These 6 Words Helped Me Overcome My Fear of Failure
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- Опубліковано 11 січ 2020
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If you're in a generous mood please do share the video. It really does help.
👍👍👍👍 thanks so much and happy 2020 and always
Your videos are awesome mate.
Shared. Too powerful video.
Thank you for this. My fear is more about my inability to do well. I have anxiety since I was a little kid. Because I got yelled at by almost every teacher in elementary, middle, and high school. Now I fear criticism under my boss at work and I am very skeptical when I receive praise because I do not know if he is bsing me. I took a lot sick days from work because the stress got so bad, and now I fear they not only think I am incompetent at work but also that I am unreliable and inconsistent since I didn't show up for work much this past month. There are times when they praised me for doing a very good job, but during those days I was very disciplined in the sense that I had good sleep good diet and came to work at my best level. Sadly, I do not like my job though because it is stressful so eventually I keep falling into bad habits of going to bed late, not getting good sleep, not having proper diet or exercise and I go back to doing a sub optimal job. But my biggest fear is being at my best self but still not performing as well as what is expected causing me to fear the scoldings and negative reactions I'd get from my boss and coworkers alike. I am writing this more for my self lol, but yea. I always thought I was stupid, but as I grew up I came to realize my father was never really a good role model and he pretended to be a 'nice' person but in the end he always tried to put me down with his words saying that I was good for nothing or all the other kids are doing better than me. So when I struggled in school or sports at an early age I gave up trying so much after a point and just drifted my attention towards instant pleasure . For most of high school, college, and my early years of employment I thought I was just a stupid guy and nothing I ever did mattered. I did this for all of high school, college, and I'm still doing it now but gradually making more efforts to change this as I am 25 now and my brain/mind have matured compared to that of an adolescence. I realize now that while I may not be very smart, I am not very dumb either. Rather I am just somewhere in between. I think at a deeper level I knew that when I was younger that it wasn't solely due to me being less intelligent than the 'smart' kids at school but rather I had a negative mindset and just gave up on getting good grades in some classes because I let the dopamine pleasure rewarding activities distract me from the stresses and pains of real life. These days I am mature and have a better understanding of the realities such that I need money to live and I have to overcome my fears and short term humiliations from society if I want to make enough money to have a life where I am not struggling to get food, water, or a place to live in the long term. My father is a narcissistic a-hole which made me feel like a worthless person most of my life. But I realize I can't blame my whole life on my perceived sense of weaker genetics due to having to put more effort than the really 'smart' kids to get good grades at school (due to sheer luck some people are very smart and there is nothing I can do about that, other than keep working hard and hope I get lucky) and I can't keep blaming my father for my mental health problems because like you said "Nobody/No one cares". My father doesn't really care even if he feels bad for the way he was (he feels guilt rather than genuine sadness for the way he treated me), my mother doesn't really care despite the fact that she acted as a passive enabler of his behavior, the kids who teased me for having low confidence and difficulties during physical education class or math class didn't care. My boss doesn't care if I feel bad from his scoldings (he may only really feel bad if it makes him feel like a bad person for scolding me), the only real thing he cares about is am i getting the work done right and on time. I too realize I must decide to not care about "my emotions" as they can be fleeting and ever changing. I must only care about trying to do my best everyday or by getting feedback and from self reflection to be MY best at work, future post graduate studies, parties, or other social environments. Even as I write this I struggle with my anxiety, but at least in this moment I know that I will not give up. Thankyou for this.
"Total inaction also equals failure" - I got it down to five.
“Snooze Equals Fool” - got it down to three
"action succeeds" - got it down to two
"Do" - got it down to one
"just do it"
📉=📈
How bout that
Very true. Failure itself is not a failure, not trying at all is true failure.
"Nobody cares what you are doing. Action conquers fear." Absolutely true. Thanks so much for videos like this. I started my own channel in 2017, but fear of failure prevented me from uploading any videos until a few weeks ago. Action is the solution.
Fear is the mind killer ;)
@@HuesingProductions it absolutely is and it's often unfounded. I kept delaying uploading videos because I thought nobody would subscribe. It's a hard slog, but I'm getting a steady trickle of subscribers.
@@RobJenkinsDubTechno hey I just subscribed and listened to your videos. You are doing great!
by the way I was just quoting "Dune" from Frank Herbert haha
@@HuesingProductions awesome, that's really appreciated. Didn't realise it was a quote.😊. Just googled it. It's an awesome quote.
I know that's such a liberating feeling. Keep fighting your fear with action! 👍🏽
When we are about to take action, we often picture what could go wrong and it triggers disproportionate fear in comparison to what the failure would cost.
The only way to convince your subconscious mind that you shouldn't be afraid is by taking action and seeing the results, even if they aren't that good.
In the long run, it will help you to take on new challenges easily.
Ya specially when the is task is big and we think its just a waste if we fail. We live in an instant gratification cycle. I have ADHD, this is what I struggle the most .
Action conquers fear. I need this tattooed on my hand
Another 6 words: “Action is the antidote to despair.” (Joan Baez) ❤️ Action means practicing, learning, understanding...it means experience which leads to normalization which leads to confidence.
(Yes, fear DOES go away. We can all find something in our life that once terrified us but not longer has any affect.)
