One Isn’t the Loneliest Number After All: Our Take on Why We Love Being by Ourselves
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Loni is honestly living her best life and I’m so here for it. It makes me really happy.
I really do consider myself a loner. Not introverted, a loner lol there’s a difference. I prefer being alone, but I’m not a hermit. Before COVID I was out alone all the time, solo traveling, doing things, taking classes by myself. I love it. It never bothered me. I learned to love my own company when I’d been consistently let down. I’ve done so many things I never would’ve done if I’d waited around for others. It’s freeing. Planning things with other people is a lot…people cancelling last minute, being all talk, no follow through, etc. I got tired of it, and now I prefer my own company almost always
Never been let down really but I loved being myself if it was even just sleeping or watching a movie or sumn
You explained me completely 😄
Me too but some people judge me because i like being alone
@@atroisfoundation5546 What I've found is that people who judge folks who like to be alone are often the WORST company lol they can't be alone with themselves. THAT I personally think is a problem, not those of us who love the peace that comes with solitude. Why is being alone a problem, but not being able to be alone with yourself not?
For me, once you realize humans are not all they're cracked up to be, you look at the world a bit differently. I'm not saying you don't need people or someone (you always will), but you see not everyone is good for you or have the best intentions. Plus you don't want to pick up people's bad spirits or energies.
100000%
I would rather do something scary by myself than do it with someone who will complain or be a wet blanket the whole time.
Yes 🙌🏼 100 percent true ❤️
Let's enjoy life by eating delicious and nutritious foods, happy holiday and fun vacation :)
I love my alone time a little too much I will do many things by myself I’m so use to being alone in a healthy way but I’m a Christian so I’m never truly alone or lonely God is always with me
Amén!!!
I missed on so many outings/events etc. that I was excited about because I didn't want to go alone. I remember feeling like a complete and total loser that there was no one who wanted to go see a movie or go to a convention with me. But nowadays I love it!
Doing things with friends is great. But doing things that you absolutely love and not waiting for someone else - who honestly may not care as much you do anyway - is so freeing. And I think I prefer going to movies alone now!
🤔 Am never lonely when am alone 🥰🥰🥰 I don't know if it's because I am an only child but I love the solace of my own company🎯
Same here! I'm an only Child too
I guess it's because very early on our life we learned to figure things out ! Looking back, personally, I am amazed of the things I was doing by myself, always had something to do and I was barely out of my house, mama didn't like that !
That's me as well...I have no issues with being alone. Me time is great!
I am not the only child but the middle child. So I relate to what you are talking to. Having a blast when I go solo!
Love us #TeamOnlyChild
Whoever is the new producer this season is killing it. The topics are real and relatable, way better than last season.
Lol sad get a man
@@madridista703usa3 I'm married. Your comment is unnecessary.
I found myself wanting garcelle to chime in..
I'm so happy I gave her a chance... I initially wasn't stoked about her becoming the new host. Whelp. I changed my mind. Garcelle has been a great addition to the REAL fam! 💜
Has she left for good?
Same, Initially thought she was boring but she's not too bad after all.
Adrienne's speaks !!!! This is me then and now.
How are the shows filmed if they aren't live
It’s understanding the difference between loneliness and emptiness.
I have been taking myself out on dates for years 💗
Unfortunately men are attracted to younger women so the longer you wait the less options you have for a man or a husband. But if you don’t mind being alone that’s what modern women are going to end up with
Ok but…am I the only one that’s afraid to be out alone after 5-6 pm? Like it could be in a nice area I’ll still feel uncomfortable? 😞
This is my issue! I love doing activities by myself or going to the bar or movie- but idk as I'm getting older I feel more unsafe lol
These days you gotta be careful
I don't mind it.
Majority of us who are the only offspring of our parents never consider being alone to be lonely. Not that we are anti-social, but some of us are more introverted than extroverted. And, in the company of others, when it gets too crowdy and noisy, we get cravings to be by our own selves.
I'm not the only child but my siblings who are twins are 14 years older than me so this definitely me
Im the last of 7 and I looove being alone. I crave it, search it out and protect my alone time at all costs. Which is weird because I'm a very sociable person.😁 My husband describes me as being very sociable but not very social. He goes to weddings and parties by himself ( yep by himself) but I have way more friends than he does.😂😂 Go figure.🙄
I’m going to my first concert by myself in April, can’t wait 😄
I have always been this way for as long as I can remember! I found out being alone sets you free from needing others. It's my superpower! When I'm alone, there is NOTHING I can't do!!!
