Let's talk about dying - Peter Saul
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- Опубліковано 8 чер 2013
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We can't control if we'll die, but we can "occupy death," in the words of Dr. Peter Saul. He calls on us to make clear our preferences for end of life care -- and suggests two questions for starting the conversation. (Filmed at TEDxNewy.)
Talk by Peter Saul.
I’ve been having panic attacks around dying lately I’m only 24
Same
Same.
I’m 16 and always thinking about it, scared of my parents dying, scared of everything i know just disappearing
I'm only 13
@@ayaansarwar8282 Don't worry about it. We'll all be dead forEVER
I just turned 19 and I have been experiencing panic attacks lately. I am scared of the inevitability of death.
I’m 19 as well and I experience the same thing, I’ve been talking about death to everyone and my therapist
The fear comes from the unknown, but what’s more powerful than that is the knowing. And the freedom of inevitability
im 19 aswell and i suffer the same thing since kindergarten. idk how to cope with that and I'm trying to figure it out
If you live in America its no wonder! Other countries have a much better perspective on spirit energy
I’m only 11, but I think I have a good grasp on death. I think it’s not good to think about dying and worrying about it. I mean it happens to everyone, it’s best to enjoy the time you have on this earth before it’s over.
I don't think its so much that death pisses me off, its more like it pisses me off that the world will keep going without me.
Selfish I know.
me too!
Super selfish. But if it makes you feel better, you won't even realize it once you're dead
A philosophical FOMO
Take comfort in knowing that the simple realization of a personal flaw is a vital step to personal growth. Being you said this 7 years ago, you may not be with us anymore, or you've probably learned this lesson....or maybe not?
Only thing that saddens me having young children is leaving this earth before I could see them become adults and how their lives turned out, ....also without me being here to guide them. I lay awake hours thinking on that one
People should talk/ponder about Death more often...
I do every night
Eternal destination, so yes this should be pondered!
If you do people think you’re crazy or that you’re thinking of killing your self. It’s a eerie topic to discuss intellectually
ppl are too pusy and call u negative for it
Yes
very very important to face and figure out this while you still can. believe me, I have been sick for 17 years.
I don't want to like this because there's exactly seventeen likes
I hope you’re doing well
I hope you’re okay, if you need help let me know.
I hope you are okay, Leah ❤️
How are you doing now?
Terrified of death.. Just thinking about it makes me sad, because I can't imagine nothing. There is always tought, feeling, desire for something while alive..
Many years ago I was depressed because I feared death, I was trying to imagine what's nothingness, and that scared me in an unimaginable way, and made me severely depressed, after days and days, maybe weeks (I don't know how much that lasted, I lost the notion of time), of thinking about this from waking up to falling asleep, basically constantly only thinking about this for days and days.
A thought comforted me and made me feel at peace and be able to live my life as before, happily, and that thought was that, I'm alive now, I'm conscious now, I don't know what consciousness is, i don't know why my consciousness is in this particular body, this particular brain, or basically not knowing anything, but I know that I exist, that I think, and before I was alive, conscious, I didn't existed, or maybe I was, but eventually i died and re-emerged, but after I will die in this life, I will not exist again, so there will be the same conditions before I was born, and since the universe also came out of nothing seemingly, and time as well, even after the universe might die, there could be many universes, and many that might just come to exist, so basically if the same conditions will be met before I was born, and I don't think there's something that keeps track of what consciousness emerged and died (you see what I'm getting at), what would prevent my consciousness from re-emerging eventually ?
However recently probably because of this pandemic and isolation, I guess I forgot that chain of thought and started to be depressed again, I had a fear of death, it wasn't not even 2% as crippling or bad as before, but still the thought is there again, I was trying to imagine that, anything I do in this life won't matter and maybe I won't re-emerge, and that not existing again that thought is terrifying.
Now I feel in sort of limbo, not super depressed but not my normal mood where I can just be happy and not think about it, I'd say 95% of the day I think about day to day and am able to be happy, and 5% or less are thoughts of my mortality.
The problem is that all of it makes sense to me, that the conditions will be the same before my consciousness emerged so there's nothing that holds my consciousness back to re-emerge, basically live again in another form, and not to mention that everything that exists will always exist, in other forms, there's also the idea that energy cannot be created or destroyed, matter can, there's matter and antimatter, when they collide, they stop being matter, but it doesn't disappear, it becomes energy, so in a sense, the universe is just this energy that will always exist in one way or the other and there might be other universes, basically this energy is some sort of "god", even that name means nothing to me, I can only convince myself to believe something if I see it, experience it.
