Full interview with Emeka Ike’s son: ‘I’m scared I’ll end up like my father. He said he'll crush me’
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- The actor, Emeka Ike’s first son Micheal joins me and his mother to tell his story about growing up under a dad he calls abusive, being told his mother was a drug addict, and being threatened and cursed by his father. He tells me his greatest fear and apologised to his mum.
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I am reading some ignorant comments. Unless you have been or witnessed domestic violence, shut your mouth. The Nigerian gospel singer beaten to death by her husband not to long ago. How quick we forget. The same ignorant comment were the same ignorant comments that were made when the death of that woman was made known. This woman kept her silence until he ran his mouth. Now, we know what kind of a man is really was in the house. She is so detailed in her account. I wish her and her children the best. She needs to get a restraining order against him but then again Nigerian justice system is questionable.
As in eh... That's how Mummy Osinachi was chopping correct beating until she died. Her husband even woooz her slap in front of Frank Edward sef.
Thank God that she left
@@somaadina8102 Did you read your ignorant statement or you thrive on stupidity and ignorance?
I see quite a number of men and few women bashing this woman, son and Chude. You see, the problem with many Africans is that our humanity has been fractured under the guise of culture. If people are dying whether via threats or reputation damage when they didn't call for it, shouldn't they speak up? Where is our conscience? And if this lady had died like some other people, we will come out again and say why didn't she speak up. Let's stop this evil people. Just stop it already! So much lesson to be learned not just from this clip of the interview, but also from reading through the comments here: the mindset and point of view of potential spouse is very important. Whoever exalts culture over Christ and humanity is a disaster waiting to happen, no matter how wealthy, famous, voluptuous, handsome or beautiful they look. #nuffsaid.
Couldn't agree with you more.
Unfortunately, our culture is toxic, and most people aren't even aware of how evil we treat women and children in our society...
Oh many African men are narcissistic....
The comments dey scare me. Too many Emekas for here.
@@zanelesiko5997 Please don’t be scared. There are many many good men out there. Just shine your eye well and do not allow society to force you into marriage just to feel you have arrived. And as men, we need to condemn this kind of behaviour because to look away is to be complicit. It is too common and as men we have to join in the condemnation of any man we know that abuses his wife. Even if it is your own friend or relative.
Yes!! CHRIST over Culture
Dear Nigerians, please provide this woman and her children the support. You have the money to support them through therapy. Thank God she is still alive. We shouldn’t forget the gospel singer who died. Help them now.
Woman you are strong. God grant you and your children Peace.
Coercive control is evident in most African marriages which has been normalised but it is not accepted.
Michael ike, i hope you get to see my comment.. I also experienced the same you went through, my mum went through the same in my dads hand.. Hers was even worse because she didn't have any education and job, so she had to endure the hardship until I graduated from the university.. God blessed me, I took my mum out of that house and set her up, my dad still goes around talking and stalking her but from afar.. My mum is happy now, she is finer.. Although my siblings and I forgave our dad already but we kept him at armslenght but still extend to him we never we have.. God will help you Michael.. The wisdom you ll need,God will give to you.. Don't worry about all the cause you father said, they will never come to pass, just be prayerful.. I remember all the causes my dad laid on me too and none never came to pass because God saw our suffering and he blessed my siblings and I... I hope your mum get to see this comment too,I really understand what she went through because my mum went through similar event.. She is indeed a fighter
It's the way many people have tried to downplay the suffering of this woman and her children. There are many narcissistic and unkind people like Emeka Ike out there. They will never admit or acknowledge their wrongs. They are always correct. Everyone offends them, they never offend or hurt anyone. I wish this woman and her children healing and progress.
You are so correct
Men can never do wrong in the eyes of Nigerians. It's always a woman's fault. Nigerians will prefer a woman leaves her husband's house in a coffin than for her to leave with her life intact. This is not to say there are no women with bad attitude but let's do the math. Women were raised from teens on how to be a good wife to their future husbands/ husband family while men are raised to make money. Men were not raised on how to be a good husband to their wives. Women wey taught to tolerate/endure and accept somethings that naturally they won't accept as normal. Imagine spending all your life living someone else's life instead of living your life is awful. That's why when our women go to a country where women are given equal rights, they throw away the chains holding them bound. Society and family pressures/judgment is what is keeping most women in their marriages. There are good men out there, I believe and there are good women out there too. A lot of women have sacrifice their essence, life, career, dignity, joy, sanity
At the Alter of marriages. Most marriages are endured instead of enjoying. The best feeling is being being with a spouse who loves you and respect you(mutual love & respect),Then even if there's no money, there will be joy and love. It is well o.
Exactly, a narcissist always claim to be right
don't be emotional about this, because really you may not know the truth. Emeka ike is hurt, the wife is hurt, the son coming out on air to say all this is not the solution to peace. He need to be in the path of peace and he is of age and have to make sacrifice to bring peace back to the family. He really need to be neutral about it
@@kennethanyanwu5816the same peace they couldn’t have for over 17 years? You’re absolutely out of your mind. You have never been in their situation so don’t tell them what to do about it. You don’t know the level of pain they have always felt.
Also, it’s like you didn’t watch the full interview of both the woman and the son. Death threats? And you expect them to try to make peace? Comments like this are actually blowing my mind. So many mad people in this world😂🙄.
Children must be protected , please say no to childhood trauma .
No one can say no to childhood trauma if you are Nigerian. It’s pretty common as it’s passed thru’ generations till it’s normalized. If you hear the way Emeka is screaming and threatening and cursing his own son, you can see they just feel like their children are not worthy enough to even have valid feelings, and you still hear people support him.
