1 Timothy 4:8. Training your body is of some value, yes, but don't sacrifice it at the expense of your love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, self-control. May your movement flow from the fruit of the Spirit, which will last forever.
This is easy to say when you are jacked at 17. Some guys start off looking like an Auschwitz prisoner. Lifting is about more than woman, but building self confidence and discipline, instilling the irrefutable belief that you can achieve more. Should lifting be your whole life? Of course not. But how you do one thing is how you do everything. To be jacked and excel at fitness is part of a man’s journey to realize his full potential in all aspects of life. Plus, lifting heavy shit is fun
@@theforestappthe answer to that shouldn’t be lifting weights out if desperation to be good enough in someone else’s eyes. That girl is an awful person and to spend an ounce of effort trying to appease someone who hurt you is a waste. Accept yourself and live your life the way you want to live it. Theres nothing wrong with being skinny.
Some of the most masculine strong guys I know do not lift. Some of the most insecure guys I know lift all the time. I think it’s a balance like Eli said, get a decent physique, maintain or slowly grow and you get 90% of the results with not a whole lot of effort.
They're masculine and strong because of genetics. Meanwhile I'm 18 and have noodle arms and can barely lift 30kg (I'm going to the gym to fix that) while some guys younger than me can lift 100kg even though they have never went to the gym. It's all about genetics.
As a man who was never really into working out, this is a breath of fresh air. Might lift twice a week but I love going on long walks, eating good meals and focusing on my work, my relationships and God. "Go gym" "Eat more" "Get big" seeing all these influencers on social media just made me feel like I am not being successful in my life, which is a bunch of bs. Moderation really is key. True health doesn't live in extremes. Thanks, Eli
You are taking the easy way out and using excuses. Every man should lift. Period. Imagine your kids looking up to a weak man who can't lift or do pull-ups.
Haven’t looked at the comments yet but I guarantee at least 75% of guys will lose their minds over this take. He’s not telling you to STOP LIFTING - he’s saying stop making it your priority over more tangible things such as having a personality, charisma/charm, people who love/depend on you and maybe a good-paying career to better the quality of your life as a whole. I go to the gym at least 4x per week and only do it for the sake of momentum in my week and overall confidence; but at the end of the day it’s all about your AURA. Do people even respect you? Do you even respect yourself? Are you still wondering if you’ll ever meet the unicorn trad waifu you so desperately want? If the answer is no, you have a much more important task than lifting buddy.
Couldn’t agree more. I transitioned from bodybuilding/CrossFit to martial arts and dance. Both of which allowed me to re connect with the sense of play and flow state. huge for my mental health. something that could be a lifelong hobby & lifelong pursuit of mastery. I also maxed out my physique 2-3 years into bodybuilding so I feel like the other 8 years or so was a waste and I could have moved on much earlier
Lifting is fine if you have balance. I took a year off to focus on my career and relationships but now that that's all settled I can focus on working out again. I feel like if you have a job, a good friend circle and a girlfriend then lifting after work is a fantastic hobby to include in your life.
Im so with this message. While lifting is impressive, it should be for a purpose, not the end in itself. And we absolutely need to play more. Thats why we are so miserable as adults because we lose that free spirit of play
After 2+ years of going hardcore at the gym, I found it better for my health to drop my weightlifting workouts to 3-4 times a week and save the other days for fun workouts; heavy carrying, bike rides, hiking, walking the beach, etc. I’m grateful for those first two year of lifting and where they brought me to physically, but I basically turned into a gymcel and didn’t grow anywhere else in life because that’s all I could focus on
Lifting has a lot of benefits for me. I meet a lot of friendly people at the gym, and even a few relationships that grew into physician shadowing & volunteering opportunities for me. Also, being strong makes me better at baseball, and frankly being big makes you more respected by other men (if they are strangers- in other words, it helps make a good first impression). Finally, it just makes me feel good and helps me get a deeper sleep at night. I can't sleep good if I'm not exhausted from the day.
I reaaaaalllly hope everyone hears this. Your dad taught you well man. Community, aiming to be a leader and trying to stay humble and attending to what’s needed for everything in your life and the lives of others… That’s the whooooole motive
It’s kinda scary how much even this new “beauty” of being mad shredded, can be a facade and mask for the light and thumos we can truly emanate. Love the perspective
You're a real one. Been watching you on and off for years. I'm selective about who I'll actually listen to on UA-cam now and you're one of the people I'll listen to
Its crazy man, everytime I come to your videos youre talking about the things that ive been thinking about recently. Its like you take my thoughts and organize them and I thank you
100% facts brother. You always post these kind of videos at the perfect time. Came back to your channel after a while and it resonates perfect with me. Thanks brother.
Some of us lift because that’s our passion and couldn’t care less about some normie woman opinion about our physique. For some of us chasing that perfect greek god physique is the reason we’re alive. When we make it in the end we’ll wither away and gain eternal peace.
This is the best advice I've seen regarding the subject. Ultimately, the kind of person you attract due to lifting obsessively is not likely to be the kind of person you want to forge a long term relationship with. Vanity is an ugly trait and attracts superficial people. By all means, lift weights, stay healthy and enjoy it but don't let it become your personality or dominate your self image.
There’s a balance to it. Lifting 5 or 6 days a week can be “depressing”. Not lifting at all for a week and a half gets depressing. 2 or 3 times a week. If you are lifting with the right intensity, you won’t keep taxing yourself when you should be resting. Enjoy your moment of intensity, then get the hell out and enjoy life.
For me workout is play. I don’t think it’s meant to be this complicated and stressful thing that online influencers make it seem like. After a good lift, you feel amazing. It’s way more important to become strong than just trying to look better.
My biggest problem with modern gym culture is the integration of being in love with your body/image obsession while trying to integrate with religion (especially Christianity). I’m a Catholic and I simply do not understand the relationship between being a fitness influencer or a gym rat with “loving God.” Yes, you want to respect your body and mind and strengthen it. However, there is a difference between training to become stronger and not consuming poison vs. stripping naked on a camera and worshiping yourself (essentially making yourself an idol - pure idolatry - and even taking drugs) and self-indulging yourself with online attention. The Ancient Greeks, Romans, and Vikings respected their body because it served as a representation of their ethics and lifestyle. The men were well-versed in both warfare and politics and wisdom. Now, we are regressing. Bodybuilding should serve as an extension of our creative endeavors and discipline, not a form of idolatry.
