Take a shot every time I say “stressful” Jk don’t! You’ll die 😬🥴 Ik this is rambleY n vague I apologize for that. Right now we have a date a year from now (bc we had to choose or else we’d forfeit our deposit) .. but tbh everything happens for a reason and we won’t force it 🙂
A wedding on the scale that you are wanting typically takes 12 to 18 months to plan. If I were you, you two could do a small court house wedding and a bigger reception thing at a later date. Just suggestions, take it with a grain of salt.
I’m an ordained minister and have done several weddings - if you need someone to go to a location I would be happy to do it for you! No charge, just maybe donate to a good cause which you already do! Everything will end up falling into place when the time is right. Everything will be ok luv!
God damn it Jess you almost gave me a heart attack! I hate weddings and they’re so overrated. We got married at the courthouse and I just wanted to get it over it, the wedding wasn’t important for us. Did you guys think about eloping? It would be so much easier and go away on a honeymoon for 2 weeks ❤️ hope you guys are doing ok
I noticed you haven’t been wearing your ring and was worried you’d broken up again. Elope! My fiancé passed unexpectedly in August 6 weeks before our wedding, and I regret not eloping like I wanted to do. We instead planned a small wedding for just close friends and family to accommodate them. Now he’ll always be my late fiancé and never my husband.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Yeah I was thinking if they’re not ready to get married than yeah don’t do it. However if you’re just putting it off because of stressful wedding planning, just take the kids and get married! Don’t loose time with the person you love. Weddings are fun but in the long run they mean nothing it’s the marriage that matters!
My partner and I were going to get married 2 years ago and we ended up postponing it. This wedding was going to be so extravagant and expensive. We postponed it to work on our relationship and we’re now planning on getting married in my grandparents’ backyard next fall. We’ll be saving tons of money, stress, and it feels so much more “us”. I think the pandemic has taught us we don’t need to have a big wedding, and to really do what feels best for you!
Same here. We got married in our own backyard of the apartment building we live in. I5 was magic and precious and would not change one moment of it. Congratulations on your two years.
Honestly long engagements are so much nicer and I think you’re really going to be happy with your decision. When you stretch it out that long you are able to enjoy your engagement a lot more and have fun with it instead of being stressed. my fiancé and I have been engaged for 2 1/2 years and we’re finally getting married this summer but i’m really glad that we had such a long time to plan things and still have fun along the way. I’m sorry to hear that lifespan more difficult lately but you got this Jessica you’re a rockstar! sending you lots of love
I’m a firm believer in long engagements. Personally, like to each their own! Obviously! But for meeee, like I could never in a million years actually picture myself paying for and planning a wedding in a year. Like people actually do that? Lol. I plan on getting engaged and being engaged for like two or three years before setting a date and during that engagement period we would be saving all the money we can & buying anything possible for the wedding in order to ensure that once we set and announce a date we won’t be as stressed or have to push it back.
Yes! My fiance and I will have had a year and a half long engagement by the time we get married. In that time we've moved, I'll be finish university, got a cat together, and have started planning next steps.
Yes!! We had a 2 year engagement and with COVID it was an extra year and it was stressful because of COVID but had it not been for COVID two years was a great time too!
The wedding doesn’t matter. It’s for other people. The honeymoon does matter. It’s for you. Seriously, the wedding party doesn’t matter. You don’t need to have a huge deal for the wedding. Have the people you love come. Even if you’re just grilling hamburgers in the backyard. That’s the only thing that matters. The people. Not the flowers or the dress or the invitations or any of the pomp and circumstance. Don’t over complicate it.
They were both abusive to each other. She has admitted to being “mouthy” and saying the worst things to people. And hit people. She is abusive. She has never said dude hit her. I bet you that she hit him. Also, anyone that has time to pull out a phone and record while they are being “abused”(i.e. yelled at) isn’t too concerned with their well-being if they are actually scared of the person.
Didn't know you lived in their home with them. Also she has said he hit her, she's said he tried to kill her, so idk where you got that from. Either way I hope they both get the help they need to be good parents to their children. The girls deserve both of them at their best.
@@ChelseaLynnThibodeaux no marks? Literally no marks? She said he grabbed her by the throat and choked her and that “she” thought he was going to kill her. We have no idea of the story is true. But it very well may be true. They both were abusive to each other it seems. But Jessica had said, while crying, that she never knew what it was like to be in a normal and great relationship before Reece. She always says do he was so great and wonderful. Once Jason got out of prison, then suddenly the everything starts going wrong. Jason is the guy she was sending sexually explicit messages to all throughout her relationship with Reece and she said that she can’t wait for him to get out of prison so they can actually do all of those sexual things. Look, I’m not defending Reece. If he beat her and verbally abused her, then he should pay. Same goes for her. Also, she was cheating the ENTIRE relationship so she is a terrible person as well. She has admitted to verbally abusing Reece before. She most likely hit him too. But whatever. Jessica is not JUST some sad victim. She is also cheater and an abuser too. And she has lied SO MUCH in the past 5 months.
Oh thank God, I was hoping it wasn't a break up video lbvs ur wedding should be the best time for u I'm glad u chose to push it back so it can be more enjoyable for you. U deserve the best
You look so beautiful without makeup. To be clear, you also look beautiful with makeup and that’s not a comment on what you should or shouldn’t wear…just hadn’t seen you without makeup and I love it!
Do what you both feel like is right. It's YOUR wedding after all. If it takes a year, it takes a year. If it'll make you and Reece less stressful, do it. You'll get there either way ❤️ Like you said, you should enjoy planning your wedding. Hope the planning will be more fun now ❤️
Wow it shouldn't be so stressful. I had such a fun time planning my wedding. It should be a good experience. Hopefully postponing it will make things easier for you!
