Ask Nick - Dating My Boyfriend’s Mom | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

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  • Опубліковано 12 тра 2024
  • Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We start off by keeping the wedding mood going, and play a game of ‘I do, or I object’. Then we get to our callers…
    Our first caller is recently single and is struggling to get over her ex’s comments about her body. She knows her ex was in the wrong, but it's easier said than done to forget without closure. Our second caller feels like she’s in a love triangle with her boyfriend’s mom. After a complicated work situation and weird comments from her boyfriend’s mom… it's clear that she is unwanted. Our final caller is struggling from a past relationship, where he was cheated on. He has a newfound love interest, so how should he go about being vulnerable without pushing himself away.
    “How do you feel about yourself, you’ve got to remember that… That’s really all that matters.”
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 78

  • @ashleymarcotte
    @ashleymarcotte 21 день тому +25

    The carpet bunched up is KILLING me. Can we please fix it 😂😂😂

  • @graceekalinowski
    @graceekalinowski 18 днів тому +6

    The first caller Jesus took the whole episode

  • @teagangeorge4372
    @teagangeorge4372 21 день тому +38

    WHY did this need to be 2 hours... I fast forwarded through the first caller so many times because it was just Nick going on and on

    • @resolute01769
      @resolute01769 21 день тому +9

      That’s what he does with the callers. Caller repeats and Nick repeats.

    • @chismewithmel9850
      @chismewithmel9850 21 день тому +12

      He’s always done that but recently it’s starting to feel like the conversation is being dragged longer than it needs to be and he repeats himself a lot.

    • @resolute01769
      @resolute01769 21 день тому

      @@chismewithmel9850 correct. I stopped listening to the caller portions now or skip Mondays altogether.

    • @mmeshke
      @mmeshke 20 днів тому +2

      That was the worst!! Talk about beating a dead horse.

    • @mrsjessicasmith
      @mrsjessicasmith 20 днів тому +3

      I agree. This was the firs time I FFed through a callers advice. It went on way too long.

  • @ningyding
    @ningyding 21 день тому +27

    Caller 1, let me try to address your problem since Nick seemed to get lost in his own thoughts about career ambition…
    Your ex proved to be more into your boobs than into you as a person. That is VERY disappointing. But it doesn’t mean that you have lost value because you got a breast reduction. If anything, you have downsized the thing that attracts superficial idiots like him. Keep going with you head held high. That guy is the boob. You are very young and guys your age are likely to be immature. Keep your eyes open and give it time. I’m proud of you for shutting that relationship down the moment he revealed himself to be so hurtful and shallow!

  • @user-xk9po3hr4t
    @user-xk9po3hr4t 19 днів тому +2

    The hurt in your first callers could r broke my heart when talking about her Dad. I lost my parents in 2022 and world happy to be a support for that caller if she needs it!

  • @sashaalexa8518
    @sashaalexa8518 20 днів тому +7

    i don’t know the full story behind the vendor, but i would use your platform to highlight & amplify the vendors that did a stellar job instead of using it to disparage the ones that didn’t - you don’t want to put them out of business, but you might wanna leave a review to inform future customers & that’s the difference 🙏

  • @BurkstonLodgeCEO
    @BurkstonLodgeCEO 21 день тому +25

    I think a good barometer for whether you should speak out publicly about a negative experience with a vendor, is to ask yourself if my bad review led them to be put them out of business, would I be ok with that? Was this vendor so bad that they should not be operating? If it wasn’t THAT level of bad, then I would just move on and not recommend them to people.

    • @mrsjessicasmith
      @mrsjessicasmith 20 днів тому +1

      I read reviews for so many things before purchasing... I think people would like to hear real experiences clients have had before choosing a vendor.

