TikTok's viral "boyfriend tests" BACKFIRE. They keep getting WORSE.
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In the modern world of dating, the biggest challenge happy relationships face come down to two words: social media. And the latest trend is testing your partner to see if they are husband or wife-material-courtesy of creative TikTok users. But is this the right move? Are TikTok relationship tests saving people from bad relationships? Or are they causing otherwise good relationships to end?
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0:15 "Creative TikTok Users" ??? No! they are brain rot low life
Basically tests are an intentional way of personally choosing to identify if someone will give the answers and provide results that the tester deems correct....Hence not genuinely allowing for any genuine anything especially the genuine Truth✔️.. Revealing of those who hand out tests I'd say✔️Upgrade Better Living
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not everyone gives a fek about birds omg
Stop. Testing. Your. Partner!
And friends. And family members.
Just. STOP!!!!!!!!
If you want to test somebody, you should test yourself
@@armtdawg99 Best answer ever! All people need to do that in this modern age. I test myself all the time because it helps me learned what I did wrong, grow from it, and evolved to be my better self. Everyone can benefit from it.
If my wife poured ketchup on the counter to test me it would stay there until it grows mold.
Or I would clean it up and then pour ketchup on another piece of furniture.
Yeah, how many men "fail" because this is just one of so many "tests" and they know it and get sick of all the tests?
@@ugaladh
Most men, these days, know that women SH*t test their partner.
Meaning - if you act subserviant, she realizes she can get better.
If she starts sh*t testing - do an instant bail ...if she comes crawling, you've taught her something. If she doesn't, you've dodged a "crazy".
Honestly if you're taking relationship advice from social media, you should break up with that person and save them because you're a walking red flag.
Truth
Depends on who you are watching. There are a couple of relationship coaches on here that give really solid advice. Such as not playing games with people and dealing with your trauma before jumping into a relationship. It’s common sense I know, but common sense isn’t so common.
There is also so much to learn to start dating because you may never expect what you have to do for them. I may be wanting some help from others on things im struggling with or having a hard time
@@derrickjuinor Then it is good to find out before making it more permanent.
tbh, i take advice from stangers on discord, but i dont take it to heart; i would go on vent channels and ask for advice or opinions about X topic that has been bothering me, could be romantic or mundane, the core thing that differentiates from mindless scrolling is critical thinking, does the opinion fit with your view? does the opinion resemble you reality? is is something you have considered before? etc etc
Anyone who records you without your permission is a red flag.
Not just as partner but friends too
I partially agree with you. If recording to shame and post on the internet later, definitely, but if it is to help point out sometime to help or even to show a cute and candid moment when they are in their element doing something, then no. remember context is key
@@saiyantwan that might be you... But personally... I don't want someone to record our cute moments as a stoic person... I am rarely open to others so if I'm being a cute 6 ft guy cooking for my gf. I don't want to see that on the internet 💀
Same, I value intimacy.
What I do for you is for you, not others.
If you record me without my consent or knowledge, to get clicks, that means your priority isn't to enjoy what I do for you, it's to get validation from others for it.
In simpler terms, you are not appreciating what I am doing, you are appreciating people's reactions to it.
A kind of social status flexing, similar to showing off your luxury bag, which is the sign of despicable shallowness, and that you really do not care for me.
I'll be out the next second.
@@saiyantwan I did not consent to you showing others our cute moments. Do not record them without my express permission, and definitely do not show others our private moments.
Relationships are meant to be built and developed, not tested for clout on the internet. The fact they are filming a "relationship test" for the internet, is itself a red flag
If my partner filmed me to ridicule me on the internet I would break up with them immediately.
Literally though, none of these are cutesy tests, it's just partner shaming.
Yes
This is the way
Any woman who does this has the maturity of a toddler and needs to be sent back to kindergarten
7:49
Dude is so tired of her TikTok antics
Run, dude
13:25
The bid for connection is the opposite of the contemptuous look
If a person feels a constant need to test the relationship, that in itself is a failed test of them
At this point we can call this self-sabotage. People will do literally anything except openly communicate with each other.
This is exactly my feelings on this too. Why can't people just help other people?
Fr like at this point, its so hard to even have a relationship at this point
Communication is key
Yet apparently everyone sees everyone as a rubiks cube
Note especially that last sentence
But at least they got the vieeeeews lololol🤪🤪
Normal people don"t use Tik Tok. Mystery solved!
underrated truth
I go to tiktok to send cat memes and possum memes to my boss, of which I have like 30 minutes put into tiktok all of this month
A former girlfriend of me "shittested" me once by throwing an insane tandrum without a reason, because the internet told her this is how you test your boyfriend. From that moment on i thought she is mental and planed my exit strategy. I later learned that this was a shittest and that this is a thing.
