and sisters from the west to always marry within your country folk- the fitn are rising here and you need a spouse that knows the society inside out- the children are desperately in need of parents that can help them navigate through these societal turmoils they are currently facing. How will a villager in Bangladesh, for example, appreciate the challenges of our youth over here?
Think about the future of the ummah please.
@Stranger Random stranger I don't agree with it myself but it's a common thing Asians do here. Sadly, the Indopak culture has a lot of baggage.
Then teach her the women, dont be like rappers, stop talk feminism-sh*t from then 3d wave and 4d wave...
Wtf, i take a girl from my country, my sister wanna a men from our village, but we 2 live in Germany, and all friends are muslims... But yes, european muslims... Because this, many people, wanna have, muslimcountry-muslims...
And if i marry, i dont wanna come back to germany...
عافى الله بلادنا الاسلامية من كل ما يبعدها عن نهج الاسلام
these things do happen. I know of a couple, once the man got his "papers" in the u.s, he would tell his wife to "go sell herself" in order to make money. all kindsa sickos on this earth.
These stories happen a lot between France and Algeria, marriage only for papers, whether it's a man or a woman. I will never understand how one can play with the heart and feelings of the others.
I think that one more issue is that in inter-cultural marriages, there's often not much in common. They speak different languages, have different interests and tastes. You get married out of physical attraction or a feeling of novelty, and within a few months, you get bored of it. If you're unable to find much in common and adapt to each other, it can become a big problem.
@Stranger Random stranger Yes
@Stranger Random stranger I'm a real doctor but this is a fictional character name from the TV show 'ER'.
Yeah I may be facing this problem. I'm an American Muslim potentially marrying a pakistani woman, im pakistani as well. No issue on speaking my home language. The only problem is how our cultures will clash and whether or not there is any compatibility.
@@maj7469 Still much more in common, than for example an European and an Arab.
Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah. Barakullāh fik for your efforts. I have not come across anyone who took this fight of the battle of the hearts and minds in the topic of lgbt. How can I get in touch? There is a sister with a severly disabled child who lives in Malaysia. She was funded to come there for medical reasons for her child from Somalia and speaks not much Malay or English. My family knows her. She has no family there. We are currently do donations for her for a special wheelchair. Her story is really sad and has touched all those who donated. I hope you can reply brother, our sister needs us.
Baraku Allāhu fik wa salaamu alaykum.
Bro...who does that to his wife....not taking care of when pregnant or falls sick....these guys r the real corona virus...
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They will answer to Allah don't worry
I’m not here to name ethnicities or countries but I was born and live in a strong western country. People did marry from my home country for our passport to live here and earn money. After getting the passport they change colours. Mainly from my experience the woman was neglected and the guy used her for the passport.
Only successful marriages I’ve seen in my family from our home country is that they are part of our family and friends circle and we have background knowledge of their character since they were young.
The problem in my home country is it's almost impossible to find salafi sisters and impossible in family circles
So have to look elsewhere
@Good Personality yes bringing to a poisonous western society is never a good idea
Not just being unjust to the woman but unjust to his own child in her tummy
Good stream as always brother May Allah bless you 🙏🙏🙏
May Allah Bless You, lets avoid using the christian prayer emoji inshallah.
When a Muslim man marries a women from a different ethnicity, are there any guidelines/nasihah he should follow? Every culture has its good and bad, is it OK for a husband (or wife) to use it against the other? Should the wife adapt to the husband's culture?
Jazaak Allah khayr brother Gabriel.
I am married to different ethnicity and I don't find it hard alhamd allah , as long as you stick to islam
What I advise is people should marry those who are close and similar to them as long as this is possible
People are now suffering from consumerism we have to tackle this issues before it destroys our communities
I've realised that there are two main problems. Sometimes, we only think about the first part of the hadith of our beloved prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) about not turning down someone whose 'religion' you are pleased with but we forget the part of 'character' (“If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption”). That's maybe why we think that if the guy is a student of knowledge or a student of such and such sheikh then all will be well. It's like we assume that someone who has religion will automatically have good character even though our prophet mentioned them separately. Secondly, the friends of the guy need to be really honest when a girl's wali asks about him. The friends are the ones who spend time with him and they shouldn't hide even little doubts that they may have as those doubts could be signs of a bigger underlying problem with the guy's character. I think that one of the things that friends should consider is if they would be happy for this guy to marry their sister. If they wouldn't then they shouldn't reassure the wali that the guy would be good for his daughter.
Jazakallah Khair for talking openly about this known and prevalent injustice occurring in many Muslim communities.
Like Bangladesh 🇧🇩? Right?
YES, I've seen this pattern before, Pakistani and Bangladeshi marrying outside of their race.... which is not a problem if they can understand each other's culture but sometimes the issue is more than that... immigration issue, bringing the woman away from her family, and the problem that the brother said...
