it's also crazy how Colleen writes about how we should be asking "why men harm", but she also defended her son while he was being accused with sexual harassment against a minor... alot about these people just isn't right, and it's unfortunate that such an important story gets ruined by these bad promotions and BAD people.
@mxdmaxc I couldn't find the official documents. But apparently there were legal documents at some point. But I edited my original comment to be sure :)
Justin Baldoni, the director, is the one who talks about deconstructing toxic masculinity. He bought the rights to both movies. Colleen's books normalize toxic masculinity and misogyny so idk how this happened. And the thing with her son is he texted a 14 yo girl asking for butt pics. She reported it to Colleen and Colleen blocked her and has never talked about it publicly
She and her husband did "a coordenated attack" on Justin Baldoni and it backfired on them. Even the movie poster she produced ( her face and flowers), there isn't his name on it either as main actor. They hijacked his film he produced and directed and she promotes it without mention him like the film was hers. He has been working with it since 2019 when he bought the rights of the book to make the film. Not professional and not respectful. Shame on them.
100% It was all very disgusting. I certainly did NOT appreciate how anyone but Baldoni promoted this movie. After seeing the different movie posters, I was even more furious. Also, excuse me but where you florals and grab your girlfriends and run out and see this movie?! Are you serious?! Myself and one of my friends have experienced domestic violence so it's not OUR idea of a fun, light girls night out! I never read the book and only knew it was about domestic violence because of all the talk about what a crappy author Colleen Hoover is. It's obviously, NOT a subject I want to read about for fun. Had I gone to see this just seeing most of the marketing, I'd have been very upset!
Truth always is exposed. Justin' s efforts will come through despite these two women that seek recognition . They fail to represent many who have been exposed to DV. This poor character on their part.
I honestly feel awful for Justin Baldoni. He clearly wanted to spread awareness about domestic violence, but Blake Lively and Colleen Hoover seem intent on pushing up the fashion and romantic love story aspects. Colleen Hoover was also a social worker before becoming a writer, and you'd think that it would make her more adept when writing about topical issues. She also saw no issues with a colouring book being published, only to sheepishly have it recalled.
I don't know if ironic is the right word, but it sure is SOMETHING that the guy who played the villain is the most invested in pushing the actual supposed 'message' of the movie while every else is throwing flower confetti. If he cares about it as much as he claims, then it must have been hard to play that role, and now all that emotional turmoil was for nothing
What fame does to people bruh are we really surprised tho the moment someone came out about allegations about her colleens son she just shut them down and avoided the whole thing
To be fair the only reason the film made $250m is because it was marketed as a rom com. No one wants to see a depressing film about dv. But at least don't hijack Baldoni's pet project to do it.
@@o_s_byron2319 Huh? Of course people want to watch movies and shows about serious or depressing subjects, including DV, comedy is not the only genre out there..... What's Love Got To Do With It, Maid, Gaslight, Big Little Lies to name a few...
If it wast for justin. This book would not be in our faces. The book and its author has been so messy and problematic. Why did he, of all people, someone who supposedly advocates against toxic masculinity, miss the issue with this book. They all deserve each other, justin and bloke
Justin Baldoni bought the rights to both books and he never wants to work with Blake or this cast ever again. Even Colleen sided with Blake to climb the Hollywood ladder. So, unless he sells his rights off, a sequel is highly unlikely. And good for him.
When I see Justin B. I think Jane the Virgin. He is a great actor and seems genuine in the things he works in. It's a shame what they are doing to him.
I completely agree .. I feel So bad for Justin. I'm so shocked about Colleen . Justin was the one who cared enough to pay and direct and act to bring her story to life!
It feels like Blake (or her team) tried really hard to mimic Ryan's marketing strategies while misunderstanding why those strategies work for him. On the surface, integrating your liquor brand is fine; Ryan used multiple movies to promote Aviation Gin. But none of them dealt with domestic violence, which frequently goes hand-in-hand with alcoholism & substance abuse. Even if the abuser in the movie isn't an alcoholic, naming a cocktail after him is extremely tone deaf. We love watching silly joke interviews with Ryan bc they showcase the same charisma & style of comedy we expect to see in his films. But it's so uncomfortable & borderline uncanny to see him do it for a serious film that he's not even in! He's normally so on-point with marketing & promotion that it's surprising he'd even agree to do something like that. All of it feels oddly forced
I think this is a case where people are nitpicking & often are not the ones who have experienced this. It’s still a film that helps show how people get in these relationships, but that isn’t EVERYTHING. Like how dare Blake say to get your girls together & enjoy this film! Sorry but it’s painfully ignorant & doesn’t help anyone. Just helps people not want to cover this in the future.
@@DA-yy8rsits true, none of the controversy surrounding this movie is that deep. its just a movie, and its not even that good. yall just love to have a villain of the week
@@DA-yy8rsit is true. It’s just a movie and Blake is just an actress. We are so used to having activists for actors or entertainers that we have forgotten actors are playing a role. When the director yells cut that’s the end of the role. Now everyone is turning this into a mountain when it’s simple. People have been rude to others. People haven’t gotten along with certain people but you except Blake to be what a saint 😂 you making people you don’t know a villain is the same thing as those who worship celebrities. But hey you do you.
@@Beam67 I'm not trying to villainize anyone! I'm not saying Blake (or anyone involved) is a bad person, just that some bad decisions were made to promote the movie. In my opinion, it seems like they were set on using strategies proven to work for other projects without considering the reason they worked for those films. I think it's pretty obvious that the tone of the film should be reflected in its marketing. Imagine if Cillian Murphy told everyone to "Put on a trilby & go see Oppenheimer!" That would be weird bc it doesn't match the tone of the film
Usually actresses get only asked about their bodies and what they wore compared to their male counterparts. In this case Blake was all about the clothes and “ what they meant” so why belittle the interviewer? She was being such a mean girl it’s a shame.
And the film they were discussing was a timepiece movie so it made sense why clothing would be a question to ask. Blake and that other women are just insufferable.
Don't worry I didn't either until my daughter told me when I was like this looks like a cute movie to watch at home she's like Mom don't you know what that's about it's not cute
@@wrenholder8436I’d have been so upset if I’d watched it based on how, from what I saw, it looked like it would be a bittersweet, gentle romance. I must live in a bubble, because I’m only finding out all this info about it from this vid.
I knew from day dot! A trailer told me DV was involved and I said ooooh that's a tough subject... how are they going to parse it? Not gonna lie the birth scene near the end made the movie for me. The dialogue was in a trailer but seeing it on screen was satisfying. I think false expectations and bad advertising (didn't see anything except 1 trailer) can ruin the experience. I had a good time, and I now have a new perspective. How the gaslighting and excuses work was a revelation for me. I definitely have WAAAAY more empathy for people in this situation, because the movie was able to show me, not tell me. I've seen DV my whole life in my family and in the lives of others and I'm thankful I watched this movie because even though Ive never been the spousal victim I can see how one can fall into it unintentionally.
The ending is better than the book's. While in the film, Lily raises Emmy on her own, with Ryle out of the picture, in the original novel, she allows him to coparent unsupervised with her, with her logic being that her own father abused her mother, but never Lily herself. In reality, not all abusers operate the same way, and there's no guarantee that Ryle wouldn't snap or abuse his daughter.