As a guy who has officiated weddings, Trust me, It takes the time it takes. Don't worry about it. If, in the end, you decide to do a Him, Her, The Preacher, and the Photographer deal, so be it. Just throw a big reception later. Some of the most beautiful ceremonies I have ever presided over were Just The Bride, Groom, Me, the Photographer, and two people we found coming out of a hotel as witnesses. (If witnesses are required). At the end of the day, it comes down to you and Reece. Make sure it's right for you and him. All the super expensive shit is accessory.
Love your advice about choosing what is right for yourself. I have to admit that when it comes to family I struggle hard with it. Thanks for being honest. I don't feel so alone in this.
6 months. In Chicago. Post pandemic. So many people are playing catch up and things are hard to get done. Supply issues have affected all industries too. If u guys r cool and you're less stressed then good choice ❤️
You're right. Everything happens for a reason. And you're also right about not owing anyone anything. I hope all works out. And your liner looks hellamazing.
I've been married for 14 years. When we got married, we were both working 3 jobs. I was 20, he had just turned 21. It was so stressful! My mom and I planned it, no wedding planner. We also made a lot of stuff ourselves. It was so much work. I had to keep reminding myself that it would be over soon and I'd get a vacation after. I hated wedding planning. I love being married though. When people ask if I plan on renewing vows, I say hell no!
It’s so stressful planning a wedding! I’ve never understood why people feel like they have to get it all done in 6-8 months after getting engaged. You do you boo! ❤️
Darling I'm so proud of you! My daughter has fought a lot of your same battles. I understand some of what you are going thru. Y'all are doing the right thing by postponing your wedding 💒 for now. It's one of the top 10 stresser in life. Make it right for your family.
All that matters is what is best for you and Reece 💛 you’ve got this girl don’t stress yourself too much which I know is easier said than done coming from a fellow anxious worry wart 🤪
Thank you for reminding us to do what what is best for ourselves and our families, despite other’s expectations! Enthusiastic consent can even apply to things we want to do in our own lives. Sending you love from 🇨🇦
Jess thank you for this video i really needed to hear this. My love n i have had constant drama with my family non stop and this was such good timing. I really needed this.
Wait I'm so glad you brought up rescheduling the trial makeup thing! I do the same thing sometimes (because I also have health issues), and it's something I get SO insecure about. Then rescheduling makes me more stressed and anxious and it's this horrible cycle
I agree, weddings should not be stressful. If you feel like you need to postpone to make the process feel better for you, then do it! Your happiness is number one. 💯💌
Love love 😍 you! I can understand the stress for sure! The exciting thing is the with pushing it back is the ability to lower the stress and make it more enjoyable!!! Plus the dress NEEDS to be perfect so we TOTALLY get it xoxo 💋 sending lots of HUGS!
I can also say I didn't appreciate just how much stress and work can go into one day until I witnessed it! Taking a step back and letting things take as long as they take seems like a smart move. Best of luck with whatever route you take from here and whatever you're dealing with.
You absolutely made the right decision in postponing, especially when you mentioned the dress situation. I got married last year and I got my dress ordered in February 2021, it wasn't ready until July 2021 and then I STILL needed alterations and they were booked until August 2021 and my wedding was September 2021. The dress wasn't ready until 2 weeks before the ceremony... I was freaking out that I wouldn't even have my dress in time. Dresses take FOREVER. You're absolutely right that you never realize just how stressful planning a wedding is until you have to plan one yourself. Take all the time you need to make sure your day is as special and perfect as you envisioned, you deserve to have the wedding of your dreams. 💖
Jess amazing makeup talent. All's I wear is mascara occasionally. I have no idea what or how to apply all that stuff. Great work! Also sorry about your friend Robbie and everyone that is struggling with something.
I just love listening to you talk! Some people I really can't listen to and they drive me nuts, but you I could listen to you talk forever! Lol just had to say that
At least you’re choosing happiness and you’re mental health over just pushing through the stress to make a wedding happen just so everyone else doesn’t have to wait. I feel like most people don’t have the courage it takes to tell their whole family no without feeling like you have to explain why. You’re so inspiring to me for sure!
Jess. I'm sorry you are dealing with struggles, first of all. I get it and I promise you that you will get thru it, whatever you are dealing with. But most importantly, I AM PROUD OF U. Whatever happens, happens, and ALL I WANT IS FOR U TO BE HAPPY. Girl u don't get how much u deserve that at the very least. Even if you never get married, that is OKAY. Please don't put too much pressure on yourself, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. Sending lots of love.
girl organizing a wedding is SO STRESSFUL!!! I'm going through this rn and for real, I just want to hop in a plane to somewhere far away with my fiancé and have a secret wedding
Definitely had issues like this planning our wedding. Too busy, had kids, too hard. After 5 years we FINALLY just eloped. JUST THE 2 OF US! Best decision ever. Celebrating 10 years next month.
My husband and I ended up canceling our wedding and just had 3 witnesses at the court. Best decision we ever made! Starting of married life with a big chunk of money in a savings account that would have been wasted on one single day was the best feeling. Weddings aren't one size fit all. Do whatever feels right for you and your partner
You have to do what's best for you. It's your wedding and yes, you want your friends and family to have a good time of course, but at the end of the day, the two of you are the most important! And even though wedding prep is stressful and things always pop up, it is not supposed to be so hard to the point you cannot enjoy one bit of it! Give yourself time and I wish you all the best with everything! And thanks for sharing! ❤️
I’m so glad you guys are seeing what’s best for you and taking the step back to unload some of the stress! You are so busy you need a breath! 😍 I hope now you can look at the choices you need to make for the wedding and make the choices you want rather than rushed decisions that may not be you xx
I was a wedding planner for 8 years. I always said my job was more of a pre-marital therapist than a planner. The things couples would start fighting over were ridiculous. I'd always tell them to focus on WHY they are getting married, not the actual wedding.. I also would tell them to not stress the small stuff. It was the funny little bloopers at the wedding that made the best memories. There is never a reason to rush a wedding unless you are planning it around something else time sensitive. It is always about the relationship, not the wedding. Please show yourself some Grace. It will happen when it happens..
