Great video. I can definitely relate. Thankfully I had some friends who knew what they were doing and helped me tone it down. On another note, do you happen to remember where those honey coloured glasses are from? I've been looking for a pair just like them for a while!
I think the proper approach to good style is not to try and stand out by exaggeration, but by good fit, interesting texture combinations and color choices.
What about emerald green trousers with mint green shirt and matching orangish-brown belt and shoes,or burgundy pants and light blue shirt with chocolate brown suede shoes and matching belt?
In my opinion this phenomenon occurs to most men, if not all men who recently began their journey in style, is because it's tightly connected to men's behaviour and general way of thinking. We are problem solvers and very driven in this aspect, and we like seeing results relatively quickly. Trying too hard is the result of us trying to jump from our former selves, the dude with lesser style to the man with wow-inducing style in a short period of time. Yet it's not so simple, and trial and error will accompany us on our way, but that's not a bad thing: it shows we're stepping out of our former comfort zone and are willing to experiment. I too was guilty of this and was caught way over-dressed in a few situations, the kind where my friends poked fun at me saying "Are you going to a wedding after this or you're coming from one?". Still, going over-dressed is way better than going under-dressed ;)
"Less is More." I totally agree with that. This is a great video. I appreciate your balanced opinions and suggestions. I look forward to your next video.
I used to make this exact mistake, trying way too hard and going too far. But now I have learned less is more and abide by this. I did use to approach my wardrobe by wanting to add colour as you mentioned. I also made the mistake of wanting people to know and wanting to show people that I was into style. I have now rectified this all thanks to your inspiration.
"You don't need every color of the rainbow" Agree. No one told me that but I figured that out on my own by wasting money on clothes I thought I would wear and never did. I do like red and my favorite color is a darker green, but beyond those, I now stick to the basics. I'm still learning and did have some try too hard moments. One was getting all decked out in a suit with accessories for Thanksgiving with the family. Ended up with dog hair on some of my best clothes.
I made the exact same mistake you mentioned in your video: wore a three-piece suit to meet my buddy...at the mall. He was wearing a tee and sweats and judged the heck out of me hahaha. Still have much to learn but thankfully you're here to teach me. I think I'm getting the hang of this 'less is more' stuff...
Thank you! Points well taken. You can never fail with a classic look. As an interior decorator, I totally agree with your fashion advice. A classic home never goes out of style. Same with menswear. Your videos are great. Keep up the good work!
Interesting how I eventually grew into my style by experimenting and learning more through sartorial discussions. Realizing where you live and the weather and where you go and what you currently need is interesting when adapting a style that works. I have picked up a few things while thrifting. It can be a good way to try different shirt and sweater colors and styles. Thank you for the video.
Totally right, when I was starting my journey I atended my regular classes in college wearing a suit with an odd vest and of course, tie and Pocket square. Today im way more relaxed and I can totally see what Brian is talking about Great video, keep the good work man
I wouldn’t even call this a mistake, but rather a crucial stepping stone in the process of discovering your preferences. You don’t know if you like something until you try it, and the easiest way to overcome that fear is believing you’re well within your comfort. Then you take a step back later and realize that it either was or was not something you like to do.
I definitely did this haha. I don't regret it at all though, it was a lot of fun.. although I wouldn't repeat almost any of my starting suits and looks today. It was never a confidence thing, I've always been very confident in myself ( I think it has to do with how supportive my parents are to me). I did enjoy turning heads for how bold many of my looks were. However, with time, my taste has very naturally shifted to more conservative pale pastel colors (although I still love color), less bracelets, and so on. Also I've never been one for trends, I've always just picked what looks good to me personally.
Same! Glad to see someone admitted it... I was wondering if it really was just me lol. *clicks on video* "Oh God, he knows who I am! Couldn't he just have sent a text??" 😂 But honestly, I don't regret it either. I think it's something that come with maturity/age. As young men, we tend to try too hard in lots of things in life.
Christmas Day, beach on Barbados. Me: Navy suit, red tie, black leather oxfords. I wouldn’t do it again, but it was worth it to see the visibly-stunned bar patrons.
"Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy, But not expressed in fancy; rich, not gaudy, For the apparel oft proclaims the man" is still the best advice. It takes a very long time and long experience to learn the difference between quality and fashion, and what is both timeless and appropriate to your own body, personality, taste, and age. Brian, your advice is of great help and much appreciated. It would also be a great help if you would describe the specific nuts-and-bolts details and information on what to look for in order to understand how to differentiate quality from "name brand" popularity
Oh boy, I had the "Try Too Hard" mentality and it took me a while to grow out of it. I only noticed it when I realized I don't have to don a three-piece suit for every moment. Now I dress more casually and more comfortably while keeping in mind the occasion and realized I am more respected by my peers. What do you think about how formal wear is becoming less common nowadays? I personally love wearing ties, but most of the outings I have don't really require a tie and I can don a casual tie, but even that feels like I'm trying too hard. It is frustrating that my best 3 piece suit which I love wearing is reserved for weddings now.
