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КОМЕНТАРІ • 626

  • @lieutenantflyboy
    @lieutenantflyboy Рік тому +1238

    Ben’s beard deserves its own show at this point.

    • @BlueSpirit006
      @BlueSpirit006 Рік тому

      depressed

    • @Undomaranel
      @Undomaranel Рік тому

      Will you stop simping for the beard??? We all see it, big whoop. Good for Ben and his religious progression. That doesn't mean we need to see comment after comment after comment worshipping his face when all most of us want to do is actually have our conversations on his topic of choice. By focusing on the beard you're doing little more than what any teen does over a new shade of lipstick or a new top. It's shallow, it's petty, and contributes barely little more than algorithm fodder.

    • @tylersoto7465
      @tylersoto7465 Рік тому +22

      Give it a couple of yrs and he'll have a 3 ft long beard like his ancestors Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, he will be the wises man on earth lol

    • @moth-guy6831
      @moth-guy6831 Рік тому +4

      Bro i was gonna say it looks great too

    • @moth-guy6831
      @moth-guy6831 Рік тому +26

      @@Undomaranel we're allowed to compliment the man and his beard.

  • @mikelang1364
    @mikelang1364 Рік тому +269

    If you don’t date for marriage you date for heartbreak

    • @LionelLordOfTheThundercats
      @LionelLordOfTheThundercats Рік тому +8

      Or for sex. You know that human urge that most healthy people have.

    • @abbyxiong3931
      @abbyxiong3931 Рік тому +1

      Thank you!💯💔💔💔💔

    • @OfficialCxbra
      @OfficialCxbra Рік тому

      @@LionelLordOfTheThundercats lol if you have to date a girl to have sex, ur a cuck

    • @LionelLordOfTheThundercats
      @LionelLordOfTheThundercats Рік тому

      @@OfficialCxbra Or you enjoy the company of a woman. I like girls, and want to spend time with them romantically. Being a cuckold would mean someone is having sex with my wife.

    • @dhiaawilliam6943
      @dhiaawilliam6943 Рік тому +1

      That's was wise as f*ck

  • @doradennis2409
    @doradennis2409 Рік тому +309

    When I got married to my husband in 2011, people were shocked that we hadn't slept or lived together beforehand. We're still happily married.

    • @FN_360
      @FN_360 Рік тому +56

      The fact people are shocked that you guys are NORMAL people really shows what the new normal has become now.

    • @jamesoconnor6550
      @jamesoconnor6550 Рік тому +19

      That’s awesome. I’m on the same path at the moment. Best of luck 🙏❤️

    • @immune18
      @immune18 Рік тому +6

      you're lucky, I made this mistake with my ex wife, we found that living together didn't work for us at all and it only lasted 8 months. Rule of thumb is ALWAYS trial things before jumping into things, not everybody is going to be as lucky as you.

    • @whysoserious4274
      @whysoserious4274 Рік тому +3

      It's called trial and error and that's okay it doesn't have to work out immediately.

    • @andrealynn776
      @andrealynn776 Рік тому +13

      @@immune18 i like to tell people that in marriage you’re going to encounter a lot worse problems than a clash in living together. Parental death, bankruptcy, losing a home in a fire, child death, serious illness’s, etc. If you don’t think you and your potential spouse are going to be able to work through the quirks of living together then you’re never going to be able to get through the things that really matter.

  • @Apocalypse754
    @Apocalypse754 Рік тому +421

    I like how half of the comments don't even discuss about the topic and it's all about his beard lmao

    • @IsraelCountryCube
      @IsraelCountryCube Рік тому +3

      yeah based ben shapiro grows a beard better than any male degenerate. so i must pay my respects to bens beard.

    • @rypsterhc8673
      @rypsterhc8673 Рік тому

      Yeah hahaha it's so funny that some haters are actually just trying to mock him for that

    • @NikasInParis_777
      @NikasInParis_777 Рік тому +1

      @@IsraelCountryCube well DANG but Lowkey you ain't wrong tho facial hair and body hair is the product of testosterone

  • @blaisestritt8177
    @blaisestritt8177 Рік тому +204

    Ben Shapiro with a beard looks like regular Ben Shapiro with a Snapchat beard filter

  • @Mrs.Fehr1997
    @Mrs.Fehr1997 Рік тому +27

    Yep. Agree. My husband and I new that if we would date it was with marriage in mind. He was my first boyfriend and we have been happily married for 8 years now. Plus we have four wonderful kids to boot.

    • @gg-ls4hv
      @gg-ls4hv Рік тому +2

      Congratulations! So nice to hear

  • @amycox703
    @amycox703 Рік тому +7

    Couldn't agree more with this. My husband and I dated for approximately 2 weeks before we decided to get engaged. The night we got engaged we discussed how many kids we wanted and even names. We got married less than 3 months later and only waited that long because we had Christmas break for college. We've been married 10 years and have four kids.