    • @assyrianprincess3
      @assyrianprincess3 20 днів тому +3

      The hairstylist 100% deserves to lose business he showed up drunk with his pants down and was cursing out the bride and groom, and then passed out under a tree

    • @sab72794
      @sab72794 20 днів тому +2

      @@mrsjessicasmithdefinitely but to use a platform so large to call someone out if it isn’t an offense that ruined their wedding or not delivering on promised services is overkill (sounds like this 2nd vendor they’re upset with didn’t do either and he’s just mad after the fact, I think the hair stylist deserved to be called out). They could just write a review on google or the knot like the rest of us instead of using their social media or podcast and potentially ruining someone’s business lol

    • @BurkstonLodgeCEO
      @BurkstonLodgeCEO 20 днів тому +1

      Yep, my thoughts exactly!

  • @marissamorales7537
    @marissamorales7537 21 день тому +14

    When a snake bites us, do we go chase it and ask why it bit us? No. We go attend to the wound. I hope the first caller heals ❤

    • @user-fe4fh5bx5b
      @user-fe4fh5bx5b 21 день тому +1

      i’m sending all my love to her, too. whew.

  • @catherineritch6241
    @catherineritch6241 20 днів тому +3

    The Best Revenge is living well.
    -Dr. Phil

  • @sashaalexa8518
    @sashaalexa8518 20 днів тому +4

    caller #1 starts at 23:30

  • @elizabeth3007
    @elizabeth3007 21 день тому +9

    If Nick speaks out too strongly against his vendors, I would worry they would go after him for defamation or slander. It seems like someone would take advantage to go after him legally if given the opportunity.

    • @resolute01769
      @resolute01769 21 день тому +2

      Exactly it’s no secret it’s the video/photographer he’s been hinting at on multiple shows. Also there’s a contract just follow it and move on.

    • @mrsjessicasmith
      @mrsjessicasmith 20 днів тому

      @@resolute01769 He signed the contracts. He should have known exactly what he was getting.

    • @assyrianprincess3
      @assyrianprincess3 20 днів тому +1

      I watch enough Judge Judy to know that it's not defamation or slander. This is America where we have the first amendment, if you went to someone for business and you were dissatisfied with their business, you have every right to state that you were dissatisfied with their business. It would only be slander or defamation if you said things that were untrue or fabricated within intent to ruin them. It's one thing if I said "I didn't like the way this hairstylist did my hair." & "I didn't like the way this woman did my hair and she's a crackhead."

  • @connie0613
    @connie0613 21 день тому +5

    Yaaa, 4:00 mark, my own personal philosophy is if you have nothing good to say, don’t say it

  • @sighswoons
    @sighswoons 20 днів тому +7

    why would you live to work lol...

    • @nafafonafafofo
      @nafafonafafofo 20 днів тому

      Obviously a figure of speech. She basically is saying that she has very little free time because her life is consumed by her career.

    • @Kloves818
      @Kloves818 20 днів тому

      Some people choose careers based on what they love while others choose them as a means to do the things they love.

  • @stack.attack27
    @stack.attack27 21 день тому +4

    That mom is horrible. Saying that the girlfriend is using her SA to take her son away from her....absolutely delusional and crontrolling. How can a woman be so cold to another woman

  • @joanne8084
    @joanne8084 19 днів тому +3

    I think it’s weird they expected companies to do things for free and then they’ll tag them… like these people have more money than most people, why should they get shit for free when they’re people who obviously can afford it.

  • @TheFrancoPhiler
    @TheFrancoPhiler 11 днів тому

    Ok but kind of props to Nick’s wedding videographer holding the footage hostage 😂

  • @kimberlyzukowsky9912
    @kimberlyzukowsky9912 21 день тому +13

    I feel like you and Natalie should do a wedding episode catered to things to watch out for/information for brides-to-be. That way you could throw shade towards specific vendors without the possible repercussions of defamation. Suggesting things to watch out for in contracts, questions to ask to limit potential confusion, and stuff like that! :)

  • @nafafonafafofo
    @nafafonafafofo 20 днів тому +1

    Around 1:39:00 when Nick says “just know that you have my back” 😂

  • @AS-gf8io
    @AS-gf8io 21 день тому +4

    Love you guys so much, you guys get me through my work day!! Keep being amazing and I appreciate you guys with your wise words and advice.

