How a Hurtful Comment Changed My Self-Worth Forever
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- Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
- My husband made a hurtful comment that made me cry, making me question my self worth. But what happened next changed me forever.
As I tell this story, you’ll see me painting Awakened by the North Wind, a piece from my Song of Songs series, inspired by the ancient love poem Song of Solomon. This painting is a visual representation of awakening-of being fully seen, fully loved, and stepping into the fullness of who you are.
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Let me know in the comments-do you struggle with knowing your worth?Have you ever had a moment that completely shifted the way you see yourself?
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Oh yes, this is me!!! I grew up stifling my emotions, I even find it hard to let go with God. I will reflect on how God sees me❤
I've often shyed away from my faith to be accepted by someone or group.
It's rooted in the way I was treated as a child.
It's a wound only God can heal
I never would have guessed you used to struggle with self worth because you come across as so strong, capable, and self confident. Hugs. ❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing this. I have struggled with my self worth my whole life, because I was always given the message I wasn’t good enough. I have been taking steps to embrace my self worth . I realise now I have to let go of what the world thinks of me and look to God instead.
I love how you listened to your heart and let God in, so you know the truth about how he loves you. Very powerful!
So happy this popped up, such a wholesome discovery
Thank you for sharing this. It is so easy to give that power away. This was a great reminder of the truth - God sees His beautiful creation in our faces.
This is so beautiful and so true. Love this!!
Thank you for your openness, I was born again last year and God led me to join for your community.
I am very pleased with the Milan course and it’s God’s gift for me.
I struggled a lot from same problems as I was a people pleaser and God could only change my heart.
Thank you again for your post and this heals me inside out.
Thank you for sharing this with us, Elli! You (and your art!) are beautiful and worthy. God loves you and so do we!!
This has been one of the greatest feats of my life! Not putting my worth in the eyes of others. Yesterday, I actually had a long coming heated conversation with Father and for the first time I didn't cry. I felt strong and powerful, knowing my worth. It's almost like I felt better than him for the first time. All of this in the face of his criticism and telling me I'm overly sensitive. I said "seems like your the sensitive one if you can't accept a response to your criticism. I was SO proud of myself. Not my goal to upstage my Dad, but that's the way I felt. Turning 65 has REALLY been a gift! I can finally feel confident enough to feel equal to my 87 year old crabby, crotchety Father whom I love dearly.
I could feel that you are in touch with God! And you are right, we need to talk with him about our struggles. God Bless !
This resonated with me so much! I was an only child and was often left alone and neglected. The only way I got attention and praise was through my art. Since then I placed so much of my value and self worth in my works and specifically in my art. When I wouldn’t get a ravingly positive reaction to my art I would feel crushed and so lost and so worthless. The Lord has been working on my heart and leading my gaze to Him in my pursuit for love and worth. Not to idolize others’ opinions and not to place the work I do on a pedestal above Him. Thank you for sharing!
All of a sudden I just realized why I have been SO resistant, and at the time SO drawn to the Mastery Program. Everything makes sense now. This body of work is so powerful! Thank you, Elli, for all that you share. I haven’t even joined yet, but since I made the mental decision to join the Mastery Program, all of my self worth issues have been surfacing so they can be released and I can return to love.💗
When I was a little girl, I was taught to put others before myself, to be humble. In my adult years, after my children are grown, I am learning to love others. . . as I love myself. We are all such magnificent beings. I want my children to love themselves, just as God wants us to love ourselves. We are gifts to the world!🎁🌎❤️
And thank you for sharing. I am not there yet, fully loving myself. Thank you for helping me along!
Yes I can relate to what you said. I cry easily. I learned several years ago I was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) I felt I never fit in. Also have so much empathy. As a believer in Yeshua, Jesus...I learned how he wonderfully created me. I am a older artist I have throughout the yrs learnt to navigate with the word of God.. Nothing like That fufills more than How God sees His children..and loves us.. God bless you.. love the painting and the meaning..