  • @isaiah1516
    @isaiah1516 Рік тому +29

    That's why I married my wife. We had a lot of issues starting out relationship because we came from different cultures, but in my heart I knew that she was worth it. We worked through where we wanted to be in our relationship and got married, bought a house, and will be starting a family soon. Don't date to date, date to marry.

  • @priscillajimenez27
    @priscillajimenez27 Рік тому +354

    Hence why most of my life has been single. I don't wanna waste my time with no substance

    • @jasonshih3633
      @jasonshih3633 Рік тому +28

      Kudos to you. I feel the same way, that’s why I don’t intend to enter a relationship in college.

    • @gabrielvazquez1691
      @gabrielvazquez1691 Рік тому +30

      Same. I don't go through life just to play games. And contrary to what people are okay with today, I personally don't like to play with people, their feelings or their time.

    • @RandomPerson-ln6yp
      @RandomPerson-ln6yp Рік тому +39

      I recommend dating anyway, but NOT engaging in casual sex. Even if you dont know if the relationship will last in the long run, it teaches you how to act properly, and you may find the ideal person while just searching

    • @andyc9902
      @andyc9902 Рік тому +2

      I'll give you substance. Can we talk

    • @yaboiavery5986
      @yaboiavery5986 Рік тому

      @@jasonshih3633 are you planning on getting married later? Seems like you're setting yourself up to end up with a girl who was a hoe who's deciding to "settle down" and wants to be treated like some princess

  • @USMC0331OIF
    @USMC0331OIF Рік тому +133

    Woah when did my man get a beard ?! Lol looking good bro

    • @bjolly8924
      @bjolly8924 Рік тому +7

      Yeah, it fits him well.

    • @USMC0331OIF
      @USMC0331OIF Рік тому +12

      @@bjolly8924 honestly makes him look less like a nerd, I love the guy but he’s always had a such a “punchable” face to me

    • @MDGB-ok2se
      @MDGB-ok2se Рік тому +2

      @@USMC0331OIF noooo 😩 he’s pretty 🤩

    • @jackcolson4745
      @jackcolson4745 Рік тому +7

      @@USMC0331OIF
      I'd never punch someone as a instinctual response to something, but punchable definitely describes Ben's face.

    • @devongee1776
      @devongee1776 Рік тому

      He's been growing it. You can see the progression over the past week+ of podcasts

  • @dunyacaliskan7495
    @dunyacaliskan7495 Рік тому +176

    This always seemed intuitive to me. For long I did not realize other people have a different outlook.

    • @dibidus6080
      @dibidus6080 Рік тому +32

      Never underestimate human capacity for degenerate behaviour. Lust is a sin for a reason.

    • @melaninjay592
      @melaninjay592 Рік тому +4

      I didn’t know better. My dad raised me telling me to never get married lol

    • @dibidus6080
      @dibidus6080 Рік тому +9

      @@melaninjay592 My father cheated on my mom constantly, but cuz we live in a 3rd world country she had to bear it all silently. I've seen how destructive promiscuity can be and I learn from mistakes others make in this case my fathers. Don't rush into any big life decision and don't cave to peer pressure.

    • @Jesei1211
      @Jesei1211 Рік тому +3

      I thought that was the point of dating is to get married in the end.

    • @DeathShiniGama
      @DeathShiniGama Рік тому +2

      Yea I didnt realize that people didnt want to be in longterm relationships.
      I also didnt understand why people who've been together longer than 5 years never got married.

  • @ericanderson7266
    @ericanderson7266 Рік тому +141

    I bet his wife might want to have more children with that beard….

    • @VRCM_Skywarn_XUSA
      @VRCM_Skywarn_XUSA Рік тому +6

      Thats not a beard...he,s jewish.
      Thats fuzz...

    • @imdilyn
      @imdilyn Рік тому +3

      cringe

    • @apetogetherstrong4243
      @apetogetherstrong4243 Рік тому +8

      @@VRCM_Skywarn_XUSA fuzz?. Ideologies don't change reality or biology wether if it's religion or radical left.

    • @Xaviallin1
      @Xaviallin1 Рік тому +5

      @@VRCM_Skywarn_XUSA Literally the most illogical statement I’ve read in a while

    • @dwho432
      @dwho432 Рік тому +1

      What??? Do you find him attractive? I do

  • @captaincaptain2128
    @captaincaptain2128 Рік тому +115

    I have never understood the point of casual dating. You don't need to be in. Relationship to have one night stands or friends with benefits. And if you're so afraid of being alone then marriage should be the ultimate goal anyways. People just date for social status and because they're too afraid to be alone but also to be committed. That's the truth.

    • @dwho432
      @dwho432 Рік тому +1

      I don't understand what you are trying to say.

    • @captaincaptain2128
      @captaincaptain2128 Рік тому +14

      @@dwho432 Casual dating is stupid and only stupid people do it.