So for now it's a terrifying thought, it makes sense that I will live again in some form or way, from but since I never experienced it, it's still an unknown to me and it is scary, and I can only assume it will become more scary as I grow older. I hope that my mind will become less sharp and I will forget these thoughts.
One thing is certain, there is nothing I can do about it, if I fear it, it will not change anything, so the choice is between, live in fear, unhappy, or live happily and not think about it, but lately I did start to think about it again.
This is the reason I didn't want to have kids but now maybe I wanna, I was thinking they will be doomed to death, but maybe it's a conscious that existed before and I will re-emerge them, or maybe there's just one consciousness (you/me), and "we' live parallel to each other, everyone's lives, which is basically just one consciousness interacting with itself, but without knowing, in parallel. So I would give life to myself, I'd re-emerge another life for myself.
I don't have strong conclusions tbh, I have an intuition that we will live over and over but I never experienced it, or maybe i have and I don't know. Everything about existence is hard for me to understand, I should say, it's impossible for me to understand, there are some concepts that are just out of reach to my mind and I know I will and we will never be able to understand them.
I really enjoyed reading your thoughts. Well, not you being depressed.
I've read this while being crippled by the fear of death. I can't do much, but I can let you know that you are not suffering alone.
@@burcufiliz8925 same
Lmao how many lines of coke was put in to this?
Nothing comes from nothing.
This is such an important message! I definitely don't want to die in a hospital of old age but at home surrounded by family anf familiar comforts
That's all well and good but what about the afterlife?! The first thing you should be doing is making sure you have one! The rest of what your saying means nothing without it!
I honestly just don't want to die, every single scenario of death, painfull or not it makes me panic
@@dommidavros2211 how do you know there is afterlife?
@@idontknowhoiam6758 How do you know there isn't one
God bless you and your family 🙏, my father had cancer but 🤔 he wanted to be home 🏠 on Christmas day '91 & left the hospital AMA to come home and passed away that day...
I have learned that I have lung cancer but I don't want to go through the treatments since I am old sixty five years old and, I have no friends or family members and I am homless now so I am going to let God take me home 🏠 and then be there with my mom and dad ☮️🙏🌎
God bless you all 🙏
@@user-ex4si2md6r Bless you sir
How are you doing now sir?
My deepest prayers
@@gaylemalone5897 that is very nice of you and I love you all ❤️
it’s amazing how the audience laughs when they realize how dreadful the conversations is getting which shows how we can still enjoy mortality
Humans laugh to cope with fear. It was a good moment of relief for everyone
TRUE THE MORTALITY PART WAS THE ONY HIT YOUR CONVERSATION. JUDGING FROM THE LAUGHTER OF THE AUDIENCE.
The audience laughs to build rapport with the presenter.
2 words that scare me the most, Nothing, and Forever. Combine them both and it's my biggest fear.
Nothing doesn't scare me half as much as forever. The latter sounds terrible!
That's our "future"...
@@bixou22002 Yep 🙄
Nothing lasts forever
i like how he's chuckling as well as the audience its nice to see people bond like this over the idea of death
I am struggling with obsessive toughts about death and started to watch tv show about hospitals where death is always one of the principal caracters. Like the last sentences of this video, it brings acceptance of the fact that the death exists but it also gives me the feeling that every life matters and our death doesn`t men that all is in vain
Man... This life truly trippes me out!
"Longevity means more old age, not more youth."
Not necessarily. Many researchers are working on combating aging. The result is both longevity AND more youth. Search for Aubrey De Greys ted talk.
@@maxwow2461 Not in our lifetime. But maybe the next few generations down
@@patstaysuckafreeboss8006 Maybe maybe. But isn't it worth a shot? We have nothing to lose and all to gain. If we do nothing we are guaranteed nothing, but if we give it our best effort we will increase the likelihood of curing aging within our lifetime.
@@maxwow2461 Of course it's worth a shot and I'm all for reverse aging. I'm just not very confident I'll see it in my lifetime, if I'm lucky I got like 45 years left
@@patstaysuckafreeboss8006 depends how old you are millennials and gen z are probably immortal
I hope I die peacefully in sleep and soon. I am fear of my family dying around me. I am not sure why I fear death, maybe is the existence that I will miss
You okay?
you will not miss anything. the world vanishes as well.