I love doing things solo, but sometimes it's nice to have company. I wished my friends would understand that, when I ask them to go out to an event, it's because I want company or support, not necessarily because I want them to also like the same movie, or band, or sport team as I do. Introverts out there, be aware that sometimes it's not about you and sometimes the most extroverted types need companionship too.
I can relate to Adrienne, I have friends but there’s nothing wrong with alone time and being in your own world.
Yes, sitting in Barnes and Noble alone drinking coffee ☕️ and just enjoying life
Alone time is the best and I love it more than hanging with people tbh
I enjoy time with myself more than being with other people
Loni stylist is killing it!!! makeup, hair and outfit on fyah!!
I'm an introvert, I love being alone but I also have social anxiety (by the way, they are two different things) so I need to have a friend or someone with me when I go out.
Omggggg same!!
Pl as
Same!
Same
Same!
Omg I've been afraid to do things by myself for the longest growing up. I recently started going to the movies by myself. And I drove 2 hours to LA twice for a concert and for a nba game. LOVE IT
Listen social pressure is a REAL thing !!! To be in a space where after a certain age the questions start running a muck and when people make u feel like as soon as u hit a certain age ur time is running out to be with someone or have children and there are truly sum people who enjoy being single! Which is why alone time is very much needed whether ur in a relationship or not
It’s okay to be alone.. esp when it’s by choice. Like you got a spouse.. or friends you can link up with when ever you wish.. but staying alone all the time.. esp not by choice.. is not that.. what it’s cracked up to be..
When u grow up an only child u already know the meaning of being alone & knowing how to have fun by yourself but I think it also makes u crave being around people more...but maybe that’s just me
Only child syndrome not good
I used to feel weird about doing things by myself. But I enjoy going to movies or musical productions by myself, because I'm seeing something that I wanted to see, and I'm not dragging someone who maybe isn't as excited as me to see that movie or show. Therefore, I get to enjoy it more.
I love my company and i like being home alone. love it. is a break is a vibe.
I think college really prepared me for doing things on my own and actually enjoying it! I used to hate going to the cafeteria to eat alone because I just felt weird but I actually ended up liking it. I also love going to the movies alone sometimes for a ME day ☺️
My parents told me to never trust anybody if they can't go to the movies, go out to dinner, or entertain themselves solo. It means they are co-dependent seek validation outside of themselves.
I actually enjoy spending time by myself, it may sound crazy but sometimes I even make very funny jokes in my head and I can laugh out loud because I know nobody will call me crazy... okay I overshared ... Anyway I am a proud introvert
Lol me to! Its okay.
Everyone was always telling me I needed to find someone that I must be so lonely and to hang in there.
I was like, erm I'm fine! If i wanted someone, I'll get someone 😆.
They thought I was just being brave 😐
So I took myself off to Peru and went travelling there myself and told them all a week before I left.
Best time of my life and it showed everyone I AM fine and don't NEED anyone else to complete me.
They shut up now because I've done something in my life none of them in their couples have ever done and it showed you can do what you want and you don't need someone there to be able to do it.
I loved that they did this topic for so many reasons. I began dining out by myself years ago, and one afternoon I was having Thai and a friend and her husband walked in and greeted me. Some years later, on the day of my wedding, that same person (who was also one of my bridesmaids) brought up how that characterized me to her, as being the type who enjoyed my own company.
She also added, that she truly wanted to know how I had gotten to that point. I told her that I learned that as long as God accepted me, then to me what others felt about me doing things alone, really wasn’t’t my business, neither did I care what others thought.
When you can do things with yourself by yourself; then to me, you’ve truly arrived to your destination….”ACCEPTANCE BOULEVARD!”
So i just took my first solo out of state trip over the summer and at first i had those jitters but no too long after i got to my destination i was able to relax and enjoy my self. Did some sight seeing, went to visit with family and even was able to see a baseball game in person which was a surreal experience. Nothing wrong with being solo when you can do stuff on your terms
I love doing things solo😍
I consider myself mostly a loner. But I was like this even as a child. It used to bother me as I got older but now I’m learning to embrace it. You learn to learn and love yourself.