    • @WolfHunterJason
      @WolfHunterJason Рік тому

      @@captaincaptain2128 wow, youre so much better than everybody else because you want marriage .. you’re a lame person. This is coming from someone who wants to get married and doesn’t like dating. let people do what they want

    • @matthew1039
      @matthew1039 Рік тому +6

      @@captaincaptain2128 well that's a bit rough. Many successful people, men and women, choose that over relationships. That doesn't mean that they don't appreciate the company of another person. Horses for courses mate. What may not work for you, may work for someone else.

    • @captaincaptain2128
      @captaincaptain2128 Рік тому +15

      @@matthew1039 it's for immature people who are too afraid to be alone but incapable of being in a committed relationship. Stop trying to normalize it.

  • @Beena2020
    @Beena2020 Рік тому +18

    I was listening to a young woman on UA-cam shorts the other day. She was talking about a first date, that she spent the night with the guy...then was talking about taking "to the next level." I was like, come again? Officially dating is a higher level than sexual intercourse? Now I understand the single mother thing. Checks out. We live in backwards land.

  • @gideonmalychewski7643
    @gideonmalychewski7643 Рік тому +25

    I dated my ex to marry, and she broke up with me a few weeks ago. We talked about ideal marriages/kids/houses, etc. I’ve never been heartbroken from a breakup. Reflecting on it, though, I am grateful bc there were things that I needed to work on, like my relationship with the lord (that was her reason), but I never realized it in the moment. It’s tough to move on but only through the power of god can we make it right with him to find peace and comfort.

    • @DeathShiniGama
      @DeathShiniGama Рік тому +2

      I had 3 boyfriends before my husband. And every single one of them I learned so much from. My last boyfriend we talked about kids and marriage, but he wasnt ready and I broke it off. I was still very impatient and immature.
      But I met my husband right after and we have a family and married for almost 3 years. But if I didnt go through that past I never would have been able to be with my husband, I would have been way to self centered and selfish and hyperactive to even maintain a longterm marriage.
      Theres that saying..
      People come for a season, a reason or a lifetime.

    • @hotdogsarepropaganda
      @hotdogsarepropaganda Рік тому +2

      she said it was you my friend but it was her. your walk with god is none of her concern. it concerns only Him and you. find peace brother.

    • @topkek4223
      @topkek4223 Рік тому +2

      @@hotdogsarepropaganda oh stop if he wasn’t following the lord like she was, she was in her right to break up with him stop making her a villain when it was a mutual break up you’re weird. I left my gf because she no longer believed in god after college no one was the villain since we had different beliefs it wouldn’t work out anymore.

  • @priscillajimenez27
    @priscillajimenez27 Рік тому +62

    People need to go back to that.

    • @WolfHunterJason
      @WolfHunterJason Рік тому +2

      or people can do whatever they want

    • @priscillajimenez27
      @priscillajimenez27 Рік тому +7

      @@WolfHunterJason STDS and unplanned pregnancies... and emotional strain...

    • @em4227
      @em4227 Рік тому

      Ben said one time men are pigs if we weren't most of us wouldn't be here on this planet thank God we are pigs🥴 did God make a mistake I don't think so it's the way and the laws of the universe😊

    • @WolfHunterJason
      @WolfHunterJason Рік тому

      @@priscillajimenez27 yeah, if they want to take that risk for themselves that’s their choice.

    • @priscillajimenez27
      @priscillajimenez27 Рік тому +4

      @@WolfHunterJason domino effect it's not all about one person

  • @PersephoneVariety
    @PersephoneVariety Рік тому +37

    And this is the exact conversation that I had with my boyfriend

    • @lostplanet1931
      @lostplanet1931 Рік тому +1

      Don't text him, it's a scam

    • @UltraConservativeMonarchist
      @UltraConservativeMonarchist Рік тому +1

      If he didn't propose this himself than I would break up. You shouldn't be the one trying to convince him of this.

    • @PersephoneVariety
      @PersephoneVariety Рік тому +2

      He's the one who actually mentioned this conversation. He said he wanted a serious relationship and I told him I wanted one as well.

    • @DeathShiniGama
      @DeathShiniGama Рік тому +2

      @@PersephoneVariety I'm really glad you both are thinking about your future!
      It's better financially as well.
      Mature adults need to be bigger influences on the people of today and that just because there are a few bad apples in marriage that it shouldn't be completely looked down upon.
      Before I got married our officiate(I cant remember what it's called.) Had us ask each other VERY VERY deep hard questions by providing a questionnaire.
      Things like 'What would you do if your partner got sick and got disabled?'
      'If you want to parent, how would you parent.'
      'What do your vows mean to both of you.'
      Like a whole 3 pages of homework, it was intense and like I loved it because I learned a lot and there was a lot of reassurance and there was some things we had to talk about to get on the same level too. But I wish more people cared about the longterm of marriages.

  • @macbruno357
    @macbruno357 Рік тому +24

    I am the man I am today, because I strive to be the man she deserves.

    • @immune18
      @immune18 Рік тому +1

      Be it for yourself bro, never for someone else. If you're doing it for her she will pick up on that and not respect you as much.

