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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- This video looks at the Super Empath Supernova and will be in 2 parts. The first segment examines who experiences the Supernova and what it actually is. The second video coming soon will look at the Supernova or Empanova as it transitions to its height.
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I view the super empath as an empath who has matured. Realizing the evil that exists amongst us and how it manipulates. Super Nova, an "enough is enough" moment.
Great insight..I agree it makes sense 🌹
Well said, simple and true.
It's when the Holy Spirit takes over. Praise God
yup
I would have disagreed had it not been because of my experience with a narcissit for 6 years. Praise the Lord.
Hallelujah🎉❤ Yes Lord whew!!!!!!!
Amen
Super nova... Its when you can take their shit anymore and the strength comes from who the hell knows where. Im a super empath but Ive always known that I can be pushed to the point of no return. It was never a surprise to me. If I have to destroy someone who attempts to hurt me over and over, I will...
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Super empaths are able to use their narcissistic traits against true narcissist. When they battle the narc they don’t want the relationship to end but at the same time they will begin to mirror back to the narcissist the same tactics that he used to hurt her. Which can drive the narcissist crazy because he does to you what he knows has hurt him in the past.
What? Spot on damn...
I went super nova,he ran to his parents house...he still pays all the bills from over there 🤗
Lol, im doing that right now.
So true, I knew for years that something was seriously wrong with him but I changed me to accommodate him, when I finally broke the relationship I just said “I can’t do this anymore “ the strength that followed for me was amazing I had so much determination to get my life back, and I did, life is wonderful without the craziness 😊
Super Empaths are high in empathy but equally high in assertiveness when it comes to speaking their truth.
They are righteous justice warriors in the midst of wrongdoing.
I 100% remember .. it was 4 years ago last week. And it just blurted out of my mouth, "what's wrong with you" .. because that's what I'd really been holding back for so long in effort to not create insult or upset. I was absolutely done, I simply could not take a step in either direction .. I mean, she had actually driven away leaving me stranded .. and I simply was going to make my way home. "Don't you have ANY compassion", I said. But, it was the point that I'd said, "what's wrong with you", that was the truth of it all .. it wasn't meant to be an insult or anything .. it really was that very question, because I just did not know .. and that's how insane it all was, and that's how much I'd tried to navigate through it with the best of intentions and care and investment and complete utter naivity i.e. I really did not know .. and I really could not hold it back any more .. something broke, and I really, just, out of survival and utter 'could not understand' .. it came out. And that .. there was no turning back for either of us, as painful and long-drawn out the death of that whole 5-year 'relationship' was. I will never, EVER, forget that moment. And THAT .. was the beginning of a painful awakening and a tremendous amount of loss that cascaded through my entire history, friendships, family, and the life that is mine today. That dark night of the soul, it's not just one night. And yes, we do reach saturation point, and just one more thing happens, where something breaks, where we suddenly 'stop' and 'step off', and we say " 'no more' " .. no more from anyone.
Yes we remember the moment…May the dark night turn into a light filled day 🌹
As an empath, I recognize that there is no such thing as winning with a narcissist.
The best way to get over a narcissist, is to stop any contact with the narcissist and heal yourself by never ruminating on these evil entities.
I sent a letter to my sister, explaining why i have chosen to say goodbye.
It was very matter of fact and after a year, my grief has lessened.
You can always role play in the safety of your own space and say whatever youd love to say to them but as I said, its not worth your own energy to have any thoughts about them again. As for feeling sorry for them, ive met enough to know, theyre aware of their behaviour, because its worked for them for so long. I choose to feel nothing, not even acceptance, just boundaries.
Omg I remember that day. He always gaslighted me . No surprise since that's what Narcs do. It was Thursday & he was creating a pattttern of disappearing on the weekends. I CONSCIOUSLY said in a nice even-kill tone could you please stay home this weekend? I worked 60 hours & dealt with our son could you please stay home? I also don't feel well" (Ughhhh not to mention that youre my husband & you should by default stay home) He immediately said no , & came up with a bogus excuse as to y he was saying no, he accused me of yelling, causing strife during the week etc & now I was being punished ( where in the past I was not conscious of my emotions & or tone ,but this day I was in complete control).. I begged him to stay initially I did. He said he was going to his office before going out of town to see the OW. I realized my tire was flat. I called him, no answer. So I ubered up to the office with our son only to be faced by SATAN. The rage in his eyes & tone in his voice made me realize this person did not love me but not even that , he also hated and abbored me, he never loved me because the person who I thought I was dealing with, never was, that guy was gone..... My son was in the back room & we were in the garage. Anyway without going into all the details he sent me off. Said he wasn't helping with the tire (something he could do). I left & cried my eyes out so bad that day. Just wanted to die, felt so low & humiliated for myself. Texted him to never come back , that if he did I would call the authorities. Let him know he was going to make a choice .He had no idea the dark place he pushed me to, but I had to be strong for my son. I let the OW know that she could have him & to please NEVER send him home. That she contributed to the destruction of a friendship ( I knew her) & now my family. That Monday he stayed in the office ( he texted me he would be home when I calmed down) . Little did he know, I turned that energy into ammunition to pack his things. I hired movers & moved everything into storage. When he got home there was nothing in the house except the bed & things in my son's room. I was also able to obtain a protection order after things escalated & when he realized I went EMPA-NOVA! He was raging about any & everything I did (Where F#ck is the furniture. You crazy B#tch). I couldn't bare serving him on the couches that he would expect to give him dinner on while I slaved in the kitchen. I also couldn't bare looking at the large screen TV ( that he addictively played video games on) so I took a hammer to that & had the movers unmount it so my son wouldn't see. We were going to stay with family until I figured things out. He took zero responsibility for ANY of his action's. Nothing about the pain that he caused to my core & how heartless, & callous he was to not help his own wife & child with a flat tire. Oh wow not sure I should've opened up that wound. The memory is bittersweet. I hope it can help someone who thought they would never have that type of strength but if I could , you can too. From there those moments of strength continued to increase to now we are divorcing. BTW great video Paula!
