My Curls DID NOT REVERT | Severe Heat Damage from getting a silk press on thick 4C Natural Hair

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  • @JenniferEdison
    @JenniferEdison 2 роки тому +2018

    The reveal at the end was WOW!! STUNNING!!! You definitely made LEMONADE! The short cut looks bomb and you’re beautiful!!!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +44

      Thank you so much beautiful

    • @Melbeatle
      @Melbeatle 2 роки тому +15

      Riiiiighhtt!!????? I LOVEEEE it!!!

    • @veronicaveronica97
      @veronicaveronica97 2 роки тому +16

      True! She's stunning 😍

    • @squidballs
      @squidballs 2 роки тому +10

      She didn’t make lemonade. She made the whole lemon meringue pie out of the situation

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 5 місяців тому +1

      God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! He can give you so much love, joy and peace!.

  • @godhascalled
    @godhascalled 2 роки тому +1739

    I’m a professional stylist and I could tell during your blow dry, you were going to probably get heat damage. When your hair is not thoroughly cleaned and there is still a lot of product in the hair, you’re bound to get heat damage. All that smoke during your blow dry was indicative of too much product in your hair. If you are using thick oils and creams in your hair when it is curly, it is hard to get a lot of that product out of the hair. I don’t know if this was your case, but it’s just some ideas. I’m sorry this happened to you 😰. Next time tho, don’t cut your hair with paper scissors, you need professional hair shears. Paper scissors cause further damage to the hair with unnecessary split ends. You look beautiful with the short cut 💇🏾‍♀️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +212

      Thank you
      Yes I’m going to do another trim with cutting shears
      Thanks

    • @asbritt0519
      @asbritt0519 2 роки тому +31

      I was thinking the same thing. But she got this she still beautiful

    • @c1nder
      @c1nder 2 роки тому +20

      Is there a way to get the heavy products out of curly hair?

    • @catereenacat
      @catereenacat 2 роки тому +51

      @@c1nder you can do a acv rinse then follow with a detox shampoo

    • @btstrasharmyexo-lbaekiesha2776
      @btstrasharmyexo-lbaekiesha2776 2 роки тому +41

      So if you do a silk press, the only product you should have in your hair is heath protector?

  • @beautifulwonderful4391
    @beautifulwonderful4391 2 роки тому +962

    Damn that was way too much heat. You can literally see the smoke coming from the blow dryer and flatiron. This is why I always do my silk press at home. I can control how much heat goes on my hair. And my curls always revert back.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +62

      😬😬😬

    • @iambloopy
      @iambloopy 2 роки тому +157

      I was about to say! There was so much smoke coming out

    • @Ytlibeb
      @Ytlibeb 2 роки тому +75

      I do my own silk press at home too, my hair is flourishing.

    • @beautifulwonderful4391
      @beautifulwonderful4391 2 роки тому +8

      @@Ytlibeb Right

    • @MoniMeka
      @MoniMeka 2 роки тому +172

      They didn't clarify her hair well or at all. I don't know. They smoke is coming from the product build-up on her hair. It makes the hair heavy and greasy looking. Maybe the heat was too high also. If you have fine hair, your heat should be so high.

  • @Sc0tty2h0tti3
    @Sc0tty2h0tti3 2 роки тому +520

    I’m
    So glad that as a black woman you definitely understood the “it’s hair it’ll grow back “ , as a community we need to help other women understand that the length of your hair means nothing if it’s lifeless and damaged . Let it go !!! trust me cutting off my hair was amazing I didn’t even know my hair can curl fr . Y’all would literally see and feel how healthy and strong our hair can be if y’all just let go and understand the length of your hair , or having hair period really doesn’t define who you are !

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +17

      This!! >>>>>

    • @adritv8666
      @adritv8666 Рік тому +1

      Cutting my hair was the biggest mistake of my life just get treatments & do mask don’t cut ur hair

    • @JUJUTHEDJ
      @JUJUTHEDJ Рік тому

      ​@@adritv8666girl, what works for you won't necessarily work for other people..... Some people's hair is way too damaged to be rescued by treatments anyway

    • @trohnb8104
      @trohnb8104 Рік тому +2

      My hair has not grown back. Alopecia is a horrible reality.

    • @Ruma_Kaalis_Camoran
      @Ruma_Kaalis_Camoran Рік тому

      why you need 2 be black to understand that xD

  • @Amby-Amby
    @Amby-Amby 2 роки тому +778

    I’m a licensed stylist and none of my clients get heat damage. I only go over the hair once with a flat iron, I could tell they used way too much heat on you. I’m sorry this happened but not all stylists will do this to you

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +65

      🥺 thanks

    • @shannonarmstrong6364
      @shannonarmstrong6364 2 роки тому +51

      Many can you please tell me what's causing people to get heat damage I'm 50 and have never experienced it now I haven't straightened my hair in years but when I did it never happened I even used to press, with the hot comb over the stove, over my already straitgened hair. I also curled my ends with a curling iron EVERYDAY before heading anywhere but baby when it was humid rain or I sweated in my head immediate shrinkage used pressing grease by royal crown and never even heard if great protectants till these last 5 years or so 🤔
      Thanks in advise 🥰💃🏿🙂

    • @shannonarmstrong6364
      @shannonarmstrong6364 2 роки тому +2

      And that's Amby not Many spell check correction 🙄😠

    • @pamd1342
      @pamd1342 2 роки тому +2

      Wow! Sorry that happened to you. It was the person using the heat. I have been using heat on my hair for decades.
      Short hair looks beautiful on you. 🤩

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      @@pamd1342 thank you

  • @Brixsy
    @Brixsy 2 роки тому +1122

    Heartbroken about your heat damage. The pixie cut was cute but I LOVE this Big Chop. You literally look like a model. You can still make content with short hair. Hair is hair and length shouldn't matter. Your positivity is contagious

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +33

      Aww thank you 🥰🥰🥰

    • @superrinella26
      @superrinella26 2 роки тому +25

      Exactly! Very beautiful and gorgeous. It’s giving Vogue cover😍

    • @kamigriff
      @kamigriff 2 роки тому +8

      Olaplex and protective styles help me get my curls back without chopping. My hair was literally straight with just a few waves. I couldn’t even scrunch it to pretend. It took a while though.

    • @alexisrene5854
      @alexisrene5854 2 роки тому +1

      She does.

    • @eyekandy3000
      @eyekandy3000 2 роки тому +2

      Didn’t look like you had to cut it all off. But good to have a fresh start sometimes

  • @anjelzjelly129
    @anjelzjelly129 2 роки тому +879

    Girl, my mouth fell open and I got chills when I saw the 'post-big chop' transformation. You are the very definition of "stunning". Black girl magic and strength never diminishes even in the face of adversity, sweetheart. Thanks for inspiring and educating us on this hair recovery journey, love.🙌🏽

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +13

      Aww 🥺
      Thank you!

    • @kelpfaced
      @kelpfaced 2 роки тому +13

      Right!!!! The end result looks SO GOOD!

    • @CB-wn2uq
      @CB-wn2uq 2 роки тому +7

      Exactly how I felt when it popped up on the screen! So stunning!