It obviously shouldn't come to as a surprise that I've made this mistake...but to the extreme. Any look at my old insta photos will tell you lol I like color and all, but I realize that my favorite outfits tend to be off white/beige, brown, blues/navy, and olive green. Having fun is great, but the classics are there for a reason. They say Italians do it best and if you look, most of them keep it simple. Great video as always, Brian! Great to see some originality and insightful perceptions on this topic
Brian, it was sad, but true, to hear you say that the mistake of trying too hard (in the beginning only hopefully), is completely unavoidable. Thanks so much for the words of style wisdom. I noticed that I feel more comfortable, style-wise, with tailored fit (middle sized) oxford shirts. When I wear the slim fit (smallest sized), it is too body hugging. Nothing wrong with that, but the tailored fit is just a little looser, and looks like I didn't go overboard trying so hard. As a result I felt more comfortable-not as self conscious. If the shirt hugs too much, even if it looks good, it reminds you too much of its presence and reminds you of how hard it was to come by that perfect fit. The slightly looser fit disappears in your mind, and you forget about the clothing. I think that's what your co-workers would prefer anyway, so I look 10% less fitted, but 100% confident.
Haaaaaaa, perfect!! So, so, true. Especially for those who think they look great doing it. I’m so lucky to have wonderful mentors and those I subscribe to here. You being a recent addition. Thank you.
Whoa, I've definitely been there! Pocket square flare, lapel pin, flashy tie, no socks...bleh. Just TOO much. My style has evolved to being more simplistic, with versatile pieces and monochromatic tones. I love being able to grab a button down from my closet knowing it'll go with multiple pairs of pants and shoes. Plus I commute on crowded public transit everyday, so the less I have to fuss with my clothes the better! Great vid as always! If you're ever in Chicago, stop by my friend Zach's custom shop. It's called BLVDier. You'd love his aesthetic!
Being an English bloke!!! I like to think we have it close to perfect when it comes to the understated look! I've been into clothes since my early teens ( my mum was in the business) and it's funny how high waisted trousers, braces, pocket squares etc are now making a strong resurgence! and the waistcoat!!! But, I agree, you have to make a few mistakes to get there in the end! Great point!
I guess a reason why we all go through that is that we need to find our own personal style. There is nothing wrong with colours, if that is you, but it is indeed useful to think about "is that my colour?". So I noticed that red is a colour and it suits me well, also I am more on the Dandy-side of style, but there are also a lot of colours that I should avoid. A great video, and I guess there is a nice point in it. "if you are unsure if this is right, propably it isn't."
I've made loads of mistakes even when researching lots before hand. I bought loads of CT's shirts when I should've shopped for 2nd hand clothes from top makers at a cheap price. I bought fused and half fused suits when I should've focused on full canvassed. I had trousers shortened too much due to not knowing about front rises and how that can affect length overall. I've bought suits where trousers were simply too tight for my muscular legs, when I should've skipped it entirely. I would say knowing your own measurements is really useful. I know for instance which inseam length create a type of trouser break for me. 28 creates a no break look, 28.5 creates a quarter break look, 29 creates a half break look, 29.5 creates a full break look. I'm 5'9.5 feet but this is based on my own proportions. There's loads of things I discover as I continue on this journey.
I like my socks with popcorn on them, or spaceships kidnapping cows (cownapping?). But I couldn't get used to chinos that only fell to my ankles....must be a couple of inches longer.
I think the pinstripe suit look will be better with a solid dark tie, a simple white/light blue shirt with point/spread collar and perhaps brown leather shoes. I think if those adjustments are made, the glasses and unbuttoned cuffs will be fine. I need to see the pocket square fold in that outfit to know whether it will work or whether to go for a simple, square fold
I’m such a fan of your style. I watched your ‘mistakes’ vid and was thinking what has this creator evolved into; it’s flawless now. I love peacocks too but sometimes I’d wish they stop at flamboyance. Also I don’t know if this is cocky, I never felt I made a style mistake. In my cliques I’ve often heard of people going like how fashionable and stylish I am but it’s great advise you dish. 😊
The only accessory that I almost never give up is the pocket square. When it's well executed, it can make a huge difference to your outfit. It's something that set you apart from the crowd, even though I've seen more and more men rocking PS's lately. I don't like tie bars, or lapel pins. A pocket square and maybe an watch is everything I need.
Brian, great video. Once again, proof that your content is of good quality and sets your channel apart from the sea of youtube style channels. I really like the glasses and shirt you have on! Cheers!
Totally agree what is trending is a dangerous thing to follow, just because something is in fashion or considered fashion does not mean it looks good, there is a difference between fashion and style.
Another good style quote, this one from Hardy Amies. "A man should look as if he has bought his clothes with intelligence, put them on with care and then forgotten all about them."
When I first got started, I made the mistake of not understanding the formality scale properly. But as time progressed I gained this knowledge. To be more specific about my mistakes, I would sometimes mix high formal pieces with business pieces. I think for anybody on this journey starting out and there isn’t enough videos out there about it In fact, now that I think about it, I haven’t found one. There should be videos out there about the many different types of suits not styles but types that are made for certain occasions because we come out of an era, where men wore suits for every occasion that one can think of including going fishing. I as it stands I am more into business suits. And now that I have the full clasp of that range, I don’t make too many mistakes from there. I do have a few fashion suits, but I do not mix them with business…..
That shade of green (the tie at 7:55) killed me last year! My Samsung S22, notebooks, a handful of shirts and sweaters, and half my hair scrunchies all ended up that colour lol. Now I'm on to more rose gold and champagne tones for that accessory stuff, but the green is definitely still present.
