*Workaholism and perfectionism gives me something to strive for and a purpose; but taken too far spirals into anxiety and out of control mess.* Thank you for sharing!
*It's great to hear your own take on this and I totally resonate with it. I just lately, started to accept my humaness and just be me with all my strengths and weaknesses*
I have a huge problems with perfectionism. It even got to a point last year that when i finished all of my obligations on college for that year and I had a free month to relax and enjoy I had an anxiety almost all the time because I felt like my life lost it's purpose and I just had the need to do something in order not to feel useless. I still have problems like that because when I end up doing something that's not perfect I get annoyed and it literally ruins my day. This video is extremly well put and I'll try to incorporate some of these tips in my life. Love your videos
Synchronicity! I received a message, "The secret of your success is found in your daily routine." Now that's where you do some self-reflection & apply it!
I’m so happy you said this. The idea of being able to forgive yourself for not being perfect all the time is something I had to slowly figure out. It was especially hard for me to realize that even family members can hold such a high standard for what perfect is. Despite wanting to respect their ideas, I had to distance myself to realize that being so unforgiving for meaningless things is a very unhealthy way to think. Again, I’m grateful you condensed this all into one video because it’s very refreshing.
I so needed to hear this today. Divine timing for sure. My inner perfectionist got in my way in a major way today. I’m a writer and today was a fail in my perfectionist’s eyes. I wrote a bunch of shit. But after watching this, I am saying to myself: hey, you showed up today. You laid a foundation of words that can be fixed up tomorrow. Rest. Your work is done for the day. Thank you!! This resonated (in case that wasn’t obvi!) 🤣
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Kalyn I truly thing the YOU have a camera on my house and every single time you see me struggling you post a video about it, you give me the words that I didn't even know that I needed to hear, thank you, for everything that your doing even if you don't notice it, it means the world to me.
Oh my god i needed this. I’m such a perfectionist, ESPECIALLY with work. I swear you make videos and discuss topics that I’m needing in the exact moment✨
Oh my, the thing with the 80 year old you on the porch totally got me sobbing, that's amazing. I think I'm gonna use that one a lot, I really needed to hear that, thank you. If nothing else, it gives you such a different perspective, it's got to be helpful in pretty much any situation. :)
i truly thought i was the only one that struggled with this level of unrealistic perfectionism. thank you for posting this. i’ve been trapped in my own idea of “perfectionism” for like.. 4 years now.
I really needed to hear about how we project our fears of not being perfect on other people. This habit had caused me to become hyper critical to the point I had a hard time being satisfied with anyone, anything, any relationship. Definitely a hard one to realize and humbling to accept and love people and situations as they are.
Girl. Wow. I felt like you put my personality into a video. I have wasted so much time in perfectionism in my life. And it has been the greatest barrier between me and the results I wanted. Very, very insightful video thank you. I'm adding this video to my list called "plan B" that I go to for inspiration when I am not in a good place. Thank you!
I myself am I struggling writer too. It's not yet my source of income, considering that I am just about to head into college, but it's been something I've been doing the past 8 years of my life. There are days that my perfectionism really gets in the way of deadlines, but after 8 years of being at it, I'm starting to let myself go and not be too hard on myself for my writing mistakes, or lacking inspiration, or not meeting the deadline because of not finding the time or means to create an output.
My inner critic is very loud today and i feel kind of bleh, unable to tackle everything i wanted to do today. Rewatching this video is helpful for me this evening 😊☺️🤗
Thankyou for this video Kalyn. I too struggle with perfectionism, both from society standards and standards I place on myself. It's actually something I'm working on with my psychologist at the moment.
Love starting my day with a tea and listening to these motivational videos. It really sets my mind up for a good day! Thanks for the inspiring content!
Wow - I haven't been connecting as much with these daily brews, but this one really resonated with me. I deal with the same things and your tips were really great, thanks Kayln!
I am all about a video on society perfectionism or something like that. I find it super hard sometimes to find our own way in these far from realistic standards society gives us. Thanks for you content as usual, I loved the video!
