Gattsu please don't feel scared to make different types of videos like this. I will continue to watch regardless of DG content or not, remember we're Gattsu subscribers so we will continue to watch more videos with your perspective.
What fucked me up the most about when I became an alcoholic - I never actually addressed any of the problems I was “washing down”. It was only after I stopped drinking all the time that I actually began to deal with it
I slightly disagree: People would have changed their bad situation if they saw an option that is better. In the middle ages, a peasant could dislike their situation a whole lot, but he would really have to suffer a lot before he saw his few alternatives (which were all criminal at the time). Depression can be similar, since people sometimes are unable to see how any improvement could take place...
Agreed. Usually when I don't make improvements in my life, it's because I have trouble achieving those improvements. Sometimes it's out of my control and other times I can change it but I don't even know how to begin so I get overwhelmed. Then the denial comes after lol
@@munkhtuvshinmt And if you see that "Far far worse future" regardless of what you do - why put in the effort? Enjoy the time you have right now instead of sweating, because it's going to get worse anyway >Me, after trying for 10 years, then breaking up with the only person i ever loved, only to realize that i was never actually loved, just abused. Everyone feels happy for me, congratulates me for "leaving a toxic relationship", but all i feel is emptiness and a realization that was the only girl who made me feel loved.
Yes I agree with you. While I think Gatsu makes good points for certain unhealthy mindsets (e.g. seeing one as looser) or habits (e.g. drinking, smoking), this does not apply to serious mental illness. Like if you have severe depression and are fighting to off yourself everyday, this is not a mindset issue. Likewise I had a friend, who had such severe Agoraphobia and panic attacks that he did not go out anymore, and did not see other people for months. He is better now but only after years of medication, therapy etc. Same goes for stuff like >10 years Heroin addiction. But still an important message in the video :)
i wish I had a friend like you when I was a teenager, even if you had made me feel like shit about my decisions to get your point across it would have saved me a lot of pain and confusion in the long run. I hope you will keep thinking about things this way and making this kind of content to bring others the ability to make an honest assessment of themselves and the people around them, it is making the world a better place I think to have you in it.
@moodyfuck4758 I'm sorry you went through all that shit too, hopefully you are in a better place now, with better more considerate people around u who respect themselves. When you try to change for the better it is almost like the world pushes back and it can feel hopeless but keep trying and things will start looking up for you I promise.
I am currently detoxing from the internet after being mad about the changing landscape, bullshit drama, and fixation of negativity. In truth, I was hating myself for not doing a change to that by comitting to my goals. Even now, after having deleted social media and gone off-grid, I am using YT to wind down after having done work but with a sense of accomplishing some stuff throughout the day. You're right, Gattsu. It's not the substance abuse, cyclical bad habits or retreats. It's the inhibition you have in your mind that seeks a cheap escape, rather than overcoming that inhibition by working on yourself. First step is to leave the comfort zone, and have friends and/or family that support that climb out of the hole. If you're doing it alone, well.... If not you, then who?
There's a reason in substance abuse circles you'll hear people say "you need to hit *your* rock bottom, to get clean" or you'll here "you can't change for others until your willing to change for yourself" or something along those lines. This video kinda hits in those sayings. Deep down people either like where they are, but won't tell themselves. Or they're just comfortable enough to not change. Real change comes from within, when *you* are truly ready.
you’re probably right, i stopped hanging out with a large portion of my friends last year and yeah it really does feel good to turn down the invites to parties and shit because i want to work on my car or whatever. It is certainly a fetishization of being “too cool” to hang out with people who i don’t really relate with anymore. idk maybe i’m just an asshole. good video as always!
Don't let yourself be so easily swayed by the words of others. If you don't relate with them, you don't relate with them. Why should you feel pressured to spend any time with people you don't care about? Perhaps you're growing out of a hedonistic lifestyle. Partying is not the end-all be-all of life, nor is sex.
The worst thing is that if you attempt to tell someone this while they are in this state, its like a complete attack on their ego, and they'll never admit it.
The fetishization of one’s own self image is definitely a concept I’ve probably thought of, but never summed it up or understood as well until I watched this video. Definitely makes sense in the way we limit ourselves. Definitely true that if you really hated something you’d try to fix it, aside from cases where it’s out of your control, which unfortunately are the main things I struggle with personally. Great video btw 🙏 another banger
Damn this video really hit the spot for me, it felt almost a bit too relatable at times. I've been pretty down the last few months and started smoking weed every day sometimes the entire day like I used to. Recently tho I built up enough confidence to tell a girl I like her and surprisingly she liked me back lol. Then I finally got the motivation to start working out again although I still spend most of the day in my bed but I know that I can probably change that too if I really want to. Dunno why I felt like sharing this lol but I think the video just really hit the spot ig.
It's not just bad because of the fetishization. At first self depreciative humor /fetishization of these sad things are just coping mechanisms, this whole thing creates the aesthetic where romanticisation of these degenrate behaviours becomes necessary so any young and impressionable guy that joins these communities with people like these they feel the need to deliberately do all this thing simply for the sake of fitting in. That's why I hate the anime fans who call themselves "men of culture " and idolise their degeneracy so much. Its not just cringe its actually detrimental for the society
I normally don't see anything wrong with the anime meme "man of culture" per say, if your a normal person who just happens to engage in the culture & it doesn't interfere with preforming civic duties. Furries are a good example cuz despite their hobby, most of them still work normal jobs & live normal lives. It becomes problem when they make it their entire life to the point where it interferes with preforming their civic duties & forming relationships The way I judge these things is by applying the 3 Ds of abnormal psychology - Disfunction - Distress/Impairment - Deviance ( Though varies by culture & State laws) I talked about this in a video I made about "Live and let Live" & "letting people enjoy things"
@@2DI0pictures "let people enjoy things" is a massive cope. I literally just explained why it is wrong but OK. It's not right because not everybody is rational and can just let people "like what they like" without it interfering with their lives. People are insecure and seek validation, you cannot deny that and we're talking especially about young kids here who will find out about anime watch it and try to interact more with the community. When they see just how normalised the idolising of degeneracy is in that space they will feel the need to replicate it and act accordingly to it in order to fit in. It is unhealthy I don't know how you cannot see that. Looking down on that unhealthy attitude of the community and discouraging it is a good thing
@@takashimizutani1808 1) "live and let live" is not a cope, it's a principle of life, about having tolerance for others, similar to the right to liberty & pursue their definition of happiness if they don't violate the rights of others. We are not responsible for others happiness but our own 2) I agree that online community's can be bad for young impressionable teens, but it's the parents job to monitor their behavior (the internet is not a babysitter) 3)A hobby only becomes "unhealthy" when the it takes over a persons life to a point where civic duties are unable to fulfilled, like I said with furries despite their hobby most are still regular people who live normal lives For a hobby to be "unhealthy" it has to violate the 3Ds of abnormal psychology (a way of defining disorders) - Dysfunction: breakdown in cognition, emotion, & behavior to a point where daily tasks are difficult to do -Distress/Impairment : cause physicals or psychological distress to the individual or others -Deviance: Consistently Breaking the law In other words if they are unable to live a normal life, it's a problem but for the most part many of these people still live pretty mundane lives.
