Running away to get married because your father doesn’t accept your husband [Part 1] | K-DOC
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Would you run away to get married if your parents don’t approve your partner? This is what Gabriel and his wife did before his father-in-law accepted him as who he is. Find out more about their story!
All edits and translations by Eunjae Lee.
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Air Date: 2018.6.5
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Look at how everyone garvitates towards Gabriel. He's such a genuine and jovial person. He didn't have to go that far to be approved by his FIL but he still did. His heart is the biggest one of all. 💛
That doesn't mean he has a good heart smh wanting to be accepted does not mean you have a good heart wtf where are you getting your logic from??
I swear
@@jayd4476 It's not about logic, but there's still a correlation. The fact that he went out of his way just to make sure that his FIL accepted him which makes his woman happy is why they believe he has a good heart, he did something kind. Not everyone is willing to do that for their significant other or their family. If you're gonna bring up logic you should be able to understand the situation first
@@jayd4476 exactly
@@diamond4270 Nonsense!
The fact that he even "HAD TO" go out of his way to be accepted goes right over you and his head! Did she have to go out of her way to be accepted by his African mother & father??? Why must black people ALWAYS have to bow down and morph into someone else's culture?
And in many cases after they have sniveled, groveled, buck danced, disgraced, and embarrassed themselves, they are STILL never truly accepted by the other race.
He comes off as a subservient trained pet that traded his dignity for acceptance.
I met Gabriel and his family a few years ago at an event for Africa Day celebrations in Busan. They really are lovely people and he had a really positive energy that day.
I m surprised they had Africa Day celebrations but great to see
@@juliet7703 it happens often actually
Why was he even at an African event he’s clearly a self hating black man what business does he have wanting to be around his people when he hates black women and clearly chose a side
@@gegeedward4792 Bro, what? How is he "clearly" self hating? In fact, from what I've seen he seems to be the opposite. He loves his people. Stop projecting.
@@gegeedward4792 lol what? he hasn’t brought up black women not once. Newsflash, black men aren’t obligated nor required to date black women. He also can love his skin color without dating black women. You sound racist af.
Student: he has so much energy. It’s us who are tired after the lecture.
😂😂😂😂 he’s a very passionate teacher, and his students love him!
So sad the color of one's skin can stop a person from getting to know really good people. Our skin doesn't dictate who we are, our character does. Once people learn this, the world could be so much better to live in.
Well said girl. Side note - you are gorgeous!
U DAMN RIGHT!💯👍💯😊
That's easy to say when you are an young black woman who probably carries victim mentality.
@@Todsor youre a loser
🌟SO TRUE🌟
I love how he holds his FILs hand while strolling. Nothing weird just showing his love for family. That's very admirable....never care what other people think
men do that in Korea....old grandad didn't want any brown grand babies...
100%
the only place on Earth that find that weird is America lol
@@adeyemiaderogba5661 no def not true
Idk this shit feels gay lol
I nominate Gabriel for best husband, father, son-in-law, teacher, and the best human!!
@@Moon.J.I y
Me too !!!!
WTF???
Ok
What a sad comment. I bet you were raised by grandma 😂
As a South African myself, I'm proud of Gabriel and wish him well with his beautiful family.
Wow this made me teary! As an Asian woman with a Nigerian fiance, I can only imagine what she went through but it's so nice that the dad opened his heart to him. I am blessed that my parents and parents-in-law are supportive of our relationship despite our racial differences 💓
Judging from your pic, you don't look Asian at all. You Look strongly African American
She looks south asian.
I am nigerian and on behalf of every nigerian I want to say welcome to family and may your marriage be blissful and prosperous.
It's sad.
@@davec5153 no, she looks exactly like what she is a Korean woman. She is just not hiding from the sun and using a lot of bleach products, etc.
i always feel encourage by the bravery of people that choose love despite, stigma, hardship and struggles!!!!!! citizens of the world, we are all one. dont let prejudice, hate, and fear block you from the purest emotion that makes us human, LOVE.
@shah exactly! Like why put yourself through that torture!