Girl so my husband and I just got married in December. We wanted to get married on our 6 year anniversary which was May 2021 and when we decided ok let’s get married on that date, the date was about 3 months out and we decided like there’s no way. So we decided on a new date and gave ourselves 10 months to plan and our wedding was amazing!! I totally understand trying to plan it to soon and needing to postpone it!! Postponing is going to be so good and your wedding is going to be amazing because you’re not rushing♥️
Smart Jessica - you should enjoy the planning - not get stressed. Waiting until you guys get things sorted out between you is also great. Also, your teeth look great!
I feel your pain; although I planned my wedding on my own and kept everything super simple. 😊 I also didn’t get my wedding dress until the DAY BEFORE my wedding! 😅 do what’s right for you! ❤️
I can tell your teeth have moved and you look incredible! I think because it is such a slow, gradual process that's why you can't see it yet. Also, I think it was a very smart decision not just cosmetically but for the future of your teeth. Our teeth are the foundation of our overall health and a lot of people don't realize that. I'm really happy for you too because you deserve this! I can't wait to get invisalign now I see how it is working for you so you could be inspiring a lot of other people to do it too! Besides all that, you look amazing!! You've always been beautiful!! You're actually one of my favorites on UA-cam because you are so real and truthful and I can relate to a lot the things you've been through. Thank You!!
Honestly, all that needs to be "done" for a newborn is a carseat, diapers, boobs and/or formula, sleepers, and a safe place for baby to sleep. All the rest of it can be handled as you go. Best wishes for a safe, peaceful birth! 💕
@@kelly1827 Thank you!!!! Thankfully we do have all that and SO much more. First time parent so it’s a bit scary, but my boyfriend and I are SUPER excited!
You're quite right to reschedule if things are getting too stressful and tight for time! I planned mine in less than 6 months, so I feel you lol. I got lucky that I found a dress really quickly, and the one on the rack was literally brand new (never tried on), so they altered that one to fit me. I didn't want a big fancy wedding (personal taste), and really wasn't bothered about the flowers (only mine and the bridesmaids), so just told the caterer my colours were ivory and gold. She seemed horrified that I wasn't fussed about details, but I just told her it was about marrying my hubby, not the colour of a tablecloth 🤣. We had the immediate family that were the wedding party for dinner, then around 100 guests for the evening reception/party, which was a lot less stressful to organise (and was such a fun day/way to celebrate!)
Do your best not to stress. You really don’t owe anyone an explanation. When it comes to weddings the only thing that really really matters is the person you are marrying.
Totally Elope!! And have a party in a year it’s about you and him and the girls no one else! Do you girl! And yes your teeth look beautiful I haven’t watching YT in a min but they do look good Jess!
Jess!!! Such a smart move to make!!! Soooooo smart!!!!! I planned a wedding AND bought a house (- crazay version of Virgo!) Why suffer when you can get a grip on things, slow the whole process down to get a handle on the chaos and actually enjoy the planning! Love you and Reece and your fam so much. Thank you so much for setting such a good example. Health and wellness is so crucial.
Hello Jessica. I was planning a wedding last year and not anymore. I agree you don’t owe anyone an explanation for anything. A lesson I’m still learning too.
It's been a hella year for me too. I lost my 93 yr old dad, and somehow lost my relationship with my brothers. Its heartbreaking. Hang in there. You're not alone.
Girl, you do what's best for YOU and your beautiful little family. Everyone else will fall in line right behind you. And if not, they don't matter anyway. Lol Take care of yourself love. THAT is what matters 💗😘🥰 love you always
I got so much crap from my family when I told them my engagement was going to be 2 and a half years long. But honestly I can't imagine doing it in less time than that. We are 18 months out and I'm just now selecting our venue and starting to really plan. Ngl it's still stressful though. But I think long engagements are the way to go. Rushing to the alter is overrated.
Glad you're doing what's best for you guys and postponing! I got married in December and simply had a friend sign the paperwork for us and mailed it in. I cannot imagine going through the stress of wedding planning
Girl I feel you on the stress level. Hubby and I planned our wedding in 2 months due to my brother being set to deploy for a year. Looking back I am not sure if I would have done it any differently because I flat out did not have time to second guess myself, had to go with my gut instinct on stuff and move to the next thing lol
We were engaged for almost 2 years and I’m glad we had plenty of time to plan. Granted, I was deployed during some of that time, but still. We had some problems to work out when I got back and I’m glad we had time to do so and were not rushed.
I was engaged for 2-3 years before I got married. It was the best choice for my partner and me. You do whatever y'all need to so that you can be happy.
I married my guy in our back courtyard officiated by a friend and we mostly had close family around. We had catered food, used the tents already available by our building and we didn’t use money we didn’t have. Nothing was over the top and I love all of it. My mom in law made our wedding bands for us, my dad in law photographed it and all of my memories are precious. I hope that you will experience the same precious wedding in the way you feel is best for you.