The sigma male meme started as a joke but people then took it too seriously and started believing it 😂 being like Patrick Bateman isn’t something to be proud of
fr dude that shit started with that "Are you an 'X' male? (and is it better than alpha?) thumbnail meme and it snowballed into an extension of this "based" trend.
You genuinely called me out man. Much thanks, really needed to hear that. Been making excuses to socialize, fetishizing being socially awkward and unable to talk to anyone because I thought I was scared of rejection. I want out and change. The only way for me to do this is action, and stopping the fetishization of being a loser. Honestly, thank you so much.
I'm sure this is good help for most people in this audience, but the oversimplification of addiction and deppression in this is mindnumbingly smoothbrained, but ayo you're funny as always bro, had a good laugh.
It's not that simple about depression off but coming from my experience: I've had depression and OCD for several years, and just by reading that they are chronic and untreatable I was just drowning myself with self loathing and self hate when I could have just decided to not give a fuck and make myself happy. And so I did intrusive thoughts r still there but I can actually feel happy for the first time in several years and I'm sure I'll overcome all that shit in the near future. You just gotta make the choice to make your life better that's all.
@@prostozachill8413 Happy to hear that you're doing better dude! It's all on a case-to-case basis I guess, so the best you can do is come at it from your perspective which is probably what Gattsu did as well.
Yeah I was waiting for the "It's of course not always like this, maybe not even a majority" but it never came, this I am sure can help a lot of people and it game from a good place, but it almost implies that it is "always like this" which is just...bleh
This would be helpful maybe for generic privileged kids who’s biggest problem is getting dumped by a e girl. It makes me absolutely sick that tiktok nerds turned peoples real struggles in some sort of fashion and promptly a joke.
This has actually really changed my perception of shit like weed/alcohol, they're things that can make your day better in the right situation I.E with friends chilling out but can definitely be abused by people who think they're cool for abusing them, because they think people who aren't addicted and abuse substances are inferior to those who know more self control, You are the best eastern europe youtuber I've ever watched, from one to another, love from romania
I feel like the same can be said about college/Uni culture in the west. Students have a tendency to abuse substances and consume more than they can because they try to look alpha/love the aesthetic, only to get their stomach pumped at the hospital. Students will cope by saying things like "making memories" but the only thing they'll remember is forgetting the events of the night before.
Here in the US, living on the west coast, too many people become addicted to the aesthetic of weed smoking. Many acquaintances have fallen into that very crab bucket, believing that weed is an answer to everything rather than just being another life long, unhealthy habit. Of course I have my own vices (mainly nicotine), but it’s sad seeing others require substances as a prerequisite for hanging out. Thanks for the video, keep up the good work
@@breathingunderw4ter396 I agree that is a bit hypocritical, I've been trying to quit recently. I just don't like the prerequisite of weed smoking for hanging out. It might be a medicine for the odd case here and there, but saying weed smoking is a general catch all herbal remedy doesn't capture the reasoning behind why the vast number of people smoke. Most if not almost all people that smoke here on the west coast have become reliant on weed for daily functioning (and that's true for my nicotine addiction) and I will never advocate one over the other. Both are vices and must be done in moderation. I hope that clears up my opinion on the matter.
@@breathingunderw4ter396It’s not a medicine what the hell are you talking about? Are you 16 or something? He’s talking about people who have an aesthetic of how a ‘stoner should behave’ and now they cannot even socialise without getting smoked up beforehand. That’s pathetic behaviour and it’s also the entire point of the video you just watched? Or did you not bother watching it and just decided to argue about bullshit in the comments?
Its great that you touched on this because I used to go thru it too. I would do the bare minimum to get by smoke a lit of weed, because I loved being high but also to avoid some feelings. I guess it feels comforting because you’re avoiding your problems and its easier that to stay comfortable. Its not as easy to get over as “stop being pathetic and do something already” but it ahold be more like take small steps, seeks others help and express how you really feel. Anyway glad to see gattsu blowing up
This is so relatable. Sex, Alcohol, weed, even lsd. I used to do some or all of these all the time because I liked how I thought of myself. It can be comforting thinking you’re a loser because it makes you have an excuse for everything.
As someone who been to rehab twice I can confirm 50% of the people I met in there were in agreement that the main reason they ended up there was because of lil peep
Yeah man I agree, glad to hear you got through those stages. Alot of UA-camrs go the other extreme of being the perfect man all the time too and that also isn't healthy. Gotta find some balance between those two extremes I think.
gattsu this is a great video man. i just recently turned 17 a couple weeks ago and i came to this realization the hard way. over this past summer i was smoking weed every single day multiple times a day, i was getting drunk as much as possible, and i was even experimenting with abusing cough medicine and antidepressants. i’m realizing now how much of that summer i completely wasted. i turned into a fucking loser. i had no job the whole time, i was barely working on music or other shit i was genuinely passionate about, and whenever i hung out with people it was pretty much just to get fucked up. i spent a shit ton of money and i got scammed and fucked over multiple times. i met a lot of shitty people thru it too. it sucks it took a whole summer of me doing this to myself to realize this, but i’m glad i got out of that negative cycle now instead of much later in life. you’re absolutely right about the whole fetishizing an image tho. im realizing a lot of what i did was just to fit in with people around me, or to portray an image that wasn’t truly me yk. it seems like a great thing to be a stoner/alcoholic cause of how it’s portrayed in movies, shows and music, but people don’t realize how serious these problems can actually get, and what they can lead to. thank u for making this video man it makes me wanna start working out again and keep improving my life for the better. i’ve been a massive fan of your channel for over a year now so keep up all the great videos cause i watch all of them🤞🏼
Based vid. Everyone back at high school were creating a chain reaction of alcoholism, smoking and substance abuse. Never thought I'd do these things until I started getting invited to parties and hangouts and got addicted to cigarettes and weed. Couple years later at age 19 I quit smoking literally overnight after I felt some pains in my chest and thought I had lung cancer or heart failure and realized how dumb what I'm doing is. By that time I had also p much stopped hanging out with these ppl because of some relationship drama, so I got back to doing youtube and my channel blew up. It's all about who you surround yourself with, in real life and on the internet
I do agree that if there is an aspect of your life that you absolutely hate you will most likely make the change, but I think there are some scenarios were that aspect of your life can be both something you enjoy and hate at the same time. For example, some people genuinely enjoy being by themselves, but at the same time humans are social creatures and most people long for social interaction at some point despite the fact that they do enjoy their alone time. I think some parts of people aren't so black and white (good and bad), and simply just changing that part of them isn't always so simple.
this is so real. pride and image keeps us locked up in our own misery. it's like how people want to remain depressed cuz they don't know what they are without it.