@@daniella8400 no but I get what this person means- it shows great moral strength to love those and continue to love those who unjustly treat you badly.
And in this specific case- I’m sure he was thinking of his wife and how it would be hard to continue to live and hit milestones and grow a family without her family being near. Obviously in certain circumstances, I think some people are even best left in their ignorance, but in this case his tenacity worked out for good.
@@daniella8400 Torture is living you life in a loveless marriage/relationship, cold and emotionless.,that is torture. Funny many people go through life and never experience love. Really sad.
@@deltaduke1157 yeah that is too but so is this
@shah stay in india and keep sh!ttin in the streets. And applying curry as deodorant.
Gabriel is like a treasure you can't just find
Exactly. He is like a very rare diamond with that heart. His wife won that diamond. He is too cute 😊😊
but in real life you wouldn t date him because of his height be real
@@daquieshakeaundra2854 Not true.
@@daquieshakeaundra2854 huh?????can u hear yourself. Hmmm maybe for you but not to others.
@@daquieshakeaundra2854 so stupid
I’m so glad that the father opened his heart, to find that skin color means nothing compared to real love and compassion ❤
Carol Hicken He probably still look black peo as Inferior to him..HIS son law seem to be playing 'massa role'..just to get him 2 accept him..just observe how he treats these kids when he thinks no one watching ..that's the true test if he's no longer a racist ***
Realmente disse tudo muito bem em poucas palavras. É verdade o amor não existe fronteira , nada os impede de ser felizes. ❤
Father-in-law and son-in-law holding hands...priceless!
I love the little boy waking everybody up and the family exercising together. Very sweet.
Gabriel has a pure heart, good natured man…he understood n embraced the culture even tho it was difficult for him bec he loves his wife… God bless him and his family… even his students loves n adores him…you can feel the positivity around him…
How he fed his FIL and then strolled together holding hands…aaahhh… nothing but pure love! ❤️ . Made my heart smile 😊
This man is an example of a noble and intelligent person, and of course, he is especially talented in his job.
He's an inspiring professor. So fun to study if ur teacher like him. Not boring and full of pressure.
My father was the same when I got married as my husband was white and he is Japanese. We didn’t speak for 3 years and I also had our son during that time. After we finally spoke again my father cried and said he wished he could take back those years. My husband has proven to be a wonderful provider as well as a nurturing father and husband so now he is my dad’s favorite !!!❤️
And what about your husband? He's not hurt or offended? How would you feel if your husband's parents would have not accepted you cuz you're (part?) Asian?
@Jackie McCoy there is a parase I use 'killing the enemy with kindness'. I used to tell my children, if you say 'good morning' to the neighbour and she/he keeps not answering don't stop, keep on saying it, that neighbour cannot tell anyone that you are disrespectful, the neighbour's conscious will eventually get the better of him/her, it's the same with an in-law who does like or want someone to join their family unit, they just have to be themselves.
You wouldn’t think it would be to much of a problem since your husband is white versus being African . Whites have been marrying Japanese girls for more than a half century. African men are something new
He should be proud of you in heterosexual life.
Glad he repented
That's fantastic
This video brought me tears of joy. Gabriel is such an awesome human being
He’s an amazing husband, father, and son in law. He goes out of his way to make an impression, and he’s very dedicated to his wife and his family.
Awwww Gabriel won him over. That family is lucky to have him
Good news. You are right. Good news!
He's also lucky to have them, most Koreans are not so accepting of his kind
So very nice
@@Cxs1a3 yes very nice, I hope many people learn a valuable lesson from this story . Dont judge someone because of the color of their skin or race
@@Cxs1a3 what u mean by his kind tho?
I love the way they're holding hands like two little schoolgirls 😆 That shows acceptance and respect.
That’s a bit sus lol
@@omzy8700 Different cultural practices
You can tell Gabriel such a good man. When they was holding hands at the end. Shit made me smile so damn hard
Their relationship tell us a lot more about the daughter, than anyone else, because she chose a good husband, who was willing to do all he could to gain the acceptance of her father.
