Happiest anniversary guys! I loved this interview as we often get to see Joanne speak about Anthony whereas here we got to hear him as well. I also cannot help but mention how delighted it makes me feel to see two individuals hold so much respect and admiration for one another. It's truly a sight to behold and thank you for letting us see a glimpse of your relationship 🏵🙏
Happy 5th year anniversary! I love to hear real, authentic love stories like yours, the ups and downs of learning how to communicate effectively in intimate relationships. Sometimes a break is necessary and healthy to reevaluate and think carefully about what each of us bring to the table, listen to your own needs and wants while doing your best to actively hear and respond to what your partner's needs and wants are, and so you don't lose your own voice and sense of self in the process of trying to make a relationship work (and fall into toxic control and codependency patterns). I've learned that the hard way in my 28 year relationship with my husband. Practising boundary setting (and sticking to them) has been one of the most challenging lessons I've been grateful to have the opportunity to learn in my entire life. So happy to see how you and Anthony have weathered the storm in an equal and mutually respectful way, while still maintaining your own independence and giving each other the freedom to be yourselves, warts and all! 💓
I love this--thank you for sharing these thoughts as they truly echo my own. I too struggle with boundary setting and learned so much about how quickly "love" can morph into codependency. Thank you again for sharing a little peek into your own love story and congratulations on 28 years!!!! that's the marathon of all marathons!
@@TheKoreanVegan Thank you, Joanne! Life and love is never perfect and can be messy, but with continued hard work and personal growth, it is worth every moment to achieve true intimacy, in our romantic and platonic relationships. Wishing you and Anthony many more fulfilling, meaningful years of marital contentment and authentic love ahead!
Sure! I think friendship is absolutely possible after a romantic relationship. I have done it lots of times; I'm doing it now. I believe it depends on how the relationship ended and how much you value one another definitely matters. Not every relationship ends in flames, y'all. I can tell some of you's have stuff to work through yet. 👀 I'm currently friends with "the one that got away". There was hurt in the past, but it was before both of our brains were even fully developed lol! We joke that we were still saplings, and we were doing the best with what tools we had. He adds great value to my life as is. Dating him isn't necessary. I do still see him in that way, but we are both single, so I'm not a threat to anyone. If he were to begin seeing someone - I have done this before - I told him to go be happy, and I backed off.
Hello sweet SMART girl, you are a KEEPER, which is not as common today- he’s so lucky. THANK YOU SO MUCH for standing true and firm in your boundaries. Women and men process break-ups VERY DIFFERENTLY.
I had to watch the video for the episode1. And for some reason whenever you guys starts laughing I would find myself laughing too. What a contagious laugh😂! How men and women communicate is really different and most of the time how we handle things causes a lot of arguments. But once we settle in, learn how to really talk, lower the pride, real communication happens and everything changes. I love your videos The Korean Vegan! More power!❤
Happy anniversary! I think you too have wonderful relationship. In this informative video you both seem very comfortable with and respectful of each other. Many blessings to you both .
@@mistyblue2917 the math class one of the most failed classes statistically because you can't take other classes until you pass the math and the teachers will tell you most do not pass the first time they take it
@zenmoonmaster oh i see, thanks for your reply♡.. btw i wasn't asking in a rude way but just information-gathering, as i supposed delay could have occurred from any number of possible reasons.. i love hearing n learning from ppl's life experiences ♡♡ Just one last question since u mentioned a math class, what class was it?
Mrs Vegan, stop wasting your energy on cultural issues Be strong Embrace your inner strengh n achievements U r amazing. U dont need to endure roots ... ♡
I don’t want to overstep, so please delete this comment if I am, but I’m wondering about your and his thoughts on romantic intimacy. You touch on this in previous videos in regards to young love, vs. romantic love, vs. intentional love, etc., so I’m curious about you and his thoughts on the importance of physical intimacy for folks who aren’t 22 years old anymore and/or in a relationship that’s 10+ years in.
I am still long-term friends with 2 people I previously dated, because we were and are adults. We figured it out. It didn't have a dramatic impact on me. It was talked out and we all moved on, we didnt draw crap out.
Good for you, but not everyone is you, and not everyone is your exes, and it doesn't have to do with "being an adult". Your comment is judgemental and shaming.
@@Megan6772 Who was it judging, Megan? Perhaps you feel judged because they are describing something that wasn't your experience. I honestly feel like you're projecting. They literally described their own experience; that's it.
