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Parents are often upset
家长总感到不安，
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when their children praise the homes of their friends
当他们听到孩子赞扬自己朋友的家时，
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and regard it as a slur on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture,
认为孩子在嫌弃自家的饭菜、卫生、或家具，
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and often are foolish enough
而且愚蠢地
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to let the adolescents see that they are annoyed.
让孩子看出自己的烦恼。
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They may even accuse them of disloyalty,
他们甚至责备孩子不忠，
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or make some spiteful remark about the friends' parents.
或者讲些小朋友家长的坏话。
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Such a loss of dignity and descent into childish behaviour on the part of the adults
家长这种有失身份和孩子气的作法
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deeply shocks the adolescents,
使青春期的孩子大为震惊，
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and make them resolve
决心
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that in future they will not talk to their parents
以后不再向父母讲述
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about the places or people they visit.
去过的地方和见过的人。
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Before very long the parents will be complaining
不要很久,家长就会抱怨
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that the child is so secretive
孩子守口如瓶，
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and never tells them anything,
什么事也不告诉他们，
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but they seldom realize
殊不知
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that they have brought this on themselves.
这是他们自找的。
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Disillusionment with the parents, however good and adequate
孩子们对家长幻想的破灭
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they may be both as parents and as individuals,
不管家长的人品有多么好，作为父母有多么合格，
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is to some degree inevitable.
在某种程度上是不可避免的。
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Most children have such a high ideal of their parents,
大多数孩子对父母估价过高，
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unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory,
除非父母自身不能令人满意，
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that it can hardly hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation.
以致这种估价很难指望经受住现实的考验。
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Parents would be greatly surprised and deeply touched
那么家长会大为吃惊和深受感动的。
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if they realized how much belief their children usually have
如果家长意识到孩子们通常是多么相信
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in their character and infallibility,
家长的品行和绝对正确，
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and how much this faith means to a child.
意识到孩子们的这种信念会对孩子产生多么大的影响，
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If parents were prepared for this adolescent reaction,
如果家长对青少年的这种反应有思想准备，
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and realized that it was a sign that the child was growing up
并且意识到这象征着孩子们正在成熟
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and developing valuable powers of observation
和正在发展宝贵的观察力、
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and independent judgment,
独立判断力，
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they would not be so hurt,
那么他们就不会那样伤心，
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and therefore would not drive the child into opposition
也就不会把孩子推到自己的对立面去，
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by resenting and resisting it.
由于怨恨和抵触这种反应。
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The adolescent, with his passion for sincerity, always respects a parent
青少年酷爱真诚，他们总是尊敬父母的，
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who admits that he is wrong, or ignorant,
只要他们能够承认错误或无知、
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or even that he has been unfair or unjust.
甚至承认自己做得不分平或不公正。
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What the child cannot forgive is
孩子们所不能原谅的是：
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the parent's refusal to admit these charges
父母错了，可是做父母的还不肯承认。
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if the child knows them to be true.
而孩子们又可以发现。
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Victorian parents believed
维多利亚时代的父母认为，
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that they kept their dignity
他们维护自己的尊严，
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by retreating behind an unreasoning authoritarian attitude;
凭借无理的权威气派来
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in fact they did nothing of the kind,
实际上那是根本不行的。
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but children were then too cowed to let them know
孩子们只不过被吓得不敢让父母知道
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how they really felt.
自己的想法罢了。
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Today we tend to go to the other extreme,
虽然现在我们倾向于走向另一个极端，
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but on the whole
但总地来看，
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this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parent.
孩子和家长双方态度都比较端正。
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It is always wiser and safer to face up to reality,
遇事采取面对现实的态度总是比较明智和稳妥的，
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however painful it may be at the moment.
尽管会有暂时的痛苦。