In Africa the child should keep quiet and put up with it
@@gracegeorge7285 Hello Dear. I appreciate your reply. I had the most childhood trauma the world has to offer, and have children in my struggling phase. The most I could do was to make sure I did not transfer it to my children. It wasn't easy, but god saw my efforts and intentions and made me trauma-free. Therefore, it happened and ended with me.
Most African kids are damaged because their parents want them to keep quiet no matter what; that's why most of them are so defensive because of abuse from their own parents or the environment they came from... So sad.
@gracegeorge7285 it's easy for you to say all this because many of you women will turn blind to your fellow women's evil doings because you don't want to be wrong and some sisterhood rubbish like that but the bottom line is that many of you women use the love fathers have for their children to blackmail them emotionally because you have a way with showering this children with too much affection and less discipline to they tend to listen to you, many men suffer to raise their children with the money they should have used to invest in their own future yet only few would even look at their fathers when they make it in life but they never neglect their mothers, and Mohbad is an example of that. If Emeka wasn't looking after this stupid boy would he be looking that good? Yet he betrayed his own father after all the love that man has shown him now all you women siding with the ex wife are playing games because he speaks out YES! he has the right to curse the ungrateful son and you wonder why so many fathers are investing less in their children ofcourse it's to secure their own future because women like you are out there spitting on their hardwork.
Coming on this show is the best decision this woman and her son have made in relation to this issue, i am so happy that Emeka Ike has been exposed for the abusive demon that he is.
Strong words. This is family issues.
Only that some people think Emeka is a victim
@@naijainfotainmenthub6999he knew they were family issues before HE went public
Thank you 🙏 for Those who don’t want them to talk go and drink 🍺 your own cup of abuse and keep quiet 🤐 no one cares.
Anyone who has not gone through narcissistic abuse can't understand what's going on here, narcissists are the worst people to date or marry, they'll turn your life upside down and takes years to rebuild your self worth again
Wishing the family the best
You just spoke my mind😊
Are you telling me that they are demons and maliciously evil.
They are more than demon, if i should tell you my story, i stayed with him for 26years with boys. Still on so many medication now. My story is long hmmm @@laughoncomedy2923
I recognised mine so early in the relationship and left the idiot. He was born the same month as Emeka Ike and they act so alike. very narcissistic! They're known as the nice and popular guy but behind closed doors they're evil . Very wicked human beings!
They are also the worst to have as bosses in workplaces. Gosh!!
We the parents should be the ones apologizing... Damn! This hit home!
Wise woman
Me more... Damn!!!
A typical African parent will never apologize. Thinking children don’t have feelings 😂😂But She made a difference. Emeka should keep ranting instead of putting his family together.
Will they ever feel the need to, I'm not gonna lie but you see some African parents are awful
All are y’all are right. And I’m so sad about it.
How the son sounds more mature than his father 😢
Age is truly a number.
you dont have sense
Guy just follow Jesus. Don't follow your father's ways..follow the way of The Lord. I love the fact that you are standing for the truth no matter what people are saying or calling you....don't allow his insults, curses and pessimism of you get into you...you are blessed beyond the curse...God has a future for you,just accept Him into your life,so you can be saved and saved from eternity in hell...I love you and I'm praying for you and your family....
Absolutely
Very Correct.
Madam the therapist you need is Jesus
👍🙏❤️
God bless you
E be like say you never hear of Pastor wey dey beat him wife, beat him girlfriend join. Abi you no wan believe because na Pastor? Forget. This thing is even common amongst the so-called ‘faithful’, but una no go wan hear that one.
The ex wife and the children should go for counseling. It is necessary and has to be done.
And Emeka himself too
@@temmymol9163 Emeka has to first come to terms with himself and realize he has a drug problem and other issues and he needs help. Until he does that, I can’t seem going to counseling.
Nobody should say she brought her son to speak. He wanted to do so himself
He wants to be popular naaaa. So maybe he will start an acting career.
Social media is the tool these days.
Im here for two things.
1. Her dress is as beautiful as she is ❤
2. Michael is going to be an amazing young man! 🙌
I’m a Gadite living in North America. I randomly came across this. What’s holding this woman up is the LORD Himself! The Great High Priest has a beautiful plan for her and her children. The LORD will never leave us nor forsake us. What the enemy from the unseen world meant for bad. The Holy One of Israel will turn that thing right into good! Hallelujah!! 🙌🏾
Selah 🕎🕊💟
I pray the son prospers and be everything his poor excuse of a “father” said he won’t. Sons don’t play about their mother he’ll learn the hard way. Young man, you’re not your “father” he has shown you what not to be as a man so now go into the world and do better.
He is treading the wrong path...
Dropped out of the university in Abuja and moved to Lagos working in a restaurant at the instant of his mother.
The mother is playing a dangerous game with the children and their future.
Time will tell.
@pool_of_ideas thank you 👍
He has to work on himself not be toxic later in life. I pray God gives him the grace. Children, unconsciously replay what their parents do while growing up. They are sponges absorbing everything in their environment. He needs to heal from the trauma he has experienced. Do we have 'shrinks' in Nigeria? They all need to see one.
You don’t have to go to uni to become somebody. As long as you can read and write. You never know if he’s smart he might one day own his own restaurant. We should stop this traditional mentality of you have to go to uni then work for somebody doing a 9-5 job
@@pool_of_ideasimage launderer 🙄
Shes really calm and relaxed saying all these. You are a strong woman. And i celebrate 🥳🥂 your strength
Bcos she has no choice. Where was you for 10 good years when the court has her to take custody of the children of which when refused.