Glad you got out of that toxic relationship bro. Stay strong out there.
Dodged a bullet.
Good job fellow king 👑
If you really loved your partner, you wouldn't treat them like a lab animal. No one wants to have a camera pointed at them and basically told to "dance monkey dance"!!!
Exactly dude
And "Guess which irrational answer I want you to guess or else I'll be pouty."
That was my first thought with the guy that “failed” the dancing test. Dude looks STRAIGHT at the camera with an “ick” look. He probably hates cameras and social media almost as much as I do, no other reason. “After the recording he joined in” because he doesn’t want to be in the dang fishbowl for internet clicks
Honestly if you feel like you need to “test” your partners like this to see if they’re good enough then you’re probably not mature enough to be in a relationship
Exactly.
This.
I've been married 20 years. If my husband deliberately spilled ketchup on a counter in front of me and then asked for me to clean it up, I would assume he needed medical attention. Conversely, that sauce would stay there until we both died. I fail either way.
I don't know...I like doing the tests for fun. I guess it depends on the context. If you don't care about the results of the test and you aren't filming it it's probably fine 😅
@@VictoriouslyRandom😅
Nah. My wife trying to check me like I’m a dog will end with me pouring the ketchup on the floor and telling her to clean it.
Husband test - perhaps he doesn't want you calling him "your husband" until he is because it means something to him, or perhaps he is aware of the laws that presenting yourself as husband and wife means you are now common law spouses with all the legal ramifications if you split up.
"Testing" people is a great way to ruin trust in your relationship.
Exactly.
Isn’t it crazy when you think about it? Testing your partner in & of itself is super insecure but couple it with narcissistic obsession with broadcasting your relationship on social media for other people’s approval? Bad news bears. Arguably, I think they care more about other peoples’ opinions of their partner over their own opinion. People are toxic.
It's what women do, all women. Tik tok didn't start this bs it just shows it to the world.
For real. If you’re constantly testing your partner then that’s a bad sign you don’t actually want to be with them
@@jgamer2228 Testing them for social validation from others is a black flag event, it implies if that others can determine your relationship trajectory by appearances, therefore I'd simply cut her loose to be with someone else who is okay enough to have another person in their polyamory relationship. Relationships should only be between man, woman, and GOD, no one else.
Married for 21 years. This is ridiculous. Y'all want someone to worship you, not be a partner with you. Especially if you need them to react a specific way.
Especially after the dog test
Is she not on all fours, wearing a collar and calling you master 24/7 then clearly she not wife material nor she worth being otherkin
100%, couldn't have said it better
They want a servant, not a partner. If anything, this is a litmus test for how mature your partner is.
Agree. I'm glad I grew up where there were those silly teen magazines but people could pose question to a column where a professional in behaviour science could respond that the girl (the person who asked) that her behaviour, expectation, attitude was unreasonable.
A guy who say that he is not a husband may be concerned about whether the mind of the girl is not in the actual reality, which is a sound reaction.
21 years married and you said it perfectly.
Putting your partner through a standard created by social media is just setting yourself up for stupidity.
Yall wild. I find out my gf is recording me and posting it online, she's my ex.
She's the defendant in a lawsuit.
Partner shaming turns into "waeponized" incompetence. These "relationship tests" are so toxic
i would leave if my gf or wife test me just to satisfy other FemFAILS at social media, all for what? 5min. of fame or shame? ya, this is duimb as a rock. i WOULD leave and find a new girl. These women think relationship is a game, it's suppose to be partnership and also no one is perfect, if you want a perfect partner, fcuk off and be alone.
*weaponised.
@@Ace-ns9co color, colour. The word can have multiple spellings in different geographic locations.
@@fl4shi238 no, that english word is correct, weaponized.
I get doing them for fun and with cameras turned off because recording your partner secretly in their home is insane unless it’s a family home video and intended to stay that way until partner is showed the whole thing and consents to any post of any kind involving them. Doing silly internet trends with your partner can be fun and you can laugh together about it. Or it can raise some red flags early on before you get too emotionally invested. Just don’t put too light weight in it and don’t try to test them constantly to see if they still love you enough. If you feel like you constantly need to test your partner, you either need to go get some therapy (whether just for you or couples therapy, idk) or you should just break up with them because you can’t trust them/your relationship and need to work on yourself in feeling more secure, or realize your partner ain’t a good fit and move on.