Working out for a physique or the desire to be perceived a specific kind of way is vapid. Framing it as a form of worship and gratitude for life is what really helps me. To be as healthy as I can be so I can be here longer for the people I love and move in the ways I need to help and be there for the people I love. To keep this body strong, healthy and detoxed and not letting it descend into a cancerous obese death as a form of thanks and responsibility for the fact that I was gifted this body in the first place. To work out to feel those endorphins and thus experience the mental benefits that come with it that allow me to share more happiness with others.
I'm at a similar level. I've been lifting for 10 years now and I'm just in micro gains territory. The best thing to do is maybe lift twice a week medium loads and maybe one day do cardio. Just keep healthy and get your diet in check.
I agree on the topic of playing, people see it as being immature, like why would I get in trouble in high-school by wresting and horseplaying in class. it's like we can't be ourselves and school is taking our creativeness away
Former D1 College football player here. You been saying some real shit. Lifting was a given but the shit wasn't hard these guys nowadays think cleaning weights mean something lol
From the start I found going to the gym fun, like a playground. I go in the morning, and in the evening I study for my exams. Life is good, best regards from Romania.
I'm going to have to argue with you here because bodybuilding is a sort of play, it really depends on mindset. I want to get jacked of course but in between sets me and the bros are goofing around, shadow boxing each other. The lifting itself is a competition. Even when lifting alone, I made the most gains when I just got really into it, saw it as a game to beat last week's score. A lot of us would rather have fun making gains with the boys than be hot to women 24/7. Tbh as long as you don't bulk like a crazy mf you're still attractive so it isn't a bad thing imo if you genuinely enjoy bodybuilding and the sort of culture around it. Just my two cents but I get what you're saying, Eli.
Girls and women are attracted to how comfortable you are in your own skin. This is the equivalent of you liking those nice hips etc .. And you are not comfortable in your own skin when you destroying yourself in the gym obsessively and to no avail, eating a bunch of junk, feeling like garbage or even being too regimented. They like energy fun personality.
I says this as a 32 year old lad who Ubers around the hottest college chicks in the world and has hooked up with some great hips in the past. But yes they do like muscles and it turns them on and they will grab them and enjoy them, but don’t overdo it and make it your personality. Make it “effortless” that you got the strength.
Love the recent direction of thought on the bigger picture brother. Lifting doesnt make you better person on its own, being a better person requires making those challengeing conversations, taking responsibility, challenging your inherent bias...all these things are difficult, sure lifting is difficult but it can be done. Overcoming demons, now thats difficult.
If you dont have handsome face muscles will help..but if you have even average face you can do pushups and pullups only and being lean and it will work better then being buff. Women dont prefer too buff especially if you are shorter guy
Used to watch Elisha when he had 5-10k subs, I'm turning 27 this year. I CONFIRM you that what he's saying now is truth, he's also changed a lot since then. I go to the gym 3-4 times a week and it's mostly to get my head straight and relief stress. I am still kinda skinny cuz i have fast metabolism, but if you want physique for girls...you just need to be normal or close to normal. Not too fat, not too skinny. From there on it's all about you as person, how courageous you are, how ambitious you are and how secure is she going to feel next to you... meaning you gotta have balls to face all challenges that life brings you and be courageous... thats it . I myself found me a very very beautiful and handsome girl, people would say to me she is above my league :D , and I believe those are things she is attached too. I'm not rich yet, I'm not as nearly successful as I wanna be but she always supports me and tells me that I will be one day because that's what she sees in me. Im glad i've heard from you again elisha, youve made a big progress
There’s a time for work and a time for play depending on the season of your life. One thing Goggins taught me is when you think you’re done you’re only 70% done. When you’re running a marathon and on mile 20 and you can barely stand up let alone walk that’s when you have to really dig deep and understand what your body is capable of. I guess I understand this to a point as you have other needs such as to work to make money but your health should alway be #1 priority
This is why I do calisthenics, you can add so many elements of play into such as freestyle muscle ups, isometric holds like front lever & handstands. It gets you ripped. You can add combat sport elements into it as well. Also not as stressful on the body.
I think there's a certain threshold with physiques which most women will consider attractive. Going over that won't really make a difference and if you go too far you might even achieve the opposite effect. The way you looked in that first pic is totally enough IMO.
Basically get in shape, look good but stop trying to keep lifting and putting yourself into such a state where it affects your entire life just to look like ronnie, keep it balanced.
I just swim daily and hit the sauna at my gym so that I get exercise daily and am nice and tired for bed. I only lift once a week a fullbody workout and am content. I just make sure to stay lean and have abs and thats all. A brutal truth is that most of the people showing physiques online are on roids. after 2-3 years you really max out natty gains and have to jump on roids to continute to progress unless you want to grind for 10 years. My brother fell for the trap and ended up taking roids. Luckily he didn't totally wreck his health.
Yeag I 100% agree I’m 25 and recently realized that going to the gym to grind muscles was not benefiting me anymore. I’m happy with how I look but I have back pain issues and really lack flexibility I put the music on and just destroy my body for minimal results now that I have maximized most of my physical appearance. Instead of this meaningless grind I am now moving on to trying new things to help my body such as yoga and developing mobility, flexibility and athleticism as well as eating healthier. I won’t never go to gym anymore but the goal has changed. The internet’s bodybuilding grindset is unhealthy for mind and body imo it’s excessive and brainwashed me in doing just that for years without questioning myself
Muscle is WAY easier to maintain than to grow initially. After you gain 25-40 lbs from your natural frame, you can only gain like 1-2% more muscle per year after so you're all you gotta do is maintain your muscle mass by hitting each muscle 2x a week and eating protein and just stay lean.
We should try having more fun and stop trying to be so disciplined he says. When I was in my early 20s I had no discipline and all I did was having "fun" and it pretty much ruined my life. Whish I was lifting weights instead...
Great points !!! Great goals. You know what is the funny part ? if you get healthier you will also automatically have more muscle and lower bodyfat. Because that is how the body works - as one system. Happened to me. Play is great. :] Being playful and kind
I was going to the gym 6 days a week. But When covid started it screwed up my routine and momentum. I saw how quickly everybody including myself deflated in their muscle. Then when I went back i started to realize maybe it was all just a huge cope. I see all these dudes in the gym jacked to shit that take all this way to seriously. Like lifting weights makes you a tough guy. It makes you strong but not stronger than a bullet. So what is it all for? To stroke your ego?
Good video. I was also pretty jacked at 18, setting records at my high school regarding strength to weight ratio. At some point it's all about balance. Exercise, but don't make it your whole identity. I especially don't like the normalization of steroid use for young people. Very bad trend. Cheers.