Lucky you mrs vegan. He genuily loves your success. It is because he is so clever n in love with excellence that he couldn't coexist with dependance n mediocrity Awesome ♡♡ Edit. We need more Anthony..s ♡♡
is always sad to me to listen how people are "othered" in USA as i think, appart of native americans, everyone has being an emmigrant there. Different cultures is something to embrace and enjoy of the richness. This happens everywhere i know but i really wish we humans we will be more curious and open
A smart man supports his woman . If she makes more money or has more fame, who cares? Its one home! It wouldn't be weird if he had more money or fame. So why is it weird the other way. If its a TRUE partnership. You celebrate their wins. Mourn their losses.
I have a question? Was having children an issue or a want for any of you ? Or were you both on the same page, and it just wasn't even on the cards because of age or preference?
Because he is used to enduring other people random conversations while thinking this is kindergarten + he is used to thinking all the time, deeply, very deeply, putting everything in perspective + he has a very... vivacious temper. Saw the blood flood on his side forehead 😉
If they dumped you and still want to remain friends then that's a red flag because they want to see what other options before wanting to settle with you again.
Great opportunity to also live life on your terms and do what you need for yourself. Be that exploring your needs and wants etc. Also as an opportunity to grow individually. Hardly a red flag especially if it’s communicated openly. Only a red flag if hidden or lied to. Love stories are all unique and what determines a green flag is how each person shows up and treats the other person and learns and grows from their dynamic through the good and rough moments. Even people who smoothly get together is not a guaranteed determining factor of a successful outcome or mean they are compatible in the same light that hitting a rough patch at the onset means negative outcome as this story demonstrates!! Love and life is never a cookie cutter fairytale. Emotional intelligence is way more abstract than generalized guidelines like there’s a breakup so he or she wants someone else. If only life was so black and white. I have a sibling who is married with two kids over 17 years to a woman he met and broke up with for one year because of timing. Does not mean he wanted someone else or was on the dating scene. That’s a limiting concept and points more to your own insecurities which will more than likely show up at any phase of a relationship if not addressed. Thank you to this couple for sharing and keeping it real instead of like a Disney movie.
@sisijames Anthony is older and has more relationship experience than her. He knew what he was doing when he dumped her so stop making excuses for him.
Do not go back to someone who left the relationship for whatever reason, ever. Certainly do not make lightearted jokes about being dumped. 😢 Btw this man will always have the upper hand in this relationship. As they say, whatever makes you 'happy', until you learn the lesson.
Yeah my old boss gave me this advice when my bf at the time dumped me. He didnt try to get back with me but I had a long-game plan to try and get back with him (who knows if it would have worked). Instead, I'm glad I listened to her. It's not good for your self esteem to chase after people who have said they don't want you. If you did something wrong and then them dumping you makes you realise you have to change, getting back together might work, way down the track. But if you didnt do anything wrong, and they just didn't want to be with you... don't beg them to take you back.
@@schoo9256 The same advice I was given. It is never a good idea to go back to the old, it is gone or broken for a reason and even if it is patched up it will never be based on trust and equal ground. ❤️
Meanwhile they are enjoying their lives together fully committed and in a healthy partnership! Each love story is different. Yours is perfect for you just as theirs is for them. Hopefully you found your person like they found each other. I don’t see that he has an upper hand that’s a very egocentric perspective like there’s a game to be won. He appreciates how this woman challenged him as much as he challenged her. She’s a catch just as much as he is to her. ❤❤❤❤ They are both winning! Thank you for sharing your love story!! Each so unique and special and keep smiling and keeping it real for others to learn from and apply as makes their lives better. So brave to share your beautiful story!
Yes, a lot of people never see each other again. It is hard to be friends , generally.
He wanted to remain friends after the break up because he was still interested in you. So that was his way of keeping you in his life.
This is the simplest and likely truest explanation 😊
Happiest anniversary guys! I loved this interview as we often get to see Joanne speak about Anthony whereas here we got to hear him as well.