I think for some of these things, it's less about fetishizing them and more about becoming more comfortable and accepting of these situations perhaps as a coping mechanism.
Dude this is exactly the type of unexpected video i needed from you. I see so much of this incel/loner/self pity online and its repulsive, cant say i havent been guilty though. Good vid 👍
This video did change my perspective and realize a couple things. While I don't really have this problem, or at the very least am not aware of one, I did have to deal with people that do this ALOT. The worst one by far to me is the people that have the mental image of hating themselves, for some reason they love the idea of hating themselves and use their own problem, that they're aware of being problems, and use that as fuel for the image of them hating themselves
i agree with your statement, we are romanticizing being a loser but, some time, people break, its like the people who say weed is not addictive but, they can't seem to stop being high...
thanks for this video gattsu, it reminded me of when i used to think that i was depressed because of all the sad boys aesthetic in 2016 or so. i faked being sad all the time just to look interesting but it just made a pain in the ass to deal with. u can use the same logic but in reverse, if you fetichize being a god among men and having a confidence so big that it borders arrogance, do it. Also listen to Yeezus by Kanye West, there is a song literally called “i am a god”, on which was my motto while i transitioned from a beta fakeass sad bart simpson to a yeezuspilled confident jock
Dude, halfway through the vid I stopped and worked on my 30 page essay for school for 2 hours straight. That might sound small to you but that is more than I did the whole month. I was laying in my self pitty enjoying the pain of addiction. Thank you
This is why I love Gattsu, always spitting facts even when it hurts. I used to be the same way, couldn’t get girls so leaned into the doomer sadboy aesthetic but it just made things worse. Eventually I actually started socializing, joined a band and got a crumb of pussy and never looked back
everything is what you make of it. everyone was telling me that army would suck ass and so on but when it came to it, it was maybe best year of my life. just having a little optimism goes long way.
Ive been watching you for a couple months now and man this is one of the best channels on yt great content this vid really made me think about shit that ive got goin on in my life. All love to you homie keep up the great content
Yes, this. Especially about the job thing, a lot of my friends and all of my classmates always complained about their jobs and life in general, but they live great lives with great jobs, they would complain about a 6 hour shift being "long" or boring or some shit, but then they can't or couldn't understand why I loved mine even though my job is harder and I put in way more hours and get way less free stuff from my parents, they'd complain about doing a 4 hour shift on a school day or a 7 hour on a weekend then I would stand there after just finishing 2 18 hour shifts within 48 hours on the weekends and be fcking happy, literally only getting free food from my parents and not a free car or drivers license (which costs $2-3000 dollars here) and be happy, my job would require me to stand outside in the rain in negative degrees for hours or inside a boiling hot container in +30 degrees and I love it, they would be inside a really comfortable grocery store always at a perfect temperature with great working conditions and scan groceries or stack stock for a few hours and they had the audacity to complain like they were slaves or something. I've now come to realize that it's just the culture today to complain about your job, which I think is really sad, my dad loves working, the guys at my job loves working, and I love working, so I couldn't really understand it until I started asking them about it, turns out most of the time they don't know why they don't like it, they just complain because that's how they were taught or because "everyone else does it" and I would call them out for it. People, stop complaining if you objectively have a good life or a good job, it could always be worse and complaining just leads to you hating it
This man spitting, I dunno about being a loser, tho I was probably there, but addiction and using it to get off I get it lmao. Plus imagine it’s like 2016/2018 and you hear Gattsu’s voice in the call center than many years later your here and say “wait a minute….”
I noticed as well after I stopped listening to sadboi shit and transitioned to more hyped and motivational music, my mindset and lifestyle changed HARD. Self-fulfilling prophecies are a real thing.
One of the few sad songs I have listened to is Bris by Kaizers Orchestra, not because I feel like being sad, but because of how simple and effective the storytelling conveys of a soldier having hit rock bottom and the play on words where Bris can mean both the breeze of a cold wind and the buzz alcohol gives you. Sometimes I wish more people knew Norwegian, Kaizer is so good in the sheer variety, quality and at times the insanity of their music on top of nailing storytelling through music.
the self-perception plays a huge role and people need to capitalize on it to change who they are. I used to not get any exercise and couldn't get anywhere since I only had my drivers permit, and I solved both of those problems by taking up biking. I hyped up cyclists and then slowly morphed myself into that mold. now I can take myself where I need to go, get great exercise as well as fresh air and sun, not have to deal with traffic, pay $20 for repairs, never pay for parking or gas, pay less on insurance cause I'm racking up less miles on my car, have a whole new hobby, and have a personal aesthetic based around something actually healthy, and the only downside is a comical hatred of "gas guzzlers" and people who ride stationary bikes at gyms.
Out of all the videos I’ve watched; how tf is it your the first one say something like this? I love how you understand your experiences and communicate your ideas in a straightforward manner instead of using overly complicated words.
I hope this reaches more people. You made me Think about What i dont like about myself and motivated me to do something about it. It sounds corny but i Think i will turn my life partly around and fix What i hate about myself
This is an interesting topic and relatable for me. I spent all my middle/high school years having no friends or gf, never talking or putting effort into school, just constantly being on the internet on sites like 4chan, reddit, youtube, and being a huge fan of bladee and cloud rap shit like that. A girl approached me and tried to give me her number early in 9th grade to "help me with homework" but I said No and she kept saying "are you sure??", "it doesn't have to be about that" and I kept saying No like 10 times while walking away. I also rejected other peoples attempts to talk to me or be my friend. I guess I was kinda fetishizing and wanting to be like an aloof sigma loner, but I also just felt more comfortable being alone and not letting anyone get to know me and not having to deal with any relationships. I left that school halfway through 9th then I was in different online and home schooling until I graduated highschool with an exam at 16. I'm now 19 and all I do is work fulltime saving and investing all my money and I still have no friends never had a gf. I'm not happy but I don't care enough to try to get a social life and don't think it would even make me happier but I should've at least gave it a chance back then instead of completely shutting out everyone and refusing to not be a sigma loner anime protagonist
in my case i actually have mental problems and im going to therapy, but being on the loosercore side of instagram actually cheers me up because i get to see that there are other people struggling with similair issues, so i don't feel so alone with my problems and have a sense of community, and i don't really fetishise being a looser either hence the reason im going to therapy but i still enjoy Literally me memes , add to this that i neither smoke weed nor drink alcohol
This shit is actually true , I was thinking back to why I can’t sleep and I always tell my friends I have so much shit to do and I sleep only 2-3 hours a day . And I can’t remember the last time I slept early at night . But the thing is I can change it .. it’s just this image in my head of me being a guy who is just up all night and can’t go out at day time . Very thoughtful video keep up the great work
This is pretty much true! And I really feel like this trap is a very intentional product of media. Music and television, movies. They create a very aesthetic world around these archetypes. And when you identify with some of the pains behind the people on tv/movies/music/social media who portray these archetypes, it’s like you make it apart of your identity to cope. But it’s a bad coping mechanism
I used to spend my life sleeping through the day and playing World of Warcraft throughout the night and getting some Uber Eats pizza at like 12:00am. I was a complete hermit. I would never go outside, except for when I went to work to support my shitty lifestyle. About a year later, I'm in my own apartment, sold my gaming PC and going out more than ever before. I used to think I was just depressed and my lifestyle was some weird way of punishing myself. Weridest thing is, I sometimes think about my life back then and I miss it. Like, I was pretty close to getting a new gaming PC and moving out, just so I can live that lifestyle again. Everything you said on this video deeply resonated with me.
