This is EXACTLY how I feel but couldn't put it in words. I thought going back to school would be great but so far only makes me feel more separated from everyone especially girls there.
I’m such an introvert. I love being alone and in my own space. I get so much energy within my own space and being alone. But definitely have to force myself to get out there and do things alone in public.
Santiago x. Same here dog I start having mini panic attacks and I struggle to sit still next to strangers and in I just don’t really enjoy being in public spaces definitely not when there is a lot of people.
First year as a freshman in college and it’s definitely really hard right now. Hard to make friends because of my fear of approaching people. Sigh the struggle
It's my first year of college and I need to learn how to be alone more and how to speak to other people without needing someone with me the whole time.
I was honestly feeling really bad today about my loneliness in school. But seeing all the comments here makes me feel less alone and that other people are going thru it too. I wish there was a sign above everyone's head that would tell you if they needed friends or wanted you to come over and say hi.
Being an introvert sucks because networking in college is (sadly) vital nowadays to secure job opportunities in the future. I used to like being an introvert. Now it seems like a huge obstacle to a better life.
@Tricks Are for pimps I still did that. During sixth form (16-18) I joined a lot of schemes and went to networking events and did internships. I definitely think it's possible to be introverted and not shy. But it still makes it a bit harder.
Yea, I'm trying to break out of it.... the thing is, the more you tell yourself "I'm an introvert/I'm a hopeless introvert" that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and you act how you have defined yourself. And yea, I used to appreciate introversion but in college especially it's beginning to hurt a lot
@@kate1703 id say the reason most people get in a relationship through social circle activities such as school, work, or volunteering is because 1) a lot of guys are too afraid to approach a girl randomly that they find attractive, and sometimes the only guys that do have the courage to do it are a little creepy or pushy in the approach and 2) social circle allows you to interact with the person in a way that is natural, allowing you to show your personality over a longer period of time, and the reason frienships/relationships grow is due to the factors of time spent together, common interests, and of course attraction can be built
you posted this video at the perfect time! Im a 3rd year in college and lately I've been feeling sad about not having a huge social circle and not having a true "college experience." You reminded me to be thankful for the few best friends I have and to not pressure myself to make lots of friends just for the sake of having more friends. Absolutely needed this thank you 👏👏
This comment is everything I fell..i I'm also a third year dental student but I have social anxiety.. I'm never center of attention . Everyone is friends with me but not best friends with. But I'm working on it. Thank you so much
Janhavi kulkarni I’m also a third year and feel the same way. I’d say I have more acquaintances than friends. It’s been a difficult time to adjust socially, but here’s to trying! :)
I started university this year and I’d say I’m pretty introverted, I found that I tend to make friends with a very small amount of individual people rather than large friend groups. It’s more comfortable to stick with one person.
I started college a month ago across the country from my home and my friends and this is the best video i could have watched right now. I've been so stuck wondering why everyone already made cliques and friends while I sit alone in my dorm on weekends because i don't have plans. This was the reminder that i needed. I've been feeling so sorry for myself because my friends back home or my roommates here have been having a huge social life and i've been pretty lonely the past month. thank you for this!!!
Needed this so much rn. I had started noticing my introvertism since 7th grade and I would feel miserable that I couldn't connect and talk easily with children of my own class (I suck at small talk). In 9th grade I found a girl best friend with whom I could share any sort of shit and I've never had such a close friend in my life (sadly she's moved to another part of the country) . Now in 10th grade I embrace my introversion and I'm not desperate to make friends just for the sake of it. Now I'm only left with one great friend (and few other good friends) and I sometimes feel jealous watching girl groups who have been forever best friends and I feel like my current friendships won't last till the next year.
hey same i relate with what ur saying a lot and im just finishing 10th grade and starting gr11 this Monday, im in this new school and i dont have that many friends but i do have some that I consider them close but never really like *best* friends and in the back of my mind i feel like the relationships i have now won’t go for that long, hopefully it would tho. Usually i would see those tight knit big girl groups in school and posting a lot of pics in insta together and that would make me feel like shit tbh, because i would overthink about “why couldnt i be confident and have a big group of friends like that”, but i realise having a couple of true friends is better than have fake ppl in my life. Also i hate how unconfident and socially awkward i am lol but introvertism isnt always a bad thing i guess
Thank you for talking about this!! In a world that promotes extroversion it’s a good reminder that introverts are normal and aren’t all shy or socially awkward 😊
I’m glad this just popped up. I looooove my alone time and keep to myself, but it’s weird because I had a breakdown last night wondering why I’m feeling so lonely.
