It's one thing to "respect" your elders. And it's another thing to let them be overbearing and "control" YOUR life. You can acknowledge their opinions, but the Decision is yours and yours ALONE.
Exactly! I grew up in Pennsylvania and on the east coast we are taught to think and act for ourselves once we become adults but in the south they view adults as children. I have lived in the south 12 years I have had enough of this outdated nonsense! I would go back to PA but it’s not possible right now so unfortunately I’m stuck a few more years in the horrible prehistoric south. Oh well 🤷♀️
Yes. That is very accurate. Unfortunately most people are brainwashed to believe that if they don't let their mother or whoever control them. Then they are being disrespectful, and that ISN'T the case at all. It just isn't. I had to come out of that. My mother is very narcissistic, controlling, and manipulative. And since she is a covert narcissist. I didn't see it initially, until the Lord revealed it to me. Now I know, and for that I'm grateful.
actually, i was thinking why does someone still get married at 21 nowadays? that's the age that you are still developing into adulthood but that's probably a cultural thing. almost no one gets married at that age where i live.. 30 ish is more common, if they get married at all😬 first a job, a house and some life experience, then marriage is the norm here
@@jleedw The outcome depends on the Mom….. evidently, you’re one of the lucky ones. These people are showing up with siblings, bridesmaids, step parents, etc….. very foolish.
"Respect" does not equal "obey." "Honor thy mother and father" does not equal "even though you are an adult you still must do everything your parents tell you to do."
People who say "respect thy mother and father" to mean "obey them!" forget that the Bible (and they do often attribute it to the Bible) also says that parents shouldn't vex their children -- I.e. give their child any reason to disrespect them. Of course, that part tends to get forgotten, since it's easier to force your will on your children than to remember that they're people who all too soon will be adults who need to know how to respect others and respect themselves.
To me, that says Grandma wants her opinion trampled. Respecting one's elders should not go as far as some insist it should. If some old biddy is gonna be a piece of shit, they deserve the toilet paper. Respect is *earned,* and not by simply existing longer than someone else. The moment someone of any age does something to prove they don't deserve an ounce of respect, they should be summarily informed. Older folks like the MIL in this episode are proof that they aren't 'better than' everyone younger. If they want people to think better of their generation, they need to behave better. My five-year-old cousin has better manners, ffs!
To a some elderly people, you aren't really an adult until you get married. Kind of counter productive because they're pretty much saying "You can wear the wedding dress you like once you're married." Lol
I'm from the South and I was taught to respect my elders. When I got married, I respected my elders but I chose my own wedding gown. In fact, I solved the problem of not being able to please everyone who went shopping with me by not taking anyone shopping with me. I went by myself and purchased my gown and the first time my mother saw it was on my wedding day. BTW, turns out she loved it.
I liked how the mother in law realized that the dress she wanted Laura to wear didn't fit her, so she stopped trying to make her choose a dress she didn't like, and had her decide on her own.
I know it’s important to respect your elders but when it comes to your wedding it’s your wedding day and whatever you choose to wear is up to you. Not anyone else but you and you alone
@@pmac4779 I understand the importance of respect, but, as an outsider, I couldn't see any of it for the bride's opinion, which should be the most important one in this situation. I believe there is a big difference between respecting the elders and invalidating a younger person's opinion, because respect has to always be reciprocated.
@@pmac4779 And respect is earned and if grandma wants to be a bitch and not respect her granddaughter’s opinion then she doesn’t get any respect shown. That’s cowboy rules as well
A wedding dress should be 100% the bride's choice. The family should give consent to whichever dress she likes. Glad she got out with a dress they all liked though
Yes it should always be the brides choice In her budget. She does not need the permission or blessing of anyone else. It's pretty sad that these brides are always wanting others to approve. They are supposed to be adults making decisions on their own. Thise that love and care for them should take a seat and smile.
Well within reason, namely budget constraints…. Kid wants that champagne and caviar dress on a beer and bar pretzel budget better get to working and earning the money to pay for it in my book! Lol
My great nephew just got married, wisely my new great niece shopped for her gown with her mother only. I caused a lot of hot feelings when I told her she made the gown look gorgeous!! Others tried to disagree, (the gown is to plain, the gown doesn't have any lace, etc) but I persisted , I am her Great Aunt and I know how to be "Great" by respecting that she was the bride, besides what I said was true!!!
Sadly these brides want approval. Guess they forget they are adults getting married. Only ones opinion that should ever be given a thought to is the one they are getting married to.
I mean, opinions are ok and constructive criticism. In my experience, when you're pushed to a specific vision that isnt yours is because that person never got the chance to pick what they want. So they just try to live it out through the younger generation.
My question exactly! The only person I would take with me is my Mum because she'd give an honest opinion without being rude. (Which seems to be impossible for some of the people I see on this show.)
Actually, the bride did great under the circumstances. Her Mom and friends were in agreement with her and it seemed like it took the edge off. And she was respectful and listened to grandma and MIL. Then she quietly got the dress she wanted. She has intelligence and grace. And she didn't make a fuss or get into an actual disagreement with those two women. Thinking the show edited it to make it more dramatic for tv viewers. Bride did great!
@@7thswansong152 , I don’t know if the bride was wrong to ask, but it is definitely Laura’s choice in the end. I like to get opinions from people, but I don’t ever “obey”!