I don't fear death, I'm actually curious to know what happens after death so I wouldn't mind dying anytime, but my family will be sad, that's why death scares me
@@jayantzalki8039 i respect that
@@simplybuyer1 thanks :)
I’m just 16 and I can’t sleep at night because the thought of death terrifies me. I hate fearing it and I hate knowing that it’s gonna happen.
I love life more after watching this
“People wanna go to heaven.” But people don’t wanna die”
aok
aok
@@thomasleffew3290 what does aok mean?
meaning s causes reaction s
possibilities and possibilities are different
im deathly scared of death.
Hard to believe a few hundred years ago I'd be at the end of my life
I cannot imagine working in intensive care. Thank you for what you do.
I'm scared of not existing anymore... but i have been non existent longer than I will have existed... which is crazy to think about, really.
Man, I really just don't want to die. And thats crazy to think about, too, cause I used to be suicidal. Now, id do anything to live forever...
Same
Make a hocrux 😏
Forbid someone who's in utter pain and can barely function wants to have euthanasia rather to slowly suffering and withering away into nothing, or possibly even having a living body but not a living mind.
@The fastest milkman in the West of course, but the danger is that vulnerable people who didn't really want to die would be guilt-tripped into it by family members who want their money - love your username btw!
I've got Queen stuck in my head: "...Who wants to live forever?..." I don't. I want to live as long as I can while I have a reasonably good quality of life. I have talked about this with my fiance' and dad and it's a hard talk, but something that everything should do.
Definitely death isnt bad or good. Who knows their might be an afterlife dont have to be religious to believe in it.
This is so helpful my husband is dying of weak heart and failing kidneys and he was given a choice to make the decision and was respected I live in BC and I am grateful we are doing what you suggested was helpful to me
I see what you mean, and it's comforting words. I would like to always think like that. but since the single outcome of it all is death, you start to questioning the value of it all. This is as I said earlier a very sensitive subject, and I guess everyone have to find their own peace with it, and accept it. I have a hard time accepting it though.
You figured it out yet?
I'd also like to know if you've figured it out yet.
It’s been nine years, friend. Hope you’re well.
what an important video and discussion! i cannot believe the comments here. im caring for my father on hospice for two years. he is about to die. believe me, i would not allow him to die in the hell of intensive care..ever!!
my mom died there. i have only trauma since . blessings to you and your father . love from here
I hope you're doing OK now, I lost my wonderful dad 3 months ago and now my equally wonderful mum is dying from lung cancer. I'm caring for my mother, I don't think many people can appreciate how hard it is caring for a parent at the end of their life, you did an amazing thing caring for him. When my time comes I hope I can choose to take my own life when the time feels right there's so much unnecessary suffering at the end from what I've experienced.
Yes , I had to beg the hospital for a side room for my father so he could die with some dignity . So many things were just wrong when my was dying , if it wasn't for this one nurse who listened to my pleas and thought beyond hospital rules my dad would have passed away in a ward of 7 other people , some of which were complaining of his death rattle .
Personally I really don't want to die. For me personally, there seems to be nothing worse than being nothing.
i feel the exact same and i am terrified
It's the love and memories that you can leave behind.Leave all this behind and you won't be nothing.
Just read about Jesus Christ, you might be surprised with what happens :)
@@eddiesid1149 what is left behind is beautiful, and it certainly does propel many to go about their day. But some of us simply can’t comprehend the thought of infinite nothingness. What does this matter to you if you left behind a loving family, you are not there to witness it, to even process it. And infinity is so horrifyingly large that the memories you leave behind will simply be eroded in a fraction of it. Even the greatest minds of history now only belong in the history books, and so many more have already been lost. Simply put, mortality is a numbers game and you can’t outbid infinity.
@@mariafernandanunez4288 with all due respect, I’m not interested in a religion where there’s a possibility i get send to a place of infinite punishment for my finite “crimes”
This talk is quite amazing. I did a random search and this talk popped up. Here I am just having come back from visiting my 97 yr old Mum who has had yet another fall and undergone treatment. It breaks my heart to see her condition deteriorate. It's as though we are watching her die in slow motion and are helpless in so many respects.
I pray that our merciful God will take her peacefully. I was really hoping that this talk could go on much longer as the subject is so relevant to us and stopped just short of giving us some coping skills.
I have often pondered that the precise day that a child is born can be predicted fairly accurately but the how and when death comes knocking is such a mysterious and traumatic event. It's almost a flaw by design?