His students love him so much, learning with fun is good and easy to remember
Gabriel is such a sweet person ❤️. I love how he acts all corny with his wife and she tries to resist but I’m sure she really loves it
I remember how my cousin (who was Filipino) was never approved by her partner's Korean parents even after dating for 7 years. Regardless of her career as a doctor, financial stability, and their common backgrounds as Asian immigrants in the US, they just couldn't look past her race. She's considering breaking up with her partner now which is sad.
I'm glad this couple in the documentary gained approval from their families, it's a huge feat.
ganun talaga karamihan ng mga SKorean na matatanda👵🏼🧓🏼napaka Old fashioned nila interms of mga ganyang bagay😩mabuti nalang meron iilan na natangap kagaya ng nasa video😌
So sad that she would let her family dictate her love life.
I always hear stories about how Koreans seem to look down on South East Asian people. Not just for Filipinos but anyone from that region. I wonder why though? Is it because they see us SEA as poor or something?
@@melzer1377 There are comments here where the Korean woman married a white man and he was still not accepted by her family and didnt speak to her for 3 years. It is a cultural thing with some older generation of ppl. I am African American who married a West African. I thought we were the same, both black, right? But some of my family did not accept him. When I went to West Africa to meet his family, all the women in his family also did not like or accept me. No matter what I did, how humble or giving I was to them, they perferred he marry a woman of his same culture, and told me so. We have been together now for 15 years. My family now has accepted him but his family still does not accept me and considers me a "white woman" although I am black.
@@monty9619 Just goes to show how all this shit is arbitrary as hell haha
This was so heartwarming to watch, to see all the love in the end, father and son walking as ONE!!!
Simp
Aw Grandpa and Gabriel holding hands at the end🥺🥰
This family is so cute! They seem really happy and lively. The kids are so cute, especially Eden!
the kids are super adorable. just like their parents, esp. their dad.
Gabriel is such a gifted teacher! From Kindergarten to Uni students gravitate to him. The importance of having a great teacher is unmatched! Loved his relationship with his wife and family too! Such a joyful family! Wishing them many years of love and success!
I'm a mixed kid and their story is similar to how my parents met! It warms my heart, such an adorable family
I love that he says to his wife "give me some suga" so cute
You'll hear black people in the US say that too
That man is a great example of a man with a heart of gold
It's amazing how a simple, ignorant rejection could have kept this woman, man and thier kids from complete joy and happiness. Kindness & Understanding costs nothing. I'm so HAPPY to see how thier relationship has blossomed and brought the whole family together! Thank God they were mature enough to endure her dad's bias. Bless you guys! 🥰
Gabbie representing South Africa well
🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
Keeping spreading joy, love and laughter Brother
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
What a sweet story. So wonderful that Gabriel was so understanding and patient with his father in law. Look what a great family they all are now. His wife did real well choosing him. ❤️🇺🇸
As a person with mixed parents blasian ...just know ur kids will be fine they will retain aspects of both cultures and its great! I think grandparents are always worried about acceptance and cultural differences when none of that matters when you have a happy family! Blessings to your family you are doing a great job! Be proud you have wonderful children!
It definitely does matter lmao.
Did you grow up in Korea?
AfroSian
If I saw my dad and future husband holding hands like that I would definitely cry like a baby 😭💗
Aaawww what a beautiful family! They're all lucky to have each other. Gabriel is a treasure so precious.
I actually enjoyed this small 9+ minute video of this loving and intelligent family after coming across it accidentally. It was quite funny, caring and such a unique experience.. The Black husband/father speaks very fluent Korean as well as English. Their home is very modern, clean and so spacious. I just subscribed..
If you know anything about the truth of the Etruscans, you would know they are black. Your own ignorance limits the wide horizons you can see.
I love this channel and how it highlights biracial families in Korea. I love K-dramas but I’ve never seen one about biracial families. Not even whites with Korean so seeing this is a bit of a shock to me Love it 😍
Itaewon Class has a little bit of this in its plot
Mm there was an old school drama (not 16 ep type) i watched where the SIL/BIL on the main chara/fam was white.
And another where the childrenbwas mixed or something like that.
Its rare, but here and there if u look.