Mhm, abusers should never have access to anyone vulnerable without further protection of that vulnerable party by other responsible care givers. Its like a base line..
Exactly, and partner abusers most often do abuse their children also. Even if they're "just" witnessing abuse, that's still extremely damaging, and even if the abuse doesn't turn serially physical, it is often emotional and mental.
In the second one she doesn’t let him have unsupervised visits, and makes him go to therapy. I thought it was awkward an out of place when Ryle simply walks out the room after Lily gave birth. Idk the movie was all over the place.
@@sparksfly5877for me it was backwards lol, my mom got the mental and financial abuse and i got that + physical. it’s just more socially acceptable to hit children i guess.
As someone who isnt a fan of Colleen Hoovers writing I actually really liked this movie especially the editing where they made the assaults look like accidents until she was unable to justify them in her head anymore. It literally makes you wanna rewatch and see if there were other moments besides the physical ones that were misconstrued by Lily. And the actor for Ryle (i suck at names guy's) is 100 right, it was the correct thing to play him like he wasn't a villain, they never think of themselves as villains. As a victim of DV myself its always "you made me so mad" "oh you need to stop" "do you feel happy now?"
Lily said she's an unreliable narrator when she first meet Ryle at the rooftop so it makes sense why they portrayed them as accidents. It's from her skewed perception of the abuse
Blake Lively is an opportunistic businesswoman. She doesn't care about the dark issue. She wants to promote herself cause she was fading out in the movie scene.
you do that with a build up , throught a bit of voice acting , a bit of producing , and bit of directing an indie film , a bit of staring in a indie film . not hijacking the latest twilightesque production
This book was already being crucified for the awful “wattpad DW but also bad boy” romance writing anyway I cannot believe it got a movie and then people got surprised it also had controversy
If it wast for justin. This book would not be in our faces. The book and its author has been so messy and problematic. Why did he, of all people, someone who supposedly advocates against toxic masculinity, miss the issue with this book. They all deserve each other, justin and bloke.
One scene that I wish that they'd kept from the book is when Lily confesses about Ryle's abuse and her pregnancy to her mother, Jenny. Lily always questioned why Jenny stayed with Lily's dad, and Jenny states that it eventually turned into a cycle, with fear being her main factor. She also adds that she's proud of Lily for refusing to say anything positive at his funeral. In the movie, she apparently already knows about Ryle and the baby, and states that she stayed because she loved her husband.
There's even a clip of her where she says "you can't just put me in some clothes and tell me what to do, I need to direct" and it cuts to a woman saying "ACTING?! are you saying you can't ACT?!"
Blake intentionally omitted the DV and tried everything to make it a romcom, so it's easier to market her own hair product line and alcohol, etc. is wild. Baldoni was the only one who actually talked about dv and promoted resources.
Bruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh, wtf. Sharing trauma with someone is NOT trauma bonding. It's bonding over trauma. A trauma bond is MUCH worse. And entails relationship cycle of abuse between an abuser and the abused. . .
Homage to lost in translation.....Scarlett johansen stars in that movie....Scarlett johansen was married to Ryan Reynolds when he met Blake lively then Ryan Reynolds divorces and dates Blake a year later, crazy coincidence
Idk people have been pointing out Blake has a weird obsession with Scarlett. She tried to take several roles from her after she was already signed, then tried to get her to teach her to be a superhero for green lantern and tried to meet her even though her character is not a super hero, then she ends up with Ryan, then she tried to pull that “it’s interesting how women only get asked about the clothes” bit in the interview the way Scarlett famously did so for how men only asked her how hard it was to get in and out of her skin tight suit for her role as black widow, but it crashed and burned because not the same situation …. And now hearing about this homage to lost in translation… if all this is true it’s giving obsession. The way amber heard starting mimicking Johnny depp obsession…. But this is all alleged 🤷🏻♀️
Last week me, my younger sister and my mom went to see It Ends with us in theaters, my mom read the book and loved it, my sister read it and hated it and I never even touched the book ever, but I heard it's controversial. So the day itself was already going great. We were in a luckier situation, because all three of us has media literacy and knew it's about DV. Let me tell you, as I was sitting in the chair as watched the movie, I literally felt like the movie is trying to convince me that this Ryle guy is actually good and the DV scenes actually made me angry cry, because they were raw and triggering (saying this as someone who was born in a toxic marriage). I personally thought the movie was okay, because if you set the cast and the drama aside, it's perfectly (unfortunately) at the middle between romantacising abuse and representing it from the fmc's POV. The biggest problem here is the cast, acting like this is a rom com, I heard little girls, 13-14 YEAR OLDS, discussing who should've Lily ended up with, like it's all Twilight again! THESE ARE KIDS! Stop the nonsense and treat DV as what it is, ABUSE.
Thoughts & Prayers to Justin Baldoni. He really cared about the themes, and had been a strong advocate for a more positive masculinity via his podcasts Man Enough.
The funny things is that it would have been effective marketing to have the main leads promote it differently but have one of them promote it as a dv story and the other as a rom com but leave easter eggs to the audience that it is coordinated and purposeful. It is clear that Blake was more focused on how she could promote things that would make her money after the film, while Baldoni was focused on the impact of the film.
I like how they portrayed Ryle . Hijacking the big moments , gaslighting the victim & making them think it's an accident. Love bombing, putting on the charm & being so attrntive right after the abuse that the victim starts questioning if they imagined it . That's also why it's difficult for the victim to make others believe. These people are so charismatic often in proffesions that gives a certain image of them that people just can't put together with an abuser .
One thing is I do wish they would’ve made Lilly conscious of Ryle’s behavior. Like Justin said, the question “why did she stay?” is asked far too often and I think if they chose to make Lilly conscious, it would’ve been really impactful in that way.
Agreed. The book really didn't go into the psychological aspect of abuse (like, at all), and I think therefore the movie was stuck with this very shallow take on DV. Both would have been better if they'd done more to show how a person's reality can get twisted up by feelings of guilt and shame.
@@Kiki-cs8xvexactlyyy! I think that’s what it mainly lacked, depth. Cause like you see the abuse and everything, however it’s like if the dived into the psychological aspect and even if they show’d a convo with lily and her mother like it would’ve been much more impactful
I LOVE Alice darling and Maid!!! Tbh it depicted perfectly what emotional abuse can be and how it can manifest to other things like physical or financial abuse etc.
Justin baldoni used his privilege to raise awareness about domestic violence and women’s rights. This is what we advocate for… solidarity. but when it happens Blake loses her mind?
I feel like the bigger problem with the book was the author saying she watched her mother be abused by her father, then dedicating the book to her father and thanking him for supporting her. The author has issues she clearly hasn't dealt with.