I think it's nearly impossible to avoid this as when you are experimenting, you are bound to try too hard. Or try trending things. My parents still cringe when they think about my bangs during my high school years! (I don't think it's something I'll show my wife anytime soon as well). Anyway, great talking points as usual!
A year and a half in, I have never done the overboard look, mainly because I watched your channel and Gentleman's Gazette. These two channels warn against the common green horn pitfalls. That, and my city would kick me out if I did!
Exactly right! Style has nothing to do with being flamboyant or garish in any way. Know what you’re doing and stop copying others. Be your own man. Trying too hard always speaks too loud to others that you’re being a peacock or dandyish. A little goes a long way, whether you’re sporting a navy blazer or a Glen plaid suit.
Suspenders. It was my first year of paying attention and learning to sartorial elements and wardrobe development. I wore them, . . . three times. I figured it out fairly quickly, I suppose. I did wear them with confidence, though. I will say that. Cheers!
I've had my days, sure, but it's honestly not that hard when I got people like you to help me out. I've largely fixed this "trying too hard" -issue by tackling this issue at the root. Throw away clothes. That's it. For a guy, throwing away functional items can be hard. In any case, it's a really good thing to take one closet section once every other month. "Is this item useful for my goal?" No? Then simply throw it away. Replace it with a superior item if need be. Keep it simple.
I don't wear a suit much at all. But I think I'll have a watch and 1-2 simple bracelet(s). Pocket square, (tie and tie bar - optional), glasses, belt (maybe sometimes, but guess better to not wear with a suit) and lastly some fun socks but not going overboard. I understand that there are a number of things here, but I guess if I keep them subtle and not screaming, they will look perfectly fine.
I rock lapel flowers all the time and have forever I've made it a part of my personal style, but I keep everything else simple, classic and preppy. I have a very Raymond Reddington style in modern terms.
Yeah I almost always wore a suit, tie, tie clip, lapel pin, watch, and pocket square every day. They *worked* stylistically, but it was just too much. I think that look can certainly look fantastic, but I was tryharding way too hard.
100% guilty. Great video Brian, nailed it! For me it's those lapel flowers. I really like them but sometimes they're just too much! Gotta take one thing off, good quote here!
Great video. I have transitioned from not having any style at all, to a sort of mountains/woods style with checked shirts , to a minimalistic style of plain sweeter/turtle neck and over coats (very stylish here in Dublin, Ireland where I live). Have to give away a lot of clothes. Funny and interesting journey.... Very nice channel.
Im glad and found this channel of tours regarding men’s fashion, just like you i am in the forties 😉 (proud of it). Keep it up and make more videos. Another fulfilled subscriber here.
As he says "you know what I need is purple" I was holding a purple Hawaiian shirt up to my chest in the mirror. Ah classic. Too bad, have to have a few Hawaiian shirts here in CA.
Although I agree that many men go too far and exaggerate on the details, I find that being to stringent and not allowing experimentation leads to boring outfits. If you can find the balance between not doing too much and having fun with your clothes/outfits then I think you've struck the perfect balance.
While I agree somewhat, I also think style is in the details, particularly fit. A simple navy suit can look stunning or sloppy. Just depends on how much care you put into it.
Sure, we've all been there with regards to going over the top. As noted by Brian and other comments, it's a part of the journey. To paraphrase Mr. Shelton's comment regarding simplicity as a hallmark of true sophistication. However, complication with attention to detail and within parameters can be done well. The Sprezzaturra style for example is an art form. Though it's certainly not for everyone and it's definitely not easy to achieve this to a level of competence or as functional sartorial art. By contrast, over complication of outfit without informed design skills and factors is not only a sign of folly but can be a sign of insecurity as well.
3:20 Can't help myself, but that navy pinstripe is gorgeous; one with a peak lapel will look better. Club collar, yeah not sure, a spread collar work better. Tie and socks wise, a plain one will always work. Here's an idea to pull a great casual effortless look: -Sky-blue shirt -Check navy/ blue blazer -White pocket square -jeans -sneaker (white/ brown leather)/ brown derby or with brogues. Espadrilles maybe in summer?
Oh dear. Deep blue summer jacket, bold white windowpane. Burgundy chinos. Burgundy cords, too. Pastel blue summer sweater. Those looked like a good idea at the time. Well, at least the corduroys get some use - they look fine with navy peacoat or charcoal overcoat. And maybe with a future brown leather jacket. But I guess I had to learn the hard way.
What i believe is that you should question everything a stylish man does but in a goodway personally that worked for me!!! Questioning every details and rules and also good taste!! Fashion pivots on two things proportion and color!! You mess that up you are done!!
I sometimes get mindful about catching up with old friends/coworkers who never cared about style. I feel like I have to dress down before I meet them. The only accessories I have is a seiko I modded myself. My clothes are boring, single colour. The only thing I do use is a tailor to get the fit perfect. Also making sure I get rid of worn-out clothes. That's it, but even tailoring and basic upkeep is enough make me conscious about my lack of concern for kairos, context.
Brian nails it... it’s just a human fallacy. When we determine something is “good” we take it to an extreme, we overdo it...we forget that too much of a good thing is usually terrible, if it doesn’t outright kill us. Whether it’s food, alcohol, or style, there’s something wired in us to overdo it until we realize it has limits.
One of my worst fashion mistakes was a bright red velvet sports coat I wore to a wedding about 20 years ago. I was a real spectacle. I never wore that garment again.