I'm probably not in the age nor gender bracket of your usual audience but I loved this video so much because of how honest ans straighg forward it was. I was in a similar position, I was depressed for a long time but i also fetishized it. I loved being the sad girl that shit posts online, I made up this whole manic pixie damaged dream girl persona that's introverted and hates people for myself and it didn't lead me anywhere i actually want to go. I drank my sorrows away smoked my mind away and just wallowed in that pit of despair. I also almost gave myself an eating disorder I Thankfully, there was this part of me that didn't wanna waste my life and I managed to actually pull a master's off and work and get by and actually grow up and realize that (as long as it is possible) you can get better if you want to get better. You Don't have to make the greatest improvements right away but you gotta start somewhere. Keep up the good work, many young boys need this
am i the only one who used to smoke weed for self harm? every experience i had with it was bad, my traumas were reminded and realized fully. it made me very depressed to be myself, but at the same time i had a constant flow of good feelings from weed going through me. and because it was the only thing that made me so happy, i think i kept turning back to it because i was addicted. this really messed me up because before i started smoking weed i was actually pretty content with myself, i did suffer from depression and anxiety but not to the extent i do now. its been a few years since i smoked it, and it still feels like this slight negative feeling doesnt leave the present.
I feel like we all can relate to this video in a certain aspect or the other. We all have had this "idea" in our head and unhealthily fetishized over them to be perceived a certain way either by yourself and/or others. I like this video as it helped me and im sure a lot more people self-reflect over their present or past self.
The whole "literally me" crowd are insufferable but I didn't think they were relating to these characters as being losers who suffer like them but more like they think they're the most superior beings ever, who are always right and untouchable. Patrick Bateman, Vergil from Devil May Cry, Guts from Berserk, that Russia bodybuilder named Ernest, etc.
gattsu, been down this road, ur a g for putting this out there. i have could relate to every word and i’m glad u had the courage to say it, cuz it does sound cringe but it’s the truth
Interesting how I'm doing the opposite of this and I'm using characters from other media to make myself better and to learn more. This started when I started reading through berserk and the main character is a fucking horrible person, but he always tries to do better and over the series he makes a lot of progress. I've made a lot of progress too because I was inspired by what I was reading to make myself better by working out daily and making more friends with people and its going really good.
glorifying being a smoker made it harder to quit, I fucking loved waking up, going a safe distance away from people who know my parents, putting on some Kino and smoking cigarette after cigarette day after day, then i got my tonsils out and smoking literally hurt, then i realized all this
Your right, i used to fantasize about being the lonely skinny sleep deprived teenager who can't talk to people and i was very cringe ngl. I used to say that i hate it but looking back at it now i definitely didn't and i had so many opportunities to stop being that way but i wasn't motivated enough to actually do it. Plus i was surrounded by internet content that fetishize that type of lifestyle so I didn't see it like a problem at all.
Hell yeah, Gattsu down with the AxCx. I am too old to be watching this channel. This is good advice for young men. I really recommend curbing drinking, having crazy party stories is lame af when you are older. It didn't enhance my life. Always be doing something worthwhile. Do not waste your time. "Youth is wasted on the young" is true; take advantage of it. Don't be the guy that pulls his head out of his butt at 30 - that's 10 years wasted. Don't put off things until tomorrow. It is also lame when you buy a house later in life and think "man, I must have spent at least $10k on weed". It would be more advantageous to simply have that $10k or do something with it that is tangible.
I had a mental health crises when I realised wanted to stay sad cause I enjoyed it. Thanks for putting a years worth of fragmented thoughts into one video 🍻
Gattsu please don't feel scared to make different types of videos like this. I will continue to watch regardless of DG content or not, remember we're Gattsu subscribers so we will continue to watch more videos with your perspective.
i agree , it doesn’t matter what kinda vids im here for gattsu and the community
i honestly prefer this typa content more. its always great to branch out so im happy either way.
Yeah! Just love how he's so down to earth and himself
I Love Gattsu
gattsu is the greatest thinker of our generation
definitely up there with aristotle as a century defining philosopher
On god fr fr no cap
truly the thinker of all time
the great gattsu
He is Sanest Drainer
Gattsu is probably the most authentic self improvement youtuber
He the only one who ain't afraid to call you and himself out that's why we love him
@Smekulis Pediks u too brother
“Martin the Great”?
@@The-Devils-Advocate That would be my user tag if you put it into Google Translate. What's the matter?
@@MartinDerTolle except I didn’t put it through a translator. Just exercising my limited German and doing a bit of social interaction
I never realized how I fetishize aspects of my life. thank you Gattsu for posting this, made me reflect on who I am
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Instead I'm going to fetishize myself thinking about not fetishizing myself
What fucked me up the most about when I became an alcoholic - I never actually addressed any of the problems I was “washing down”. It was only after I stopped drinking all the time that I actually began to deal with it
Try dealing with it sober 2 years, solving it and then celebrating with a drugs binge
I slightly disagree: People would have changed their bad situation if they saw an option that is better. In the middle ages, a peasant could dislike their situation a whole lot, but he would really have to suffer a lot before he saw his few alternatives (which were all criminal at the time). Depression can be similar, since people sometimes are unable to see how any improvement could take place...
its a approach.. seeing far far worse future triggers change as well
Agreed. Usually when I don't make improvements in my life, it's because I have trouble achieving those improvements. Sometimes it's out of my control and other times I can change it but I don't even know how to begin so I get overwhelmed. Then the denial comes after lol
@@munkhtuvshinmt And if you see that "Far far worse future" regardless of what you do - why put in the effort? Enjoy the time you have right now instead of sweating, because it's going to get worse anyway
>Me, after trying for 10 years, then breaking up with the only person i ever loved, only to realize that i was never actually loved, just abused. Everyone feels happy for me, congratulates me for "leaving a toxic relationship", but all i feel is emptiness and a realization that was the only girl who made me feel loved.