You have some good points, but I don’t lift for women at all. I’ll be honest I started in the beginning lifting for women, but I am no longer after the women that are attracted to men because of a shredded physique those arent wives. I will continue to bulk and get strong because I like mogging other people and I am going to enjoy it while I am young. When I am 40 I’ll get into running and lift less but right now is the time to be a dog, I am 225 right now and I am gonna bulk to 250 is that healthy? I am sure you’ll say it’s not. I like being bigger than most people because if we are being honest my presence commands respect and people don’t fuck with me. You do you tho.
Comment: There is nothing wrong in lifting weights, as long as you don't do roids, then it's all good. Many men are not lucky with Women Chemistry wise, but they need this hobby (of lifting weights) so it can give them confidence. Love and Females is a very complicated subject, but giving up the weights is not the way to go (for the man). I get it, there are some young men that look like David the Statue, and they don't lift weights and they are super lucky with Women especially hot women who are 10's. But many men don't have that (attraction) when it comes to reeling them in! When a man is not lucky, he loses confidence in himself. So please don't give up the weights! Everything said here is tied to each other, so I am making sense here. I recommend that all men lift weights along with "swimming" daily so One can get a great body. I too recommend that he speed date along with he in signing up for PUA (pick up artist) Classes. You need to develop your people skills with Women. Having a great body does not say that women will pop up in your life just like that, but you need to know how to interact with women in public. Having a great body does not say that you will find true love with a Hot Woman, but it does say that you will be healthy for many years. The goal to life is about living a long time along with being happy and if lifting weights gets you happy then go for it. People along with this host should ignore Wheat Waffles (the UA-camr). Any man can find love with a Woman but he needs to lower his expectations (his standards) and true love will come into his life. Not every man will be marrying a Brooke Shields Clone, but it's beautiful when you find love with a Woman who really cares about You. Any person who tells you that giving up the weights is the way to go is actually disabling you as a Man. If you like playing Ping Pong at the gym, then that is your business and more power to you. The same thing can be said about lifting weights at the gym, it's your life and if you have the power to look more beautiful than 3 years ago, then follow that path (if it makes you happy). Just remember that Women are complicated! You can have muscles and looks along with a great job and to a Woman you may mean nothing so don't worry if you don't find her but focus on looking and feeling great. Life is not perfect but believe in you(self) and don't give up the weights if they make you happy. Never give up your Passion (of lifting weights)! January 20, 2024. USA
that why calisthenics/street workout physique are perfect not doing shit to be massive but just to be atlhetic grinding to do doing funny shit like handstand etc. and not only visual purpose
Yo Elisha I went through a phase where I worked out for 2 hours a day everyday for a long time. And I tracked my calories to a tee and would never eat out. I can't say I regret it but I probably workout that much ever again.
I think this is excellent advice. Muscle-heading is silly. On the other hand pushing your athleticism, in a healthy way, to its limits may satisfy a mans need to control and accomplish SOMETHING (more/else) in his life. Mobility and balance should be a primary anchor to support the athletic journey. Athleticism, not necessarily being an athlete. Looking your best, signaling your discipline and commitment, this might be noticed by women who will appreciate you for it. Who knows, maybe even a great one. However, worrying too much about them, especially in their current condition, will siphon off precious life energy you do not want to waste.
I've done some weight and bodyweight stuff and never put on some serious mass because I always hated doing it. I have a pretty wide frame from the get go and also somewhat too much fat on me. While not being the tallest guy I found no sense in actually bulking up and look like Gimli in the end. Much more fun and lifechanging for me was doing cardio more regularly. Slowly leaning out as you've mentioned is my way. It really looks much healthier and more youthful than being jacked as fuck. That's my goal. I really like stationary cycling on a real racingbike (with Zwift or something) in combination with rowing and Yoga. Also the play aspect is BIG. Trying out new sports courses at the college and meeting and just playing while mainly playing Golf in my freetime did wonders for my mental state. I do bascially only those things but the dumbbells still are being used for basic compound stuff.
Ngl the blackpill is entertaining and funny at times but taking it too seriously is very effeminate. Women are the ones who worry about their appearance men are more than just their looks(so are women too but men need to comprehend this more).
I disagree. Maybe this serves as a wakeup call for some gymcells, but for most of us this feels like your average anti-lifting video. Don't keep going because it's small increments? Everything is like this, man, if you took this advice and applied it to everywhere you'd just be hopping from hobby to hobby, chasing the newbie gains. And what part of lifting prevents you from getting all of the other things you cite in the video? Again, I think this is for that guy who makes the gym everything to him, but the way you talk about it sounds more like disencouragement for most of us. You've said it yourself, being there in the gym, pumping iron, being social, it's great, and now you're telling me I should abandon this for something that "gives me success" and "helps people"? Can't always do just productive things, which is weird because you then go on to tell us to play more Overall, I feel like the intent of this video was a warning to not make your whole life about lifting, but it sounds more like you're dunking on bodybuilding with all that diminishing returns bs that everyone loves to splatter, you said you haven't put on many pounds but you haven't even been training that much, as you said in another video, so maybe you would progress more if you bothered to, but it's not your priority. I'm not that advanced into bodybuilding myself, but I've started watching a bunch of natural bodybuilders who have been going at it for very long and are still reaping great gains, like Natural Hypertrophy, Geoffrey Verity Schofield, etc. and I guess their mindset caught on to me, I won't ever stop bodybuilding and progressing in it because it's fun, and, I don't know if the ladies agree, but it does always make you look better, just take a look at those guys' physiques and tell me that they'd look better without a couple pounds of muscle lol
Kettlebells, clubs, and maces. I can do them at home, doesn't take a lot of space, teaches the body how to move better, and I don't need super heavy weights and hour long workouts to get stronger and improve. A month in, and you'll have your sparring partners saying you feel stronger.
If your face is handsome, you can afford to invest less in your body. If your face is unattractive then its a good idea to work on your frame. Either way, you can improve both with moderation in the gym, enjoying it and not injuring yourself.
Outside of how it appears on social media, not that many people workout that seriously and we live such comfortable lives now that even a mega stimmed up workout would barely replicate the adrenaline and hormetic environmental stress of our ancestors. Though as you said, there is clearly diminishing returns and guys should diversify their hobbies and how they exercise. But consider how many guys actually get to the point of looking like they lift/workout?
Wish I got into this mentality years ago. I started getting girls after getting a little bit of tone, but lost all their interest once I got too into the gym. Really became a meat head.
Face and height is base. But muscles do add. But if your face isnt good or youre too short muscles wont do shit. When you are good looking and tall, you dont really need muscles.
I agree with this one so much man! I get stiff and use the computer a lot, so I started doing jumping jacks and stretching during breaks, seems to help me loosen up.