“Children should be seen and not heard”.....😳.........Jeez Louise.......which century did Grandma drop in from......so glad she got the dress of her dreams with family approval 👍
That’s the reality of the south. I been here 12 years and they ALL treat their adult children this way, they are racist, they hate autistic people and anyone disabled and believe in silencing us and shaming us for expressing our feelings (as an autistic person this angers me) and they don’t believe adults should think or act for themselves. They judge clothes too! I lived in Maryland for a year and had bought a beautiful white winter coat and beautiful colorful clothes and when I moved back home from the pandemic I got stares and judged in doctor offices and stores and harassed by hillbilly country people telling me “this is the south honey we don’t wear nice clothes in the south you need to be wearing vintage hand me downs and country dresses like a good girl” I grew up in PA where we are taught to think and act for ourselves because that’s how east coast people are. We are sophisticated and smart and think for ourselves. I was so mad because nobody has a right to criticize somebody else’s clothing. It’s just ridiculous
I wish more people keep this saying, how many unruly and disruptive children out her right now. The student who hit her teach in front of the class, the group of teens that beat up one student at a party. 🤦 I grew up with teaching like this, I'm the youngest and if my parents had taught my older siblings this maybe they wouldn't need to rely on my sister and myself.
And another episode of "it ain't your wedding dress". What these girls have to do is when their family members just walk all over their opinion just start bawling as loud as you can and just keep repeating, 'my heart is broken if I can't choose my own dress." Make em' feel bad.
“Children should be seen and not heard” made me *cringe* good god. There’s nothing like not listening to your child and not allowing them to speak like the human beings they are.
That depends on the culture you are raised in, we are citizens of the USA and happy to be so, but we were raised with Central European values. We were taught to listen to your parents, think before speaking, respect is part of our culture,BUT!!!!! we were taught to think for ourselves as well and not to be afraid of making our decisions. The older women were dominating and meddling, not being positive at all. Just becuse you are polite doesn't mean you like someone!
It's accepted practice in the south to call women older than yourself that you are not related to "Miss" followed by their first name. It's likely she will change that to "Mother" or some other similar title after their wedding.
That really is a regional difference; I doubt very much that the mother-in-law insisted on anything. It's just a normal practice to refer to older women, or girlfriends, as "Miss First Name." When I worked as a typist in a medical office, we all called the senior admin assts "Miss Estelle" and "Miss Mary"--even the doctors referred to them that way! It's actually a very convenient way of expressing respect and social distance, combined with an acknowledgment of friendliness and intimacy. My New York mother-in-law and I never settled on anything I could call her that didn't feel wrong: "First name" was too informal; "Mrs. So-and-So" was too unfriendly and formal; "Mom Last Name" (another sister-in-law's solution) was just too cutesy (and I already have a mother, thanks very much). It would have been so much more comfortable and easy to call her "Miss Elizabeth"!
When her grandmother said “children should be seen and not heard”, I thought, well if she can get married then I don’t think she’s a child!! She’s an adult!!!
Children should be seen not heard???? Children are human beings!! Their voices, emotions, and opinions are just as real and as valid as adults!!! I would way rather hold a conversation with a child than a woman like that or really most adults in general. Children are incredibly insightful, observant, and honest.
🙃 Don't get so worked up Shelley. It is what it is. Many of the older generation were brought up this way. A leftover old fashioned notion from the 15th century that was still in use in prevalence up to about the 1950s. I know many people over the age of 70 who still feel the same, especially in England and the Southern states of the USA.
When she first walked out with dress 3, the neckline was mostly straight across, but by the end of the video, you can see they made a custom alteration making more of a sweetheart neckline. I wish we could've seen more of that process. She looked beautiful.
Grandma shouldn't have been invited to the wedding dress shopping. This is not the Victorian era. Thank goodness I went with people who understood what I wanted
I picked my wedding dress on my own without an entourage and loved the dress. Everyone except my mother liked it but my husband loved it. That’s what matters. 🥰
Amazing how these women choose what THEY like. It’s NOT their wedding! Give it a rest. When you were married you wore what you wanted…Let the BRIDE have that opportunity to have HER day the way SHE wants…
What a sweet and loving grand-daughter....she has a big heart and loves and respects her family...the groom is really getting an awesome , beautiful and caring bride.. and Oh Yes ! the dress is perfect !
This is exactly why I went alone and picked out my wedding gown and PAID FOR IT MYSELF! And I was 17 years old. My dress was beautiful and I have no regrets.
Well, at least MIL had the good sense to admit that she was outvoted fair and square on that first dress! And Granny had sense to recognize when the dress was right for the bride, even if it wasn't her own cup of tea.
I love it when these brides are so respectful and when in the end, the family supports her decisions. It gives me goosebumbs in a good way .... And let's me know what i am missing out on. 😢
If you want to wear a dress that you’ve picked with no problems don’t bring everyone with you. My daughter and I were the only ones that went for her search on a dress and when she found what she wanted that’s when we brought her dad. Until she walked down the aisle we had been the only ones who had seen it.
When I was getting married, back in the stone age, I didn't know brides were supposed to have "entourages" and make a big deal about a dress. I saw a bride gown in a store window, tried it on, and bought it. The dress cost $40 because it had been on a manikin, so they gave me a deal. In reality, no one other than me had tried on the dress, so it was a win for me. Fifty years later I look at the wedding photos and still feel it was a perfect dress.