As someone who read the book... That scene of him finding the Atlas number was so frightening. He literally WAITED for her and premeditated his attack before it happened. That part was never hidden. And the way that only way Ryle was able to understand that abuse is bad is because he imagined it happenning to his daughter??? It was PEAK neanderthal energy. The book was horrid and so was this movie. I think if Justin Baldoni was able to make his vision come to life I'm sure it would be much better. :/
For those of you who don't know, I'd like to share a few things about Colleen Hoover and this movie plus advertising. So, Colleen Hoover is a romance author, as we all know. She wrote It Ends With Us with the intention of writing a surviver of abuse, which is very noble and a praise worthy act. Until you start reading her other works where their is examples Of the love interests: stocking, manipulating, gas lighting, physically restraining, verbally abusing, infantilizing, objectifing, and controlling the female protagonist but Ryle is the only one that is viewed as being bad because THIS time it is, whereas every single other pair in Colleen Hoover books are soulmates and meant to be. Even Atlas, the guy that saves Lily from Ryle, displays abusive and controlling behaviour, but it's okay because he's not Ryle. Are we understanding this? Colleen Hoover writes Ryle in every single novel, but this time is bad because she said so. And it follows into the marketing of this movie. If you have the knowledge of how Colleen Hoover writes her books, then it shouldn't be surprising that she wants to market this movie as a "cute romcom to bring your friends to and have cocktails later" because she doesn't understand the weight of what she wrote and what was put on screen because if it was any other book, she would market it the same way. This is the woman who shamelessly made a colouring book for It Ends With Us because of the popularity of the book. She is not above treating this as a light-hearted love story.
The flower that she used in her promo bouquet has a flower called "amaranth - love lies bleeding" Blake talks about how she loves flowers and loves making bouquets but she can't name one? She doesn't know what she's using? I think either take that flower out or intentionally incorporate it. All she sees is "pretty" and doesn't think past that layer. Not a thought to having meaning with flowers. Vanity. If my friend invited me to see a summer floral movie and I saw those darker scenes, I would not be feeling ok.
Can we just acknowledge that this also isn’t Colleen Hoover’s only book that romanticizes men hurting women? Because it isn’t. This is her best book, it’s actually somewhat based off of experience and as a victim myself, somewhat realistic on why she didn’t leave? Kinda.. But oh my god, the way she promoted this, her other books, this weird romanticization of harm, and her own actions make me really deeply dislike her.
My mother-in-law wanted to see it so I went with her, I was not expecting those scenes. The attempted "grape" scene made me panic and I wanted to leave so bad. Threre were ZERO trigger warnings for this film and it's pg-13..
i saw a reaction of someone who didn’t know about the book and fully thought it was a romcom. she was a dv victim herself and was extremely upset because she had NO clue going in. it’s so gross how they’re marketing this movie
Colleen Hoover is well known for being superficial regarding genuine issues. A family member was telling me how she trivialises every one of the issues and I didn’t believe them at first… Just wow.
I think you’ve got me interested in seeing this movie again, now that I know this is something Justin wanted to bring to the screen. Just the way he said “we shouldn’t ask why she stayed but why men like that hurt others” shows he has a true grasp and respect for Colleen’s story. And also learning of Colleen’s personal history and how this is an affirmation for her mother truly makes it easier to ignore Blake’s foolishness to support the folks around her moving with integrity and good intention. Blake talked too, damn much.
That statement is literally one explicitly stating “this is a story about glorifying the abusers intent”… like why? There is nothing to learn there , the film glorifies him and keeps her in a mentality of a child- which only further reinforces those already overly normalized toxic norms in our culture in regards to genders.
That statement is literally one explicitly stating “this is a story about glorifying the abusers intent”… like why? There is nothing to learn there , the film glorifies him and keeps her in a mentality of a child- which only further reinforces those already overly normalized toxic norms in our culture in regards to genders.
Blake had far too much of a hand in this movie. I feel bad for Justin, because he clearly had a vision. Blake and her husband just hijacked it. At least the younger actors get a big break 🤷♀️ Despite my dislike of her books, Colleen Hoover seems genuine in her love for It Ends With Us.
even the book had terrible marketing since the author is really problematic and made it seem like its just a romance book. She even made a colouring book for it like what?
@@fatoumatacisse3796 right! Like that shit with the coloring book is fucking stupid. “ here color in these flowers as you think back on the part that Lilly’s husband Pushed her down the stairs, or that part where he sexually assaulted her to show how much he loves her more than this other guy she ACTUALLY does love”
This is probably my favorite review of this movie. Touching on all aspects of it and not just the drama. I absolutely love Justin baldoni and his creative process. As to casting unfortunately there will always be someone who doesn’t truly understand the story the way it should be. I think Justin captured all the right pieces to make the story come to life. If there isn’t a second movie (hopefully they can cut the drama to make one) I still think this movie was done so well it doesn’t need one. ❤
As a DV survivor, I'm so glad I didn't want to see this movie because I would have gone into an anxiety attack not knowing wth this was about. Thank goodness I never liked Blake, even as a tween during the Gossip Girl days, which is the main reason I didnt want to see this. Now knowing all the bs and how she is taking this serious topic as a joke and to promote herself is truly disgusting. Makes me so angry and hurt.
They should’ve gotten a different actress as lead …. And also the movie itself didn’t feel like a DV movie, it was so mild. Could’ve been so much better !
The problem is that these abusive men becomes fathers and then use the family court systems to abuse the women they were obsessed with. The children suffer as the father does not care about the child as much as he cares about harming the woman. #coercivecontrol
Well, 50 Shades of Grey got a movie as well and that's not great either (judging by the 5 pages I managed to get through). I haven't read this book, but it doesn't seem amazing either. 50 Shades supposedly romanticised stalking and controlling, this movie romanticises DV.
My take - movie is actually decent and puts across the message well. Its not perfect or an art piece. But it manages to do what it sets out to do. But blake is just a basic white girl and it comes across in her interviews. She has not faced struggle or abuse it seems, and Im happy for her for that. But shes just a simple pretty girl living her happy life. I dont expect any depth from her. It really doesnt help that every decision in marketing has just been bad when it comes to this movie. It's sad to see her barely speaking about DV while Baldoni made it is main talking point
I grew up with DV (but becoz of schizophrenia and alcohol) in my family - beautiful, teary ending, and truth of the situation why you stay. I too had a mother strong enough to walk away and build a beautiful life raising us. Cut some slack, not all art is perfect, not all stories are perfect, not all personalities are perfect and a lot of times there are disagreements at work. Of course, being mean and rude is not good. Blake was rude at the first part of her question on how to reach her to talk on dv, but did in the end answered the question on dv (which most did not show on their vids tearing into blake).
10:01 very true. They think u deserved it, and also as an actor, it’s not about your feelings, it’s what the character believes, so he’s 100% correct. It’s why they repeat- cause in their head, u deserved it. They didn’t do anything wrong
This story won’t resonate with women and girls who have found themselves in abusive relationships and gone through sheer trauma trying to get out of them. One such is my daughter who went through all the stages with a nut-job boyfriend. Thank god we were able to support her against him and see him off, but it was a scary couple of years. From this review it seems that the Rile (sp?) character changes when in reality they don’t change. They can’t. They just eventually move onto the next victim. It doesn’t help that with regard to the film, it would be hard to see Blake Lively as a sweet girl when we now know she isn’t. Far from it.
I remember when photos of shooting were leaked and everyone was criticizing the clothes (very over the top) and Blake lively as the main character because obviously she is a lot older than the character. I think it says a lot that she hijacked a lot of the movie, like the styling, the marketing, the poster, and even the direction of some scenes, thinking she knew best and those are the the parts being criticized the most. And rightly so. But, hey... it has been a financial success, so she won't consider her mistakes or admit to anything. She will say it's all coming from haters.
She is tone deaf and a narcissist! Her and her husband are ALL about their brand and $$$ making projects…. Not spending a penny to see those two aHoles!