    • @rypsterhc8673
      @rypsterhc8673 Рік тому +6

      @@immune18 nah, do it for both parts. I love myself so I try to be better and I want that my partner get a great man

  • @jacksauce
    @jacksauce Рік тому +6

    I hate the hookup culture at college. It’s so degrading and horrible. I’ve never had sex and don’t plan to until after marriage and I really hope that whoever God lets me end up with is the same way.

    • @jacksauce
      @jacksauce Рік тому

      @Infinite Worfare Prove it

    • @jacksauce
      @jacksauce Рік тому

      @Infinite Worfare If it’s obvious, prove it

  • @jamesrayson4478
    @jamesrayson4478 Рік тому +28

    Can't wait to see it fully grown once I see it it will not be unseen

  • @owfi
    @owfi Рік тому +7

    Yes!
    My friend was talking to me one day about this guy she had a crush on and I asked her if she wants to marry him. She said no, so I said well then what's the point.
    I've never dated anyone. I used to care about that kinda thing but then I realized I haven't met my future wife in any woman yet. So I'm in it for the long haul.

  • @joeignace
    @joeignace Рік тому +6

    Dating to marry is extremely healthy. I recommend a book called Single, Dating, Engaged, Married by Ben Stuart if you are in that phase of life

  • @annikabjornson998
    @annikabjornson998 Рік тому +9

    When my son decided he wanted to get married and have a couple of kids he changed his whole life. He knew he had to be a person who could be found desirable to women who wanted the same things out of life that he did. It took sincere effort and was a beautiful thing to observe. No more Peter Pan syndrome for him; now a husband and soon to be a father.

  • @kimgardner6540
    @kimgardner6540 Рік тому +6

    Great statement. My problem throughout my life was not valuing myself: I was taught to take anything I could get. Parents also need to teach their daughters self worth as well.

  • @jilllingenfelter4682
    @jilllingenfelter4682 Рік тому +25

    This is 1000% Godly truth🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 and your beautiful wifey is super blessed/lucky Pastor@ Ben Shapiro

  • @TheSpicyLeg
    @TheSpicyLeg Рік тому +13

    I dated to marry, been married for nearly 19 years. I’m turning 40 in a few weeks and I have to say, it was the smartest move I made. I did have dates back in the day where it was clear it was dead from the start. Girls that “wanted experiences” or casual hookups, and a couple that were not wife material (one I remember on our first date sneered at a child and unironically called him a little gremlin - charming).
    It’s also going to be a tougher on you younger men. It’s already hard enough to get a date, but then you’re going to be choosy on top of it. If she’s worth marrying, she’s not spreading her legs on the first date. And if she is worth marrying, you shouldn’t be trying to get between her legs. I know, that’s boring old traditional talk, but women with fewer partners have more stable marriages. And you should be respectful of the women you’re dating, and not preying upon them for your own selfish desire.

    • @lessonlearned1525
      @lessonlearned1525 Рік тому

      Why would you think that a woman would want a community dick that is all used up. The chastity component to successfully partnership goes both ways.

  • @badger6882
    @badger6882 Рік тому +11

    maybe it's not just about sex or children. To marry is a lifelong bond with a partner you wish to spend time with, take care of, be taken care by, etc.

  • @StinkySoock
    @StinkySoock Рік тому +4

    Exactly! I’m too young to date rn but I’ve always thought this way for when I do. I know ppl who don’t see exactly eye to eye about this and it will forever confuse me

  • @harrietcerenio2753
    @harrietcerenio2753 Рік тому +10

    Problem now a days is most of couples doesn't have the same thinking about relationships. Or should I say unsure and just play till they lose emotions.

    • @Xaviallin1
      @Xaviallin1 Рік тому +1

      I feel the same but I don’t want to lose hope as there’s many opportunities to find someone like minded in this world

    • @harrietcerenio2753
      @harrietcerenio2753 Рік тому +2

      @@Xaviallin1 sure it is, losers give up and winner chase. 🤗😊

    • @UltraConservativeMonarchist
      @UltraConservativeMonarchist Рік тому +2

      The most important topics should be discussed before you even enter a relationship. Those being religion, politics, marriage, children, love, etc.

    • @harrietcerenio2753
      @harrietcerenio2753 Рік тому +2

      @@UltraConservativeMonarchist I totally agree but would you think 2 different people could remember to discuss those topics before entering a relationship? They might just get bored specially now a days that entertainment is more important than talking about special things. And also some people now a days are more focused on their emotions than knowing the importance of such topics. 🙂 Somehow lucky are those who are mindful about it. ❤️

    • @DeathShiniGama
      @DeathShiniGama Рік тому

      @@UltraConservativeMonarchist when i was 'courting' my husband, I gave him a list of 10 questions.
      'What's your religion?
      Do you want kids?
      What's important to you?
      Thoughts on money.
      I cant remember all of them they were super on a whim. But he was like 6/10 compatible with me. 😂
      But we got married like 2 years later and while he wasnt a religious person when we got married he has since been warming up to the idea and participating in my religion. And I've calmed down with like traveling and stuff because he is more of a homebody.
      But sometimes it just takes time to adjust to the other person and not necessarily that it's an end all be all situation.
      But definitely having a list of red flags is very important.
      -Were they a past cheater?
      What's their relationship with their mothers/family?
      Money, saver or spender.
      Do they have like a 5 year goal or not.
      Watching what kind of work ethic they have.