Queen May II
Calm people are more dangerous
Don't be deceived by outward look
@adeyemiadeniyi1793 because she didn't have money she said that she should now start looking for home and food. He was well known , he took the children just to leave them in abuja fly Germany and get married what did they have to go through no mum no dad. Then he later came back and married someone in South Africa is women the problem or raising children you love
Jesus please protect this child and his siblings. None of the curses rained on him will manifest. IJMN
unfortunately fathers curses always comes to pass
He kept ranting ive paid your fees,money i didnt have😮 who's responsibility is that....its the same thing he said to his wife..i built for you,i made you,i bought for you. ..this proves all the woman is saying.....he does things for his family then uses it to dehumanise them.this is emotional abuse
Only someone who has encountered a narcissistic partner before will understand this situation and understand the grief this woman is going through. It is just normal that people will believe the abuser over the victim which is normal where narcissism is concerned.
Before blaming, who started the media frenzy? It was the dad who started it all.
Yeah he brought his family issue to the media, his wife has been silent
That means she is a good person, she keeps secrets
The whole family is in shambles. No one knows what is right or wrong.
Against the son? He is but a stupid boy.
Thank you very much 😊 😊
Mental health really needs to be prioritized in Nigeria. This Emeka most definitely suffers from narcissism. Even possible bipolar.
True!!!
If he did not drop that voicemail nobody would believe these woman and her children.
Correct
Even now some of them are making excuses for that psycho.
Even after the voicemail some stupid people are still trying to justify Emeka Ike's actions
@@_d.395 they should go to court
Why did they not release all the conversation of the video? It should not be edited. However, let them go to court. Let no one find pity on the media. The media is not a court.
It's sample he is just Naccist
He needs help
Thank you, Chude for giving this woman and her son a voice. Thank you.
Emeka Ike had one job - to resolve this family issue quietly especially as the wife beater and narcissistic abuser that he is. But he opened his mouth waa and forced his wife and son to come out of their silence and clear his ex-wife's name.
People keep saying the children should not be involved but why did Emeka as the supposed head of the household start involving the children? This woman was silent throughout for the duration of their marriage and 10yrs after divorce. But no, Emeka had to get on Channels TV Rubbin Minds programme hosted by Hero Daniels and malign her messlessly. That was clearly the straw that broke the camel's back.
For those saying the wife shouldn't be doing this, you don't determine how someone who has suffered extensive abuse chooses to heal. I am glad this woman spoke up as after Emeka's interview I wondered what wicked woman Emeka married. I actually thought his wife was a horrible person and had some questions on why he stayed if she was this toxic as a man? Women stay for the kids, so I wondred if he was given kayamata? In hindsight, after hearing her side of the story, I can see why I had felt some questions were unanswered following his claims. But having gone through abuse myself, I can hear it in this woman's voice and identify a kindred spirit.
May God watch over her and the kids. Emeka Ike, better change oh, and stop with the lies already. You are already in a deep hole, stop digging.
Thank you!!!! And if she had stayed and died like other women who stay for their kids and end up dead, the same people accusing her for balancing the story with her version would be everywhere with moral lessons on how she should have spoken-out and sought help alive and not dead.
Emeka IKE has had countless interviews with loopholes, inconsistent facts and painting himself like the spotless husband. Just one interview from his ex-wife some people are angry. Did you notice after the TV ITW aired, he was on YOUR VIEW and for the first time stated that he wouldn't want to comment on the issue again. Does that not ring a bell like maybe he had heard his wife was going to speak to the media?
The annoying thing is people are infantilizing the boy, sorry man. This is a 23 year old man. If he gets a girl pregnant, he'll do it as a man, but because a mother is involved it has become an issue of manipulation.
Narcissistics can't help themselves, they need attention. May God heal this family
Thank God ... The word is going round . What I am really glad and overjoyed about is the Fact that . THE WORD IS OUT. !!! The awareness is created . Many women that have gone through this horrific abuse . Know that are not alone . And stand by you Emma. And most gratifying os the Abused women that are still in there . Will feel strength from your story Emma . And the ones who don't know what they are going through yet . Will see the familiarity. I identify with you . I have been there . Am waiting fir mine to Run his mouth in the media . Cos he is A public figure . Then I will defend my dignity . You handle them in Need to do basis . Kudos Chude !voice to the voiceless.
This guy
Hearing the ex wife talk of her abuse triggered me. You cannot make up the things she said. I went through similar things. Emeka is a malignant narcissist. Mine is in the grave with his legs broken to fit into the casket. They don't end very well. Emeka is a broken man and he won't stop until his whole family is broken too. STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM AND NEVER LOOK BACK!
Wait have you watch the Johnnee Deep case? Omo fear women
They should go to court and prove it.4get media trial
@@laughteroludu475Emeka ike is not Johnny depp now is he? Do you hear Johnny depp speak in a derogatory manner about any of his exes? Do you hear voice notes of him being abusive to his kids? Keep grasping for straws trying to defend this ape beast because you and him are exactly the same
@chilwell397 No need. God is the final Judge.
@@chilwell397but they have gone to court already, emeka decided to bring it back
You know you have failed when your son says "I dont want to be like my dad".
A boy who is already a rascal?
@@meekyngum2015fool
I dont agree, suppose he shares more DNA from his father than his mother.
