JazakAllah khair Shaikh! Ahh the evils of free mixing and social media are numerous. No matter how good you are (both men and women), there is always someone better than you so avoid free mixing as our Shaikh advised.
I called him Shaikh and you're saying we are being paid for it. Can you please answer me, what are you going to say if Allah asks you what evidence did you have for such an accusation. As a matter of fact, it is not haram to get paid by the government, give me one evidence from the Book and the Sunnah that suggests that getting paid by the government is haram
Alhamdulilah. I don't need to do any research about a person's personal life. I know my Deen enough which is a favor from Allah in order to know who is calling to the correct path and who is not openly. Unlike you! Had you spent most of your time seeking knowledge of your Deen instead of learning about subsidiary matters which don't even concern you and won't help you in the Hereafter, you would have been able to distinguish between the truth and the falsehood. The path you're following is the one that leads to destruction and chaos while you're thinking you're achieving something good, well guess what? Didn't Shaytan promise to make people's evil deeds fair-seeming to them....
Yeah cheating feels easy!!! And is mostly associated with Boyfriend-Girlfriend relationships!!! Marriage is an authentic legal and official relationship!!!
The harmones can be left on top of a woman. To think about your wife cheating on you is not just heartbreaking but its disgusting and cringe. Whatever the case between a wife and husband is, if there is distance between them simple go for separation rather than cheating.
Alhummah barak you have more brains and wisdom then most men. I believe talaq is a mercy from Allah if so called husband is not connected to her she well not want to be with him I know what I am saying.
But talaq is the very last resort sister. Most things can be resolved, dont give up because of a "lack of connection" thats extremely easy to fix إن شاء الله
Yeah mine got me arrested in a domestic incident - as I threw some tea with cream on him( to divorce me)- and half chocked me to death and told the cops rhts was "self defence- and now after running aorund the the Kafor system and im out on Bail - he still refuses me to give me Talaq so were still married; Fitnah of Dunia; and youd vetter believe I was making Duah evry single day multiple times a day cause I was afraid the Kafir Judge would ut me behind bars - and was stuck in a.sheñter for 2 months; Im a revert so there is no where to Go; except Kufaar houses cause no Muslim family wnatwd to take me in;
I have a question and please post it in your stories its gona help alot of people. Please talk about "zulm" and bad treatment to Banat al nas. Her father died and the man knew she had no backbone but him. she trusted him for 5 years and at the end: 2 weeks before the wedding, the guy cut it off for no reason. 1- he was a hash addict. 2- what is the hukom or punishment for treating the yatima this way. 3- what will be the reward for the girl.
in the hands of Allah is his punishment. As for the girl, what reward she deserves ?? to put al trust on a man ? what kind of relationship they had for 5 years ? where was her mahram ( uncle, brother ) ?
but isn't work permissible if the conditions are fullfilled and the woman limits the interaction with a foreign man to only what the job (halal of course) requires?
But why would a woman risk it at all ? I mean she doesn't has any obligation to work and if she wanna work why is she not looking for a home office job where she also can earn a lot ? Mostly it'll be attentionwhich she wants
@Vefa5858 There are women who are the only child of their parents, or are not married due to many reasons including being disabled and men not willing to marry them. Also not everyone works a remote job. Please think about the many muslims in these cases.
There can’t be men there at all and she has to observe full hijab, only then is it halal. Necessity is a factor tho, but generally women should not be out and mixing with men, look up al ahzab 32-33
@@Aastelll We also need to think about Muslims who are in their mid 40s who never married especially men who are trying nearly their whole lives trying to obtain the resources and exaggerated mahr for marriage. We also forget about the brothers who are Muslims but coming out of the prisons, they want wives too, they dont want to fall back into their days of ignorance. They may not be able to amass 6 figure incomes having a record but a feasible job. We cant say only the rich should marry is not a society. Those earning 100k is only 10% and I did not include their orientation, are they married single, etc so that number is even lower 5% What about the 90% who CANNOT produce 50-100k mahr.