  • @FirstNameLastName-wt5to
    @FirstNameLastName-wt5to Рік тому +56

    This is why I stopped dating. I don’t want to get married again.

    • @FirstNameLastName-wt5to
      @FirstNameLastName-wt5to Рік тому

      @@Davord He died.

    • @cat.nova74
      @cat.nova74 Рік тому +7

      Same! I'm now used to and happy being single at 47. My kids are grown and out of the nest and I love the freedom.

    • @WolfHunterJason
      @WolfHunterJason Рік тому

      @@cat.nova74 what do you do? how do you spend your free time? if you dont mind me asking

    • @SavageHunterisdead
      @SavageHunterisdead Рік тому

      @@cat.nova74 what do you do on your free time?

    • @NotAn_NPC
      @NotAn_NPC Рік тому

      @@SavageHunterisdead watching Netflix and eating burgers and chips probably

  • @cocomaz
    @cocomaz Рік тому +7

    Couldnt hear what he said...still focused on the beard😅😆

  • @dacebambite6444
    @dacebambite6444 Рік тому +5

    So happy to see Ben finally growing up ! Beard looks so good on him ! Starting to look like an actual grown man, not just a teenage nerd. Happy for him !

  • @daniellenard2872
    @daniellenard2872 Рік тому +67

    The beard is epic ! It’s a good look

    • @ellgndd5343
      @ellgndd5343 Рік тому +1

      Its because of aseret yamei tshuva, 10 days that jews We need to atone for our sins And its forbidden to Shave beard at those days

  • @jackcarraway4707
    @jackcarraway4707 Рік тому +5

    Therapist: Beard Shapiro does not exist; he can not hurt you.
    Beard Shapiro:

  • @Abd-al-Qadr
    @Abd-al-Qadr Рік тому +8

    BEN WITH THE BEARD.

  • @geoffreyhastings9576
    @geoffreyhastings9576 Рік тому +53

    Ben Shapiro?!?! More like Beard Shapiro!

  • @jellyboi999
    @jellyboi999 Рік тому +2

    Beard Shapiro looking good

  • @Ctd33
    @Ctd33 Рік тому +3

    This man should be one of the most respected due to his intelligence and common sense

  • @xz-activity9473
    @xz-activity9473 Рік тому +31

    Marriage life is quality, it’s freedom. I don’t know yet tho, I’m 16 XD

    • @-p2349
      @-p2349 Рік тому

      @A Laputa 16(2)=32

    • @abbyxiong3931
      @abbyxiong3931 Рік тому +1

      You know more than others. Keep going.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 Рік тому +1

      Divorce is freedom.
      Marriage is being trapped

    • @xz-activity9473
      @xz-activity9473 Рік тому +2

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 That's why we all gotta find a good woman first guys. XD

    • @surge127
      @surge127 Рік тому +3

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 divorce ain’t freedom when you’re paying half your salary in alimony and child support

  • @Luvcook
    @Luvcook Рік тому +2

    Sad thing is so if you date to marry, it scares off half the people you're with. And if you're celibate until marriage. This limits your dating pool even more unfortunately.
    But I won't change my ways. I still think it's the best way. I haven't even married, and now divorced. I'll still do the same way though. They need to be patient enough to wait. That shows that they are strong and patient and kind.

  • @barbaramohler6895
    @barbaramohler6895 Рік тому +3

    I am 57, no plastic surgery, Botox, etc. Retired nurse. I’m just left of center. If you gave it a label, it would be Libertarian. Huge fan of The Constitution. Dating? It’s difficult. Between men wanting someone to cook, clean, shop. I don’t mind doing it, it’s the ones that are specifically looking for someone to take care of them! Then there’s the ones that prefer girls, not women. There’s the cheaters, the still hate their X after being divorced for years, I could go on. Thing is, there’s women just like that too! I tried computer dating, that will never happen again. There’s a lot of lonely people out there. A lot of drugs too. People my age. Kind of hard to fight for our government, laws, and society with people who are alone, and using meth, fentanyl, and I understand heroine is making another return. Open borders. That was my vent.
    On a more serious note, what’s your wife think of the beard?

    • @barbaramohler6895
      @barbaramohler6895 Рік тому

      At my age, the question has become, “ Is this someone I want to grow older with?” Jordon Peterson explains things so well. So, what he said.

  • @littledancingfawn
    @littledancingfawn Рік тому +2

    I’ve wondered if he actually loved his wife when he first married her.
    He never talks about falling in love. He talks about children. At least the few times I’ve heard him speak on relationships/marriages.
    We all know he’s proud of his “ doctor” wife, but does he love her?