@@bookmagicroe9553 I’ve gone with a couple of friends to help them. But it was just the 2 of us. Their mothers weren’t in their lives and I was their best friend. So being the “mom” sounding board was my role. Plus they knew how much I loved them and over all would say yes to anything that made them happy. There was also loads of tears over how beautiful they were.
I actually didn’t like any of the dresses, but I’m glad that she got something she liked. However, “we get along real well” isn’t my idea of a ringing endorsement for marriage. Just sayin.
I support the idea to listening to elder voices with respect and consideration but I don't think it includes personal decisions or influence in big days. And I'm saying that missing my grandma who passed away and I had adored to have the opportunity to take her with me to choose a wedding dress. After that, I can say this bride deserved to choose her style since the very beginning and the consultant should hear only her voice at the end of the day. Fortunately, Monte was around as Lori as well and despite the strapless lace dress has been seen here too many times, it matches the bride and her vibe.
I was wondering the same thing. Even if the MIL chose that, the assistants could have found something more appealing. It seems like if you work in that store, you should know EVERY dress on the rack.
Even dress with sleeves IS my dream dress, I completely agree it’s the ugliest one. And the assistant wouldn’t find other dresses anyway because she said she’s wanted dress without sleeves.
Love how the third dress was barely any different than the second dress, but yep, of course, throw the veil and accessories on and grandma is like 12 !!!!
i think those old bags are forgetting who is walking down the aisle and it isnt them - i guess they would rather have this girl unhappy, regretful and resentful on her wedding day
Just don't understand the need to have an entourage - picking a dress by a committee. Never a good idea. Minute a bride says, "I love it" everybody needs to say "Well I do too!"
Children should be seen and not heard? What relevance does that have to this situation? This is not a child trying on party dresses, this is a grown woman trying on wedding dresses.
The title alone and first part of the video had me cracking up. 😆.. but the dress the bride had chosen fits her. Grandma conceded in the end . Grandma knew that was the dress
I wore a full sleeved dress with amazing detail on the thick sleeves and an astonishing beaded bodice and medieval style skirt. An amazing very think pearl headress with little pearls sticking out (very Game of thrones) and this was back in the early 1990's . My mum cleverly manipulated me into her pick, by letting me choose others to try one then quietly the wedding dress shop suggested to try "this" one. It was stunning and so different. I assumed her pick was one I was steered towards earlier. Her pick was amazing, and so "me". Remember, all Royal wedding dresses in Britain have long sleeves!
This is why while you want to be respectful, you have to remind people who's the one getting married. Even if that person is your Grandma and future mother in law.
"Children should be seen not heard" that mentality alone has caused me so much trauma in my life. When I truly had something wrong with me I didn't speak up and now I can't have children.
But the 2nd dress 4:25 and the 3rd dress 5:39 she tried on were not that different! So it made no sense that her Grandma hated the 2nd dress and suddenly loved the 3rd one, which was practically the same.
The grandma was just realizing that her granddaughter is happiest in that style abs that she should support it. If you listen carefully the grandma said”it looks like you”….
@@sandisteinberg731 that it looks like they decided to alter into a sweetheart. Maybe even as a sweetheart, it has more coverage. Some of them, I wonder if the "exposure" will change on any of the dresses after it is the correct size.
I hate that saying " children should be seen not heard". I grew up like that. But loving your children is the most important. It's each to their own. You only get to be a parent once per child so you have to do your best. I love being a mum, it very rewarding and at the end of the day, this lady looks like she has love around her so that important. Love from Australia 🇦🇺
People who say that children should be seen not heard should NEVER have kids. Silencing kids and silencing their voices and their laughter and their happiness is utterly criminal.
Bride's need to stop inviting future mother's in law, it doesn't matter if you have an amazing relationship, this is between the Bride and people who are there to support her.
I can’t understand why brides are taking so many people to choose a gown. Especially the MOTHER IN LAW. She should be seeing the gown at the church and no sooner.
“Children should be seen and not heard” wtf is that. Children need guidance and should have the right to make their own decisions within reason. And they most definitely should be heard.. and this is a woman. A grown woman. She should do whatever she pleases.
I dislike those belts and every gown in this store is similar. Every other bride that comes to Lori store buys similar wedding gown. Surely Lori should purchase other gowns from other designers. If you watch Gok or even Randy the store has such different wedding dresses to choose from.
I know what you mean but so many come in asking for those styles. So it leads me to believe it is a cultural thing. Just the way they go on about showing too much skin etc. Some of the British gowns would have them clasping their pearls.
Exactly!!! Their always putting that ugly belt on the dresses to "in their opinions" to make it more pretty or to add bling.. And its always like we're seeing the same dresses all the damn time😒🙄
I think these were filmed a while ago. The dresses are quite outdated compared to the UK version but that was the trend at the time it was filmed. Hated that trend then and still hate it now. Bridal belts are ugly.
Regarding the "southern thing" about respect Didn't grow up here just live here bc of the service. We lived in NY and my mom taught us all .. RESPECT is earned no matter who....if someone is rude ..walk away...mind your own business.. and treat people kind .. We respected the elders but we weren't taught to put up being treated unkind..
I instinctively feel that granny has rarely admitted to ever being wrong about anything.
I was wondering how a woman becomes like this 🤔
That’s true for most southern grannies
They get tired of being told what to do by Southern grandpas
@@BBhip27 and latin grannies
…and definitely isn’t treating others the way she’d want to be treated!
Grandma clutching the pearls she doesn’t have around her neck is everything.