Re: Blake's comment in interview-"...I saw the red flags too but they looked cute like fuscia." Here's a reality check: those of us raised in an abusive environment see the red flags as green lights.
Wow... Blake was digging her own grave in each interview. Like, girl, this is not Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants. It's unfortunate that they didn't addressed and promote the movie like it should have been, which is DV. Marketing it as a romcom adds to the damage it is doing to our young girls and boys. Hollywood has romanticised toxic relationships for so long that kids think if there's no drama then the relationship isn't worth fighting for. Scary.
I can't help but think it's all marketing but; How are you that smart and that dumb at the same time?? It worked. Whatever. We're talking about it. But jeez, if all this wasn't intentional, I fear even further for our "content" downfall
Not gonna lie this is the best coverage of this shitshow of a movie hahaha You actually focused on the film the drama was just the package around the analysis. But ngl Blake and Ryan definitely lost some sympathy points with me with this one.
THE MOVIE WAS WAY MORE TAMEDDDD BC IN THE BOOK SHE WASNT TAKING THAT BULLSHIT BUT IN THE MOVIE SHE WAS SO APOLOGETIC FOR HIM AFTER He pushed HER DOWN THE STAIRS
If you didn’t tell me, this was about domestic violence. I would just believe it was another romantic comedy. Because the cast never addressed the alcoholism, domestic violence, the cycle of abuse etc . They could’ve seriously turned this into an educational PR thing. Justin Baldoni definitely talked more about it than anybody. Even the own author, barely even talked about the cycle of abuse. It’s kind of weird….. Not only that but I hate the fact that Blake lively is playing a 20 something-year-old woman. In the book isn’t the character like in her early 20s late 20s. No offense to lively, but you could definitely tell she’s not a 20 year old . Which kind of takes me out of the story. Because this is supposed to be about a young woman who is being domestically abused, probably confused and conflicted on what to do. and it’s a pretty important story, But I don’t know. I didn’t like it, it was all sorts of fucked up. Blake barely talked about the abuse, barely talked about anything that women can do. Or resources that could possibly help them and I think it’s really messed up. I also think she tried to kick Justin Baldoni out of his own movie, and that also wasn’t right. Boy did her team truly set her up for failure though
I have finished reading the book and it brought me back to my childhood when my mom was faced down with my father on top of her and grabbing her by the hair and slamming her face to the ground. It brought me to tears and reflect on how different my life would have been if she hadn't put a stop to it. I am not sure if i want to see the movie if it makes light of the real issue and drama.
I didnt even know Justin Baldoni was in the movie until the controversy started. I saw that movie poster with Blake and the cheeky interview her husband did with the guy who plays Atlas so i was thrown when i saw Justin Baldoni. Kinda makes you wonder...
Unpopular opinion at this point with the whole drama thing, but Blake was phenomenal. Yes, she might be a diva in real life but if you watch the whole movie, you maybe understand why she promoted the film the way she did. All of the cast and Justin were amazing. My heart was beating the whole time and I cried multiple times. It was so empowering.
as much as i agree the marketing/interviews were bad and AWFUL, i don't know how anyone could have watched the trailer and not known this movie has DV in it
I just watched this movie and I’m so glad I didn’t watch interviews or any of the drama. It’s a very impactful movie when it doesn’t get tainted by all of that. Abuse can be so hard to see until you reach the breaking point. I think they made that point really well with the editing.
it's also crazy how Colleen writes about how we should be asking "why men harm", but she also defended her son while he was being accused with sexual harassment against a minor... alot about these people just isn't right, and it's unfortunate that such an important story gets ruined by these bad promotions and BAD people.
I’m sorry she what??
That’s wild…
as far as i know he wasn't charged. the girl just reached out to colleen and she shut her off, not belittling the girl's experience though.
@mxdmaxc I couldn't find the official documents. But apparently there were legal documents at some point. But I edited my original comment to be sure :)
Justin Baldoni, the director, is the one who talks about deconstructing toxic masculinity. He bought the rights to both movies. Colleen's books normalize toxic masculinity and misogyny so idk how this happened.
And the thing with her son is he texted a 14 yo girl asking for butt pics. She reported it to Colleen and Colleen blocked her and has never talked about it publicly
She and her husband did "a coordenated attack" on Justin Baldoni and it backfired on them.
Even the movie poster she produced ( her face and flowers), there isn't his name on it either as main actor.
They hijacked his film he produced and directed and she promotes it without mention him like the film was hers. He has been working with it since 2019 when he bought the rights of the book to make the film. Not professional and not respectful. Shame on them.
bruh I just saw the exact same comment on Valentina Skov's video about this
The youtube shows many videos about that matter. I used there the same comment to share my opinion.
100% It was all very disgusting. I certainly did NOT appreciate how anyone but Baldoni promoted this movie. After seeing the different movie posters, I was even more furious. Also, excuse me but where you florals and grab your girlfriends and run out and see this movie?! Are you serious?! Myself and one of my friends have experienced domestic violence so it's not OUR idea of a fun, light girls night out! I never read the book and only knew it was about domestic violence because of all the talk about what a crappy author Colleen Hoover is. It's obviously, NOT a subject I want to read about for fun. Had I gone to see this just seeing most of the marketing, I'd have been very upset!
Truth always is exposed. Justin' s efforts will come through despite these two women that seek recognition . They fail to represent many who have been exposed to DV. This poor character on their part.
@marniekilbourne608 exactly . Both women have poor character when representing those whom experience DV . Thank God for Baldoni & his efforts .
I honestly feel awful for Justin Baldoni. He clearly wanted to spread awareness about domestic violence, but Blake Lively and Colleen Hoover seem intent on pushing up the fashion and romantic love story aspects. Colleen Hoover was also a social worker before becoming a writer, and you'd think that it would make her more adept when writing about topical issues. She also saw no issues with a colouring book being published, only to sheepishly have it recalled.
I don't know if ironic is the right word, but it sure is SOMETHING that the guy who played the villain is the most invested in pushing the actual supposed 'message' of the movie while every else is throwing flower confetti. If he cares about it as much as he claims, then it must have been hard to play that role, and now all that emotional turmoil was for nothing
What fame does to people bruh are we really surprised tho the moment someone came out about allegations about her colleens son she just shut them down and avoided the whole thing
To be fair the only reason the film made $250m is because it was marketed as a rom com. No one wants to see a depressing film about dv. But at least don't hijack Baldoni's pet project to do it.
@@o_s_byron2319 Huh? Of course people want to watch movies and shows about serious or depressing subjects, including DV, comedy is not the only genre out there..... What's Love Got To Do With It, Maid, Gaslight, Big Little Lies to name a few...
If it wast for justin. This book would not be in our faces. The book and its author has been so messy and problematic. Why did he, of all people, someone who supposedly advocates against toxic masculinity, miss the issue with this book. They all deserve each other, justin and bloke
Justin Baldoni bought the rights to both books and he never wants to work with Blake or this cast ever again. Even Colleen sided with Blake to climb the Hollywood ladder. So, unless he sells his rights off, a sequel is highly unlikely. And good for him.
When I see Justin B. I think Jane the Virgin. He is a great actor and seems genuine in the things he works in. It's a shame what they are doing to him.
Or charges her sky high price for the rights. Would serve her right.