  • @lauramoor7730
    @lauramoor7730 21 день тому

    I’ve seen so many weddings on TV and on UA-cam and the most beautiful wedding I’ve ever seen is the wedding from Shane and rock. It was so beautiful and the dance that they made in the middle of the floor with the lighting and the fire bombs and everything it was the most beautiful wedding I’ve ever seen.

  • @maydaze5934
    @maydaze5934 21 день тому +5

    Sorry but caller will never experience a healthy relationship and neither will he until the set stronger boundaries or cut contact. 1:29:49

  • @fhay1
    @fhay1 20 днів тому +5

    With all due respect, Nick really has to quit interrupting and speaking over people. 3 producers have mics, and he spoke over all over them and cut them off

  • @juicie25bt
    @juicie25bt 19 днів тому +1

    Wowwa, this episode trigger every part of my life...first, I want to say that u gave very sound advice to both callers. Second, I can totally relate to caller #3. I was a very late bloomer (according to standards today) to intimacy (22yrs old heterosexual) & my very first boyfriend gave me HIV. I never got married or had children. I did meet a guys that I told & we dated for awhile, but haven't been with anyone since. I'm 65 now & speaking from experience it is harder to tell a guy than it was to tell my parents. I did tell 2 other guys cuz I have to tell them once we're gonna b intimate & they ghosted me so fast my head spun. I've basically given up on relationships all together. I hope caller #3 gives his interest a chance bcuz I can tell u in the straight world guys will run. I wish him so much luck & happiness. 🙏✨️💞

  • @TaraBoblitt
    @TaraBoblitt 21 день тому +3

    There were blue flowers there, good to go!

  • @ebstudio9525
    @ebstudio9525 18 днів тому +1

    First caller: who cares what this guy says? You know youre beautiful and anything anyone says reflects on them not you. PS NAME THE VENDOR! 🔥

  • @AmberFox-if5ne
    @AmberFox-if5ne 21 день тому +4

    I was just eating cut up fruit thinking about you 🥰

  • @caseyflemming6257
    @caseyflemming6257 20 днів тому +2

    Idk if my bfs mom basically accused me of lying about my SA for attention… i would feel like that’s unforgivable. What a toxic gross person. Honestly just bc shes family doesn’t mean shit. Shes way better off without being involved in the moms toxicity.

  • @jennyonthecoast
    @jennyonthecoast 21 день тому +17

    Nick calling out the vendor is like his callers putting their ex on blast. It sounds like ego

    • @lauramoor7730
      @lauramoor7730 21 день тому +3

      You couldn’t be more wrong. One thing has nothing to do with other. It’s like saying that about everything in life that means that you would never have a voice in life. That’s so stupid comment.

    • @mrsjessicasmith
      @mrsjessicasmith 20 днів тому

      @@lauramoor7730 I don't know, I think his ego is a little bruised they didn't want to offer up their services in exchange for promotion.

    • @cristinacendejas5094
      @cristinacendejas5094 20 днів тому +3

      Disagree.
      If someone could save you thousands of dollars, tons of stress, and heartache on your wedding day by warning you about a vendor in a objective manner, wouldn’t you want to know?
      Yes.

    • @lauramoor7730
      @lauramoor7730 20 днів тому

      @@cristinacendejas5094 exactly

  • @lauramoor7730
    @lauramoor7730 21 день тому

    Nick, I understand what you said about. They don’t need your business again however my friend is in the bridal business and trust and believe it really matters that they do outstanding job even though you don’t tire them again just for the reputation because otherwise nobody gonna hire their company again, so it really matters that the client is really happy. It has nothing to do with hiring them again or not it has to do with what happened after you’re done with the next person.

  • @ryleemeyer3170
    @ryleemeyer3170 21 день тому +1

    NAME THEM NICK

  • @lizcrocker7465
    @lizcrocker7465 20 днів тому

    Nick what would tell a client if ypu were their therapist? I say just call out the good!