    • @rachellef
      @rachellef Рік тому +1

      So when you ask “does he love her?” What do you actually mean? Is it possible to have the type of life they share with someone without loving the person? What’s your definition of love? Romantic feelings?

    • @littledancingfawn
      @littledancingfawn Рік тому +1

      @@rachellef more than just an arrangement or marriage certificate and having sex to have babies. A deep caring and friendship like no other. An intense feeling for his wife. Romantic feelings, yes, but also much more than that. Has he ever felt butterflies in his stomach when he looked at her? Did he gasp when he seen her on their wedding day? Not sure how else to describe being in love.
      I love the feeling I get when I look into my hubby’s eyes. There is emotion there. Does he feel the same or is it just his wife’s eyes.

    • @UltraConservativeMonarchist
      @UltraConservativeMonarchist Рік тому

      @@littledancingfawn
      You are describing a feeling. What will you do if a feeling goes away? Will your marriage collapse? There are several different Greek words used for love in the Bible. The type of love you are describing seems to be the closest to ἔρως and it is of course a good thing to have this within a marriage, but it is worthless if one lacks the greatest type of love, ἀγάπη. St. Thomas Aquinas provided a great and simple definition of this love and that is "willing the good of the other". It is not a feeling, it is a decision of will.

    • @rypsterhc8673
      @rypsterhc8673 Рік тому

      @@UltraConservativeMonarchist she was talking about the feeling though

  • @preciousoyewole2208
    @preciousoyewole2208 Рік тому +12

    So true.

  • @darlatidwell6255
    @darlatidwell6255 Рік тому +6

    Facts from Ben, again. Keep up the good work.

  • @ns88ster
    @ns88ster Рік тому +3

    I wanted a traditional wife and big family. My wife got Multiple Sclerosis in her 20's though, and trying to have children would kill her. I love her with all my heart though. Life isn't fair. I have accepted that, and now we just have to do our best to share the love that we have found together with the world.

  • @Zomboo
    @Zomboo Рік тому +2

    Non-traditional people seem to still want a traditional relationship but arent willing to act in accordance with tradition. They expect traditional results from non-traditional actions.. ive always thought the definition of insanity was doing something repeatedly while genuinely expecting different results each time.
    Modern dating is insanity 🤷‍♂️

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 Рік тому

      No we don't want traditional relationships

    • @Zomboo
      @Zomboo Рік тому

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 I don't think you want to speak for all types of non-traditional relationships.. there are some horrible types out in the world you may not want under your protection. Specify what you are defending.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 Рік тому

      @@Zomboo
      Progressive partnerships are the best, where both earners contribute equally and make descisions together.
      None of this male leading, woman submissive chatter
      It's 2022

    • @Zomboo
      @Zomboo Рік тому

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 I'll strongly disagree but I have a question. What is the entire point of a traditional relationship versus the non-traditional one? Traditionally, it is all about what is best for the kids (i.e having both a mother and a father in the home). Non-traditional relationships dont seem to view their progeny as what is most important, it seems more focused on the parents as individuals instead of the family as a whole.

    • @rypsterhc8673
      @rypsterhc8673 Рік тому

      @@Zomboo exactly man, divorce rates are just increasing a lot lately, most of them initiated by women

  • @D3PU7Y
    @D3PU7Y Рік тому +3

    Are you saying that women twerking isn't incentivising me to be a better man..

    • @LionelLordOfTheThundercats
      @LionelLordOfTheThundercats Рік тому

      It is if you want one of them. You can get as many ugly or fat chicks as you want as a bad man.

    • @D3PU7Y
      @D3PU7Y Рік тому

      Are we being represented when our senators are twerking on television?

    • @LionelLordOfTheThundercats
      @LionelLordOfTheThundercats Рік тому

      @@D3PU7Y How does her dance moves effect the bills that she writes and supports? Are we being represented when are president is grabbing women by their genitals or paying to sleep with prostitutes?

  • @AnyWayICan
    @AnyWayICan Рік тому +2

    I didn’t date to marry, I married to date. ❤

  • @Jenni_H
    @Jenni_H Рік тому +2

    I was raised ad a Christian and this was our belief..its true to because why waste time just dating if the whole purpose is marriage.

  • @Mars-pw4iw
    @Mars-pw4iw Рік тому +3

    Dating and having that common vision of marriage is best, it sucks when it doesn't work out but you gotta know the other person's priorities from the start. I see my friends getting girlfriends over and over again and I get lonely but if you're in this exact situation you gotta remember to not go shifting through trash for gold.
    You'll find it eventually but it's not a thing to seek in a place where there is none.
    Being single is a privilege these days anyways.

  • @pauljohnson8794
    @pauljohnson8794 Рік тому +2

    Yes agree people aren't dating to find a marriage partner anymore.