@@Svengali764He should totally charge something ridiculous like 50 million
Trash. He needs to be in part two can’t believe they did this to him
I completely agree .. I feel So bad for Justin. I'm so shocked about Colleen . Justin was the one who cared enough to pay and direct and act to bring her story to life!
Blake is the mean girl who insults you and then tells you your being sensitive.
Blake is the kind of person saying “I’m sorry u feel that way”
She really comes off that way actually.
Yes 😂
Blake wanted Barbenheimer with wolverine & Deadpool and truly missed that her movie was the Oppenheimer
Yeah, good point
Plus both Deadpool and IEWU are much worse than Barbie and Oppenheimer
Yes! Perfectly put@
Incredible point, well done!
@@AmaraEmmeD&W and IEWU is fictional, Oppenheimer was not. Let’s not glamorize a serial killer.
It feels like Blake (or her team) tried really hard to mimic Ryan's marketing strategies while misunderstanding why those strategies work for him. On the surface, integrating your liquor brand is fine; Ryan used multiple movies to promote Aviation Gin. But none of them dealt with domestic violence, which frequently goes hand-in-hand with alcoholism & substance abuse. Even if the abuser in the movie isn't an alcoholic, naming a cocktail after him is extremely tone deaf. We love watching silly joke interviews with Ryan bc they showcase the same charisma & style of comedy we expect to see in his films. But it's so uncomfortable & borderline uncanny to see him do it for a serious film that he's not even in! He's normally so on-point with marketing & promotion that it's surprising he'd even agree to do something like that. All of it feels oddly forced
I think this is a case where people are nitpicking & often are not the ones who have experienced this. It’s still a film that helps show how people get in these relationships, but that isn’t EVERYTHING. Like how dare Blake say to get your girls together & enjoy this film! Sorry but it’s painfully ignorant & doesn’t help anyone. Just helps people not want to cover this in the future.
@@Nenernener123 Hmmm. A massive oversimplification & white knighting for celebrities who don’t care. Who does this benefit?
@@DA-yy8rsits true, none of the controversy surrounding this movie is that deep. its just a movie, and its not even that good. yall just love to have a villain of the week
@@DA-yy8rsit is true. It’s just a movie and Blake is just an actress. We are so used to having activists for actors or entertainers that we have forgotten actors are playing a role. When the director yells cut that’s the end of the role. Now everyone is turning this into a mountain when it’s simple. People have been rude to others. People haven’t gotten along with certain people but you except Blake to be what a saint 😂 you making people you don’t know a villain is the same thing as those who worship celebrities. But hey you do you.
@@Beam67 I'm not trying to villainize anyone! I'm not saying Blake (or anyone involved) is a bad person, just that some bad decisions were made to promote the movie. In my opinion, it seems like they were set on using strategies proven to work for other projects without considering the reason they worked for those films. I think it's pretty obvious that the tone of the film should be reflected in its marketing. Imagine if Cillian Murphy told everyone to "Put on a trilby & go see Oppenheimer!" That would be weird bc it doesn't match the tone of the film
Usually actresses get only asked about their bodies and what they wore compared to their male counterparts. In this case Blake was all about the clothes and “ what they meant” so why belittle the interviewer? She was being such a mean girl it’s a shame.
And the film they were discussing was a timepiece movie so it made sense why clothing would be a question to ask. Blake and that other women are just insufferable.
@@misspetty1240 the journalist also has a fashion background, it could've been a really interesting conversation but she wanted to be nasty instead
The interview was years ago
well that interview was also 8 yrs ago...
just because it happened years ago why should it not be talked about@@oyuodmandakh2726
When I tell you I had NO CLUE that this movie was about DV.
Her life is more than just DV, I don’t understand the issue of making it more relatable to how people get in these relationships.
Don't worry I didn't either until my daughter told me when I was like this looks like a cute movie to watch at home she's like Mom don't you know what that's about it's not cute
@@Nenernener123 but it's false advertising Blake made it seem like it was a romcom
@@wrenholder8436I’d have been so upset if I’d watched it based on how, from what I saw, it looked like it would be a bittersweet, gentle romance. I must live in a bubble, because I’m only finding out all this info about it from this vid.
I knew from day dot! A trailer told me DV was involved and I said ooooh that's a tough subject... how are they going to parse it?
Not gonna lie the birth scene near the end made the movie for me. The dialogue was in a trailer but seeing it on screen was satisfying.
I think false expectations and bad advertising (didn't see anything except 1 trailer) can ruin the experience.
I had a good time, and I now have a new perspective. How the gaslighting and excuses work was a revelation for me. I definitely have WAAAAY more empathy for people in this situation, because the movie was able to show me, not tell me.
I've seen DV my whole life in my family and in the lives of others and I'm thankful I watched this movie because even though Ive never been the spousal victim I can see how one can fall into it unintentionally.
The ending is better than the book's. While in the film, Lily raises Emmy on her own, with Ryle out of the picture, in the original novel, she allows him to coparent unsupervised with her, with her logic being that her own father abused her mother, but never Lily herself. In reality, not all abusers operate the same way, and there's no guarantee that Ryle wouldn't snap or abuse his daughter.
Mhm, abusers should never have access to anyone vulnerable without further protection of that vulnerable party by other responsible care givers. Its like a base line..
Also her father does abuse her when she tried to intervene once
Exactly, and partner abusers most often do abuse their children also. Even if they're "just" witnessing abuse, that's still extremely damaging, and even if the abuse doesn't turn serially physical, it is often emotional and mental.
In the second one she doesn’t let him have unsupervised visits, and makes him go to therapy. I thought it was awkward an out of place when Ryle simply walks out the room after Lily gave birth. Idk the movie was all over the place.
@@sparksfly5877for me it was backwards lol, my mom got the mental and financial abuse and i got that + physical. it’s just more socially acceptable to hit children i guess.
As someone who isnt a fan of Colleen Hoovers writing I actually really liked this movie especially the editing where they made the assaults look like accidents until she was unable to justify them in her head anymore. It literally makes you wanna rewatch and see if there were other moments besides the physical ones that were misconstrued by Lily. And the actor for Ryle (i suck at names guy's) is 100 right, it was the correct thing to play him like he wasn't a villain, they never think of themselves as villains. As a victim of DV myself its always "you made me so mad" "oh you need to stop" "do you feel happy now?"
You need to have experienced DV in your family to understand a lot of it. Otherwise be empathetic enough to know how it really is.
and even if they’re awful they aren’t cartoon villains, they have depth, backstories and nuance
I agree with your whole comment. Glad to hear someone not just hate on the movie as a whole because of the drama/Colleen Hoover association
Lily said she's an unreliable narrator when she first meet Ryle at the rooftop so it makes sense why they portrayed them as accidents. It's from her skewed perception of the abuse
Blake sounds like a control freak lol
Blake Lively is an opportunistic businesswoman. She doesn't care about the dark issue. She wants to promote herself cause she was fading out in the movie scene.
you do that with a build up , throught a bit of voice acting , a bit of producing , and bit of directing an indie film , a bit of staring in a indie film . not hijacking the latest twilightesque production
@@tahasoomro7465 what do you mean? The controversy has put her back in the spotlight. Even bad publicity is good publicity.