I agree completely
@@steventumwesigye8756🤦🏾♀️
I can’t stop crying while watching this video. Micheal and his mom were telling my story. Sending prayers to the family. 🙏
Sending you love ❤️
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Sending hugs
Sending you hugs ❤
This woman would have made it sooooo big if she didn't meet this man
Fr!!!! Like he ruined her now he wants to do same to the kids😢 😢
An abuser gets angry when the abused goes away, there’s no other explanation. You are the object of all his frustrations, so “the trash can” doesn’t have the right to get up and leave. My SIL went through this, even after she left he was still trying to spoil her name EVERYWHERE!
you had one job to do. promote your new movie quietly but you brought your family into this now look at this mess.can we really blame the woman for clearing her name after years of accusations.
Good for him!!! Emeka has been thé one airing all sorts of ribb!sh about this woman over the years ,he never expected this time would be different 😅for the first time ever ,the ex wife and son have come out to tell their side of story.there is now f!re everywhere, all his lies have been exposed😂I am sure Toyin Abraham is regretting giving a role in her movie for a come-back in nollywood.instead of promoting the movie ,now it's his private life that's trending what a bad move!!!😂😂😂
This Micheal really played a role in exposing his lies. He actually persuaded his Mom to come for this interview. Emeka' s life is full of pride and lies. Claiming of having properties that never existed.
I am a parent. My older son said some horrible & bad things to me during the break up with his mother. I never answered pim! Despite that, I NEVER reneged in my role as a father. I will NEVER EVER wish death or harm on my child whatever situation. I will rather die! . One day, my son dropped a note apologising for the things he said. Today, me and the mum are in 💯 peace anyone can imagine. We both prioritise the interest of the boys even though some things still hurt. Me and my son are in the best place a father and son can ever be.
Every situation is different but what is the end game in a beef that has lasted for over 10yrs. What does Emeka want to achieve by going to the press and the voice messages to his son?
Peace has to reign, we do not have long on this planet. The little time we have, let us live it in peace ✌🏿
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You forget. Emeka is the rule of Nigeria fathers you are the EXCEPTION SIR.
GOD BLESS YOU .
God bless you sir
I wish you well as you heal ❤
No.
I've never cried listening to an interview and this one just made me break down. The pain this family has had to endure at the hands of a man who abdicated his role as husband and father, provider and protector. Left his family vulnerable and bleeding with fears of the future. It is painful. It really is. I pray with all my heart that the future shines down favourably for you and your kids, ma'am.
His father and him are twins! It’s amazing. Same mannerisms when speaking. Wow it’s beautiful to see the resemblance but sad to see the disconnect they have 😢!
That's why we're praying he doesn't eventually end up like his father. It's usually an unconscious thing. God, Michael decision and therapy will help
What a handsome young man. Pls don’t let daddy’s anger destroy you. You are an adult you don’t need to copy his anger, free yourself so you don’t carry on that legacy in your future life.
Most of the people on the comment section dont listen to what the son is saying but what is in u peoples head on what you feel the son should do or not. But you NIGERIANS can tell someone how to get over their hurt. A man brought online his dirty linen on public and u expect him to keep quiet. You heard when he said he was about to call his father to settle what is going on with their family only to see his father's interview.
For everyone who is insulting this quy and the woman i pray everything they have been through you go to through it in Jesus name. You people only know how to preach honour ur parent but you live the part God warns us not to provoke our children. Hypocrites.
Your comment is exactly my thought. Reading the comment section. It looks like Nigeria normalizes abuse especially when the person is big a personality. And we are surprised many women are dying?!!!!
When a son calls his dad: THIS GUY!!!!!.....MEHN THAT'S BEYOND REPAIR😢😢😢
If my dad ever spoke to me like that, I will call him worse ……
My dad would never even speak to me like that
Is sad
It’s obvious that something is spiritually, mentally, psychologically, physically wrong with Emeka Ike. I think they should restrained him from the family.
This young man is so handsome. Your future will be bright Inshallah. Thanks for protecting your mum.
Seems Emeka has a psychological/mental issue
Exactly.
Sigh...Thinking so too 😔
Sounds like a drug addict
Yess I suspect because for a father to video his wife and lie to his children is another form of madness undiscovered 🤦🏾♀️
This woman is peaceful..... she is so calm...chaiiii...I understand where she is coming from..... God will settle you
You can go and marry her naw....
I am crying
I am in tears
Father God
Remove the Scales
So that The Head of the House Can See what HE has done to HIS OWN CHILDREN
May God HEAL THIS FAMILY
IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS AMEN
Not discounting the fact that men suffer from DV and that some women would lie to destroy their partner's reputation, something in me tends to believe this woman. From the way she spoke, you'd know she's tired. Trust me, it is physically and emotionally draining to deal with Narcissists. The constant barrage of stress never ends. I pray they all find peace.
She’s telling the truth. For many years, people have talked about witnessing Emeka’s abusive ways, but when people try to speak-out, Emeka threatens them.
My instincts totally believe her cos the kids were with Emeka in Abuja so why did they turn against him if he was good
Emeka ike is evil ..... Send a pucture of your crying wife to her children only to tell them shes doing drugs ... Haaaaaaa 😮😮😮hes was damaging them intentionally 😢
It is sad that a woman has to face so much abuse and then go through another round when she speaks out against her husband's behavior. A husband who knows he needs help but will not admit.
People even insulted this lady because she said she wanted to be an actress; according to them, her husband was looking out for her good by not encouraging her. Meanwhile, hear what the same husband said about his son's intrest and how he will never amout to anything! Who in their right mind does that.