My biggest mistake was buying my first suit too tight, and when I gained a few pounds, I could no longer wear it. And it wasn't alterable. I won't tell you where I bought it, but it rhymes with "uit upply."
Your try too hard pinstripe suits set actually looks fine to me. I would rather see a blogger demonstrates more try hard combination so that I would be more inspired.
Great Great video! Thanks a lot! I'm starting know and I can see me in lot of you saying thanks and it's a great learning lesson, keep it classic and simple 👏💪
As I mentioned in the video, there are times and places to think about dressing well. I wouldn't consider a football game to be one of those occasions.
I discovered your channel recently and I love your content. I would love to hear your thoughts on overdressing. As you said a lot of men don't care about their clothes so if you dress more elegant, now you're the wierd one. At least that's how it is in south-east Europe. I've realised sometimes I don't want to put care into matching my clothes because I don't want to seem pretentious or stand out. It's hard to explain.
Really like your unassuming, relaxed attitude. Nice to see the portraits of the Duke of Windsor and Fred Astaire (Fred Astaire in particular is a special inspiration to me). Beautiful shirt (oxford cloth, I assume?), but isn't unbuttoning two buttons a bit too much for the office? I think it is...
Oh how I can relate to this video when I look at old pictures! I’ve always been considered well dressed and put together because I swim in a sea of ill fitting graphic tees and dirty sneakers. So me wearing a ton of bracelets thinking how I belonged at Pitti wasn’t the worst you could see. But even now, after trying out so much stuff I think I’m overdoing it somehow. For example: my outfits are simple, almost always jeans or chinos, loafers, shirt or turtleneck and jacket. But I do something the purists seem to hate. I’m wearing casually jackets with a British cut, some padding, large peak lapels, open quarters, think Edward Sexton without the exaggerated roped shoulders. I tried casual Italian tailoring that would probably work better in my outfits, but it’s just not for me...
I read basically the same thing in Esquire magazine almost sixty years ago. Do less than you're tempted to do, make sure you and your clothing is clean, dress with care and then forget about it. Nothing is less attractive than a man who preens all day.
Maybe minus the bracelets but I don't think the rest of the outfit is trying too hard - it looks really good....but i do agree, it is possible to overdo it with too many accessories...simplicity is sometimes the best
Great video Brian 👍 I have definitely been there myself. I also think that sometimes some of the style channels can give people the idea that dressing good, equals dressing up. Nope a suit isn’t always appropriate 🤷♂️
Have you been there? Tell us about it?
Mine was thankfully in High School! Moved across the country, so none of my adult-friends have ever witnessed my awkward phase.
Great video. I can definitely relate. Thankfully I had some friends who knew what they were doing and helped me tone it down.
On another note, do you happen to remember where those honey coloured glasses are from? I've been looking for a pair just like them for a while!
I feel like I hold myself back from using some items I have, simply because I'm afraid of trying too hard 🤔
Thanks for chiming in!
That's awesome. Great friends. They're the Cran by TBD Eyewear.
I think the proper approach to good style is not to try and stand out by exaggeration, but by good fit, interesting texture combinations and color choices.
Well said. Thank you for sharing that.
Absolutely!!!!
Hear,hear!👊🏽
What about emerald green trousers with mint green shirt and matching orangish-brown belt and shoes,or burgundy pants and light blue shirt with chocolate brown suede shoes and matching belt?
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Simple and critical advice. "Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication." Nice work on this video!!
Many thanks, Ken. Appreciate the comment and support!
Ditto!
We tend to define elegant as dignified and graceful. But another definition is uncomplicated and neat.
In my opinion this phenomenon occurs to most men, if not all men who recently began their journey in style, is because it's tightly connected to men's behaviour and general way of thinking. We are problem solvers and very driven in this aspect, and we like seeing results relatively quickly. Trying too hard is the result of us trying to jump from our former selves, the dude with lesser style to the man with wow-inducing style in a short period of time. Yet it's not so simple, and trial and error will accompany us on our way, but that's not a bad thing: it shows we're stepping out of our former comfort zone and are willing to experiment.
I too was guilty of this and was caught way over-dressed in a few situations, the kind where my friends poked fun at me saying "Are you going to a wedding after this or you're coming from one?". Still, going over-dressed is way better than going under-dressed ;)
Exactly as I said. Thank you for the comment and the continued support!
Could not agree more! “All it takes are a few simple outfits. And there's one secret - The Simpler, The Better” - Cary Grant said.
not mentioned: Cary Grant only had the best available clothes of the western world.
100%. I so did this near the end of college, dressing up way too much for a college student.
Thanks for sharing, Theodore!
"Less is More." I totally agree with that. This is a great video. I appreciate your balanced opinions and suggestions. I look forward to your next video.
I used to make this exact mistake, trying way too hard and going too far. But now I have learned less is more and abide by this. I did use to approach my wardrobe by wanting to add colour as you mentioned. I also made the mistake of wanting people to know and wanting to show people that I was into style. I have now rectified this all thanks to your inspiration.
"You don't need every color of the rainbow"
Agree. No one told me that but I figured that out on my own by wasting money on clothes I thought I would wear and never did. I do like red and my favorite color is a darker green, but beyond those, I now stick to the basics. I'm still learning and did have some try too hard moments. One was getting all decked out in a suit with accessories for Thanksgiving with the family. Ended up with dog hair on some of my best clothes.