Love the smashing of the tv ! .... I hope you and your son are in good health and I hope that you’re doing ok .... surviving a narcissist means you are here to perform a certain task ... we could all have very well died , but God kept us
Blessings
Very well presented. When I asked for a relationship with my ex, things changed soon after. My feelings for her were not received well. I sensed something was wrong with this person. She began to devalue me. I trusted her from the very start. I did not set boundaries. That was my biggest mistake. I am an empath. I only wished I learned about NPD before my relationship with her. I became stronger in confidence after my discard. Being discarded like trash is a wake up call. I immediately put in place No Contact. I feel I became a Super Empath. I avoided her. I showed her she no longer controlled me. No more dehumanizing me. She knew I was strong. She was afraid of me. She knew she lost me. I have moved on. I lost interest in her. It’s been 6 months since my discard. My super empathy and trust in God gives me the strength to overcome this evil. Don’t settle for less. I am important. I am worthy of love. Something better and beautiful is coming to replace the pain and hurt.🌈🙏😊
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I remember the exact moment, I had just discovered he was still gambling on line, from our joint account, I was the only one working. I told him "you have not cared about anything I have said, you do what whatever you want, now I'm not listening to you and I'm going to do what I want. " I opened my own separate bank account and cut him off my finances which led him into a demonic narc rage. This was the final straw, I filed for divorce.
And by the way, I said it right in front of his enabling mother.
I think empaths are on a continuum where we are high and low with certain traits and any of these traits can manifest and become dominant for a period of time. I think therefore that any empath is capable of manifesting the super empath trait that leads to a supernova.
That's how it worked for me. It was only after I firmly and decisively walked away from my wife of 23 years, where I could barely explain to myself nevermind anyone else what I had just done, which was to completely turn my back and basically go no contact. I knew deep down that everything was hopeless and I didn't like who I had become. And that the only way out was to walk away, any other course of action felt insane.
It was about 18 months later I learned about narcissism and being an empath.
Accepting the narcissists that have been in your life and realising their abuse for what it is creates an awareness. This awareness which is actually a combination of intuition and observation and discernment of truth is now developed and firmly in place. And I think it continues to grow stronger over time.
One year later and I guard my dignity with fierce like boundaries. I prefer the term an Aware Empath mainly because we are now highly aware of toxic humans and highly aware of our own abilities.
Most empaths are unaware of the fact that they are an empath. Took me 60 years to find that out.
It’s a great and freeing discovery Mark isn’t it..took me a long time too for the penny to drop re being an Empath 🤩
@@NarcCon Agreed emphatically!
Anyone disliking you is deeply disturbed. You are a very intelligent bright light 👑
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I think the super nova is our healthy mother instinct since we spend so much time reparenting our selves. LOOK OUR FOR MAMA BEAR . lol. Love from Albuquerque shared.
I had this very experience yesterday. After weeks of no contact I finally let him know that I saw him for what he really was. He tried to make a few excuses for himself but by the end of the conversation he was literally speechless. I responded and didn’t react stated facts and was indifferent and direct. I am sure it caused a huge narc injury and I’m hoping to never hear from him again! ❤️
The narcissist have a high level of rejection sensitivity. They might see slights where none exist. But knowing lack of interaction affects them. Not agreeing with them can cause them to feel rejected. Please don't put other peoples needs before your own. The narcissist trains you to expect less. That is what their goal is. When possible reframe the situation to get the narcissist to do the work. Your very good at this so i'm asking you to take care of this task.
Ed I will do my best I’m also open to critique 😊
@@NarcCon i didn't mean that statement towards you. An example of asking the narcissist to do something- i.e your good at this so will you complete this take.
You can call it supernova but for me it was when God delivered me from everything and I left.
I didn’t look back with regret
Been divorced three years and he has been blocked for 3 years.
Once I realized what he was I felt sick even being in the same room with him and I’m an empath
He didn’t want to be exposed that’s what terrifies the narc and the demon within him so I did very well in divorce settlement
I’m on my own better off and life is better.
Life is an adventure now.