You can imagine 😢
Beats me o
It wasn't good for her or does he actually means his ego? It was OK for his dreams as an actor to come true but not hers?
Her son coming to support her is not in anyway wrong. This is where we Africans get it wrong we make it look like the man is always right and can do no wrong, the majority of the men today who actually stand for the truth when it comes to issues affecting women are men who have experience/witnessed it through a mother, a sister, a wife or a loved one for those who have not witnessed it they tend to view women as evil manipulative and wicked, this is very wrong cos we are all humans and like it or not just like you hear of evil women there are also evil men.
So sad
I can relate to Michael's plight...my father did no drugs but behaved just as this Emeka...beauty is,truth always wins...may take long but will always eventually surface
Many people experience this.
But, the cultural norm is to stay silent.
This woman is a warrior! And should be protected ❤ Sending this family love and protection 🤗
Somehow, although I had no info at all about Imeka Ike, I never liked him - his dressing, acting and demeanor. To me he always appeared disorganized, hot tempered and violent. Turned out I've been right through out the years!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I pray the boy gets signed and I pray he makes it in his musical career so that he will have the means to take care of his mom first, then his dad.
YES!!! Let us make it happen, let us tag Don Jazzy!!!
@Don jazzy
This is truly heartbreaking. Emeka Ike has inflicted a great deal of emotional damage on his family which may take years of extensive therapy and counselling to undo. I think Emeka himself is in urgent need of an intervention because he's clearly not been in control for a long time.
Only if adults know the damage they do to their kids when they fight the will stop the hatred towards each other and grow up. Emeka Ike needs to take accountability and grow up.
Narcissists are never wrong. There's no room for accountability FORGET IT.
My advice to Michael Ike is to set your bar in life and career higher than that of your dads. Surpass all his achievement and then he will respect you eventually and forgive him whether he says he is sorry in the future or not. Your case ia not a hopeless one. There are people who have faced more difficult ordeal in life and came out leading the rest of those against them.
From a personal experience, I see my mom's character in your moms. Our father told us very terrible, horrible and disgusting stories about our mom when we were little and living with him after the divorce but our mother refused to reply and denigrate him. The only thing she kept saying whenever we would sneak out to visit her was "I will never bias my children's minds or make them hate their dad, they will judge and decide for themselves when they grow up " And she was right.
Don't give up my son Michael, I'm your uncle somehow. Become something in life that's all that should matter to you most now.
The best advice for the son is to stay well away from the father. He is an evil, nasty, dangerous man.
I think you truly understand. I wish he has someone to tell him this. Celebrity needs friends too
Not really.. his success should not come with forgiveness from the father
Wrong.
First of all he must align with his dad, listing please cos u can't stop learning, his mom dragged him into a higher conflict stage, he should play with mind and chest cos it's there fight but on u to think
@@robertouko9871totally agree
This boy and the mum are pure
100%
U go Micheal 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽…if your dad couldn’t protect and respect your mom then u show him u are the real man and be there for her
Give Micheal a few years; he will be the real loser. No man disrespected his father like him and became successful in life. The same woman left you for many years; all he sees is the father, but today, he taught the Dad is evil. Please be patient; you will be sorry for him with time.
@@afolabitoye4393You wish. Michael will be be a successful man and he will marry well.
You're just a typical Nigerian man with an oversized ego who thinks men are always right. Emeka Ike should face his new wife and kids and stop telling lies..
He will be better than his father
@@afolabitoye4393go take a chill pill and sit down 🪑. You just said a whole bunch of nothing. Michael is the man his father never was.
@@efiaahimah3713 A man indeed. He ran away from school, and you think he's a man. We shall see!
This is so sad to hear. Suzanne, you made the best decision leaving to stay alive. Micheal Ike, you are brave, you're smart and intelligent. You can be all that you want to be because you know what not to be. Hope you all get therapy, get healing, and enjoy the most out of this life. Life is beautiful, enjoy it! I pray God’s love and comfort envelope you'll. Stay strong 💪.
When I heard emeka ike was back acting I was happy for him...everyone deserves a second chance. When I saw the channels interview....still talking about his ex wife, bashing her..i was sad because i realized this man has not healed. Same old emeka from way back when....still in his old ways. Instead of facing your new life, promoting your new movie etc your still back here dragging your old baggage around, still trying to convince us your ex wife is a bad person.
Isnt he married to some woman in germany? What is the obsession about? She left you so you want to make her life miserable? Its so obvious he doesnt care about his children, he just wants to destroy this woman.
Do y'all understand what it takes for your own pastor to find you a lawyer to get divorced in nigerian society???? I'm glad she's telling her story, sometimes telling your side of things especially when you have been quiet for so long can bring peace and closure.
This boy is smarter than his father. He is not a narcissist and i pray he doesn't follow his father foot step.
i applaud him for this single action during the interview...
interview: you said when your mum left he stated doing same thing he was doing to your mum to you guys. can you tell about it?
the boy: i don't want to into all that is private, i only came to let you know that whatever he said about my mum are all liars.
BUT IT REACH EMEKA TURN...
He started blabbing rubbish on air.
Even his interviewer said i didn't know you will go this detail.
God forbid a foolish father for our children 😢
And some badly raised men has been saying all sort of thing on line. God will bless this handsome young man.
Indeed...He gave so much unsolicited data...A real shame indeed !!!