We’ve all been there.
A hopsack plum is pretty nice. Kind of looks like a burgundy
I made the exact same mistake you mentioned in your video: wore a three-piece suit to meet my buddy...at the mall. He was wearing a tee and sweats and judged the heck out of me hahaha. Still have much to learn but thankfully you're here to teach me. I think I'm getting the hang of this 'less is more' stuff...
Classic! Thanks for the comment, Atom.
Thank you! Points well taken. You can never fail with a classic look. As an interior decorator, I totally agree with your fashion advice. A classic home never goes out of style. Same with menswear. Your videos are great. Keep up the good work!
Interesting how I eventually grew into my style by experimenting and learning more through sartorial discussions. Realizing where you live and the weather and where you go and what you currently need is interesting when adapting a style that works. I have picked up a few things while thrifting. It can be a good way to try different shirt and sweater colors and styles. Thank you for the video.
One of the most practical style videos on your channel and on youtube. Thanks!
Thanks, Julian! Share it with people who need the advice!
Totally right, when I was starting my journey I atended my regular classes in college wearing a suit with an odd vest and of course, tie and Pocket square. Today im way more relaxed and I can totally see what Brian is talking about
Great video, keep the good work man
Same...I use to totally over do it (my early instagram is a nightmare) but now, I keep it much more simple...
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Thanks so much, Aaron. It's a learning experience for sure!
I have to agree, just a few months ago I was walking around in a light grey suit, green shirt, pocket square, tie and fedora.
I wouldn’t even call this a mistake, but rather a crucial stepping stone in the process of discovering your preferences.
You don’t know if you like something until you try it, and the easiest way to overcome that fear is believing you’re well within your comfort.
Then you take a step back later and realize that it either was or was not something you like to do.
That's exactly right.
We are all at one point or another guilty of this. Always best to recognize it, learn from it, and improve from it! Great content as always!
Well said! Thanks, Abraham.
Definitely a common and significant mistake, especially with clashing patterns, but I wouldn't say everyone falls for it.
Those are the lucky few.
I definitely did this haha. I don't regret it at all though, it was a lot of fun.. although I wouldn't repeat almost any of my starting suits and looks today. It was never a confidence thing, I've always been very confident in myself ( I think it has to do with how supportive my parents are to me).
I did enjoy turning heads for how bold many of my looks were. However, with time, my taste has very naturally shifted to more conservative pale pastel colors (although I still love color), less bracelets, and so on. Also I've never been one for trends, I've always just picked what looks good to me personally.
Same! Glad to see someone admitted it... I was wondering if it really was just me lol.
*clicks on video* "Oh God, he knows who I am! Couldn't he just have sent a text??" 😂
But honestly, I don't regret it either. I think it's something that come with maturity/age. As young men, we tend to try too hard in lots of things in life.
What a wonderful video. It is like playing wonderwall in guitar for the beginners or taking macro photographs of flowers after buying a DSLRs!
This hit home. Thank you before I spent too much on stuff I don’t need or end up never putting on!
Yep. This was me a few years ago. So true.
Appreciate the comment, Daniel.
I did not think the look was bad.I liked it.I personally have gotten the best compliments when I'm simply dressed.
Cheers.
Christmas Day, beach on Barbados.
Me: Navy suit, red tie, black leather oxfords.
I wouldn’t do it again, but it was worth it to see the visibly-stunned bar patrons.
😂
I remember in my early days that I would wear square toe tip shoes 🤮. Your channel helps alot. So thank you.
The horror!!! Thanks for the support, Logan.
"Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy,
But not expressed in fancy; rich, not gaudy, For the apparel oft proclaims the man" is still the best advice.
It takes a very long time and long experience to learn the difference between quality and fashion, and what is both timeless and appropriate to your own body, personality, taste, and age.
Brian, your advice is of great help and much appreciated.
It would also be a great help if you would describe the specific nuts-and-bolts details and information on what to look for in order to understand how to differentiate quality from "name brand" popularity
Oh boy, I had the "Try Too Hard" mentality and it took me a while to grow out of it. I only noticed it when I realized I don't have to don a three-piece suit for every moment. Now I dress more casually and more comfortably while keeping in mind the occasion and realized I am more respected by my peers.
What do you think about how formal wear is becoming less common nowadays? I personally love wearing ties, but most of the outings I have don't really require a tie and I can don a casual tie, but even that feels like I'm trying too hard. It is frustrating that my best 3 piece suit which I love wearing is reserved for weddings now.
It obviously shouldn't come to as a surprise that I've made this mistake...but to the extreme. Any look at my old insta photos will tell you lol I like color and all, but I realize that my favorite outfits tend to be off white/beige, brown, blues/navy, and olive green. Having fun is great, but the classics are there for a reason. They say Italians do it best and if you look, most of them keep it simple. Great video as always, Brian! Great to see some originality and insightful perceptions on this topic
Hey, we've all been there, Demetrios! Consider those old photos reminders of what NOT to do! Appreciate the comment, as always.