Easy to say "it's all about the face" when you have the face... I have it too, and most men have it but they don't believe it. Just think, most if not all women wear make up to make themselves look better, men don't, yet we usually match market value or surpass that of our women. Men, the only change we need right now, immediately, imminently, is to accept who we are and be proud of who we are; then you can get the body, then you can chase success, then you can resource to clinique, but you'll do so because you want to, not because it''ll give you something you expect. Haven't you noticed that gyms are packed with insecure men? Women like confident men, women like emotionally stable men, so, let's get ourselves together, the rest will come.
I agree alot with you when you say athletemaxx. Bodybuilding is such a ego centered hobby and i think this is why girls arent drooling over bodybuilders its just not that attractive. Being healthy and atheletic is attractive being able bodied. This is why i think calisthenics is fire
the guys i know throughout my life, didn't matter their color, ethnicity, or even height...if they were the best looking, they got the vast majority of women. and none of them ever went to the gym. they were not fat, but barely needed to exercise. i have at least 12 i can think of...their count is 10x anyone with an average face but muscular build
I’m different. To me just getting better is something. It’s real. That being said I’m an artist. I’ve never done this for sexual attention and it doesn’t stress me out. It gives me more satisfaction then constant socializing and proving I’m a “real man” 24/7. Manhood and masculinity are real and important but most of this content is manipulative and will only serve to line the pockets of a minority.
I love the gym like a hobby. I think its really fun, I love lifting heavy. Being athletic is a fun thing, but i understand what you mean by this video. Its all too easy to over do it, i definitely walk this line. Overtraining can effect your mental dramatically. Im 240 and my sore muscles make it tougher to box sometimes. Thats really the only downside. Fatigue and muscle soreness maybe a bit of a mental thing when its been too much. But its a hobby, thats all. Lifting has helped me in so many ways, got a lot of buddies at the gym too. Its made me better with women too. Love the gym
Anyone know how tall he is to be that jacked at 15? Shorter people tend to bulk up quicker even if taller people eat more. He’s right about not making it your life to impress people, they’ll get bored, it’s like someone constantly talking about Star Wars or another franchise
@@winterrobot1942 well yeah that’s what I meant coz he said his dad was 6ft4 so I was wondering how tall he was, i didn’t say he was short, I said shorter people bulk up quicker and ive seen him stood next to gym equipment and he looks tall🤷🏾♂️
It's genetics, he said his dad was tall and big as hell. My dad is short and skinny fat, so I ended up short and skinny. In conclusion, choose better parents next time, bro.
So true. This "we go jim, preworkout, I fight demons, zyzz, I fight demons" movement is so dumb. Always talk about rejecting modernity and embracing tradition, but it isn't really traditional to go to the gym and take naked mirror selfies. If anything that's gay more than anything.
I wish I had someone beat this into my head while I was in my 20s and early 30s. Gotta live life outside of the gym! ALTHOUGH was it not you who had the video or maybe just a survey about getting respect as a bigger dude? All you said was true but I would advise every young man to train for a period to see his potential. And if your under 180 pounds, should bulk and do your damndest to get to at least 180. I myself do notice the difference of positive attention from both sexes when Iam around 180 instead of 160. You might not understand that being a bigger dude.
I agree for the most part. But I think you ought to be in the gym even more these days, not out of obsession, but because a lot of our lives are spent sitting down. It’s also just nice to be big. You get respected. Obviously, don’t make the gym your personality, but I don’t see the problem if you’re in that life for pure enjoyment.
Other people could care less if your big or not. That’s not what gets the respect. It’s how you feel about yourself when around others that does. When bigger and in shape you exude more confidence in yourself and people respect that.
@@sageway479 It’s just like a pack of dogs. Being “alpha” is energy not appearance. Not uncommon to see a small dog being the pack leader to large dogs. It’s not the appearance. It’s the confidence in yourself. If being bigger and in great shape gives you more confidence then that is what matters. Speaking for myself, it gives me more confidence and a more balanced mind.
@@Dmgolfer22 gonna play devil's advocate but the taller and bigger you are the more respect you'll get generally. People are quite shallow but yea definitely how you feel about yourself is the most important aspect about social situations.
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That physique at 15 is insane
For sure bro
Hard work and dedication
@@hot_whelz Not at 15 bud. Its called genetics.
@@sethmarchese397 dont be negative i want 15 year olds to get of the house and start training in the gym
1 Timothy 4:8. Training your body is of some value, yes, but don't sacrifice it at the expense of your love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, self-control. May your movement flow from the fruit of the Spirit, which will last forever.
Preach it brother
This is easy to say when you are jacked at 17. Some guys start off looking like an Auschwitz prisoner. Lifting is about more than woman, but building self confidence and discipline, instilling the irrefutable belief that you can achieve more. Should lifting be your whole life? Of course not. But how you do one thing is how you do everything. To be jacked and excel at fitness is part of a man’s journey to realize his full potential in all aspects of life. Plus, lifting heavy shit is fun
Right on brother.
That's why I encourage guys to lift and get strong. This video is about why I don't think we should focus all our energy on lifting.
@@ElishaLong I remember a girl told me I looked like a cancer patient because I was so skinny.
I don’t have any option man I gotta get swoler.
rather be a aushwitz prisoner than a gulag one
@@theforestappthe answer to that shouldn’t be lifting weights out if desperation to be good enough in someone else’s eyes. That girl is an awful person and to spend an ounce of effort trying to appease someone who hurt you is a waste. Accept yourself and live your life the way you want to live it. Theres nothing wrong with being skinny.
Some of the most masculine strong guys I know do not lift. Some of the most insecure guys I know lift all the time. I think it’s a balance like Eli said, get a decent physique, maintain or slowly grow and you get 90% of the results with not a whole lot of effort.
@@discoScrew speak English
They're masculine and strong because of genetics. Meanwhile I'm 18 and have noodle arms and can barely lift 30kg (I'm going to the gym to fix that) while some guys younger than me can lift 100kg even though they have never went to the gym. It's all about genetics.
Yea it’s called genetics 😂 it’s nice when you are above average in all aspects of life 😂
If you've got an ugly mug you've got even more reasons to lift. No reason to set yourself even further back.
Facts, I call it "mid but muscular" evens it out a bit for us.
he didn't say don't lift. He says don't min max and obsess over it. Focus on lookmaxxing and skills and social skills and bigger purpose and health
As a man who was never really into working out, this is a breath of fresh air. Might lift twice a week but I love going on long walks, eating good meals and focusing on my work, my relationships and God. "Go gym" "Eat more" "Get big" seeing all these influencers on social media just made me feel like I am not being successful in my life, which is a bunch of bs. Moderation really is key. True health doesn't live in extremes. Thanks, Eli
I’m around 5 foot 8 and look much worse “bulked up” in my option.