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Oh my gosh I resonate with this so much I am such a people pleaser and it is a problem I put everybody and their opinion and their feelings ahead of my own 41 days me and I got to get it this year I feel you Jessica thank you for sharing
I'm gonna be in the same boat in a few years time. I think it would be ideal and people would appreciate a video on wedding planning what goes in to it etc as can imagine it's very stressful and time consuming .. x
I got engaged in 2019 then the whole friggin world fell apart. I rescheduled a total of 3 times and was engaged over 2 years. The venue closed temporarily and then permanently. We both lost jobs for different amounts of times so money was an issue and half the guest list was an issue. When we finally did it, honestly it was rushed and "cheap". There are a TON of people who didn't make it (it was out of state and the final date took forever to decide). This includes my siblings, most of my husband's siblings, and all the nieces and nephews. I got my altered dress the day before we left. I did pass out the day before we left because he still went to work and I was mega ultra stressed. But we did it, in a place I honestly wanted to my whole life (I have family there. This sweet man has no ties at all but it was his idea! Yes, I worked 13 hours on a playlist that he and/or his brother shuffled and the mood wasn't right for awhile, but by the end of the night it was nice to be able to go online and everyone pick a song. My family hosted (we stayed at their inn AND had the wedding there) for free and everyone helped. I'm so grateful to them. There are definitely things I missed about having a traditional wedding, but my sister did both (she was set to get married RIGHT at the start of covid so she got legally married in her backyard then ended up having her "big" thing a couple months before mine) and said she regrets all the time, money and energy she spent on that one. I would've preferred fall (originally late September, ended up being July). I definitely missed the professional photographer, videographer and hair/makeup (I did pay for a photographer but he was the cheapest I could find and they were the same quality as the ones taken by a family friend. He also didn't like that she was there at all and I feel like some of our pictures are messed up because he was actively trying to work against her, even though he knew she would be there and he was supposed to be the "real" one.) My cake was better than our original choice and I didn't taste the food from the original venue, but what we did have was dirt cheap and we had so many leftovers! And we didn't have to worry about cleaning up. We were there for a week after. We did a little at a time and had so many people helping. Maybe I would've done a few things differently, but I wouldn't say I was disappointed by the wait, and I still got to wear my gorgeous dress and bring home a handsome guy (:
I’m getting married on May 14th and JUST purchased my dress and still have soooo much left to do! But I’m so excited to get married so I’m just kinda going with the flow and hoping I don’t give myself an ulcer in the meantime!! ha ha! But just do what feels right for y’all and everything will fall into place!
I pushed my wedding out a year and it was the best thing I could have ever done. And I would go back and do it again. Enjoy being engaged, it's usually the shortest part of any typical relationship. Sure wedding planning is stressful, but it should also be fun. You'll be so glad you made this choice.
Damn, that vid title got me. haha. 100% makes sense though not to rush it, take your time to get the all the details big and lil how you want 'em. y'all are the best so obviously you both deserve the best 🤪 Also, i orded a t-shirt from your website and it just came today! 10/10 Suuper comfy. Keep being awesome bro broo
I actually glad that you are taking a step back and not rushing things. No one needs that stress. You are doing the right thing for your family and yourself. Hugs.
This sounds like me. Having a wedding is so beautiful but everyone I’ve known says it’s VERY stressful! I’m always forgetting so it would be hard to plan one omg
I just postponed mine. Had to reschedule it 4 times already due to Covid restrictions but this is something that takes time and make sure YOU AND YOUR SO need it to be the best day of your lives. Plus I’m going back to school so money is an issue too. And atm you can use the Covid excuse! Do what’s best for you and you owe no-one an explanation.
Jess! My heart dropped when I read that title! Lol. I have friends who got married alone (officiant and photographer there) in a national park in Montana. Then they honeymooned in a cabin in the middle of nowhere in the park. I 100% understand why they did that, and I totally respected that choice. I think you made a fantastic decision. It was A LOT to get done way too fast. Your family is the most important thing. Take care of yourself and them! The wedding will come together. I love that you have learned over time to put your mental health first. You for sure gave advice that people needed to hear. I needed some of it. Thank you. 💜
Long engagements for the win. I was engaged for 2.5 years and it gave me time to enjoy wedding planning. It's still one of the happiest periods of my life.
I'm so glad you're prioritizing what's best for you. When my husband and I were engaged, he wanted to postpone the wedding because it was so stressful. I was afraid of what people would think, so I refused. We ended up having to call off the whole wedding and broke up. Fortunately we resolved things, got back together, and planned a much smaller wedding that we loved.
Take a shot every time I say “stressful” Jk don’t! You’ll die 😬🥴 Ik this is rambleY n vague I apologize for that. Right now we have a date a year from now (bc we had to choose or else we’d forfeit our deposit) .. but tbh everything happens for a reason and we won’t force it 🙂
I saw the title and literally teared up
A wedding on the scale that you are wanting typically takes 12 to 18 months to plan. If I were you, you two could do a small court house wedding and a bigger reception thing at a later date. Just suggestions, take it with a grain of salt.
I’m an ordained minister and have done several weddings - if you need someone to go to a location I would be happy to do it for you! No charge, just maybe donate to a good cause which you already do!
Everything will end up falling into place when the time is right. Everything will be ok luv!
@@MyFavoriteColorIsGlitter That's so kind of you!
God damn it Jess you almost gave me a heart attack! I hate weddings and they’re so overrated. We got married at the courthouse and I just wanted to get it over it, the wedding wasn’t important for us. Did you guys think about eloping? It would be so much easier and go away on a honeymoon for 2 weeks ❤️ hope you guys are doing ok
I noticed you haven’t been wearing your ring and was worried you’d broken up again. Elope! My fiancé passed unexpectedly in August 6 weeks before our wedding, and I regret not eloping like I wanted to do. We instead planned a small wedding for just close friends and family to accommodate them. Now he’ll always be my late fiancé and never my husband.
Aww Sarah ♥️
I'm so sorry for your loss.... 💜
I am so sorry this happned to you. So very traumatic. Hope you find peace and happiness and heal.
So so very sorry for your loss 😔
I’m so sorry for your loss. Yeah I was thinking if they’re not ready to get married than yeah don’t do it. However if you’re just putting it off because of stressful wedding planning, just take the kids and get married! Don’t loose time with the person you love. Weddings are fun but in the long run they mean nothing it’s the marriage that matters!
My partner and I were going to get married 2 years ago and we ended up postponing it. This wedding was going to be so extravagant and expensive. We postponed it to work on our relationship and we’re now planning on getting married in my grandparents’ backyard next fall. We’ll be saving tons of money, stress, and it feels so much more “us”.