Yes focus on yourself first than others. It's healthier for your overall health and mind. Then you're able to connect with the right people by doing so. 🤷♀️ i love being alone honestly
omggg one of my favorite videos you have ever made!! i remember you mentioning in your college vlogs a while back saying something to the extent that being introvert and wanting to stay in rather than go out is not a bad thing- it is simply a way of resting and restoring your energy level. that has always stuck with me and i genuinely think about it everyday! i hope to find my group of friends just like you did, but i’m realizing now that the quality of friends is so much more important that quantity. i also liked how you mentioned transferring schools because it is something i did after my freshman year of college and i could not be happier where i am now. im honestly sad you graduated because there won’t be anymore college vlogs to inspire me to be productive but thankfully i can rewatch them! 🤣 but i’m even more excited to see your future videos documenting your new path, especially once you move!!! cheers to the new journey!
I love the editing of this video! The title slides are super cute. I'm a junior in college and I'm so happy I figured out early on that I also love being alone sometimes. It's helped me not get so upset when people say no to doing stuff like going to concerts, cuz I'll just go alone and still have a great time!
Loved your video. I know the problem I struggle with in college is making close friends. I met a lot of people my 1st year but didn't connect with them and as time went by I saw that the people I talked to in the beginning were starting to be in friend groups and I felt sad I wasn't a part of one. I also had trouble being by myself since I was a freshman I didn't want to eat lunch alone or study alone but now that I am a junior I learned that it is okay to eat by yourself and study alone because I work better that way and not in groups. I joined at least 3 clubs this year so I can meet more people and improve on my communication skills. I know if I want to make close friends I need to put in the effort and not wait for others to approach me. I learned to accept that I am a person who is very independent and loves to have alone time but also wants to make deep connections with others. I hope this helps anyone out there in college. :)
As an introvert myself, I thought "Quiet" was a gem. I happened to be taking a class at the time and I used it as a reference to help someone understand that nothing is wrong with being an introvert. Introverts can be successful too 😊
I started my first year of college and I wanted to be popular and all, but then when I was with large group of ppl I always felt left out and not much of energy with em, so I started to be alone n have a little group of friends and iam very happy, my large of friends are good but i dont feel real being with them. Things r going great, and iam happy. My mind always says that it's a bad decision leaving the large group and not being popular but sometimes u have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. So happy to see all the introverts over here, thank u! Love urself, be ur self n dont give a crap abt anyone!
I definitely had a similar thought process in my first year of college. I was thinking about transferring from Emory because I feel like I wasn't making close friends but I'd glad I gave myself some time to really take in and enjoy what Emory has to offer as well as really learning to love to have alone time. Now I have literally a handful of close friends and it's been awesome.
Completely agree with 2:53-3:27. I am a single dude in LA so I do put in the extra effort to meet people. Even talking to someone on the street can make your day (and even theirs). I've recently been trying meetups (the website) and going to social events - and doing so, I meet a wide palette of people with different stories, backgrounds and experiences. It's really fun! and Sometimes you go home with life lessons. 4:24-4:34: Nailed it again. This is exactly what I've been talking to my friends about: "How do I bring up my background without sounding like a dick?". I am trying to market myself as a brand, but I don't know how to bring it up sometimes. "Hi. I'm Ajay. I graduated with a Masters at USC and run a UA-cam channel where I talk about Artificial Intelligence & Machine Learning. Let's connect!". The info is fine, but it's how to slip it in that is important. Don't just shove it in peoples' faces when they don't ask or don't seem interested. Imagine this (I'm sure you can relate @annemarie). You're friend invites you to hang with her group of friends (you've never met any of them before). And just in conversation, she be like "Hey every one. This is Anne Marie. And by the way, did you know she is a major UA-camr?". I cringe at times when my friends do that to me.