💕✨💕✨💕✨Sometimes done is better than perfect and yes it is society and family’s input growing up that I felt the need to be perfect. Thanks for sharing I love watching your videos on both channels. 😍✨🤗🥰🤩😘
I think that talk was my request!! or at least I thought about it... Thank you Kalyn for sharing you point of view and your advice, It really helped me ❤ ❤ ❤
One of my favorite daily brews by far!!! I relate so much to being rigid, and I’ve been choking myself with perfectionism when it comes to singing and playing guitar for over two years!! I feel I’m close to breaking free though and videoing a cover. I also struggle with telling myself I can’t meet friends let alone be in a relationship until my skin stays totally clear and I have a flatter stomach. These things are so stupid!!!! Haha. I also relate to not being able to enjoy things unless they are productive and have a deep purpose which holds me back from joy way too often.
Wish there was a love button for this! I will from now on try to remember to go to that front porch and ask 80 year old me if I should care about this. Loving this new koze series thanks so much for all the work you’ve put into this.
Thank you for making this video, Kalyn. I am so grateful. You hit the nail on the head... perfection paralyzes me in both work and personal growth. As a creative entrepreneur, I waste so much time on striving for the perfect piece when truly the perfection lies in the imperfection. I really resonated with the cause being failure - I constantly feel like a failure when something doesn’t come out perfect, which leads me to constantly just... feel like a failure. It’s so simple, but I guess sometimes you just need to hear it a different way from a different person other than a book or yourself. Thank you so much for sharing your light with the world. We are the same age, yet I really look up to you. I feel like I grew up with you (even though you have no idea who I am, lol), and it has been so exciting to witness your growth over the last year or so. I can literally feel your evolution (if that makes sense?), and it’s encouraged me to find this for myself. Keep doing you, girl - thank you.
What this on the anniversary of my mum death sorry to be so Dom and glom but this is really resonating with me today thank you for doing this video I was talking about this this morning whilst filming for my UA-cam channel you inspired me so much love to way you say go to you 80 year old self and it so true love you from England 🏴
I'm so like that. When I sleep in I'm really strick and had on myself. Now that I'm pregnant I have learned that it's ok for me to not be on top of everything every day because I can't do everything every day. The house is not perfect and it's ok. Some times I take a nap and sleep in and it's ok. And what I'm taking from this is that I always put my baby first and if I do that then everything is going to be ok. I do have to balance things out and think about me and my husband, my family and his family and our friends But the most important is done when I look after my baby =) The same should happen when we are not pregnant: the first person is you and if you are doing fine and for that to happen you have to have some "me time" every day. After you're sane, you can look after everybody around better and happier. I had a moment I was like that with running too but I got over it because I got panic attacks from attacking myself =D Now that I'm better I laugh because we do stupi* thing to ourselves and why?! These last videos were/are my favorite
I haven't got anxiety but I find I can't sit and do nothing,I have to be doing something otherwise I'm bored, but other times I'm like meh can't be bothered.
Aaaahhhh everytime I watch one of your videos you say something that I'm like, "DAMN GIRL THAT'S ME!" Like feeling guilty for watching tv cause you're anxious about all these things you "need" to do. We must have the same rising moon or something cause shit's just too weird sometimes 😂
How do you deal with a long distance relationship? I really like this one guy and he likes me but I'm scared to commit because of how far apart we are. How do you deal with yours? Does it get hard? What are the ups and downs of it?
Yay!! Love when you upload! Please please will you do a video/podcast on moving out on your own/with a bf! Needs some advice😩😩help!!! Love from South Africa♥️
Any other baristas out there CRINGE when looking at that espresso shot in the intro?? Ahhh it looks so weak! Definitely takes a lot of practice to get the perfect shot haha...loving these videos! :)
from today on I'm choosing to make space for me, to only focus on myself and my mental health aka take some time off everyday. Is there anyone of you who is joggling blogging and a fulltime job or uni?
I feel like I can resonate, like @Ihuoma Ada_ada said. It makes you think/ have put in a different perspective which is honestly what I typically try to go for.