    • @meowpaws6084
      @meowpaws6084 2 роки тому +6

      @@deborahboms OMG ME TOO! My mouth just fell open when i saw the after..i felt like i was freakin MESMERIZED..WOW

    • @LoveNaisa
      @LoveNaisa 2 роки тому +1

      African born are beautiful

  • @fr33urmind54
    @fr33urmind54 2 роки тому +329

    I LITERALLY LOST MY BREATH AT THE ABSOLUTE STUNNING SHORT CUT!! QUEEN YASSSS!!!! I was soo with you throughout your process, my heart was really with you. Wow, this journey, thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your experience ❤️.

  • @HeyTwinTv
    @HeyTwinTv 2 роки тому +1610

    Currently going through the same situation sis. I agree. No more heat. It's really not worth it. But I must say, You are absolutely stunning with your new cut! You can definitely rock anything! 😍

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +28

      Aww thank you so much

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +30

      I hope your hair bounces back stronger too

    • @dickersonr6172
      @dickersonr6172 2 роки тому +37

      Y’all have to find a hairstylist knowing what they doing

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +3

      @@dickersonr6172 lol

    • @amandalowe1113
      @amandalowe1113 2 роки тому +25

      I have been natural for a while and 5 years ago I had my hair straightened once a hairdressers that dealt with natural hair as well as relaxed and weaves. I ended up with heat damage. Till this day I am not sure if a heat protectant was used. Some people are lucky they can get away with it. I learnt a huge lesson straight hair is not worth it. Since then I have vowed not to straighten my hair not even blow drying. I still use hooded dryers and diffusers. I have mastered the wash and go and other styles and my hair is longer and stronger. I know people who have straightened their natural hair multiple times and eventually heat train their hair in other words they get heat damage. So I choose not to risk it. You look like a model with your TWA . Don't worry your hair will grow back stronger. Enjoy this new journey.

  • @immortalocean7257
    @immortalocean7257 2 роки тому +759

    As a professional hairstylist, I am so sorry that this happened to you. However, You look stunningly beautiful with your short hair!!! I also agree with you that getting rid of it so that you would not be constantly thinking about it was a very good choice. It allowed you to mentally heal from it.

  • @lesweetpea
    @lesweetpea 2 роки тому +186

    THE AFTERRRRRR 😍 (the short curls)

  • @AMATEURDECORATINGLIKEAPRO
    @AMATEURDECORATINGLIKEAPRO 2 роки тому +45

    You are absolutely stunning in that short cut! Flawless! I cannot do the silk press.

  • @doreeneb
    @doreeneb 2 роки тому +200

    My word! You are literally a model. When you showed up at the end with the short hair, my breath literally stopped. I know this was a bad experience but wow, you have the face for short cuts 😍😍

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +12

      Thank you so much 🥺❤️

    • @yvonnemurphy7506
      @yvonnemurphy7506 2 роки тому +30

      Exact same reaction!! Sis is so blessed .. totally has the shape for it. What a natural beauty

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      @@yvonnemurphy7506 aww thank you

    • @marleyhill34
      @marleyhill34 2 роки тому +4

      @@deborahboms you definitely look beautiful with your short cut.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +3

      @@marleyhill34 thank you

  • @shalimar2554
    @shalimar2554 2 роки тому +389

    I’m glad the salon took responsibility for the damage it’s just no reason that should’ve happened.
    I’m glad you went ahead and big chopped. I’ve big chopped 3 times so far so I understand.
    You look amazing with the low cut, I love it I’ll definitely be following you journey.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +17

      Thank you so much

    • @derpygirl995
      @derpygirl995 2 роки тому +3

      you are so pretty holy shit

    • @arina4030
      @arina4030 2 роки тому +1

      how is it their fault they did what she exactly wanted

    • @shalimar2554
      @shalimar2554 2 роки тому +9

      @@arina4030 Did you not watch the video? She went to their salon with natural curly hair, got it straightened, then washed it and her was no longer curly. How is it not their fault? I've had my hair silk pressed and it definitely reverted back once i washed it. That's the reason the salon took full responsibility and offered her free services... because it was their fault.

    • @ChesireWaltz
      @ChesireWaltz 2 роки тому +6

      @@arina4030 No way, they DAMAGED her hair so badly, I get mine pressed all the time and my hair is straight back to a fro when water hits, no straight parts

  • @gloryikeji
    @gloryikeji 2 роки тому +325

    I'm so sorry you lost your hair. It must have been so difficult for you, but I'm glad you're bouncing back from it, and you're happy

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +11

      Aww thank you
      It was difficult but I’m fine now ❤️

    • @craftysteve176
      @craftysteve176 7 місяців тому

      @@deborahbomslol I would just buy a bunch of wigs, then i could be ANYONE

  • @didjou774
    @didjou774 2 роки тому +93

    Same happened to me, the hairdresser tried to blame it on me whereas I minimally used heat on my hair. Silk press was a once a year 'treat' and this never happened before, this one turned into a nightmare. My hair was finally long and healthy. Trying to salvage what is lost but I know I will eventually have to cut it because it is severe. Cried for a few days as well 😭😢, it just hurt to realize how much I cared for my hair and just from one time going to a hairdresser it got destroyed.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +6

      So sorry about this 🥺

    • @toastEDmrshmello09
      @toastEDmrshmello09 2 роки тому +3

      I read above from other commenters that it will eventually revert! You can expedite this process with the right products. I hope that you have not cut it unless of course you wound up with a fabulously beautiful haircut (like hers) 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @blackgirlblue1795
      @blackgirlblue1795 2 роки тому +3

      Try olaplex, and I've heard some other bond strengthening products. If getting straight hair was as easy as using to much heat, BW would have never needed relaxers to do it. Don't cut your hair unless it's your choice

    • @jenjen3755
      @jenjen3755 2 роки тому +8

      Sitting here crying right now. I finally got my hair down my back. Did a silk press for the first time by a professional in years…. And it’s heat damaged. Literally straight pieces.

    • @Ebonygazelle
      @Ebonygazelle 2 місяці тому

      Sorry this happened to you. Try Opalex Number 3 for a month on your wash day. Wash your hair with a clarifying shampoo. Apply the Opalex no 3 Follow the instructions to a tee. . Eg. Leave in for 10 mins and wash out thoroughly then follow with a moisturising shampoo and then deep condition. Then moisturise as per usual.

  • @Courtney-ky1gi
    @Courtney-ky1gi 2 роки тому +435

    Such a shame! Reason why I don’t like people in my head, yes I understand that heat damage is unpredictable but I also felt like it could’ve been avoided better. You’re still super pretty even with the cut, no doubt your hair will flourish and come back better than ever 💖 Stay positive queen and hope life treats you well and safely 🙏🏾

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +6

      Lol ❤️

    • @fefemyluv
      @fefemyluv 2 роки тому +50

      I had a stylist tell me she’d have to silk press my hair every time I needed a trim. Never went back! That’s insane.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +12

      @@fefemyluv now that’s extreme!!

    • @edithart5753
      @edithart5753 2 роки тому +26

      Yes it could have been avoided by controlling the heat temperature based on the textures of each side of the head.

