My first real relationship was pretty rough and lasted a year. I was 20 years old. The girl that I was with was basically split in two sides; one was really sweet, supportive and serene, while the other was narcisistic, lunatic, manipulative, self-destructive and just borderline evil. The problem was that she was alternating these traits in a very confusing way so I didn't know what to do. Tha bad side of her was hurting me so much but then she switches to the good one and I was ending up forgiving her and being grateful that I wasn't alone. This stuff was really f*cked up. I needed to end it. I was always venting with my mom only about the negative feelings I had towards that girl, so my mom had a pretty bad image of her and at a certain point I couldn't even talk anymore with my mom about her. Sometimes talking to a stranger, an old man in a park or a friend that you don't see often can be really helpful because he can give you a super fresh and objective perspective. Luckily one day I had the balls to leave her. We seated on a bench and talked: while I was drowning in my tears, she didn't shed a single one. That speaked volumes. After that, I got on my bike and I left; I kept crying for hours while on the bike and at home. I never cried like that in my whole life, it was excruciating. It took me a couple months to accept this and leave everything behind. A thing that helped a lot was going out with my friends, get to know new people and keep doing the things I love, training and playing guitar. You just need to get your mind to focus on other stuff, so you can get used to being alone again and reset your life without her, bit by bit. One day you'll wake up, you'll think about her one last time but without any negative emotion, you feel good, and it's in this moment that you know it's over. After months of not seeing each other, we met, went out together and chatted as good friends like our relationship was just a movie that we watched together. We were friends, so I invited her to my birthday party. There she told me that she still had feelings for me and she wanted to get back together. I said no. I understood that she just couldn't find a new guy that could stand her bullshit so she tried again with me. Nice try girl, but it doesn't work anymore. That's the end of the story, hope you enjoyed it :)
This girl is so wise and so smart. I have been there myself. Great video.
PS, love the "ink".
Awh. Thank you I appreciate that so much!
love the casual style of the video, great stuff
Love to hear it! Thanks
My first real relationship was pretty rough and lasted a year. I was 20 years old.
The girl that I was with was basically split in two sides; one was really sweet, supportive and serene, while the other was narcisistic, lunatic, manipulative, self-destructive and just borderline evil.
The problem was that she was alternating these traits in a very confusing way so I didn't know what to do. Tha bad side of her was hurting me so much but then she switches to the good one and I was ending up forgiving her and being grateful that I wasn't alone. This stuff was really f*cked up. I needed to end it.
I was always venting with my mom only about the negative feelings I had towards that girl, so my mom had a pretty bad image of her and at a certain point I couldn't even talk anymore with my mom about her. Sometimes talking to a stranger, an old man in a park or a friend that you don't see often can be really helpful because he can give you a super fresh and objective perspective.
Luckily one day I had the balls to leave her. We seated on a bench and talked: while I was drowning in my tears, she didn't shed a single one. That speaked volumes. After that, I got on my bike and I left; I kept crying for hours while on the bike and at home. I never cried like that in my whole life, it was excruciating.
It took me a couple months to accept this and leave everything behind. A thing that helped a lot was going out with my friends, get to know new people and keep doing the things I love, training and playing guitar. You just need to get your mind to focus on other stuff, so you can get used to being alone again and reset your life without her, bit by bit. One day you'll wake up, you'll think about her one last time but without any negative emotion, you feel good, and it's in this moment that you know it's over.
After months of not seeing each other, we met, went out together and chatted as good friends like our relationship was just a movie that we watched together. We were friends, so I invited her to my birthday party. There she told me that she still had feelings for me and she wanted to get back together. I said no. I understood that she just couldn't find a new guy that could stand her bullshit so she tried again with me. Nice try girl, but it doesn't work anymore.
That's the end of the story, hope you enjoyed it :)
Dam this must have been hard for you. I’m honestly really proud you stood up for yourself and told her no. Well done!