@Rabya Ahmed most divorce happens Because feminist influence in society.
@Haarith Al-Awwal Indeed. The irony is that feminism is a reactionary movement that eventually spawned another reactionary movement (Red pill and its derivatives). Toxic men begets toxic women and so cycle continues...
@Haarith Al-Awwal well said
Shame on those men!
Salam Alaykoum,
Thank you brother Gabriel.
A Morrocan sister from France.
@Stranger Random stranger Salam Alaykoum,
No i'm French with a Moroccan background.
@Stranger Random stranger Salam Alaykoum
What do you mean by " married to a Muslim right"?
@Stranger Random stranger why do you want to know?
@Stranger Random stranger why it is so important for you to know?
Do i ask questions about your life?
@Stranger Random stranger
A muslimah who fears Allah, get marry with a Muslim man, that's all.
I hope that i answered to your question.
Masha Allah brother great topic keep up the good works may Allah reward you great Ameen🤲🏻🌹
I appreciate your video brother. Please make more videos.
Ma sha Allah , my muslim Romanian brother
I married someone I don't love and not sure about bringing him to a western country 😢. ..I feel his aim is to get green card and I worry I will be taken advantage of for that
Reason 😭😭😭
How is it now ?
I have met many people especially Pakistani and Bengali nationals who marry Eastern European women for purpose of gaining a Eu or British passport and they are treated badly and forced to adopt and Pakistani customs .
Really?!!!
@@Sheen023 Yep. Many Pakistanis are willing to go to great lengths to get their hands on Western passports. And very rarely do such marriages work out.
@@syedsaad1594 do you know anybody who did that?
@@Sheen023 yes really they get passport then marry a Pakistani women from Pakistan without telling the first wife and bring the Pakistani wife from Pakistan pretending to be his sister or cousin astaghfirullah.. I know of one lady a Romanian who married a Pakistani when the man was refused a passport or stay in Britain he took her to Pakistan gave her a child and she had a child from first marriage she is forced into Pakistan culture and cannot return to Romania because her 2nd child is a Pakistani national.
@@abubakrmala4553 how frequent is that? How many cases do you know personally?
I love this shiekh🥺🥺❤️❤️
Depend on people extension if there aim isvisa and passport and use him then allah swt wilm punish them
So shouldn't this advice also be sent towards Muslim governments and their law enforcement and immigration authorities? Little people at the bottom may get the message but enforcement and proper rulings come from the government.
Jazak Allah Khair gor your guidance. Your exactly right and I know a story that the brother looked exceptional. Highly educated, had deed, and supposedly never married. This brother had many secrets including a non curable disease, previous marriage, and he did not have his papers as well. I think having this knowledge, asking the right questions, and even having a background check is necessary. We are not living in a world of 50 years. Hidden zalems. This applies to both genders since I saw how a poor brother married a sister who abused him which he lost everything including his health. You need to be your advocate and attorney.
Passport passport
As a guy marrying from back home just makes it seem like you settled in my opinion tbh lol. Usually the guys who do it got tired of constantly being rejected by girls in America so they catch a flight and find a wife back home in one summer, knowing it won’t be that hard as most women “back home” find a foreign passport very appealing regardless of what you look like or how much money u make. It’s like taking the easy way out and you gave up basically.
It’s deeper that the akh
Golden advice 👍🏻 brother jzk
Assalamualaikum brother
Your right I went to imams for help also the Sharia council for help .not one imam helped me to mediate .my husband's parents threw me out of my husband's home and forcing us to stay apart and took away our marital rights ..even Sharia council said we cant do anything to mediate .So my in laws are getting away with zulm oppression and injustice .
yes but why? no one does this for nothing. what cause the situation?
May allah bless you shaikh
Alhamthulillah very much useful lecture
salam Gabriel I would like to ask if you know about this youtuber called Kevin Samuels?
What about him brother
@@shabinanaaz7581 we need a muslim version of Kevin Samuels and I think brother Gabriel is the right man for the job
@Moo Miller yep and he also thinks that women should be slaves to "high value men"
@Moo Miller Kevin isn't about red pill if anything he is bigger than the red pill. He is non muslim so he will at times say things that are wrong but the judgement of modern woman as a whole is pretty spot on.
I know someone (a German woman) who married a foreign guy from Pakistan and he divorced her after he got the papers
i do not understand. what papers?
Move with some one I don’t know oh heck no I would make a visit for one week or two weeks first and see what’s going on there first before I can move in also make sure I have a back up from family so it is for them to locate if they need to but even that option may be a trap and some people don’t care about their daughters.
He has officially scared me 🥲
yeah he made me think about stuff i didnt even realise but i appriciate it
I did this, and it ruined mine and my children's lives. Marriage is amazing 🤕
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Haram
Mankind has gotten from God Cuma and Sabath so you can beat the cycle if proper.