It's one thing to "respect" your elders. And it's another thing to let them be overbearing and "control" YOUR life. You can acknowledge their opinions, but the Decision is yours and yours ALONE.
Exactly! I grew up in Pennsylvania and on the east coast we are taught to think and act for ourselves once we become adults but in the south they view adults as children. I have lived in the south 12 years I have had enough of this outdated nonsense! I would go back to PA but it’s not possible right now so unfortunately I’m stuck a few more years in the horrible prehistoric south. Oh well 🤷♀️
Well sad, Donna!
Matriarchs? More like tyrants.
I went to the bridal salon with only my sister-in-law (to be) and my mom was furious. But I’m still glad I did.
Yes. That is very accurate. Unfortunately most people are brainwashed to believe that if they don't let their mother or whoever control them. Then they are being disrespectful, and that ISN'T the case at all. It just isn't. I had to come out of that. My mother is very narcissistic, controlling, and manipulative. And since she is a covert narcissist. I didn't see it initially, until the Lord revealed it to me. Now I know, and for that I'm grateful.
What the hell are these brides doing bringing all these people with her to pick out her wedding dress? That’s crazy!
I agree, too many opinions!!!
actually, i was thinking why does someone still get married at 21 nowadays?
that's the age that you are still developing into adulthood
but that's probably a cultural thing.
almost no one gets married at that age where i live..
30 ish is more common, if they get married at all😬
first a job, a house and some life experience,
then marriage
is the norm here
I just went with my mom
@@jleedw
The outcome depends on the Mom….. evidently, you’re one of the lucky ones. These people are showing up with siblings, bridesmaids, step parents, etc….. very foolish.
@@I.Toverheks I got married at 21, in 1967, and we are still very happy 55 years and two sons, four grandsons later
"Respect" does not equal "obey." "Honor thy mother and father" does not equal "even though you are an adult you still must do everything your parents tell you to do."
Bingo! So to the point. The second you hear the "As long as you live under ....." speak begin, you know it is time to move out.
Preach!!!
As silly as Family Guy is, Peter's father made a good point. Honoring your family doesn't mean you have to like them!
Exactly!!!! Besides the two elder women were wearing modern clothes, and they were not the bride!
People who say "respect thy mother and father" to mean "obey them!" forget that the Bible (and they do often attribute it to the Bible) also says that parents shouldn't vex their children -- I.e. give their child any reason to disrespect them. Of course, that part tends to get forgotten, since it's easier to force your will on your children than to remember that they're people who all too soon will be adults who need to know how to respect others and respect themselves.
Grandma be all "Treat others like you'd like to be treated" while trampling the bride's opinion in choosing her own wedding dress
To me, that says Grandma wants her opinion trampled.
Respecting one's elders should not go as far as some insist it should. If some old biddy is gonna be a piece of shit, they deserve the toilet paper. Respect is *earned,* and not by simply existing longer than someone else. The moment someone of any age does something to prove they don't deserve an ounce of respect, they should be summarily informed. Older folks like the MIL in this episode are proof that they aren't 'better than' everyone younger. If they want people to think better of their generation, they need to behave better. My five-year-old cousin has better manners, ffs!
Excuse me, she is 22...and most definitely should be heard.
THIS. Absolutely.
21
To a some elderly people, you aren't really an adult until you get married. Kind of counter productive because they're pretty much saying "You can wear the wedding dress you like once you're married." Lol
Should behave as an adult person, make her own decisions, pay her bills, and live her life.
I was thinking the sammmmmeee thing 🙄🤣
I'm from the South and I was taught to respect my elders. When I got married, I respected my elders but I chose my own wedding gown. In fact, I solved the problem of not being able to please everyone who went shopping with me by not taking anyone shopping with me. I went by myself and purchased my gown and the first time my mother saw it was on my wedding day. BTW, turns out she loved it.
I liked how the mother in law realized that the dress she wanted Laura to wear didn't fit her, so she stopped trying to make her choose a dress she didn't like, and had her decide on her own.
Let her? No bride should need permission from anyone one as to what she wishes to wear at her wedding.
@@eileenmcdonald1599 I agree :)
Even if MIL was paying for the dress she doesn’t need to “let her” or give permission to wear what she wants. It is the BRIDES wedding not the MIL’s
@@shelby8281 Yeah :D
I know it’s important to respect your elders but when it comes to your wedding it’s your wedding day and whatever you choose to wear is up to you. Not anyone else but you and you alone
Gotta love the shop owners insulting a dress they carry 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right why carry it then
@@midenightsparkle3 maybe because they know certain people like dresses like that
I was looking for this comment 😂
I feel sorry for the designer.
I didn't get that either. However, this store is all about strapless.
"Children should be seen and not heard"
Is there anyone who wants to tell her that it's a child's right to be listened to?
Not heard 💀
Lmao that's exactly the problem. Parents daily see their children and rarely listen their children.
That’s the point. She’s NOT A CHILD. She’s AN ADULT. In the south unfortunately they view adults as children. It’s sad
@@pmac4779 I understand the importance of respect, but, as an outsider, I couldn't see any of it for the bride's opinion, which should be the most important one in this situation. I believe there is a big difference between respecting the elders and invalidating a younger person's opinion, because respect has to always be reciprocated.
As a child myself I’d like to
@@pmac4779
And respect is earned and if grandma wants to be a bitch and not respect her granddaughter’s opinion then she doesn’t get any respect shown.