Not saying it’s easy but it is definitely better.
I let my kids know what he did and who he is I actually apologized to my children they totally understood very sad
My kids are grown and doing well thank God
I feel sad they grew up with this monster I regret that but really didn’t understand what I was dealing with.
He was a demonic diabolical predator.
The behavior is similar in all narcissist
I let his sister know and I told no one else other than my two boys they deserved to know.
I could have destroyed him but that would make me like him no thank you
He was a covert narc a cheater liar and gambler
A horrid pathological liar.
If his lips were moving he was lying
The broken help the broken not stay broken and heal God will heal you 🙏
Thank you for your videos Paula they are healing as well.
Once you understand what happened you can heal
Don’t stay with evil just leave the narcissist will drag you to hell with them and enjoy every minute of it
An absence of love is evil and hell on earth
Yes this is what happened to me I became the hunter ,just mind games,she couldn't understand what was happening,and in the end she felt we were closer to brother and sister,I just showed herself,I always had strong empathy but looked after my mother with dementia right up to her death so I already been to hell and back,this is the thing that moved me to a super empathy,I still haven't lost it it's one of the great things my mother left me
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Great video Paula so true. I adored this man My only complaint was we never had a simple date night. Just a walk together would have been nice. He kept me so busy with 5 children. You must do this n that. So I washed cooked and cleaned a world away from my professional life. When we retired, downsized, sitting in a cafe, one day, which he never would have done before too busy he told me " he was a hard working man " Ha couldn't hold down a job. It was always the employers fault. Ha.) I looked around the cafe couples were laughing and talking and enjoying each other. I then realized I was in his sad silent world. That was, my moment when I opened my eyes. After 54 years. Great video you make sense of the weird life I've had.
So glad your free Diana 🌹
I found that in dealing with the quicksand efforts of the Narcissist to take me down to elevate themselves ....when I see in their hideous eyes they KNOW it's over for them with you.
NO MORE OF THEIR LUNATIC efforts are DONE.....
JUST,
NO to them. These halflings will go completely undone. Too Bad.Just watch your back. 🙏🕊🙏
No we never stop learning.
I am a super Empath. I know when I am about to release “the super nova” within me. This is what makes me untouchable and indestructible.
I have gone super nova countless times.
It’s actually the invincible side of the super Empath that you don’t mess with!!!
Tammy M coach on UA-cam explains it in perfect detail.
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Supernova empath, imo; be the calm, confident adult in the room. Be the healthy child. The narcisist becomes confused, because you are not falling in to the narcissist's traps. You are not even discussing their points. You simply maintain your composure, walk talk and act healthy and mature, the narcissist will see you as too formidable and non maleable. Also, be certain to make it known and clear you have very strong personal connections with family and friends. Lastly, let them know you are happy, content, peaceful and joyful. They will be so disgusted with you and extremely frustrated. They will see it as you winning and them losing. Something the narcissist simply cannot accept.
Ms Paula I went threw all that y are teaching about,I too felt like I had to fight 4 my life,it wasn't a win,win 4 me but 4 him it was,he even asked me such as I was fighting 4 my life.I watched unknowing Narrcisist even exsisted,existed, I received a enlightening after a big cry out in prayer to God,Lord what am I dealing with,during my prayer NARRCISIST was written just like that,I was so physically weak,my mental thinking was of only him all day everyday,,I watched his evil ,questioning what I knew was verbal reality,I will soon write u a email detail to detail n how my Supernova me was educating myself while it unfold in my face,wait until u hear about how he growled at me like a wolf right out of his sleep,I ran in my dinningroom and ask God what was that,,its funny now but it wasn't them
Spot on once again Paula. I would like to think of myself as being a super empath, but the more i reflect onto what drama and conflict i was exposed to the more i understand narcissism. I am actually "pleased" that I was exposed to this mental disorder. Going forward i will definitely look for the red flags and i have been "saved" from possible relationships with these dark creatures. God Bless you for the good work that empower so many people listening to you.
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Good points raised.
The Super Empath will give the NPD the shirt off their back, and be long suffering towards the NPD. (Extreme Empathy).
The Heyoka Empath however, will also give the NPD the shirt off their back to, (extreme empathy), but will also grab the NPD by their throat (factor two psychopathy), and say something like below in a harsh warning
"Sort your fucking head out before I blow a fuse."
Forgive the language. Heyoka Empaths are more blunt and up front, and straight to the point rather than be long suffering like the super empath.
With Heyoka Empaths their psychopathic factor two, switch to factor one psychopath, and there's no long-suffering.
We can be long-suffering, but it will be machervelian when we are studying that NPD for their weaknesses, traits etc.
Thanks Paula.
The experience I had was part of the trauma yet brought my release from the soul tie. It left me depleted and exhausted and took me some time to recover. The feelings of loss were eventually outweighed by the gain of my life in my control and his loss of control. Once this is accomplished, don't ever go back. Stay strong. Thank you for all you do to bring awareness!