If someone poured ketchup on the counter on purpose and asked me to clean it up, I would laugh and say "no." Unless they gave a good reason for why I should clean up their purposely made mess.
Right.
Yup for me I'd only that if it was genuine accident and/or their hand was injured prior hence the spill.
Yeah atp that's just manipulative and/or trying to have more 'power' over someone in a relationship
@@coki3_crumle670 Yeah it looks like a shady form of control and power. Than a way of testing a good relationship.
@@ShawnStafford-1978 Yea
tbf I feel like after the "test", the person who did it would slowly start to do more of this sh-t, and then wonder why their partner leaves :/
In Colorado when you say "my husband or my wife" you have just made yourselves "Common law married".
These men didn't fail a test. Some people just aren't sheep mindlessly absorbed and possessed by pointless social media trends.
The test exposes how gullible some people are, it also exposes the stupidity of TikTok...
Well said.
+1 reason why excessive cringe in combination with mind-numbing short videos are detrimental af.
I think if the test is for fun, and not a real judge of character then it's fine.
Also, if you have been feeling off, then a test may also be appropriate.
But these things should always be followed by a meaningful conversation. And letting your partner express how they feel afterwards.
Yeah they need to ban it already. But noooo government got spy on it's gullible short attention span having citizens.
Most men are not interested in being draw into a TikTok clip. Full stop
I could not date an advid tiktoker or influencer... its super cringe.
It is indeed quite creepy to think about. Would that person really date you for you?
Every girl I ever dated was a slob. My friends deal with it too.
It ain't just MEN.
Every woman ever: "BUT MUH V-PASS BRUH"
"Paying for that on FortNite does not preclude getting it for free in real life."
DUDE I FOUND THIS REALLY GOOD RELATIONSHIP TEST! Its called the Bea Yuh Good Pardner test! Its where you dont take advice from strangers on social media!
Omg lol that’s genius
Nah that doesn't sound "trendy" enough
That's revolutionary!
That's not herd mentality enough. How can an average ape, especially a female one know, that they've made a correct choice, without getting confirmation from the rest of their tribe?
I would not seriously date anyone who relies on tiktok relationship test.
Tiktok and reddit.
@@LadyBernReddit is simply just a forum. How you can compare the two is beyond me.
@@rakenzie same thing, i dont think ive ever read a sane take on reddit the user base is mental patients mostly
I would not seriously rely on you :/
@@VioletFlame-Ivy haha you're funny! I hope you have a great day.
Funny how everyone who says “break up” is unattractive and probably single.
I have a test: if you test me, you fail.
I will never do this stuff to my husband. Narcissist way to way to set your partner up for failure when they don't understand the situation. Not everyone likes to be on camera or care for what is trendy.
The partner who is being tested could be a narcissist too and pass the test exactly for that reason! He will peel the orange but later in the day he could gaslight and abuse the soul out of you.
Truth.
I agree on principle but I resent the fact that many people believe it's reasonable for a grown adult to be completely overwhelmed and powerless in the face of a ketchup stain.
Seeing these "tests" already shows me that the majority of the people aren't ready for a marriage, any less a relationship
The majority of people need therapy and lots of healing.
Only if "people"=women
@@Lady_Cassandra what they need is to stop getting relationship advice from the internet, where a good amount of these same people have never been able to hold a relationship themselves.
Wow! So women, instead of educating their partners about proper cleaning, pefer to gossip about their bad performance or lack of knowledge...this must be the most toxic time for relationship with western women whatsoever.
I am so thankful that there are wonderful, loving, caring and understanding, beautiful women in other, better countries.
Every woman is not on tik tok, in fact most of them aren't. Please don't use this video to validate your misogyny, you're not better than them.
@@melchiorlise2466 lol
As for the guy who said, "I'm not your husband."-for all anyone knows he's been begging to get married forever and is salty that she is dragging her feet.
Here's all the 'test' anyone needs: if your S.O. lives their life through social media such as tik-tok, then that person has already failed, and you can either help break out of that poisonous habit, or start formulating an exit strategy.
Who pours stuff out on purpose? Then ask someone to clean it.😂🤦♀️
Karens who have permanent attention-starvation
Someone looking to be single.
I would tell my wife to f*** off and walk away if she did that. 34yrs together.....
@@Okunniger_Volker Talked to mom about this. Showed her the clip. Her reaction:
*"She's looking to start a war..."*
Social media is 100% the reason why relationships like these don't work out. . .