  • @tamilee9462
    @tamilee9462 21 день тому +1

    Who is the chick that always with. I thought it was Natalie!!

  • @catherineritch6241
    @catherineritch6241 20 днів тому

    Meditation daily helps to control your thoughts❤

  • @valeriemartinez7146
    @valeriemartinez7146 21 день тому

    I 💯 believe that you should share your good and bad experiences. You owe it to your public audience. If shoe was on the other foot, you would want to know if a vendor were bad in order to not hire. If you knew ahead of time you wouldn’t have hired them and in the end you would have had a better weeding experience.

  • @NickiNinja111
    @NickiNinja111 20 днів тому

    I feel so bad for the second caller. Imagine when her and her bf have kids. It’s only gonna get worse 😬

  • @peidan86
    @peidan86 19 днів тому

    ‘My boyfriend’s mom doesn’t like me’ = needs therapy for people in their 20s these days. Wow.

  • @claudiapawlak6894
    @claudiapawlak6894 21 день тому

    What is the reason to the season ? Criticism is constructive . The Barbie & Ken world . What happened to happiness in a relationship ? When he looses his pants & she is pregnant how many times ! Providing for a family is a problem for some people. When your young , clothes are different . Weddings are an expense . The poverty is camouflaged . How hot is a relationship ? Is there jealousy in clothes & a hot couple ? Get accused when marijuana is thrown at you or put in your nose . Jealousy is the villain !

  • @ningyding
    @ningyding 21 день тому +3

    I think you have the power to share who f-ed up their opportunity to impress you, and you should. They used their power over you when they had the chance, so in my mind you have the same right! Especially if they are holding you videos or other memories hostage to coerce you into tagging them (I’m reading between the lines). Make sure you won’t get sued first tho!

    • @brc9219
      @brc9219 21 день тому +2

      considering theyve added roughly 6 billion photos and videos, i dont think its their photog/videographer hahah

    • @candy07831
      @candy07831 20 днів тому

      @@brc9219It is the videographer though…

  • @dzam23
    @dzam23 21 день тому +1

    I think y’all should said who the vendor is on viall files plus so us listeners will know who not use. I think it will be helpful since my stepdaughter is getting marry next year and there is so much planning to do.

  • @cindicleee
    @cindicleee 17 днів тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @rtidball5650
    @rtidball5650 19 днів тому

    She was dancing with her boyfriend all night who cares that the mom danced with her son serious jealousy and clearly immature

  • @rtidball5650
    @rtidball5650 19 днів тому

    Boring callers sad about the aids guy but it was bizarre

  • @julieta26100
    @julieta26100 21 день тому +5

    In my opinion, Nick and Natalie should list the type of vendors they hired. If they would work with them again, name them and recommend them. If there are holes where a vendor didn’t get named then the audience will know without having the risk causing any true harm to the vendors business.

  • @jackiethornton15
    @jackiethornton15 21 день тому +22

    Nick with calling out the vendors he wouldn’t work with again. This man really thinks he is something special.

    • @kneemac8668
      @kneemac8668 21 день тому +3

      Is it just me or is it obvious he is talking about his photographer? He said something about it greatly impacting how they are able to share their wedding experience with their audience...

    • @ameliaazer5846
      @ameliaazer5846 21 день тому +11

      @@kneemac8668he mentioned he loved his photographer Sarah. I think he’s talking about his videographer

    • @blakeclancy7741
      @blakeclancy7741 21 день тому +10

      It is an objective fact that he has a large following. He doesn't need to think he's something special to acknowledge that.

    • @tarenmiller4178
      @tarenmiller4178 21 день тому +7

      What a weird way to look at it. Nick is being thoughtful and considerate in the situation (mores than I think anyone else would be in his position) because he has an enormous following and he knows if he speaks negatively about a vendor it will reach a large number of people and possibly affect their business. In my opinion he has every right to share his opinion about the vendors. We as listeners are interested in his and Natalie's experience.

    • @rebelseer3691
      @rebelseer3691 20 днів тому

      The hair stylist's name was in the People article on the wedding.