I have gone supernova multiple times… your interpretation of the energy/event is very accurate. I can speak from experience,, the universe.. creator.. will conspire through the super empath to create the ultimate mirror to the narcissist. At that point the narcissist can choose to stand down… or be hit with an incredibly powerful blow to their ego.
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Thanks, Paula, for your research on the supernova. We never stop learning, you're so right. This type of channel is the place YOU / WE are going to be respected. Catching this at 5:30am on the East Coast. I do like the "empa-nova" neologism, when we see the narc as who they are. Yes, a person with empathy can become a super-empath. And yes we need a certain level of self-regard and narcissism. And yes, codependency can increase or decrease. ("Superly empathic" is also a good combo of adverb and adjective.) "I stood on my head and did cartwheels AND now I'm realizing that this person is not normal." "I will not let you destroy ME." Yes, you're right, Paula, it's a progression. It takes a while but then the NO comes and the authority of the "super super Nova" comes out.
I agree with your phenomenology of the true self. There's indeed a necessity to recognize this disorder.
Looking forward to the second part on the empa-nova.
Have a great weekend! God bless!
Michael your great at summarising the highlights of the vid!! 😊❤️
You're doing such a great Job, don't get confussed by dislikes! Thank you for providing all the information, support and your channel. I highly appreciate your calm, unpretentious and grounded way. Blessings
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This is 100% correct, although the disguard and me leaving for good was painful, i think what saved me was that he could never change my heart and caring goodness that he wanted for himself and when he would project and say things that wasn't me, i knew that was what he was and its funny because i knew this early on in the scheme of things but because i was strong in my value's and my kind heart i did not take his words for me and it did not stop me from loving him but when i realized how evil he truly is ,it was lights out for him after i went into a rage that looked alot like his ,I did it reveal his true identity and put him in his shame to coworkers and his family and i had some pity on him by not revealing how awful and distrubed he truly is , now his shame had sent him into hiding hasn't been on his job that we both work in months, why they can't take the half of what they dish out is funny. But since I've woke up , I know not to take abuse in no form and I'm fast to cut off.
My personal experience from watching these videos feels therapeutic. I need this. Thank you.
You just made me relive that exact moment my SUPERNOVA came out, my God I actually felt it in my body as you implied I paid for it as well re discard and the other cruel games. I am proud of my SUPERNOVA it keeps me out of this Demonic relationship going on two years now.Thankyou again Paula.
Only to survive 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉
Narcissist: “Someday you will find me, caught beneath the landslide.. in an empath supernova in the sky..”
Just need to tweak Oasis’ Lyrics from Champagne Supernova 😅
Very nice presentation and thank you for sharing - extremely informative! :)
Ooh going to listen
Supernova occurs as the crescendo in a series of heart wrenching events when the malicious ruthless Covert Narcissists hateful straw breaks the camel back of a Sigma; its brutal and requires a massive healing for both.
Edit: 17:47 @Paula-realization or confirmation?
Paula, I freaking love you!! Bravo 👏🏼 Excellent painting and description. For me, it boils down to “HERE I DRAW THE LINE! HERE IT STOPS!” The Narc gets nothing…NOTHING…not my heart…not my soul…not my thoughts…not my music…not my creativity…not my energy…not my love…not my emotion…not my desires…not even my hurts…or pain…”. Those are all mine…Every. Single. One. All of it…they make up the soil and ashes from which I am emerging…from which all of us will emerge.
Thank you for reminding us again and again when our broken parts want us to forget or never realize…that what and who we are…is breathtaking and beautiful…glorious and dangerous…and full of light and healing for this world
I am proud to shine with you on this journey. I am proud to stand with all of you as you step inch by inch then foot by foot…until we run…and then fly
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Ruffled or not. You have kind eyes and a kind face. This video came at the perfect time. I'm planning my escape. Thank you for your encouraging words, and insight. I'm an empath, becoming, super empath!! You are a sweet heart!! Thank you soooo much!!👍
Thanks Paula for your feedback. Yes, the Supernova Empath concept is something I came across 6 months ago and I think I first heard about it on HD Tudor’s channel. I’m looking forward to your take on it. I believe that I have reached that state of Supernova two years ago and have experienced so much growth. (5 years out of a toxic relationship) and that my full understanding and knowledge has undergone massive expansion. Its like once you see it for what it is, you cannot unsee it. If we take the concept that Supernovas are stars ⭐️ that have imploded, (death of a star) and in the process and evolution, produce so much light and shine with clarity and truth, this completely annihilates and destroys the narcissist’s darkness and ploys. Much love 💕 to all from Montreal, Canada 🇨🇦
Yes I love your insight
Everything you’ve said is 100% accurate from my point of view. I can relate to it all. I took the time to know myself and acknowledge my darker traits and understand why I could also tip the scales of co dependency too ... it took many years and it was tough but it was worth it. HG Tudor was a life raft for me .. I found you through his channel and I’m very glad I did. I started a Facebook page to share as much helpful info as I can and this video is great. Your interview with HG was great too. I’m glad I found your channel. It’s one of the best I’ve come across. Thank you.