Morale of the story:Don't take relationship advice from Tiktok
If your partner uses TikTok to gauge your relationship, leave them. They're looking for validation from strangers instead of working on the relationship.
id argue that making a mess and just to get someone else to clean it is a stronger example of "weaponized incompetence" than not putting effort into cleaning up a mess that was solely made so youd have to clean it. like, whats more incompetent than making a mess on purpose and refusing to clean it?
THIS EXACTLY!
Tbh, I wouldn't ever clean it or even talk about it until they realized it was still there, and if they didn't either and someone came by and ask, I'd say what happened
This pisses me off because we see videos of a guy getting something wrong and Weaponised Incompetence is assumed. We see videos of a girl openly engaging in Weaponised Incompetence and it's all "You go girl".
Condiments also tend to be notorious for spreading. Which makes it even more weaponized on the part of the tester and how big the mess is an even worse indicator.
@@goawayleavemealone2880especially when they get the battery connections backward and set the car on fire 😂
I'm a girl and I too found that extremely manipulative.
All the more reason grown adults who still stay stuck to social media is a giant cringe fest. They really have no regular friend groups to hang out with at that age?
The ketchup test: If my toddler makes a mess, I will clean it up. If my wife, in all unlikelihood, would deliberately make a mess, she would have to deal with it. Test or no test.
I was married for forty-five years. Till my husband passed... He was never a romantic. He was a hard worker, who never drank, never went out with mate's and all gave me his unopened pay pack every Friday, and would tell me how much he needed for the week. We had four children, we lived in a tent at one stage due to the fact that he was injured at work, and we ran out of money... But that was only for a year and a half... We went though a lot of good times and bad. But he was always my rock... I would have followed him anywhere. No he wasn't a romantic, but I could not have asked for a better man...
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What a good man! You guys were blessed to have each other xo
Being romantic is just wasting money on unneeded things these people never have a chance to stop renting and stuck in debt confuses me when people spend so much on a wedding that could have been used to buy a home to live in.
Most people today don't even understand what romance is, and equate it with having things being bought for them,. or being taken to expensive places.
I once read about a couple who got married the day after they graduated from high school. From the day they were married until the day they died, they were never apart for more than four hours at a time. Every morning, she would drive him to work and then go back home and get the kids ready for school. After that, she would get lunch ready and pack it up so she could drive to his place of work so they could have lunch together. Once done, she would return home and do whatever cleaning needed to be done before going and picking up their kids from school, bringing them with when she went to get her husband from work. They were once interviewed and the interviewer noted that, throughout the entire discussion, they were in constant contact with one another, whether they were putting their arms around each other, holding hands, or just sitting so close they were touching. When asked how they made it work so well for so long, they answered that they didn't let the little things get to them, and treated every time they saw each other like it might be the last time they did. They died in a car crash in their late eighties and, when the rescue crew was finally able to reach their bodies, one of the things they noted was that they were still holding hands.
That's romance.
@@allamericanslacker2378 as cruel as it may sound, im glad they went out together. i don't think either one would have faired well apart.
that is the type of love story i wish was shown more often in literature, and media. its much more stable than the rocky relationships... but i guess that doesn't make for good stories
People thinking they can judge an entire person and relationship on a 20 second clip never ceases to amaze me.
But you can. I would never record my partner (or anyone else) to upload to social media. And anyone who tests their relationship in these ways has an objectively bad relationship, otherwise they would just communicate with each other, the people who are actually in the relationship.
@@mydogeatspuke Bingo! The testers are too emotionally immature to be in an adult relationship.
You absolutely can! In fact you can do it in those very clips: namely the people that did the testing. All jokes aside, yes, there's so many other explanations I came up with while watching those very clips (aka in less than 20 seconds) that it's baffling.
Imagine if blokes gave their girlfriends similar tests to see if she’s ‘wifie material’. This video also shows that people can get certificates in pretty meaningless subjects.
It was simply a test of compliance. It's a lose-lose situation. If you refuse and tell her to clean up her own mess, she'll accuse you of being sexist, believing that women should handle such tasks, which will make you seem unsuitable as a husband in the eyes her feminist friends in her feminist internet bubble. If you do clean it up, even if you do it correctly, you appear submissive and compliant to her demands, making you seem unsuitable as a husband in the eyes of her own biological female nature. No matter what you do, you lose something. Personally, I would have told her to clean up her own mess, because it's better to fail a woman's test than to both fail her test and lose your dignity.
If my boyfriend suddenly called me his wife, I would be caught off guard too. It doesn't mean I love him any less. It really depends from person to person and their boundaries.