    • @annastacia...
      @annastacia... 2 роки тому +19

      @@edithart5753 if you watch "deeper than hair" she only runs through the hair with a flat iron once, whilst this hairdresser did so more than once

  • @trnigyul
    @trnigyul 2 роки тому +88

    I silk press at home like 4-6 times a year but I never got heat damage. I have fine hair and never trusted a hair dresser to not damage my hair that's why I do it myself. My coworker went to the salon for the first time a few weeks ago for a silk press and now she has severe heat damage. I think a lot of these stylist are after results without caring for the health of the hair.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Wow I’m so sorry this also happened to her

    • @Kodak718
      @Kodak718 2 роки тому

      Could you please tell me what heat protectant and heat temperature you use? I'm thinking to do it at home, I dont know if I can trust someone to treat my hair well.

    • @jjjoeyyy325
      @jjjoeyyy325 2 роки тому

      @@Kodak718 no she can’t everyone’s hair is diff, u have to to find out ur Porosity and go from there. Look up high vs low porosity silk press :) hope this helps

    • @trnigyul
      @trnigyul 2 роки тому

      @@Kodak718 @Kushie54321 I have hip length high porosity hair that's high density with fine strands. It gets straight easily but frizzes quickly, especially since I live in the tropics. I use the John Frieda blow dry cream and serum to keep my hair sleek for up to a month. I also just use Shea butter to "moisturize" when it's straightened. Im not afraid of heat I flat iron my hair on 400f , and I always deep condition with a protein treatment before I flat iron and then deep condition with a moisturizing conditioner when I revert to curly. HTH

  • @kmj2000
    @kmj2000 2 роки тому +76

    A silk press uses heat plus silicones/heat protectants. Heat should be no higher than than 450F because this is the temperature at which hair gets irreversibly damaged. If you suspect you have heat damage:
    1. Do at least two shampoos with a clarifying shampoo to revert. Some of these heat protectant and silicone products are designed to stay in your hair for multiple washes.
    2. Use bond repairers, not protein treatments. K18 for the internal structure of your hair, Olaplex or Curlsmith for the cortex (middle) and then PCA bond repairer for the cuticle (outside). You might need multiple washes/uses.
    Cut as a last resort.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +6

      Thank you for the useful information ❤️

    • @marleyhill34
      @marleyhill34 2 роки тому +4

      @@deborahboms I have to admit that I was confused as to why you applied the deep conditioner mask before using a clarifying shampoo. I'm glad that the salon took responsibility.

    • @SamSam-jp5zk
      @SamSam-jp5zk 2 роки тому +4

      450 is too high too it depends on the hair texture... So be careful

    • @kmj2000
      @kmj2000 2 роки тому

      @@SamSam-jp5zk correct, I can see how it can read that 450 is fine, but it's the temperature at which hair damages, so definitely do not go that high. The highest one of my flat irons goes is 430F

  • @ashirahh
    @ashirahh 2 роки тому +133

    You are gorgeous! But just so everyone knows, you don't have to cut your hair. This has happened to me twice and each time I gave it time to revert. It could take a few months to revert as mine did but it eventually did. My hair reverted faster when I put it in braids for a while. My stylist didn't use heat protectant so I would apply it before I showed up but it wasn't enough. Hugs to everyone :)

    • @takealeftatthelight5284
      @takealeftatthelight5284 2 роки тому +9

      Egg whites helped my hair to revert.

    • @jilswift157
      @jilswift157 2 роки тому +31

      I was going to say just this. After a silk press, it takes time for your hair to fully revert. There are so many products put on your hair during a silk press, using clarifying shampoo with a deep conditioner afterwards helped my hair fully revert after about a month. I hate that you felt that you had to cut your hair, but you looked beautiful.

    • @sholondahollins-may7904
      @sholondahollins-may7904 2 роки тому +19

      I’m so glad I stumbled on this comment as my curl pattern didn’t revert back fully. I just got my hair to grow past my bra strap at the back and I really didn’t want to cut. But I did cut about 3 inches. Others saying it’s just hair just don’t understand it takes some us awhile to grow our hair!

    • @denisethomas3880
      @denisethomas3880 2 роки тому +12

      Yeah I decided that I’m gonna figure out a way to get my hair back to where it was. I invested too much time to get to this length and I’ll be fanned if I just cut it off lol. If I doesn’t revert, I’ll just let it grow out and trim as I go.

    • @MsJ.TeacherToTech
      @MsJ.TeacherToTech Рік тому

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @BaroqueRoses
    @BaroqueRoses 2 роки тому +399

    I know that the hair has already been cut and it is beautiful - I would like to add that I’m a hairstylist for over a decade and truthfully I didn’t think the damage to the hair warranted a complete cut . I think a few weeks of regular washing and conditioning with protein and hydrating treatments would have allowed the natural bonds in the hair to return to the original state. Heat styling physically changes the physical bonds within the hair that cause it to curl . Sometimes , just wetting it one or two times after a heat style is not enough to revive it . It may take several washes for the PH level to reach what they were before heat styling and introduction of smoothing products. I recommend doing several clarifying shampoos and an intense oil treatment to really remove all product and allow the hair to become really fully saturated with moisture .

    • @Baddieinfinite
      @Baddieinfinite 2 роки тому +86

      This happened to me too my curls were a bit looser after straightening then and after 2 more deep conditioning methods my curls were fully back.

    • @Naylizzle
      @Naylizzle 2 роки тому +29

      It usually takes 2 washes for my curls to revert back as well after straightening.

    • @princesserichesse1216
      @princesserichesse1216 2 роки тому +39

      Wow what a waste 💀

    • @michellebland5825
      @michellebland5825 2 роки тому +23

      It took my hair about 3 months to revert back to normal, washing once a week. To be honest I thought the idea of having a silk press was to give you the option of achieving a straight hairstyle easier.

    • @Jayrrraven
      @Jayrrraven 2 роки тому +21

      @@michellebland5825 it is but MANY people don’t do it right. 😅

  • @Rose-uu3if
    @Rose-uu3if 2 роки тому +149

    It’s so devastating when you spend years caring for your hair and getting it healthy to then have it all go to waste with just one silk press. Im currently transitioning because of the same thing. 😩 anyway, you bounced back gracefully! the short hair looks amazing on you 💕

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +6

      Oh wow
      So many people battling with heat damage 😩
      Thanks tho

  • @laurac86
    @laurac86 2 роки тому +368

    Reading the comments I can’t believe how many women this has happened too! Hair is such a personal thing for so many of us having to chop of all your hair can be so devastating. I absolutely LOVE the end result it suits you so well, it brings out your natural beauty 😍Documenting the journey will help so many other woman going through the same thing

  • @NicaKasende
    @NicaKasende 5 місяців тому +4

    10:54 girl, I would cry too😭 now idk if I should continue with my first planned silk press.

  • @Catloafbond007
    @Catloafbond007 2 роки тому +114

    So sorry about the heat damage but I must say, You look absolutely AMAZING with short hair. You have such a gorgeous face and bone structure and this haircut brings so much more focus to that. You are straight up model material!!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      Awwww Thank you so much ☺️ 🥰

  • @melissanwanguma
    @melissanwanguma 2 роки тому +175

    I feel so bad damn!
    The part where you said you cried made me tear up because who wouldn't?
    You look incredibly beautiful with this new look though. I'm here for whatever content you bring from now on. Go girl❤

  • @4PrettyPoodle
    @4PrettyPoodle 2 роки тому +154

    I love how graceful you were and how accountable the salon was. This happened to me years ago and the salon acted like they didn't see a problem when I went back in smh! This was about 8 years ago and I've straightened my hair maybe 3 times since.
    Your hair looks 😍😍😍😍😍 OMG looks sooo good

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you so much

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +5

      Some salons tho 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @KeelyB2318
      @KeelyB2318 2 роки тому +5

      BeautifullyMade the same thing happened to me. The stylist that ruined my hair was rude and dismissive about what she did to my hair. It took me months to convince myself that retaliation was not worth it. I literally came very close to keying her BMW.

