She’s a beautiful soul, The Puerto Rican people adores her fully, she made things happen for us when we couldn’t be there for ourselves! She mobilized water, food and baby formula etc , you don’t know what that means until you can’t haven’t it!!! I hope and pray I get to repay Beth in anyway! She walks on water in my eyes lol love you Beth !!!! Thank you
I applaud Bethenny for not turning away from career related opportunities that put her in the public eye just to be subordinate to the exact directives of the legal system. Bethenny being on housewives or going to public appearances for a business venture is what she would be doing whether going through divorce or not so there’s no reason why it would be detrimental to a child. It shows that she chose NOT to drink the CoolAid served by legal system… smart way to win the long game. So proud of your spirit!!
I have loved this lady for years! Shes so bold and brave and tries to help other women and i just love her content and how vulnerable and raw she is to help others! Thank you bethenny!
My sister stayed in a bad marriage because she too helped pay for a home she knew she needed to leave and ultimately she chose the home. My niece and nephew were traumatized for the next decade because of that. They’re both grown and in their 20’s and are still dealing the fallout. Ultimately you chose peace for Brynn and that’s what’s most important
Your ex hasn’t chosen to share his side of this ten year saga. It appears he values your child’s privacy and his relationship with her far too much to monetize the divorce experience.
@@catherinebullock9748you think he valued his daughters well being throughout this? You should google what he did, how he did it, the people he used to do the things he did. He was arrested. There was video of what he did at his daughter’s school ( in front of other children & parents). He sent literally thousands of emails, harassing, name calling, threatening, verbally abusing the mother of their child. It’s the way narcissists operate. And they inevitably always have someone like you in their corner, “rah rahing” them on with their altruistic behavior. Only it’s not altruistic. He tried every single way he could to control this woman through their child. There’s a real good reason he doesn’t speak about this. There are videos, receipts, forged documents etc that he knows will be shared. Not to mention his parents were heavily involved in the deception
Divorce and custody battle stories always make me feel bad... I wish people would learn to work things out. Relationships can become really difficult. Nobody is perfect. I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I understand why what you're saying is important, and I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.
Letting someone you deeply care for go is always difficult, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual mentor who preserved the unity of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Thank you for this direction. I'll swiftly seek her out online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will yield results for me as well; her absence weighs heavily on my heart.
Nothing but respect for Bethenny. You’re a wonderful example for your daughter,& all women (young,& older). Stay strong, safe, healthy, happy, productive,& blessed. 💯👍🏾🌺😀🫶🏾💜✝️🙏🏾🇺🇸
I’ve always loved (and hated you). 😂😂 I’m being honest. But, DAMN Bethenny!! I just love ya. Your raw words and complete honesty is so refreshing! Happy to have found you again.
As the daughter of a narcissistic mother myself, I always take my hat off to women who, despite having been subjected to narcissistic abuse by their mothers, then move on to raising the most wonderful children themselves. It is evident that Bethenny's daughter is a very well-adjusted, well-mannered, grounded, kind and caring girl. And I dare say that this is mostly down to Bethenny as a mother. I truly have the utmost of respect for Bethenny, as a business woman but above all as a mother. And in her case, it was a double whammy in terms of the fraught relationship with her own mother but then also the ten plus years of abuse and torture by her ex-husband. It's bad enough when relationships do not work out and kids are involved; but I will never understand when one partner then turns into a vicious, vindictive, utterly horrible and contemptible person who will truly stop at nothing. And yet - despite all of this - Bethenny still fosters a good relationship between her daughter Bryn and Bryn's father. Truly admirable.
Having a narcissist mother is so damaging. Ive got one and when i had my son i swore id raise him in the oppoaite way to how i was raised and he has done me proud ❤ scholarship to a private school at 10, unconditional offers from Oxford, York, Durham and St Andrews University. He went to st andrews and got his bachelors in french and art history, spent a year in paris at the sorbonne and then did his Masters in Fine Art at a top achool in london and becme the manger of a top art gallery in London thats been around from the 60s at 25 and he travels all over the world for work. Itbhas been the best F you to my mother. Who says you cant be a successful young single mother after a whole life of narc abuse? She still does it i just say yes and do what i want. Bethenny has done the same for Brynn and it shows she is a delightful teenager and she's sensible and behaves like a young teen should i love watching their relationship.
@@Ruth78620 Congratulations to you son for all his academic achievements and to you. And yes, having a narcissistic mother is v damaging. We don’t have the most fundamental of all trust relationships and that is the one you are meant to have with your mother. I always knew that my mother can’t be trusted and it has had an impact on all of my relationships. In my case, my biggest issue has always been (and continues to be) a fear of abandonment. And that makes us prime targets for narcissists - just entangled myself from one (also as a result of watching Bethenny’s videos). Mine not nearly as bad as Bethenny’s ex husband but then I also ran before it turned into a proper long term commitment. I am still in contact w my mother but she lives in a different country to me and in a way I am almost grateful to her. I was born and brought up in Europe and as a result of her having made my teenage years a living hell, I up and left to New York when I was 18. Went to university there, had my first jobs there and turned into an adult in New York and because I knew that going back home wasn’t an option for me, the idea of failing in New York simply wasn’t an option. I live in London now while she is on the Continent. Our communication purely consists of emailing about silly things such as latest popular tv series. And one is always on guard. I had to adopt the ‘grey rock’ method with my own mother, but hey ho - if she wouldn’t be such a twisted psycho (excuse my language), I’d never have had any of the life experiences I had…
I agree. Always 2 sides of the story. Sad when ex couple hate each other and have the kid involve in the divorce. Your ex might not be a good partner but it does not make them a bad parent. If the parent brainwash a kid, whoever the kid is with, that is who the kid will have loyalty with. The relationship of the child with the other parent will be forever tainted. That is sad. I experience blended family and a product of divorce. Good luck to the kid.
When our son divorced with 2 young children, my husband and I refused to take sides. The first year was rough adjusting to the new norm. However, we all remained adults and prioritized the children. They have moved on to new spouses, but we still celebrate holidays and the kid's events and activities together (including all the grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins). I am a bonus grandmother to my ex daughter in law's baby. The children are happy and thriving.
I KNOW you are helping people by doing this. I had a very similar divorce and this episode brings me back 20 years. You are exactly right about how it feels
I was in a drag out horrible custody battle as a child when my parents got divorced in the 90s. Im 39 now and I can say both my mom and dad have come so unbelievable far from when they first split. It was bashing, rules on times, lots of hurt and pain. Lots of drama even police like you mentioned the QVC story. Something similar happened to me. This video hit home. As a child survivor of a incredibly toxic divorce and custody battle I have learned time does heal at least for me. I have a healthy good relationship with both parents. It took decades! Both parents now can even be in the same room, and be civil. It really needs to be the best interest for the child. Its a reason I never had a child of my own. Thank you for helping with advice and keeping this conversation that so many people are struggling with going.
You are so correct! I still remember the things my dad said about my mom during and after their divorce all while my mom was tell me how important a relationship with my father was. It sticks with you.
Your experiences are helping so many others. I was always suspicious of Jason and his father, and there was something hollow in his mother. I felt she was too much of a people pleaser and was not respected by her husband or her son. What a train wreck his family is, and I am not convinced they have Bryan’s best interests at heart. Jason must be so jealous of her.
Bethanny, I am bawling crying hearing you talk about how it feels to go through this. I’m in the middle of a horrible, horrible divorce and custody procedure and have felt so alone. Your words make me feel not so alone. Thank you for sharing your story.