I also cannot help but mention how delighted it makes me feel to see two individuals hold so much respect and admiration for one another. It's truly a sight to behold and thank you for letting us see a glimpse of your relationship 🏵🙏
Happy 5th year anniversary! I love to hear real, authentic love stories like yours, the ups and downs of learning how to communicate effectively in intimate relationships. Sometimes a break is necessary and healthy to reevaluate and think carefully about what each of us bring to the table, listen to your own needs and wants while doing your best to actively hear and respond to what your partner's needs and wants are, and so you don't lose your own voice and sense of self in the process of trying to make a relationship work (and fall into toxic control and codependency patterns). I've learned that the hard way in my 28 year relationship with my husband. Practising boundary setting (and sticking to them) has been one of the most challenging lessons I've been grateful to have the opportunity to learn in my entire life. So happy to see how you and Anthony have weathered the storm in an equal and mutually respectful way, while still maintaining your own independence and giving each other the freedom to be yourselves, warts and all! 💓
I love this--thank you for sharing these thoughts as they truly echo my own. I too struggle with boundary setting and learned so much about how quickly "love" can morph into codependency. Thank you again for sharing a little peek into your own love story and congratulations on 28 years!!!! that's the marathon of all marathons!
@@TheKoreanVegan Thank you, Joanne! Life and love is never perfect and can be messy, but with continued hard work and personal growth, it is worth every moment to achieve true intimacy, in our romantic and platonic relationships. Wishing you and Anthony many more fulfilling, meaningful years of marital contentment and authentic love ahead!
Thank you for sharing and answering some of our questions :)
Sure! I think friendship is absolutely possible after a romantic relationship. I have done it lots of times; I'm doing it now. I believe it depends on how the relationship ended and how much you value one another definitely matters. Not every relationship ends in flames, y'all. I can tell some of you's have stuff to work through yet. 👀
I'm currently friends with "the one that got away". There was hurt in the past, but it was before both of our brains were even fully developed lol! We joke that we were still saplings, and we were doing the best with what tools we had. He adds great value to my life as is. Dating him isn't necessary. I do still see him in that way, but we are both single, so I'm not a threat to anyone. If he were to begin seeing someone - I have done this before - I told him to go be happy, and I backed off.
Hello sweet SMART girl, you are a KEEPER, which is not as common today- he’s so lucky. THANK YOU SO MUCH for standing true and firm in your boundaries.
Women and men process break-ups VERY DIFFERENTLY.
Amazing ❤So happy you are together, Joann is super strong lady . I m big fan of you , two
I had to watch the video for the episode1. And for some reason whenever you guys starts laughing I would find myself laughing too. What a contagious laugh😂! How men and women communicate is really different and most of the time how we handle things causes a lot of arguments. But once we settle in, learn how to really talk, lower the pride, real communication happens and everything changes. I love your videos The Korean Vegan! More power!❤
I agree with cutting people out your life after a break-up
You two are sweet together.
Happy anniversary! I think you too have wonderful relationship. In this informative video you both seem very comfortable with and respectful of each other. Many blessings to you both .
It can be me being petty but when I get dumped I block that person.
Can you talk about how you were fearful avoidant and how you got through that?😊
Man, Anthony does not look very comfortable! Love you both!
I started college in 2014 and just graduated a few months ago
Just from undergrad? What caused the extended delay?
@@mistyblue2917 the math class one of the most failed classes statistically because you can't take other classes until you pass the math and the teachers will tell you most do not pass the first time they take it
Congrats!!
@zenmoonmaster oh i see, thanks for your reply♡.. btw i wasn't asking in a rude way but just information-gathering, as i supposed delay could have occurred from any number of possible reasons.. i love hearing n learning from ppl's life experiences ♡♡ Just one last question since u mentioned a math class, what class was it?
@@mistyblue2917 in my case in was remedial and college algebra taking each two or 3 times just to barely pass with going to tutoring it's no joke
Mrs Vegan, stop wasting your energy on cultural issues
Be strong
Embrace your inner strengh n achievements
U r amazing. U dont need to endure roots ... ♡
I don’t want to overstep, so please delete this comment if I am, but I’m wondering about your and his thoughts on romantic intimacy. You touch on this in previous videos in regards to young love, vs. romantic love, vs. intentional love, etc., so I’m curious about you and his thoughts on the importance of physical intimacy for folks who aren’t 22 years old anymore and/or in a relationship that’s 10+ years in.
I am still long-term friends with 2 people I previously dated, because we were and are adults. We figured it out. It didn't have a dramatic impact on me. It was talked out and we all moved on, we didnt draw crap out.
Good for you, but not everyone is you, and not everyone is your exes, and it doesn't have to do with "being an adult". Your comment is judgemental and shaming.
@Megan6772 No, not even a little bit. Just my experience.
@@Megan6772Really? That's not how I read it 🤔
@@Ella.L.Agree!
@@Megan6772 Who was it judging, Megan?