I think the pandemic has taught us we don’t need to have a big wedding, and to really do what feels best for you!
Same here. We got married in our own backyard of the apartment building we live in. I5 was magic and precious and would not change one moment of it. Congratulations on your two years.
Honestly long engagements are so much nicer and I think you’re really going to be happy with your decision. When you stretch it out that long you are able to enjoy your engagement a lot more and have fun with it instead of being stressed. my fiancé and I have been engaged for 2 1/2 years and we’re finally getting married this summer but i’m really glad that we had such a long time to plan things and still have fun along the way. I’m sorry to hear that lifespan more difficult lately but you got this Jessica you’re a rockstar! sending you lots of love
Congrats to you and your Fiance! Wishing you many blessed years together.
I’m a firm believer in long engagements. Personally, like to each their own! Obviously! But for meeee, like I could never in a million years actually picture myself paying for and planning a wedding in a year. Like people actually do that? Lol. I plan on getting engaged and being engaged for like two or three years before setting a date and during that engagement period we would be saving all the money we can & buying anything possible for the wedding in order to ensure that once we set and announce a date we won’t be as stressed or have to push it back.
Yes! My fiance and I will have had a year and a half long engagement by the time we get married. In that time we've moved, I'll be finish university, got a cat together, and have started planning next steps.
Yes!! We had a 2 year engagement and with COVID it was an extra year and it was stressful because of COVID but had it not been for COVID two years was a great time too!
The wedding doesn’t matter. It’s for other people. The honeymoon does matter. It’s for you.
Seriously, the wedding party doesn’t matter. You don’t need to have a huge deal for the wedding. Have the people you love come. Even if you’re just grilling hamburgers in the backyard.
That’s the only thing that matters. The people.
Not the flowers or the dress or the invitations or any of the pomp and circumstance.
Don’t over complicate it.
Sooooo true! Great advice:)
So true! My brother and sister in law had a beautiful wedding but not over the top and spent more money on their amazing honeymoon!
This is gospel.
Are you dim? The wedding is for the bride. Nobody else cares
@@susanm8738 god another one
Rewatching these videos knowing what she was going through is so heartbreaking
What? Cheating with Jason?
They were both abusive to each other. She has admitted to being “mouthy” and saying the worst things to people. And hit people. She is abusive. She has never said dude hit her. I bet you that she hit him. Also, anyone that has time to pull out a phone and record while they are being “abused”(i.e. yelled at) isn’t too concerned with their well-being if they are actually scared of the person.
Didn't know you lived in their home with them. Also she has said he hit her, she's said he tried to kill her, so idk where you got that from. Either way I hope they both get the help they need to be good parents to their children. The girls deserve both of them at their best.
@@ChelseaLynnThibodeaux no marks? Literally no marks? She said he grabbed her by the throat and choked her and that “she” thought he was going to kill her. We have no idea of the story is true. But it very well may be true. They both were abusive to each other it seems. But Jessica had said, while crying, that she never knew what it was like to be in a normal and great relationship before Reece. She always says do he was so great and wonderful. Once Jason got out of prison, then suddenly the everything starts going wrong. Jason is the guy she was sending sexually explicit messages to all throughout her relationship with Reece and she said that she can’t wait for him to get out of prison so they can actually do all of those sexual things. Look, I’m not defending Reece. If he beat her and verbally abused her, then he should pay. Same goes for her. Also, she was cheating the ENTIRE relationship so she is a terrible person as well. She has admitted to verbally abusing Reece before. She most likely hit him too. But whatever. Jessica is not JUST some sad victim. She is also cheater and an abuser too. And she has lied SO MUCH in the past 5 months.
Oh thank God, I was hoping it wasn't a break up video lbvs ur wedding should be the best time for u I'm glad u chose to push it back so it can be more enjoyable for you. U deserve the best
You look so beautiful without makeup. To be clear, you also look beautiful with makeup and that’s not a comment on what you should or shouldn’t wear…just hadn’t seen you without makeup and I love it!
Jess, i aint gonna lie your audio is always on-point! Some of the best I've heard on YT💯
Do what you both feel like is right. It's YOUR wedding after all.
If it takes a year, it takes a year. If it'll make you and Reece less stressful, do it. You'll get there either way ❤️
Like you said, you should enjoy planning your wedding. Hope the planning will be more fun now ❤️
what ana said
Love it when you do your makeup and talk about your life! You are getting so good at your makeup!!!
Wow it shouldn't be so stressful. I had such a fun time planning my wedding. It should be a good experience. Hopefully postponing it will make things easier for you!
As a guy who has officiated weddings, Trust me, It takes the time it takes. Don't worry about it. If, in the end, you decide to do a Him, Her, The Preacher, and the Photographer deal, so be it. Just throw a big reception later. Some of the most beautiful ceremonies I have ever presided over were Just The Bride, Groom, Me, the Photographer, and two people we found coming out of a hotel as witnesses. (If witnesses are required). At the end of the day, it comes down to you and Reece. Make sure it's right for you and him. All the super expensive shit is accessory.
Hey we get it! Wedding planing is hard! I eloped after 2 months of planing. I was so done. Family was there and that is all that mattered to us.
Love your advice about choosing what is right for yourself. I have to admit that when it comes to family I struggle hard with it. Thanks for being honest. I don't feel so alone in this.
6 months. In Chicago. Post pandemic. So many people are playing catch up and things are hard to get done. Supply issues have affected all industries too. If u guys r cool and you're less stressed then good choice ❤️
You're right. Everything happens for a reason. And you're also right about not owing anyone anything. I hope all works out. And your liner looks hellamazing.
I've been married for 14 years. When we got married, we were both working 3 jobs. I was 20, he had just turned 21. It was so stressful! My mom and I planned it, no wedding planner. We also made a lot of stuff ourselves. It was so much work. I had to keep reminding myself that it would be over soon and I'd get a vacation after. I hated wedding planning. I love being married though. When people ask if I plan on renewing vows, I say hell no!