I went through the same thing during a custody battle for my son...fear that everything I was doing was wrong, was against the order or against the law...it was so scary...the threats...went on and on. My ex drilled my little son about me night and day, it was awful. Now that hes 35, he remembers all of it. It completely backfires...allow it to happen! The puzzle pieces DO connect and the child recognizes the good guy....trust in that fact! Dont speak badly of the ex and the rewards will come to you, even if he bashes u all day long. The child will put it together...its a delayed event but well worth the wait. Righton, Bethany. I get that!!
How does such nonsense even happen? You are pushed out of your apartment , "YOUR" apartment. What could make this man so bitter, and vengeful? Putting the mother of his child through year's of torture?!! For what?,and why? Say's alot about his character!! It was never about the best interest of the child!! It was about making her mother's life miserable!!! And to drag it out for 10 year's!!! That is one sick, self centered, narcissistic boy!! Yes boy!! He saw $$$ sign's, and that took pressidence over the well being of his child!! 10 year's of precious time. SHAMEFUL!! 😢
Money. Hes a narcissist and saw Bethenney as his meal ticket and she dared to stand upto him and when you go against a narc they will make your life a total misery. Ive been there and had no idea how spiteful and vindictive a person could be and its scary.
@@marciamakoviecki3295she wrote the prenup and of course shes going to fight it was all her money he was a total grifter which is another trait of a narcissist. Would you just have given him your multi-million dollar home? I dont think so.
Money shows people's true character. I'm so sorry you went through this. I did experience the alienation after leaving a 20 yr marriage. Thank God my 29 and 30 yr old have seen the truth now.
So , so very sad. This man knew exactly who you were when he met you. His action's through your divorce are a huge reflection of his true character. Why would any descent human drag out a divorce for so many year's?? Just do what is right by your child! Respect the woman who gave birth to your child, and move forward!! Keep in mind ... your action's speak volumes!!
Bethany. I had a situation that was very similar yet different because it was my foster child and the threat was the state. But, I sincerely, feel for you because I would sometimes spin out so badly I’d sit in a chair and be utterly paralyzed from the abject terror of my situation. I’m so glad you made it out into the light. I did too.
Bethenny…I love you…always have…always will…you are an amazing mother…your mind and how it works is incredible …you are an outlier…so glad you are free❤
I so feel for you and get every word you say. I have been co parenting with a malignant narcissist for the past -2 years. They stop at nothing and weaponize their children to hurt us. They are despicable, deeply insecure and shame based people. Firm boundaries, law enforcement, minimal contact, parallel parenting and very strict Respond vs React works for me, besides healing my own trauma to remove my triggers. Stay strong and live your life.
Excellent advice. I never had to say a negative thing about my ex, my kids figured it out as they got older. Save your energy and be positive for your kids. The truth always comes to light 😊 Bethenny is a Queen ❤
Hello beautiful. ❤❤❤ so sorry you went through all this. I went through hell fighting for my son. Thought I was going to die through my divorce at 25. I’m 63 now. I would kick ass if I had all this knowledge. We love you Bethany ❤ you are a ray of sunshine ☀️ on this earth 🌍 ❤
wow the segment about how one parent shitting on another eventually backfires is so real. this happened with my mom, and i eventually put together how manipulated i was by my her for so long. you’re spot on!
I remember a lawyer telling me “Don’t leave your son unattended for a second. You don’t have an agreement yet. If your husband takes him, there is nothing you can do”. It was absolutely terrifying.
My dad never abused me and my siblings in front of anyone else…….so no one knew, especially extended family…..so many were shocked when they found out he was abusive our entire childhood. Still hurts at 51. 😢
I disagree, I'm 61 and this last decade has been extremely helpful in putting things in place. Getting older is generally not pleasant but you do gain more wisdom and that feels really good. ❤
🌹You continue to amaze me with this series. I relate to so many things here as I know many other women do also. Thankfully I got full custody and had people to help me. My son is getting ready to start college at one of the top universities in this country on a full academic scholarship. He turned out wonderfully thank goodness. I am so thankful. You are a raising a fine young lady. Bryn is a beauty and so sweet. Thank you again Bethenny. You are beautiful inside and out. ~Love&Light♥️Carli
Bethenny my love, thank you so much again I cannot thank you enough for sharing your divorce experience and information to help others. My best friend still suffers from past divorce that continues for which she has not opened up to me yet on mental abuse. I want her to see how powerful the abuse negatively impacts one for years. I don’t know how to help her if she doesn’t share details until she is ready. She knows I am huge fan following you reads your books and learns so much from you. You are the most credible influence I can provide her with your sharing knowledge. Thank you. I love you B. Que Dios las bendiga a ti y a tu bella peanut. You enjoyed every second you had & have today with the most precious gem 💎 God gave you. You also did the BEST for you & Brynn on bonding with your Mama. I am so proud of you from my inner core. I adore you.
Watching Bethany build her career on tv was such a positive in my life for those who know they know ..I was mad about that apartment that Jason acted like he wanted or was his ..I was pissed.. because I remember when she got it and remodeled it. 😢
Jason should be thanking you that you didnt call the police on him and file a restraining order and get him out of that apartment and his wack job family So happy this is over for you xo
@@catherinen8547 You are so right and I am sure that was delegated through the courts also where he didn’t have to leave. We’re not privy to the exact orders that the judge gave. Let’s not forget also they were in New York which I am sure made it worse.
Yes, both people have rights to the marital home, not just the wife. And B was working so much, the court would probably allow the father to have the child with him in the home since he could provide care, instead of the child always being with a babysitter.@@mommashawna707
He destroyed the apartment before he left. Hes a vindictive, spiteful narcissist and thts what they do and his parents sound like they were a massive issue and their offspring shows what their character is!
I am going though this with a narcissistic ex.. ugh.. I am fighting with my last breath.. I will not be a person to lay down and "take it." I will fight and come out scarred and hurt but it is necessary. My kids comes first and foremost above the petty crap. ❤
I was made to believe by my ex there was a problem I worked at my daughters school as the school nurse. (Like what) he would say she was sick because I was a nurse and would go to the principal and tell him I shouldn’t work there. It was crazy. You mentioned in previous videos about ptsd. My experience was over 10 yrs ago and I can still go back to that place in 1 second . God bless you and your daughter! My daughter is 22 and just graduated from college. She’s an amazing young lady but not without scars.
Your points hit so close to home its eerie. I left my ex when my son was only 2.5 years old and it was a divorce from hell. Many similarities to yours except for the millions of dollars to fight over.😂 One of the hardest things I had to do was to always speak kindly of him to our son, because I knew what a pos he really was. But as a kid from a divorcd family I remember hating the constant negative remarks my parents would say about each other. It got to a point that I would have to pretend I hated my dad when I was with my mom and I had to pretend I hated my mom when I was with my dad. I swore I'd never do that to a child of mine. I kept that promise and today my son is 26 yrs old and he sees right through his father and his hateful words he heard about me growing up. I knew he would eventually without me adding my two cents.
I love your channel. I have been through divorce and wish I had your advice and encouragement back then. Glad to see you in a better place today. ❤️ Love from coastal Connecticut!
Bethenny, I have looked up to you for years! Starting with RHONY, of course, I’ve followed your career and the elements of your life you shared with the world…we were even pregnant at the same time, in eerily similar marriages, and divorces, at the same time and many other shared life stages. But, never have I respected you more. Your strength, willingness to be so open and honest, and vulnerability is so refreshing. I look forward to watching you for another 10 years! Thank you for all you share with us. Much love and respect xoxo
This is so important! You are amazing - this will help so any people! At some point, people should step back and do a mental/emotional reset to be able to think logically. I had heard that I was just like my father and he was bad which made me feel like I was bad. It is so damaging
Currently going through a custody court case for my 2 week old baby. These spiteful men don’t care that you just gave birth to their child. They only care about their own wants and needs along with hurting the mother.