A lot of women would actually call it a red flag and say they crossed their boundaries too
@@ermygurl Exactly! It's the same as those dreadful "will you marry me?" proposals in public.
Honestly yea, I'd be pretty freaked out too
@ermygurl only if he's not a chad of course
People for some reason sleep on that point, that after brofist he said "Not yet." Then she attacked him. And then people start crying red flag...
There are a lot of red flags in these tests ... mostly on the part of people doing a "test" to post online for validation from randos on the internet
If you were part of a relationship that requires your skills to be tested while you’re partners filming, you’re in the wrong relationship
Glad the certified sexuality instructor commented on people spilling ketchup
I remember this one chick destroying her husband's gaming console and having no concept of why he was that upset and even shrugging it off to the camera. Shivers, man.
Luckily, most of those are actually staged. The actual reality of destroying your partners things is categorized as a form of "domestic abuse without violence" as these things are usually done during anger. You probably remember the trend 5-8 years ago of the "Angry" boyfriend/girlfriend breaking gaming consoles or laptops owned by the person they are "mad" at for whatever reason. It's like: Congrats! You just now showed 1.5mil people that you are an abusive, psycho partner that nobody should ever be in a relationship with.
@@JaymeSplendid Half of these today are actually real. We think many of these are skits but then we see the aftermath and it ends up being real, over and over again.
Girls like that are the ones I'd be terrified to be in a relationship out of fear they might try to stab me if they ever get too mad over some nothing.
The initial one may be staged. The copycats? Doubt it.
The multiple copycats are not staged.
Dudes have lost hundreds of hours, a few of whom make a living off this stuff, to women "pranking them" by... doing the thing they are threatening to do which is the opposite of a prank.
The worst part is many of these women have no concept of how much time and effort goes into these things and how not everything can be backed up.
If you're doing a "relationship test", then you should **NOT** be in ANY relationship.
Or maybe don't do any "test" whatsoever?
It isn't a program or game you should test to detect possible bugs.
If foundation is loose, all house will collapse. These "relation tests" are loosing this foundation of trust.
I would have totally done the same thing as the ones who told them they are not their husband. If you want me to be your husband, marry me. But I'm not your husband BEFORE we marry. "Husband" isn't a word to throw around so willy nilly. It has weight and significance.
“Can you clean this for me?”
A: “I’m not your maid”, “Did your arms fall off?”
Thanks, Mom.
If you "test" your guy, don't be surprised if eh leaves you for someone who doesn't expect him to jump through hoops for them.
If you're going to TikTok for relationship advice, you might be in the wrong place. Way too many people playing games with their partners. If a TikTok trend is able to make you break up with your partner, you might need to rethink how you approach relationships.
I’m going h worded g
+1 reason why tiktok is detrimental.
"Might be"?😅
You used too many words. Let me fix it for you: "If you're going to TikTok, you might be in the wrong place".
Wasn't a test, but I did ask my husband (long-term boyfriend at the time) to braid my hair once. He did a twist instead, not knowing the difference. So, he proceeded to (very poorly) learn how to braid for the first time. The unwarranted anxiety he had, and the adorable relief when I told him it was a good first try was the sweetest thing ever. He still loves playing with my hair, just not braiding it 😂
So cute
This ^^ I ask my bf to brush my hair sometimes because I like having someone else do it, and he gets so anxious and worried when he catches a snag in my hair and he think he's hurting me. I have very thick hair, so I get a lot of small knots, and no matter how often I tell him I'm fine and it doesn't hurt, he still stops every time the brush catches and apologizes.
What if he wasn't taught or has mental challenges, gosh you people are something.@@JustAnotherMaryJane
@AnotherMaryJane you couldn't even spell genius correctly. Why are you talking sh*t lol?
The most important part of this is that it wasn't test.
more men are simply getting fed up with having a camera shoved in our faces being brought before the online courts. nobody wants to deal with this anymore
the actual tiktok test seems to be "does your partner play mindgames and secretly record you so they can upload it to the internet for clout?"
The ketchup thing is the equivalent of when your mom or dad ask for the remote and its within arm's reach of them...
Destroys entire house: "can you rebuild it for me?"
It's more like if they threw the remote across the room when you walked in and then asked for it.
There wasn't a mess on the counter till the person with room temperature IQ made one.
In the 80’s, kids ARE the remote 🤣
And you better NOT have an attitude about it OR point out that the thing is right next to them. 👀They already know. Diabolical.
@@kingkaza i was hoping someone would make this point.
idgaf if my man can properly clean a kitchen, bc he doesn't expect me to know how to fix our leaky roof or rebuild the engine in our car.
and if i did know how, he wouldn't let me.
we understand the values of gender roles in my home and it makes life so much easier.