Y u say "not even whites", like that's better or more acceptable than blacks?
@@Cxs1a3 how did I say whites ? Like how it’s supposed to be spelt? Are they or are they not referred to as white people ? Please to read my comment and understand the context. As I’m becoming immersed in Korean culture there are things I notice that I do my readings on. Whenever they do have another race on their shows it’s 90% of the time white Europeans or white North Americans. Whenever a character goes overseas he’s/she’s either in France, England or USA aka predominantly white countries. I won’t get into more politics and history but that’s where I am coming from. Their reaction to darker skinned people or black people is usually way different from White people. But at the end of the their culture is based on family and keeping it in the family. However I am glad to see that long standing status quo is being challenged as they are meeting and greeting people from all over the world and finding love
I have seen few episodes of this show and the white husband or wife is never disaproved by the korean in laws they are actually welcomed with open arms and encouraged to have baby with fair skin blue eyes and asian traits..and yet the african migrants i see here are always facing racism and pigotry from korean inlaws plus korean society and always struggling to get job and provide for their families ..this is not just korea but all ovee Asia. White fair skin is more favourite than darker skin so how we expect people with inferior complex mentality or self hate issues to accept someone who is black skin? Plus why black people looking for acceptance and approval from whites and now asians? It breaks my heart and its really sad how human mind, body and soul are fragile and can be programmed into anything or anyway..personally i say marry within your own race so you don't go thru shit like this and your kids dont suffer...it doesnt mean hate others just do your kids justices and save them from the heartache later in life😌 i wish the world was better place but it aint n never will be...humans are shit
Gabriel has a heart of gold. Little did they know, Gabriel was exactly what that family needed. He is a sweet, happy soul.
I love this story. Gabriel endured a lot for his extended family. His mother in law is gorgeous. I'm glad the relationship has improved.
This brought tears to my eyes. Wow. Very heart warming.
He is full of aegyo 😊😂💕 so cute!!
애교ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
Awe I love how everything turned out so well. You can see the love grandpa has for his grandchildren. Gabriel seems like a very good man. The sweetest thing to see Gabriel and his father in law hold hands. ❤
Them holding hands at the end, is the most heartwarming thing I have ever seen.❤. I wish them happiness, love, good health and prosperity. God bless them and keep them well.🌸
His parents knew what they were doing when naming him Gabriel, he’s an angel. Father God, may you bestow upon a husband who will be caring, affectionate, and loving like Gabriel. Amen 🙏🏾
Respect this couple. You’re an inspiration to the world
Protect these gems at all cost 😢
Gabriel is so nice! His personality and his smile is so contagious. I am glad it all worked out for them.
I'd dream to marry an angel like this one
@@Cxs1a3 the angel Gabriel.
@@Cxs1a3 let us enjoy and dream a bit , would you ?
don't ruin the mood (=.=")
@@Cxs1a3 why you keep posting negative or hateful comments under each reply? MY GOD you really must be omicron cos covid is curse to humanity and so are some of your words...
Gab man your honestly an amazing teacher, father and all around human being. The simple fact that her father didn’t agree at first, most of us would say F that…you put in effort to show her father just how amazing 🤩 and special you are. People really don’t realize they miss out on meeting some amazing people simply because of prejudice.
It doesnt surprise me that you people would say f that because you have no respect for your parents and open your legs for anybody.
@@vincentdonovan6702 you made zero sense and that is all I will say. 🤦🏽♀️
Speaking of prejudice, that's also why a lot of men from his race don't marry his own race.
They are blessed to have a man like Gebriel in their family. The end part was beautiful, seeing the two papas holding their hands.
What a sweet man. Everyone loves to be around him. His wife and children are very fortunate to have such a loving man in their lives.
Gabriel seems like a great guy
8:46 i'm not crying, my eyes are just taking a shower
Oh my God I cried too at this scene 😭😭😭
Ikr ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🥺🥹
imagine making a movie out of this, such a beautiful story and their struggle of being accepted by the father and of course with the positive outcome
Just couldn't help but comment while smiling all through.
I got to know the beautiful family while studying in Busan.