@@josephinenamakaupumulo138 you are the real shame and you must jam the likes of Emeka to format your fish brain
I am a grown woman married with 3 kids now, I can relate with this woman's story because this is the same exact thing that my mum went through in my dad's hand, she left the marriage after 17 years too, it was not easy for us growing up leaving with our dad he wanted us to hate our mother but he couldn't give us the love because he was a sociopath, we ended up loving our mother more, even though she was far away. Fast forward to this present day, our dad is now old and he regrets everything but still he cannot put his ego aside to apologize to our mother, so we all have moved on. We show each of them their due respects, my dad lives with his new wife, my mum lives in a house built for her by my brother even though there is still hurts in our hearts we all has just found a way to move on with our lives. Our only regret is we were 6 children but 1 died in all of these drama
Even though you lost a sibling in this tragedy, it could’ve been worse if your mother had stayed and lose her life in the cycle of abuse. Please be grateful you have her and each other today,you and your siblings can show her love that she was deprived of in her prime
Should I say this my stories or what this person knows me 😢
Well we all going through one things or the another in our parents hand
I can relate to your experience very well. VERY VERY WELL
Just like what we went through, we lost 1 out of 4 of us, my dad is doing everything to turn my brother heart again my mum now
My mother left after 15 years and 6 children... I relate to this sad reality 😢😢
Africa why?🤦🏾♀️
Wahala, everyone sha has opinion on a life that u did not live and know nothing about
Before u judge, live d son's life and go through the childhood trauma he had, then u will understand
Some of us wouldn't even be friends with our family & sometimes parents if we could choose because some of them are just busy passing down their traumas to us and hide behind the sacred hierarchy of parents in the African society to do it without repercussions
O.m.g this is the comment I was looking for....this abusive parental behavior is just a way to pass down their tremours for generations. Me I made up my mind NEVER to raise my children the way my parents raised me, no disreplspect to them. I did so much on my persona to turn out the character I'm today, coming from their home, I was so damaged, no outsider wanted to live with me and I didn't know why. Over the years, I have done so much personal development and I still strive for continuous improvement for myself and character.
@@gloriandagire1452 when you know better, you do better
@@gloriandagire1452Good on you. Great job! Its high time we broke the cycle if abuse we disguised as parenting and discipline..
It breaks my heart to hear his son say he is worried about turning out like Emeka Ike. I pray that God blesses him and continues to guide his path.
omoo but this son is handsome oh 😍😍
Extremely!
Very sweet boy. Emeka is mad at him because he reconciled with his mom. Onye ojoo.
Dear God, please protect this woman and her children. Please don’t ever be tempted or ever allow him convince you yo bring your children to meet him anywhere for any discussion on this matter. Don’t be found alone with him anywhere. These kind of persons are genocidal, they will lure you with calm sweet words and then switch of the oxygen forever by cutting of the breath. I advice you go to the police or welfare and report this case officially, if not, ID will play itself out in Nigeria. To be forwarned is to be forarmed.
Never pause your life for a Man. It's manipulation
True
And why is Emeka so angry? Dude, pipe down! Oh My God!
Talk to any young man who grew up with an abusive and a narcissist father. They are scared that they will end up like their father. These young men grew up without a role model and their brains saved everything their fathers were doing that was actually unacceptable in their eyes. They can become very insecure. Like they say, a victim can also become an abuser. Emeka needs to check his childhood too. His son is doing a great job for speaking out his fears. A professional psychologist support section would be great for him and his mom.
This is so true. Sometimes even with girls, they may internalize what they’ve seen in their parents marriage and end up in that situation if care is not taken because that’s what they grew up seeing
In my own cas,it affected my children especially my first child character.she always behave violent every time she talks,and in whatever she does especially with her siblings. I just pray God to help me.
Absolutely, Emeka Ike needs to check his background. It is very common with people who grew up in abusive home, watching either their father abuse their mother or other way round, it always have impact in the lives of children of that marriage negatively as they repeat what their parents do. It hard for most people to reject that background when they become adult, rather they bring the same bad ingredients to season any marriage or relationship they enter into.
You people are so quick to judge. You only heard one side of the story. Did you people hear the full clip of the audio. A child that abandoned his university program in Abuja and expect the father to be happy. Why we the woman go to Abuja to pick them when you know that the boy is in the university. So you expect the father to be happy after all his labour
@@adeyemiadeniyi1793 I believe you are typical Yoruba man. From your comment it shows you don't put the well being of everyone in the family first. Since in Yorubaland the father must be satisfied while the mother and children suffer to fulfill father's wish. It is written husbands love your wife. Fathers do not provoke your children to wrath.
This is traumatizing from a father. This is an extreme incident of mental psychological abuse. I am even traumatized after listening to this voice message.
And yet there's a faction of people on social media criticising Emma and their son for speaking up 😠. When the father will not receive sense and stop involving his children in matters that don't concern them as a way to punish the mother, what choice do they have. The son is an adult and is entitled to speak up and out if he wants to. Why do a lot of Nigerians like to cover abuse and support/enable abusers? It's sickening.
Anyone against a real victim speaking up is an abusive person that why.
First of all, I know a good therapist who can give you some very good therapy sessions for free. Even if its through phone, this is where I want to offer my contribution to you because at this point, you need emotional support, psychological support and every other kind of support .