How cool is that you’ve set up a page..feel free to post the info? 🥰
@@NarcCon. Thank you. It only started by sharing a few posts between some friends and it gathered more and more followers. There aren’t many channels out there like you and HG.. so little is understood about narcissism and the trick is not not raise them in the first place ... we can’t cure them or send them off to another planet , sadly .. 😆.. knowledge and awareness is the key .. to not break our kids in the first place is a good start. I wish that the victims of Narcs who have a children realise the damage that’s being perpetuated. I hope you reach far and wide because you are a rare gem and a great source of help. 🙏👍.
Go ultra nova on those narcs!!!
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Thank you Paula.
By the end n thru divorce, I fought like a rabid staved dog for my truth. My rights. Reality.
But damn... it felt horrible.
My counselor reminds me that bc I fought back, it saved my life and offered me my value as a woman. A human being who deserves so much better than abuse and cruelty. They smeared me anyway, and took a good year to process that injustice...
But I was that super nova.
Wasn’t anything I’m proud of, but it saved my life.
Still healing n now stabilizing through all the emotions of it all.
Hugs 2u, remy, n all survivors.
Well said sister. Toxic people no longer get in, ever!
Peace.
@@htpm325 🙏 exactly brother 🙏 we know our worth now n value ourselves. Hugs.
I became like that and I left the job where we were, didn't contact her for 2 months, and contacted her and said hi after 2 months. She blocked me. She knew I saw through her BS and came back to check on her. 🤣 Now I feel like the narcissist.
Thanks again lovely lady ,I come across this myself, a few months ago its like a huge awakening ,like super strength, me once I got here there was no going back ,I did not know I was supernova until I read about it ,and narcs are supposed to be terrified of it ,I couldn't intentionally hurt and abuse like narcs do ,I would say it was real bad rage ,after years of trying to fix things that were never going to mend ,I did not know about narcicissm what it was about ,thanks Paula for getting it out there to all us thrivers on here for your great wisdom ❤❤
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I would totally read a book about any empath’s super nova moment.
This happened to me felt a discard was coming but had been mirroring the devalue stage then blue his mind apart with truth - he discarded me - which is the easier route out of narcissism cycle anyways but after a few choice words I just ghosted him 😂❤done seeya 👋🏻
Believe me when I tell you this.... I understand exactly what you are saying. I experienced.
Excellent! Yes, the next empnova event (in my experience) is when you recognize your ability to stand up to the flying monkeys/enablers using the same methods that you just used on the narcissist. (i.e. no contact/no reaction and all of the other great tools). Thank you Paula💝
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Went super nova and it took about 2 months of constant education on what was happening what was going on and I went at it with a sword and shield of truth. I cared only on truth and was a witness to only this. I did it not for myself but everyone the narcissist hurt. Because he is so repetitive in nature it wasn’t hard, but emotionally draining. Yeah he won’t be back. Actually it probably didn’t even sink into his toddler mindset.
❤🎉hell yeah we different 😁🥹😈😊
I have tears welding up in my eyes after I made comments, I guess tears are the outlet to express what is your mental state and what you feel in your physical state.
It's ok to cry,as we keep on keeping on in our healing journey
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I usually comment before listening to a video and now I'm listening and can not help but feel certain feelings in my body, it's not triggering but validation at all the moments/minute/ minutes with theses narc/s.
When a boundary is set in place whether you are protecting your beliefs in the situation ,your children,pets.
I firsthand experienced huge physical attacks by being picked-up from behind(happened twice with two different narcs)and thrown to the ground ,punched point blank in the face(happened three times with three different narcs) not to mention the verbal sewage sprewn at me. All because a boundary was slowly at times (because of of the negotiations with do with these narcs) or quickly setting a boundary.
With my experience the slow setting boundary alot of verbal abuse which is to mentally break you down and in my experience setting the quick boundary became brutal physical abuse which was to my body.
They definitely have help with their strength either through their mouth and or in their body from the evil one,satan.
At least I'm still above grass but death is what they are looking for and it's definitely death by a thousand cuts.
I do want to pause and take a moment for all who did not make it alive and to know my heart hurts for the outcome they endured and all who have to go on without them.
I have attended an domestic violence rally in the towns-square and seen and heard first-hand from the speakers and posters and all memorabilia in honor of the victims and the awareness that this disorder is very,very serious.
Thank you Paula for going deep on what we went through are/will go through in close range with these individuals 🕊❤️🙂
Excellent piece of information . That's exactly how it happens when you have to discard the narcisist in order to survive .....
Maybe the second part could involve the super empath being simultaneously in "narco nova" mode when he or she goes empa-nova against the narc to flush him/her out.
I just wanted to add that if you have to ask yourself if you are the narcissist the answer is absolutely no. A narcissist would never ask that question about themselves
This is spot on Paula! I went through this same epiphany myself! Thanks for these videos!
You're so welcome!
Absolutely right, Paula! We have a limit, we come to the point of no return. I really think that God helps us come to this point. Thank you for your insight and contributions. Blessings!!