This year is my first year of college. I started a month ago. And I don’t approach ppl, I wait for others to approach me bc I’m kinda scared of being rejected. But the problem is, is that the only ppl that approach me are guys, which I don’t mind, but I just don’t really like how they only approach me bc they’re interested in me as a girlfriend, not just a friend. 😐 like I just want friends, I don’t need a bf right now. It’s been a whole month, and not a single girl has approach me. I want girl friends, but it’s such a struggle. And idk if it’s bc some ppl think I don’t speak English cuz I am Asian, and my college is predominantly white.
Jajajaja Pre I'm Asian too and studying abroad in the US. Just talk to them first. Day 1. Smile and say hi to people you usually see Day 2. Ask How they're doing Day 3. Ask their names, what are they studying, talk about yourself Day 4. Ask for their numbers, say "We should hang out" After that. Speak your mind. And be observant and receptive, helpful as you've always been. Live healthily. Don't be affected by anyone's lifestyles. People will not only like but also respect you. With guys: act like you're awkward, know nothing and talk to them like with friends
I accepted the fact that I really like being alone, that I'm introverted, that I have social anxiety when going to new place and talking in front of a crowd and talking to new people. That some things will not go as you want it to. Back in senior highschool, I transfer to a different school because I want a new environment, new friends, meet new people and to end my introvertedness etc. or so I thought, I was so positive that people will just approach you like in the movies but I was wrong since I transferred in my senior years, Everybody is like acquainted to each other already and I'm left alone and me being introverted and having social anxiety make things worse, But I actually tried to talk to them but I got little to no response and they seem uninterested. But theirs this one time before I transfer back to my old school they invited me to come and sit with them I was happy then but they just kinda flat out ignore me like why invite me to just ignore me and sooooo I chicken out, after a month I transfer back to my old school back in my comfort zone, to the few people I feel comfortable with, which I kinda don't regret it, Because seriously I was so unhappy back then that I feel like crying every time I take the bus to my new school actually I cried so yeah maybe because of frustration and anxiety I don't know how to explain how I feel back then, also feel so tired and I even lose weight because of all of that, so I regret nothing transfering back. Now maybe thanks to virtual classes I'm in the comfort of my room but Next year will be the end of VR classes in my country I think, So I need to move to college dorm, sooo more reports in front of the class physically, more talking, more people, more group works but this time physically and just thinking about it makes me me feeeel uncomfortable, I don't know how to explain it. I really want ot change because I can't be like this when I finish college. So here I am in UA-cam lookin for videos, finding comfort that theirs people like me, that I'm not alone, and I want to just share this here.
I just finished highschool and will be going to uni in a few months. My highschool life was not that great/spectacular. I always wanted to feel that "highschool experience" talked about in movies and even in real life,,although it is much more exaggerated in movies.Majority of my friends were popular extroverts and I often felt left out bcs of that. Once my teacher asked the class what they think about me and some student said "sometimes we forget that she exists". I was really hurt by that and cried in the bathroom stall. I don't think that it was right of her to ask like that,,if she really wanted to know me better she could have asked me on a personal level but that is besides the point. It was situations like these which really made me self conscious and impacted my confidence. While I went through the constant sense of feeling left out in school I kept thinking to myself,it will all be over when I go to uni bcs I can start on a clean slate there because nobody would know me and I could be a whole different person(in a good way) there. But now that I have come closer to actually implementing that, I feel scared and uncertain if I can make friends and have fun in uni. Sometimes I try to motivate myself by thinking that this is my one and only life and I wouldn't want it to be boring, but I don't know if my life will be a memorable one. Thank you to anyone who read all this.
My mom told me that when I was a baby, I was so quiet and behave. She told me I would stare at people, especially my sister, as if I was observing her.
I'm in 1st year university atm. I'm introverted myself, but I've managed to find people who I can connect with, which I will admit happened through a stroke of luck, and minimal effort. Even though I have met some people, I feel like I have to meet more people as it increases the chances of connecting with more like-minded people-I feel like it's a waste if I don't make an effort to meet more people. Being an introvert in a quiet home environment is awesome and I can stay alone for as long as I want and be happy. When it comes to an environment like university however, you see everyone in groups, talking and doing things with one another. Observing this before I met anyone gradually made me miserable, and I believe that's human nature; we have a hard-wired desire to be part of a group and to be accepted-a sense of belonging, especially when surrounded by so many groups and people in a pretty foreign and stressful environment.