You are taking the easy way out and using excuses. Every man should lift. Period. Imagine your kids looking up to a weak man who can't lift or do pull-ups.
Haven’t looked at the comments yet but I guarantee at least 75% of guys will lose their minds over this take. He’s not telling you to STOP LIFTING - he’s saying stop making it your priority over more tangible things such as having a personality, charisma/charm, people who love/depend on you and maybe a good-paying career to better the quality of your life as a whole.
I go to the gym at least 4x per week and only do it for the sake of momentum in my week and overall confidence; but at the end of the day it’s all about your AURA. Do people even respect you? Do you even respect yourself? Are you still wondering if you’ll ever meet the unicorn trad waifu you so desperately want?
If the answer is no, you have a much more important task than lifting buddy.
Couldn’t agree more. I transitioned from bodybuilding/CrossFit to martial arts and dance. Both of which allowed me to re connect with the sense of play and flow state. huge for my mental health. something that could be a lifelong hobby & lifelong pursuit of mastery. I also maxed out my physique 2-3 years into bodybuilding so I feel like the other 8 years or so was a waste and I could have moved on much earlier
What type of dance you do? I've been doing salsa and Bachata for few months and I would like to hear more about it in this space
@@gmindset33 I use the Steezy app.. trying to learn all styles
I applaud you bro. I HOPE the "men's community" (just using that as a catch-all term) at large starts to take the same turn you have as of late.
Thanks man. A lot of these topics I talk about are things me and the guys talk about on Voicechat. Great group of men
Agreed
what exactly do you mean ?
Lifting is fine if you have balance. I took a year off to focus on my career and relationships but now that that's all settled I can focus on working out again. I feel like if you have a job, a good friend circle and a girlfriend then lifting after work is a fantastic hobby to include in your life.
@@Ventryx Exactly, unless you want to compete you should consider lifting as a hobby.
I believe a consistent gym and fitness routine is very important, but not overthinking it and making it your life
No one used to work out at all but they still married and had many kids. This is the result to technology we need a community again
Im so with this message. While lifting is impressive, it should be for a purpose, not the end in itself. And we absolutely need to play more. Thats why we are so miserable as adults because we lose that free spirit of play
After 2+ years of going hardcore at the gym, I found it better for my health to drop my weightlifting workouts to 3-4 times a week and save the other days for fun workouts; heavy carrying, bike rides, hiking, walking the beach, etc. I’m grateful for those first two year of lifting and where they brought me to physically, but I basically turned into a gymcel and didn’t grow anywhere else in life because that’s all I could focus on
Came to the exact same conclusion ahaha
I was doing back 2 times a week, and my back was hurting and stuff switched and now i feel gooood
@@DjWiiwyy’all boys sound soft
@@symboIiq soft is good too 😏
@@symboIiq ikr lmaooo
@@DjWiiwy it sounds like you have pathological issues if you have pain from training back twice a week
Lifting has a lot of benefits for me. I meet a lot of friendly people at the gym, and even a few relationships that grew into physician shadowing & volunteering opportunities for me. Also, being strong makes me better at baseball, and frankly being big makes you more respected by other men (if they are strangers- in other words, it helps make a good first impression). Finally, it just makes me feel good and helps me get a deeper sleep at night. I can't sleep good if I'm not exhausted from the day.
I reaaaaalllly hope everyone hears this. Your dad taught you well man. Community, aiming to be a leader and trying to stay humble and attending to what’s needed for everything in your life and the lives of others… That’s the whooooole motive
It’s kinda scary how much even this new “beauty” of being mad shredded, can be a facade and mask for the light and thumos we can truly emanate. Love the perspective
Spot on brother Whole Foods, competing, socializing, movement
You're a real one. Been watching you on and off for years. I'm selective about who I'll actually listen to on UA-cam now and you're one of the people I'll listen to
Its crazy man, everytime I come to your videos youre talking about the things that ive been thinking about recently. Its like you take my thoughts and organize them and I thank you
My brother in Christ, you released "Being big is AWESOME" video 2 weeks ago.
It is. You should lift and put on a good amount of muscle.
100% facts brother. You always post these kind of videos at the perfect time. Came back to your channel after a while and it resonates perfect with me. Thanks brother.
Some of us lift because that’s our passion and couldn’t care less about some normie woman opinion about our physique. For some of us chasing that perfect greek god physique is the reason we’re alive. When we make it in the end we’ll wither away and gain eternal peace.
You do it for men stop coping
This is the best advice I've seen regarding the subject. Ultimately, the kind of person you attract due to lifting obsessively is not likely to be the kind of person you want to forge a long term relationship with. Vanity is an ugly trait and attracts superficial people. By all means, lift weights, stay healthy and enjoy it but don't let it become your personality or dominate your self image.
There’s a balance to it. Lifting 5 or 6 days a week can be “depressing”. Not lifting at all for a week and a half gets depressing. 2 or 3 times a week. If you are lifting with the right intensity, you won’t keep taxing yourself when you should be resting. Enjoy your moment of intensity, then get the hell out and enjoy life.
For me workout is play. I don’t think it’s meant to be this complicated and stressful thing that online influencers make it seem like. After a good lift, you feel amazing. It’s way more important to become strong than just trying to look better.
My biggest problem with modern gym culture is the integration of being in love with your body/image obsession while trying to integrate with religion (especially Christianity). I’m a Catholic and I simply do not understand the relationship between being a fitness influencer or a gym rat with “loving God.” Yes, you want to respect your body and mind and strengthen it. However, there is a difference between training to become stronger and not consuming poison vs. stripping naked on a camera and worshiping yourself (essentially making yourself an idol - pure idolatry - and even taking drugs) and self-indulging yourself with online attention.
The Ancient Greeks, Romans, and Vikings respected their body because it served as a representation of their ethics and lifestyle. The men were well-versed in both warfare and politics and wisdom. Now, we are regressing. Bodybuilding should serve as an extension of our creative endeavors and discipline, not a form of idolatry.
Working out for a physique or the desire to be perceived a specific kind of way is vapid. Framing it as a form of worship and gratitude for life is what really helps me. To be as healthy as I can be so I can be here longer for the people I love and move in the ways I need to help and be there for the people I love. To keep this body strong, healthy and detoxed and not letting it descend into a cancerous obese death as a form of thanks and responsibility for the fact that I was gifted this body in the first place. To work out to feel those endorphins and thus experience the mental benefits that come with it that allow me to share more happiness with others.