That’s cowboy rules as well
The hairdo on that mother-in-law! LOL, she's been getting that same teased-and-sprayed-tight-perm since 1964!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
My Nanna had the exact same hairstyle - she died in 1980.
Boomer😂 Typical Karen😂
A wedding dress should be 100% the bride's choice. The family should give consent to whichever dress she likes. Glad she got out with a dress they all liked though
Thank you!!!! It's her day
Yes it should always be the brides choice In her budget. She does not need the permission or blessing of anyone else. It's pretty sad that these brides are always wanting others to approve. They are supposed to be adults making decisions on their own. Thise that love and care for them should take a seat and smile.
@@keepitfrankwithfentse well it's her and and the groom's day. Let's not forget that
Well within reason, namely budget constraints…. Kid wants that champagne and caviar dress on a beer and bar pretzel budget better get to working and earning the money to pay for it in my book! Lol
I think it depends on who’s paying for the wedding and dress. My parents will probably pay for mine so they have a right to approve of it.
My great nephew just got married, wisely my new great niece shopped for her gown with her mother only. I caused a lot of hot feelings when I told her she made the gown look gorgeous!! Others tried to disagree, (the gown is to plain, the gown doesn't have any lace, etc) but I persisted , I am her Great Aunt and I know how to be "Great" by respecting that she was the bride, besides what I said was true!!!
Explain to me why other people get to dictate what the bride wears. IT'S HER WEDDING AND HER DRESS!!!!
I will never understand the logic
Sadly these brides want approval. Guess they forget they are adults getting married. Only ones opinion that should ever be given a thought to is the one they are getting married to.
Only if she pays for it all alone.
If mom is paying she should have some say
I mean, opinions are ok and constructive criticism. In my experience, when you're pushed to a specific vision that isnt yours is because that person never got the chance to pick what they want. So they just try to live it out through the younger generation.
Why in the world would a bride to be, take a future mother in law and grandmother to pick out her wedding gown?
Probably because they're pitching in to pay for it.
I'm taking my grandma, mama, future mother in law, and future grandma in law because I love them and want to enjoy this special time with them!
Respect
My question exactly! The only person I would take with me is my Mum because she'd give an honest opinion without being rude. (Which seems to be impossible for some of the people I see on this show.)
Maybe they are the only mother figures that she has.
Actually, the bride did great under the circumstances. Her Mom and friends were in agreement with her and it seemed like it took the edge off. And she was respectful and listened to grandma and MIL. Then she quietly got the dress she wanted. She has intelligence and grace. And she didn't make a fuss or get into an actual disagreement with those two women. Thinking the show edited it to make it more dramatic for tv viewers. Bride did great!
Why were there so many people at this appointment in the first place? Why can't the bride choose for herself with out all the differing opinions?
Monte is the bee's knees! He is also way too funny. I love Lori and the rest of the team too.
I love Monty so much! He's so unapologetic and confident!
The fact that the ladies realized that their dresses didn’t work, and let Laura make her own decision. ❤️
They should not voiced their opinion in the first place. It was wrong for the bride to ask.Shes asking for trouble.
@@7thswansong152 , I don’t know if the bride was wrong to ask, but it is definitely Laura’s choice in the end. I like to get opinions from people, but I don’t ever “obey”!
LET her make her own decision? it was always ONLY her decision!!!
I always yell 'IT"S NOT YOUR WEDDING, WHO CARES WHAT YOU LIKE!!!!'. These moms, MILs and Grammas are too much!
There is such a thing as respecting your elders but there are also elders who are just plain bossy and need to be put in check
"On steel magnolia down, one to go" 🤣🤣🤣 monte is always on point
“Children should be seen and not heard”.....😳.........Jeez Louise.......which century did Grandma drop in from......so glad she got the dress of her dreams with family approval 👍
Grandma needs to move into this century.
That’s the reality of the south. I been here 12 years and they ALL treat their adult children this way, they are racist, they hate autistic people and anyone disabled and believe in silencing us and shaming us for expressing our feelings (as an autistic person this angers me) and they don’t believe adults should think or act for themselves. They judge clothes too! I lived in Maryland for a year and had bought a beautiful white winter coat and beautiful colorful clothes and when I moved back home from the pandemic I got stares and judged in doctor offices and stores and harassed by hillbilly country people telling me “this is the south honey we don’t wear nice clothes in the south you need to be wearing vintage hand me downs and country dresses like a good girl” I grew up in PA where we are taught to think and act for ourselves because that’s how east coast people are. We are sophisticated and smart and think for ourselves. I was so mad because nobody has a right to criticize somebody else’s clothing. It’s just ridiculous
It's her future mother in law, I had to check if I read that right because she does look/sound more like a grandma. Grandma looked younger
I grew up with that rule. And so do my kids. I don't let my kids cry in the house, if you want to cry take it to your bedroom.
I wish more people keep this saying, how many unruly and disruptive children out her right now. The student who hit her teach in front of the class, the group of teens that beat up one student at a party. 🤦 I grew up with teaching like this, I'm the youngest and if my parents had taught my older siblings this maybe they wouldn't need to rely on my sister and myself.
And another episode of "it ain't your wedding dress". What these girls have to do is when their family members just walk all over their opinion just start bawling as loud as you can and just keep repeating, 'my heart is broken if I can't choose my own dress." Make em' feel bad.
Thank you! I'll use that when someone starts pushing their opinions on me.