@jenn2894 ma'am this isn't about gender roles :/
everyone should learn how to clean, and at least one person in any relationship should know what to do about car problems
the video is talking about people manipulating their partners, idk where you pulled gender from that
I'd give Her a reason to break up with Me. Like cleaning up the Ketchup with Her favorite dress. You don't pull BS tests on Me without consequences.
Diabolical. I love it.
"I'd give her a reason" That doesn't sound violent at all. /s
@@AG-iu9lv
it WOULD teach her to stop messing my place up. /s
@@AG-iu9lvyoure responsible for your own interpretation
@@AG-iu9lva simple thing. Don't start what you cannot finish
I've had guys come up to me half joking saying their girlfriends ask them why don't they treat them the way I treat my girlfriend. Meanwhile my girlfriend, half giggling as if she's kidding around, asks me why don't I treat her the way our guy friends treat their girlfriends?
:/
Any advice from TikTok is about as deep as its user-base’s attention span.
Absolute brain rot
If anybody testing me like this I would be offended.
nah same . id dump them imagine treatig them nice and loving them blindly and they pull this shi
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"Since when do you eat fruit!?"
I think this says a lot more than the tiktok itself 😭😭
The funny thing about that is it seems like he knows her well enough that he finds it strange that she's all the sudden asking for an orange
@@Whelp140 That's something that stood out to me too... All of the people doing these tests seem to assume that their delivery is perfect and there's no way that their partner might sense that they're not being genuine... And the fact is, they aren't being genuine... So, it's not actually a representation of reality... But the thing that's really strange about these tests is that the person testing their partner is putting themselves in a lose-lose situation... If the person doesn't pass the test, then they aren't a good partner... But if they do pass the test, then the tester isn't a good partner... So no matter the outcome of the test, the relationship should be over... Even if they pass the test, the partner would be completely justified if they're offended by being tested.... All these tests demonstrate is that, if your partner passes the test, then you don't deserve them...
@@voodaiiExactly. By testing, you fail the Test Test
People throw the word narcissistic around way too much, it's a personality disorder, you need a diagnosis for it, and it's also not fun for the person suffering from it. Seems like these days is a trend to accuse people of being narcissistic and its quite sad giving that 90% of the people using it dont even know what it means
I now understand why the stats say in the next few years over 50% of women will be single.
the "are you pregnant??" one is hilarious lol. OMG how she took it as a fail is insane...he knows you don't usually eat fruit and is genuinely confused poor guy lol
She said "I'm craving an orange"😂😂
Right? He knows her preference and knows that this fruit desire is abnormal, and is concerned. That is a fail?!?
It's a good response but the "orange peel theory" is the condiment test in a different package?
@@Quandry1 I think it's more reasonable and respectful way to go about it. If someone poured ketchup and then asked me to clean it, that's a sh*t test, not a relationship test.
@@Xenozillex in the sense of the mess and such certainly. Less insulting in presentation as well.
The person who is being "tested" should see this as bad and leave as you should not be with a people who 1. test you to prove you love them 2. are such lemmings that listen to random strangers on the internet 3. post their partners failures & 4. get advice from random strangers on the internet.
These tests are marginally more sophisticated than Astrology. A single test does not tell you anything. That people are making relationship decisions based on such incredibly shallow criteria, well I guess they will get exactly the kind of relationships they deserve.
It's even worse when they think these things mean cheating. That is such a ridiculous leap in logic. It makes no sense.
"He didn't dance, you got to break up with him'
No wonder Dating has gotten so bad lately.
🤣 I just thought it was because of the majority of bad people problem?
They call the first one a test, but I call it wasteful. So what if someone isn't good with cleaning? It doesn't mean they can't improve. Intentionally causing a mess and expecting someone else to clean it up is toddler behavior. It's just as bad as intentionally pretending to be bad at something in order to get out of doing it.
If someone is willing to clean up the mess you made without complaint, (even if they dont do it to your standards) they seem like a decent person to me. If they dont want to clean up something they watched you do on purpose, it's also valid. On the other hand, judging them for HOW they do it, is toxic behavior. So is blasting their shortcomings on social media for everyone to see. Not to mention if they know they're being filmed, they might feel compelled to do something they might not normally do just because it'll end up online. A lot of people will show their best when they know someone is watching.
Also, to the gal who threw the orange at her partner after being told no... maybe don't react violently. That's another immature and toxic behavior.
All the tests for the sake of content are manipulative af. Just learn healthy communication ffs.