I'm at a similar level. I've been lifting for 10 years now and I'm just in micro gains territory. The best thing to do is maybe lift twice a week medium loads and maybe one day do cardio. Just keep healthy and get your diet in check.
I agree on the topic of playing, people see it as being immature, like why would I get in trouble in high-school by wresting and horseplaying in class. it's like we can't be ourselves and school is taking our creativeness away
Former D1 College football player here. You been saying some real shit. Lifting was a given but the shit wasn't hard these guys nowadays think cleaning weights mean something lol
From the start I found going to the gym fun, like a playground. I go in the morning, and in the evening I study for my exams. Life is good, best regards from Romania.
hehe :D
I'm going to have to argue with you here because bodybuilding is a sort of play, it really depends on mindset. I want to get jacked of course but in between sets me and the bros are goofing around, shadow boxing each other. The lifting itself is a competition. Even when lifting alone, I made the most gains when I just got really into it, saw it as a game to beat last week's score.
A lot of us would rather have fun making gains with the boys than be hot to women 24/7. Tbh as long as you don't bulk like a crazy mf you're still attractive so it isn't a bad thing imo if you genuinely enjoy bodybuilding and the sort of culture around it.
Just my two cents but I get what you're saying, Eli.
So true, if you have proper programming and nutrition you’re going to max out 99% of your gains in three years.
Just isn’t true. You’re not going to max out “99%” of your gains in 3 years. Far from it. Especially if you’re natural.
Girls and women are attracted to how comfortable you are in your own skin. This is the equivalent of you liking those nice hips etc ..
And you are not comfortable in your own skin when you destroying yourself in the gym obsessively and to no avail, eating a bunch of junk, feeling like garbage or even being too regimented. They like energy fun personality.
I says this as a 32 year old lad who Ubers around the hottest college chicks in the world and has hooked up with some great hips in the past. But yes they do like muscles and it turns them on and they will grab them and enjoy them, but don’t overdo it and make it your personality. Make it “effortless” that you got the strength.
Yes!
Love the recent direction of thought on the bigger picture brother. Lifting doesnt make you better person on its own, being a better person requires making those challengeing conversations, taking responsibility, challenging your inherent bias...all these things are difficult, sure lifting is difficult but it can be done. Overcoming demons, now thats difficult.
You are a GOOD MAN Elisha
If you dont have handsome face muscles will help..but if you have even average face you can do pushups and pullups only and being lean and it will work better then being buff. Women dont prefer too buff especially if you are shorter guy
Nah I started lifting with the hopes I wouldn’t get jumped. Years later it’s a life long habit with a current focus on longevity.
Use to work out damn near everyday, got pretty shredded, now I’ll go once or twice a week and be fine with it
Used to watch Elisha when he had 5-10k subs, I'm turning 27 this year. I CONFIRM you that what he's saying now is truth, he's also changed a lot since then. I go to the gym 3-4 times a week and it's mostly to get my head straight and relief stress. I am still kinda skinny cuz i have fast metabolism, but if you want physique for girls...you just need to be normal or close to normal. Not too fat, not too skinny. From there on it's all about you as person, how courageous you are, how ambitious you are and how secure is she going to feel next to you... meaning you gotta have balls to face all challenges that life brings you and be courageous... thats it . I myself found me a very very beautiful and handsome girl, people would say to me she is above my league :D , and I believe those are things she is attached too. I'm not rich yet, I'm not as nearly successful as I wanna be but she always supports me and tells me that I will be one day because that's what she sees in me. Im glad i've heard from you again elisha, youve made a big progress
There’s a time for work and a time for play depending on the season of your life. One thing Goggins taught me is when you think you’re done you’re only 70% done. When you’re running a marathon and on mile 20 and you can barely stand up let alone walk that’s when you have to really dig deep and understand what your body is capable of. I guess I understand this to a point as you have other needs such as to work to make money but your health should alway be #1 priority
This is why I do calisthenics, you can add so many elements of play into such as freestyle muscle ups, isometric holds like front lever & handstands. It gets you ripped. You can add combat sport elements into it as well. Also not as stressful on the body.
I think there's a certain threshold with physiques which most women will consider attractive. Going over that won't really make a difference and if you go too far you might even achieve the opposite effect. The way you looked in that first pic is totally enough IMO.
I do enjoy going to the gym and working out though... but you're right it shouldn't make you stressed out or what your life is about...
Basically get in shape, look good but stop trying to keep lifting and putting yourself into such a state where it affects your entire life just to look like ronnie, keep it balanced.
This video is me everytime I watch Sam Sulek... He is a great guy, but man his face looks aged as Fuuuuuck
I just swim daily and hit the sauna at my gym so that I get exercise daily and am nice and tired for bed. I only lift once a week a fullbody workout and am content. I just make sure to stay lean and have abs and thats all. A brutal truth is that most of the people showing physiques online are on roids. after 2-3 years you really max out natty gains and have to jump on roids to continute to progress unless you want to grind for 10 years. My brother fell for the trap and ended up taking roids. Luckily he didn't totally wreck his health.
Yeag I 100% agree
I’m 25 and recently realized that going to the gym to grind muscles was not benefiting me anymore.
I’m happy with how I look but I have back pain issues and really lack flexibility
I put the music on and just destroy my body for minimal results now that I have maximized most of my physical appearance.
Instead of this meaningless grind I am now moving on to trying new things to help my body such as yoga and developing mobility, flexibility and athleticism as well as eating healthier.
I won’t never go to gym anymore but the goal has changed.
The internet’s bodybuilding grindset is unhealthy for mind and body imo it’s excessive and brainwashed me in doing just that for years without questioning myself
Muscle is WAY easier to maintain than to grow initially. After you gain 25-40 lbs from your natural frame, you can only gain like 1-2% more muscle per year after so you're all you gotta do is maintain your muscle mass by hitting each muscle 2x a week and eating protein and just stay lean.
We should try having more fun and stop trying to be so disciplined he says.
When I was in my early 20s I had no discipline and all I did was having "fun" and it pretty much ruined my life. Whish I was lifting weights instead...
Great points !!! Great goals.
You know what is the funny part ? if you get healthier you will also automatically have more muscle and lower bodyfat. Because that is how the body works - as one system.
Happened to me.
Play is great. :] Being playful and kind
Such a great positive message 🙌🏻🙏🏻🫡
Love these vids fam, keep em coming.........!!
I was going to the gym 6 days a week. But When covid started it screwed up my routine and momentum. I saw how quickly everybody including myself deflated in their muscle. Then when I went back i started to realize maybe it was all just a huge cope. I see all these dudes in the gym jacked to shit that take all this way to seriously. Like lifting weights makes you a tough guy. It makes you strong but not stronger than a bullet. So what is it all for? To stroke your ego?
