Life With A Narcissist - A Maze of Confusion | Dr. David Hawkins
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- Опубліковано 9 чер 2024
- Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone that leaves you feeling like you are stumbling around in a maze of confusion that you don’t know how to get out of? This is often the case when you are talking with a person with narcissistic tendencies. Everywhere you turn you’re met with deflection, denial, blame-shifting, deception and accusations, leaving you so confused you no longer know which way is up or down. In this video, Dr. Hawkins talks about what to do if you find yourself in this maze of confusion, and how to find your way out.
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The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts about narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.
Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships. He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse.
Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship. In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, topics include covert, reactive, spiritual, secondary, relationship trauma and more.
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Thank you again. Very good and very true. I've been trying to show my husband what he does for years . He does refuse. He has changed his tactics in these latter years. He might even say 'I can see what you're saying' or 'I don't disagree with you' when I explain a pattern. It sounds all good until I realize its just a newer smarter way of shutting me up. He says it and then just like the man who forgets his own reflection in Scripture, literally as he turns around, it's filed away in his mental box for background noise (that's how meaningful I am), and he carries on as he always did and it's forgotten. He is unmoved, unchanged and uncaring. It's like being trapped in a sick hamster wheel that turns around and around going nowhere.
Wow.... you just described my life. Only difference is that I have stopped trying to make any point of getting through to him. Because anytime I did try to explain what I was feeling he always turned it around to be my fault.
I've been in it for 20 years.
@@pearl4475 Really sorry. I've been it in 22 years and I have been getting hardened by the day, losing love and respect. Two things he never had from the word go. Yes they turn a everything around.
No accountability and manipulation, blame and shame game..
The more I watch these videos, the more I understand how dangerous it is to actually be associated with someone that doesn’t want to do the inner work to heal themselves. This has to be a horrible way for people that are hurt and victim blaming to live. Unfortunately, my husband does have narcissistic personality disorder, and 20% of the time, he has erratic behavior and manic outbursts. 80% of the time, he’s a joy to be with. So, I’ve learned how to study him and manage my expectations, which are very low for the relationship. Thank God, I have outside hobbies that bring me joy!🎉
Thats y they don't change, they know how to play their games and they benefit from it.
The constant confusion and chaos drives you insane
Truths. Now how does one like myself make change? Be aware, stay aware? I think so. Hold accountably and be honest with myself? I think so. True honesty, because narcissists can gaslight their own brain, and to think what the real honesty is, may or may not be the real. So fellow narcs, ask your self, are you using manipulated tactics to shut her up cuz it’s easier that way to make and feel better about yourself? Or are you feeling the pain and really accepting yourself of what you are and want to make change? It’s Not a normal, we have the choice.
I am in it for 36 years now. I stopped making my point some years ago, just because i was exhausted. And then, he started playing the victim. He also always copies me. If i’d bring something up to talk about what i need or his behaviour, he would turn it around, sometimes within the same conversation, sometimes in the next.
When i started noticing this pattern, i even tried it with specific words that i mentioned and he would copy that and throw it back at me.
It makes you feel chased like you need multiple levels of awareness in talking to him. Totally exhausting, to the level of complete numbness. I am getting out of this numbness, also thanks to your video’s and information. Thank you!
*Much Respect
The issue for me is i don't know how to get out of it...
Im almost 70 , have always been a housewife ...
I have NO MONEY of my own , NO WHERE to go ...
I just can't deal with the Negativity any more...
I stay in my bedroom most of the time ... Im ready to Check Out ... My options are very limited...
I can't take it anymore ...............
So sorry Diana. If you are well please work a way out...they only get worse and can destroy your health.
It's almost impossible to get out when you are older and have no money to do so...46 years here, and I too get very weary with life, just a robot doing the same thing day after day, but at least I have 1 friend who understands because she lives with one too, and is a caretaker now for him...sad that the church does not even acknowledge any of this behavior, and give the proper advice...they will stand before the Lord one day!
I hear this and am glad Im not in a relationship. Too much angst to waste time.
My gf would told me there is no boundaries in relationship, i have right to know all, and u must be honest with me. (I must have controll all the time, if not im gonna make your life misserable and hell)! And she did, i lost myself in constant argues trying to point wrong things and let her know that she often hurt my feeling chasing her peace. That result a 6 years of me trying to sattle things, i have toughts from start that this is all wrong and i was thinking about breaking up wich never happened coz i feelt torn a part seeing her sad and unhappy... those moments of her breakdowns are worst trauma to me... At some point there is no break from fights, later i start to fight back, wich made me feel bether, you know eye for an eye but at the end nothing good, just more misserable moments... I just wanna to catch a break and decide what to do with our relationship, but never get that break and time to settle. And after one argue where traditionaly imaginary outcome that was on her mind out of some stupid situation didnt lost me in a fight, i strated to cry and sobe and was shocked , i coudnt put myself together after 4 month... I become different quiet person, no joy, no life, no plans, my own toughts beggan to presure me coz i dont know how i end up so fucked up... We are still together, but in my hearth i see her as a danger and my body react to that, and i also feel so sorry for fact that im aware this must end and only way is to say goodbye... Before when i belived when we separate i would be able to solve my problem, and have peace, i knowed it would be hard and difficult but i knowed i can overcome this, but since that breakdown i had, it totally change me, i feel depresed, empty, i can cry when i think about us, it drain life out of me. Before i was able ti think about other womans and life i
I deserve and that would calm me, and now i have no emotion towards that, wich rly scare me coz its not real for person like i am.... I rly enjoyed my work, but it effect even that, even work remind me of trauma coz fe fight a lot because of my job and returning home happy and comunicate with my cooworkers, would give her reason to attack on me...And i must work and act like im ok... I would like comment from you doctor....
Your a typical victim of Narky. Your trauma bonded, no self love, no self respect. You don't have any confidence. Your the typical weak, insecure doormat. Nothings going to change with Narky. If you want 2 keep taking it, take it. Or grow some balls be strong and refuse this toxic Nark.
Very true. Relate to this experience consistently.
I love Annette and all the good she is doing with The Mend Project!! ❤
Yep. And DARVO. But showing these things to the abusive individual DOES NOTHING good. It may give him hints on how to behave like a normal human being which he may start doing here and there in the middle of the maze of confusion which will only leave you feeling more confused.
Thank you so much…
Thank you 🙏🏼
These ppl do not care! There’s no way to get them to!
Those conversations happen once in awhile with people who aren’t narcissists, but not consistently
How do we get this graft? I can’t seem to get a map of consciousness! I even have the book n it describes it but the actual map?? Nope. Help.
Promo sm 😝