Wow! I’m so sorry you went through all this! My heart and soul goes out to you and I hope your life is better now! I went through a life altering experience after my late husb passed away in 2014 We had been married for 30 years, but after he passed my entire world became something I didn’t understand or would have believed 6 mts before he passed he cashed in a life ins policy paid off his mothers land, and gambled the rest left me and my 2 daughters(his step daughters) with nothing! I felt betrayed and devastated! Life does go on for sure but now tbh you don’t trust anyone! Sometimes we don’t realize how we are in a much better place without the people that hurt us!
Custody- is nothing short of full combat of the heart 💔 abusive partners are so horrific, and I literally think they enjoy weaponize the legal system in an attempt to crush you. you feel like a complete psycho telling people what you experience- as most have no point of reference for just how dirty & manipulative the other party can be. You feel lost & alone. It was my experience, that when people do finally “see” what you are going through, they don’t want to get involved- as they don’t want to be targeted themselves.
Bethenny you nailed it to the core when you said It Backfired Like A Bag Of Shit,l grew up with a mother that did nothing but trash my father and his parents,l loved my grandparents more that anything,when l grew up and got that emotional intelligence and realised exactly what she had done it sure did blow up like a bag of shit,l have no relationship with this woman and haven’t for many years ❤️🌷
@Bethenny Frankel I have followed your career since the Apprentice & of course loved watching your success. I've been watching all your videos re divorce & custody. I am reaching out hoping you will read & can possibly help. My 23 year old daughter lost custody of her baby due to not being able to afford an attorney. The 23 yr old baby daddy's father financed his attorney. This happened February 2023. By June of 2023 my daughter was in ICU for the 1st time critically ill with sepsis & endocarditis. After this 3.5 week hospitalization, she was back in ICU in a couple weeks with same diagnosis. Then a month after that back in hospital still with sepsis & endocarditis plus septic pulmonary emboli...since then there have been at least 5 more hospitalizations with same diagnosis plus pneumothorax (collapsed lung) & pneumonia in the other lung. I have been told by Psychiatrist that the loss of her baby could absolutely be a part of the cause of all her recent critical illnesses. The baby daddy refused to bring her son to visit her during all the hospitalizations. She has not seen her now 3 year old son since September. Because baby daddy requested paid supervised visitation which costs $65 p/hr. Prior to that he allowed a visit where they met at a park in April 2023 & he requested a sex act in front of the child who was in car seat in the car holding my daughter's phone & that incident was recorded because my grandson had pushed record & audio was recorded. I know this probably sounds unbelievable that a judge would be this unjust due to her not having an attorney - but I have had free consults with a few attorneys & they told me she needs an attorney who is familiar with that judge & the other attorney representing baby daddy! This all started when I found an injury on baby's bottom when he was returned from baby daddy's 1st overnight visit. He couldn't explain what caused it. So his attorney called emergency custody hearing & basically said we were trying to falsely accuse father of this injury. Judge granted him custody & only allowed paid supervised visits for my daughter. She's been so ill for last year & unable to work to pay the $250 per week fot the 4 hours she is allowed. I shared primary care of Judah with my daughter since he came home from the hospital. Because the dad didn't have Interest in the baby. The dad would get angry if baby woke him up (there was an incident). So i took over overnight duties. I acted as a free 24/7 Nanny but better because I am his grandma with 40 years of experience with babies & toddlers. My daughter is Literally & physically Heartbroken & I desperately miss Judah & i know he needs us. He has no idea why he was taken from us & i worry about the long-term damage this early childhood trauma has caused him. We see his medical records & he actually Lost a pound in the last year. He dropped weight percentiles from 91% when he was with us to 29th percentile. His BMI is way below average. & Even his height percentile dropped from 75th to 20th. He also is now speech delayed according to his Dr. If anyone reading this can HELP in anyway with advice/ referral/or financially - I appreciate any assistance. I'm so desperate to help Judah be reunited with his Mom & me.
I’m going through the exact same thing with my ex. The physical abuse was done to me… I can relate to Bethenny a lot unfortunately… It is sad, especially when a grandmother gets involved after ignoring the children for years… The best interest of the kids is often put to the side in a divorce. I just spent the equivalent of an expensive brand new car in legal fees this month. The legal system couldn’t care less about minors. Even my very experienced and well known family law attorneys are getting discouraged by it… The financial and mental torture are as REAL as Bethenny.
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. As a teacher with 30 years experience and seeing lots of things throughout the years, I admire you so much for trying to do right by your daughter. I think you are doing a fabulous job! I’m glad you are on the other side and can make beautiful memories with your family. PS Love that Brynn is a volleyball player. I played in college and back when there was no club volleyball. It’s definitely a whole big thing these days. Love that you are diving into it!
Licensed EMDR trauma therapist here (LCSW) and yes, I agree Bethany. More harmful to not let them do something “normal” in the situation. Makes kids scared and paranoid and also question the validity of their wants and feelings! Forcing a kid to choose the attachment (mom and what she’s saying to do) over their own autonomy (what they feel and want) for that kind of reason (“divorce fear” and perceived threat) will mess with them HARD!
@@bethennyfrankel I’m having 3 clients watch this series who are going through this and we discuss it in session after they watch. I specialize in working with complex trauma, domestic violence and eating disorders and all of my clients are women. I’m so thankful that you are doing this. Its one thing for me to talk about this kind of trauma from my lens as a therapist/expert but I can’t tell you how helpful it is for my clients to hear it from a woman who has been through it. You are incredible and this is making a profound impact on other women who are in this experience and the women who have gotten to the other side of it. We need community and to know that someone understands us and you are providing both of those things in such a beautiful way. 💛
Ty for sharing🥰 its awful u had soo many negative moments that have now passed, know u have a beautiful daughter that’s thriving n someday n future she’ll know n remember all the awesome memories u were part of, like u say karma will get those who did u wrong, my mom use to always say as long as uk u did ur part to make things work that’s all that matters, u have health, roof over n food on table, u share ur wealth, I really hope what we c outside (amazing souls) reflects how u feel inside❣️look back everyday b happy what you’ve achieved, u have n army that’s proud n happy I can’t imagine how content n overjoyed ur heart is 🥰 continue sharing ur beautiful family ur awesome role model to us girly girls🙊🙊
I'm so sorry you went through all that Bethenny. He was trying everything to ware you down, and you stuck in there. I worked in court, not divorce, juvenile, and we had a really good judge that actually cared about what was best for the children. Totally different situations though, I'll say that. I'm so glad mine was easy, he was in jail. What could he say or do. My girls are in their 30s now, and want NOTHING to do with him, EVER. He's out, and thankfully lives in another state. He keeps trying to finagle his way in, but they want nothing to do with him. I never had to bad mouth him, they saw it for themselves. I'm so happy you are doing this. I love the fact that you tell it like it is! Sorry to ramble. Thank you for doing this. ❤❤
Thank you for waking us up on the true nature of people who we think love us. Instincts don't lie, people do. Your story is saving lives and warning women, particularly women who have struggled for their success and babies, how to go with their gut when things feel off. We all want our ''happy ending" like in a Disney movie but there are too many wolves in sheep's clothing willing to give us the fairytale and then transform into their real selves and intentions. Thank you again for sharing and may God keep you and your beautiful daughter protected.
The history books are going to be very good to Bethenny. You are my hero for real. I balled in the court while signing over half my custody to an emotional abuser. I had to sign so I could breathe, so I could keep fighting. I had to give up, to keep fighting if that makes sense.
I divorced young but was married 10 years having 3 children in less than 3 years before I was 21. My biggest regret was not Fighting like mad about everything. My X & I had agreed on everything but didn’t have it in writing, bad move. His 2nd wife was a total witch, caused nothing but hardship for me & my children. If I went to a sporting event & they had the children she would not let them come speak to me. I finally snapped & got a lawyer to threatened them. They got divorced and my X’s 3rd wife was a joy. My advice is “get everything in writing”. Don’t assume you can work it out as someone new might come along and F🍀ck everything up!