Brian, it was sad, but true, to hear you say that the mistake of trying too hard (in the beginning only hopefully), is completely unavoidable. Thanks so much for the words of style wisdom. I noticed that I feel more comfortable, style-wise, with tailored fit (middle sized) oxford shirts. When I wear the slim fit (smallest sized), it is too body hugging. Nothing wrong with that, but the tailored fit is just a little looser, and looks like I didn't go overboard trying so hard. As a result I felt more comfortable-not as self conscious. If the shirt hugs too much, even if it looks good, it reminds you too much of its presence and reminds you of how hard it was to come by that perfect fit. The slightly looser fit disappears in your mind, and you forget about the clothing. I think that's what your co-workers would prefer anyway, so I look 10% less fitted, but 100% confident.
Great points. Thanks for chiming in.
Haaaaaaa, perfect!! So, so, true. Especially for those who think they look great doing it.
I’m so lucky to have wonderful mentors and those I subscribe to here. You being a recent addition.
Thank you.
Appreciate the comment and the support. Glad to have you!
Whoa, I've definitely been there! Pocket square flare, lapel pin, flashy tie, no socks...bleh. Just TOO much. My style has evolved to being more simplistic, with versatile pieces and monochromatic tones. I love being able to grab a button down from my closet knowing it'll go with multiple pairs of pants and shoes. Plus I commute on crowded public transit everyday, so the less I have to fuss with my clothes the better! Great vid as always! If you're ever in Chicago, stop by my friend Zach's custom shop. It's called BLVDier. You'd love his aesthetic!
Thanks for chiming in, Jeffery!
Being an English bloke!!! I like to think we have it close to perfect when it comes to the understated look! I've been into clothes since my early teens ( my mum was in the business) and it's funny how high waisted trousers, braces, pocket squares etc are now making a strong resurgence! and the waistcoat!!! But, I agree, you have to make a few mistakes to get there in the end! Great point!
I guess a reason why we all go through that is that we need to find our own personal style. There is nothing wrong with colours, if that is you, but it is indeed useful to think about "is that my colour?".
So I noticed that red is a colour and it suits me well, also I am more on the Dandy-side of style, but there are also a lot of colours that I should avoid. A great video, and I guess there is a nice point in it. "if you are unsure if this is right, propably it isn't."
I've made loads of mistakes even when researching lots before hand. I bought loads of CT's shirts when I should've shopped for 2nd hand clothes from top makers at a cheap price. I bought fused and half fused suits when I should've focused on full canvassed. I had trousers shortened too much due to not knowing about front rises and how that can affect length overall. I've bought suits where trousers were simply too tight for my muscular legs, when I should've skipped it entirely. I would say knowing your own measurements is really useful. I know for instance which inseam length create a type of trouser break for me. 28 creates a no break look, 28.5 creates a quarter break look, 29 creates a half break look, 29.5 creates a full break look. I'm 5'9.5 feet but this is based on my own proportions. There's loads of things I discover as I continue on this journey.
So true! I remember having a drawer full of Happy Socks
The horror! Thanks for the comment, Javier!
I like my socks with popcorn on them, or spaceships kidnapping cows (cownapping?). But I couldn't get used to chinos that only fell to my ankles....must be a couple of inches longer.
I think the pinstripe suit look will be better with a solid dark tie, a simple white/light blue shirt with point/spread collar and perhaps brown leather shoes. I think if those adjustments are made, the glasses and unbuttoned cuffs will be fine. I need to see the pocket square fold in that outfit to know whether it will work or whether to go for a simple, square fold
I’m such a fan of your style. I watched your ‘mistakes’ vid and was thinking what has this creator evolved into; it’s flawless now. I love peacocks too but sometimes I’d wish they stop at flamboyance. Also I don’t know if this is cocky, I never felt I made a style mistake. In my cliques I’ve often heard of people going like how fashionable and stylish I am but it’s great advise you dish. 😊
The only accessory that I almost never give up is the pocket square. When it's well executed, it can make a huge difference to your outfit. It's something that set you apart from the crowd, even though I've seen more and more men rocking PS's lately. I don't like tie bars, or lapel pins. A pocket square and maybe an watch is everything I need.
Brian, great video. Once again, proof that your content is of good quality and sets your channel apart from the sea of youtube style channels.
I really like the glasses and shirt you have on! Cheers!
Totally agree what is trending is a dangerous thing to follow, just because something is in fashion or considered fashion does not mean it looks good, there is a difference between fashion and style.
Thanks so much for all the recent comments and knowledge you drop. Glad to have you here.
Another good style quote, this one from Hardy Amies.
"A man should look as if he has bought his clothes with intelligence, put them on with care and then forgotten all about them."
When I first got started, I made the mistake of not understanding the formality scale properly. But as time progressed I gained this knowledge. To be more specific about my mistakes, I would sometimes mix high formal pieces with business pieces. I think for anybody on this journey starting out and there isn’t enough videos out there about it In fact, now that I think about it, I haven’t found one. There should be videos out there about the many different types of suits not styles but types that are made for certain occasions because we come out of an era, where men wore suits for every occasion that one can think of including going fishing. I as it stands I am more into business suits. And now that I have the full clasp of that range, I don’t make too many mistakes from there. I do have a few fashion suits, but I do not mix them with business…..
Great photos on your wall of great stylish men of a great stylish classy generation
That shade of green (the tie at 7:55) killed me last year! My Samsung S22, notebooks, a handful of shirts and sweaters, and half my hair scrunchies all ended up that colour lol.
Now I'm on to more rose gold and champagne tones for that accessory stuff, but the green is definitely still present.
great video for beginners. thanks Brian!