Part of me does feel narcissistic. That part isn't here right now, but shakes me more than a group of monkeys bc she (me) gives 0 fks. I am pushed back inside myself and the questionable narc is running the show bc I'm intolerable to deal with. Like a big sister popping out with a jump scare. I have "mental illness". People knew and used it to their advantage starting from an early age and in very sick ways. I need help to cope. That's why I'm here and I thank you so much. Cyber hug to you!
Laura..Got tears in my eyes. 😭 not by feeling weak but by being enlightened. God bless you. You are doing great service.
I am thrilled by discovering you.
I am certainly In supernova mode.
Paula you are 100% correct having described the exact path that happened to me over the past 6 months. The discard happened 5 weeks ago in the form of a card with 3 paragraphs of nonsense. I’d seen my girlfriend of 8.5 years just 36 hours before. She visited me and had created a scene to bring about a drama and left in the early hours of the morning. The discard followed that contrived event. She is a shy covert narcissist and classically follows the traits and actions that you have set out. I had tried everything to save the relationship having spent 5 months or so to understand what was going on and an attempt to see if she may amend her behaviour. I did this subtly as I felt that a direct conversation would cause her to pull up the drawbridge. I was gutted when I realised exactly that she is what she is. Just prior to the final discard I’d basically had enough and pushed back and it lead to her storming off and the card in the post stage. She has gone totally no contact since and I have done the same which is very hard but I know that further dialogue is futile. She is unbelievable at creating new supply and manipulates many groups and particularly a rowing group in Shaldon Devon who have been taken in totally. She has them totally under control and see her like Mother Teresa. She had built up contact with them whilst she devalued me transferring more time to them as she pulled away to manipulate and hurt me. I have an extremely high level of empathy, high accountability, am highly introspective, forgiving, very fair minded, loving and partner focussed so the perfect supply. I am tenacious so do not give up easily. This is the double edged sword that kept me in the relationship too long. She had said this years ago. The flip side is that my tenacity coupled with my strong sense of justice and fair play is now working against her. I am determined not to be pushed out this rowing group by her smear campaigns which she has set in place via the close group of her supporters. She had prepared the ground prior to discard by devaluation and smears which has gone into subtle overdrive since the discard. She has now focussed her OTT attention on a female member of the rowing group who is a very decent person but has been taken in. She is playing the hurt soul and upset party. She is playing a blinder but it’s too good to be true. I am determined to bring it out into the open as she has hurt many people in her past having repeated this over and over again with past intimate partners. I have spoken to them and some close long term friends confirmed it too. They recently were shocked seeing how nasty she was behaving having dropped her guard in front of friends. This was a rare event as she is incredible at keeping the mask in place for secondary supply types. She is cruel to her mother and later myself and we are her focus of these actions. The outside world is her focus to appear as the giving angel with incredible attraction and an engaging smiling fun, highly attractive false persona. I believe she already will have set in place an interim supply for intimacy in the form of a Spanish chap based in an apartment in Tenerife who showed interest in her a couple of months prior to discard whilst we stayed in her apartment in Tenerife. We were due to travel there again late November but discard meant she travelled alone on the vacation. She is likely to have gained supply in that form. I know that she has done this post break up on each previous intimate relationship. This is likely to remain secretive and will serve a purpose. I believe she was working towards discard but my setting boundaries together with my pushing back meant she reacted promptly knowing that future manipulation and control was less likely. I attended the rowing club Xmas bash last weekend and she was fully centre of all. Preparing food, serving, social organiser even having baked a Xmas cake and raffling it for the RNLI. All commendable but with transactional purpose. It was hard to watch her with no contact, no explanations and knowing it is futile to approach this false persona and simply ask why and what and how questions as the replies would be false and blame shifting to further cause hurt so I remained as unengaged as I could. I intend to keep going for the near future but will pull away in time and let karma take its course as otherwise it will take its toll negatively on me as an empath and she will be unaffected as a narcissist and boosted. There are truths that she will not wish to be made public which will cause her narcissistic injury but she is likely to stay in place with this group as peoples memories and interest is short span and they gain highly from her social input.
Hi Paula
Love your show ❤ your passion and getting the madness out there ?
Hopefully the courts will hear the information 🙏. You are great person, saving people from doing the silly things !
Thanks Mick
And saving people
Thanks Michael we all make up our community here ❤️
I recognize what you are describing here about pulling out my own narcissistic capacity to deal with the abuse. At first the kinds of horrible things this man would say out of the blue were totally devastating and confusing, but after a while, I had less emotional response. I was still trying to figure out if this person had ever loved me, but it was so unbelievable that it could have been a con job for years. The pattern of love bombing and devaluing seemed to speed up so that his treatment of me radically swung from horrible to apologetic and loving every 24 hours. I remember near the end he was saying horrible things to me through one night and I needed to sleep, so I sat up and started making notes on my phone of the ugly things he said, repeating them back to give him a chance to correct the insult in case I had missed something. I did this with no emotion beyond being industrious and patient to catch all the nuances of his disdain for me, asking, “did I get that right?” When he demanded to know what the hell I was doing, I told him I wanted to capture his insults very correctly because this record would be useful to me. I said I planned to read this over many times in the future to remind myself why I should never be with him again. I was very matter of fact and prepared to keep transcribing, but he suddenly shut up and I calmly went to sleep. After I was able to do that, I had fundamentally changed and he could not control my emotional state. I had gradually accepted that he was vamperizing my emotional state, so the less emotional I was, the less payoff and future incentive for his bad treatment.