  • @cebile1493
    @cebile1493 2 роки тому +2

    This video made me go watch your actual silk press video.....so many things went wrong 💔😕and your short hair looks so stunning on you

  • @twilliams5042
    @twilliams5042 2 роки тому +184

    This is my exact same experience! After two years of no heat styling and growing out hair color to go completely gray, decided to go to a professional stylist for silk press. Two weeks later washed my hair only to discover extreme heat damage throughout with absolutely no curls in the nape area and left side. Eventually trimmed off about 2 inches but after two months now going thru major shedding. Extremely disappointing.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +12

      OmG 💔
      So sorry

    • @asprinkleofsugar4339
      @asprinkleofsugar4339 2 роки тому +2

      Sounds like my story 😔 I don’t want to cut everything off but the shedding has been extreme

    • @swankyangelo8527
      @swankyangelo8527 2 роки тому +1

      @@asprinkleofsugar4339 it will be crazy for like 2-3 years, but you can stick with it! Same happened to me and it took nearly 2 years for my hair to curl the same. I would just have patience. Is gonna shed, just don’t cut it all

  • @marceline4893
    @marceline4893 2 роки тому +73

    This happened to me two weeks ago! I had been growing my hair for three years. They were healthy so I thought it would be fine. I go to wash my hair, and the curls did not come back. I also had to cut my hair as short as you. It sucks but hair grows back. We will be fine. You look beautiful by the way!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +6

      I’m so sorry too 🥺❤️ Our hair would grow back stronger love, while we embrace the new journey. No worries

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you ❤️

    • @ASmith-jn7kf
      @ASmith-jn7kf 2 роки тому +1

      Why do you have to cut it just because of that??

    • @marceline4893
      @marceline4893 2 роки тому +3

      @@ASmith-jn7kf The heat from the silk press destroyed the curl pattern. Essentially, the hair was dead. There is nothing you can do aside from cutting it

  • @lonspram3922
    @lonspram3922 2 роки тому +28

    You look gorgeous with the TWA. You have the face for any hairstyle. It’ll grow back and your content can now focus on your new hair growth journey

  • @Itsreallynia
    @Itsreallynia 9 місяців тому +1

    You look so beautiful with the short hairr!!!😍😍
    I’m happy I wasn’t the only one who experienced this.
    Thank you for sharing❤️🥰

  • @AllysseMarie
    @AllysseMarie 2 роки тому +92

    I was sooooo blown away at the ending when you showed the finished look! You can hang around at this length for as long as you want. It is so unbelievably beautiful. I was beyond blown away!! I feel like I was able to really see your beautiful face and the hair complimented it perfectly! I can go on and on🤍🤍🤍

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +3

      Aww Thank you so much ☺️

    • @AllysseMarie
      @AllysseMarie 2 роки тому +1

      @@deborahboms you’re welcome 💘

  • @mousepumpkin7564
    @mousepumpkin7564 2 роки тому +17

    Sometimes salons use strong silicons that prevent the hair from reverting...sometimes several clarifying shampoos sessions over the course of 3 months might help. After 3 months then you know if its permanent. Alot of times it slowly reverts back.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +6

      I don’t think I could stand seeing my hair like that for 3 months lol

    • @nmhoskins
      @nmhoskins 2 роки тому +5

      I was thinking the same thing too. If she could have waited it, avoid heat and take proper care of her hair, it would have eventually have revert back.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      @@nmhoskins lol

    • @justinejustice_league1857
      @justinejustice_league1857 2 роки тому

      Unfortunately it was damaged..
      Damaged hair mixed with different textures all over the head is a nightmare to manage
      ..she would have been fighting split ends until she did a sufficient chop
      3 months is quite long
      After the first, maybe second wash you know...
      I'm natural and if any humidity is in the air my hair will revert.

    • @curlynella1011
      @curlynella1011 2 роки тому +5

      Silicones can easily come off the hair by simply being clarified. There was nothing she could do but cut it 💯

  • @1NikkiTate
    @1NikkiTate 2 роки тому +74

    You were so magnanimous in how you responded to the salon considering the damage to your hair. I can imagine you were devastated but handled the whole situation with grace and lots of courage. You look AMAZING with the pixie curls by the way. Thank you so much for this video. I've also been looking at silk presses and now I think I'll just find new ways to enjoy my curly, natural hair. Many blessings to you on your hair journey!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you so much
      You don’t need a silk press love
      Just embrace your curls ❤️

    • @Mini-wd7qz
      @Mini-wd7qz 2 роки тому

      I naturally have straight hair and I always wanted curly hair I don’t get why loads of people with curly hair straighten it straight hair is plain

    • @1NikkiTate
      @1NikkiTate 2 роки тому

      @@Mini-wd7qz straight hair is more manageable. I was swimming in the ocean the other day with my hair up and the motion of the waves released my buns and tanged my hair into dreadlocks. It took three days of working in sections to fully detangle my very long curly hair without causing breakage. It looks great but it isn't for the faint of heart. You wouldn't know unless you have curly hair. Sometimes you just want to wash and style it and call it a day and not spend hours a day, countless products and fear of certain activities trying to manage it.

    • @Mini-wd7qz
      @Mini-wd7qz 2 роки тому

      Ik I’ve curled my hair before into tight curls and the ends of my hair ended up coming off and I couldn’t brush it so I washed it out I meant that curly hair is prettier than straight hair straight hair looks dead and plain but curly hair looks nice and bouncy

  • @dionenewman9031
    @dionenewman9031 11 місяців тому +1

    You are model gorgeous with that big chop!!! I know it was sad what happened but man did you rock that short hair!! You’re so beautiful!!

  • @dennychantelle7677
    @dennychantelle7677 2 роки тому +58

    I am bawling right now. Cryinnggggg 😢after being relaxed for almost 17 years, I finally big chopped last year. It was such a huge part of healing and loving myself as I am. I then decided to get a silk press on my 4c hair so I could see the length and get my ends trimmed. Thick, kinky, coily, curly amazing hair. It is in ruins now. I’m a complete mess. After finally growing to love my natural hair and feeling so proud of it, it’s like I’m experiencing death. Just mourning and moping. Seeing your video and you getting to a positive mental state again gives me hope. Thank you for being vulnerable and open. I’m not at the point for a big chop right now, I’ll keep wearing wigs during winter and hopefully by spring I’ll be brave enough to start over💕

    • @xchanchanx
      @xchanchanx 2 роки тому +2

      Yesss big on the healing and self love! It's worth it, trust the process

    • @lovelyyyy4336
      @lovelyyyy4336 2 роки тому +3

      You can also gradually trim the ends while you protective style instead of big chopping

    • @tiathetaurus
      @tiathetaurus 10 місяців тому +1

      Sadly not everyone thinks so… always be careful where you go. No Dominicans, someone who knows Natural hair, and no one without stellar reviews

    • @RebeccawalkswithChrist12
      @RebeccawalkswithChrist12 5 місяців тому

      So during the 17 years of being relaxed you never experienced damage? But as soon as you went natural you had heat damage??? Would you recommend to be relaxed then? I'm really debating either relaxing or being a straight natural just want to do what is healthiest for my hair.