This is so important to hear. And he's also humourous (where appropriate).
So true. I want to know what happens after I'm gone! Like what humanity's fate will be in the future. It's so sad that I'll never know.
I have accepted death, and then rejected it. Death is not for me, will find a way around it.
Ongoing research Nicole, but one must set a standard then strive towards it. My research has lead me to Telemere capping through resveratrol, optimal nutrition and hydration, minimul exposure to additives and non-organic compounds, light daily exercise. Medicine is advancing quickly and there will be a point where lifespans increase exponentially. Just gotta keep young and fit and follow progress closely.
Ryan Jackson-Saw you still won't be immortal
Lol everyone dies. Queen Elizabeth the most powerful woman in the world during her reign tried her best to stop death. Still died. Same with the first Chinese emperor. In fact the first Chinese emperor who commanded millions drank an 'immortality' elixir which turned out to me Mercury, highly toxic to the body. Everyone dies. But eating healthy, exercising, being fit, surrounded by friends, happy, those things can prolong your life.
Lol good luck dude
When the time comes theres no way around it
very well said, sir.
I was absolutely with him on everything until he spoke about Euthanasia. How can he be opposed to it when he immediately says "I do think most people want to have some control over how their dying process procedes" right after disapproving of it?
This is precisely what Euthanasia is for. Giving dying patients the option to end their own lives in a controlled, safe manner.
I thought Euthanasia was when somebody decides to end their life?
+Sam Keller If nothing goes wrong and you don't end up a vegetable.
twtealio
Yes. Euthanasia is the choice of a suffering and terminally ill person to end their life. I have watched docs on the subject, it is peaceful. The people who choose it are happy in the knowledge that they control the manner of their death.
The process by and large is as follows. The patient gives their consent to the procedure and a date is set.
On the day the physician again confirms that this is indeed what the patient wants.
If the answer is still yes then the process begins.
First a pain killer is administered to take away any pain the patient may currently be experiencing. Second a tranquilizer is administered to render the patient unconscious. Finally a lethal medication is administered to stop the heart and cause death. Its no different really than dying in your sleep. Imo as peaceful as death can be made to happen.
I myself will choose this option if I ever have a disease that is terminal and untreatable. No one should tell you when or how you are allowed to die. That is a supremely personal right which is your choice alone to make.
Agreed. I think after age eighteen that anyone should be able to decid de if they want a permanent departure from life. With the way this Earth is being overrun with people there will always be plenty of extras to take anyone's place.
Jack, I don't agree. Many times depression and suicidal thoughts can be a temporary thing. I don't want someone who is depressed and suicidal making a decision to end their life when there very well might be better days for them. Trust me I am well experienced with this. We should always discourage suicide and make it harder to do, just my opinion. We only get one shot at this thing called life.
Just make your mark in the best way you can and it does get a little easier when it comes to thinking about your own death. Be part of something and be somebody, even if you do fear death a lot, you can at least get some peace from what you have done while you were here, and how many people you have touched, doing one thing for someone can change their life forever.
Also contemplate your existence, work out the odds of you existing in the first place and how lucky you are to exist at all. :)
HelpmelamEnglish Thanks bro.
Thanks
thank u
Thank you so much!! Wished I knew how to ask the right questions before my dad left this world!!! Like you said it’s a cultural thing that we don’t know how to ask
The most interesting thing to me, about death, we STILL don't know where our energy goes....
Death doesn't scare me. It's what's after death that does
I'm constantly terrified by it, not of death itself but of the choices I've made and the ones I'll never be able to make. We are frail beings in a very hostile universe.
Yes, me too. The choices I've made haven't always been for the best for me or for others. Sometimes they were. I think that's what bothers me the most. I'm 56 and don't know how much time I have. I'd like to do something positive and have an impact before the picture show ends
I don't think we should be worrying about death in itself as its a natural thing to go through.
I think we should be more worried about the process leading up to death, and this all varies depending on which way you die. If its a slow and painful death, sure it's gonna be terrifying. But if its a quick or peaceful slow death, definitely not.
If we look at death as being this void of emptiness, our mind is going to make it look worse than it actually is, as its incomprehensible to the human brain. It's quite frankly the polar opposite of what life represents, so of course it's going to be very tough to think about.
Also, if it's a natural death, I believe there are chemicals in the brain that can render the way you feel about it. Really nothing to worry about.
If u spend all time worrying about death you will never get to enjoy being alive
Bloody Brilliant.