It’s so stressful planning a wedding! I’ve never understood why people feel like they have to get it all done in 6-8 months after getting engaged. You do you boo! ❤️
Darling I'm so proud of you!
My daughter has fought a lot of your same battles. I understand some of what you are going thru.
Y'all are doing the right thing by postponing your wedding 💒 for now. It's one of the top 10 stresser in life. Make it right for your family.
All that matters is what is best for you and Reece 💛 you’ve got this girl don’t stress yourself too much which I know is easier said than done coming from a fellow anxious worry wart 🤪
Thank you for reminding us to do what what is best for ourselves and our families, despite other’s expectations! Enthusiastic consent can even apply to things we want to do in our own lives.
Sending you love from 🇨🇦
You do what makes you both happy~ we got married on our pontoon boat on Lake Tuscaloosa with a few friends on their boats. It was perfect
I'm so excited for you that Janet came to visit you! That's so sweet for both of you💜
Jess thank you for this video i really needed to hear this. My love n i have had constant drama with my family non stop and this was such good timing. I really needed this.
Wait I'm so glad you brought up rescheduling the trial makeup thing! I do the same thing sometimes (because I also have health issues), and it's something I get SO insecure about. Then rescheduling makes me more stressed and anxious and it's this horrible cycle
I agree, weddings should not be stressful. If you feel like you need to postpone to make the process feel better for you, then do it! Your happiness is number one. 💯💌
2022 is a veryyyy busy wedding year. I have been invited to 8 so far. 2023 will be such a better year!
Love love 😍 you! I can understand the stress for sure! The exciting thing is the with pushing it back is the ability to lower the stress and make it more enjoyable!!! Plus the dress NEEDS to be perfect so we TOTALLY get it xoxo 💋 sending lots of HUGS!
You’re beautiful without makeup love! Just started the video and that was my first thought :)
I can also say I didn't appreciate just how much stress and work can go into one day until I witnessed it! Taking a step back and letting things take as long as they take seems like a smart move. Best of luck with whatever route you take from here and whatever you're dealing with.
Love you girl ❤️🙏 I love your strength. So proud of you 😊
You absolutely made the right decision in postponing, especially when you mentioned the dress situation. I got married last year and I got my dress ordered in February 2021, it wasn't ready until July 2021 and then I STILL needed alterations and they were booked until August 2021 and my wedding was September 2021. The dress wasn't ready until 2 weeks before the ceremony... I was freaking out that I wouldn't even have my dress in time. Dresses take FOREVER.
You're absolutely right that you never realize just how stressful planning a wedding is until you have to plan one yourself. Take all the time you need to make sure your day is as special and perfect as you envisioned, you deserve to have the wedding of your dreams. 💖
Jess amazing makeup talent. All's I wear is mascara occasionally. I have no idea what or how to apply all that stuff. Great work! Also sorry about your friend Robbie and everyone that is struggling with something.
I just love listening to you talk! Some people I really can't listen to and they drive me nuts, but you I could listen to you talk forever! Lol just had to say that
Totally understandable! Random Question.. what’s your skin care routine? Beautiful ❤️
At least you’re choosing happiness and you’re mental health over just pushing through the stress to make a wedding happen just so everyone else doesn’t have to wait. I feel like most people don’t have the courage it takes to tell their whole family no without feeling like you have to explain why. You’re so inspiring to me for sure!
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Be sure to carve out time for yourselves though. You both deserve it for working so hard!! 💞
Jess. I'm sorry you are dealing with struggles, first of all. I get it and I promise you that you will get thru it, whatever you are dealing with. But most importantly, I AM PROUD OF U. Whatever happens, happens, and ALL I WANT IS FOR U TO BE HAPPY. Girl u don't get how much u deserve that at the very least. Even if you never get married, that is OKAY. Please don't put too much pressure on yourself, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. Sending lots of love.
girl organizing a wedding is SO STRESSFUL!!! I'm going through this rn and for real, I just want to hop in a plane to somewhere far away with my fiancé and have a secret wedding
I always appreciate the message here. Put your mental health first. Happy for you in this decision. xoxo
Definitely had issues like this planning our wedding. Too busy, had kids, too hard. After 5 years we FINALLY just eloped. JUST THE 2 OF US! Best decision ever. Celebrating 10 years next month.
My husband and I ended up canceling our wedding and just had 3 witnesses at the court. Best decision we ever made! Starting of married life with a big chunk of money in a savings account that would have been wasted on one single day was the best feeling. Weddings aren't one size fit all. Do whatever feels right for you and your partner
"One eye always looks better" - yup. That sums up real life.
Do you Girl!!! One day at a time and do what you want. You don’t need to please no one but yourself and your kids hugs mama
Girl you rock! You’re so beautiful inside & out! Glad to hear you’re doing what’s best for you and Reece ♥️
You have to do what's best for you. It's your wedding and yes, you want your friends and family to have a good time of course, but at the end of the day, the two of you are the most important! And even though wedding prep is stressful and things always pop up, it is not supposed to be so hard to the point you cannot enjoy one bit of it! Give yourself time and I wish you all the best with everything! And thanks for sharing! ❤️
Also, I’m jelly of the winged liner!
You are glowing Jess !!
I’m so glad you guys are seeing what’s best for you and taking the step back to unload some of the stress! You are so busy you need a breath! 😍 I hope now you can look at the choices you need to make for the wedding and make the choices you want rather than rushed decisions that may not be you xx
Another plus to pushing it back: more time for Invisalign to work!
I was a wedding planner for 8 years. I always said my job was more of a pre-marital therapist than a planner. The things couples would start fighting over were ridiculous. I'd always tell them to focus on WHY they are getting married, not the actual wedding.. I also would tell them to not stress the small stuff. It was the funny little bloopers at the wedding that made the best memories. There is never a reason to rush a wedding unless you are planning it around something else time sensitive. It is always about the relationship, not the wedding. Please show yourself some Grace. It will happen when it happens..