Yes there is something wrong with her. I felt that I was in her beauty shop, alone with the devil. I felt a heavy oppression. The building went gray. Yes. Something wrong with her. Don’t want that nasty thing near me.
They can’t handle it when you begin to hammer them with sound logic and reasoning (Supernova). Then they drop the act and unleash hell on you.
Being raised w a narcissist whole family I learned this 🎉❤🎉❤did not realize all this wow ❤
Thank you Paula for this video. I enjoyed every word you said. Yes I can remember that date back in early May when I went Supernova. I just couldn't take anymore Paula. My gut instinct had kicked in months before this earlier on in the year. The abuse for over 6 years was horrific. However it was his dirty filthy cheating that I finally said a No No too. I am really looking forward to part two of your video Paula. Lisa
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I am surrounded by these freaks on a daily basis. I've completely cut off family and past friends.
You’re absolutely right I have stood up for myself and I’m not taking it anymore and I guess some narcissistic character that’s come out and let them know that I am not putting up with them. I’m being me they are not going to change me just like I can’t change them but I’m not putting up with their abuse at all and I make sure that they know it. They have no right to abuse me. I don’t abuse them I don’t do anything to them. I don’t try to take anything. I don’t try to manipulate. I just wanna be left alone and stay away from them and for them not to take what belongs to me that I have earned they didn’t give it to me they didn’t take care of me they didn’t do anything for me so I feel who are you to take me down as low as I could go when I’m not taking anything away from you. These people are criminals and there is definitely something wrong with them and something needs to be done about it.
So many things he wanted changed about me, my hairs, my nails, my clothes, my values, my morals. On & on.
Ewe.
We have two choices in life.... We can be a victim, or we can be an overcomer- a survivor.
Being a victim is weak..
It's cowardly.
Being an overcomer takes strength.... Because we have to look within and find our flaws in order to fix them and become better human beings..... Something a weak and cowardly victim cannot do
I meant to use the term “The Sarah Show” as her angelic treatment of the friend groups is just that and it makes me chuckle. She reveals telling things from time to time and let out that these aren’t her real friend, not like a core group of friends as she saw it. As I now know none are friends as we see them but objects or shoes as you described to serve her purposes. Cheers
I see myself setting healthier boundaries and recognizing my co-dependent tendencies....being enveloped into the NPD dark energy is slowly encompassing. even as a highly intuitive person and working in the mental health field, I did not recognize that I was being encased into the NPD delusional world. yikes! it is the most interesting yet at the same time frightening, the feeling of being encapsulated into another's energy, losing individuation. it is a frightening realization that I allowed myself to slowly be manipulated into the confining power/control of this person's world. yikes! it has taken a lot of energy to resist going 'supernova' and retaliating with the same emotional negligence that was put unto myself. I remember Pema Chodran's discussion on 'Shenpa', the 'hooks' that people use to draw you into troublesome relationships. So thankful for this wisdom and it helped me re-connect with my Spirituality as I became aware that this NPD relationship was more of spiritual warfare than the 3D world. I am grateful for the protection albeit I initially did not listen to the wisdom my angel guides were sharing with me. This narcissistic man had 60 years to hone his wounded soul actions and was skilled at being charming yet the facade quickly became unglued once I crossed his line by saying 'no', after which he went into a frightening emotional/verbal rage in a public place. It has taken 6 months to fully understand his use of skills such as triangulation, lying, gaslighting, manipulation, love bombing, etc. etc. etc. I was blessed to engage with a Psychic Reverend who gave me a powerful 21 day prayer to release myself from this person's energy. I still use it when I feel the tug of his negative energy. I feel much healthier albeit, triggers remain that I need to address to overcome and release them. it certainly is a journey that has taught me many lessons albeit feeling a bit like Job with one blow after another in the downward spiral to nothingness. Game on Warrior Woman! This Empress will not be defeated nor owned!
And you are amazing too 😊 ❤ ❤ ❤
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It’s two years after your video, and I have finally reached the supernova state. Listening to your video was amazing, you are spot on with all your observations and descriptions. Hearing it from a fellow empath makes all the difference because I know you understand. And your description of, the necessity of our own narcissistic traits surfacing is spot on, although unsettling, definitely necessary. I think of it as the swinging of the pendulum, which once activated has to go all the way to the other side before it can come back to center. And to an educated empath, any narcissistic traits is bothersome, but you are right in observing this as a truly healthy path, and the only way to get through to the other side. Thank you Paula for all you do. Its so vital that we support each other, and I hope you know that your viewers appreciate you.