This book was already being crucified for the awful “wattpad DW but also bad boy” romance writing anyway I cannot believe it got a movie and then people got surprised it also had controversy
The other man that supposed to be the childhood friend also being a red flag is crazy funny
If it wast for justin. This book would not be in our faces. The book and its author has been so messy and problematic. Why did he, of all people, someone who supposedly advocates against toxic masculinity, miss the issue with this book. They all deserve each other, justin and bloke.
@@Oceangrace90 I don’t feel personal about out of touch celebs being out of touch, the book however is something else
The way she doesn't let Colleen speak when talking about the hollow heart....
Hijacking the baby’s birth is CRAZY and infuriating.
Terrible change that they made because this is not how it actually happens in the book
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How does it happen in the books?
One scene that I wish that they'd kept from the book is when Lily confesses about Ryle's abuse and her pregnancy to her mother, Jenny. Lily always questioned why Jenny stayed with Lily's dad, and Jenny states that it eventually turned into a cycle, with fear being her main factor. She also adds that she's proud of Lily for refusing to say anything positive at his funeral. In the movie, she apparently already knows about Ryle and the baby, and states that she stayed because she loved her husband.
she said that it was because it was easier to stay than to leave, and that she did love him
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4:25 Blake is not an actress. She is just herself in her roles.
There's even a clip of her where she says "you can't just put me in some clothes and tell me what to do, I need to direct" and it cuts to a woman saying "ACTING?! are you saying you can't ACT?!"
So true! Bad actress
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Plantation barbie doesn't drink but has an alcohol brand, and she has awful hair but has an hair care brand? Make it make sense!
I’m pretty sure it’s all money laundering 🤣
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Blake intentionally omitted the DV and tried everything to make it a romcom, so it's easier to market her own hair product line and alcohol, etc. is wild. Baldoni was the only one who actually talked about dv and promoted resources.
It goes to show she clearly doesn't live in the real world and has no idea what some people really go through
DV isnt funny. She doesn’t get it. She shouldn’t be in it.
Blake comes off as ignorant, out of touch and arrogant. Just not a good look...
So basically you average hollywood celebrity.
Gets a lot of it from her "husband"
Bruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh, wtf. Sharing trauma with someone is NOT trauma bonding. It's bonding over trauma. A trauma bond is MUCH worse. And entails relationship cycle of abuse between an abuser and the abused. . .
@karinalumen9722 No it isn't
Blake Lively has never been impressive and her biggest accomplishment is marry up. Not interested in ever paying to watch her.
The Reynolds' have basically hijacked (or attempted to hijack) Baldoni's movie.
Never liked either one of them.
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Homage to lost in translation.....Scarlett johansen stars in that movie....Scarlett johansen was married to Ryan Reynolds when he met Blake lively then Ryan Reynolds divorces and dates Blake a year later, crazy coincidence
Idk people have been pointing out Blake has a weird obsession with Scarlett. She tried to take several roles from her after she was already signed, then tried to get her to teach her to be a superhero for green lantern and tried to meet her even though her character is not a super hero, then she ends up with Ryan, then she tried to pull that “it’s interesting how women only get asked about the clothes” bit in the interview the way Scarlett famously did so for how men only asked her how hard it was to get in and out of her skin tight suit for her role as black widow, but it crashed and burned because not the same situation …. And now hearing about this homage to lost in translation… if all this is true it’s giving obsession. The way amber heard starting mimicking Johnny depp obsession…. But this is all alleged 🤷🏻♀️
@@wolfhausonI just read this tea with so much intrigue. 😂😂😂 ☕
@@wolfhausonlove the theory. Scrumdidily yum yum uh purr purrr
leaving Scarlet Johansson for someone else is crazy
@@RealBradMillersame🫖🫖🫖 the tea was good
Last week me, my younger sister and my mom went to see It Ends with us in theaters, my mom read the book and loved it, my sister read it and hated it and I never even touched the book ever, but I heard it's controversial. So the day itself was already going great. We were in a luckier situation, because all three of us has media literacy and knew it's about DV. Let me tell you, as I was sitting in the chair as watched the movie, I literally felt like the movie is trying to convince me that this Ryle guy is actually good and the DV scenes actually made me angry cry, because they were raw and triggering (saying this as someone who was born in a toxic marriage). I personally thought the movie was okay, because if you set the cast and the drama aside, it's perfectly (unfortunately) at the middle between romantacising abuse and representing it from the fmc's POV. The biggest problem here is the cast, acting like this is a rom com, I heard little girls, 13-14 YEAR OLDS, discussing who should've Lily ended up with, like it's all Twilight again! THESE ARE KIDS! Stop the nonsense and treat DV as what it is, ABUSE.
ryan doing that skit interview with atlas actor is crazy considering justin baldoni played blake's albeit abusive husband
Thoughts & Prayers to Justin Baldoni. He really cared about the themes, and had been a strong advocate for a more positive masculinity via his podcasts Man Enough.
"to" or "for"
Either way dude... I wish him every success on his endeavours because sheeesh this one 🥲
cultural change is long and arduous
The funny things is that it would have been effective marketing to have the main leads promote it differently but have one of them promote it as a dv story and the other as a rom com but leave easter eggs to the audience that it is coordinated and purposeful. It is clear that Blake was more focused on how she could promote things that would make her money after the film, while Baldoni was focused on the impact of the film.
I like how they portrayed Ryle . Hijacking the big moments , gaslighting the victim & making them think it's an accident. Love bombing, putting on the charm & being so attrntive right after the abuse that the victim starts questioning if they imagined it . That's also why it's difficult for the victim to make others believe. These people are so charismatic often in proffesions that gives a certain image of them that people just can't put together with an abuser .
Blake plays the same character in everything!
One thing is I do wish they would’ve made Lilly conscious of Ryle’s behavior. Like Justin said, the question “why did she stay?” is asked far too often and I think if they chose to make Lilly conscious, it would’ve been really impactful in that way.
She was concous of the abuse in the book. She asked begged him to stop hurting her several times
Agreed. The book really didn't go into the psychological aspect of abuse (like, at all), and I think therefore the movie was stuck with this very shallow take on DV. Both would have been better if they'd done more to show how a person's reality can get twisted up by feelings of guilt and shame.
@@Kiki-cs8xvexactlyyy! I think that’s what it mainly lacked, depth. Cause like you see the abuse and everything, however it’s like if the dived into the psychological aspect and even if they show’d a convo with lily and her mother like it would’ve been much more impactful
I LOVE Alice darling and Maid!!! Tbh it depicted perfectly what emotional abuse can be and how it can manifest to other things like physical or financial abuse etc.
Maid perfectly depicted DV with great sensitivity
I'm so happy you are covering this, now i don't have to go spend my money and time on it.
Same
Literally
Justin baldoni used his privilege to raise awareness about domestic violence and women’s rights. This is what we advocate for… solidarity. but when it happens Blake loses her mind?
I feel like the bigger problem with the book was the author saying she watched her mother be abused by her father, then dedicating the book to her father and thanking him for supporting her. The author has issues she clearly hasn't dealt with.