“Children should be seen and not heard” made me *cringe* good god. There’s nothing like not listening to your child and not allowing them to speak like the human beings they are.
Sadly a leftover from Victorian times. I didn't realize people still followed this
That depends on the culture you are raised in, we are citizens of the USA and happy to be so, but we were raised with Central European values. We were taught to listen to your parents, think before speaking, respect is part of our culture,BUT!!!!! we were taught to think for ourselves as well and not to be afraid of making our decisions. The older women were dominating and meddling, not being positive at all. Just becuse you are polite doesn't mean you like someone!
Don't blaspheme.
@@christinemeleg4535 Same for me with a 60s' UK upbringing.
I'm Sure There Will Be "Instructions" for the "Wedding Night"!!
Any mother in law that expects to be called “Miss Frances” by her daughter-in-law is not someone you’re going to gel with
if this was my soon to be mother in law... oh, well, let's just say she could keep his son 😈
Exactly. What exactly are the kids going to call their grandmother.
It's accepted practice in the south to call women older than yourself that you are not related to "Miss" followed by their first name. It's likely she will change that to "Mother" or some other similar title after their wedding.
That really is a regional difference; I doubt very much that the mother-in-law insisted on anything. It's just a normal practice to refer to older women, or girlfriends, as "Miss First Name." When I worked as a typist in a medical office, we all called the senior admin assts "Miss Estelle" and "Miss Mary"--even the doctors referred to them that way! It's actually a very convenient way of expressing respect and social distance, combined with an acknowledgment of friendliness and intimacy. My New York mother-in-law and I never settled on anything I could call her that didn't feel wrong: "First name" was too informal; "Mrs. So-and-So" was too unfriendly and formal; "Mom Last Name" (another sister-in-law's solution) was just too cutesy (and I already have a mother, thanks very much). It would have been so much more comfortable and easy to call her "Miss Elizabeth"!
This is pretty common in the South. You do it with people whom you know well enough to not use only their last names, but they're older than you are.
MIL needs a pearl necklace, because she's clutching her pearls all the time 😂
me too😉
She looks older than the bride's grandmother.
She at least got over it when she saw that Laura didn't like what she chose.
When her grandmother said “children should be seen and not heard”, I thought, well if she can get married then I don’t think she’s a child!! She’s an adult!!!
Children should be seen not heard???? Children are human beings!! Their voices, emotions, and opinions are just as real and as valid as adults!!! I would way rather hold a conversation with a child than a woman like that or really most adults in general. Children are incredibly insightful, observant, and honest.
@@AkireMaru I think it depends how old the child is? My favorite age is when they're around 11 - very intelligent, insightful, maturing people
🙃 Don't get so worked up Shelley. It is what it is. Many of the older generation were brought up this way. A leftover old fashioned notion from the 15th century that was still in use in prevalence up to about the 1950s. I know many people over the age of 70 who still feel the same, especially in England and the Southern states of the USA.
@@AkireMaru 😂😂😂 With you 100% on that one.
@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat well we’re in the 21st century and it’s 2021 so let the bride make her decision or u can catch these hand
@@leahfitz1483 - The older generation (her granny) still think like that, no matter what generation it currently is. That is all I was saying
I'm, SO happy Grandma reined herself in before someone was obliged to do it for her!
When she first walked out with dress 3, the neckline was mostly straight across, but by the end of the video, you can see they made a custom alteration making more of a sweetheart neckline. I wish we could've seen more of that process. She looked beautiful.
Grandma shouldn't have been invited to the wedding dress shopping. This is not the Victorian era. Thank goodness I went with people who understood what I wanted
Respecting your elders doesn't mean that only their opinion should matter and that you should always give in.
I think Monty said, Grandma must have forgotten that old saying..... if you can't say anything nice. Then shut up....
Monte: don't say anything at all xD He's so sarcastic and on point 😆
I like both Monte and Randy.
I wouldn't have taken the grandmas dress shopping with me if I were her.
I wouldnt take anyone else shopping with me. My choice. They dont like it .. oh well that's their own problem
I would've gone alone and not invite them, cause heck no I ain't letting anyone else in on the decision.
I picked my wedding dress on my own without an entourage and loved the dress. Everyone except my mother liked it but my husband loved it. That’s what matters. 🥰
Amazing how these women choose what THEY like. It’s NOT their wedding! Give it a rest. When you were married you wore what you wanted…Let the BRIDE have that opportunity to have HER day the way SHE wants…
Agree! It's crazy how controlling the previous generations can be under the guise of "tradition"
They probably never got to pick what they wanted when it was their time. So they are living through the younger generation.
What a sweet and loving grand-daughter....she has a big heart and loves and respects her family...the groom is really getting an awesome , beautiful and caring bride.. and Oh Yes ! the dress is perfect !
When going dress-shopping, go alone or bring one person with you. Don’t feel obligated to bring your entire family and friends .
This is exactly why I went alone and picked out my wedding gown and PAID FOR IT MYSELF! And I was 17 years old. My dress was beautiful and I have no regrets.
I thought dresses 2 and 3 were exactly alike. I'm glad the bride stood up for herself and kept going until she found her dream dress.
I had to skip back video, cuz I also thought they were the same.😁
3 didn't have a sweetheart, and looked blander. I think grandma was due for new glasses
They had some similarities, but number three looked better to me.
I was about to write the same thing. Except for the straight line across the bust, I could not tell the difference.
