6:54 Intention of making a repair as a parent ... of the errors, disconnections etc. ua-cam.com/video/mBjqsEwrL3s/v-deo.html#t=413 Worth quoting here: "" You can have intention of making a repair when you've come to realize that you've made an error or disconnection or you didn't approach to parenting the way if you'd been more tested or more rested or less in a hurry. So, going back to your child and acknowledging that there was a rupture in your connection, describing what happened to you in that moment in a brief way, and asking for your child's exploration for what happened; what they felt when you were yelling or when you looked terrifying. These can be extremely important, so "repair" is an extremely important lesson for all of us that some parents don't know about and so what they do is they try to pretend that the ruptures in their connection with their child have not happened and in pretending, it makes the child actually have a very difficult kind of attachment relationship because then the child also has to deny their own truth -- because you're denying the truth inter-personally. And that can lead to serious compromises to what you can call the coherence of a child's mind and the way the child understands life and understand relationships. So the second lesson is repair. Make a repair, repair, repair. We can't say it enough to remind parents about that. ""
Earth to Dan! Come out of the lab and into the real world with useful info. This did not give usable information for parents. It makes me wonder if you really do have children and or, have really spent time with them. If you have good information it did not come through in this video. (Perhaps your friends wouldn't tell you)
interesting video on parenting
6:54 Intention of making a repair as a parent ... of the errors, disconnections etc.
ua-cam.com/video/mBjqsEwrL3s/v-deo.html#t=413
Worth quoting here:
"" You can have intention of making a repair when you've come to realize that you've made an error or disconnection or you didn't approach to parenting the way if you'd been more tested or more rested or less in a hurry.
So, going back to your child and acknowledging that there was a rupture in your connection, describing what happened to you in that moment in a brief way, and asking for your child's exploration for what happened; what they felt when you were yelling or when you looked terrifying.
These can be extremely important, so "repair" is an extremely important lesson for all of us that some parents don't know about and so what they do is they try to pretend that the ruptures in their connection with their child have not happened and in pretending, it makes the child actually have a very difficult kind of attachment relationship because then the child also has to deny their own truth -- because you're denying the truth inter-personally. And that can lead to serious compromises to what you can call the coherence of a child's mind and the way the child understands life and understand relationships.
So the second lesson is repair. Make a repair, repair, repair. We can't say it enough to remind parents about that.
""
Earth to Dan! Come out of the lab and into the real world with useful info. This did not give usable information for parents. It makes me wonder if you really do have children and or, have really spent time with them. If you have good information it did not come through in this video. (Perhaps your friends wouldn't tell you)