Right! Not once do I ever hear them say about considerate and kind things they do for their partner and the cutesy stories that come with that.
Poor partner is always on parade instead for views.
No one is "not good at cleaning" naturally. If someone is not good at cleaning as an adult it means they never bothered to learn and always expected someone else to do it for them. That's a basic life skill no one should be "bad" at, it's not optional.
It depends on the age of course, if it's someone in their teens or early twenties it's understandable they are not that good at cleaning, if it's someone in their thirties and up however it's 100% not an accident and you can be certain it's weaponized incompetence.
Nevertheless, it's unhealthy to put your partner on the spot on social media and exposing them to ridicule instead of taking to them.
@@melchiorlise2466 From what I've seen of the trend, the vast majority of the people being tested are on the younger side. I agree that by your 30s (arguably, mid 20s) you should be able to do these basics fairly efficiently, especially if you live outside of the home you grew up in.
...but I stand by what I said before. 'Intentionally causing a mess and expecting someone else to clean it up is toddler behavior.' If the girls are making the mess themselves, they should clean it up themselves. Especially if that's what they would expect of their partner.
Also, agreed. Healthy communication is the way to go. (If they're not open or receptive to that, maybe rethink the relationship, imo.)
@@DEAntoninDolohov I think people would rather do anything than being vulnerable and honest with each other
If you are in a relationship with someone who is taking relationship advice from the internet, it is time to not be in that relationship. The irony of this statement is not lost on me. Additionally, Relationships are between you and your partner, if your partner is taking your relationship to the council of the internet, they are not ready for a relationship..
The guy replied "not yet"... not YET. We don't know if they've already had the chats about marriage, and that they're both on board for it, such that a "not yet" can actually be construed as... funny! We...don't...know...! And some of those people responding looked like they could use a shower or a walk outside at the very least(!).
What's next, the "daddy" test? Imagine the guy saying "I'm not a daddy YET" and then people just jumping on that posting with "oh you better run girl, he doesn't want kids with you!"
:/
If your partner is bashing you on video then sharing it on social media, you need a new partner. The ones filming are exposing their own abusive narcissistic behavior. This is abusive. RUN!!!!
SMH. UGH! I’ve always hated when people “test” other people, especially if they’re in relationships. These “tests” are UNNECESSARY, HUMILIATING, DECEITFUL, AND HARMFUL. They shouldn’t even exist. This is how trust is broken in a relationship. And as some people are saying, if good relationships are being ruined over these asinine “tests”, those relationships were never good to begin with.
The internet needs to know nothing to make assumptions. I'm so glad I'm not on tiktok or instagram, because this stuff is really silly. The bird test is at least based on science and measures your partner's involvement in the moment.
How about, "You made the mess; you clean it," and then walk away.
If I had a boyfriend and I handed him an orange and asked him to peel it for me, he'd probably like "Huh why? You barely even like oranges?"
As my dad used to say: 'Why, are your hands broken?".
TikTok - bringing out the absolute worst in humanity
As the worst human, I am offended. Please don't put me down there with tik tokers.
@@twowheeledanimal4805 😂
You call it weaponized incompetence i call it malicious compliance
Anyone “testing” their partner is the big failure.
I have a 5 strike policy, someone that takes and uses Tick Tock advice automatically gets two strikes.
You made my heart happy as you didn't spell tik-tok correctly
Which I see as you having a life and not caring about that trash...
Ahh refreshing 🎉😂
It would bring the strikes up to four, in my book
@@alphathealphiliate Or 4 and a half!
@@alphathealphiliate that's why I made it a five strike policy to give them a handicap of sorts, it originally came from a generic 3 Strikes policy.
I like how the one woman expects someone to read her mind to know she expects the orange to be peeled for her.
Right?!
someone should touch grass
these tests and bad results of yours are explained by one Russian proverb
“All problems have one beginning: a woman was sitting and was bored.”
"u vseh problEm odnO nachAlo: sidEla zhEnshina, skuchAla"...
"Testing" people in your life just for clicks online is sickening and needs to stop.
I have adhd. I do my best to be a good partner anyways, but if I’m absorbed in something and I don’t notice my husband being excited and dancing it doesn’t mean I don’t love him.