Action speaks louder than words! my momma used to say. The worlds a stage and you’re up next.
I’m so glad you found a way to conquer your fears and are creating amazing content! I’ve just recently discovered your channel and your videos have helped so much already in my journey to create a blog. Thank you for your hard work! I really value your messages. Keep it up!
Fantastic. One year on in my business I can see the bricks I have laid and its action that has got me thus far.
Keep going everyone who watches this with your dreams.
this channel is really helping me :) thank you very much
That's great to hear and thank you for watching
Only action conquer fear. I become a Maths teacher because of this mentality. Please share it . really good stuff
Thanks, exactly what I was looking for... Short & straight to the point...God bless👍👍👍
This is the reason for procrastination. Two takeaways: "Nobody cares what you are doing" and "Action conquers fear."
Thank you for the video!
I've been waiting for this one!
Been behind on my videos and writing
Sounds amazing action.
Thanks for this.
needed a video like this I have been studying for a competitive exam since 3 years tomorrow is my exam i was also focusing on my side hustle in the mean time , i got very good at side hustle buisn but i also wanted to crack this exam i think i can, I know I can , but i overthink about my society, friend and people who know me , thinking that they will laugh on me after this I think i can do and will do it :) thanks a lot fam
I'll always share every video you post. Hands down my favorite UA-camr in the world.
Great stuff! Fully agree with you.
Good piece of work- Yes once we get our enormous egos out of the way life is a lot more vital- so the next time you agonise over what someone might think of what you do or say just remember no-one really knows you and your thoughts. The world won’t doesn’t notice or care what you are doing!
Fantastic video! Perspective changing
I've actually talked about this just a few days ago!
Very important concept, love the video
Serendipity!
Your last sentence is lit. 🔥 Thoughts does not conquers fear. Plan does not conquers fear. Ideas does not conquers fear. Encouragement does not conquers fear. Friends does not conquers fear.
And,
Action conquers fear.
Thank You 🙏🏻
Blooming brilliant thank you.
Thank You! 🙏
Super helpful thanks so much! 😘
Thank you!
Got chills at the end.
I love you, whoever you are I just love you.
thank you so much........❤❤❤❤
Thank you for these great words and thoughts...
##ACTION CONQUERS FEAR.... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I've never feared failure until i got pushed here a couple years ago. It wasn't those 6 words...but actually the 3 words at the end of this video that sucker punched me. When you stated all those things that don't conquer fear, and then followed that up with "action conquers fear," it put on display all the things that people use unsuccessfully...and then the one thing they avoid the most (the one that actually works). I'm going to keep this idea in mind and let it stir around for a while. Thanks.
Your videos are the best
when you talked aboute this I shivered a little, and... I just... "yea It have always been my fear"
And then you become so good no one can ignore you.
"Fear of failure," is what a friend once said to me. I said: "No, I am afraid of success. This is the USA. I am afraid that someone will sue me for the money I make. I am afraid someone will accuse me of something sexual and I will be tried in the American 'news' media. We have all heard the quote: "You are a nobody in America until you have been sued." Being a poor unknown nobody is safer (and happier) than becoming successful and famous, and then sued into debt and surviving in jail."
Nice one thank you for that, I just made a video on this topic!
thank you for the 6 words.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I’m still alive but my panic makes me feel dissociated from reality I just live in my head and that’s no life😢
I have a huge fear of failure and is running my life I am to scared to even start my art journey because of how bad my drawings look and instead of encouraging myself I get deeper and deeper into depression
always remember Shia Labeouf yelling "just do it!"
WOW
Wow
I'd say that's about fear of what people are going to think, not about fear of failure.
This is huge for public speaking and presentations tbh, the negative picture you perceive in your head is always worse than reality.
Yep I want to write a book and I don't feel good enough, then i realised no one cares that there are millions of books out there that are bad, in fact, they still get sold.
To overcome fear is to kill your shadow, the only way to do so is by going into complete darkness.
I was not afraid! I wrote EIGHT BOOKS over a period of TEN YEARS. Now the problem is how to GET PEOPLE TO SEE THEM AND BUY THEM. They are all available on LULU.com but I have no idea how to market them without spending MONEY, which I have very little.
Friends do not conquer fear, action does. No questions asked, just do it. At the end of the day, I am now glad that nobody cares.
“Nobody cares why you are doing” Looks at mom: Ok sure
I care.
The world is always going to be made up of people who succed and people who fail, there's nothing as sad as trying to succed when you belong to those who fail, you know it isn't so bad down here in the food chain ,once you get used to it , you won't feel sad or happy or anything actually a sort of freedom some may say.
Am I the only one who blinked 3 times in the beginning
Just do eet
Okay but obscurity can vanish literally overnight if something you've put out there is shared enough.
big rings
champagne
my life is like a ball game
But instead I'm in the trap though, pot so big call it super bowl
@@transfornation3187 hahahaha very nice
What..?
If you dont shoot it will be 100 perc miss
You are not suppose to be "not scared anymore" to try something.
*Makes hundreds of videos with virtually no comments*
No. Obscurity doesn't really help.
what does fear of public humiliation has in common with the fear of failure? i'm afraid of taking steps towards my goal, because i don't want to be disappointed in myself. what does it have with other people? pointless title, pointless video