I really love my time alone, I just hate that I feel unsafe most of the time when I’m in public. Just me?
I go through phases
Can totally relate. Find it hard to do things alone too, wish I was better as I’d love to do shop for clothes, watch films alone lol. Are you familiar with agoraphobia? I experience symptoms of it myself.
All my creative juices start going when it’s just me, myself and I. It’s precious time to escape this evil world and really dive into my thoughts and beyond…
Idk maybe it’s just me but 🤗
Adrienne has no idea what it means to be a loner LOL she’s literally around people 24/7
Just because you’re around people doesn’t mean you’re not a loner. I’m around people everyday and I’m a loner myself.
@@britbritnicole a loner means that you spend time alone, by yourself. she never does that, on the opposite she likes to be surrounded by MANY people. again, not a loner.
@@kc-un7by Huh? How do you know she’s with people 24/7? Do you live with her? She’s been saying she likes to be alone sense season 1. How you gonna tell her what she likes?
@@tenisawhite4660 um I follow her and watch the show. For the past years she lived with her family.
That’s what I was thinking! She is constantly posting on her IG and on her yt channel and is always with people. I think I even remember her saying she doesn’t like being left alone in her house. I may be wrong though. She just doesn’t strike me as the loner type. She likes to talk a lot and share with people
I’ve always been that girl that goes to the movies on my own and we have a Barnes and Noble right next door and I would literally just sit on the floor until the employees forced me up 🤣. I have social anxiety so I just love being alone. I don’t have anyone judging me and I’m not beating myself about how I’m interacting with others.
I’m so much of a loner myself that I’ve had multiple people try to befriend me and I’m just like nah I’m good with the very few I got (that I can count on one hand). I honestly rather be alone anyway 😂
100% agree with A! I literally went to meet her at Cafe New Breed in Frisco and I had no one to go to and I just went alone! Don’t regret it🤍
Loni's makeup 😍
I love going out to watch movies alone. 🎥🍿
I’m Lonner 😂❤️! This happened after I turned 18
I think the word alone has many negative connotations.But it shouldn't, it is important to enjoy your own company, if you can't enjoy your company , how can u enjoy someone else's? And if u don't enjoy your own company but someone else's that is not healthy.You should be 100% comfortable being by yourself, it does say alot about your character, and it is healthy to not be codependent and constantly always have to be with others to enjoy yourself all the time.
A few years ago I took myself out to a movie for my birthday and I had a great time I like just being home with my sons and cats.
I have been working on this. In my journey to being independent I realized the importance of being able to entertain myself. A lot of role models I have listen to say that during their most productive periods of life they had no socializing. Of course it’s important to have balance but I want to make sure if I have to be alone it doesn’t make me sad.
Depends on what it is, but I will definitely go eat and watch a movie by myself!
Okay Jeannie is glowing 😍😍😍
Loni is giving me life 🔥♥️😻
I just went to the movies all alone and had the best time. Did wanted a friend to come but didn’t. But I enjoy myself and I can do certain things alone
I love to be alone and minding my buisness.
I’m an only child, I live alone and I’m single….so there goes that 🤣🤣
I love being alone.
I used to enjoy eating alone in the cafeteria by myself in college but I don't think I'd ever go out to a restaurant or movie theater alone. It's not because it looks bad/wrong or that I look lonely, but I just like to experience those kinds of things with someone. It's nice to chat with someone across the dinner table and talk about how the food is. Or after a movie ends, we can discuss what we thought of the movie. Stuff like that. So yeah, I'm not a loner in that sense. I am an introvert tho (and germaphobe) so I was thriving during quarantine 😂😂😂
Also, I'm patient so I can wait for a movie to come out on a streaming platform or online somewhere. So I never had the feeling of "aww man I can't go to the movies because no one's available to go with me." My mom is the type to do all these things by herself though! Movies, restaurants, shopping at the mall, you name it!
Unless you're a dude and it's a treat single or not.