I am a USC student and I definitely think this school in particular is suited much better for extroverts. For anyone out there who is an introvert and happens to be considering USC, unless you have a very specific benefit available here in particular or already have friends here, I highly recommend you explore other options. The general vibe is of a massive party school filled with networks of people who all know each other. Coming in alone and introverted will require you to be very lucky or very lonely
I soooooooooooo understand what you mean about loving yourself, i’ve noticed as an extremely introverted person once I grew up, at a certain point I started feeling more confident in myself and i started doing things alone more often but feeling comfortable with it, its very empowering.
im in my final year of uni and never made lasting friendships. im easy to make friends with but they never last lol. the day the semester ends, is usually the last day i ever talk to them. i could scroll through my contacts of so many "friends" i made throughout the years, and only have 1 where i actually talked with recently. it's pretty bad but i learned to just accept it. the problem was because I(nor these friends) never made an effort to hang out outside of class. we would just hang out for school projects, homework, and thats it. i also think it could be because of my major(computer science). lots of them were introverted nerds so we just never hanged out lol. reason i say all of this is because maybe people can learn from my experience and do better. try to make friends outside of classes. like join a club, volunteer for some campus activity, or get an on-campus job. if you rely on just making friends from classes, you may not talk to them after it.
I related with so many things in this video T_T making friends, taking time to get used to college, playing up my achievements, being comfortable by myself
Oh I'm freshman and it's really hard to be sociable and approachable. I hate being alone in places where i know exactly no one . I feel like crying and hiding . I want to make friends but college is far cry from high school where introverts are more welcome. I dont mind my own company but when i go outside i feel suffocated and crave a friend's presence .
It helps to imagine everyone in college as all potential friends. Like just see a new person as one of ur current friends, it makes u much more excited to meet a person!
Lol I am an introvert and used to be embarrassed about it. It’s funny because I study tarot and advanced astrology and my birth chart indicated I am an introverted person because a majority of the planets were below the horizon on the exact time and place I was born. Before I learned tarot and reading other cards many card readers told me I am introverted and kind of a loner because it will lead me on the path to learn divination which it did. I think it’s funny because a lot of extroverted people in my workplace think l am interesting and always wants to meet up with me to look at their birth charts and giving them readings.
I feel bad when people ask me: what do you do for fun on the weekend and I genuinely don’t really do anything most weekends.😂 I feel like I’m the weird one in college, when people are always partying or hanging out 24/7. I am an introvert, and I’m not super super into parties, but I wouldn’t be mad if someone invited me to them! I feel as sometimes if people know you’re an introvert they don’t invite you to social events, especially typical events in college such as parties. I don’t really like to drink either, but I don’t care if other people do and would still like to hang out with my friends!
I read that book last year and it gave me so much more confidence and helped me better understand what being an introvert meant and why I wasn't destined for failure for being a "shy kid." Highly recommend it to anyone feeling down about their identity.
i needed this omg, it was my first long day at uni from 11-6 with a 3 hour break and i planned to go out for lunch with this friend i made from my course and she said sure we will go at this time and when i went to her she said she already ate her lunch bc she brought it from home- and thats when it made me burst into tears, i havent cried so much in a public place because of that- but i also realised thanks to you- i should learn to love my own company as well. although i love my own company at home where i feel recharged and everything i just chicken out in public so i dont have the label as the 'loner' like i did back in secondary school and it took me 13 years to find my best friends and two of my best friends moved out for uni while another friend started work- i still have my mutuals from college but they end speaking in their language and dont even apologise for leaving me out like that- sorry for this long rant :(
IM NOT SURE IF ANYONE COULD HAVE CREATED A BETTER VIDEO AROUND INTROVERTS. now that ive got your attention. Here's a book that you (Anne) or anyone reading this will like to read. Book's called "You're Not Listening" It's not focused on introverts like what "Quiet" was, but this book focuses on "listening" in general. I believe introverts have taken the brunt of the self-blame and self-doubt when everyone's focusing on who can talk best. But the truth is, we need to listen more and introverts, I believe, we have an advantage here. Have a read at the book. it pushes for sharing of more authentic stories and listening to each other more. I'd leave you with a few paragraphs that struck me. 'Listening is about the experience of being experienced. It’s when someone takes an interest in who you are and what you are doing. The lack of being known and accepted in this way leads to feelings of inadequacy and emptiness. What makes us feel most lonely and isolated in life is less often the results of a devastating traumatic event than the accumulation of occasions when nothing happened but something profitably could have. it’s the missed opportunity to connect when you weren’t listening or someone wasn’t really listening to you. If you engage in conversations and start listening to everyone as you would scan headlines on a celebrity gossip website, you won’t discover the poetry and wisdom that is within people. And you withhold the gift that the people who love you, or could love you, most desire.’ To anyone reading this and going through tough moments of doubt and blame as an introvert, I believe in you. Keep going.