  • @kiki-c7819
    @kiki-c7819 2 роки тому +74

    Oh my gosh the reveal is EVERYTHING!!! I understand what you did. I went through two years of being natural and I got a silk press and it never reverted I waited until it grew out more before I cut it off. You look phenomenal with long and short. Yesss you are rocking it for sure.

  • @marako4761
    @marako4761 2 роки тому +31

    thank you for your vulnerability and for NOT trying to sell straight, heat damaged hair as BETTER than what we grow from our own heads/ancestors. you are and icon. much love

  • @MsPatricia2683
    @MsPatricia2683 2 роки тому +3

    The only thing that helps reconnect the bond structures in hair is the Olaplax system (No’s. 0, 3 and 8). Takes time but you will notice the difference after first treatment.

  • @notjustfavour
    @notjustfavour 2 роки тому +78

    I’m really sorry about this Deborah…what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. I’m rooting for you and your new journey ❤️❤️

  • @kiradunn3280
    @kiradunn3280 2 роки тому +78

    This happened to me October of 2020. I didn’t have the confidence to cut it all off so I transitioned for a year and then got it cut into a bob. Now in 2022 I still have a small amount of damage but about 95% of my hair is healthy and curly like it was before. You look amazing 🤍 and cheers to your new natural hair journey.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you
      Glad your hair is better now

    • @prettymagdou2512
      @prettymagdou2512 2 роки тому +3

      ys me too but in 2019 ,I made 1 year 2 months transition and then I cut them 25 June 2020 , I stay away from heat 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @Uhohlisa
      @Uhohlisa 2 роки тому

      There was no need for her to cut her hair off. She overreacted so bad

    • @ljeans531
      @ljeans531 2 роки тому

      Wow, this is inspiring
      I would flat iron my hair once a year for years, then 2 years ago I got some bad heat damage, I didn't have the courage cut it so I'm doing treatment
      But you have showed me its OK and can be moved on from.

    • @Liyahhh322
      @Liyahhh322 2 роки тому +1

      @@Uhohlisa how was she overacting….her hair was damaged …can’t u see that ?

  • @NinaNina-qr2pf
    @NinaNina-qr2pf 2 роки тому +46

    I was in the same position as you a year ago, I straightened my hair for the first time EVER and was repaid back with it getting heat damaged. I absolutely *refused* to cut my hair. I wore box braids religiously because of school, so I never really had my hair out. I decided to just leave my hair as it is and just moisturize it and constantly put it in protective styles. It's not until recently I noticed my hair has fully reverted back. I guess I'm just one of the few lucky ones but I completely understand how frustrating the different textures would've been

    • @teranikadouglas6612
      @teranikadouglas6612 Рік тому +1

      That’s what I’m doing braids and letting it grow back and gradually trim. The healthy hair is coming in good and I’m done with silk presses

    • @endure_3048
      @endure_3048 11 місяців тому

      Ive seen this a few times in this comment section to wait and wear protective styles because it can come back

    • @NinaNina-qr2pf
      @NinaNina-qr2pf 11 місяців тому

      @@endure_3048 Yh, I see most people pu3tring their hair out of the way then cutting it as much as it grows slowly over time so their hair length would remain the same.
      But for what I'm talking about I think it depends on the strength of your hair and how you prefer styling your hair. (Idk if this is a measure, but, my friends and I all had our hair relaxed when we were kids, but recently I met up with them and they were all shocked I was natural and never had to do a big chop because my hair had reverted back on its own). -Regardless, I was already wearing box braids religious to begin with, but if you prefer wearing your hair out there's no point frustrating yourself more than you need to.

  • @ABC-tt7qe
    @ABC-tt7qe 2 роки тому +3

    Holy cow, you’re absolutely stunning!

  • @JustTanoe
    @JustTanoe 2 роки тому +35

    This video was suggested to me and just tugged at my heart. I also suffered from heat damage and cut all the heat damage about 3 weeks ago. I struggled to cut mine for about 7 months but got tired of the different textures that I knew were created by silk presses. I will be following your journey ✨️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому

      Aww I’m really sorry about that!
      I couldn’t stand the different textures too so I had to cut

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Cheers to a new journey ❤️

  • @sashagay308
    @sashagay308 2 роки тому +75

    So sorry that happened to you. I had heat damage about a year ago and my curls have bounced back like they never left. I love how you are taking advantage of your new look. You look beautiful by the way.❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Aww thank you so much!
      I’m happy they bounced back for you!!! ❤️

    • @cindychristian1700
      @cindychristian1700 2 роки тому +4

      Did you cut out the damage or did you do repair work?

    • @SamuelsReview
      @SamuelsReview 2 роки тому

      😊

    • @rose968
      @rose968 2 роки тому +1

      @@cindychristian1700 Waiting for an answer as well because need as much help as possible 😭

    • @cindychristian1700
      @cindychristian1700 2 роки тому +1

      @@rose968 I heard apophogee protein treatment can help. I tried their 3 minute deep conditioner with for 20inutes under a hooded dryer and it worked well for me. I'd have to try a lot before I'd do the big chop!

  • @demi5378
    @demi5378 2 роки тому +17

    Our natural hair is traumatized by all that heat. I'm glad I saw this, just going to leave my hair alone & keep doing what I do. I aiming for waist lenght hair & dont want nothing to get in the way of that.
    Your TWA is cute on you. All the best with growing it...thanks for the video...you stopped me from going outside of my routine.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Glad this video stopped you from doing what you might regret later ❤️
      I hope you hit your hair goals ❤️

  • @kimroberts7006
    @kimroberts7006 2 роки тому +19

    When I started watching this, I felt like I was watching a horror film, especially when it sunk in that the hair wasn't going to revert (I have 4C hair and know what it would've taken to grow your hair to that length. In fact, I haven't even reached the length you did prior to your chop). I'm glad the salon took responsibility and hope they do not do that to any other customers. I've toyed with straightening my own hair, but this terrified me so that may never happen! I'll blow dry it at the most, I think. All that being said, you looked STUNNING at the end!!! Your short, natural hair is beautiful and so are you! It was so vulnerable and thoughtful of you to share this as a cautionary tale with us all.

  • @myrawaters900
    @myrawaters900 2 роки тому +29

    Your are absolutely, hands down, THE MOST beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life! A real like Barbie Doll!!!! You are truly blessed beautiful woman!
    I'm sorry that experience happened, I'm sure it was very traumatic. You made the cut work however. I'm excited for your new journey, you've gotta new subbie!
    And pleeeaaaseee give us a makeup routine on this look!💖

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +3

      Aww thank you
      There’s a makeup routine on my channel

  • @Princesse_D
    @Princesse_D 2 роки тому +37

    this is heartbreaking!! the smoke that was coming out of the styling tools actually scared me! i did a big chop and didn’t put any heat on my hair for the past three years and got mild heat damage after straightening it once just recently. the sadness i feel sucks, but girl.. i can’t even imagine how disappointing this was. wow. 💔 you look absolutely gorgeous though! i’m wishing you well on your hair journey! ❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      So sorry about that 🥺
      Thank you!