I just KNEW there was such a powerful message behind that painting from Song of Solomon❤
Thank you so much for sharing this, I needed it!!! You are AWESOME!!! Keep On Creating & Inspiring, Rock On & God Bless.
Woow I LOOOooove when God talks 🙏❤️
Thank you for sharing this relatable and powerful testimony.
BEAUTIFULLY put!!!! Thank you for sharing!!!
Dear Elli your word and feel give cray. For you are so honest with your self so beautiful to discover your feeling l hade Hard Child Hood agril in a family with 6 boys didn, t gave a wordy statement l bild somthing for my self later but not deep and much more.. I belive to god a lot too dear Elli. I love you beautiful soul... Wonderful painting. Iam cer sencetive person... A big hug to you
This video resonated with me greatly! I really struggled with my value and self worth. I could easily see it in others but not in myself. I sought out outward validation through awards at school and from the people I loved, especially my husband. I love the book of the Song of Solomon. I can feel the love and affection that Hod has for me. I recently got a breakthrough in one of my paintings for the Mastery Program that I hit a lot of resistance with. One day I sat with God and he reminded me that what my six grade teacher said about my drawing doesn’t matter but what does matter is that I’m a work of art to God!!! After God told me that I was free. Finishing the painting came so easy and I even finished some other unfinished painting that I couldn’t get through before.
Thank you Elli for telling your story and inspiring me to push through
Thank you. I needed to hear this today. 🥰
Yes I struggled with trying to be being excepted all my life but soon learned God will still be there loving me as He always has🙏🙌
This was such a gift, thank you so much!
Wow I cried held in tears throughout that video. I too will cry alone but seldom cry in front of people. Probably why I have so many emotional issues, lol. Self worth and allowing people inside is probably why I am an artist. Note I am also a musician and lead worship. I was painting things that gave me a sense of joy wanting to share that with others that struggle to see beauty and joy. This winter I allowed myself to put on canvas my struggles, pain and depression. Not to make people feel bad but to allow people to see light through the darkness even at their deepest moments. I never hid my struggles but I never created the deep pain either, figuring that is not something anyone would want in their house. ( it would never sell.) But the reality is I'm not selling anything anyway so why not be real and get it out. Needless to say it's not gonna probably be a top seller but it feels good to get this series out of my head. I definitely feel more of them coming to the surface and have given into the fact that I'm not given this talent to sell but to proclaim. ( Although selling something would help me find worth) ... wow, stop and realize what I just said is what this video was all about! No matter What people say keep on proclaiming and doing the good work you're doing. It is touching lives you will never meet on this side of the earth. But it is making an impact! P.S. I just got a new 5 month old puppy 5 weeks ago and yes It is not a horse but she already feels my heart. ❤ Mari Lynne Katsma
This is so on point😢❤
You will never NEVER KNOW how much this meant to me!!! THANK YOU for walking in the gifts that God Gave You❤️🙏🏾
Thank you for this video!❤
although it 'was' a rather rude way of him commenting to his beloved...i think it's wonderful how your self reflection
enabled you to be set free through coming to understand Source's perspective!! that's always so empowering!!
That is so beautiful. I’m not religious but I admire your relationship with god and how it sustains you. It is a wonderful story behind the painting and a lesson to us all about self worth. I struggle with it a lot too so thank you xx. ❤
I love your art, love your message and I felt so emotional and happy when you mentioned God loves us and how we are so precious before his eyes. ❤
Almost every video that you put out creates such stirring emotions that at times I have to hold back from sobbing.
I believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that God has put you and Milan Institute in my direct path for what he wants to accomplish through him.
He is making it undeniably clear.
By the way now that I know the back story of this series I love it even more.
Thank you for sharing
Sensitivity seems to be a shared trait between most humans. Having Watched & Read your Mastery Program instructional Video's I see in you Elli, a wonderfully sensitive woman who openly shares her World. This is Appreciated.