  • @hahafunnyman-on5rq
    @hahafunnyman-on5rq Рік тому +2

    Ben's beard got me feeling some type of way

  • @jerrys1
    @jerrys1 Рік тому +3

    I still can’t get over Ben with a beard

  • @lehbeltman
    @lehbeltman Рік тому +14

    My wife still makes fun of me but on our first official date(we had know each other socially for a couple of years) I told her I was looking for a wife and if I didn’t think it was going to be her, I would break it off and asked her to do the same. I was about 23 at the time and was done with the dating scene.

    • @karlheven8328
      @karlheven8328 Рік тому +1

      That was pretty straight-forward to say.
      She must have liked you much from the beginning for you to be able to pull that off hinting at marriage so early😀

    • @mcchickenmuhchicken
      @mcchickenmuhchicken Рік тому

      you're a good man

  • @mae1062
    @mae1062 Рік тому +11

    Ben: let me give real advice
    The comment section: look at that beard tho😍🤤
    😂😂

  • @kbowler9266
    @kbowler9266 Рік тому +1

    this is where it all should start. people, specially young people, need a solid base for the what and why to do things.
    this is where single family home can struggle and need more support. there doesn't seem to be a sense of community and caring for people. what happen to block parties? kids need to learn how to socialize and get along with others.
    there is no filter or fear of consequences sitting alone in a room all alone.
    everyone needs some support and a feeling someone has their back.

  • @pumpkin-soup
    @pumpkin-soup Рік тому +3

    I am only a teenager and have yet to leave my parent's house but because of how they raised me (they did a great job if I do say so myself) I want to live alone for at least a few months to learn how to be independent. and then I will try to find a husband. I am waiting till marriage and plan to keep it that way.

  • @LionelLordOfTheThundercats
    @LionelLordOfTheThundercats Рік тому +2

    Why would I take dating advice from someone that is clearly asexual? Ben doesn't find women attractive, he appears to be married out of a sense of duty.

  • @ninarenee9561
    @ninarenee9561 Рік тому +3

    If everyone took bens advice the world would be in so much better shape

  • @spin.chicken
    @spin.chicken Рік тому +2

    Dating isnt about children... its spending your life with a partner and children may be included

  • @hannahfarr3384
    @hannahfarr3384 Рік тому +1

    The advice I've always heard is don't date someone if you can't see yourself being married to them or having a child with them.

  • @riverbythesea11
    @riverbythesea11 Рік тому +1

    💯. I’m dating for marriage. I don’t do casual dates, I don’t hang out with men, I don’t sleep with men unless we are in a committed monogamous relationship. Id rather be alone than be the type of woman who sleeps around or wastes time with men who aren’t ready to settle down. 😊

  • @ericburns3843
    @ericburns3843 Рік тому +1

    He finally hit puberty

  • @michaelhaywood2635
    @michaelhaywood2635 Рік тому +1

    Love the beard and of course the commentary as well.

  • @guardianangel2099
    @guardianangel2099 Рік тому +1

    Strongly agree 👍

  • @leokirby2711
    @leokirby2711 Рік тому +2

    THATS SO TRUE U BLEW MY MIND

  • @sunkissed_grl
    @sunkissed_grl Рік тому +2

    Met my husband in 8th grade, became friends when we were 17, by 19 we were part of a very tight group of friends, 21 let all our friends know they in fact had been right for over a year…we were in a monogamist relationship, 29 got married. We casually dated others, neither of us wanted a serious relationship, oops. I lost a brother & my dad, diagnosed w/Crohn’s, it was a bust 6yrs leading up to our wedding. That’s my love story, my favorite story.

  • @melissastreeter22
    @melissastreeter22 Рік тому +3

    The French don't date and thus have no word for it. They have un coup de foudre, a sudden attraction, and move forward from that.

  • @blakecarington9601
    @blakecarington9601 Рік тому +1

    Facts🔥

  • @saracowgill2144
    @saracowgill2144 Рік тому +2

    I’m post menopausal now but I still want to date and get married. Hmmm 😢

    • @lessonlearned1525
      @lessonlearned1525 Рік тому

      Not all men want children. Be honest about what you want and you'll find someone that wants the same.

  • @kugelblitz1557
    @kugelblitz1557 Рік тому +3

    Marriage isn't necessarily always at the forefront, but if I'm going to ask someone out on a date it's because I know them and I want to spend time figuring out if I'd be willing to spend the rest of my life with them; by the time I'm asking you out, I'm already willing to throw myself under a bus for you no questions asked, but I'm looking more for someone to talk to and if it ends up working out, we get married. If we end up not working together well, too bad at least I have memories and hopefully a friend I can trust.

    • @UltraConservativeMonarchist
      @UltraConservativeMonarchist Рік тому

      As long as there is no s3xual intercourse, kissing, hand holding, hugging, spending time alone or visiting the other persons house, I suppose it's fine.

    • @kugelblitz1557
      @kugelblitz1557 Рік тому

      @@UltraConservativeMonarchist what's wrong with hand holding? I do that with every single girl I dance with.