First of all I would like for these sisters to reflect on their history prior to marriage. What what she expecting in her marriage? If she wanted a lavish or above average life style her husband would have to work harder that means less time seeing wife and if he does he is almost exhausted not being able to be fully attend to her needs or be present with the children. That is the some of draw backs having a spouse earning above the national average working 98-120 hrs a week. Now her history. What does she do online, have multiple social medial accounts having herself beautified makeup, etc even have abayas 2x smaller than body's actual size, etc they they will get propositions from strange men daily on her accounts saying the typical "ma' shaa' allah,. you are pretty, beautiful sister..etc". Next being overly flirtatious, loose around men work, school, shopping, etc thinking the hijab is only about covering not behavior as well. How about her friends, are they mothers, wives, or single women glamorizing their experience at the clubs, being single, taking about handsome men in movies, soap operas, romance novels ie. note 80-90% for erotic romance book readers are. women, etc. If she is working same with co-workers gossiping about a new chad who was hired and all of them are blushing "he is looking at you!!! No, did you see how he smiled?" "I wished I could marry him", etc. Seeing this kind of scenario we all know its just a matter time someone is going to screw up. Just another note. Wayyyy too many sisters have their themselves online with no valid reason. What they dont realize if they are well endowed having noticeable signs of beauty even when covered ie. large busom, hips, etc gets the video copied and uploaded to an adult sites or channels. Thus, these women even when married are de facto corn stars without realizing it. This issue was mentioned even before the advent of social media. I read these complaints from Muslims speaking about this danger back in 2006-8! It is certainly far worst now. Sadly to the sisters reading this, I fear your images on social media is being viewed by a pervert right on the haram sites now. Please take down your photos and videos that are especially useless. You dont need your faces over the web. Ask your selves would you pass out if there another data breach suspending all social media accounts? You still live. Make it your resolution to reduce and remove your online presence before this coming Ramadan. It is for your benefit. JAK
A wife with NO history of what you mentioned and who stays at home and doesn't work and who wears her hijab and who doesnt use social media will likely to cheat on her husband if he neglects her too much, doesn't take care of her, yells at her constantly, criticizes her body etc will cheat on him or will leave him for another man.
@@SnackQueen01 Not the same way. I also mentioned her company as well along with her religiosity level. A really "practicing" sister will try to bring up the issue with her husband or seek divorce then to commit zinah know that haraam relationship will lead of more evils ie. pregnancy from kufr now she is pondering should she term the pregnancy, another sin, and STD check, etc. You can see a really practicing person with a brain in her head would divorce first then to destroy marriage,children, family's honor her relationship with her Creator more importantly. Over the years I have reviewed forums, read cases of Muslim who committed these acts, 90-95% is what I mentioned in my previous comments and common denominator - WEAK FAITH. Cultural Muslim, No real connection with Allah even if she had memorized the Qur'an. It starts in the heart before the external. Many of us are "messed up here".
@@SnackQueen01 Not the same way in terms of ratio. I also mentioned her company as well along with her religiosity level. A really "practicing" sister will try to bring up the issue with her husband or seek divorce then to commit zinah knowing that haraam relationship will lead of more evils ie. pregnancy from kufr now she is pondering should she term the pregnancy, another sin, and STD check,certainly divorce, family dishoning, etc. You can see a really practicing person with a brain in her head would divorce first then to destroy marriage,children, family's honor her relationship with her Creator more importantly. Over the years I have reviewed forums, read cases of Muslim who committed these acts, 90-95% is what I mentioned in my previous comments and common denominator - WEAK FAITH. Cultural Muslim, No real connection with Allah even if she had memorized the Qur'an. It starts in the heart before the external. Many of us are "messed up here".
@SnackQueen01 she will only do that if she doesn't fear Allah A woman who knows the gravity of the sin (which has specified serious punishment both in this world and hereafter, again, specific punishment is mentioned for this sin) will never do it.
@@QuestForGood Let's not call it "cheat" I call it adultery, zinah. Cheat is a game, a life long commitment building a family is not a game, responsibility.
Men cheat because they love diversity! If the wife is beautiful they will look for less beautiful women and vice versa! Blonde> brunette! White> black ect.. They need different woman! May Allah swt guide us all ! Aameen
Incredible advice! Biologically, women don’t want to be unfaithful. We just want one man. All you said, is so true..🙏🏻
And BOTH should stay in good shape for the other and for their health.
Women do cheat!
Ustadh spoke so kindly, that it made my day Allah Humma Bareek...may Allah allow us to get married, both men and women
JazakAllah khair Shaikh! Ahh the evils of free mixing and social media are numerous. No matter how good you are (both men and women), there is always someone better than you so avoid free mixing as our Shaikh advised.
I called him Shaikh and you're saying we are being paid for it. Can you please answer me, what are you going to say if Allah asks you what evidence did you have for such an accusation. As a matter of fact, it is not haram to get paid by the government, give me one evidence from the Book and the Sunnah that suggests that getting paid by the government is haram
Alhamdulilah. I don't need to do any research about a person's personal life. I know my Deen enough which is a favor from Allah in order to know who is calling to the correct path and who is not openly.