As my lecturer, Prof. Gabriel (as we usually call him) is just a gem. Friendly, kind and always positive. This video brings back beautiful memories. ❤ Much Love from Ghana
Im asian and my parents NEVER have prejudice against skin color. We are 3 siblings and we married people from different backgrounds. She always said she would love to have blasian grandkids.
what kind of asian are u?
No for real, this is a very rare mindset. What ethnicity are you?
@@user-dd2yp4hk5d fr, i live in a multiracial asian country and even most of our people are still very skeptical of the idea of marrying people outside of our own ethnicity.
Wow, that's really open-minded of your parents. What country are you from?
Asian American and Asians that live in their country that is 98% their own race. Understandably there is some issues when it comes to foreigners. No they are not all like this.
I love this family, and Gabriel is an amazing man and father. Many blessings to the family.
Them holding hands..oh my 😭 it was so beautiful to see.
Such a sweet family, I love the peace in their home, I could feel it and dad is an amazing teacher!
He is such an amazing husband and teacher for the kids
It's so crazy to me that young kids in SK go to school on their own like the 2 girls. It's great that it's a reflection of how safe their society is, but I would still be way too scared to leave my kids go to school and back alone unless they were teenagers
We did that in the states too in the 80s and 90s
The crazier thing is I remember as a kid in Korea, it was typical to run errands for elders including buying cigarettes and soju at the corner mart. We were allowed to buy it no questions asked.
Is it not normal? I would take the bus or train to nearby areas in Ireland when I was young for running errands or school.
In my country kids do that from 4 and up depending on location
@@ID_iKONIC_VIP 80s and 90s were way more dangerous
This is so freaking cool. She followed her heart and created a brand new start for herself and her family.
This is embarrassing... He's treating them like royalty...when he leans over for a kiss she pretended like he's just a friend....🤔
His students love him! I’m south Asian and our school football coach was a big kind Nigerian man called Victor. By the time I left school, we were great friends. I played the position of goalkeeper,so he used to push me through a lot of tough training.
Omgggg they have the cutest and sweetest kids just like their relationship ❤️😭
This warmed my heart! I'm very glad everything worked out for the family. Not only did her husband make a connection with her father but its probably the best relationship ive seen in general.
Beautiful story of Gabriel. It is encouraging to see that nothing in life is impossible to accomplish no matter how unusual it is. Being a South African myself, I am so encouraged by Gabriel's achievement. I love South Korea 🇰🇷💕 and its vibrant life. I always believed that I could build a family with a beautiful Korean lady. Now seeing my fellow country man Gabriel, it encourages me even more to fulfill my dream. It is a wonderful story of South Africa 🇿🇦 meet South Korea 🇰🇷 in ❤
I give respect to Gabriel. My parents told me they would love whoever I love. So I wouldn't have the patience to win over someone's family who didn't think the same.
Your parents are very wonderful people. Please, take care of them well. It is very rare to have parents like that, I speak from experience. My parents God bless their souls they were accepting people as well.
I wasn’t accepted as well by my Korean mom-in-law at first because I came from a developing country. Old generations think if you were born and raised there majority aren’t educated and etc. Anyway to cut the story short and as what Gabriel did I showed actions so now we’re living as a great multicultural family.☺️
Where are you from
@@cxvii6812 I'm from the Philippines ^^
@@multiculturalcouple yeah I thought you would be
It's not about race or country, if you're a rich person from a developing country, richer than even most Koreans, they will highly respect you. It's just a coincidence that race and country usually does determine your wealth.
@@Cxs1a3Speaking of rich, it doesn't matter too if you're rich or not they generalize it according to your country of origin. My parents even owned apartments and we're born and raised in metropolitan city and finished our Bachelor's degree at young age. Unlike my in-laws who still works here even though they're already senior citizen plus they live in province area not even Seoul . They should be thankful I agree to marry their son as Im well capable of being independent but their son fell inlove with me what can I do?! I used to be a career woman too in my home country before meeting my husband but it hits different once you enter their country and become jobless here because you can't speak the language well. Despite the achievements you had in your origin country once you choose to marry someone from here youre just below. Btw Im not trying to generalize old Korean parents as this is based from my personal experience.😬😁
8:55 the wholesomeness and funniness of these two just strolling through the park holding hands. They look like textbook dads but with the best friendship ever ❤️😭
All that love just broke Papa down, the power of love 🥰
hi guys I'm crying gabriel is so kind and loving I'm glad his father-in-law grew to love him too 😭
It’s pretty messed up that her father didn’t accept him because of his skin colour. I’m glad that her father learned how to judge others as based on the kindness of their character, not skin colour.