😉All these insensitive things Jason did to torture you probably moved your daughter to be be closer to you now that she is reaching adulthood..sad that you can’t get that time in her young years back💜Brynn appears to be well adjusted and loving in her relationship with you so just give her that LOVE right back❤️❤️❤️
So glad you are on the other side! The other case I would like to know about is Brad and Angelina. Their kids need to have a relationship with both parents and I think it seems like one side is toxic (I won't say which side I think that is).
I just want to hear this! I don’t even need any other guests. Just this. This is the most interesting, touching, informative, unfortunately relatable video on UA-cam. Once you’ve been through the custody thing it leaves a scar. It’s always healing but it’s not something you talk about. I cried through the whole thing. It’s been years since the custody battle and I’m friends with my ex now but you never forget the ugly, the tricks, the scheming, the self-doubt, and being the junior parent and how that makes you feel. That feeling still pops up and my boy is 24 now! I could never be the parent to provide the grandparents and the cousins because I don’t have a family on my side either and it has made me feel oh so junior over the years. However, I have my own family now with my husband and kids so I made up for loss time but those years of the custody battle are unforgettable. You look back and wonder how in the heck did you get through it but you do. You get through it and look back. That’s the good news. This such a good series. More of this, please?
Thank you for sharing your story. In my husband's case during the divorce with his 1st wife, he had custody of the kids. Other mom's at the children's school, the kids were 7 and 5, would ask him why he didn’t move out and why did he make her move out! That wasn't the case and the kids would hear them ask! Just horrible! Please mind your own business, just support the family as best you can by being supportive to the parents, don't gossip! Children should be the priority and protected!
Love it ALL. And the lashes are sensational. You mastered it! What are they? Ardell? I’ve never tried to put them on, but now I’m a believer. I gotta try this. Keep sharing ur stories. Real fans love it. And the new beach house is a dream come true.
While it doesn't fix my situation I am very thankful for this series. It's nice to hear I'm not crazy after all my ex and his family has done and continues to do to me.
My son absolutely signed the child custody papers under duress. We now have spent over $7000+ just to see our grandson for 4 hours a week. Hopefully by September it will change a lot with the time. Also having the other grandparent around for supervision because we haven't seen him in 6 months because the mother kept him from us for no legal reason, just taking pictures of him with us is so uncomfortable. Our lawyer is working on a better agreement and I pray that things will move more in my son's favor. He's deleted and emotionally exhausted.
Always enjoyed B straight talk. Struck that so many years this man has lived in your head and stayed at your kitchen. End things as quick as possible no matter the money. You will always earn lots more money. Peace is everything. You really need to stop wearing the divorce blanket he put on you. Stop talking about him get him out of you daily life. Weddings and graduations are plenty
I personally think his parents enabled him an allowed him to do this it all goes back to his childhood his parents are very weird to me. Like who does that. Yes I grew up in abuse as well you are correct having a village is your security
He had a strong family who supported him and helped with the child. B had only hired help, which was probably easy for him to argue in court was not as good for the child.
I feel like lawyers are like any other professional they are all about covering their own asses. What a toxic shitstorm for the good parent and the children.
Not sure if its nationwide but some states have grandparent laws to get rights to their grand kids if parents r both in the wrong or in a custody battle and the parents r too busy attacking each other the kids get caught in the crossfire the grandparents (with good intentions) can get certain rights. It can b used for the good and u would hope there is some party that is looking out for the children whether its a divorce or not. Some mothers more often cut off access to husbands parents cuz wife and mother inlaw have issues and use kids as the weapon to attain the power and as in divorce the ex's attack the inlaws to cause hurt forgetting the kids may have close bonds with the grandparents. But with anything the shitty adults found the loopholes to abuse the rights and cause more harm than good. Check ur state see if they have this incase u have kids now or may in the future. Good info to have ❤
I remember that Jason was more concerned about the impact of their pregnancy news being leaked on his parents than how 🤔 Bethany was feeling. He was always very invested in his parents' feelings about him. It seemed 🤔 that they were his priority!
It's her partnership with Jason that brought in the Financial Success. He deserved half of what he help build. Before Jason Bethan was a 30 something, insecure broke single whippy unsuccessful female. He changed all of that.
@GypsyDreams81 there's no such thing as grandparents rights. They can sue for visitation. If one of the two parents is legality declared incompetent or is dead 🤔 I think they can make a case for custody.
@@joysmall Per Bethany, Bren loves her grandparents, is bonded with them and enjoy spending time with them. It's She Bethany who does not enjoy them. It is not about what's best for Bethany. It about what's best for Bren. She is a narcisistic mother.
She’s a beautiful soul, The Puerto Rican people adores her fully, she made things happen for us when we couldn’t be there for ourselves! She mobilized water, food and baby formula etc , you don’t know what that means until you can’t haven’t it!!! I hope and pray I get to repay Beth in anyway! She walks on water in my eyes lol love you Beth !!!! Thank you
I said the same she really is a beautiful soul, you can see it in her. Much ❤
I applaud Bethenny for not turning away from career related opportunities that put her in the public eye just to be subordinate to the exact directives of the legal system. Bethenny being on housewives or going to public appearances for a business venture is what she would be doing whether going through divorce or not so there’s no reason why it would be detrimental to a child. It shows that she chose NOT to drink the CoolAid served by legal system… smart way to win the long game. So proud of your spirit!!
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I have loved this lady for years! Shes so bold and brave and tries to help other women and i just love her content and how vulnerable and raw she is to help others! Thank you bethenny!
Thanks for watching!
Yess she’s amazing ❤️🥰❤️
My sister stayed in a bad marriage because she too helped pay for a home she knew she needed to leave and ultimately she chose the home. My niece and nephew were traumatized for the next decade because of that. They’re both grown and in their 20’s and are still dealing the fallout. Ultimately you chose peace for Brynn and that’s what’s most important
That’s awful. The children’s needs should also come first.
This woman is a legend, a great mother and an all-around amazing human. I hope I get to meet her one day.❤
Same
That man wanted to control and take everything he could from you
Horrible dad. I hope fathers day is a nothing day for him
Your ex hasn’t chosen to share his side of this ten year saga. It appears he values your child’s privacy and his relationship with her far too much to monetize the divorce experience.
@@catherinebullock9748you think he valued his daughters well being throughout this? You should google what he did, how he did it, the people he used to do the things he did. He was arrested. There was video of what he did at his daughter’s school ( in front of other children & parents). He sent literally thousands of emails, harassing, name calling, threatening, verbally abusing the mother of their child.
It’s the way narcissists operate.
And they inevitably always have someone like you in their corner, “rah rahing” them on with their altruistic behavior. Only it’s not altruistic.
He tried every single way he could to control this woman through their child.
There’s a real good reason he doesn’t speak about this.
There are videos, receipts, forged documents etc that he knows will be shared.
Not to mention his parents were heavily involved in the deception
Divorce and custody battle stories always make me feel bad... I wish people would learn to work things out. Relationships can become really difficult. Nobody is perfect. I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I understand why what you're saying is important, and I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.
Letting someone you deeply care for go is always difficult, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual mentor who preserved the unity of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Thank you for this direction. I'll swiftly seek her out online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will yield results for me as well; her absence weighs heavily on my heart.
I promise you will not regret it.
You cannot always fix a spouse who is a narcissist and abusive. It does not “always” work out. That is unrealistic.