One verse says that you look like kings in heavon to eachother.
So it also motivates that way.
You get this info how ?
By repeatable remembering God God states in Koran and forsure we made the Koran easy to remember.
By just thinking always positive can get to you.
There are letters none knows except Allah.
Selamun aleykum
Excellent!
Here is a thought. What is the point of a sharia that intervenes in the most just and fair way that doesn't have any power to enforce anything. You have spoken about punishment and mahkama briefly but I think that is the main point. There has to be punishment and there has to be mahkama and jurists must have the power to enforce these. Otherwise why would anyone do anything they say when they are not even afraid of God or has justified for themselves whatever they are doing
May Allah bring back Khilaafa.
To not talk with Family, and the family not see the alarm.. If she have a real family, the family bring her back!!
Problem is that 90% not live like a muslim
I feel like while marrying a man we should investigate how he treats his sub-ordinates. And sadly almost all so called Muslim countries have corrupt judicial system.
Yes we are suffering from such cases but what hurting me more is that with the absence of shari'a law still speople attribute this things to shari'a
I agree with you 100%. I know so many that this happened to.
True,generally there is a mix of secular law and some components of sharia which results in injustice and disaster.
Sharia is an entire system with different components countering issues.
I am croatian muslim marrying algerian . Please pray for us and acceptence from our parents please
Algerian girls are easy
Thanks for your advice.
Dont forget the arab men too finding overseas woman.
love your language just love it.
Waaleikum salam warahmatullahy wabarakatuh
Tanks for raising this issues
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100% true
I am egyptian and Married a girl from Uzbekistan and we are happily married alhamd allah
Where did you find her?
@@ibiro868
Your question is too rude to be taken seriously ..
But I was in Uzbekistan already
@@123-wf3dn its not rude I'm looking for wife too. i been to egypt many times like giza, cairo, 6th October, tahrir square. but the women too mean in egypt. they only want boyfriend haram!
@@ibiro868 let your female relatives search for a wife for you , its not easy to find egyptian wife by searching in streets
YES👏 👏
I'm Pakistani American and married a Pakistani girl because most American Muslima are zaniyas. Alhamdulillah she's a wonderful person and I will make hijra after a few years with her to a Muslim nation
Bro most so called muslim men living in the West go out of their way to not only commit zinna with no Muslim women but brag about it with pride. After having their fun they demand virgin wife then make a bee line for hijab women when predictably they get reject for their munafiq behaviour go abroad to get virgin wife they feel entitled to.
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bruh MOST FAMILIES are not ok with their daughters marrying overseas unless the guy is a relative or something, so if she’s going overseas to marry, I’d put the most blame on her, and then the family if they had control over the situation. It’s like picking a gangster for Marriage and then complaining about how he he abuse you.
But the opposite is the real problem.
The example the brother gave in the video is of a woman marrying a student of knowledge. How was she supposed to know she was “picking a gangster”? If a guy is presenting himself as religious a woman will be more trusting of him. The guy was a fraud and worse that he was studying religion yet had a demonic side which he expressed after marriage. No woman could predict that.
Another pathetic so called man May Allah give u what u deserve and protect all women from u
@@SA41959 sure some of the blame falls in the man, but she and her family are to blame for most of it, especially her. I understand she might have gotten tricked, but that’s why she has a wali.
@@abdula16 Absolute nonsense. So her wali and herself are to blame for failing to exercise psychic abilities that would determine this chameleon is a sham? Beyond ridiculous.
@Stranger Random stranger Agree, but if he’s supposed to be a student of knowledge he may not be agreeable to spending time getting to know the woman. It depends on his religious view on the matter. This would then influence the woman and her family who may feel pressured into saying yes, taking into consideration that he is religious they would be more trusting of him and proceed with the marriage.
Blessings in marriage come if it is granted to you by Allah. Housing,visa,food and culture are irrelevant.
Checklist before marriage:
Have Allah given you izzah (honour)?
Do you have a resolute mind(Quwwah)?
Are you a concerned person regarding family system of the community?
A man said: O Messenger of Allah, should I tie up [my camel] and rely on Allah, or should I leave it loose and rely on Him? He said: “Tie it up and rely [on Allah].”
Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (2517); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan at-Tirmidhi (2/610).
@Stranger Random stranger So what message after this would they believe in? [77|50]
What are you talking about? Would you just marry a stranger from the streets on pray for Allaah's barakah? Silly people.
Hi. Is marrying overseas alpha or beta
Get away
huh?
@Lion Imo, if you're financing her while living apart overseas and visiting her once or twice a year, that's beta. But if you get married abroad and make arrangements to start living together, it's not beta.
@@HeyShades Says who?
It’s pretty alpha when you make arrangements to live together
Lol my comment is disappeared 😂
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Mine too 😑😅
That's been the case on YT for 2 years now lol
Even i didn't use any awful word🤣