At first I used to think introverts don't belong in this world and are poised to retain jobs below their skill level since most jobs require effective social communication. But then it came to me that it's what makes us unique & gives us special traits that the common folk don't have. These can be beneficial to society in general & when you think about it, Mark Zuckerberg, possibly the greatest introvert built the foundation of social networking is just crazy. So instead of hating it & being miserable, I took it at face value & as a gift, to utilise what had been given to me, & I've been happier ever since. And trust me, that shows on your face & you'll automatically become much more attractive too, if that was one of your insecurities. Ultimately, I asked myself: *_Who would I be, if not me?_*
The problem with me is that i don’t really know what to ask or talk about so i end up just not talking to anyone. Plus i don’t want to be annoying so i just keep quiet
This is such good advice!!! Yes I don’t want to be friends with only people that look like me 😏 I wish more people were more open to meeting new people that doesn’t always look like them. It seems as if they’re staying in their bubble
College is so hard for me because all of my friends and extroverts. When I’m around people, I want to talk to them and be the center of attention, but after a bit, I want to be alone to recharge. No one gets that. They think I always want to talk, but it’s way too much for me. I can’t be anywhere without having to talk with someone. It so hard, because I don’t want them to leave because I don’t like them, I just can’t be around anyone 24/7.
You are my favorite UA-camr and this is exactly the reason why! I honestly love your sit down videos where you just talk about your advice and your experience on different things about life. I've been feeling kind of lonely recently, I feel like I don't really have any actual friends to hang out with, I only really hang out with my boyfriend and my roommate, but everybody else has their own friend group and belongs somewhere. What you said in this video really allowed me to look at this from a different perspective! AND I'm curious, are you an INFJ? (I am!)
I'm an EXTRAVERT! but...I am socially awkward, claustrophobic, hate being touched, and LOVE my alone time. I can keep talking forever...if I know you well. I normally hang with the introverts... bc I act like one. I prefer to talk to people over mics and ways people can't touch me. Please don't tell me I'm an ambivert or an indecisive introvert. Have a good day, my fellow peeps!
I hear that all the time with extroverts. Theirs a misconception about that. That could be Ambivert. I dated an over the top extrovert who said he was also introvert as he told me and I observed that side of him as I got to know him a lot better. But I internally knew him well enough as time pass by that their was a misconception. But anyways. Introvert constantly feels like an outsider even with love ones. Being alone comes from Self from others. It’s not about taking alone time to recharge. It’s the difference between “I’m alone” vs “I need some time alone” Introverts can take alone time in a crowded bookstore full of strangers. Beings alone comes from a state of emotional separation. It’s that wall we place between us and the external. We can do this while having people in our lives. People who have many friends can still feel alone. People who feel most alone consistently hold attributes and takes actions that separate themselves , exclude themselves and hold themselves ‘incomparable’ to others.
As an introvert freshman I could talk to people face to face (not as natural as extroverts) but yeah i'd say it's pretty good, I'm not socially awkward, I'm group chatly awkward. probably a new disease in a pandemic like this.
Sometimes I eat by myself & it's always the loudest people who seem bothered by it. I heard them gossiping about me. Meanwhile I'm totally fine, just enjoying my alone time. Tired of small talks at University and noisy people lol
I am an introvert but not because I have a problem talking to new people but because I find most humans annoying and uninteresting.The only time when I will be very social is when I am trying to find out what people are like and when I get bored of them I will stop talking to them.