That's a great idea! I would bet my 80 year old self is still watching Kalyn, haha! 😃
*Workaholism and perfectionism gives me something to strive for and a purpose; but taken too far spirals into anxiety and out of control mess.* Thank you for sharing!
*It's great to hear your own take on this and I totally resonate with it. I just lately, started to accept my humaness and just be me with all my strengths and weaknesses*
your humaness is what makes you so much BETTER than perfect
I have a tattoo on my ribs that says “without struggle there’s no progress” and I feel like it fits this video.
I have a huge problems with perfectionism. It even got to a point last year that when i finished all of my obligations on college for that year and I had a free month to relax and enjoy I had an anxiety almost all the time because I felt like my life lost it's purpose and I just had the need to do something in order not to feel useless. I still have problems like that because when I end up doing something that's not perfect I get annoyed and it literally ruins my day. This video is extremly well put and I'll try to incorporate some of these tips in my life. Love your videos
This was so eye opening to me, I've dealt with a lot of perfectionistic thoughts. I'd love a podcast episode on this topic
Synchronicity! I received a message, "The secret of your success is found in your daily routine." Now that's where you do some self-reflection & apply it!
I’m so happy you said this.
The idea of being able to forgive yourself for not being perfect all the time is something I had to slowly figure out. It was especially hard for me to realize that even family members can hold such a high standard for what perfect is. Despite wanting to respect their ideas, I had to distance myself to realize that being so unforgiving for meaningless things is a very unhealthy way to think. Again, I’m grateful you condensed this all into one video because it’s very refreshing.
I so needed to hear this today. Divine timing for sure. My inner perfectionist got in my way in a major way today. I’m a writer and today was a fail in my perfectionist’s eyes. I wrote a bunch of shit. But after watching this, I am saying to myself: hey, you showed up today. You laid a foundation of words that can be fixed up tomorrow. Rest. Your work is done for the day. Thank you!! This resonated (in case that wasn’t obvi!) 🤣
Kalyn I truly thing the YOU have a camera on my house and every single time you see me struggling you post a video about it, you give me the words that I didn't even know that I needed to hear, thank you, for everything that your doing even if you don't notice it, it means the world to me.
Oh my god i needed this. I’m such a perfectionist, ESPECIALLY with work. I swear you make videos and discuss topics that I’m needing in the exact moment✨
Oh my, the thing with the 80 year old you on the porch totally got me sobbing, that's amazing. I think I'm gonna use that one a lot, I really needed to hear that, thank you. If nothing else, it gives you such a different perspective, it's got to be helpful in pretty much any situation. :)
Such an important thing to check in with! We all have value when we highlight our strengths and look further then just skin deep beauty 👏🏽✨
i truly thought i was the only one that struggled with this level of unrealistic perfectionism. thank you for posting this. i’ve been trapped in my own idea of “perfectionism” for like.. 4 years now.
I really needed to hear about how we project our fears of not being perfect on other people. This habit had caused me to become hyper critical to the point I had a hard time being satisfied with anyone, anything, any relationship. Definitely a hard one to realize and humbling to accept and love people and situations as they are.
Girl. Wow. I felt like you put my personality into a video. I have wasted so much time in perfectionism in my life. And it has been the greatest barrier between me and the results I wanted. Very, very insightful video thank you. I'm adding this video to my list called "plan B" that I go to for inspiration when I am not in a good place. Thank you!
I myself am I struggling writer too. It's not yet my source of income, considering that I am just about to head into college, but it's been something I've been doing the past 8 years of my life. There are days that my perfectionism really gets in the way of deadlines, but after 8 years of being at it, I'm starting to let myself go and not be too hard on myself for my writing mistakes, or lacking inspiration, or not meeting the deadline because of not finding the time or means to create an output.
I needed this. Thank you, Kalyn. 💛☕️
My inner critic is very loud today and i feel kind of bleh, unable to tackle everything i wanted to do today. Rewatching this video is helpful for me this evening 😊☺️🤗
YES!!!! society & perfection talk
Thankyou for this video Kalyn. I too struggle with perfectionism, both from society standards and standards I place on myself. It's actually something I'm working on with my psychologist at the moment.