I think people who are against euthanasia should mind their business. If a person has made a mess of their lives and it becomes something you are ashamed of, then it should be that persons right to choose death if they want it.
I like the youth in Asia
Confused; they could've had a great life yet have a painful tumor and decide to end it ...
That is me ,
Never been useful for anyone in my life .
I may have cirrhosis and Have no plans about treating it but these talks have been really helping me with my eventual death
Hmm, 4 months ago, they found a small mass in my liver. I as well, have no plans to even biopsy the mass, much less aggressive treatment.
Peter Saul simply wants us to help make ethical and moral dilemmas for providers, families, and patients easier to work through. Very often their are situations where the dilemma can not truly be taxing on family or the providers moral and ethical values, depending on the situation of the patient. Having a thought out plan of what kind of treatment and whether or not you want certain treatments could actually be a very simple way to ensure everyone doesn't come to a dilemma at all. In a situation the core idea is to not undermine the patients autonomy and make sure they get what they want out the last parts of their life. If a situation arouse such as a sudden illness that put a patient in a comma and they don't have the ability to decide, then all the stress and power relies on the family, many problems could obviously stem from determining who makes the final decisions. What you would do in that situation may be different than what the patient may actually want, based on our individual beliefs. So considering have a set established plan could really benefit everyone by putting the patients values first.
I'm so late to this but this is what I needed so many people I can relate to. I too fear death I mean it just sucks how we get to live only a couple years and then for all of the rest of eternity it's just nothing. I really like living and it's sad one day I won't be able to hangout with friends or family, to play video games, waiting for a season 2 of my favourite anime. These are all the reasons I don't ever want to die and the fear of death just won't leave me alone it practically plagues my everyday life. I hope I am able to find peace in death eventually.
I'm basically you. If I had learned about death at a younger age. I would put more effort into myself. Now I have to at thr time where I'm at. I'm just like you brother. I want my friends. My anime. Only thing I tell myself that it's only fair because people born before me had to fie and didn't get to do what I'm doing. The least i can do is accept that I to will die
@@EpicTacoSenpai i love this thought process. Im just like you, i enjoy hanging out with friends, watching anime etc Im only 14 but im thinking about death already, silly right?
Its scary that this is the only life u have and the only chance u get unless u believe in reincarnation then good for u, ur 50x happier than me and Theres also this one phenomenon don't know if its true but when u die ur brain releases the chemicals Or something that u get when ur dreaming and ur basically in a dream world of ur own for eternity lets say that 1 second in real life feels like 1 quintilion Google plix eons I mean I think that the brain is active for around a minute or more so your in Ur dream world for all this time and its basically paradise for ever
I've died before when I was born for 15 seconds and I was given a second chance
@@jasonmartin2805 man, if only you knew what it was like, death, then you'd have helped humanity heaps
What if we’re in that dream world right now?
@@zzr7107 Reality probably doesn't even exist. Probably never did in the first place.
It’s called DMT I’m so happy someone else has heard of this and has this same question!!
I can't stand people who think that just because they don't want certain choices, e.g. euthanasia, they shouldn't be available to those who do want them.
YY4Me133 100% this. To each his own. It's the main thing I don't like about atheists as well, their tireless antagonizing of those who have found peace for themselves! But it's always been blatantly obvious that the vast majority of their motive come from two things, jealousy and/or they want someone to help get them to that place they want to be but can't. They're hoping. That's why they seek it out, because true atheism would mean it's entirely moot and fruitless, like arguing with ants about why they do what they do
YY4Me133 but again, as someone who has had his own life interfered with, by governments/special interests/protectionists etc, under the guise that somehow it's a moral issue, I agree with your statement wholeheartedly! Right to die, death with dignity, whatever anyone wants to call it; is the most basic intrinsic autonomous right. If we are going to limit people's choices on that, then what's the argument against banning McDonald's, or drinking, or driving a car etc?
As I have not worried to be born, I do not worry to die.
That's one of the best casual talk about Death... really😁
i am going to turn 18 soon and this has been haunting me, for a long while now. death scares me the most. like what? you keep existing and one day you suddenly wont? no thanks-
my heart just becomes heavy and i start shivering and i get the feeling that all my organs are fragile when i think about this. let's not even get started about the nightmares.
I work in an ER. I told my coworkers I only want 15 minutes of CPR if I have a witnessed arrest and immediate resuscitation. Otherwise, let me go. My wife knows my wishes as well. My mother had a large stroke in 2007, and I knew her wishes. Same with grandpa. They all died peacefully with family around them. They had great deaths. I would like mine to be one as well. I don’t know when I’ll die, but I know how I don’t want to die.