Unlike you! Had you spent most of your time seeking knowledge of your Deen instead of learning about subsidiary matters which don't even concern you and won't help you in the Hereafter, you would have been able to distinguish between the truth and the falsehood. The path you're following is the one that leads to destruction and chaos while you're thinking you're achieving something good, well guess what? Didn't Shaytan promise to make people's evil deeds fair-seeming to them....
Don't call it "cheating", but a'd'u'l't'e'r'y.
Yeah cheating feels easy!!! And is mostly associated with Boyfriend-Girlfriend relationships!!! Marriage is an authentic legal and official relationship!!!
zina is the correct name
It’s is indeed zina too
Jazak Allahu Khayr Shaykh; very beneficial and ameen to the duas! May Allah bless you!
The harmones can be left on top of a woman. To think about your wife cheating on you is not just heartbreaking but its disgusting and cringe. Whatever the case between a wife and husband is, if there is distance between them simple go for separation rather than cheating.
JazaakAllaahu khayran, very eye opening
May ALLAH make us and grant us righteous spouses
Ameen
Do you know some men Refuse to Divorce the wife - she' s stuck in the marrige till she' s Dead ...therefore no choice but to run away from home;
The qadhi should be consulted in this regard.
Wa Allah I am bit saddened and angry to hear this..May Allah tabaraka wa ta3ala forgive us al..
Alhummah barak you have more brains and wisdom then most men. I believe talaq is a mercy from Allah if so called husband is not connected to her she well not want to be with him I know what I am saying.
But talaq is the very last resort sister. Most things can be resolved, dont give up because of a "lack of connection" thats extremely easy to fix إن شاء الله
If The husband doesn't take care of her , neglect her too much,
That is never an excuse!!! Acuudubillah
@ true but that's what happens
Yeah mine got me arrested in a domestic incident - as I threw some tea with cream on him( to divorce me)- and half chocked me to death and told the cops rhts was "self defence- and now after running aorund the the Kafor system and im out on Bail - he still refuses me to give me Talaq so were still married; Fitnah of Dunia; and youd vetter believe I was making Duah evry single day multiple times a day cause I was afraid the Kafir Judge would ut me behind bars - and was stuck in a.sheñter for 2 months; Im a revert so there is no where to Go; except Kufaar houses cause no Muslim family wnatwd to take me in;
Consult the qadhi of time. If husband is not fulfilling his duties then its a probable excuse for separation. Cheating is not an option.
I have a question and please post it in your stories its gona help alot of people. Please talk about "zulm" and bad treatment to Banat al nas. Her father died and the man knew she had no backbone but him. she trusted him for 5 years and at the end: 2 weeks before the wedding, the guy cut it off for no reason. 1- he was a hash addict. 2- what is the hukom or punishment for treating the yatima this way. 3- what will be the reward for the girl.
in the hands of Allah is his punishment. As for the girl, what reward she deserves ?? to put al trust on a man ? what kind of relationship they had for 5 years ? where was her mahram ( uncle, brother ) ?
The details aren't clear in your question
@farydariff2206 the questions are clear.. i told u the senario and the question is point 1 & point 2.
but isn't work permissible if the conditions are fullfilled and the woman limits the interaction with a foreign man to only what the job (halal of course) requires?
But why would a woman risk it at all ? I mean she doesn't has any obligation to work and if she wanna work why is she not looking for a home office job where she also can earn a lot ? Mostly it'll be attentionwhich she wants
@Vefa5858 There are women who are the only child of their parents, or are not married due to many reasons including being disabled and men not willing to marry them. Also not everyone works a remote job. Please think about the many muslims in these cases.
@@Aastelll Yeah true. I was thinking of those who were married :/. This was my bad. I´m sorry.
There can’t be men there at all and she has to observe full hijab, only then is it halal. Necessity is a factor tho, but generally women should not be out and mixing with men, look up al ahzab 32-33
@@Aastelll We also need to think about Muslims who are in their mid 40s who never married especially men who are trying nearly their whole lives trying to obtain the resources and exaggerated mahr for marriage. We also forget about the brothers who are Muslims but coming out of the prisons, they want wives too, they dont want to fall back into their days of ignorance. They may not be able to amass 6 figure incomes having a record but a feasible job. We cant say only the rich should marry is not a society. Those earning 100k is only 10% and I did not include their orientation, are they married single, etc so that number is even lower 5% What about the 90% who CANNOT produce 50-100k mahr.