As someone who read the book... That scene of him finding the Atlas number was so frightening. He literally WAITED for her and premeditated his attack before it happened. That part was never hidden. And the way that only way Ryle was able to understand that abuse is bad is because he imagined it happenning to his daughter??? It was PEAK neanderthal energy. The book was horrid and so was this movie. I think if Justin Baldoni was able to make his vision come to life I'm sure it would be much better. :/
For those of you who don't know, I'd like to share a few things about Colleen Hoover and this movie plus advertising. So, Colleen Hoover is a romance author, as we all know. She wrote It Ends With Us with the intention of writing a surviver of abuse, which is very noble and a praise worthy act. Until you start reading her other works where their is examples Of the love interests: stocking, manipulating, gas lighting, physically restraining, verbally abusing, infantilizing, objectifing, and controlling the female protagonist but Ryle is the only one that is viewed as being bad because THIS time it is, whereas every single other pair in Colleen Hoover books are soulmates and meant to be. Even Atlas, the guy that saves Lily from Ryle, displays abusive and controlling behaviour, but it's okay because he's not Ryle. Are we understanding this? Colleen Hoover writes Ryle in every single novel, but this time is bad because she said so.
And it follows into the marketing of this movie. If you have the knowledge of how Colleen Hoover writes her books, then it shouldn't be surprising that she wants to market this movie as a "cute romcom to bring your friends to and have cocktails later" because she doesn't understand the weight of what she wrote and what was put on screen because if it was any other book, she would market it the same way. This is the woman who shamelessly made a colouring book for It Ends With Us because of the popularity of the book. She is not above treating this as a light-hearted love story.
The flower that she used in her promo bouquet has a flower called "amaranth - love lies bleeding" Blake talks about how she loves flowers and loves making bouquets but she can't name one? She doesn't know what she's using? I think either take that flower out or intentionally incorporate it. All she sees is "pretty" and doesn't think past that layer. Not a thought to having meaning with flowers. Vanity. If my friend invited me to see a summer floral movie and I saw those darker scenes, I would not be feeling ok.
Can we just acknowledge that this also isn’t Colleen Hoover’s only book that romanticizes men hurting women? Because it isn’t. This is her best book, it’s actually somewhat based off of experience and as a victim myself, somewhat realistic on why she didn’t leave? Kinda.. But oh my god, the way she promoted this, her other books, this weird romanticization of harm, and her own actions make me really deeply dislike her.
I feel bad for those who didn’t read the book and only saw this movie because they didn’t expect the DV scenes.
That was where most of the money was probably made. Who wants to spend their saturday night watching a depressing dv film?
I expected it because of everything going on online, even though I didn’t read it.
@@o_s_byron2319plenty of people. Because sad movies are still great. Just like sad songs, which are often the most beautiful
My mother-in-law wanted to see it so I went with her, I was not expecting those scenes. The attempted "grape" scene made me panic and I wanted to leave so bad. Threre were ZERO trigger warnings for this film and it's pg-13..
i saw a reaction of someone who didn’t know about the book and fully thought it was a romcom. she was a dv victim herself and was extremely upset because she had NO clue going in. it’s so gross how they’re marketing this movie
Colleen Hoover is well known for being superficial regarding genuine issues. A family member was telling me how she trivialises every one of the issues and I didn’t believe them at first…
Just wow.
I think you’ve got me interested in seeing this movie again, now that I know this is something Justin wanted to bring to the screen. Just the way he said “we shouldn’t ask why she stayed but why men like that hurt others” shows he has a true grasp and respect for Colleen’s story. And also learning of Colleen’s personal history and how this is an affirmation for her mother truly makes it easier to ignore Blake’s foolishness to support the folks around her moving with integrity and good intention.
Blake talked too, damn much.
might wanna rethink supporting the movie, colleen allegedly bashed a young girl for coming to her bc her son SAed her
Coleen romanticize and glamorousize dv and abuse in every single book she made, she is NOT an exemple
That statement is literally one explicitly stating “this is a story about glorifying the abusers intent”… like why? There is nothing to learn there , the film glorifies him and keeps her in a mentality of a child- which only further reinforces those already overly normalized toxic norms in our culture in regards to genders.
That statement is literally one explicitly stating “this is a story about glorifying the abusers intent”… like why? There is nothing to learn there , the film glorifies him and keeps her in a mentality of a child- which only further reinforces those already overly normalized toxic norms in our culture in regards to genders.
Colleen Hoovers eyes terrify me. Does anyone else see this??
Was the marketing team for this movie the same team behind Bridge to Terabithia? because omg the deceptive emotional whiplash
Blake had far too much of a hand in this movie. I feel bad for Justin, because he clearly had a vision. Blake and her husband just hijacked it. At least the younger actors get a big break 🤷♀️ Despite my dislike of her books, Colleen Hoover seems genuine in her love for It Ends With Us.
Yeeeaah. Not the best marketing
even the book had terrible marketing since the author is really problematic and made it seem like its just a romance book. She even made a colouring book for it like what?
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@@fatoumatacisse3796 right! Like that shit with the coloring book is fucking stupid. “ here color in these flowers as you think back on the part that Lilly’s husband Pushed her down the stairs, or that part where he sexually assaulted her to show how much he loves her more than this other guy she ACTUALLY does love”
The film has grossed $240m (so far) on a $30m budget.
@@o_s_byron2319The point stands. It was mismarketed. Think about how many people went into it expecting something totally different lol.
This is probably my favorite review of this movie. Touching on all aspects of it and not just the drama. I absolutely love Justin baldoni and his creative process. As to casting unfortunately there will always be someone who doesn’t truly understand the story the way it should be. I think Justin captured all the right pieces to make the story come to life. If there isn’t a second movie (hopefully they can cut the drama to make one) I still think this movie was done so well it doesn’t need one. ❤
The infamous interview with Blake is insane, should every person with trauma talk to this actress?? That’s so scary
That last part with interviews killed me 😂 so much cringe
I don't think it ended with them
As a DV survivor, I'm so glad I didn't want to see this movie because I would have gone into an anxiety attack not knowing wth this was about. Thank goodness I never liked Blake, even as a tween during the Gossip Girl days, which is the main reason I didnt want to see this. Now knowing all the bs and how she is taking this serious topic as a joke and to promote herself is truly disgusting. Makes me so angry and hurt.
Why is Blake acting like her besty Swift wouldn't give her the rights for using her song
They should’ve gotten a different actress as lead …. And also the movie itself didn’t feel like a DV movie, it was so mild. Could’ve been so much better !
14:20 girl please… no reader has that tattoo
I had no idea this movie was about DV based on the advertisements. Really looked like a romcom to me
I've been waiting for you to cover this
The problem is that these abusive men becomes fathers and then use the family court systems to abuse the women they were obsessed with. The children suffer as the father does not care about the child as much as he cares about harming the woman. #coercivecontrol
Neurosurgeon was a big enough red flag for the character or Ryle…..but also trash book and will never read anymore of her books.
Deadpool and Trap videos up next..
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You really pulled your punches on this one
why even make a movie out of Hoover's books? Her writing sucks! i don't understand how her books became famous.
Well, 50 Shades of Grey got a movie as well and that's not great either (judging by the 5 pages I managed to get through). I haven't read this book, but it doesn't seem amazing either. 50 Shades supposedly romanticised stalking and controlling, this movie romanticises DV.