You're dying? Better call Saul
I searched up talking Saul and this video came up. I need me some Better call saul vids
If that's a "Breaking Bad" reference, shame on you!!
Dial (505)-503-4455 for Saul Goodman.
Just started watching the prequel series. Really liking it!
Your honor my client is simply built different
You are very wise, thanks! :)
Great talk Mr Saul :)
Back shots?
Excellent
I'm very scared. I don't want to die. I don't want to be nothing. I'm so scared right now and crying. I don't want to die!!!!
Believe in afterlife. You are more than just a body. You are energy. You can't be dead. Energy lives beyond this dimension
My friend Charles recently passed about 2 days ago, he was very popular in the school. Almost every 6th Fraser was crying and there were a lot of 7th and 8th graders crying. We decorated his locker and put up posters which we could write quotes and put pictures of him. With the paper for his death it said “sudden death” but I’m pretty sure he killed him self because in the beginning of the school year he told me he was depressed but I didn’t do anything and I don’t know how to deal with myself
Acid OnToast pretty sure this is a lie
We just had a large discussion about death in our ethics course. I think a it's really interesting topic when you dive in to it, like Peter Saul has done here. We talked about the case of Jahi McMath. It's a heart wrenching story about a young girl who had some serious complications during an elective surgery. She was declared brain dead by her doctors on December 12, 2013. Her family disagreed however, and insisted that she be kept on life support. This all happened in California, and when the courts finally decided that she should be taken off of life support because she was brain dead, her family had her moved to New Jersey, where the differing laws would allow them to keep her on life support indefinitely. She finally passed away from liver failure in 2018.
So, who's job is it to decide when a person has officiallly died? What if someone disagrees? As Peter Saul already pointed out, we have the technology to keep the bodies of people who's brains have died "alive." But at what cost? When does keeping a person alive in that that state start to deviate from "do no harm?"
This video is something I believe everyone should see. There are much, much better ways to die than in the hospital. Somewhat ironically, I think as we've gotten better and better and fighting off death, we've grown to fear it more and more. I'm young, so this is still a far away concept for me personally, but I wonder if there isn't room in our society for more embracing of death's place in our lives? It is a part of life, just like any other hardship we might face. We've improved so many stigmas around mental health, LGBTQ+ issues, race, and so much more in our modern society. Maybe it's time we take on some of the stigmas around death as well.
This is some real stuff.
I really want to give a Ted talk about death, why we view it the way we do, why we care so much about death and why we fear it, how it came to be that way. I think it’d be a really fun experience
Thakn you.
A person who suffers before it's necessary, suffers more than necessary. Live your life to the fullest till you are here. When it's time, it's time.
I can understand your point of view also but think about humanity as it stands now and how far we have come from say... 1000 years ago, progression happens when people that are willing to share their views and ideas. We all live in our own personal worlds, trapped within our nervous systems but when we reach out and help each other that stuff stays with people, think of all people as a collective, what you put in that benefits others does come back to you.
U live on through people that remain...
great talk - well done peter Saul. You are quite right - Dying at home (rather than as a sort of pincushion however kindly looked after), with or near people that mean something to you has to be the way to go - pun intended!
People keep living in others memories and its important to remember what they did and how they influenced others.
This talk is depressing but insightful
I am quite comfortable about talking about my own death. Nothing is permanent. I’m 74yrs old, I don’t feel that old, but I’m a realist, it’s going to happen & soon rather later. I have an end of life plan. I have spoken to those I’ve nominated to act on my behalf.
G 🦋☯️
its all about how we train the mind. there's immense power in the mind
That was very interesting.
On prime time tv!
"You matter because you are, and you matter to the last moment of your life"
And, do you still matter once you're dead?
That lyric by the WHO: *Hope I die before I get old* very profound indeed. I would agree.
My wife died via bee colony attack so this video makes me feel better
I’m going to die in my seventies, I think. My father and two of his brothers did so. I know to be realistic about treatments when my health falters.
Don't forget you can die at any moment. You could be walking up some stares and trip. Or get in a serious car crash. Or lord forbid. You could even be murdered. Point being. Don't give yourself a timeframe. Because it's impossible to gage accurately
like a sir!
Amen!