“.... remember loneliness is still time spent with the world.” -Ocean Vuong
I'm definitely a loner. I like doing things by myself, it saps my energy being with people. The irony is that I'm a teacher so at work I am surrounded by a lot of growing humans 😁
I love going to the movies by myself
This is so me and people tell me "that's weird", but thank God I am not alone...I LOVE LOVE LOVE MY ALONE TIME. I AM NOT UNHAPPY, I AM ACTUALLY MOST HAPPY WHEN I'M ALONE. Some people don't and won't get it which is understandable too😌
I’m always alone 🤷🏾♀️
Get a toy
“Please James, please” - Loni 😭
Loni you look amazing!!! Love this glow!
I love going to the amusement parks by myself also going to the movie as long as it isn't a horror flick.
Loni looks exquisite🔥♥️
I love being alone. My boyfriend hates it. I just need my me time. I love him, but I definitely don't need to be attached to his hip.
Haha, why are y’all posting in the middle of the night?
It is evening for me, as I am in Japan haha.
I like being alone for tasks that I actually enjoy doing like going to the movies but I want company when I don’t like what I’m doing like shopping. Having someone there makes a task that I normally wouldn’t like more enjoyable.
Haha that’s actually the opposite for me very interesting. I love doing chores alone, like grocery shopping, running errands, driving, cleaning, running /exercise, eating etc. something about it just feels nice and peaceful getting things done for myself without other people’s commentary.
I prefer to do things I like / novelty activity with other people like going to restaurants, movies, etc. something about sharing things I find fun with others is nicer than doing it alone.
@@valeries3829 loll that’s interesting!
girl chat used to be 15 min long 😭
I started to go to concerts alone... If no one wants to go I will go alone. There was a singer from my country who sadly passed away in 2018 and I never saw him live. And there was a chance...but at that time I thought it was stupid to go alone. Since then I dont have a problem with that. Sure it can be more fun with someone but if they dont want to go ( no matter the reason) I will. I for example will go to the Celine Dion concert on my own...I even have to travel to our capital but I dont care. I just hope it wont be cancelled for a 3rd time because of Covid. But I guess till summer 2022 it will be fine.
The on thing I cant do by myself to sit in a cafe ...that can only happen if I wait for someone and got there earlier. And traveling alone to places outside my country ... nope.. that is something I am to afraid to do...unless I go visit someone I know. But checking out alone another country...I guess I wont do that ever
I truly like being by myself and I thought I was weird lol
Loner Gang🥂❤️
I LOVE my me time, but being an only child when I want to go out I want my friends
I enjoy my own company
Loni says she likes alone time but then at the end says she'll go to a movie with cohost hubby & Tamera said on the show Loni is over to her house. Ha.
Nice with the OG’s
I am a professional loner. It’s a specialized skill!
I call it me time. It's no disrespect but sometimes I need to do a checkin with myself and do things with me myself and I😎😘
Ade i want that suit
Firsttt ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️!!! I love thiss showww ♥️♥️♥️
This is a rant just keep it pushing if it doesn’t apply to you now here so go;
I swear the internet is so slow I’ve been talking about doing things by myself online and now cause of covid now we want to express our love of doing things all by ourselves like get the f out of here. (End of rant) 😊
adrienne's short hair is giving everything!
Sometimes I feel like I know these girls more then they know each other lol As soon as they mentioned being alone I was like Adrienne! She's said that many times before...so not sure if Loni and Jeannie were acting like they didn't know for effect or they actually don't be listening to each other lol.
I love it
❤️❤️❤️❤️
💜💜💜💜
Better be late lonely than with leeches with no thanks for being picked highlighted to shine
Jeanie and those lip fillers lol
She doesn't have lip fillers.
Those are her natural lips
Pregnancy hormones brah.
I'm with Adrienne, is it a Scorpio thing?
No it’s a new york thing
Lol sike
I’ve seen a few of these new videos with the new lady who was she and where is she now?? I kinda stopped watcher after tam lefttt
Her name is Garcelle.
I want my money 💰
Where is the indigenous presentation tho.
I believe she gonna say she has post partum depression she that fake
Lose some weight, big girl! It's about time! Constructive criticism!
Adrienna wardrobe why is too big ??????????????????/ in each episode is like that ..............i do not like it ........................
Why you worried about her wardrobe? How does what she's wearing concern you? You sound like a pervert.
Second
Loni you alone didn't seem to work unless you creative about backstabbing..
What?
Weirdo 🙄
Huh?
where is garcelle?
Probably filming with the Housewives.