Nothing but respect for Bethenny. You’re a wonderful example for your daughter,& all women (young,& older). Stay strong, safe, healthy, happy, productive,& blessed. 💯👍🏾🌺😀🫶🏾💜✝️🙏🏾🇺🇸
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I’ve always loved (and hated you). 😂😂
I’m being honest. But, DAMN Bethenny!! I just love ya. Your raw words and complete honesty is so refreshing!
Happy to have found you again.
As the daughter of a narcissistic mother myself, I always take my hat off to women who, despite having been subjected to narcissistic abuse by their mothers, then move on to raising the most wonderful children themselves. It is evident that Bethenny's daughter is a very well-adjusted, well-mannered, grounded, kind and caring girl. And I dare say that this is mostly down to Bethenny as a mother. I truly have the utmost of respect for Bethenny, as a business woman but above all as a mother. And in her case, it was a double whammy in terms of the fraught relationship with her own mother but then also the ten plus years of abuse and torture by her ex-husband. It's bad enough when relationships do not work out and kids are involved; but I will never understand when one partner then turns into a vicious, vindictive, utterly horrible and contemptible person who will truly stop at nothing. And yet - despite all of this - Bethenny still fosters a good relationship between her daughter Bryn and Bryn's father. Truly admirable.
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Having a narcissist mother is so damaging. Ive got one and when i had my son i swore id raise him in the oppoaite way to how i was raised and he has done me proud ❤ scholarship to a private school at 10, unconditional offers from Oxford, York, Durham and St Andrews University. He went to st andrews and got his bachelors in french and art history, spent a year in paris at the sorbonne and then did his Masters in Fine Art at a top achool in london and becme the manger of a top art gallery in London thats been around from the 60s at 25 and he travels all over the world for work. Itbhas been the best F you to my mother. Who says you cant be a successful young single mother after a whole life of narc abuse? She still does it i just say yes and do what i want. Bethenny has done the same for Brynn and it shows she is a delightful teenager and she's sensible and behaves like a young teen should i love watching their relationship.
@@Ruth78620 Congratulations to you son for all his academic achievements and to you. And yes, having a narcissistic mother is v damaging. We don’t have the most fundamental of all trust relationships and that is the one you are meant to have with your mother. I always knew that my mother can’t be trusted and it has had an impact on all of my relationships. In my case, my biggest issue has always been (and continues to be) a fear of abandonment. And that makes us prime targets for narcissists - just entangled myself from one (also as a result of watching Bethenny’s videos). Mine not nearly as bad as Bethenny’s ex husband but then I also ran before it turned into a proper long term commitment.
I am still in contact w my mother but she lives in a different country to me and in a way I am almost grateful to her. I was born and brought up in Europe and as a result of her having made my teenage years a living hell, I up and left to New York when I was 18. Went to university there, had my first jobs there and turned into an adult in New York and because I knew that going back home wasn’t an option for me, the idea of failing in New York simply wasn’t an option.
I live in London now while she is on the Continent. Our communication purely consists of emailing about silly things such as latest popular tv series. And one is always on guard. I had to adopt the ‘grey rock’ method with my own mother, but hey ho - if she wouldn’t be such a twisted psycho (excuse my language), I’d never have had any of the life experiences I had…
Yes definitely.. I am dealing with a narcissistic divorce and it is horrible, I would not wish it upon anyone.. ugh.. much ❤
@@MiaK06that is a healthy way to look at it
It is very sad when a parent ignores what is best for the child to "get back" at the other parent.
I had that crazy ex who wanted to hurt me until I remarried.
I agree. Always 2 sides of the story. Sad when ex couple hate each other and have the kid involve in the divorce. Your ex might not be a good partner but it does not make them a bad parent. If the parent brainwash a kid, whoever the kid is with, that is who the kid will have loyalty with. The relationship of the child with the other parent will be forever tainted. That is sad. I experience blended family and a product of divorce. Good luck to the kid.
I know a few parents who share custody and it seems that they all have horrific relationships and use the kids as pawns.
When our son divorced with 2 young children, my husband and I refused to take sides. The first year was rough adjusting to the new norm. However, we all remained adults and prioritized the children. They have moved on to new spouses, but we still celebrate holidays and the kid's events and activities together (including all the grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins). I am a bonus grandmother to my ex daughter in law's baby. The children are happy and thriving.
This is how it can and should be- parents that parent with HIGH Emotional Intelligence should be celebrated above all
Adulting at its best! Blessings to all!
I KNOW you are helping people by doing this. I had a very similar divorce and this episode brings me back 20 years. You are exactly right about how it feels
I was in a drag out horrible custody battle as a child when my parents got divorced in the 90s. Im 39 now and I can say both my mom and dad have come so unbelievable far from when they first split. It was bashing, rules on times, lots of hurt and pain. Lots of drama even police like you mentioned the QVC story. Something similar happened to me. This video hit home. As a child survivor of a incredibly toxic divorce and custody battle I have learned time does heal at least for me. I have a healthy good relationship with both parents. It took decades! Both parents now can even be in the same room, and be civil. It really needs to be the best interest for the child. Its a reason I never had a child of my own. Thank you for helping with advice and keeping this conversation that so many people are struggling with going.
You are so correct! I still remember the things my dad said about my mom during and after their divorce all while my mom was tell me how important a relationship with my father was. It sticks with you.
I love her and respect her so much. She went through hell and came back stronger
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Your experiences are helping so many others. I was always suspicious of Jason and his father, and there was something hollow in his mother. I felt she was too much of a people pleaser and was not respected by her husband or her son. What a train wreck his family is, and I am not convinced they have Bryan’s best interests at heart. Jason must be so jealous of her.
Bethanny, I am bawling crying hearing you talk about how it feels to go through this. I’m in the middle of a horrible, horrible divorce and custody procedure and have felt so alone. Your words make me feel not so alone. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thanks for watching xo
I am SO THANKFUL you are finally on the other side! But I ain't telling you nothing!! 😊
I’m a great mother and have 3 horribly painful divorces. Where’s MY prize
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Gosh you are so right. The judges don’t care about the minutia. I wish I knew this 20 yrs ago. God bless you for sharing this to help.
I'm so glad you have this platform to help people, you give the best advice ❤
Thanks for watching!
I went through the same thing during a custody battle for my son...fear that everything I was doing was wrong, was against the order or against the law...it was so scary...the threats...went on and on. My ex drilled my little son about me night and day, it was awful. Now that hes 35, he remembers all of it. It completely backfires...allow it to happen! The puzzle pieces DO connect and the child recognizes the good guy....trust in that fact! Dont speak badly of the ex and the rewards will come to you, even if he bashes u all day long. The child will put it together...its a delayed event but well worth the wait. Righton, Bethany. I get that!!
How does such nonsense even happen? You are pushed out of your apartment , "YOUR" apartment. What could make this man so bitter, and vengeful? Putting the mother of his child through year's of torture?!! For what?,and why? Say's alot about his character!! It was never about the best interest of the child!! It was about making her mother's life miserable!!! And to drag it out for 10 year's!!! That is one sick, self centered, narcissistic boy!! Yes boy!! He saw $$$ sign's, and that took pressidence over the well being of his child!! 10 year's of precious time. SHAMEFUL!! 😢
B didn't want to abide by the prenup. She was fighting for years.
For money. Are you kidding?
Money. Hes a narcissist and saw Bethenney as his meal ticket and she dared to stand upto him and when you go against a narc they will make your life a total misery. Ive been there and had no idea how spiteful and vindictive a person could be and its scary.
@@marciamakoviecki3295she wrote the prenup and of course shes going to fight it was all her money he was a total grifter which is another trait of a narcissist. Would you just have given him your multi-million dollar home? I dont think so.
He is a narcissistic person.. they will fight until the bitter end, beacuse they are bitter.. ugh.. I am going through this..