Yes I agree with you. While I think Gatsu makes good points for certain unhealthy mindsets (e.g. seeing one as looser) or habits (e.g. drinking, smoking), this does not apply to serious mental illness. Like if you have severe depression and are fighting to off yourself everyday, this is not a mindset issue. Likewise I had a friend, who had such severe Agoraphobia and panic attacks that he did not go out anymore, and did not see other people for months. He is better now but only after years of medication, therapy etc. Same goes for stuff like >10 years Heroin addiction. But still an important message in the video :)
i wish I had a friend like you when I was a teenager, even if you had made me feel like shit about my decisions to get your point across it would have saved me a lot of pain and confusion in the long run. I hope you will keep thinking about things this way and making this kind of content to bring others the ability to make an honest assessment of themselves and the people around them, it is making the world a better place I think to have you in it.
@moodyfuck4758 I'm sorry you went through all that shit too, hopefully you are in a better place now, with better more considerate people around u who respect themselves. When you try to change for the better it is almost like the world pushes back and it can feel hopeless but keep trying and things will start looking up for you I promise.
I wish i had a friend
I am currently detoxing from the internet after being mad about the changing landscape, bullshit drama, and fixation of negativity.
In truth, I was hating myself for not doing a change to that by comitting to my goals.
Even now, after having deleted social media and gone off-grid, I am using YT to wind down after having done work but with a sense of accomplishing some stuff throughout the day.
You're right, Gattsu.
It's not the substance abuse, cyclical bad habits or retreats.
It's the inhibition you have in your mind that seeks a cheap escape, rather than overcoming that inhibition by working on yourself.
First step is to leave the comfort zone, and have friends and/or family that support that climb out of the hole.
If you're doing it alone, well.... If not you, then who?
Rawest shit I've read all year, bro🔥
Cope
@@lazyfish992 u can only cope in comfortness, once u leave how can u cope? No u can't u took a big step like op said, so work on yourself
@@johnlexin7748 cope
@@lazyfish992 no u
There's a reason in substance abuse circles you'll hear people say "you need to hit *your* rock bottom, to get clean" or you'll here "you can't change for others until your willing to change for yourself" or something along those lines. This video kinda hits in those sayings. Deep down people either like where they are, but won't tell themselves. Or they're just comfortable enough to not change. Real change comes from within, when *you* are truly ready.
the reason is self hatred and misinformation
@lilyk3734 what?
you’re probably right, i stopped hanging out with a large portion of my friends last year and yeah it really does feel good to turn down the invites to parties and shit because i want to work on my car or whatever. It is certainly a fetishization of being “too cool” to hang out with people who i don’t really relate with anymore. idk maybe i’m just an asshole. good video as always!
Don't let yourself be so easily swayed by the words of others.
If you don't relate with them, you don't relate with them. Why should you feel pressured to spend any time with people you don't care about?
Perhaps you're growing out of a hedonistic lifestyle.
Partying is not the end-all be-all of life, nor is sex.
The worst thing is that if you attempt to tell someone this while they are in this state, its like a complete attack on their ego, and they'll never admit it.
"It's just ironic!"
Sure, Jan.
The fetishization of one’s own self image is definitely a concept I’ve probably thought of, but never summed it up or understood as well until I watched this video. Definitely makes sense in the way we limit ourselves. Definitely true that if you really hated something you’d try to fix it, aside from cases where it’s out of your control, which unfortunately are the main things I struggle with personally. Great video btw 🙏 another banger
Damn this video really hit the spot for me, it felt almost a bit too relatable at times.
I've been pretty down the last few months and started smoking weed every day sometimes the entire day like I used to.
Recently tho I built up enough confidence to tell a girl I like her and surprisingly she liked me back lol.
Then I finally got the motivation to start working out again although I still spend most of the day in my bed but I know that I can probably change that too if I really want to.
Dunno why I felt like sharing this lol but I think the video just really hit the spot ig.
Discovered your channel because of music but damn, you should make more videos like this. I needed it
It's not just bad because of the fetishization. At first self depreciative humor /fetishization of these sad things are just coping mechanisms, this whole thing creates the aesthetic where romanticisation of these degenrate behaviours becomes necessary so any young and impressionable guy that joins these communities with people like these they feel the need to deliberately do all this thing simply for the sake of fitting in. That's why I hate the anime fans who call themselves "men of culture " and idolise their degeneracy so much. Its not just cringe its actually detrimental for the society
I normally don't see anything wrong with the anime meme "man of culture" per say, if your a normal person who just happens to engage in the culture & it doesn't interfere with preforming civic duties. Furries are a good example cuz despite their hobby, most of them still work normal jobs & live normal lives.
It becomes problem when they make it their entire life to the point where it interferes with preforming their civic duties & forming relationships
The way I judge these things is by applying the 3 Ds of abnormal psychology
- Disfunction
- Distress/Impairment
- Deviance ( Though varies by culture & State laws)
I talked about this in a video I made about "Live and let Live" & "letting people enjoy things"
@@2DI0pictures "let people enjoy things" is a massive cope. I literally just explained why it is wrong but OK. It's not right because not everybody is rational and can just let people "like what they like" without it interfering with their lives. People are insecure and seek validation, you cannot deny that and we're talking especially about young kids here who will find out about anime watch it and try to interact more with the community. When they see just how normalised the idolising of degeneracy is in that space they will feel the need to replicate it and act accordingly to it in order to fit in. It is unhealthy I don't know how you cannot see that. Looking down on that unhealthy attitude of the community and discouraging it is a good thing
@@takashimizutani1808
1) "live and let live" is not a cope, it's a principle of life, about having tolerance for others, similar to the right to liberty & pursue their definition of happiness if they don't violate the rights of others. We are not responsible for others happiness but our own
2) I agree that online community's can be bad for young impressionable teens, but it's the parents job to monitor their behavior (the internet is not a babysitter)
3)A hobby only becomes "unhealthy" when the it takes over a persons life to a point where civic duties are unable to fulfilled, like I said with furries despite their hobby most are still regular people who live normal lives
For a hobby to be "unhealthy" it has to violate the 3Ds of abnormal psychology (a way of defining disorders)
- Dysfunction: breakdown in cognition, emotion, & behavior to a point where daily tasks are difficult to do
-Distress/Impairment : cause physicals or psychological distress to the individual or others
-Deviance: Consistently Breaking the law
In other words if they are unable to live a normal life, it's a problem but for the most part many of these people still live pretty mundane lives.
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@@takashimizutani1808 u tried
The sigma male meme started as a joke but people then took it too seriously and started believing it 😂 being like Patrick Bateman isn’t something to be proud of
fr dude that shit started with that "Are you an 'X' male? (and is it better than alpha?) thumbnail meme and it snowballed into an extension of this "based" trend.
BRUH
>being like Patrick Bateman isn’t something to be proud of
You genuinely called me out man. Much thanks, really needed to hear that. Been making excuses to socialize, fetishizing being socially awkward and unable to talk to anyone because I thought I was scared of rejection. I want out and change. The only way for me to do this is action, and stopping the fetishization of being a loser. Honestly, thank you so much.