Wait until you try martial arts brother. Then you realize how silly excessive lifting is
Damn u got unreal genetics bro !!!!!!!
Good video. I was also pretty jacked at 18, setting records at my high school regarding strength to weight ratio. At some point it's all about balance. Exercise, but don't make it your whole identity. I especially don't like the normalization of steroid use for young people. Very bad trend. Cheers.
I agree. I workout just enough to stay healthy and feel strong enough. I don’t care about getting huge. I care more about my face and style..
You have some good points, but I don’t lift for women at all. I’ll be honest I started in the beginning lifting for women, but I am no longer after the women that are attracted to men because of a shredded physique those arent wives. I will continue to bulk and get strong because I like mogging other people and I am going to enjoy it while I am young. When I am 40 I’ll get into running and lift less but right now is the time to be a dog, I am 225 right now and I am gonna bulk to 250 is that healthy? I am sure you’ll say it’s not. I like being bigger than most people because if we are being honest my presence commands respect and people don’t fuck with me. You do you tho.
Great video! Very original thoughts put out in this one.
Comment: There is nothing wrong in lifting weights, as long as you don't do roids, then it's all good. Many men are not lucky with Women Chemistry wise, but they need this hobby (of lifting weights) so it can give them confidence. Love and Females is a very complicated subject, but giving up the weights is not the way to go (for the man).
I get it, there are some young men that look like David the Statue, and they don't lift weights and they are super lucky with Women especially hot women who are 10's. But many men don't have that (attraction) when it comes to reeling them in! When a man is not lucky, he loses confidence in himself. So please don't give up the weights!
Everything said here is tied to each other, so I am making sense here.
I recommend that all men lift weights along with "swimming" daily so One can get a great body.
I too recommend that he speed date along with he in signing up for PUA (pick up artist) Classes.
You need to develop your people skills with Women. Having a great body does not say that women will pop up in your life just like that, but you need to know how to interact with women in public.
Having a great body does not say that you will find true love with a Hot Woman, but it does say that you will be healthy for many years. The goal to life is about living a long time along with being happy and if lifting weights gets you happy then go for it.
People along with this host should ignore Wheat Waffles (the UA-camr). Any man can find love with a Woman but he needs to lower his expectations (his standards) and true love will come into his life.
Not every man will be marrying a Brooke Shields Clone, but it's beautiful when you find love with a Woman who really cares about You. Any person who tells you that giving up the weights is the way to go is actually disabling you as a Man.
If you like playing Ping Pong at the gym, then that is your business and more power to you. The same thing can be said about lifting weights at the gym, it's your life and if you have the power to look more beautiful than 3 years ago, then follow that path (if it makes you happy). Just remember that Women are complicated! You can have muscles and looks along with a great job and to a Woman you may mean nothing so don't worry if you don't find her but focus on looking and feeling great. Life is not perfect but believe in you(self) and don't give up the weights if they make you happy. Never give up your Passion (of lifting weights)!
January 20, 2024. USA
that why calisthenics/street workout physique are perfect not doing shit to be massive but just to be atlhetic grinding to do doing funny shit like handstand etc. and not only visual purpose
my average thought after a failed bench press pr
Yo Elisha I went through a phase where I worked out for 2 hours a day everyday for a long time. And I tracked my calories to a tee and would never eat out. I can't say I regret it but I probably workout that much ever again.
I think this is excellent advice. Muscle-heading is silly.
On the other hand pushing your athleticism, in a healthy way, to its limits may satisfy a mans need to control and accomplish SOMETHING (more/else) in his life.
Mobility and balance should be a primary anchor to support the athletic journey. Athleticism, not necessarily being an athlete.
Looking your best, signaling your discipline and commitment, this might be noticed by women who will appreciate you for it. Who knows, maybe even a great one.
However, worrying too much about them, especially in their current condition, will siphon off precious life energy you do not want to waste.
I've done some weight and bodyweight stuff and never put on some serious mass because I always hated doing it. I have a pretty wide frame from the get go and also somewhat too much fat on me. While not being the tallest guy I found no sense in actually bulking up and look like Gimli in the end. Much more fun and lifechanging for me was doing cardio more regularly. Slowly leaning out as you've mentioned is my way. It really looks much healthier and more youthful than being jacked as fuck. That's my goal.
I really like stationary cycling on a real racingbike (with Zwift or something) in combination with rowing and Yoga. Also the play aspect is BIG. Trying out new sports courses at the college and meeting and just playing while mainly playing Golf in my freetime did wonders for my mental state. I do bascially only those things but the dumbbells still are being used for basic compound stuff.
Ngl the blackpill is entertaining and funny at times but taking it too seriously is very effeminate. Women are the ones who worry about their appearance men are more than just their looks(so are women too but men need to comprehend this more).
I agree. I think it's best to be lean and healthy. Not to worry too much about your looks.
dammnnn I needed this today skipped gym to work on some video editing and was feeling very guilty haha
Its about the mindset the way you think. Of course the outside matters in the beginning but in the end its the inside of you.
"Stop lifting and exaserbating the stress in your life"
No, I don't think I will
yea, just chill and enjoy the life, but sopmetimes you have to go into yourself and do that work
I disagree. Maybe this serves as a wakeup call for some gymcells, but for most of us this feels like your average anti-lifting video. Don't keep going because it's small increments? Everything is like this, man, if you took this advice and applied it to everywhere you'd just be hopping from hobby to hobby, chasing the newbie gains. And what part of lifting prevents you from getting all of the other things you cite in the video? Again, I think this is for that guy who makes the gym everything to him, but the way you talk about it sounds more like disencouragement for most of us. You've said it yourself, being there in the gym, pumping iron, being social, it's great, and now you're telling me I should abandon this for something that "gives me success" and "helps people"? Can't always do just productive things, which is weird because you then go on to tell us to play more
Overall, I feel like the intent of this video was a warning to not make your whole life about lifting, but it sounds more like you're dunking on bodybuilding with all that diminishing returns bs that everyone loves to splatter, you said you haven't put on many pounds but you haven't even been training that much, as you said in another video, so maybe you would progress more if you bothered to, but it's not your priority. I'm not that advanced into bodybuilding myself, but I've started watching a bunch of natural bodybuilders who have been going at it for very long and are still reaping great gains, like Natural Hypertrophy, Geoffrey Verity Schofield, etc. and I guess their mindset caught on to me, I won't ever stop bodybuilding and progressing in it because it's fun, and, I don't know if the ladies agree, but it does always make you look better, just take a look at those guys' physiques and tell me that they'd look better without a couple pounds of muscle lol
Lifting transforms your face too, that's how growth hormone works
I love lifting, I ain’t never stopping
Kettlebells, clubs, and maces. I can do them at home, doesn't take a lot of space, teaches the body how to move better, and I don't need super heavy weights and hour long workouts to get stronger and improve. A month in, and you'll have your sparring partners saying you feel stronger.