First of all I would like for these sisters to reflect on their history prior to marriage. What what she expecting in her marriage? If she wanted a lavish or above average life style her husband would have to work harder that means less time seeing wife and if he does he is almost exhausted not being able to be fully attend to her needs or be present with the children. That is the some of draw backs having a spouse earning above the national average working 98-120 hrs a week. Now her history. What does she do online, have multiple social medial accounts having herself beautified makeup, etc even have abayas 2x smaller than body's actual size, etc they they will get propositions from strange men daily on her accounts saying the typical "ma' shaa' allah,. you are pretty, beautiful sister..etc". Next being overly flirtatious, loose around men work, school, shopping, etc thinking the hijab is only about covering not behavior as well. How about her friends, are they mothers, wives, or single women glamorizing their experience at the clubs, being single, taking about handsome men in movies, soap operas, romance novels ie. note 80-90% for erotic romance book readers are. women, etc. If she is working same with co-workers gossiping about a new chad who was hired and all of them are blushing "he is looking at you!!! No, did you see how he smiled?" "I wished I could marry him", etc. Seeing this kind of scenario we all know its just a matter time someone is going to screw up.
Just another note. Wayyyy too many sisters have their themselves online with no valid reason. What they dont realize if they are well endowed having noticeable signs of beauty even when covered ie. large busom, hips, etc gets the video copied and uploaded to an adult sites or channels. Thus, these women even when married are de facto corn stars without realizing it. This issue was mentioned even before the advent of social media. I read these complaints from Muslims speaking about this danger back in 2006-8! It is certainly far worst now. Sadly to the sisters reading this, I fear your images on social media is being viewed by a pervert right on the haram sites now. Please take down your photos and videos that are especially useless. You dont need your faces over the web. Ask your selves would you pass out if there another data breach suspending all social media accounts? You still live. Make it your resolution to reduce and remove your online presence before this coming Ramadan. It is for your benefit.
JAK
@@deenforce1142 and men should NOT watch pornography! It’s so destructive to marriage..
A wife with NO history of what you mentioned and who stays at home and doesn't work and who wears her hijab and who doesnt use social media will likely to cheat on her husband if he neglects her too much, doesn't take care of her, yells at her constantly, criticizes her body etc will cheat on him or will leave him for another man.
@@SnackQueen01 Not the same way. I also mentioned her company as well along with her religiosity level. A really "practicing" sister will try to bring up the issue with her husband or seek divorce then to commit zinah know that haraam relationship will lead of more evils ie. pregnancy from kufr now she is pondering should she term the pregnancy, another sin, and STD check, etc. You can see a really practicing person with a brain in her head would divorce first then to destroy marriage,children, family's honor her relationship with her Creator more importantly. Over the years I have reviewed forums, read cases of Muslim who committed these acts, 90-95% is what I mentioned in my previous comments and common denominator - WEAK FAITH. Cultural Muslim, No real connection with Allah even if she had memorized the Qur'an. It starts in the heart before the external. Many of us are "messed up here".
@@SnackQueen01 Not the same way in terms of ratio. I also mentioned her company as well along with her religiosity level. A really "practicing" sister will try to bring up the issue with her husband or seek divorce then to commit zinah knowing that haraam relationship will lead of more evils ie. pregnancy from kufr now she is pondering should she term the pregnancy, another sin, and STD check,certainly divorce, family dishoning, etc. You can see a really practicing person with a brain in her head would divorce first then to destroy marriage,children, family's honor her relationship with her Creator more importantly. Over the years I have reviewed forums, read cases of Muslim who committed these acts, 90-95% is what I mentioned in my previous comments and common denominator - WEAK FAITH. Cultural Muslim, No real connection with Allah even if she had memorized the Qur'an. It starts in the heart before the external. Many of us are "messed up here".
@SnackQueen01 she will only do that if she doesn't fear Allah
A woman who knows the gravity of the sin (which has specified serious punishment both in this world and hereafter, again, specific punishment is mentioned for this sin) will never do it.
Why do some husbands cheat
thinking that men and women are not doing the same is totally naive and unrealistic
Why do some women cheat?
Men are polygamous by nature so if theyre unable to engage in this in a halal manner and also have low imaan then they can end up cheating.
@@QuestForGood Let's not call it "cheat" I call it adultery, zinah. Cheat is a game, a life long commitment building a family is not a game, responsibility.
Men cheat because they love diversity! If the wife is beautiful they will look for less beautiful women and vice versa!
Blonde> brunette!
White> black ect..
They need different woman!
May Allah swt guide us all !
Aameen
I understand cases like the Humaira and Murad Reyes case
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