“There will come a time when all of us are dead. All of us. There will come a time when there are no human beings remaining to remember that anyone ever existed or that our species ever did anything. There will be no one left to remember Aristotle or Cleopatra, let alone you. Everything that we did and built and wrote and thought and discovered will be forgotten and all of this will have been for naught. Maybe that time is coming soon and maybe it is millions of years away, but even if we survive the collapse of our sun, we will not survive forever. There was time before organisms experienced consciousness, and there will be time after. And if the inevitability of human oblivion worries you, I encourage you to ignore it. God knows that’s what everyone else does." John Green, TFIOS
It's exciting but only because it's a part of life, it's another thing that makes life living in the first place. It means you don't know when, you don't know where or how you'll die but you know that you will, which means you've got to do your best to enjoy every second until then.
Does anyone put himself in the moment of dying and how it will feel? Like testing. Giving me much anxiety and dont know why i do it.
I may have lung cancer but 🤔 I'm grateful to have had a wonderful life and, good friends ❤️
are you battling it currently?
@@shawnv123 was going to have a lung biopsy last week but 🤔 I've been texting all of my old friends and friends family to say goodbye 💔 and none of them have replied back to me and 🤔 I think that they might not even care 😔...?
Was thinking about it when I was in the hospital preparing for the lung biopsy and I lost my will to live...💔
@@user-ex4si2md6r damn, how long have you had it
@@user-ex4si2md6rDon't be sad. ❤
I was with him on everything right up until he said he disagreed with Euthanasia. You cant talk for 20 minutes about giving people a choice to then go back on it at the very end, you also cant determine what a person really wants based on statistics.
I think he simply does not want to get run out of the debate, a healthcare professional would likely lose there employement if they stated publicly and on a TED talk no less they were for Euthanasia. He wants his point to get across and not for it to devolve into a debate about his personel beliefs.
Yes you can he just did it there is no rules for debating
According to the law of conservation of energy, energy neither be created nor be destroyed but just transformed from one form to another.
I lost my father today but i know that not a bit of him is lost. He is just less orderly. His consciousness cease to exist.
This scientific perspective on death made me accept that death isn't something to be feared but just an inevitable part of life.
I’ve been thinking and like crying over death for the past couple of weeks actually and I know for a fact I’m not afraid of how I die or when more so what happens after death? Of course you can say nothing but what is nothing? What exactly is nothing? Like how it was before we where born? But what was that? It was really just like we where unconscious but I don’t...ughhh I can’t wrap my head around it it doesn’t make sense
I’m way to young to really be thinking about this I’m sure when I have actually lived my life it won’t bother me as much as it does now
@@SquirmleSquirmly Same
In my understanding when we die, we just stop worrying about anything. I hope it’s as if everything we have ever done just lost any importance. Perhaps it’s like falling asleep in a dreamless and peaceful sleep. No pain. No stress. No obligations. Now I can worry that I will miss my loved ones but I think once I am dead - it will make absolutely no difference to me.
I know that many people worry about dying, regardless of their age. I hope you will find your peace with it when the time comes, hopefully many decades from now.
I'm not really afraid of death, but I'm afraid of how I'll die. Nothingness is just nothing. There won't be anything to think or feel. You won't be there. It might even be the best thing that could happen to us, but we will never know.
@@tsun0524 well eventually we will haha. I like your strong mentality. I was exactly like the go commenter but the way you put it made me more calm.
I love to find fellow SAO fan's on this kind of videos XD
Already this is I watch
I'm more afraid of the pain and misery before death...idc about actually not waking up
I'm just terrified of what comes after I never wake up again. What if it's nothing? As someone who believes in science it's terrifying to lean towards the stance of there being nothing at the end of death. By nothing I don't mean darkness, or a void, but nothing. The same nothing that was there before you were born. What's the point of living a long healthy life, or being good to others, or having any moral standard if the end of your life will lead to the same terrifying place. You won't even remember that good life you have, because you don't have a brain to remember. You won't be you, you'll be nothing. Even if things like reincarnation exist you still will die because you don't have those memories that make you who you are, and eventually the universe will end too because it can't go on forever. I can't stand the thought of not existing and to never exist again. The best thing I can hope for is an afterlife, but I have no way to be certain that it exist. At the same time, if I was conceived but not born would I exist? Would I skip that life and move to another? Would I just continue to be nothing? It's terrifying. I don't want to leave the universe never to return, never to exist. Immortality won't save anyone because this planet will cease to exist at some point.