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We all have to look at the man IN the mirror 🙌🙌🙌💯💯💯🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
You’ve got to be careful. We can end up mirroring their poor behaviour. Which eventually desensitise us. This is their goal to turn the Empaths heart cold. It is spiritual warfare. We can call ourselves supernovas but really this is just an excuse to behave like them Xx
Supernova Narc Moveova! Love it
Yes! You are great, Paula. Excelent explanation.
Hard won knowledge eh ❤️
Thank you so much Paula, this is very helpful!
My understanding is that super empaths don't feel more empathy - it's more that they have stronger boundaries, they see the narcissist quicker than most empaths and are more effective at dealing with them.
I have, and did not even know it had been given a name… until today. Love it!
Paula, I love your honesty. Your empathy splashes off the screen❤ thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏
You are so welcome
Other people can figure out toxic people and stand up to them but going super nova is something only empaths do because we have a different brain. Having lots of empathy doesn't make a person an empath. Empaths feel other people's feelings and can hear thoughts even when they don't want to.
This is so true, and it's what moves
us to act, not always, in our best
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Thank you for this explanation. I remember this, I feel heard. In the end, I did, and do respect and protect myself. I love them from a distance now.
Allow me to intervene. A super emphat is someone who lived his childhood in the same disgusting soup as the narcissist except that instead of suffering it and renouncing himself, he developed emphatic abilities superior to the norm without necessarily being aware of his power. Super empaths and narcissists are attracted to each other, but there comes a day when the super empath realizes who he really is. So the Supernova is not just a reaction to the narcissist's umpteenth abuse, it is above all an awareness of oneself, from this day on the super empath will use his power differently.
Yes ....when I had had enough...I ended up discarding him...and yes did it with calm strength and power....I believe if you are a real empath who is pushed too far...this inner strength can/will be activated...he totally underestimated me...battled and saved myself at the same time is correct..I was able to name things and stand in truth and cut through with bright light....still in an empathic state...I felt it was channeled through me......once you tap into your spiritual core you can do it....
Been a rough road 😂😂 however onto bigger things and a wonderful road. Working on my overthinking etc. Becoming more self aware and working on my own behaviours. ❤ x and loving my boy my son
I was waiting for this video! Thank you so much Paula ♥️
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Thanks Paula , I can see those traits in myself as you pointed out never knew any of this stuff before your channel ! Feel very powerful now ! Thanks God Bless .🌹🙏💗
I was raised by a malignant narcicist. And groomed to marry a covert . I am an infj and knew something was radically wrong by the time I was four years of age. Jesus came to me and offered His love. When I accepted that love and relationship with my Creator. That is when the super empath began to grow. I agreed with who He made me to be. Knowing that I am no different in my sin nature and have the abilities to do everything that the narcicist does and is. It is only by the Holy Spirit that allows me to be that person God created me to be and no one can stop that. Authentic Altruist. This is just maturity. The super part is supernatural for God is just that, so it really is nothing that I do but what He has given me and created in me. There are so many examples all throughout His Word that show this complicated maneuvering that take place between narcicists and empaths. This is a great place to see how Jesus handled them. He is The Super Nova Empath. They cannot win in any way shape or form when we agree with our Creator and do accordingly. It is not in any way narcissistic to do so. Saying all that I am so pleased to hear your insightful, thoughtful, empathic description of this term. I am so grateful for your wonderful insights in every video you so diligently share with this community. Thank you so very very much💖
Thank you 🙏🌹
I called my sister out and she was balling 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Wow this really resonated with me.
Thanks for Sharing 💖
I am not sure weather i went super nova but I had enough and called her out on her behaviour explained she was a narracist gave her examples of her narrcistic behaviour with evidence.i also got so mad that I also publicly outed her to her friends and family and also on Facebook groups we are in together.i just lost the plot I couldn't help myself I wanted revenge for what she did.then after I publicly outed her I immediately regretted it I felt guilty and bad it just wasn't something I would usually do.hey guess what she discarded me and then cane the hoover attempts
How crazy Dave 🌹
Excellent. I am in the super nova phase, for sure. Good to know. Great information. Thank you.
Amen! I have narcissistic traits as well!
hey sis heyyy remy baby. have a VERY BLESS DAY GOD BLESS EVERY ONE!. JESUS LOVES US!!!
Hey Vanessa love to you too sis 🐕🐕
wonderfully said. You cannot fight a tank with a pitchfork 😋😋
Awesome insightful post. Many thanks. At last found a great place to grow .Plan to attend services tomorrow at Indian Lake, Hendersonville.
We all reach that point of no return. When we realise the true Intentions of someone you invest your beautiful soul with....I do hope young prince harry reaches this point soon ...grab a life preserver before you sink any further...
Yes I feel for him
I wanna be Supernova but far far away from Daughters and Sons of Demon Aka Narcissists who tortured me when I was a Stranger to my true self but now I know who I am after Narc Con channel has helped me discover lost identity and recover from all the damage she has caused I won't go back to the death Chamber
All this talking of super empanova reminds me of empanada..now I'm hungry! Great words
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Thanks paula, love this pod cast from start to finish love learning an listening ❤ much love x
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