its mainly my mom every day she comments on my looks saying i don't know to dress myself and that shes embarrassed of me and that sometimes she thinks of stupid she also comment on my hair but i feel that i loook good but she just contently is saying that every day
@@cicigoinbrazy4118 I'd say she's reflecting her insecurities on others, in this case you, or it's jealousy. Sadly it exists even within families and in relationship dynamics such as mother/daughter. It's better to take a distance and acknowledge that it's happening knowing you don't change people and it's not your responsibility as everyone has to change themselves.
Agreed. Also having a vision for one's life is essential I think as it will allow people to focus on the matter at hand instead of worrying what others will think of them. Vera F. Birkenbihl for example was one of the people highlighting the importance of having a goal/purpose and acknowledging and developing one's talent.
You're dead on. I don't like myself or my life and that's why I have anxiety about dealing with people and being in environments where I need to just bring "myself" to the table--I don't know "myself." I don't like "myself." So, I avoid and fear situations that require "Me" to Show Up (physically and figuratively). My social anxiety is a stress response. I need to obliterate that stress so that I can conquer the social fears.
You need to take your time when people talking to you and there you can respond fairly without bringing up stresses into your responses to people, things like that people will directly judge you as bad person so you need to control how you respond because it will definitely count on you
You are honestly spot on with everything you’re saying. It’s like this message was specifically meant for me. I know the Sofia anxiety market isn’t that big but you need to find a way to grow this channel. Your advice and insight is amazing.
I have severe social anxiety and grateful for your insight into the nuture of this problem. I always blamed it on my genetics but after listening to u and some introspection i am just happy to find it is not a permanent condition. I am very thankful for finding this channel and giving home to future physicist.
You are so right. It's all about the stories we tell ourselves. There have been phases of my life where I have felt so self-accepting that it didn't really matter where I was or who I was with. I had enough trust and respect in myself to face whatever came my way.
No, it's not a lie. I am on medication for social anxiety and the medication alleviates it. I'm terrified of going out of the house and being around people, but when I'm on medication, it's not that bad.
Meds will just artificially change your brain chemistry for a while so that you don’t feel too anxious. That doesn’t explain anything about the underlying mechanics or causes of social anxiety. That’s not an argument
This is all wrong man. I mean, i get where your coming from and im sure you mean well and have helped many people aswell. But this theory of yours just seems like it's your OWN enlightenment with your OWN social anxiety issues (and thats great man) but just because YOU figured out what causes YOUR social anxiety, doesnt automatically mean its the same for everyone else. Social anxiety IS ABOUT other people. Most of us are completely fine when we're alone. But then as soon as we're forced into the matrix (society, like a social event etc) thats when our anxiety starts. We don't like the fakes, the pressue, the small talk etc etc... some of us are not blinded. We know how other people are and act, and we dont like it. So it IS about other people. I have no insecurities about MYSELF per say, but i hate being around other people. Why???? Because of all the thinhs ive just listed, i don't like how everyone acts around each other. People DO judge, laugh, point, bully etc etc (maybe not all the time, and to ME everyday etc) BUT THEY STILL DO. And it gives me anxiety being around them. Whether you like it or not, there are 'rules' when being around people. (Its easy to preach "there are no rules, just be yourself, blar blar blar" BUT THATS WRONG and can actually cause more harm) There ARE rules and we're all playing a game. Some of us understand this and frankly can't be arsed playing. (Not suicidal or anything, but just can't be arsed participating in the bullshit) hence, when we're forced into a 'social' event, we get...... anxiety!
@@trevrockrock16 nar, it's other people bro. Thanks for taking the time to reply with something, but you just wrong unfortunately. One day you might see it. It's all good throwing around quotes like "you can't change the world but you can change yourself blar blar blar" When the ultimate truth is, even if you changed yourself, OTHER people will still exist and its THEM that are causing the harm. As for your bullying comment, why the hell should 'I' or anyone else for that matter HAVE to take up martial arts, JUST to defend MYSELF in a world i never asked to be here, and a world we all share as one? WHY????????????????? Ill tell you the reason, because of OTHER PEOPLE! And as for anxiety, what 'normal' person wouldnt have anxiety in a world like this. Curruption left right and centre. Children going missing. Peados existing. Murders. Rape. The list goes on. It's HORRIBLE. We are all judged by what job we have, how much money we have , what car we drive etc etc.... it's all backwards. (Because of other people) The funny thing is, you say DO THE WORK.... again, I ASK WHY???? Do the work so i can PUT UP with other people???? Do the work so 'I' change for other people???? Do the work so others dont have to???? So the answer is always 'WE MUST CHANGE? 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️ thats bollocks! Truth is tho. Ive done well for myself. I have money and don't really need to work much anymore. YET, i still know what the world is like. I f*cked alot of people of years ago and live a chilled out introverted life. I do as much as i can for charity and people in need etc... I DO MY BIT! But no one , will EVER convince me otherwise that things like anxiety are all about US! It's always about OTHERS. You need to awake to see things as they really are though. You need to awaken from the matrix!
What are your negative core beliefs that are perpetuating your Social Anxiety?
its mainly my mom every day she comments on my looks saying i don't know to dress myself and that shes embarrassed of me and that sometimes she thinks of stupid she also comment on my hair but i feel that i loook good but she just contently is saying that every day
@@cicigoinbrazy4118 I'd say she's reflecting her insecurities on others, in this case you, or it's jealousy. Sadly it exists even within families and in relationship dynamics such as mother/daughter. It's better to take a distance and acknowledge that it's happening knowing you don't change people and it's not your responsibility as everyone has to change themselves.