Nevertheless, this is what I have to say
Madam, remain strong, keep moving. Don't let this put you down just as you have made the move already, please keep on. Oneday this will be history
Now even to the young prospective son, m glad youre already showing that youre a strong man and one that is brave. Stay on. You are going to be very big, bigger than your dad was ever. And now never let all that talk I hear about his empty curses affect you because you have done nothing wrong, he just wants to frustrate you and make your life uncomfortable because he feels he has the right . If its based on what some parents have said to their children, they will never be where they are. I am an example of this kind of situation so I can relate to what you and your mom are passing through
Now watching and listening to both sides, I can say that Emeka Ike has just shown himself, all these while I thought he was someone different. And please Madam, don't expect him to stop, these kind of people don't stop until they fall to their doom. Just keep lifting your head above the waters and thrive. I have a lot to say but m sending you all the love, support and hugs from here. I love you both and I am wishing you the very best. See you one day when these challenges becomes a bedrock for your success. Cheers!!!
Please some of us needs it as well, how do we get to talk to him or her?!
Those are signs of a man who has lost it all but doesn't have the courage to accept reality. This is the biggest weakness we men have, our ego won't allow us to admit we have failed yet it's the only way problems get solved. Emeke should accept the reality, yes you married her as a nobody but she's currently a different person now, she was a naive 18yr old that could bow down, right now she's a grown woman and you should engage her at that level, not the 18 yr old you married
Exactly same thing happened to my friend. The man couldn't accept that my his 19 year old wife has grown. She was 30 then... They are divorced now and She is thriving well. Men who seek under 25 years when the frontal cortex of the brain have not yet matured are predators
These were Emeka's thought processes when marrying her
@@Meandyouisnus when you marry a 19 yr old, there's definitely a power shift. She's literally at your mercy
This interview is so calm and intense
Such a great and strong woman. May God heal this young man and help him to be very stable and established in life.
Calling your father,this guy?Ure calling your father a looser on national platform,u don't know what uve done to urself...
Amused at Emeka Ike. Is he a child. He went to the media first. To achieve what . Everyone should to social media naa and wash the dirty laundry in public . Yeye Dey smell.
Let’s even assume the wife is at fault which does not seem to be the case because in marriage issues both sides always share the blame but for the man to come out to social media to expose his family is ridiculous .
Does Emeka Ike think he is Gen Z or he has deluded himself to think that he has so much of importance in people’s lives to care what he is going through . Oga should go and settle his settle issues and stop disturbing the world with it. I dare say if he had not come out to social media, his wife would not have responded . She came out because she had to say her own side of the story .
It is ridiculous. Exactly. It's women who are even more likely to do this and they usually get bashing alongside some support as well, of course as expected. Now it's a man but because it's a man's world and men must always be right, he is getting support and empathy from same people who would usually tell others to keep their family issues away from social media space. Why I am interested in this matter is because I have been personally schooled by narcissistic people all my life and can see all of the signs. Well meaning Nigerians should start educating others about the dangers of NPD people. This cannot be over emphasized. People don't know how dangerous these people are. And I loved and still love Emeka Ike. Yes I do. But I have a big big big loathing for NPD and the love I have for Emeka is too small to compare to how much I wish people know about NPD and that's why this situation is particularly of interest to me. A man I grew up admiring. And still do. Whatever his flaws are don't change that he has been an inspiration to me and many. And that's why I was shocked. That this man is a Narc. It's almost as though what I have been through personally prepared me for this moment because I know first hand exactly how an angel can also be the devil all at the same time.
Most of you are exhibiting foolishness here, the fact that no one really knows the real truth Emeka is the one that came out first talking bout these issues ( he’s pushing 60 i guess, so definitely he knows it a family issue before talking bout it to the media ) stop coming at this woman who has been quiet all these years.
Honestly, just seeing silly comments about how the son and wife should never speak publicly against him as the father. But who brought all this to the public? Father Emeka.
This man cursed his children and it's a shame. This is not about "two sides to a story". Human beings will always disagree, but this his behaviour on the media space is bizarre and clearly unhinged in real life.
Exactly! He was supposed to discuss his movie in the interview and he used all that time to talk about his ex wife. She comes out with her side of the story and now everyone is saying what? I’m happy she’s speaking up.
We heard both size though. Family is more IMPORTANT. He might not realize it now but future. Emeka pls fix it before it’s too late.
Emeka is a real real mad man , I believed the ex wife and his son 💯 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯%
I hope Chude can get counselling for this young man and siblings
Exactly.
Most emotional interview I have ever listened to , you can tell
The hurt in this young man’s heart and his mother.💔
Very sad story but can we take a moment to appreciate how the interviewer conducted himself so beautifully ...very professional and empathetic ❤
Emeka Ike up bringing is questionable.
This young man has been through a lot. I pray God blesses and lifts him above his father’s curses
Such a curse will never work, it will backfire to the father because the son is innocent
I believe everything Susan and her son said, u can hear the pain in their voices and it’s not anger it’s pain they are tired. EMEKA IKE leave them alone u have another family leave this woman alone!!!!!!
This woman needs her own youtube channel and let the audience embark on a healing journey with her and her family. I am 100%sure there are families that can relate to these lived experience and heal as well
Dear, you are perfectly right, the painful part is when we victims realized when to finally leave then Pasts and Close Families will advise for the sake of the children but I attempted suicide 3 times Physical Abuse, verbal, emotional and made me useless, worthless,the ugliest,. Until I met a Doctor who advised me.
I agree. She deserves to tell her story and make a life for herself through sharing and therapy. So many people are suffering in silence and people can relate. We will support her UA-cam channel.
This ‘Emeka Son hmmmmm pray you don’t married a wrong woman or bad woman hmmmm your father own will be better than yours
Emeka ur temper and pride too much
Emeka should watch his words towards his children he should be blessing them not cursing them
this words are mostly use by Nigerian parents not like they mean it. your parents might say a lot to you
@@kingsleyoyaire9960 God forbid!!! Nothing is normal about wishing your child death... Nothing... That's not how Nigerian parents are
Thank you because they still remain his children, he should Never use curses over them.