  • @ktoo303
    @ktoo303 2 роки тому +24

    Im just mesmerized by how beautiful you are, im watching and just appreciating every feature of her because she is stunning!! Her lips her nose her eyebrows her teeth her pointy chin and her dimples honestly everything about her is perfect!!! You’re GORGEOUS god bless

  • @successbassey6675
    @successbassey6675 3 місяці тому +1

    Whoa. You look better after the big chop. Also, looooooove the dimples❤😍

  • @Bee9ce
    @Bee9ce 2 роки тому +58

    So sorry this happened to you. This happened to me about 4 years ago. The first press I had in years. The lady didn’t clarify my hair properly and she did the back half of my hair when I noticed it was very stringy and greasy because of product build up. I told her I’d pay for the blow dry and wash but I didn’t want to go through with the rest of my press. She damaged half of my hair & I had to start over for the 3rd time. I decided to not go back to a salon while I grew out my hair. I trim my own hair now. & the only stylist I go to is very very professional, the one I was supposed to go to when I got heat damage but I was late for my apt. Silk presses shouldn’t be heavy and greasy. Yours looked the same as mine. They either need better products for clarifying or didn’t use clarifying shampoo at all. Id say find a silk press specialist who knows natural hair and the science of straightening hair because different salons specialize in different things. Just don’t do it often. Btw, You look GORGEOUS. A new journey. I pray your hair grows back x10❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +6

      OmG 🥺🥺🥺
      I’m so sorry that happened to you!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +5

      Thank you for the compliment ❤️❤️❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +4

      I’m never getting a silk press… lol
      I think I’ve learnt the lesson there 😂❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +5

      And this was actually my first silk press ever 🥲🥲🥲

    • @Bee9ce
      @Bee9ce 2 роки тому +12

      @@deborahboms I’m so mad they ruined your silk press experience 😭😭. But your hair will grow stronger. There’s plenty of stretched hair styles you can do without fully straightening your hair. I love wand curls on stretched hair

  • @nicolemadison729
    @nicolemadison729 2 роки тому +3

    You are SOOOO freaking PRETTY!

  • @milili27
    @milili27 2 роки тому +16

    Man what is up with these hairdressers these days? This is the second time I’ve seen a young woman with beautiful hair get their hair ruined because the hairstylist’s mistake. 😢
    But either way, you still look stunning and I hope your hair grows back stronger and healthier. 🦋

  • @candisecharmaine2913
    @candisecharmaine2913 2 роки тому +4

    Looking at this video made me want to cry. I sustained heat damage four years ago to this same degree all over my head and fell into a natural hair depression. I neglected my hair, I didn't know what to do and I dreaded cutting it and starting over. Even when I did cut my hair I still neglected it. I'm just now getting back to taking cafe of it and I'm happier than ever because even after ignoring my hair the damage somehow grew out and my curls have returned to their natural state and my hair is back to where it was before the damage, 10-11.5 inches all around. But girl .... You are stunningly gorgeous! My jaw dropped when you came back with the baby hair curls looking like a model! Even with short hair you are so beautiful. I wish I had your courage! If I was brave enough I would have cut my hair and started over as well. Your hair looks so good! I hope that you are happy and feel better. Even though it takes time to grow our hair, I've learned that the best thing we can do is enjoy every stage.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому

      Wow 💔 sorry about that
      Thank you

  • @MissMarie.
    @MissMarie. 2 роки тому +12

    honey, you are gorgeous!!, the hairstylist did you dirty with that silk press but the way you pulled through with this with your positive mindset is amazing cause a lot of people would have had a very different reaction. definitely routing for your new hair journey 😍

  • @laradada4080
    @laradada4080 2 роки тому +29

    This happened to me the first time I had my natural hair straightened. I had different spots with hair that wouldn't revert back. Took awhile for it to get back to normal. I didn't cut it though, just kept it in different protective styles. I do still flat iron my hair myself like twice a year just to trim the ends. Love the short cut on you! ❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      Glad your hair reverted back ❤️
      Thank you!

  • @jercoryiac1537
    @jercoryiac1537 2 роки тому +31

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. For what it’s worth, I liked that you got rid of the damaged hair right away instead of holding on to unhealthy strands just for length like some others do. To me that’s what makes a good natural hair influencer ❤️

  • @daughteroftheking01
    @daughteroftheking01 5 місяців тому +3

    You literally look so good with short hair

  • @whityblack9370
    @whityblack9370 2 роки тому +3

    I am verry sorry for your hair and as an experiemced person who has too cirly hair and damged it with the silk and keratine I can feel the sadness but the result at the end when you cut your hair is very spectacular you are very beautiful with both short and long hair . Continue like that !!!!

  • @kianaladson5570
    @kianaladson5570 2 роки тому +15

    I had a similar experience last year 😭. Having a stylist damage your hair is actually traumatic. With that being said, you look so beautiful with this new cut, and it will grow back in no time ❤️

  • @bannnger
    @bannnger 2 роки тому +29

    Just went through the same thing, sis. I had thick, long healthy type 4 hair then I went to go get it bleached and my hair fell out and was broken all over and just opted to cut it. It hurts the first couple of days but we here! Baldie gang, sending love!

  • @christinafurlow6815
    @christinafurlow6815 2 роки тому +1

    When I saw that flat iron smoking, I knew there was going to be trouble. I hope your hair recovers soon 🙏🏾.

  • @frans6cur8886
    @frans6cur8886 2 роки тому +27

    Deciding to cut your hair must have me so hard but I’m super proud you were bold enough to take the step. I’m here for the new journey and I’m glad you’re in a better place mentally. Your hair is looking beautiful and your skinnnnnn. Excited for you new journey ❤️

  • @SussexSandra
    @SussexSandra 2 роки тому +40

    Yep, you’ve just confirmed for me that my hair was heat damaged when i got a silk press in January. I blame myself because I went to the saloon to get my daughters hair styled for her birthday. My hair has been natural for 6 years. I am very careful with what goes in my hair because I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and one of the side affects of one of my meds is thinning hair and possible hair loss. I have had very thin hair for the last 10 years.
    When i went to the salon, my intention was to have my hair shaped and a colour. But the girl persuaded me to have a silk ores.
    My curls have not returned. When my hair is dry it looks straight and thin. My new growth is normal grey 4c.
    I am returning to the salon end of this months and i will tell them to give me a moisturising treatment and a cut to the new growth, then shape it.
    I thought the salon responded really well to you. Did they know you were a content creators? Because o have never heard of a salon acknowledging their mistake and compensating their customer with free treatments and products ! They normally argue with customers. 🤣🤣

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +8

      OmG
      You don’t have to go back to that particular salon

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +8

      So sorry about that.
      Lol yes they know 😂

  • @carolynhunt499
    @carolynhunt499 2 роки тому +21

    This has happened to almost everyone with natural hair. You look absolutely amazing. I wish I could rock this short look. Enjoy the journey!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому

      Thank you

    • @a.s4587
      @a.s4587 2 роки тому +1

      Happened to me the year before last 🥲 after 7 years of growth.