It's pathetic If you lift just because you want a 304
If your face is handsome, you can afford to invest less in your body. If your face is unattractive then its a good idea to work on your frame. Either way, you can improve
both with moderation in the gym, enjoying it and not injuring yourself.
Outside of how it appears on social media, not that many people workout that seriously and we live such comfortable lives now that even a mega stimmed up workout would barely replicate the adrenaline and hormetic environmental stress of our ancestors. Though as you said, there is clearly diminishing returns and guys should diversify their hobbies and how they exercise. But consider how many guys actually get to the point of looking like they lift/workout?
Wish I got into this mentality years ago. I started getting girls after getting a little bit of tone, but lost all their interest once I got too into the gym. Really became a meat head.
Because some people enjoy it, simple as that, no need to overcomplicate everything.
I agree bro, strength and frame is for service not for status.
Very refreshing content!
Face and height is base. But muscles do add. But if your face isnt good or youre too short muscles wont do shit. When you are good looking and tall, you dont really need muscles.
I agree with this one so much man! I get stiff and use the computer a lot, so I started doing jumping jacks and stretching during breaks, seems to help me loosen up.
Easy to say "it's all about the face" when you have the face... I have it too, and most men have it but they don't believe it. Just think, most if not all women wear make up to make themselves look better, men don't, yet we usually match market value or surpass that of our women. Men, the only change we need right now, immediately, imminently, is to accept who we are and be proud of who we are; then you can get the body, then you can chase success, then you can resource to clinique, but you'll do so because you want to, not because it''ll give you something you expect. Haven't you noticed that gyms are packed with insecure men? Women like confident men, women like emotionally stable men, so, let's get ourselves together, the rest will come.
I think you gotta speak about what bjj does to your body also.
Like it is play as you say,but it does destroy your body.
I agree alot with you when you say athletemaxx. Bodybuilding is such a ego centered hobby and i think this is why girls arent drooling over bodybuilders its just not that attractive. Being healthy and atheletic is attractive being able bodied. This is why i think calisthenics is fire
the guys i know throughout my life, didn't matter their color, ethnicity, or even height...if they were the best looking, they got the vast majority of women. and none of them ever went to the gym. they were not fat, but barely needed to exercise. i have at least 12 i can think of...their count is 10x anyone with an average face but muscular build
I’m different. To me just getting better is something. It’s real. That being said I’m an artist. I’ve never done this for sexual attention and it doesn’t stress me out. It gives me more satisfaction then constant socializing and proving I’m a “real man” 24/7. Manhood and masculinity are real and important but most of this content is manipulative and will only serve to line the pockets of a minority.
Elisha, I remember that you said you only read story books, can you explain why you like them?
I love the gym like a hobby. I think its really fun, I love lifting heavy. Being athletic is a fun thing, but i understand what you mean by this video. Its all too easy to over do it, i definitely walk this line. Overtraining can effect your mental dramatically. Im 240 and my sore muscles make it tougher to box sometimes. Thats really the only downside. Fatigue and muscle soreness maybe a bit of a mental thing when its been too much. But its a hobby, thats all. Lifting has helped me in so many ways, got a lot of buddies at the gym too. Its made me better with women too. Love the gym
Just make sure you take adequate rest once in a while, you'll be good
The gymcel guys always crack me up. They’re so misguided thinking this will be the ticket for them getting women. 🤣
Anyone know how tall he is to be that jacked at 15? Shorter people tend to bulk up quicker even if taller people eat more. He’s right about not making it your life to impress people, they’ll get bored, it’s like someone constantly talking about Star Wars or another franchise
Nah cuz he looked pretty tall still
@@winterrobot1942 well yeah that’s what I meant coz he said his dad was 6ft4 so I was wondering how tall he was, i didn’t say he was short, I said shorter people bulk up quicker and ive seen him stood next to gym equipment and he looks tall🤷🏾♂️
It's genetics, he said his dad was tall and big as hell. My dad is short and skinny fat, so I ended up short and skinny.
In conclusion, choose better parents next time, bro.
Its good to take reasonable care of ones health. Its another to dedicate your life to what is essentially vanity and self centeredness.
So true. This "we go jim, preworkout, I fight demons, zyzz, I fight demons" movement is so dumb. Always talk about rejecting modernity and embracing tradition, but it isn't really traditional to go to the gym and take naked mirror selfies. If anything that's gay more than anything.
Again spitting the facts bc of experience
yeah it defiantly can be an idol.
I wish I had someone beat this into my head while I was in my 20s and early 30s. Gotta live life outside of the gym! ALTHOUGH was it not you who had the video or maybe just a survey about getting respect as a bigger dude? All you said was true but I would advise every young man to train for a period to see his potential. And if your under 180 pounds, should bulk and do your damndest to get to at least 180. I myself do notice the difference of positive attention from both sexes when Iam around 180 instead of 160. You might not understand that being a bigger dude.
Yes. I think guys should build a good foundation. 10-20lbs is great. After this you really only need to maintain.
@@ElishaLong agreed
I agree for the most part. But I think you ought to be in the gym even more these days, not out of obsession, but because a lot of our lives are spent sitting down. It’s also just nice to be big. You get respected. Obviously, don’t make the gym your personality, but I don’t see the problem if you’re in that life for pure enjoyment.
Other people could care less if your big or not. That’s not what gets the respect. It’s how you feel about yourself when around others that does. When bigger and in shape you exude more confidence in yourself and people respect that.
@@Dmgolfer22 You don’t think if you’re the most well built man in the room you’re subconsciously a little more respected? Why not?
@@sageway479 It’s just like a pack of dogs. Being “alpha” is energy not appearance. Not uncommon to see a small dog being the pack leader to large dogs. It’s not the appearance. It’s the confidence in yourself. If being bigger and in great shape gives you more confidence then that is what matters. Speaking for myself, it gives me more confidence and a more balanced mind.
@@Dmgolfer22 gonna play devil's advocate but the taller and bigger you are the more respect you'll get generally. People are quite shallow but yea definitely how you feel about yourself is the most important aspect about social situations.
@@Dmgolfer22 I agree through and through, but I would think if you’re small and fierce vs big and fierce, you would be deferred to more.
I needed this. Thanks