Also the bird test sucks for me too. I do my best to listen but sometimes after a long day my brain is just tapped out and I sometimes default to masking and pretending to pay attention.
the bird test seems more for siblings to see if they're still as excited as they were when they were little
I guess I should explain this more, my dad or step mom will always point out birds or horses or rocks so its so creepy this is used for a "romantic" test
By tiktok logic
Your the worst person ever as adhd isn't love materal
@@noellefritz5678 this makes me think that a lot of these people doing the bird test or whatever come from deeply unhealthy families where their observations and hobbies were never validated during their childhood. Though not at all an excuse for messing with their partners, that may be the reason they crave this kind of interest in their observations. So messed up all around, I feel so bad for peole who rely on this stuff, and for their partners even more.
16:06 I think you should start a fight 😂😂😂😂😂❤ it! She’s great!
It’s actually f up if you call someone your husband/wife and not mean it when you're really still just in the dating stage.
Social media is breeding sociopaths, imagine thinking its okay to test your partners and then act like you're too good for them xD dying internally of laughter.
The only proper response to the ketchup test is to turn around and walk away. Why would I clean up a mess you purposely made and have the ability to fix?
I can't relate. I've never felt the need to do tests on my boyfriend.
The only time I ever tested my man is by throwing him random questions about the subject he studied when his finals were coming up to help him pass, he never failed.🥰
@@rustyhowe3907oh yes that tests are helpful why can’t we do that and not toxic tests
@@K_idk It's because the modern world is far too involved in being clever for online social posturing than actually being smart.
@@rustyhowe3907 true
I wish were more people like you, you're the only people that are bringing hope to us
These so-called relationship challenges are bs. I've been in a relationship for 32 years and let me tell you the _real_ relationship test(s):
Do they show you little courtesies, like letting you have the _whole_ dessert, even though you're sharing it, because he knows it's your favorite?
Do they not only _show_ you respect, but insist that others do as well?
Do you have absolute trust in each other, with no interest at all in what's in their phone, or who they talk to online because they don't have to question your faithfulness?
There are lots like this, but the main one is this:
Do you feel at ease and happy in each other's presence?
If the answer to any of those is no, then run.
Gonna write this down
Respect is earned and no one can demand respect for you. Your way of interacting influences others. It’s a whole different situation if someone’s being rude to you for no reason and your partner steps in. And the other points are kinda nothing burgers?
An actual relationship test is how you overcome hardships, arguments and disagreements together. There’s no actual testing. You’ll feel at peace no matter what you go through together.
@@Jesei1211 I disagree. A partner most cetainly can demand respect for you.
@@Jesei1211 showing unbidden consideration in daily life like the dessert thing isn't a "nothing burger". it's worth more than any obligatory candy and roses on Valentine's or after arguments. and that kind of trust is worth more than diamond rings. that's what actual love looks like.
W lines. Golden lines. Well said. Did ask.
I still need to grow up to comprehend these lines tho
Men should do the bill test - tell their wives/gf to cover all their mortgage/rent, utilities, groceries for a whole month.
honey clean up the mess i made to test up. dear take these divorce papers and get out of my house.
I feel like this is so ridiculous. Another reason not to have tiktok
My problem with these tests is that they demonize the partner for not babying them. Your partner isn't obligated to open an orange for you or clean up your mess. That is a kindness they offer you out of the goodness of their heart, and even if they don't do it, that doesn't make them horrible. Treating you like an adult and holding you accountable isn't evil. They are your equal partner, not your parent or servant. AND a singular test cannot define a person since behavior can be attributed to neutral multiple factors, i.e. NUANCE/CONTEXT.
If they can't do one simple thing out of kindness. Why try
@@bgos4727 Where's the kindness from the partner demanding the other peel their orange? It's a totally weird request.
@bgos4727 one thing? Seems like you'd be overlooking a lot to claim a relationship would exist and peeling a orange would be the first thing they would've done for you.
Having to pass tests means there's no trust in the relationship.
Definitely a red flag: instant breakup for me.
I would leave the person immediately if they didn’t get my permission to fill me
These "Tests" only measure a single thing: Obedience.
They are not, and never were, about whether someone is a good partner or not. They are entirely about "measuring" if the partner will silently obey the other, and act in accordance with that person's desire.
Making these tests is far more toxic to the relationship, than any "failed" person ever is.
hmmm, testing partner does show insecurity. recording it and posting it online is seeking some form of validation. this is a strange time.
Professional victim when it doesn't work, Disney Princess syndrome when it does. These people aren't living in reality, they're living a rehearsed script from a rom-com and getting shocked when reality doesn't work that way.
Most of all it's a form of deceptive insult. The real test is whether a woman tries any of these 'tests'... if she does, then time to breakup.
Yeah. I don't understand why people live their lives online.
TikTok test failed - dumped.
Arbuser with tonn of red flags like insanity, story of crime of addiction - chased.