  • @kam1776
    @kam1776 2 роки тому +2

    you’re drop dead gorgeous

  • @XOXODANiE
    @XOXODANiE 2 роки тому +23

    A few things my stylist told me:
    1. Don't keep a silk press longer than a week
    2. Don't use heat tools in between
    3. Deep condition overnight
    My curls bounce back every time. I also only get a silk press once or twice a year.
    Also, the stylist should specialize in natural hair. Be careful out there ladies!

    • @curlynella1011
      @curlynella1011 2 роки тому +3

      I have heard of many women going to these “natural salons” and getting heat damage. You have to ask for before and after pics of clients honestly to be perfectly in the safe zone. You are lucky to find a good stylist. Once you find one, stick to him and her. Because the only person I know that hair bounces back is a woman that does it her own. I’m a licensed cosmetologist and I don’t trust anyone else but my self because everyone is getting heat damage but I don’t feel the need to straighten my hair. When I do it, I will definitely do it myself so I don’t have to blame anybody. Because most just care about sleek results and not the health of your hair 💯 In class we are taught to straighten and chemically treat the hair and not preserving the curls we have. Now you can pay for a course but many won’t and will just learn how to avoid things by testing clients.

    • @XOXODANiE
      @XOXODANiE 2 роки тому +2

      @@curlynella1011 very good points. I've been going to the same salon since I was in high school. I've learned so much from her (she owns her business) and she treats the whole process as teachable moments. She helped me become fully natural (and embrace my 4C hair) It's really good to have this info before consultations so you can ask the right questions and judge if the stylist is right for you. Not everyone is good at doing their own hair. I've caused more damage to my hair by myself with tools (with protectants and brand new straiteners).

  • @alexism7455
    @alexism7455 2 роки тому +31

    This was me a year ago! My hair doesn’t define me but it’s apart of us after watching it flourish for so long. Your cut is absolutely beautiful. Since I big chopped when I went natural this time I’ve been letting it grow out. But my comment was just to let you know that heat doesn’t have to be the devil when you want straight hair. My hair got damaged after my regular salon shut down due to the pandemic, I tried someone else without doing my research smh. But before that my salon specialized in natural hair and I would get a silk press once every 3 or so months. It can be done! Don’t be discouraged if down the road you want to try again just research your salon/stylist, make sure they aren’t going over 350 with the irons, but in the mean time, I’m loving the new look!

  • @lisaj4441
    @lisaj4441 2 роки тому +22

    Thank you for sharing your experience. My hair gets killed by heat so easily so I would have had the same. Your new cut is bomb girl. Please don't let anyone touch your hair every again. We all want to go on this new journey with you, so keep going sis. I have subscribed!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Aww thank you so much ❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      I’m going back to doing my hair myself lol

  • @Fay_Onoja
    @Fay_Onoja 2 роки тому +26

    The low cut looks really really good on you 😍. And we definitely need the finger coils tutorials

  • @jalettem4627
    @jalettem4627 2 роки тому +14

    This happened to me almost 3 years ago. My hair was mid-back at the time and would not go back curly. I washed 5 times and it smelled like sulphur. I had some of it cut to make it look a little better. It grew so long over two years to the point my hair was almost to my tailbone but the damage had everything below my shoulders or so stringy. I could see right through it. I just finally chopped it all of to mid neck in November. It’s all back curly now and I’ve had to cut twice since to be sure the damage was all gone. It’s so much healthier now and it will be long again by the end of the year.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Wow 💔
      So sorry

    • @jalettem4627
      @jalettem4627 2 роки тому +1

      @@deborahboms Thank you! Same to you! Now I’m super careful & choosy about who does my hair. No more color for me and I don’t go above the 360 that’s already on the iron when I cut it on. Always use heat protectant and I don’t use the iron every day when it’s straight. It’s a learning lesson. You become aware and make healthier choices. Good luck in your hair journey, it’s just going to get better! ❤️

  • @faithfulb7716
    @faithfulb7716 2 роки тому +8

    I had the same thing happened to me, but I hung in there. Alot of condition treatments and patience. Alit of updos and finally 6 months later, my curls are back..different.. but back. Never again for me. I'm glad you did what worked for you. I wish you're new journey the best..

  • @chelsea_sharks
    @chelsea_sharks 3 місяці тому +1

    My jaw dropped! You are so freaking gorgeous 😮‍💨🥰 big WOW!

  • @grayblues.6424
    @grayblues.6424 2 роки тому +16

    My mama never let me use heat in my hair for this reason, so it's become my biggest fear. I did want to get it done for my first week of school but this definitely erased any regret I felt for not doing it. Even though the result is pretty, it's risky so honestly I think getting a nice wig on can give similar results without the risk of all of that potentially long term damage! she still looks so beautiful after that chop and it's great to see her handle it well! made me relax and think that it's hair it will grow back eventually!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you!
      Glad this video came right in time

  • @jeanett8416
    @jeanett8416 2 роки тому +3

    I needed this video. Got a silk press after 3 years of being natural and it ruined my hair. I just cut majority of my hair off and got passion twist. I was sad but life goes on. Thanks for sharing

  • @LookinAtHim
    @LookinAtHim 2 роки тому +6

    You are gorgeous, both with and without makeup!! The hair was holding you back--now that it's gone, your amazing facial features are on full display and it's a great thing. Short hair suits you!

  • @NicaKasende
    @NicaKasende 5 місяців тому +2

    Girl, you're beautiful!

  • @simonnehall9529
    @simonnehall9529 2 роки тому +8

    I am so sorry that happened to you but you look absolutely gorgeous with your short hair and finger coils!! You have the perfect face for it. And you have a beautiful outlook on the situation. I hope you have success with your new hair journey.

  • @SidraAdele
    @SidraAdele 2 роки тому +6

    You look absolutely gorgeous with the short hair! Defo rocking it! 🔥 Nice that the salon took responsibility and tried to help out after the damage.