Money shows people's true character. I'm so sorry you went through this. I did experience the alienation after leaving a 20 yr marriage. Thank God my 29 and 30 yr old have seen the truth now.
So , so very sad. This man knew exactly who you were when he met you. His action's through your divorce are a huge reflection of his true character. Why would any descent human drag out a divorce for so many year's?? Just do what is right by your child! Respect the woman who gave birth to your child, and move forward!! Keep in mind ... your action's speak volumes!!
Bethany. I had a situation that was very similar yet different because it was my foster child and the threat was the state. But, I sincerely, feel for you because I would sometimes spin out so badly I’d sit in a chair and be utterly paralyzed from the abject terror of my situation. I’m so glad you made it out into the light. I did too.
Children should never be involved in adult situations
Involved with the parents is necessary for a loving relationship, children are people two.
Proverbs 22:6
Bethenny…I love you…always have…always will…you are an amazing mother…your mind and how it works is incredible …you are an outlier…so glad you are free❤
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I so feel for you and get every word you say. I have been co parenting with a malignant narcissist for the past -2 years. They stop at nothing and weaponize their children to hurt us.
They are despicable, deeply insecure and shame based people.
Firm boundaries, law enforcement, minimal contact, parallel parenting and very strict Respond vs React works for me, besides healing my own trauma to remove my triggers.
Stay strong and live your life.
Excellent advice. I never had to say a negative thing about my ex, my kids figured it out as they got older. Save your energy and be positive for your kids. The truth always comes to light 😊 Bethenny is a Queen ❤
Hello beautiful. ❤❤❤ so sorry you went through all this. I went through hell fighting for my son. Thought I was going to die through my divorce at 25. I’m 63 now. I would kick ass if I had all this knowledge. We love you Bethany ❤ you are a ray of sunshine ☀️ on this earth 🌍 ❤
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wow the segment about how one parent shitting on another eventually backfires is so real. this happened with my mom, and i eventually put together how manipulated i was by my her for so long. you’re spot on!
My mom never spoke poorly of my father bc she knew I would see it for myself one day and I did
Legit! But my God once I saw it with my own eyes, jesus it hurt
Same, I was thirteen when I figured it out. I’m now 59 and do not have a relationship with my sperm donor. Keri💜
This gives me hope my son will see this some day.. much ❤
I remember a lawyer telling me “Don’t leave your son unattended for a second. You don’t have an agreement yet. If your husband takes him, there is nothing you can do”. It was absolutely terrifying.
My dad never abused me and my siblings in front of anyone else…….so no one knew, especially extended family…..so many were shocked when they found out he was abusive our entire childhood. Still hurts at 51. 😢
It will never not hurt. Sorry.but it just "is"
I disagree, I'm 61 and this last decade has been extremely helpful in putting things in place. Getting older is generally not pleasant but you do gain more wisdom and that feels really good. ❤
@@susandurrant6357I’m 67 and each one of us handles trauma differently so whether u agree or not - it’s a fact.
@@ramonaesteves6569 I totally agree……we all deal with abuse differently.
🌹You continue to amaze me with this series. I relate to so many things here as I know many other women do also. Thankfully I got full custody and had people to help me. My son is getting ready to start college at one of the top universities in this country on a full academic scholarship. He turned out wonderfully thank goodness. I am so thankful. You are a raising a fine young lady. Bryn is a beauty and so sweet. Thank you again Bethenny. You are beautiful inside and out. ~Love&Light♥️Carli
Aww, YAY ❤
Bethenny my love, thank you so much again I cannot thank you enough for sharing your divorce experience and information to help others. My best friend still suffers from past divorce that continues for which she has not opened up to me yet on mental abuse. I want her to see how powerful the abuse negatively impacts one for years. I don’t know how to help her if she doesn’t share details until she is ready.
She knows I am huge fan following you reads your books and learns so much from you.
You are the most credible influence I can provide her with your sharing knowledge.
Thank you. I love you B.
Que Dios las bendiga a ti y a tu bella peanut.
You enjoyed every second you had & have today with the most precious gem 💎 God gave you. You also did the BEST for you & Brynn on bonding with your Mama. I am so proud of you from my inner core. I adore you.
Thanks for watching! Share with other women ❤
Watching Bethany build her career on tv was such a positive in my life for those who know they know ..I was mad about that apartment that Jason acted like he wanted or was his ..I was pissed.. because I remember when she got it and remodeled it. 😢
This is all 💯 real facts! I wish I had known all this info back when I went through it. Bethany you are a warrior! ❤
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Jason should be thanking you that you didnt call the police on him and file a restraining order and get him out of that apartment and his wack job family
So happy this is over for you xo
Dude...squatters have rights.
@@catherinen8547lmaooooooo
@@catherinen8547 You are so right and I am sure that was delegated through the courts also where he didn’t have to leave. We’re not privy to the exact orders that the judge gave. Let’s not forget also they were in New York which I am sure made it worse.
Yes, both people have rights to the marital home, not just the wife. And B was working so much, the court would probably allow the father to have the child with him in the home since he could provide care, instead of the child always being with a babysitter.@@mommashawna707
He destroyed the apartment before he left. Hes a vindictive, spiteful narcissist and thts what they do and his parents sound like they were a massive issue and their offspring shows what their character is!
Thank you Bethenny for sharing your story. I’m getting ready to start the divorce process and I am scared and feel so alone.
Always Words Of Wisdom Bethenny 🥰 Thank You! ❤️🤍💙🇺🇸😎🌞💛
Thanks for watching xoxo
Love Bethany - while she was married to Hoppy, I knew it wasn’t right for her and could see her struggling. I was so mad at him.
♥️ Bethany, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. You’re such a wonderful person and mother. 🌹
Thanks for watching xo
Your divorce was drawn out because your husband was bitter that you owned everything and he had no money
Were you their lawyer?
She was pretty much still broke when they got married. They were both on the show.
I am going though this with a narcissistic ex.. ugh.. I am fighting with my last breath.. I will not be a person to lay down and "take it." I will fight and come out scarred and hurt but it is necessary. My kids comes first and foremost above the petty crap. ❤
Love that!
I was made to believe by my ex there was a problem I worked at my daughters school as the school nurse. (Like what) he would say she was sick because I was a nurse and would go to the principal and tell him I shouldn’t work there. It was crazy. You mentioned in previous videos about ptsd. My experience was over 10 yrs ago and I can still go back to that place in 1 second . God bless you and your daughter! My daughter is 22 and just graduated from college. She’s an amazing young lady but not without scars.
Thanks for watching ❤
I really like these. Don't gaslight yourself is the moral.
Keep listening ❤
BETHANNY YOU ARE SO STRONG WITH WHAT you have gone through
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Your points hit so close to home its eerie. I left my ex when my son was only 2.5 years old and it was a divorce from hell. Many similarities to yours except for the millions of dollars to fight over.😂 One of the hardest things I had to do was to always speak kindly of him to our son, because I knew what a pos he really was. But as a kid from a divorcd family I remember hating the constant negative remarks my parents would say about each other. It got to a point that I would have to pretend I hated my dad when I was with my mom and I had to pretend I hated my mom when I was with my dad. I swore I'd never do that to a child of mine. I kept that promise and today my son is 26 yrs old and he sees right through his father and his hateful words he heard about me growing up. I knew he would eventually without me adding my two cents.
I’m still waiting for my child to see the truth about his other parent. Sigh.
@@zb2363 don’t worry it will happen I promise and it will be the best feeling knowing your ex showed his true colors without you causing it. 🩷
I love your channel. I have been through divorce and wish I had your advice and encouragement back then. Glad to see you in a better place today. ❤️ Love from coastal Connecticut!
Thanks for watching!