Damn bro this is even inspirational, thanks for sharing your case and all of this information to us
gattsu: "if you are poor you need to make money" "if you are taking drugs then stop it" truly poetic
Bro, he said that it is that alcoholics should not have a positive image of alcoholism
I'm sure this is good help for most people in this audience, but the oversimplification of addiction and deppression in this is mindnumbingly smoothbrained, but ayo you're funny as always bro, had a good laugh.
It's not that simple about depression off but coming from my experience: I've had depression and OCD for several years, and just by reading that they are chronic and untreatable I was just drowning myself with self loathing and self hate when I could have just decided to not give a fuck and make myself happy. And so I did intrusive thoughts r still there but I can actually feel happy for the first time in several years and I'm sure I'll overcome all that shit in the near future. You just gotta make the choice to make your life better that's all.
@@prostozachill8413 Happy to hear that you're doing better dude! It's all on a case-to-case basis I guess, so the best you can do is come at it from your perspective which is probably what Gattsu did as well.
@@castlescoke6073 ty bro :)
Yeah I was waiting for the "It's of course not always like this, maybe not even a majority" but it never came, this I am sure can help a lot of people and it game from a good place, but it almost implies that it is "always like this" which is just...bleh
This would be helpful maybe for generic privileged kids who’s biggest problem is getting dumped by a e girl. It makes me absolutely sick that tiktok nerds turned peoples real struggles in some sort of fashion and promptly a joke.
This has actually really changed my perception of shit like weed/alcohol, they're things that can make your day better in the right situation I.E with friends chilling out but can definitely be abused by people who think they're cool for abusing them, because they think people who aren't addicted and abuse substances are inferior to those who know more self control, You are the best eastern europe youtuber I've ever watched, from one to another, love from romania
I feel like the same can be said about college/Uni culture in the west. Students have a tendency to abuse substances and consume more than they can because they try to look alpha/love the aesthetic, only to get their stomach pumped at the hospital. Students will cope by saying things like "making memories" but the only thing they'll remember is forgetting the events of the night before.
And at the end of uni they become fat or just have a gigantic belly from all the alcohol.
this is legit pretty inspiring, explaining shit like this in a casual modern way works more than psuedo-'deeper' motivational speech style
Here in the US, living on the west coast, too many people become addicted to the aesthetic of weed smoking. Many acquaintances have fallen into that very crab bucket, believing that weed is an answer to everything rather than just being another life long, unhealthy habit. Of course I have my own vices (mainly nicotine), but it’s sad seeing others require substances as a prerequisite for hanging out. Thanks for the video, keep up the good work
so you literally admit you’re addicted to nicotine? but shame people who use something that’s literally a medicine in your state? good logic bro
@@breathingunderw4ter396 I agree that is a bit hypocritical, I've been trying to quit recently. I just don't like the prerequisite of weed smoking for hanging out. It might be a medicine for the odd case here and there, but saying weed smoking is a general catch all herbal remedy doesn't capture the reasoning behind why the vast number of people smoke. Most if not almost all people that smoke here on the west coast have become reliant on weed for daily functioning (and that's true for my nicotine addiction) and I will never advocate one over the other. Both are vices and must be done in moderation. I hope that clears up my opinion on the matter.
@@breathingunderw4ter396It’s not a medicine what the hell are you talking about? Are you 16 or something?
He’s talking about people who have an aesthetic of how a ‘stoner should behave’ and now they cannot even socialise without getting smoked up beforehand.
That’s pathetic behaviour and it’s also the entire point of the video you just watched? Or did you not bother watching it and just decided to argue about bullshit in the comments?
Its great that you touched on this because I used to go thru it too. I would do the bare minimum to get by smoke a lit of weed, because I loved being high but also to avoid some feelings.
I guess it feels comforting because you’re avoiding your problems and its easier that to stay comfortable.
Its not as easy to get over as “stop being pathetic and do something already” but it ahold be more like take small steps, seeks others help and express how you really feel.
Anyway glad to see gattsu blowing up
This is so relatable. Sex, Alcohol, weed, even lsd. I used to do some or all of these all the time because I liked how I thought of myself. It can be comforting thinking you’re a loser because it makes you have an excuse for everything.
well if you are having sex you are not a loser.
As someone who been to rehab twice I can confirm 50% of the people I met in there were in agreement that the main reason they ended up there was because of lil peep
This perspective is fucking so on point I understand a lot more now this was an amazing video bro
Yeah man I agree, glad to hear you got through those stages. Alot of UA-camrs go the other extreme of being the perfect man all the time too and that also isn't healthy. Gotta find some balance between those two extremes I think.
I usually pour tea into a whiskey glass so that I pretend to drink whiskey while also not ruining my brain.
gattsu this is a great video man. i just recently turned 17 a couple weeks ago and i came to this realization the hard way. over this past summer i was smoking weed every single day multiple times a day, i was getting drunk as much as possible, and i was even experimenting with abusing cough medicine and antidepressants. i’m realizing now how much of that summer i completely wasted. i turned into a fucking loser. i had no job the whole time, i was barely working on music or other shit i was genuinely passionate about, and whenever i hung out with people it was pretty much just to get fucked up. i spent a shit ton of money and i got scammed and fucked over multiple times. i met a lot of shitty people thru it too. it sucks it took a whole summer of me doing this to myself to realize this, but i’m glad i got out of that negative cycle now instead of much later in life. you’re absolutely right about the whole fetishizing an image tho. im realizing a lot of what i did was just to fit in with people around me, or to portray an image that wasn’t truly me yk. it seems like a great thing to be a stoner/alcoholic cause of how it’s portrayed in movies, shows and music, but people don’t realize how serious these problems can actually get, and what they can lead to. thank u for making this video man it makes me wanna start working out again and keep improving my life for the better. i’ve been a massive fan of your channel for over a year now so keep up all the great videos cause i watch all of them🤞🏼
this was something I didn't know I needed to hear.
Based vid. Everyone back at high school were creating a chain reaction of alcoholism, smoking and substance abuse. Never thought I'd do these things until I started getting invited to parties and hangouts and got addicted to cigarettes and weed. Couple years later at age 19 I quit smoking literally overnight after I felt some pains in my chest and thought I had lung cancer or heart failure and realized how dumb what I'm doing is. By that time I had also p much stopped hanging out with these ppl because of some relationship drama, so I got back to doing youtube and my channel blew up. It's all about who you surround yourself with, in real life and on the internet
I do agree that if there is an aspect of your life that you absolutely hate you will most likely make the change, but I think there are some scenarios were that aspect of your life can be both something you enjoy and hate at the same time. For example, some people genuinely enjoy being by themselves, but at the same time humans are social creatures and most people long for social interaction at some point despite the fact that they do enjoy their alone time. I think some parts of people aren't so black and white (good and bad), and simply just changing that part of them isn't always so simple.