I like #2
This is why I paid for my own wedding dress. No one but me was going to be wearing it. Every bride deserves to pick her own dress
I FUCKIN LOVE MONTE! HE CAME WITH ONE OF THE OLDEST SAYINGS! GO MONTE!
I've always been partial to bearskin myself. It keeps you real warm in the winter.
That was good!! May I borrow that?
Well, at least MIL had the good sense to admit that she was outvoted fair and square on that first dress! And Granny had sense to recognize when the dress was right for the bride, even if it wasn't her own cup of tea.
I love it when these brides are so respectful and when in the end, the family supports her decisions. It gives me goosebumbs in a good way ....
And let's me know what i am missing out on. 😢
This is not Yes to the Dress.. It's Yes to the Veil... 😅😅😅
If I had family members like that, they wouldn't be going to the appointment.
The second dress was the most beautiful with the sweet heart neckline. ❤
Agreed. That's the wedding dress I wore in 2015 ☺️
If you want to wear a dress that you’ve picked with no problems don’t bring everyone with you. My daughter and I were the only ones that went for her search on a dress and when she found what she wanted that’s when we brought her dad. Until she walked down the aisle we had been the only ones who had seen it.
When I was getting married, back in the stone age, I didn't know brides were supposed to have "entourages" and make a big deal about a dress. I saw a bride gown in
a store window, tried it on, and bought it. The dress cost $40 because it had been on a manikin, so they gave me a deal. In reality, no one other than me had tried
on the dress, so it was a win for me. Fifty years later I look at the wedding photos and still feel it was a perfect dress.
@@bookmagicroe9553 I’ve gone with a couple of friends to help them. But it was just the 2 of us. Their mothers weren’t in their lives and I was their best friend. So being the “mom” sounding board was my role. Plus they knew how much I loved them and over all would say yes to anything that made them happy. There was also loads of tears over how beautiful they were.
Perfect!!!! Congratulations!!
When I went to my dress shopping, I only took my father with me. And he said, "Buy whatever you want." 😄
@@kittyblossom7342 and that’s pretty much how my husband treated our daughter. Get whatever you want and tell me how much OT I have to do.. lol
I actually didn’t like any of the dresses, but I’m glad that she got something she liked. However, “we get along real well” isn’t my idea of a ringing endorsement for marriage. Just sayin.
Mother in law shouldn't be there if she can't keep her mouth shut
I support the idea to listening to elder voices with respect and consideration but I don't think it includes personal decisions or influence in big days. And I'm saying that missing my grandma who passed away and I had adored to have the opportunity to take her with me to choose a wedding dress.
After that, I can say this bride deserved to choose her style since the very beginning and the consultant should hear only her voice at the end of the day. Fortunately, Monte was around as Lori as well and despite the strapless lace dress has been seen here too many times, it matches the bride and her vibe.
Thank goodness my grandmother had absolutely nothing to do with my dress selection because I wouldn't put up with this bs. It's my dress and my day
Exactly. I bought mine myself and picked it myself.
There are beautiful long sleeve dresses. I don't understand how they manage to find the ugliest ones
MIL was the one who found it because she was only looking for that style
The future MIL chose it.
I was wondering the same thing. Even if the MIL chose that, the assistants could have found something more appealing. It seems like if you work in that store, you should know EVERY dress on the rack.
Even dress with sleeves IS my dream dress, I completely agree it’s the ugliest one. And the assistant wouldn’t find other dresses anyway because she said she’s wanted dress without sleeves.
That one girl that was awestruck watching her walk, literally too stunned to even have a reaction so supportive 😭
Love how the third dress was barely any different than the second dress, but yep, of course, throw the veil and accessories on and grandma is like 12 !!!!
i think those old bags are forgetting who is walking down the aisle and it isnt them - i guess they would rather have this girl unhappy, regretful and resentful on her wedding day
Why do grandma’s,mother’s and mother’s in law,think they have a say in the dress??? It’s NOT THEIR WEDDING!!!
Exactly!!
Not that it matters, but they were probably paying for the dress
Just don't understand the need to have an entourage - picking a dress by a committee. Never a good idea. Minute a bride says, "I love it" everybody needs to say "Well I do too!"
Grandma is saying what I was told growing up. Brought back good memories. My parents listened to me but until 18 they had the last saty in things
Children should be seen and not heard? What relevance does that have to this situation? This is not a child trying on party dresses, this is a grown woman trying on wedding dresses.
The title alone and first part of the video had me cracking up. 😆.. but the dress the bride had chosen fits her. Grandma conceded in the end . Grandma knew that was the dress
I wore a full sleeved dress with amazing detail on the thick sleeves and an astonishing beaded bodice and medieval style skirt. An amazing very think pearl headress with little pearls sticking out (very Game of thrones) and this was back in the early 1990's . My mum cleverly manipulated me into her pick, by letting me choose others to try one then quietly the wedding dress shop suggested to try "this" one. It was stunning and so different. I assumed her pick was one I was steered towards earlier. Her pick was amazing, and so "me". Remember, all Royal wedding dresses in Britain have long sleeves!
Yeah..
She got a a dress with ugly sleeves but dressses with nice sleeves and charming collars are far more beautifull then without.
Children need to be both seen and heard.
But they should learn not to constantly interrupt when parents are talking.
@@L.Spencer Respectfully expanded to: seen, heard and not should upon.
If you can't see or hear them that's when 80% of the time they're getting into trouble
@@melrobertson2743 😄
I am fine with the seeing, but the noisey little buggers should shut up.