Bethenny, I have looked up to you for years! Starting with RHONY, of course, I’ve followed your career and the elements of your life you shared with the world…we were even pregnant at the same time, in eerily similar marriages, and divorces, at the same time and many other shared life stages. But, never have I respected you more. Your strength, willingness to be so open and honest, and vulnerability is so refreshing. I look forward to watching you for another 10 years! Thank you for all you share with us. Much love and respect xoxo
Awww, love that! Keep watching xo
This is so important! You are amazing - this will help so any people! At some point, people should step back and do a mental/emotional reset to be able to think logically. I had heard that I was just like my father and he was bad which made me feel like I was bad. It is so damaging
So important to share with other women. Keep listening, spread the word xo
Currently going through a custody court case for my 2 week old baby. These spiteful men don’t care that you just gave birth to their child. They only care about their own wants and needs along with hurting the mother.
What father keeps their daughter from speaking to their mother (when the mother is a fit parent who loves the child)? What a nut!
Wow! I’m so sorry you went through all this! My heart and soul goes out to you and I hope your life is better now! I went through a life altering experience after my late husb passed away in 2014 We had been married for 30 years, but after he passed my entire world became something I didn’t understand or would have believed 6 mts before he passed he cashed in a life ins policy paid off his mothers land, and gambled the rest left me and my 2 daughters(his step daughters) with nothing! I felt betrayed and devastated! Life does go on for sure but now tbh you don’t trust anyone!
Sometimes we don’t realize how we are in a much better place without the people that hurt us!
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Custody- is nothing short of full combat of the heart 💔 abusive partners are so horrific, and I literally think they enjoy weaponize the legal system in an attempt to crush you. you feel like a complete psycho telling people what you experience- as most have no point of reference for just how dirty & manipulative the other party can be. You feel lost & alone. It was my experience, that when people do finally “see” what you are going through, they don’t want to get involved- as they don’t want to be targeted themselves.
Would love a prenup video, what you did vs what you should’ve done and tips on setting yourself up correctly llc- wise etc to avoid messes!❤️
Bethenny you nailed it to the core when you said It Backfired Like A Bag Of Shit,l grew up with a mother that did nothing but trash my father and his parents,l loved my grandparents more that anything,when l grew up and got that emotional intelligence and realised exactly what she had done it sure did blow up like a bag of shit,l have no relationship with this woman and haven’t for many years ❤️🌷
This podcast is so important
Love that you watched xo
So glad you has Denis when you were going through some of this.
Thanks for watching xo
When a parent hates the other parent more than they love their child. Very ugly situation!
@Bethenny Frankel I have followed your career since the Apprentice & of course loved watching your success. I've been watching all your videos re divorce & custody. I am reaching out hoping you will read & can possibly help.
My 23 year old daughter lost custody of her baby due to not being able to afford an attorney. The 23 yr old baby daddy's father financed his attorney. This happened February 2023. By June of 2023 my daughter was in ICU for the 1st time critically ill with sepsis & endocarditis. After this 3.5 week hospitalization, she was back in ICU in a couple weeks with same diagnosis. Then a month after that back in hospital still with sepsis & endocarditis plus septic pulmonary emboli...since then there have been at least 5 more hospitalizations with same diagnosis plus pneumothorax (collapsed lung) & pneumonia in the other lung.
I have been told by Psychiatrist that the loss of her baby could absolutely be a part of the cause of all her recent critical illnesses.
The baby daddy refused to bring her son to visit her during all the hospitalizations. She has not seen her now 3 year old son since September. Because baby daddy requested paid supervised visitation which costs $65 p/hr. Prior to that he allowed a visit where they met at a park in April 2023 & he requested a sex act in front of the child who was in car seat in the car holding my daughter's phone & that incident was recorded because my grandson had pushed record & audio was recorded.
I know this probably sounds unbelievable that a judge would be this unjust due to her not having an attorney - but I have had free consults with a few attorneys & they told me she needs an attorney who is familiar with that judge & the other attorney representing baby daddy!
This all started when I found an injury on baby's bottom when he was returned from baby daddy's 1st overnight visit. He couldn't explain what caused it. So his attorney called emergency custody hearing & basically said we were trying to falsely accuse father of this injury. Judge granted him custody & only allowed paid supervised visits for my daughter. She's been so ill for last year & unable to work to pay the $250 per week fot the 4 hours she is allowed.
I shared primary care of Judah with my daughter since he came home from the hospital. Because the dad didn't have Interest in the baby. The dad would get angry if baby woke him up (there was an incident). So i took over overnight duties. I acted as a free 24/7 Nanny but better because I am his grandma with 40 years of experience with babies & toddlers.
My daughter is Literally & physically Heartbroken & I desperately miss Judah & i know he needs us. He has no idea why he was taken from us & i worry about the long-term damage this early childhood trauma has caused him.
We see his medical records & he actually Lost a pound in the last year. He dropped weight percentiles from 91% when he was with us to 29th percentile. His BMI is way below average. & Even his height percentile dropped from 75th to 20th. He also is now speech delayed according to his Dr.
If anyone reading this can HELP in anyway with advice/ referral/or financially - I appreciate any assistance. I'm so desperate to help Judah be reunited with his Mom & me.
I’m going through the exact same thing with my ex. The physical abuse was done to me… I can relate to Bethenny a lot unfortunately… It is sad, especially when a grandmother gets involved after ignoring the children for years… The best interest of the kids is often put to the side in a divorce. I just spent the equivalent of an expensive brand new car in legal fees this month. The legal system couldn’t care less about minors. Even my very experienced and well known family law attorneys are getting discouraged by it… The financial and mental torture are as REAL as Bethenny.
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. As a teacher with 30 years experience and seeing lots of things throughout the years, I admire you so much for trying to do right by your daughter. I think you are doing a fabulous job! I’m glad you are on the other side and can make beautiful memories with your family.
PS Love that Brynn is a volleyball player. I played in college and back when there was no club volleyball. It’s definitely a whole big thing these days. Love that you are diving into it!
Love that you watched ❤️
Licensed EMDR trauma therapist here (LCSW) and yes, I agree Bethany. More harmful to not let them do something “normal” in the situation. Makes kids scared and paranoid and also question the validity of their wants and feelings! Forcing a kid to choose the attachment (mom and what she’s saying to do) over their own autonomy (what they feel and want) for that kind of reason (“divorce fear” and perceived threat) will mess with them HARD!
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@@bethennyfrankel I’m having 3 clients watch this series who are going through this and we discuss it in session after they watch. I specialize in working with complex trauma, domestic violence and eating disorders and all of my clients are women. I’m so thankful that you are doing this. Its one thing for me to talk about this kind of trauma from my lens as a therapist/expert but I can’t tell you how helpful it is for my clients to hear it from a woman who has been through it. You are incredible and this is making a profound impact on other women who are in this experience and the women who have gotten to the other side of it. We need community and to know that someone understands us and you are providing both of those things in such a beautiful way. 💛
Ty for sharing🥰 its awful u had soo many negative moments that have now passed, know u have a beautiful daughter that’s thriving n someday n future she’ll know n remember all the awesome memories u were part of, like u say karma will get those who did u wrong, my mom use to always say as long as uk u did ur part to make things work that’s all that matters, u have health, roof over n food on table, u share ur wealth, I really hope what we c outside (amazing souls) reflects how u feel inside❣️look back everyday b happy what you’ve achieved, u have n army that’s proud n happy I can’t imagine how content n overjoyed ur heart is 🥰 continue sharing ur beautiful family ur awesome role model to us girly girls🙊🙊
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So true about the backfiring!