So true. I remember doing the wedding dance in 3 am to Rammstein and it was the funniest thing ever.
GIRL. I dont blame you at all!!! I'm getting married next month and it is STRESSFUL. Sometimes I debate on just eloping
Girl so my husband and I just got married in December. We wanted to get married on our 6 year anniversary which was May 2021 and when we decided ok let’s get married on that date, the date was about 3 months out and we decided like there’s no way. So we decided on a new date and gave ourselves 10 months to plan and our wedding was amazing!! I totally understand trying to plan it to soon and needing to postpone it!! Postponing is going to be so good and your wedding is going to be amazing because you’re not rushing♥️
Smart Jessica - you should enjoy the planning - not get stressed. Waiting until you guys get things sorted out between you is also great. Also, your teeth look great!
Omg I have the BEST florist recommendation for you!!
You should do what i did go to city hall for the quick wedding, then have the main big wedding when you guys are ready 😀
Jessica I totally understand the stress. But remember the wedding is just one day- marriage is forever ❤️
You do your wedding in your time, Jess. It will be better when you're prepared. Hopefully things will come together!!! Be strong!
I feel your pain; although I planned my wedding on my own and kept everything super simple. 😊 I also didn’t get my wedding dress until the DAY BEFORE my wedding! 😅 do what’s right for you! ❤️
I can tell your teeth have moved and you look incredible! I think because it is such a slow, gradual process that's why you can't see it yet. Also, I think it was a very smart decision not just cosmetically but for the future of your teeth. Our teeth are the foundation of our overall health and a lot of people don't realize that. I'm really happy for you too because you deserve this! I can't wait to get invisalign now I see how it is working for you so you could be inspiring a lot of other people to do it too! Besides all that, you look amazing!! You've always been beautiful!! You're actually one of my favorites on UA-cam because you are so real and truthful and I can relate to a lot the things you've been through. Thank You!!
I'm just glad ya'll two haven't broken up. There is not a damn thing with taking your time!
Jess: Don’t be afraid to put things on hold
Me: Wonders how I can put delivering my baby on hold because 5 more weeks is NOT enough time for us 😂
Honestly, all that needs to be "done" for a newborn is a carseat, diapers, boobs and/or formula, sleepers, and a safe place for baby to sleep. All the rest of it can be handled as you go. Best wishes for a safe, peaceful birth! 💕
@@kelly1827 Thank you!!!! Thankfully we do have all that and SO much more. First time parent so it’s a bit scary, but my boyfriend and I are SUPER excited!
Rest assured every new parent feels “unprepared,” just try to relax and embrace all the ups and downs because they grow up so fast!
I’m the same but I’m getting induced in 15 and a half hours 😂
@@baxterbunch Good luck!!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Only a minute and a half in and I just want to say, I love these type of videos it feels like we’re just hanging out and talking.
You're quite right to reschedule if things are getting too stressful and tight for time!
I planned mine in less than 6 months, so I feel you lol. I got lucky that I found a dress really quickly, and the one on the rack was literally brand new (never tried on), so they altered that one to fit me.
I didn't want a big fancy wedding (personal taste), and really wasn't bothered about the flowers (only mine and the bridesmaids), so just told the caterer my colours were ivory and gold. She seemed horrified that I wasn't fussed about details, but I just told her it was about marrying my hubby, not the colour of a tablecloth 🤣.
We had the immediate family that were the wedding party for dinner, then around 100 guests for the evening reception/party, which was a lot less stressful to organise (and was such a fun day/way to celebrate!)
Happy to hear you are doing things the way you both want to 🥰🤗
Do your best not to stress. You really don’t owe anyone an explanation. When it comes to weddings the only thing that really really matters is the person you are marrying.
Proud of you 💜
Totally Elope!! And have a party in a year it’s about you and him and the girls no one else! Do you girl! And yes your teeth look beautiful I haven’t watching YT in a min but they do look good Jess!
Jess!!! Such a smart move to make!!! Soooooo smart!!!!! I planned a wedding AND bought a house (- crazay version of Virgo!) Why suffer when you can get a grip on things, slow the whole process down to get a handle on the chaos and actually enjoy the planning! Love you and Reece and your fam so much. Thank you so much for setting such a good example. Health and wellness is so crucial.
Hello Jessica. I was planning a wedding last year and not anymore. I agree you don’t owe anyone an explanation for anything. A lesson I’m still learning too.
It's been a hella year for me too. I lost my 93 yr old dad, and somehow lost my relationship with my brothers. Its heartbreaking. Hang in there. You're not alone.
Girl, you do what's best for YOU and your beautiful little family. Everyone else will fall in line right behind you. And if not, they don't matter anyway. Lol Take care of yourself love. THAT is what matters 💗😘🥰 love you always
I got so much crap from my family when I told them my engagement was going to be 2 and a half years long. But honestly I can't imagine doing it in less time than that. We are 18 months out and I'm just now selecting our venue and starting to really plan. Ngl it's still stressful though. But I think long engagements are the way to go. Rushing to the alter is overrated.
Glad you're doing what's best for you guys and postponing!
I got married in December and simply had a friend sign the paperwork for us and mailed it in. I cannot imagine going through the stress of wedding planning
Girl I feel you on the stress level. Hubby and I planned our wedding in 2 months due to my brother being set to deploy for a year. Looking back I am not sure if I would have done it any differently because I flat out did not have time to second guess myself, had to go with my gut instinct on stuff and move to the next thing lol
Girl i really think you need to do a book or a movie of your life journey love you turned your life around
We were engaged for almost 2 years and I’m glad we had plenty of time to plan. Granted, I was deployed during some of that time, but still. We had some problems to work out when I got back and I’m glad we had time to do so and were not rushed.