Love starting my day with a tea and listening to these motivational videos. It really sets my mind up for a good day! Thanks for the inspiring content!
Wow - I haven't been connecting as much with these daily brews, but this one really resonated with me. I deal with the same things and your tips were really great, thanks Kayln!
I am all about a video on society perfectionism or something like that. I find it super hard sometimes to find our own way in these far from realistic standards society gives us. Thanks for you content as usual, I loved the video!
This daily brew is perfection☕️😍💛💛✨!
Love this topic. Very relatable. I love the 80 year old you example, that tool helps. And girl... YOU ARE WOKE. Love you
💕✨💕✨💕✨Sometimes done is better than perfect and yes it is society and family’s input growing up that I felt the need to be perfect. Thanks for sharing I love watching your videos on both channels. 😍✨🤗🥰🤩😘
I love the way you talk!! You calm me a lot. Thanks for all!!
I wasn’t enjoying the other videos or your podcasts because of the rambling or the same self help advice, but they’re getting better! Love you! :)
I think that talk was my request!! or at least I thought about it... Thank you Kalyn for sharing you point of view and your advice, It really helped me ❤ ❤ ❤
Girl, I really needed this and paused it many times to write and reflect in my journal. So grateful for your beautiful spirit
One of my favorite daily brews by far!!! I relate so much to being rigid, and I’ve been choking myself with perfectionism when it comes to singing and playing guitar for over two years!! I feel I’m close to breaking free though and videoing a cover. I also struggle with telling myself I can’t meet friends let alone be in a relationship until my skin stays totally clear and I have a flatter stomach. These things are so stupid!!!! Haha. I also relate to not being able to enjoy things unless they are productive and have a deep purpose which holds me back from joy way too often.
This talk was much needed , thank you ✨
Wish there was a love button for this! I will from now on try to remember to go to that front porch and ask 80 year old me if I should care about this. Loving this new koze series thanks so much for all the work you’ve put into this.
Thank you for making this video, Kalyn. I am so grateful. You hit the nail on the head... perfection paralyzes me in both work and personal growth. As a creative entrepreneur, I waste so much time on striving for the perfect piece when truly the perfection lies in the imperfection. I really resonated with the cause being failure - I constantly feel like a failure when something doesn’t come out perfect, which leads me to constantly just... feel like a failure. It’s so simple, but I guess sometimes you just need to hear it a different way from a different person other than a book or yourself.
Thank you so much for sharing your light with the world. We are the same age, yet I really look up to you. I feel like I grew up with you (even though you have no idea who I am, lol), and it has been so exciting to witness your growth over the last year or so. I can literally feel your evolution (if that makes sense?), and it’s encouraged me to find this for myself. Keep doing you, girl - thank you.
You are so inspiring to me! I love your videos and all the advice you give I relate to it so much! Thank you! You're Awesome! Lots of love for you!
I really needed this. Thanks Kalyn
This is calling out my perfectionism! 🙏🏻🔥
you inspire me so much. I have been watching your videos for about 5 years now and you never cease to amaze me
What this on the anniversary of my mum death sorry to be so Dom and glom but this is really resonating with me today thank you for doing this video I was talking about this this morning whilst filming for my UA-cam channel you inspired me so much love to way you say go to you 80 year old self and it so true love you from England 🏴
I'm so like that. When I sleep in I'm really strick and had on myself. Now that I'm pregnant I have learned that it's ok for me to not be on top of everything every day because I can't do everything every day. The house is not perfect and it's ok. Some times I take a nap and sleep in and it's ok. And what I'm taking from this is that I always put my baby first and if I do that then everything is going to be ok. I do have to balance things out and think about me and my husband, my family and his family and our friends But the most important is done when I look after my baby =) The same should happen when we are not pregnant: the first person is you and if you are doing fine and for that to happen you have to have some "me time" every day. After you're sane, you can look after everybody around better and happier. I had a moment I was like that with running too but I got over it because I got panic attacks from attacking myself =D Now that I'm better I laugh because we do stupi* thing to ourselves and why?! These last videos were/are my favorite
I really love everything you said in this video!