Perhaps you feel judged because they are describing something that wasn't your experience. I honestly feel like you're projecting. They literally described their own experience; that's it.
Friends with benefits!!!!
Im still great friends with a few people ive dated, one whom i see regularly.
Happy anniversary :)
Lucky you mrs vegan. He genuily loves your success. It is because he is so clever n in love with excellence that he couldn't coexist with dependance n mediocrity
Awesome ♡♡
Edit. We need more Anthony..s ♡♡
is always sad to me to listen how people are "othered" in USA as i think, appart of native americans, everyone has being an emmigrant there. Different cultures is something to embrace and enjoy of the richness. This happens everywhere i know but i really wish we humans we will be more curious and open
Happy 5 year anniversary! 🥂
A smart man supports his woman . If she makes more money or has more fame, who cares? Its one home!
It wouldn't be weird if he had more money or fame. So why is it weird the other way.
If its a TRUE partnership. You celebrate their wins. Mourn their losses.
18:40
Anthony secretely thinking "what is she talking about. ... well, lucky for me, she is hot, that balances the chatty brain"
Loooooooollllll
I have a question? Was having children an issue or a want for any of you ? Or were you both on the same page, and it just wasn't even on the cards because of age or preference?
Hi!
What about you dated the one you talked about when making ice cream ❔
She's so 🔥
Absomutely NOT!
Another guy that likes to play head games. Yawn
why he look mad
Because he is used to enduring other people random conversations while thinking this is kindergarten + he is used to thinking all the time, deeply, very deeply, putting everything in perspective + he has a very... vivacious temper. Saw the blood flood on his side forehead 😉
If they dumped you and still want to remain friends then that's a red flag because they want to see what other options before wanting to settle with you again.
Great opportunity to also live life on your terms and do what you need for yourself. Be that exploring your needs and wants etc. Also as an opportunity to grow individually. Hardly a red flag especially if it’s communicated openly. Only a red flag if hidden or lied to. Love stories are all unique and what determines a green flag is how each person shows up and treats the other person and learns and grows from their dynamic through the good and rough moments. Even people who smoothly get together is not a guaranteed determining factor of a successful outcome or mean they are compatible in the same light that hitting a rough patch at the onset means negative outcome as this story demonstrates!! Love and life is never a cookie cutter fairytale. Emotional intelligence is way more abstract than generalized guidelines like there’s a breakup so he or she wants someone else. If only life was so black and white. I have a sibling who is married with two kids over 17 years to a woman he met and broke up with for one year because of timing. Does not mean he wanted someone else or was on the dating scene. That’s a limiting concept and points more to your own insecurities which will more than likely show up at any phase of a relationship if not addressed.
Thank you to this couple for sharing and keeping it real instead of like a Disney movie.
Lol thanks
@sisijames Anthony is older and has more relationship experience than her. He knew what he was doing when he dumped her so stop making excuses for him.
this is true--he did have more experience than me!!! I can't lie!! LOLOL!
Do not go back to someone who left the relationship for whatever reason, ever. Certainly do not make lightearted jokes about being dumped. 😢 Btw this man will always have the upper hand in this relationship. As they say, whatever makes you 'happy', until you learn the lesson.
This is a bizarre comment if you don't know them personally. It may even still be bizarre then-
@@MaynardsSpaceship You may perhaps understand it one day.
Yeah my old boss gave me this advice when my bf at the time dumped me. He didnt try to get back with me but I had a long-game plan to try and get back with him (who knows if it would have worked). Instead, I'm glad I listened to her. It's not good for your self esteem to chase after people who have said they don't want you.
If you did something wrong and then them dumping you makes you realise you have to change, getting back together might work, way down the track. But if you didnt do anything wrong, and they just didn't want to be with you... don't beg them to take you back.
@@schoo9256 The same advice I was given. It is never a good idea to go back to the old, it is gone or broken for a reason and even if it is patched up it will never be based on trust and equal ground. ❤️
Meanwhile they are enjoying their lives together fully committed and in a healthy partnership! Each love story is different. Yours is perfect for you just as theirs is for them. Hopefully you found your person like they found each other. I don’t see that he has an upper hand that’s a very egocentric perspective like there’s a game to be won. He appreciates how this woman challenged him as much as he challenged her. She’s a catch just as much as he is to her. ❤❤❤❤ They are both winning!
Thank you for sharing your love story!! Each so unique and special and keep smiling and keeping it real for others to learn from and apply as makes their lives better. So brave to share your beautiful story!