I could never be like Gabriel. I'd feel bitter towards that old man for not accepting me. It's just me i guess but i guess gabriel's strength is his empathy.
That was lovely holding your family member's hand at the end.
When she says she has to act hard to be cute, then 2:52 proceeds to be super cute lol
As a south african I'm so proud of this man, we need more of him back home
My grandmother is the darkest woman in the world and my grandad the whitest person I know and those two fall madly in love and got married. Love knows no color, religion..... It's so beautiful when couple fight for their love and win. God bless this family.
Gabriel, you're a true inspiration to all! You're a great example that love can endure all things. God bless you and your family.
More power to this beautiful couple. Against all odds 😊😊
It's sad how some cultures won't accept other people from other cultures that could bring more to your culture just because of the skin of their color. May these two lovely people have many blessings from above and may God bless all their children.
Amen!
Ooh me love u long time (salt pepper kecthup)
it's not about skin color it's about race!
In Africa men hold hands I’m sure with society now it has somehow stopped at different ages. This is such a beautiful story. To be honest a lot of older generations are like this but it takes for the new generation to show why we choose who we love. Such a beautiful family.
When I first started dating my KR gf her parents literally hated me, talked bad about me etc. However, they were wrong and traditional barriers were broken. Its horrible that we live in a world like this.
Its ignorant but simply a different generation. We would think the same way if raised in their time. So showing them with love and action we can change their old ways
Why you want outside ur own and complaining about it shame on you go get a life .go get ur own girl and culture don’t go someone else culture
Love has no boundaries, no colour and no limit. Congratulations and love to Gabriel and Jieun..❤️❤️
Gabriel has such a nice personality ! As a dad , as a teacher as a husband as a son in law, he is perfect !
Wow Gabriel is a pure of heart. There are not so many on earth. They are here to bring light to all of us.
How could the father not be overjoyed when looking at his beautiful grandchildren! I bet he hates the years he missed, but I'm sure he can sleep better at night now.
I think its really heart warming to see in there that the men hold hands and walk just a way to bond that isn't seen as sexual. It is really healthy and beautiful culture
As an Asian man who has dated outside my race, I too have faced biotry. It mostly came from the dad who often times would say "why" or "it won't last." Today I am married to a Caucasian woman with 2 great boys. Love is love and it doesn't matter the partner.
that's awesome. I usually fin asian mothers to be more against marrying white women then the dads.
Props to you for getting a white woman.
You have a LOT of MF nerve when we all know Asians are racist as fuck!!!!
@@davidcrist6653 you say that as if they're a prize 😒
That is wonderful, I thought some Asian parents were wary of their kids dating a black person, but it sounds by your case this happens to anyone outside their race.
Aw this is so precious, I like how they both hold hands at the end. We need more Gabriels in the world.
Gabe's charisma is incredible. I see exactly how he helped his wife get out of her rut, at least being shoe to endure a little bit of it.
I'm married to a Korean for 2 years now and have never even met her dad. Coincidentally he's also from Busan, who usually are very conservative people. Hoping to have a drink and meal with him some day.
i hope so too, never give up!!
Is it cuz you're black?
@@Cxs1a3 no lol
he’s viet!
but u should never give up anh!
That's normal, Koreans look down on South East Asians
Lovely family ❤
A good example of how to brake cultural and racial barriers.
Much love from Angola ❤❤❤🙂
Patience, kindness and love prevailed in winning his wife father's heart ❤️ bless the family.
BEAUTIFUL!Your husband is a precious jewel. He loves passionately and freely. This is glorious to see. BEAUTIFUL family.