Similar to death, amnesia is just as scary, because it's another form of death. You cease to exist as someone else takes your life just to live in the same terror of death. I want to be able to cope with my mortality, but I just can't. I want to die being happy that I'm dying, that there's more light at the end of my tunnel, that I will either be reborn if the universe restarts, or if I can select the life I want to live next, or if I can go back and relive my life with my current memories. I want to keep existing in a universe that will eventually cease to exist. If I die and make the world a better place, what's the point if I don't know that the world is a better place while I'm dead? I can do my best to make my family happy but if I'm dead I won't know they're happy because I'm no more. I'm gone, unable to know what the world will look like because of me. Sometimes I wish I didn't exist so I couldn't think of this stuff, or I was born an animal without the knowledge of mortality. Just because humans can understand mortality doesn't mean we go to a different place from where the other organisms go when they die. I'm just scared, because nothing I do will make me feel any better about dying, whether I win a Nobel Peace Prize or if I live a criminal life, because we're all equal in death. We're all nothing.
I think the same.
But just have a good life and do everything you want to do, and you will accept death.
If you lived forever or kept coming back forever, life wouldn't be special, you could just not bother and just keep wasting time.
Instead of being sad it will be over, be happy because it happened.
It's scary, but don't waste life worrying about losing it.
@carlos sanchez but my soul isn't what truly makes me who I am, it's my memories. Without my memories I don't exist anymore which is why I believe amnesia is just a different form of death.
Exactly my thoughts.
How to make peace with death? I feel like older i get more i think about death and giving me panic attacks.
@@mitch5222 Ageing is scary. I'm only 16, but the older I grow the scarier my world gets. I've learn to ignore my inevitable death for now. The whole quarantine thing really got to me since I was trapped in my home for a while. But as I age the fear of death grows as I start thinking about the future. There isn't much I can do to help you cope or accept death besides sharing my similar feelings, but hanging out with friends, doing things you enjoy, and new experiences will help you forget our inevitable fate. Afterall, just like how our lives can't last forever, neither can our fears or emotions. You can't be mad, sad, happy, or scared forever no matter how long you dwell on it, meaning your fear will be forgotten until you relapse.
@@TheName983 thanks. For 16 years old u are really wise.
I am much older than you and never thought i will be giving advice from teenager. Thank you again and wish u all the best.
It's not the dying I fear as much as the pain and discomfort associated with it.
this helped
Not alone my friend.
Take control of your death & dying process. Your body is yours. Society is so terrified, they are just fine watching their so-called 'loved ones' severely suffer for months & years. Do not allow them. They're busy being unaware of how you feel (& probably how they feel also).
Recently there has been a reason to believe a tumor in my head came back. Ive been having insane nerve pain, and if th MRI shows up with a tumor, I could die. Im 16. Im a straight A student and i want to do my part for this world. I want to adopt a kids and make their life a bit better, feed people on the streets, save people pursecuted by injustice. But if I die, all of it goes to waste. If my tumor kills me, what life do i leave behind
i'm so sorry to hear you're going through that it must be terrifying. i hope you get to do all the things you dream of. have you heard any updates? hope you're doing well 💕
It was kinda heartbreaking to see those death graphs. I totally recognised the organ failure one as where my dad is.
Don't be afraid
I'm 14 years old and I've only been having panic attacks about death since I was 5 I'm trying my hardest to accept it but right now I'm in the middle of my longest one I watched this to help me
I’m feeling the same way and I’m 13 I really need help because it’s really clouding my mind and it’s making me have more panic attacks every day. And also I’ve been stuck with these thoughts for 8 weeks now
@@er7orkostelnik798 death is inevitable everyone will die no matter what we do we will die. we are only alive for a fraction of time. maybe you should find a purpose in life to fulfill so you can die peacefully i have found mine but it was hard im sure youll fine yours eventually
Most of the anxiety is cultivated through a sense of importance. A selfishness. Definitely not abnormal to have these feelings though. As easy as you’ve discovered these fears, it will be just as easy to find the comfort and freedom of inevitability
one way which might be helpful in getting rid of a fear of death could maybe be to log off your computer for a while. or your phone. when you have unlimited resources to answer your questions about death and mortality, it really makes you think a lot about your life and how meaningless it is. but if you just enjoy being yourself, and be comfortable in your own body, in your own time, you might find some acceptance within yourself without the need to constantly google questions like "im scared of dying" etc.
I don't understand life or the value of life. It's something I've been trying to understand but maybe...
You well never feel more peace