This is why while you want to be respectful, you have to remind people who's the one getting married. Even if that person is your Grandma and future mother in law.
It's not what everyone else wants... It's what u have a connection to and what u love... At that point nobody else opinion matters... It's your day
The bride is wearing the gown, no room for the meddling "elders"!
"Children should be seen not heard" that mentality alone has caused me so much trauma in my life. When I truly had something wrong with me I didn't speak up and now I can't have children.
But the 2nd dress 4:25 and the 3rd dress 5:39 she tried on were not that different!
So it made no sense that her Grandma hated the 2nd dress and suddenly loved the 3rd one, which was practically the same.
I've noticed the same and came here to type it 😁. The difference is in 5 cm of the upper part of the dress.
I liked the 2nd one more.
That's TV lol. Most of the time it's scripted
The grandma was just realizing that her granddaughter is happiest in that style abs that she should support it. If you listen carefully the grandma said”it looks like you”….
Yes they were very similar, but I think dress three was more acceptable because of it's higher, more modest neckline.
@@sandisteinberg731 that it looks like they decided to alter into a sweetheart. Maybe even as a sweetheart, it has more coverage. Some of them, I wonder if the "exposure" will change on any of the dresses after it is the correct size.
So glad I picked my dress out without an entourage.
I hate that saying " children should be seen not heard". I grew up like that. But loving your children is the most important. It's each to their own. You only get to be a parent once per child so you have to do your best. I love being a mum, it very rewarding and at the end of the day, this lady looks like she has love around her so that important. Love from Australia 🇦🇺
People who say that children should be seen not heard should NEVER have kids. Silencing kids and silencing their voices and their laughter and their happiness is utterly criminal.
Just shop alone for a wedding dress. The consultants are all you need. Avoid the family drama.
Mother-in-law said, "I need....".It's not her dress.
“I need” a different hair style- what makes you just give up and do that...?
Hahaha that first dress looks like mine from 1987. That WAS the fashion back then. In prehistoric times!😆😆
Why does her mother in law look older than her grandma😭😂😂
To the bride: RUN, do not walk AWAY FROM YOUR FUTURE MOTHER IN LAW!!
Dress 1 is straight out of the 90s - 1890s that is.
I DON'T GO WITH MY MOTHER IN LAW EITHER TO THE CORNER👿
“The 🐻 skin needs to go to the beach?” Lol!
Maw-in-law shouldn't even be there, and shouldn't have any say whatsoever in the bride's choices of anything!
These are always so much fun to watch when you have a Southern grandma 🥰
I don't know why people take so many people , after all they should support whatever dress she wants it's going to be her day.
Should have left them home!
I agree, why the heck bring an entourage to "help" you pick out YOUR gown????? That's looking for trouble!
She not child if SHE'S getting married. Didn't the old ladies get a chance to choose the wedding dresses they wanted?
The people in the entourage need to remember that it's not their wedding! The bride needs to love the dress.
Monte: "One steel magnolia down another one to go."😂😂
Bride's need to stop inviting future mother's in law, it doesn't matter if you have an amazing relationship, this is between the Bride and people who are there to support her.
Oh my gosh this is the first time I've ever seen MY wedding dress on any of these shows! So exciting 😀 (even though it was called froofroo lol)
I think it was beautiful. I liked it more than theone she picked.
Yes, it's a perfect gown
Aww froofroo ❤️
It's such a beautiful dress!
I thought your dress was very pretty!!
I can’t understand why brides are taking so many people to choose a gown. Especially the MOTHER IN LAW. She should be seeing the gown at the church and no sooner.
We love a stubborn and manipulative family!! 😍😍😍
Haha, true. Makes the show more interesting 😏
Yassss especially the selfish ones 👏🏽👏🏽☺
😂 Well it certainly makes the show more interesting but I absolutely detest the attitudes
Excuse me mother in law?next time just leave everyone home
There is no way I would take my future mother in law to the appointment for MY wedding dress selection. Give me a break!!
“Children should be seen and not heard” wtf is that. Children need guidance and should have the right to make their own decisions within reason. And they most definitely should be heard.. and this is a woman. A grown woman. She should do whatever she pleases.
I dislike those belts and every gown in this store is similar. Every other bride that comes to Lori store buys similar wedding gown. Surely Lori should purchase other gowns from other designers. If you watch Gok or even Randy the store has such different wedding dresses to choose from.
I know what you mean but so many come in asking for those styles. So it leads me to believe it is a cultural thing. Just the way they go on about showing too much skin etc. Some of the British gowns would have them clasping their pearls.
Exactly!!! Their always putting that ugly belt on the dresses to "in their opinions" to make it more pretty or to add bling.. And its always like we're seeing the same dresses all the damn time😒🙄
I think these were filmed a while ago. The dresses are quite outdated compared to the UK version but that was the trend at the time it was filmed. Hated that trend then and still hate it now. Bridal belts are ugly.
This is from ten years ago.
Regarding the "southern thing" about respect
Didn't grow up here just live here bc of the service.
We lived in NY and my mom taught us all .. RESPECT is earned no matter who....if someone is rude ..walk away...mind your own business.. and treat people kind ..
We respected the elders but we weren't taught to put up being treated unkind..
Update: she did wear the dress!
Always love hearing that!
There’s no way I would take all those relatives with me to pick out my dress.
I think they all agreed because of the brides smile...and that's how it should be.