Agreed. Also having a vision for one's life is essential I think as it will allow people to focus on the matter at hand instead of worrying what others will think of them. Vera F. Birkenbihl for example was one of the people highlighting the importance of having a goal/purpose and acknowledging and developing one's talent.
I mean, your message is very strong. Don`t stop what you do because you changed my life and I am sure that you changed others too
You're dead on. I don't like myself or my life and that's why I have anxiety about dealing with people and being in environments where I need to just bring "myself" to the table--I don't know "myself." I don't like "myself." So, I avoid and fear situations that require "Me" to Show Up (physically and figuratively). My social anxiety is a stress response. I need to obliterate that stress so that I can conquer the social fears.
Try to start responding people with the opposite of stress
@@wisdomheadline4358 I will consider that, thank you! xxoo
@@wisdomheadline4358 what is it ?
You need to take your time when people talking to you and there you can respond fairly without bringing up stresses into your responses to people, things like that people will directly judge you as bad person so you need to control how you respond because it will definitely count on you
I dont think I've seen anyone else approach this subject as well as you. So helpful
You are honestly spot on with everything you’re saying. It’s like this message was specifically meant for me. I know the Sofia anxiety market isn’t that big but you need to find a way to grow this channel. Your advice and insight is amazing.
I have severe social anxiety and grateful for your insight into the nuture of this problem. I always blamed it on my genetics but after listening to u and some introspection i am just happy to find it is not a permanent condition. I am very thankful for finding this channel and giving home to future physicist.
You are so right. It's all about the stories we tell ourselves. There have been phases of my life where I have felt so self-accepting that it didn't really matter where I was or who I was with. I had enough trust and respect in myself to face whatever came my way.
That's beautiful to hear. That's the place to aim for
Really helpful video. This channel needs to be way more famous!
So much wisdom. Thank you so much.
Thanks man, glad it was useful
This has been a good reminder that the answer is within. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Can this video be any more accurate?? 👏👏
Maan. Awesome video!
No, it's not a lie. I am on medication for social anxiety and the medication alleviates it. I'm terrified of going out of the house and being around people, but when I'm on medication, it's not that bad.
Meds will just artificially change your brain chemistry for a while so that you don’t feel too anxious. That doesn’t explain anything about the underlying mechanics or causes of social anxiety.
That’s not an argument
Thank God I found you
This changed my whole perspective thank you
I totally agree...
I basically love all your videos. Thank you it’s hard topic but it’s real. Thank you for what you do
This help me
This is all wrong man. I mean, i get where your coming from and im sure you mean well and have helped many people aswell. But this theory of yours just seems like it's your OWN enlightenment with your OWN social anxiety issues (and thats great man) but just because YOU figured out what causes YOUR social anxiety, doesnt automatically mean its the same for everyone else. Social anxiety IS ABOUT other people. Most of us are completely fine when we're alone. But then as soon as we're forced into the matrix (society, like a social event etc) thats when our anxiety starts. We don't like the fakes, the pressue, the small talk etc etc... some of us are not blinded. We know how other people are and act, and we dont like it. So it IS about other people. I have no insecurities about MYSELF per say, but i hate being around other people. Why???? Because of all the thinhs ive just listed, i don't like how everyone acts around each other. People DO judge, laugh, point, bully etc etc (maybe not all the time, and to ME everyday etc) BUT THEY STILL DO. And it gives me anxiety being around them. Whether you like it or not, there are 'rules' when being around people. (Its easy to preach "there are no rules, just be yourself, blar blar blar" BUT THATS WRONG and can actually cause more harm) There ARE rules and we're all playing a game. Some of us understand this and frankly can't be arsed playing. (Not suicidal or anything, but just can't be arsed participating in the bullshit) hence, when we're forced into a 'social' event, we get...... anxiety!
@@trevrockrock16 nar, it's other people bro. Thanks for taking the time to reply with something, but you just wrong unfortunately. One day you might see it. It's all good throwing around quotes like "you can't change the world but you can change yourself blar blar blar" When the ultimate truth is, even if you changed yourself, OTHER people will still exist and its THEM that are causing the harm. As for your bullying comment, why the hell should 'I' or anyone else for that matter HAVE to take up martial arts, JUST to defend MYSELF in a world i never asked to be here, and a world we all share as one? WHY????????????????? Ill tell you the reason, because of OTHER PEOPLE!
And as for anxiety, what 'normal' person wouldnt have anxiety in a world like this. Curruption left right and centre. Children going missing. Peados existing. Murders. Rape. The list goes on. It's HORRIBLE. We are all judged by what job we have, how much money we have , what car we drive etc etc.... it's all backwards. (Because of other people)
The funny thing is, you say DO THE WORK.... again, I ASK WHY???? Do the work so i can PUT UP with other people???? Do the work so 'I' change for other people???? Do the work so others dont have to???? So the answer is always 'WE MUST CHANGE? 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️ thats bollocks!
Truth is tho. Ive done well for myself. I have money and don't really need to work much anymore. YET, i still know what the world is like. I f*cked alot of people of years ago and live a chilled out introverted life. I do as much as i can for charity and people in need etc... I DO MY BIT!
But no one , will EVER convince me otherwise that things like anxiety are all about US!
It's always about OTHERS. You need to awake to see things as they really are though. You need to awaken from the matrix!
@@trevrockrock16 Thanks. Good luck to you too 👍🏻