I'm so sorry you went through all that Bethenny. He was trying everything to ware you down, and you stuck in there. I worked in court, not divorce, juvenile, and we had a really good judge that actually cared about what was best for the children. Totally different situations though, I'll say that. I'm so glad mine was easy, he was in jail. What could he say or do. My girls are in their 30s now, and want NOTHING to do with him, EVER. He's out, and thankfully lives in another state. He keeps trying to finagle his way in, but they want nothing to do with him. I never had to bad mouth him, they saw it for themselves. I'm so happy you are doing this. I love the fact that you tell it like it is! Sorry to ramble. Thank you for doing this. ❤❤
Thanks for watching xo
Thank you for waking us up on the true nature of people who we think love us. Instincts don't lie, people do. Your story is saving lives and warning women, particularly women who have struggled for their success and babies, how to go with their gut when things feel off. We all want our ''happy ending" like in a Disney movie but there are too many wolves in sheep's clothing willing to give us the fairytale and then transform into their real selves and intentions. Thank you again for sharing and may God keep you and your beautiful daughter protected.
So important to share with other women. Keep listening, spread the word!
I gave up pension, property, etc. just to be free!
Netflix series please…..
The history books are going to be very good to Bethenny. You are my hero for real. I balled in the court while signing over half my custody to an emotional abuser. I had to sign so I could breathe, so I could keep fighting. I had to give up, to keep fighting if that makes sense.
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Gee I never realised it was THIS bad, you always looked so together ❤❤❤
Will you be able to discuss Jason "reportedly" selling shares of the divorce?
She is a LEGEND!!
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I divorced young but was married 10 years having 3 children in less than 3 years before I was 21. My biggest regret was not Fighting like mad about everything. My X & I had agreed on everything but didn’t have it in writing, bad move. His 2nd wife was a total witch, caused nothing but hardship for me & my children. If I went to a sporting event & they had the children she would not let them come speak to me. I finally snapped & got a lawyer to threatened them. They got divorced and my X’s 3rd wife was a joy. My advice is “get everything in writing”. Don’t assume you can work it out as someone new might come along and F🍀ck everything up!
It absolutely backfires to the parent talking badly. Happened with my own daughter once she hit 15-16 she saw it and even then i kept my mouth shut
Thank you
😉All these insensitive things Jason did to torture you probably moved your daughter to be be closer to you now that she is reaching adulthood..sad that you can’t get that time in her young years back💜Brynn appears to be well adjusted and loving in her relationship with you so just give her that LOVE right back❤️❤️❤️
So glad you are on the other side! The other case I would like to know about is Brad and Angelina. Their kids need to have a relationship with both parents and I think it seems like one side is toxic (I won't say which side I think that is).
Thanks for sharing, I’m sure someone will be saved by your experience
I just want to hear this! I don’t even need any other guests. Just this. This is the most interesting, touching, informative, unfortunately relatable video on UA-cam. Once you’ve been through the custody thing it leaves a scar. It’s always healing but it’s not something you talk about. I cried through the whole thing. It’s been years since the custody battle and I’m friends with my ex now but you never forget the ugly, the tricks, the scheming, the self-doubt, and being the junior parent and how that makes you feel. That feeling still pops up and my boy is 24 now! I could never be the parent to provide the grandparents and the cousins because I don’t have a family on my side either and it has made me feel oh so junior over the years. However, I have my own family now with my husband and kids so I made up for loss time but those years of the custody battle are unforgettable. You look back and wonder how in the heck did you get through it but you do. You get through it and look back. That’s the good news. This such a good series. More of this, please?
Love that you watched! Keep watching ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. In my husband's case during the divorce with his 1st wife, he had custody of the kids. Other mom's at the children's school, the kids were 7 and 5, would ask him why he didn’t move out and why did he make her move out! That wasn't the case and the kids would hear them ask! Just horrible! Please mind your own business, just support the family as best you can by being supportive to the parents, don't gossip! Children should be the priority and protected!
Thanks for watching xo
This is excellent advice. So hard any way you look at it.
Thanks for watching!
Love it ALL.
And the lashes are sensational. You mastered it!
What are they? Ardell? I’ve never tried to put them on, but now I’m a believer. I gotta try this.
Keep sharing ur stories. Real fans love it.
And the new beach house is a dream come true.
While it doesn't fix my situation I am very thankful for this series. It's nice to hear I'm not crazy after all my ex and his family has done and continues to do to me.
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@@bethennyfrankel wouldn't miss it ❤️ whether you are sharing your experiences to help others or cracking us up with Chanel videos. Love ya ❤️
Thanks! This is the money I will save on sunscreen short. You are great!
The lawyers are being logical. They know the longer they drag the process out,the more $$$ they will make.
Good lawyers value their long-term reputation more than short-term profit.
@@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 Yeah right. 🙄🤣😂
B didn't want to settle either and didn't want to give him his share of $ that was in the prenup.
My son absolutely signed the child custody papers under duress. We now have spent over $7000+ just to see our grandson for 4 hours a week. Hopefully by September it will change a lot with the time. Also having the other grandparent around for supervision because we haven't seen him in 6 months because the mother kept him from us for no legal reason, just taking pictures of him with us is so uncomfortable. Our lawyer is working on a better agreement and I pray that things will move more in my son's favor. He's deleted and emotionally exhausted.
this is a block buster movie... more than mommy dearest .... do it bethany ...
Always enjoyed B straight talk. Struck that so many years this man has lived in your head and stayed at your kitchen. End things as quick as possible no matter the money. You will always earn lots more money. Peace is everything. You really need to stop wearing the divorce blanket he put on you. Stop talking about him get him out of you daily life. Weddings and graduations are plenty
I know exactly what you mean. I used to dread being alone with my Mom in the house. I knew that I would be the only one she could lash out on.
I personally think his parents enabled him an allowed him to do this it all goes back to his childhood his parents are very weird to me. Like who does that.
Yes I grew up in abuse as well you are correct having a village is your security
He had a strong family who supported him and helped with the child. B had only hired help, which was probably easy for him to argue in court was not as good for the child.
I feel like lawyers are like any other professional they are all about covering their own asses. What a toxic shitstorm for the good parent and the children.
Thanks for watching xo
I watched every one of your show’s and I’m amazed at how well you held it together. You never skipped a beat.
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I liked your talk show
I feel like I’m already friends with B. We just admire her honesty 💖👊….
I Cannot imagine Grandparents had the right to interfere with a separation and divorce. They made this experience much more traumatic.
Not sure if its nationwide but some states have grandparent laws to get rights to their grand kids if parents r both in the wrong or in a custody battle and the parents r too busy attacking each other the kids get caught in the crossfire the grandparents (with good intentions) can get certain rights. It can b used for the good and u would hope there is some party that is looking out for the children whether its a divorce or not. Some mothers more often cut off access to husbands parents cuz wife and mother inlaw have issues and use kids as the weapon to attain the power and as in divorce the ex's attack the inlaws to cause hurt forgetting the kids may have close bonds with the grandparents. But with anything the shitty adults found the loopholes to abuse the rights and cause more harm than good. Check ur state see if they have this incase u have kids now or may in the future. Good info to have ❤
I remember that Jason was more concerned about the impact of their pregnancy news being leaked on his parents than how 🤔 Bethany was feeling. He was always very invested in his parents' feelings about him. It seemed 🤔 that they were his priority!
It's her partnership with Jason that brought in the Financial Success. He deserved half of what he help build. Before Jason Bethan was a 30 something, insecure broke single whippy unsuccessful female. He changed all of that.
@GypsyDreams81 there's no such thing as grandparents rights. They can sue for visitation. If one of the two parents is legality declared incompetent or is dead 🤔 I think they can make a case for custody.
@@joysmall Per Bethany, Bren loves her grandparents, is bonded with them and enjoy spending time with them. It's She
Bethany who does not enjoy them. It is not about what's best for Bethany. It about what's best for Bren. She is a narcisistic mother.
Thanks for sharing B. How did you heal from the trauma?