I think it's nearly impossible to avoid this as when you are experimenting, you are bound to try too hard. Or try trending things. My parents still cringe when they think about my bangs during my high school years! (I don't think it's something I'll show my wife anytime soon as well). Anyway, great talking points as usual!
Thanks, as always. Cheers.
A year and a half in, I have never done the overboard look, mainly because I watched your channel and Gentleman's Gazette. These two channels warn against the common green horn pitfalls. That, and my city would kick me out if I did!
Nice! Well done! And thanks for the support.
I would agree that you did go a bit overboard w/ that get up but, having said that, you still looked pretty damn good.
Very kind, Mark. Thanks for the support.
Exactly right! Style has nothing to do with being flamboyant or garish in any way. Know what you’re doing and stop copying others. Be your own man. Trying too hard always speaks too loud to others that you’re being a peacock or dandyish. A little goes a long way, whether you’re sporting a navy blazer or a Glen plaid suit.
I like Peacocking. Brown, blue, grey is often boring. I hate grey. Personal choice.
Suspenders. It was my first year of paying attention and learning to sartorial elements and wardrobe development. I wore them, . . . three times. I figured it out fairly quickly, I suppose. I did wear them with confidence, though. I will say that. Cheers!
I've had my days, sure, but it's honestly not that hard when I got people like you to help me out.
I've largely fixed this "trying too hard" -issue by tackling this issue at the root. Throw away clothes. That's it. For a guy, throwing away functional items can be hard. In any case, it's a really good thing to take one closet section once every other month. "Is this item useful for my goal?" No? Then simply throw it away. Replace it with a superior item if need be. Keep it simple.
I also like the method of, have I worn this in a year? No? Okay, time to get rid of it.
I don't wear a suit much at all. But I think I'll have a watch and 1-2 simple bracelet(s). Pocket square, (tie and tie bar - optional), glasses, belt (maybe sometimes, but guess better to not wear with a suit) and lastly some fun socks but not going overboard. I understand that there are a number of things here, but I guess if I keep them subtle and not screaming, they will look perfectly fine.
I rock lapel flowers all the time and have forever I've made it a part of my personal style, but I keep everything else simple, classic and preppy. I have a very Raymond Reddington style in modern terms.
Yeah I almost always wore a suit, tie, tie clip, lapel pin, watch, and pocket square every day.
They *worked* stylistically, but it was just too much.
I think that look can certainly look fantastic, but I was tryharding way too hard.
I'm realizing this which brought me to this video. Thanks for your insights!
100% guilty. Great video Brian, nailed it!
For me it's those lapel flowers. I really like them but sometimes they're just too much! Gotta take one thing off, good quote here!
Exactly. There's a time and a place. But not every time and every place.
@@hespokestyle Well said.
That oxford looks super comfortable!
Great video.
I have transitioned from not having any style at all, to a sort of mountains/woods style with checked shirts , to a minimalistic style of plain sweeter/turtle neck and over coats (very stylish here in Dublin, Ireland where I live).
Have to give away a lot of clothes.
Funny and interesting journey....
Very nice channel.
Im glad and found this channel of tours regarding men’s fashion, just like you i am in the forties 😉 (proud of it). Keep it up and make more videos. Another fulfilled subscriber here.
As he says "you know what I need is purple" I was holding a purple Hawaiian shirt up to my chest in the mirror. Ah classic. Too bad, have to have a few Hawaiian shirts here in CA.
Although I agree that many men go too far and exaggerate on the details, I find that being to stringent and not allowing experimentation leads to boring outfits. If you can find the balance between not doing too much and having fun with your clothes/outfits then I think you've struck the perfect balance.
While I agree somewhat, I also think style is in the details, particularly fit. A simple navy suit can look stunning or sloppy. Just depends on how much care you put into it.
Sure, we've all been there with regards to going over the top. As noted by Brian and other comments, it's a part of the journey. To paraphrase Mr. Shelton's comment regarding simplicity as a hallmark of true sophistication. However, complication with attention to detail and within parameters can be done well. The Sprezzaturra style for example is an art form. Though it's certainly not for everyone and it's definitely not easy to achieve this to a level of competence or as functional sartorial art. By contrast, over complication of outfit without informed design skills and factors is not only a sign of folly but can be a sign of insecurity as well.
This is such a wonderful starter! Alas, I am far too poor to afford a suit that fits me properly so my mistakes continue to be less pronounced.
3:20 Can't help myself, but that navy pinstripe is gorgeous; one with a peak lapel will look better. Club collar, yeah not sure, a spread collar work better. Tie and socks wise, a plain one will always work.
Here's an idea to pull a great casual effortless look:
-Sky-blue shirt
-Check navy/ blue blazer
-White pocket square
-jeans
-sneaker (white/ brown leather)/ brown derby or with brogues. Espadrilles maybe in summer?
Oh dear. Deep blue summer jacket, bold white windowpane. Burgundy chinos. Burgundy cords, too. Pastel blue summer sweater. Those looked like a good idea at the time. Well, at least the corduroys get some use - they look fine with navy peacoat or charcoal overcoat. And maybe with a future brown leather jacket. But I guess I had to learn the hard way.
We've all been there. Thanks so much for sharing.