Great video. Thanks for sharing some of your interior life. Thanks for sharing your prayer life and its importance in your painting life,too.
I love this message and how this shines through in your artwork! I can relate so much to your spiritual path and learning to embrace the Power within. Thank you so much for sharing and being such a bright light for those of us who thought we were lost and forgotten 🙏❤️🙏❤️
What a wonderful story ! What a blessing. You are a fantastic painter by the way. 😊
Wow!! Thank you so much for sharing!! I also struggled with self-esteem for many years and has received huge restoration. However, I when I started my jouney with art through the Mastery Program, a year ago, I revisited many of the issues of not-being-good-enough. Your testimony means alot!👐😁
The Mastery Program can bring up alot of personal feelings and emotions, but that's part of the transformation!
Thank you for sharing something so personal and yet so relatable for many of us.
Yes, just this morning I was telling the Lord, that I need to stop thinking about what other s think of me . Just look to my Lord, do for my Lord , be for my Lord.
Thank you for sharing this. ❤ so thankful for your vulnerability and message! So powerful!
Thank you for sharing this story, and what an amazing painting to go with it! I cry all the time - I just can't seem to help it even though I get embarrassed too. I'm kind-of used to it now though! x
What a beautiful reminder Elli ❤
Thank you for sharing. I’m struggling to see how God sees me. And the talent I have dies not feel enough for me..
Thank you for sharing this story, I actually needed this message
I'm so happy to hear!
A lot of women are sensitive, especially artists and that is beautiful. Most can relate to this but one day we become inner directed not outer directed. The Kingdom is within, the world system is without. When someone stops me with a comment, my first thought is “is this true”, if so, I can make adjustments so thank you. If not, I know something is going on within them and it has nothing to do with me. There too I have a choice, ask them questions to understand by saying something or letting it go. As a Christian I only have One God and I’ve studied the Christ principles again and again and they are part of me. I’m inner directed by the fruit of the Spirit, evolving. I put on the Mind of Christ. The world system is about money, power and control. I live in two worlds through wisdom but I know who and whose I am.
Thank you for sharing, I have definitely struggled with self esteem issues just about all my life. And honestly Art has helped me overcome a lot of that. Thank you so much for your open heart and authenticity. I’m struggling a bit now trying to get through the Mastery Program it’s my dream to sell my Art and be able to put on canvas everything inside of me.
Keep going! I believe in you!!!
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i would never be with a man who talks to me like that. Yes, we do not depend on others approval or rejection, but i bet you would never be able to thrive in a hostile environment. Surrounding ourselves with people who are loving and supportive is better and if this is not possible, then being alone is even better. And if you would tell me that we dont need supportive people i would argue with you that for example in your work as an artist, or here on youtube, if you didnt have the support of others who love your work and teachings, no one would subscribe to you, no one would buy your courses or your art, and you would send your messages into thin air, without being paid and recognized for your gifts. And, i must add, I also find my whole support in god, although not through bible, but through direct communication. God is the most loving pillar in my life.
People are fallible, and our lives are a process of us learning who we are through the love of God and by loving others. Grace is to be given liberally as it was given to us. I guess some of us are still processing this matter and growing and learning we are loved, so we are better able to love..I have several ppl (including my husband) who don’t always speak kindly towards me but that doesn’t stop me from loving them and even growing through comments made, like Elli it taking me to the truth of Gods word and revealing places maybe I’ve given too much prominence to.
Dear Elli your word and feel give cray. For you are so honest with your self so beautiful to discover your feeling l hade Hard Child Hood agril in a family with 6 boys didn, t gave a wordy statement l bild somthing for my self later but not deep and much more.. I belive to god a lot too dear Elli. I love you beautiful soul... Wonderful painting. Iam cer sencetive person... A big hug to you