    • @UltraConservativeMonarchist
      @UltraConservativeMonarchist Рік тому

      @@kugelblitz1557 It depends on the context. I meant it in a "romantic" way.

    • @kugelblitz1557
      @kugelblitz1557 Рік тому

      @@UltraConservativeMonarchist even then, you just can't touch each other? I can hug a friend in greeting, but as soon as we're romantically engaged that's off limits? Definitely no sex but physical displays of affection like hugging or holding hands I think are fine as long as you don't go overboard and/or do it at the wrong time.

  • @VtheVictorious
    @VtheVictorious Рік тому +2

    Yes, date for companionship beyond sexual pleasure. But, that does not mean you have to date for the sole purpose of procreation.

  • @mckinneyguy
    @mckinneyguy Рік тому +1

    You already have two fully formed Tom Selek moustaches above each eye Ben, Cmon now.

  • @MLouah-gp9ef
    @MLouah-gp9ef Рік тому +3

    Listening with renewed attention since he’s grown that beard.

  • @sravans149
    @sravans149 Рік тому +1

    Yeah lmao , I dated expecting for something really long term and ended up being dumped for being too nice

  • @kayleetolman8205
    @kayleetolman8205 Рік тому +1

    In my church we are advised to not date till 16, and to date with the intent of marriage. We dont have sex before marriage or anything like that. I have heard some people call it "mormon dating".

  • @nateq
    @nateq Рік тому +1

    I just can't get over your beard lmao

  • @rayna5623
    @rayna5623 Рік тому +1

    I'm dating to marry y'all! it's hard to wait instead of jumping into a relationship but I know it's going to be worth it!

  • @samanthagregory6404
    @samanthagregory6404 Рік тому +1

    Having a good marriage is more than just raising babies. You gotta find your best friend in the end. You gotta make compromises and communicate wants and needs. There is alot to marriage. And dating for sexual pleasure is ruining that.

  • @BEE-nk5fg
    @BEE-nk5fg Рік тому +1

    On my first date, he got arrested and went to jail. We’ve been married 30 years! It was the best date I’ve ever been on. EPIC!

  • @melvinloyalist6758
    @melvinloyalist6758 Рік тому +1

    Video title should be changed to:
    “Date to Beard.”

  • @jamesduncan6729
    @jamesduncan6729 Рік тому +1

    Ben's one good lookin' guy. Great beard, my man 👍🏻

  • @GomersPile01
    @GomersPile01 Рік тому +1

    All fee mails are exactly the same fellas.

  • @johnelusiyan1
    @johnelusiyan1 Рік тому +1

    Someone isn't using his Jeremy's Razors

  • @ghhm2705
    @ghhm2705 Рік тому +1

    Dating is practice for divorce.

  • @imdavidhammond
    @imdavidhammond Рік тому

    I say this all the time. Well said 🙏

  • @arunmoses2197
    @arunmoses2197 Рік тому

    You pulled the words right out of my head Mr. Shapiro

  • @askwhy3676
    @askwhy3676 Рік тому

    Good video Ben!
    It looks like you finally hit puberty.. about time and congrats!!

  • @toma.4808
    @toma.4808 Рік тому

    I stopped dating a decade ago. Didn't hurt Me nor did it dwindle the population.

  • @NHJ_pLeppen
    @NHJ_pLeppen Рік тому +1

    Sex and dating is separate, pardon the english. Im liberal, but still, facts are facts.

  • @darwinbodero7872
    @darwinbodero7872 Рік тому +1

    He grew the beard so as to avoid comparison to news mommy

  • @josuec71
    @josuec71 Рік тому +1

    Ben is finally reaching he’s final form ha

  • @zixuanqin6408
    @zixuanqin6408 Рік тому +1

    I have an extremely strong sexual desire yet I consider dating just for sex a disgrace.

  • @destructodanie
    @destructodanie Рік тому +1

    it's not for everyone tho. my boyfriend doesn't want kids. he doesn't like kids. he doesn't have the money to afford kids or the patience to afford kids. he had a rough childhood and I'm a multiple childhood rape survivor. some people don't need or want kids. there are other ways to live in this world.

  • @charelzJ
    @charelzJ Рік тому +1

    Perhaps this is the case when your life plan includes children.

  • @jamesparker5522
    @jamesparker5522 Рік тому

    When I was a child this is the way things were, Ben shapiro is just talking about old fashioned family values and there is nothing wrong with that and we've lost sight of what is really important in this country and that's family

  • @GomersPile01
    @GomersPile01 Рік тому +1

    XXXX
    Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it.
    XXXX
    cvbhgfjgf

  • @jennam8426
    @jennam8426 Рік тому

    Loving the beard! ❤

  • @lindamoore9482
    @lindamoore9482 Рік тому

    I remember my male friend telling me he was seeing a girl but it was a lust thing she wasn't " marriage " material.
    I was 17 at the time and more interested in sports than boys at the time, but it stuck in my head.

  • @darice6166
    @darice6166 Рік тому +1

    man’s doesn’t know what romance is lol