What i believe is that you should question everything a stylish man does but in a goodway personally that worked for me!!! Questioning every details and rules and also good taste!! Fashion pivots on two things proportion and color!! You mess that up you are done!!
I sometimes get mindful about catching up with old friends/coworkers who never cared about style.
I feel like I have to dress down before I meet them. The only accessories I have is a seiko I modded myself. My clothes are boring, single colour. The only thing I do use is a tailor to get the fit perfect. Also making sure I get rid of worn-out clothes.
That's it, but even tailoring and basic upkeep is enough make me conscious about my lack of concern for kairos, context.
Thanks for chiming in. That's an interesting point about dressing for the company. I think it's very valid.
Love your simplistic content. Keep it up
Wilco!
Brian nails it... it’s just a human fallacy. When we determine something is “good” we take it to an extreme, we overdo it...we forget that too much of a good thing is usually terrible, if it doesn’t outright kill us. Whether it’s food, alcohol, or style, there’s something wired in us to overdo it until we realize it has limits.
That's how I feel about the picture in the beginning of the video, most trying too hard, not sure if that was purposeful
One of my worst fashion mistakes was a bright red velvet sports coat I wore to a wedding about 20 years ago. I was a real spectacle. I never wore that garment again.
But did it fit well?
Great video! I tend to cringe when i look back at my own photos of my style many many years ago. Sounds universal!
You have just earnt a new subscriber. You indeed speak style sir.
Sweet and welcome! Thank you so much.
My biggest mistake was buying my first suit too tight, and when I gained a few pounds, I could no longer wear it. And it wasn't alterable. I won't tell you where I bought it, but it rhymes with "uit upply."
Your try too hard pinstripe suits set actually looks fine to me. I would rather see a blogger demonstrates more try hard combination so that I would be more inspired.
You have impeccable taste but I have to agree to tried to hard lol. But there's nothing wrong staying classic it will never go out of style
Yes, indeed!
Whew! I thought he was going to say wearing socks with sandals was a style mistake.
Excellent video, very helpful and informative!
Many thanks! Glad you liked it, Chris. Cheers.
Great Great video! Thanks a lot! I'm starting know and I can see me in lot of you saying thanks and it's a great learning lesson, keep it classic and simple 👏💪
There are *definitely* people who do not try too hard. Or hard enough.
Im in love with this channel!!
So true but in your opinion what would a stylish outfit to wear to a football 🏈 game?
Your input is greatly appreciated
As I mentioned in the video, there are times and places to think about dressing well. I wouldn't consider a football game to be one of those occasions.
Yet another elite video
Aha! Joke’s on you! Only one beaded bracelet and the skull one is without beads!
Kidding of course :)
Nice video(s) and very insightful tips!
Brian - you've personally attacked every Pitti Peacock ever haha.
(Should have watched further into the video - alas, it was my first thought)
🤣🤣🤣
I discovered your channel recently and I love your content. I would love to hear your thoughts on overdressing. As you said a lot of men don't care about their clothes so if you dress more elegant, now you're the wierd one. At least that's how it is in south-east Europe. I've realised sometimes I don't want to put care into matching my clothes because I don't want to seem pretentious or stand out. It's hard to explain.
It's possible to be "dressed well" without overdoing it. Navy blazer, powder blue button up, off-white chinos, suede loafers. Easy!
True words from u , I've been in those journey
Really like your unassuming, relaxed attitude. Nice to see the portraits of the Duke of Windsor and Fred Astaire (Fred Astaire in particular is a special inspiration to me). Beautiful shirt (oxford cloth, I assume?), but isn't unbuttoning two buttons a bit too much for the office? I think it is...
Not my office!
You are right !
Oh how I can relate to this video when I look at old pictures! I’ve always been considered well dressed and put together because I swim in a sea of ill fitting graphic tees and dirty sneakers. So me wearing a ton of bracelets thinking how I belonged at Pitti wasn’t the worst you could see. But even now, after trying out so much stuff I think I’m overdoing it somehow. For example: my outfits are simple, almost always jeans or chinos, loafers, shirt or turtleneck and jacket. But I do something the purists seem to hate. I’m wearing casually jackets with a British cut, some padding, large peak lapels, open quarters, think Edward Sexton without the exaggerated roped shoulders. I tried casual Italian tailoring that would probably work better in my outfits, but it’s just not for me...
2:06 the edit got me haha
Awesome!
The less is more approach applies in most other areas of life while maturing as well.
I read basically the same thing in Esquire magazine almost sixty years ago. Do less than you're tempted to do, make sure you and your clothing is clean, dress with care and then forget about it. Nothing is less attractive than a man who preens all day.
Thanks so much for the comment! Appreciate you chiming in.
Great mate !
Thanks so much! Appreciate the comment.
Maybe minus the bracelets but I don't think the rest of the outfit is trying too hard - it looks really good....but i do agree, it is possible to overdo it with too many accessories...simplicity is sometimes the best
Great advise brother!
I'll never give up my tie bar, never.
I think if you are out and about town and you find yourself wondering who might be noticing how well styled you are - you probably overdid it.
Indeed. For sure. Thanks for the comment.
Great video Brian 👍 I have definitely been there myself. I also think that sometimes some of the style channels can give people the idea that dressing good, equals dressing up. Nope a suit isn’t always appropriate 🤷♂️
Here here!
I got really decked out in an over the top suit jacket, black skinny jeans, and aviators at my grandfather's funeral...