  • @isabellasenbore3975
    @isabellasenbore3975 2 роки тому +17

    Oh wow!! So sorry about that!! I definitely understand what you're going through cos I've had to big chop severally due to setbacks as well! However, you look amazing with the new cut now!! You go girl!!!
    I just want to encourage you and every other person that heat is not in itself bad, (and this is coming from someone who used to think that heat was evil and swore off heat completely).
    However, you must have enough knowledge and the right techniques to be able to actively use heat without getting heat damage, and here is what I mean..
    1. Getting a silk press should be dependent on the weather/climate of where you live - for example, it's better to get a silk press at a time with very little humidity, during dry weather, than getting it when it's very humid because the tendency to get heat damage will be more since you'll be trying to ensure the hair doesn't revert and then you could end up making one pass too many at a very high heat.
    2. The temperature at which the protein bonds in hair permanently break down resulting in heat damage is 415°. So with that in mind, ensure that whenever you're using any heat tool, the highest temperature possible should be at 400°, (though 390° is just fine even for very thick coarse 4C hair, which I have by the way)
    3. The fact that you're at the salon, and they are professionals doesn't mean you should leave all the responsibility of taking care of your hair to them - it's important to ask questions, be well informed and be actively involved in the whole process cos that way, you can control the outcome of your hairstyles more to your liking - for example, you would have been able to control the temperature as well as the number of passes that was done on your hair, to avoid the damage.
    4. Strengthening and conditioning treatments are a MUST before and after heat styling. Strengthening could be using Hydrolyzed Protein Trearments, Bond Repair Treatments like Olaplex or Ayurvedic Treatments involving Henna and other herbs. Thus the hair is strengthened to withstand the manipulation during the course of the heat styling, and it is also repaired and strengthened after the heat styling.
    5. Heat Protectants are a must, and they differ from each other, so it's important to actually get the ones that work to protect very well. A good knowledge of ingredients is very vital here. I personally use one that also contains hydrolyzed proteins amongst other things, which is a win-win.
    6. Hair is made up of protein and water, so there's a balance that must be preserved in the care of hair. When using any strengthening treatment, always ensure to immediately following up with a deeply hydrating and moisturizing treatment to balance the hair out, and I personally think that Aphogee happens to be one of those good treatments that give you everything to ensure the right balance of intensive strengthening and hydration as you follow the specified directions for use. Not following the manufacturer's direction is what could lead to dryness and other things. However, there are other options, that are just as effective as Aphogee, on the market...you just need to know what you're looking for and get the right ones.
    7. The heat tools you use are extremely important as well!! Using a hair straightener with uneven heating across the plates can definitely cause heat damage. You should also ensure that you use a blow-dryer that can be well regulated, to blow dry. Another idea is to actually dry hair with magnetic rollers using indirect heat, before straightening.
    Apologies for the lengthy post, however I believe that this is important information that we can all learn from.
    I wish you the very best on your new journey, so keep winning!!!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for the useful information!!!!! ❤️

    • @isabellasenbore3975
      @isabellasenbore3975 2 роки тому +1

      @@deborahboms You're most welcome 🤗

  • @rofrankie947
    @rofrankie947 2 роки тому +1

    Yes, Im scalp bald and I want to see your content. You're so adorable, Sis!!! Ancestors shinning on you girl.

  • @Mesmerise5107
    @Mesmerise5107 2 роки тому +10

    Sorry to hear about your hair loss. You dealt with it very well. When you came on screen with your short cut and makeup, I was blown away by your beauty! You look stunning!!! It will grow back soon. Your positive attitude shines!

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      Aww thank you so much 🥺❤️

  • @Bethel_Tamilore
    @Bethel_Tamilore 2 роки тому +8

    Your hair would grow even healthier and more beautifully! I’m sure of it

  • @JamieJEdwards
    @JamieJEdwards 2 роки тому +19

    Girl, you are gorgeous with your short and longer. Love the cut. But, I know it wasn't intentional and as you said took an emotional blow. I look forward to watching you continue your natural hair journey. I will say that watching the video of where they were doing your silk press, it seemed like the flat iron was waaaaay too hot. My hair is very similar to yours and I've done silk presses without heat damage. But I totally understand why after this experience why you aren't open to heat.

  • @jos-josradvanji6203
    @jos-josradvanji6203 2 роки тому +11

    While it's sad what happened to your hair (I was getting stressed out on the inside just watching it since I've had my hair fall out and thin from a medical condition so I can somewhat relate to the feeling of not being able to do anything and just seeing the damage while being sad)
    I have to say... that end result looked SO GOOD on you o_o ! I think that cut just helps to focus more on your face and that's definitely not a bad thing.
    Your face is very pretty with the cute nose, the strong cheeks, beautiful shape, prominent lips and now we get to see your cute ears too!
    All in all I just think you not only made the best out of a sad situation but turned it into something even better than it was before (in my eyes of course..maybe you prefer longer hair) And I think this video will not only be informational for others but also show them not to give up if something bad happens and how great things can get if they just stop for a moment, think and see what they can do to better the situation.

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +2

      Aww thank you so much
      I really appreciate it ❤️

  • @Ilikeoatmealmorethanyou
    @Ilikeoatmealmorethanyou 2 роки тому +7

    i know it's devastating to lose your hair by heat damage ;^; BUT YOU ARE KILLLING IT WITH THE SHORT HAIR OMGGG you look soo gorgeous!

  • @xmikkimousex
    @xmikkimousex 2 роки тому +11

    Absolutely gorgeous!! Your long hair was beautiful, but that short cut is simply lovely! Thank you for sharing with us, and I’m glad you love your new look 🤗

  • @yvonnehamright5964
    @yvonnehamright5964 2 роки тому +2

    You look absolutely stunning with short hair.

  • @sherrypie2372
    @sherrypie2372 2 роки тому +9

    May I just say that you look stunning! I know the pain of losing hair to damage and the alternating panic and denial about what just happened. I’m sure you’ll be back to your goals, but in the meantime, you rock this look!

  • @brownbutterflyvee
    @brownbutterflyvee 2 роки тому +32

    Aww Debs I’m sorry about your hair😌But I’m glad you found a way to make it work.Yes to a new hair journey✨it’ll bounce back❤️

  • @jaybigsby736
    @jaybigsby736 2 роки тому +6

    I was hurt just seeing this whole thing play out. I'm not even a hair stylist and watching the amount of smoke come up during the blowout made my stomach turn 🤢 but girl the reveal 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Yes ma'am ❤️❤️. I have had chemical and heat damage before. I just let it grow out with the chemical but with the heat I just had to cut it out , to me it was and eye sore but the amount wasn't too much mostly a few inches off the side. I was so hurt because I was finally learning how to take care of my hair and it had just hit shoulder length 🙄. It took me a while (an although I'm still learning) a couple years later and now it's past where it was so 🤷🏾 it's all part of the process of learning the does and don'ts
    ( Excuse my long comment)

  • @rachelm.3173
    @rachelm.3173 2 роки тому +1

    The big chop is Giving! You're gorgeous 😍😍😍😍

  • @senpaii4726
    @senpaii4726 2 роки тому +6

    Omg! I had the same thing happen to me but I did it to myself . I big chopped at home started my natural journey. The short hair looks so beautiful on you queen ❤

  • @roryt7708
    @roryt7708 2 роки тому +6

    Can we talk about how amazing she looks with short hair!?!

  • @actuallyjuliee
    @actuallyjuliee 2 роки тому +11

    You're so inspiring. I can't imagine what that must have felt like. I almost cried watching this. I'm so glad you found a way to turn the situation around. Your mindset is so beautiful.❤️

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому +1

      Aww thank you so much ❤️

    • @actuallyjuliee
      @actuallyjuliee 2 роки тому +1

      @@deborahboms this video is gonna blow up🤞

    • @deborahboms
      @deborahboms  2 роки тому

      @@actuallyjuliee it will!!!! 🥳

  • @Paula-tm5lf
    @Paula-tm5lf 2 роки тому +2

    You look beautiful and the short style looks lovely 😊

  • @AriusLifestyleTV
    @AriusLifestyleTV 2 роки тому +10

    Awww I’ve always been a fan of your natural hair, you look beautiful even with the big chop🥰. You’ve got this!

  • @playboyyy3555
    @playboyyy3555 2 роки тому +22

    Getting heat damage is literally my worst fear, i’ve had 2 relaxers in my lifetime and had to big chop twice and now I’m still continuing my natural hair journey and trying to use as little heat as possible. But the difference between me and you is that you look absolutely drop dead GORGEOUS with short hair omg. So so stunning