I was engaged for 2-3 years before I got married. It was the best choice for my partner and me. You do whatever y'all need to so that you can be happy.
I married my guy in our back courtyard officiated by a friend and we mostly had close family around. We had catered food, used the tents already available by our building and we didn’t use money we didn’t have. Nothing was over the top and I love all of it. My mom in law made our wedding bands for us, my dad in law photographed it and all of my memories are precious. I hope that you will experience the same precious wedding in the way you feel is best for you.
There are absolutely stunning black flowers easily grown from seed. Baker Creek has a great seed collection of them right now. Highly recommended them I usually have 100% germination. My favorites are zinnias but I’m a pop of color girl when it comes to my flowers 🙂
Please do it at your pace I totally understand it's your special day have fun with it take your time
Girl months ago when you said you were planning on May I thought you were out of your mind LOL
Good on you for putting yourself and family first🖤🖤🖤
Oh my gosh I resonate with this so much I am such a people pleaser and it is a problem I put everybody and their opinion and their feelings ahead of my own 41 days me and I got to get it this year I feel you Jessica thank you for sharing
I'm gonna be in the same boat in a few years time. I think it would be ideal and people would appreciate a video on wedding planning what goes in to it etc as can imagine it's very stressful and time consuming .. x
I got engaged in 2019 then the whole friggin world fell apart. I rescheduled a total of 3 times and was engaged over 2 years. The venue closed temporarily and then permanently. We both lost jobs for different amounts of times so money was an issue and half the guest list was an issue. When we finally did it, honestly it was rushed and "cheap". There are a TON of people who didn't make it (it was out of state and the final date took forever to decide). This includes my siblings, most of my husband's siblings, and all the nieces and nephews. I got my altered dress the day before we left. I did pass out the day before we left because he still went to work and I was mega ultra stressed. But we did it, in a place I honestly wanted to my whole life (I have family there. This sweet man has no ties at all but it was his idea! Yes, I worked 13 hours on a playlist that he and/or his brother shuffled and the mood wasn't right for awhile, but by the end of the night it was nice to be able to go online and everyone pick a song. My family hosted (we stayed at their inn AND had the wedding there) for free and everyone helped. I'm so grateful to them. There are definitely things I missed about having a traditional wedding, but my sister did both (she was set to get married RIGHT at the start of covid so she got legally married in her backyard then ended up having her "big" thing a couple months before mine) and said she regrets all the time, money and energy she spent on that one. I would've preferred fall (originally late September, ended up being July). I definitely missed the professional photographer, videographer and hair/makeup (I did pay for a photographer but he was the cheapest I could find and they were the same quality as the ones taken by a family friend. He also didn't like that she was there at all and I feel like some of our pictures are messed up because he was actively trying to work against her, even though he knew she would be there and he was supposed to be the "real" one.) My cake was better than our original choice and I didn't taste the food from the original venue, but what we did have was dirt cheap and we had so many leftovers! And we didn't have to worry about cleaning up. We were there for a week after. We did a little at a time and had so many people helping. Maybe I would've done a few things differently, but I wouldn't say I was disappointed by the wait, and I still got to wear my gorgeous dress and bring home a handsome guy (:
I’m also getting married in 2023 & even the thought of starting to plan a wedding is stressful your doing amazing do what’s best for you & your family
I’m getting married on May 14th and JUST purchased my dress and still have soooo much left to do! But I’m so excited to get married so I’m just kinda going with the flow and hoping I don’t give myself an ulcer in the meantime!! ha ha! But just do what feels right for y’all and everything will fall into place!
You made the right choice! Enjoy life even when there’s important planning like this. You ONLY live once
Girllll my heart stopped when i read that title HAHAHA take all the time you need & dont rush the process!!!!
I pushed my wedding out a year and it was the best thing I could have ever done. And I would go back and do it again. Enjoy being engaged, it's usually the shortest part of any typical relationship. Sure wedding planning is stressful, but it should also be fun. You'll be so glad you made this choice.
Damn, that vid title got me. haha. 100% makes sense though not to rush it, take your time to get the all the details big and lil how you want 'em. y'all are the best so obviously you both deserve the best 🤪
Also, i orded a t-shirt from your website and it just came today! 10/10 Suuper comfy. Keep being awesome bro broo
I actually glad that you are taking a step back and not rushing things. No one needs that stress. You are doing the right thing for your family and yourself. Hugs.
Little advice from Down Under lol. Go with the flow, keep doing what your doing and everything will fall into place just as it should be ✌
This sounds like me. Having a wedding is so beautiful but everyone I’ve known says it’s VERY stressful! I’m always forgetting so it would be hard to plan one omg
Your day should be your day and whenever YOU decide to get married I hope you have a wonderful day
I just postponed mine. Had to reschedule it 4 times already due to Covid restrictions but this is something that takes time and make sure YOU AND YOUR SO need it to be the best day of your lives. Plus I’m going back to school so money is an issue too. And atm you can use the Covid excuse! Do what’s best for you and you owe no-one an explanation.
Jess! My heart dropped when I read that title! Lol. I have friends who got married alone (officiant and photographer there) in a national park in Montana. Then they honeymooned in a cabin in the middle of nowhere in the park. I 100% understand why they did that, and I totally respected that choice.
I think you made a fantastic decision. It was A LOT to get done way too fast. Your family is the most important thing. Take care of yourself and them! The wedding will come together. I love that you have learned over time to put your mental health first. You for sure gave advice that people needed to hear. I needed some of it. Thank you. 💜
Long engagements for the win. I was engaged for 2.5 years and it gave me time to enjoy wedding planning. It's still one of the happiest periods of my life.
I'm so glad you're prioritizing what's best for you.
When my husband and I were engaged, he wanted to postpone the wedding because it was so stressful. I was afraid of what people would think, so I refused. We ended up having to call off the whole wedding and broke up. Fortunately we resolved things, got back together, and planned a much smaller wedding that we loved.