Legit had my eyes open to my biggest problems I’m facing rn
this is so real. pride and image keeps us locked up in our own misery. it's like how people want to remain depressed cuz they don't know what they are without it.
I think for some of these things, it's less about fetishizing them and more about becoming more comfortable and accepting of these situations perhaps as a coping mechanism.
Dude this is exactly the type of unexpected video i needed from you. I see so much of this incel/loner/self pity online and its repulsive, cant say i havent been guilty though. Good vid 👍
This video did change my perspective and realize a couple things. While I don't really have this problem, or at the very least am not aware of one, I did have to deal with people that do this ALOT. The worst one by far to me is the people that have the mental image of hating themselves, for some reason they love the idea of hating themselves and use their own problem, that they're aware of being problems, and use that as fuel for the image of them hating themselves
God i needed this 😢
Thank u for sharing the wisdom ❤
gattsu is one of the greats the future will look back on
i agree with your statement, we are romanticizing being a loser but, some time, people break, its like the people who say weed is not addictive but, they can't seem to stop being high...
thanks for this video gattsu, it reminded me of when i used to think that i was depressed because of all the sad boys aesthetic in 2016 or so. i faked being sad all the time just to look interesting but it just made a pain in the ass to deal with. u can use the same logic but in reverse, if you fetichize being a god among men and having a confidence so big that it borders arrogance, do it.
Also listen to Yeezus by Kanye West, there is a song literally called “i am a god”, on which was my motto while i transitioned from a beta fakeass sad bart simpson to a yeezuspilled confident jock
Dude, halfway through the vid I stopped and worked on my 30 page essay for school for 2 hours straight. That might sound small to you but that is more than I did the whole month. I was laying in my self pitty enjoying the pain of addiction. Thank you
greatest youtuber to ever live
Its much simpler than this...all of these characters are physically attractive, everyone wishes they were, even if they have to be a loser
True, they all choose the best looking guys haha. In real life Ryan Goslin is literally a happy married man.
another banger from the only youtuber
actually rewatching this after a few months you made me realize alot of shit about myself and people around me. banger vid W bro
every video from this man is incredible
My man you just changed my whole outlook on live like for real no joke thank you
This is why I love Gattsu, always spitting facts even when it hurts. I used to be the same way, couldn’t get girls so leaned into the doomer sadboy aesthetic but it just made things worse. Eventually I actually started socializing, joined a band and got a crumb of pussy and never looked back
There are situations that people just can't get out of. The universe will not bend to your 'idea of self'...
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Amazing video gattsu I love the variety
everything is what you make of it. everyone was telling me that army would suck ass and so on but when it came to it, it was maybe best year of my life. just having a little optimism goes long way.
Ive been watching you for a couple months now and man this is one of the best channels on yt great content this vid really made me think about shit that ive got goin on in my life. All love to you homie keep up the great content
Yes, this. Especially about the job thing, a lot of my friends and all of my classmates always complained about their jobs and life in general, but they live great lives with great jobs, they would complain about a 6 hour shift being "long" or boring or some shit, but then they can't or couldn't understand why I loved mine even though my job is harder and I put in way more hours and get way less free stuff from my parents, they'd complain about doing a 4 hour shift on a school day or a 7 hour on a weekend then I would stand there after just finishing 2 18 hour shifts within 48 hours on the weekends and be fcking happy, literally only getting free food from my parents and not a free car or drivers license (which costs $2-3000 dollars here) and be happy, my job would require me to stand outside in the rain in negative degrees for hours or inside a boiling hot container in +30 degrees and I love it, they would be inside a really comfortable grocery store always at a perfect temperature with great working conditions and scan groceries or stack stock for a few hours and they had the audacity to complain like they were slaves or something.
I've now come to realize that it's just the culture today to complain about your job, which I think is really sad, my dad loves working, the guys at my job loves working, and I love working, so I couldn't really understand it until I started asking them about it, turns out most of the time they don't know why they don't like it, they just complain because that's how they were taught or because "everyone else does it" and I would call them out for it.
People, stop complaining if you objectively have a good life or a good job, it could always be worse and complaining just leads to you hating it
Bro you litterly have the best takes, like every single one.
Whole video just seems like this dude projecting his situation on everyone else
3:40 you had an epiphany. Great work bro.
When your Depression has an aestehtic quality you are not depressed
This man spitting, I dunno about being a loser, tho I was probably there, but addiction and using it to get off I get it lmao.
Plus imagine it’s like 2016/2018 and you hear Gattsu’s voice in the call center than many years later your here and say “wait a minute….”
I noticed as well after I stopped listening to sadboi shit and transitioned to more hyped and motivational music, my mindset and lifestyle changed HARD.
Self-fulfilling prophecies are a real thing.
yeah same i used to listen to so much depressing music for no reason and now i just listen to more happy music and i genuinely feel happier
Cope
One of the few sad songs I have listened to is Bris by Kaizers Orchestra, not because I feel like being sad, but because of how simple and effective the storytelling conveys of a soldier having hit rock bottom and the play on words where Bris can mean both the breeze of a cold wind and the buzz alcohol gives you.
Sometimes I wish more people knew Norwegian, Kaizer is so good in the sheer variety, quality and at times the insanity of their music on top of nailing storytelling through music.
I've felt like people do this for a while but I haven't seen anyone else talk about it.
the self-perception plays a huge role and people need to capitalize on it to change who they are. I used to not get any exercise and couldn't get anywhere since I only had my drivers permit, and I solved both of those problems by taking up biking. I hyped up cyclists and then slowly morphed myself into that mold. now I can take myself where I need to go, get great exercise as well as fresh air and sun, not have to deal with traffic, pay $20 for repairs, never pay for parking or gas, pay less on insurance cause I'm racking up less miles on my car, have a whole new hobby, and have a personal aesthetic based around something actually healthy, and the only downside is a comical hatred of "gas guzzlers" and people who ride stationary bikes at gyms.
you just made the greatest video of all time I swear, these types of videos are great I love them please make more!!
this shit is actually eye opening gattsu thank you
Out of all the videos I’ve watched; how tf is it your the first one say something like this?
I love how you understand your experiences and communicate your ideas in a straightforward manner instead of using overly complicated words.