@kingsleyoyaire9960 this african mentality that it's just a child and that boy is now a man, and he is trying to pave his way through life and separate which way to follow, good or bad. I would never curse my child nomatter how angry and this is what the younger generation are striving for, raise our children to have more empathy.
Words are spirit. They may not mean them but ...@kingsleyoyaire9960. Its not just naija thing.most subsahra African parents are like that
I salut this woman she is sooo pure
Damn she’s very strong! People don’t know what it feels like to go through abuse 😢
@@seonieziugo Yes she is sooo honest and sooo logic..... Great mami and beauriful to🥰🥰
People who know and work with her say her heart is pure and she's an empath to the core!
Can we say just how beautiful this woman is?? May God bless her and give her healing.
Do not give dat guy access to the kids, he will delete them just to get back at you.
100% True
carolokol7874 that is absolutely true, infact there is a case of a man who has the exact same character traits as this Emeka Ike who threw himself off a multi storey car park while holding on to his 5 year old son in order to punish his ex wife, Emeka Ike is more than capable of doing something like that.
😔😔😔😔😔😔
Narcissist through and through. I hope all these people giving that man a platform can read between the lines. 😞😞😞
11:30 Abusive man need to understand that the abuse they inflict on their woman has a very bad effect on the children. Wise man should understand and prevent this.Mr Emeka is angry with his son because he finally knows the truth.
Emeka is a narcissist, his PRIDE is his god. His ex and their children need to come to terms with the fact that no matter the kind of transformation they can do to their own characters, they can never change him, people like him can only change by themselves. The best they can do if they still care is to stay far out of his life, pray for him from afar so that the spirit on God meets him one on one at a place where it is only his flaws that are visible and there is no one else to point fingers at.
Lol, hearing him talk reminds me so much about myself to be honest. He's actually telling the truth. I haven't spoken to my father in over 9 years or so and I'll very much like to keep it that way for my own peace of mind. Very similar scenarios actually. The last SMS my dad sent me was so nasty I couldn't even believe a grown person could think of writing such, to the point I just backed up the SMS despite changing phones severally and till this day I've never told my mom, sister, or brother. My mom hardly spoke ill about him knowing fully well I'll grow up to see the reality for myself. Very similar traits with what Emeka Ike is exhibiting: playing the victim mindset, blaming everybody but himself. Very very similar traits actually.
Watching him talk just made me reflect on why I tend to push any woman interested in me away. I really don't believe in marriage nowadays, and I'm just better off on my own. I know what he's referring to having that fear of ending up like his father or sometimes not being good enough for someone 🤷♂ That fear is what made him probably grow up to be this calm, conserved and most likely avoid confrontations especially with women. No matter how much he thinks he's moved past it, it still haunts you once in a while like a doubt.
Emeka is toxic and he should not be allowed to come near those children and her.
Brave young man! God bless you Michael: you will live long, you will prosper and a causeless curse shall NEVER stand in your life. I reject it for you in Jesus name 🔥 you will rise, you will stand strong and you will be a light to your generation. Amen!!
AN ADULT CHILD HAS EVERY RIGHT TO SPEAK UP AND SPEAK OUT OF THEIR TOXIC EMOTIONS CAUSED BY A TOXIC ENVIRONMENT .😢😮😢
THOSE WHO THINK CHILDHOOD TRAUMA IS NOT REAL OR A JOKE, THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO EPHESIANS SAID THE FOLLOWING:Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
I COMMENDED BOTH MOTHER AND SON FOR THEIR COURAGE AND STRENGTH COLLECTIVELY. 💪 KUDOS TO THEM BOTH.❤❤❤
Emeka Ike should please please please see a psychologist over in Germany when he gets back. This is just emotional trauma all round. Thank God the woman said she plans to go to therapy with the kids. I am just crying here for the kids...especially the younger ones. This hurt needs to stop so everyone can start healing. Please Almighty God give this family strength and healing.
Emeka brought this upon himself, he has been talking up on down for 10 years now without the woman responding. Now they are speaking up 👏
I love this boy. He said “he’s here for the ride.” When a parent had lost all the respect needed. This is what he/she gets.👍🏾👏🏾✊🏾.
Some parents think talking tough really helps. No. Especially when dealing with an adult child. You cannot be saying all that horrible things to him and think he’ll respect you.
His mom better hide away or leave Nigeria.
@The_Cruise_Fam
Well said; I wondered why there were no trigger warnings before the videos.
Only those who have not gone through abuse or those who are desensitised to violence will state that everything she has said is a lie.
That said, let's hope she is not Amber Heard 2.0
@@Meandyouisnus😅😅n, n
I'm shocked as to how deluded some of you guys are by thinking that the boy challenging his father is not a sign of disrespect. Chude should have played whatever the boy sent his father first for him to get that response from him. It's shocking.
In my opinion , an adult child should challenge his father and mother when he or she sees they are wrong. For example, my adult kids still challenge me sometimes when I go out of line. This makes me reflect on my actions or behaviour. We are still best of friends 😊
I just wonder how they grow up in such a toxic and bitter environment. Hopefully
they don't struggle with any relationship....
@@Meandyouisnusis definitely an abuse and if it is the UK, he will surely be attending a parenting class and mentally/emotionally examined before he will be allowed to come close to his kids.