Thank you so much! ❤️
Can you please share your writing playlist Kalyn? Thank you so much
Princess Sirenity I second that!
Thank you you thaught me something i didn't know abaout myself
*I love your video style very much! Wish mine could be this aesthetically pleasing and appealing*
Such *A GREAT UPLOAD* THANQ
I love the routine idea!
LOVE LOVE LOVE this video!!! Thank you so much Kalyn. I really needed to see this. xx
Omg have you tried the inner mentor visualisation? The whole 80 year old you thing sounds exactly like that! If not, look up Tara Mohr Inner Mentor!
Video starts at 1:00.
I haven't got anxiety but I find I can't sit and do nothing,I have to be doing something otherwise I'm bored, but other times I'm like meh can't be bothered.
You are KILLING it with these!!❤️
P.S. a small UA-camr xx you inspire me so much💕
agh! please don’t stop doing this 😂 I love these videos so so much❤️❤️
I'm gonna have a talk with the 80 year old me every day from now on! 👵😁
Didn’t know I needed this. Thank you
Thanks for this video, I really needed it as I bet a lot of other people did too!
Can you drop the playlist that you made for writing because this hits home with me when I am writing giving the fact that I am writing a book my self
I need it this because I m struggle with health perfectionism, I m all or nothing and goes to extreme level. This need to change emediatly
Ugh. Same! Loved the vid
Oh my goodness I do this so much 😪
Can you do a cleaning video? Lol your house is always spotless xoxo much love
Herschel’s farm! 😍
Aaaahhhh everytime I watch one of your videos you say something that I'm like, "DAMN GIRL THAT'S ME!" Like feeling guilty for watching tv cause you're anxious about all these things you "need" to do. We must have the same rising moon or something cause shit's just too weird sometimes 😂
this video was just was I needed, thanks 😘
this was such a great episode 👌🏻👌🏻✨
Needed this!
Love this
Esto es exctamentente lo que me pasa siempre. Rígida. Dios. sí. For me it's exactly like this.
Podcast on this would be amazing
Great video. Xx
How do you deal with a long distance relationship? I really like this one guy and he likes me but I'm scared to commit because of how far apart we are. How do you deal with yours? Does it get hard? What are the ups and downs of it?
Yay!! Love when you upload! Please please will you do a video/podcast on moving out on your own/with a bf! Needs some advice😩😩help!!! Love from South Africa♥️
My mom can literally never sit down! I feel like she’s constantly cleaning the house, outside doing work or out working out & stuff!
Maybe you can have this talk with her to comprehend her point of view 😊
She won’t listen haha
Your espresso machine looks amazing which one is it?
What is your moon sign & rising sign??? Just wondering if you have virgo in your chart because the constant strive for perfection is too real for me!
love this! thanks for this video. :)
❤️
Any other baristas out there CRINGE when looking at that espresso shot in the intro?? Ahhh it looks so weak! Definitely takes a lot of practice to get the perfect shot haha...loving these videos! :)
Amazing video! Really inspired me, I have an upcoming video about anxiety and depression that I think ties in really well with this!
from today on I'm choosing to make space for me, to only focus on myself and my mental health aka take some time off everyday.
Is there anyone of you who is joggling blogging and a fulltime job or uni?
I love your sweaterr, where did you get it???
It's from her Koze store >>> allthingskoze.com
Please do a long coffee talk on here 💕 xoxo
I feel like I can resonate, like @Ihuoma Ada_ada said. It makes you think/ have put in a different perspective which is honestly what I typically try to go for.
if this isn't the video for me ..
Hi sweetheart!! Is it possible to send your products to Brazil? I'd like to have some of your koze products!!!
*A lot of people perceive you to be perfect, Kalyn--(and that may be far from the truth)*