Damn past me, u right
Very inspirational epic video thank you gattsu
Omg it’s geopold lol
I think you are right in a lot of aspects. But people can also be addicted for real. They cannot just stop.
this needs to blow up, I can't handle 14 years old saying they are so especial for not being accepted by society
I hope this reaches more people. You made me Think about What i dont like about myself and motivated me to do something about it. It sounds corny but i Think i will turn my life partly around and fix What i hate about myself
This is an interesting topic and relatable for me. I spent all my middle/high school years having no friends or gf, never talking or putting effort into school, just constantly being on the internet on sites like 4chan, reddit, youtube, and being a huge fan of bladee and cloud rap shit like that. A girl approached me and tried to give me her number early in 9th grade to "help me with homework" but I said No and she kept saying "are you sure??", "it doesn't have to be about that" and I kept saying No like 10 times while walking away. I also rejected other peoples attempts to talk to me or be my friend. I guess I was kinda fetishizing and wanting to be like an aloof sigma loner, but I also just felt more comfortable being alone and not letting anyone get to know me and not having to deal with any relationships. I left that school halfway through 9th then I was in different online and home schooling until I graduated highschool with an exam at 16. I'm now 19 and all I do is work fulltime saving and investing all my money and I still have no friends never had a gf. I'm not happy but I don't care enough to try to get a social life and don't think it would even make me happier but I should've at least gave it a chance back then instead of completely shutting out everyone and refusing to not be a sigma loner anime protagonist
My man understood the concept of the term "comfort zone" without knowing about it. Great thinking there m8
in my case i actually have mental problems and im going to therapy, but being on the loosercore side of instagram actually cheers me up because i get to see that there are other people struggling with similair issues, so i don't feel so alone with my problems and have a sense of community, and i don't really fetishise being a looser either hence the reason im going to therapy but i still enjoy Literally me memes , add to this that i neither smoke weed nor drink alcohol
This shit is actually true , I was thinking back to why I can’t sleep and I always tell my friends I have so much shit to do and I sleep only 2-3 hours a day . And I can’t remember the last time I slept early at night . But the thing is I can change it .. it’s just this image in my head of me being a guy who is just up all night and can’t go out at day time . Very thoughtful video keep up the great work
This is pretty much true! And I really feel like this trap is a very intentional product of media. Music and television, movies. They create a very aesthetic world around these archetypes. And when you identify with some of the pains behind the people on tv/movies/music/social media who portray these archetypes, it’s like you make it apart of your identity to cope. But it’s a bad coping mechanism
I used to spend my life sleeping through the day and playing World of Warcraft throughout the night and getting some Uber Eats pizza at like 12:00am. I was a complete hermit. I would never go outside, except for when I went to work to support my shitty lifestyle.
About a year later, I'm in my own apartment, sold my gaming PC and going out more than ever before. I used to think I was just depressed and my lifestyle was some weird way of punishing myself. Weridest thing is, I sometimes think about my life back then and I miss it. Like, I was pretty close to getting a new gaming PC and moving out, just so I can live that lifestyle again.
Everything you said on this video deeply resonated with me.
Tbh people are just lonely.
personally, this is one my favourite videos you’ve made. too real man. thank you so much for this.
I'm probably not in the age nor gender bracket of your usual audience but I loved this video so much because of how honest ans straighg forward it was. I was in a similar position, I was depressed for a long time but i also fetishized it. I loved being the sad girl that shit posts online, I made up this whole manic pixie damaged dream girl persona that's introverted and hates people for myself and it didn't lead me anywhere i actually want to go. I drank my sorrows away smoked my mind away and just wallowed in that pit of despair. I also almost gave myself an eating disorder I Thankfully, there was this part of me that didn't wanna waste my life and I managed to actually pull a master's off and work and get by and actually grow up and realize that (as long as it is possible) you can get better if you want to get better. You Don't have to make the greatest improvements right away but you gotta start somewhere.
Keep up the good work, many young boys need this
am i the only one who used to smoke weed for self harm? every experience i had with it was bad, my traumas were reminded and realized fully. it made me very depressed to be myself, but at the same time i had a constant flow of good feelings from weed going through me. and because it was the only thing that made me so happy, i think i kept turning back to it because i was addicted. this really messed me up because before i started smoking weed i was actually pretty content with myself, i did suffer from depression and anxiety but not to the extent i do now. its been a few years since i smoked it, and it still feels like this slight negative feeling doesnt leave the present.
I feel like we all can relate to this video in a certain aspect or the other. We all have had this "idea" in our head and unhealthily fetishized over them to be perceived a certain way either by yourself and/or others. I like this video as it helped me and im sure a lot more people self-reflect over their present or past self.
Man I just found your channel and you are one of my most favourite channels on yt ❤
Honestly, hella right mindset is literally everything but the hardest part is like turning it into action
every time i feel down on my luck i watch this video. one of the most succinct ways ive ever heard it put
"this isnt meant to be a self improvement video" this has done more to convince myself to improve than anything else
Ive been thinking about this exact thing recently. Gattsu coming in clutch
Holy shit. You did it Gattsu - you came up with the perfect hypothesis for why my roommate is such a piece of garbage loser!
I feel so validated lmao
Channel getting big finally 🫡
The whole "literally me" crowd are insufferable but I didn't think they were relating to these characters as being losers who suffer like them but more like they think they're the most superior beings ever, who are always right and untouchable. Patrick Bateman, Vergil from Devil May Cry, Guts from Berserk, that Russia bodybuilder named Ernest, etc.
Dude, Gattsu we need more Videos like this.
The "sigma" & "chad" things are motives of joke!
gattsu, been down this road, ur a g for putting this out there. i have could relate to every word and i’m glad u had the courage to say it, cuz it does sound cringe but it’s the truth
Interesting how I'm doing the opposite of this and I'm using characters from other media to make myself better and to learn more. This started when I started reading through berserk and the main character is a fucking horrible person, but he always tries to do better and over the series he makes a lot of progress. I've made a lot of progress too because I was inspired by what I was reading to make myself better by working out daily and making more friends with people and its going really good.
glorifying being a smoker made it harder to quit, I fucking loved waking up, going a safe distance away from people who know my parents, putting on some Kino and smoking cigarette after cigarette day after day, then i got my tonsils out and smoking literally hurt, then i realized all this
Your right, i used to fantasize about being the lonely skinny sleep deprived teenager who can't talk to people and i was very cringe ngl. I used to say that i hate it but looking back at it now i definitely didn't and i had so many opportunities to stop being that way but i wasn't motivated enough to actually do it. Plus i was surrounded by internet content that fetishize that type of lifestyle so I didn't see it like a problem at all.
Wow. Great take. I fell The same way after fighting with my depression for several years.
Hell yeah, Gattsu down with the AxCx.
I am too old to be watching this channel. This is good advice for young men. I really recommend curbing drinking, having crazy party stories is lame af when you are older. It didn't enhance my life. Always be doing something worthwhile. Do not waste your time. "Youth is wasted on the young" is true; take advantage of it. Don't be the guy that pulls his head out of his butt at 30 - that's 10 years wasted. Don't put off things until tomorrow.
It is also lame when you buy a house later in life and think "man, I must have spent at least $10k on weed". It would be more advantageous to simply have that $10k or do something with it that is tangible.
I had a mental health crises when I realised wanted to stay sad cause I enjoyed it. Thanks for putting a years worth of fragmented thoughts into one video 🍻