My take - movie is actually decent and puts across the message well. Its not perfect or an art piece. But it manages to do what it sets out to do. But blake is just a basic white girl and it comes across in her interviews. She has not faced struggle or abuse it seems, and Im happy for her for that. But shes just a simple pretty girl living her happy life. I dont expect any depth from her. It really doesnt help that every decision in marketing has just been bad when it comes to this movie. It's sad to see her barely speaking about DV while Baldoni made it is main talking point
The movie did what it needed to do for me.
I have a new perspective of DV. The gaslighting was eye opening.
I grew up with DV (but becoz of schizophrenia and alcohol) in my family - beautiful, teary ending, and truth of the situation why you stay. I too had a mother strong enough to walk away and build a beautiful life raising us.
Cut some slack, not all art is perfect, not all stories are perfect, not all personalities are perfect and a lot of times there are disagreements at work. Of course, being mean and rude is not good.
Blake was rude at the first part of her question on how to reach her to talk on dv, but did in the end answered the question on dv (which most did not show on their vids tearing into blake).
Honestly, Justin Baldoni should use his talents and efforts on other projects.
10:01 very true. They think u deserved it, and also as an actor, it’s not about your feelings, it’s what the character believes, so he’s 100% correct. It’s why they repeat- cause in their head, u deserved it. They didn’t do anything wrong
This story won’t resonate with women and girls who have found themselves in abusive relationships and gone through sheer trauma trying to get out of them. One such is my daughter who went through all the stages with a nut-job boyfriend. Thank god we were able to support her against him and see him off, but it was a scary couple of years. From this review it seems that the Rile (sp?) character changes when in reality they don’t change. They can’t. They just eventually move onto the next victim. It doesn’t help that with regard to the film, it would be hard to see Blake Lively as a sweet girl when we now know she isn’t. Far from it.
He doesn’t as per the book, he still stays a narcissist
I remember when photos of shooting were leaked and everyone was criticizing the clothes (very over the top) and Blake lively as the main character because obviously she is a lot older than the character. I think it says a lot that she hijacked a lot of the movie, like the styling, the marketing, the poster, and even the direction of some scenes, thinking she knew best and those are the the parts being criticized the most. And rightly so. But, hey... it has been a financial success, so she won't consider her mistakes or admit to anything. She will say it's all coming from haters.
I SWEAR Blake HERSELF did not read the book or she NEVER would have marketed it the way she did
She is tone deaf and a narcissist! Her and her husband are ALL about their brand and $$$ making projects…. Not spending a penny to see those two aHoles!
Alice Darling as a DV survivor is excellent thank you for suggesting it
Re: Blake's comment in interview-"...I saw the red flags too but they looked cute like fuscia."
Here's a reality check: those of us raised in an abusive environment see the red flags as green lights.
Wow... Blake was digging her own grave in each interview. Like, girl, this is not Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants. It's unfortunate that they didn't addressed and promote the movie like it should have been, which is DV. Marketing it as a romcom adds to the damage it is doing to our young girls and boys. Hollywood has romanticised toxic relationships for so long that kids think if there's no drama then the relationship isn't worth fighting for. Scary.
Go with your girlfriends and wear a flowery dress! UGH 🤮🤢 TONE DEAF!!!
The editing on this is 🤣 top-notch
The actress who plays young Lily Bloom seems so pissed off that Blake dressed her 😂☠️ "literally all Blake" 13:10
The best part of this movie was Justin baldoni 😭 so sad it didn’t pan the way he intended it to be. Would have love to have seen more of his work
7:23 | “Getting beat up by a professional” is diabolical 😮
I can't help but think it's all marketing but; How are you that smart and that dumb at the same time?? It worked. Whatever. We're talking about it. But jeez, if all this wasn't intentional, I fear even further for our "content" downfall
"Why men harm and not why did she stay". An other exemple of women being put in the position of being the cause of the harm done to them.
Not gonna lie this is the best coverage of this shitshow of a movie hahaha You actually focused on the film the drama was just the package around the analysis. But ngl Blake and Ryan definitely lost some sympathy points with me with this one.
Blake wants to be as charismatic as ryan. She isnt.
THE MOVIE WAS WAY MORE TAMEDDDD BC IN THE BOOK SHE WASNT TAKING THAT BULLSHIT BUT IN THE MOVIE SHE WAS SO APOLOGETIC FOR HIM AFTER He pushed HER DOWN THE STAIRS
blake was also sellling hair care during the promotions
This movie would have been so impactful had Coleen not defended her OWN SON'S abuse against a minor
If you didn’t tell me, this was about domestic violence. I would just believe it was another romantic comedy. Because the cast never addressed the alcoholism, domestic violence, the cycle of abuse etc . They could’ve seriously turned this into an educational PR thing. Justin Baldoni definitely talked more about it than anybody. Even the own author, barely even talked about the cycle of abuse. It’s kind of weird….. Not only that but I hate the fact that Blake lively is playing a 20 something-year-old woman. In the book isn’t the character like in her early 20s late 20s. No offense to lively, but you could definitely tell she’s not a 20 year old . Which kind of takes me out of the story. Because this is supposed to be about a young woman who is being domestically abused, probably confused and conflicted on what to do. and it’s a pretty important story, But I don’t know. I didn’t like it, it was all sorts of fucked up. Blake barely talked about the abuse, barely talked about anything that women can do. Or resources that could possibly help them and I think it’s really messed up. I also think she tried to kick Justin Baldoni out of his own movie, and that also wasn’t right. Boy did her team truly set her up for failure though
I have finished reading the book and it brought me back to my childhood when my mom was faced down with my father on top of her and grabbing her by the hair and slamming her face to the ground. It brought me to tears and reflect on how different my life would have been if she hadn't put a stop to it. I am not sure if i want to see the movie if it makes light of the real issue and drama.
Why is there no interviews with Justin? He was the star of the movie
“I’m just a really good actor” was just a good burn
I didnt even know Justin Baldoni was in the movie until the controversy started. I saw that movie poster with Blake and the cheeky interview her husband did with the guy who plays Atlas so i was thrown when i saw Justin Baldoni. Kinda makes you wonder...
" I guess because the dudes were hot they focused on the wrong smash " 😂😂
Unpopular opinion at this point with the whole drama thing, but Blake was phenomenal. Yes, she might be a diva in real life but if you watch the whole movie, you maybe understand why she promoted the film the way she did. All of the cast and Justin were amazing. My heart was beating the whole time and I cried multiple times. It was so empowering.
as much as i agree the marketing/interviews were bad and AWFUL, i don't know how anyone could have watched the trailer and not known this movie has DV in it
You and me 😅
I genuinely wonder if this is just an elaborate ad for her designer clothing brand that blake is about to launch soon
“He’s hot and a neurosurgeon so she ignores it.” 😂
When her husband got away on bullying his co start TJ Miller as a joke, and she thought she could get away with it.
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I just watched this movie and I’m so glad I didn’t watch interviews or any of the drama. It’s a very impactful movie when it doesn’t get tainted by all of that. Abuse can be so hard to see until you reach the breaking point. I think they made that point really well with the editing.
Love how its bc there is another dude already lined up. Not the best message. Leave bc you love yourself enough to do it alone.
I did. The hardest thing I ever did was leave a man I was in love with, because my safety, physical and mental health was more than being with him.
why are you not doing long legs!!!!! that’s the one i wanna see u review😭
Got a copy of it but then someone knocked and left a random doll outside
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Let's not forget Ryan was a big bully as well