I went to college this year and all the people i know is from my flat. it is a giant flat with 18 people, and I'm so drained by having to talk to them and keep my nice image with all of them who i just don't click with.
2nd year on collage (i call It university) still alone :( In engineering most ppl are shy( like me) like me so its hard to Connect to ppl Jesús this didnt happen to me on high school wtf
Can you make a vid on telling people about a channel? You mentioned that it took you 5 years to really start telling people. I’m kind of scared to be telling people who aren’t my close friends 😂😬
Guys I am from India. First year in college in India sucks. Perverted people are everywhere. No one is like minded. However the advantage is that less social you are, the better. But the sadness still remains
I"m so stressed Being an introvert , i just started My last year of uni and i was super sad that i'll have to be on My own again for another semester and not being able to stay at home cuz i get stressed easily when i'm alone i think a lot and get negative i realy need help i'm soo alone in an environnement full of people
Really interesting video! My situation is the following: I am a Belgian (corona)freshman, and my major is kinda weird so we're only about 60 to do it. That's not a lot, and unfortunately, except for one, I didn't feel any connection with them. Plus I'm not on campus (which is sad, but less than in the US because belgian campusses are pretty boring compared to american ones). Plus there's corona. I mean what do I do if I don't feel a connection with these people? Cause yeah it's not bad to be an introvert. But I realize I would have so much more fun with other people, even though it would be exhausting.
I literally can’t go to the back of my classroom to get a computer because I feel like everyone’s watching me. I have to ask my friend to go with me even thought it’s literally right there. Ah I hate it. Like I know they’re not watching me. That’s why it frustrates me. Advice? :/
My advice is to count to five and just do the thing you told yourself you would/should (get up to get the computer so you can’t turn back, tap the person sitting next to you on the plane to say you need to go to the bathroom, etc). At first, you’ll still get embarrassed and have a rush of adrenaline, maybe your cheeks will get red or you’ll start sweating. But each time you do it, it’ll become easier and over time, you’ll realize you can ask anyone for anything and nothing bad will come of it (obviously within limits). Try it out!! 😊
Seng Jhing not just you I feel that. I almost feel rushed to make friends super fast because I’m only going to be where I am for 2 years instead of the normal 4+
This really couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve had the worst feeling of not belonging anywhere lately.
kaitlyn b online same girl
This is EXACTLY how I feel but couldn't put it in words. I thought going back to school would be great but so far only makes me feel more separated from everyone especially girls there.
Same
That’s the worst feeling ever tbh ☹️ I hope you feel like you belong with yourself and feel absolutely comfortable with yourself
Same it's horrible
I’m such an introvert. I love being alone and in my own space. I get so much energy within my own space and being alone. But definitely have to force myself to get out there and do things alone in public.
Wanting to be alone does not make you an introvert.
@@Slycoomer56 Sometimes it does, but it mainly means that you struggle meeting people.
People give me anxiety, just a call makes me anxious 😩
But I'm actually socially awkward. Even if somebody sits down next to me in college I start shaking on the inside
Santiago x ME. TOO. I get super nervous and my palms start sweating over the smallest things
Santiago x yea I get somewhat uncomfortable when someone I don’t know sits right next to me, I almost want to stand up and walk away
Santiago x. Same here dog I start having mini panic attacks and I struggle to sit still next to strangers and in I just don’t really enjoy being in public spaces definitely not when there is a lot of people.
Me too omg 😟
Same🥺
First year as a freshman in college and it’s definitely really hard right now. Hard to make friends because of my fear of approaching people. Sigh the struggle
jenna lee I relate so hard
jenna lee They are in the same boat as you. Don’t over think it! Ask for help in a question most people like to help!
Why are you so afraid, they are just human, what's the worse that could happen. Even if you get embarrassed, it will go away in like a week
same :(
Me toooo
I have to admit, as an introvert, I need my alone time or I get irritated easily. It's also nice knowing that there are fellow introverts out there.
It's my first year of college and I need to learn how to be alone more and how to speak to other people without needing someone with me the whole time.
I was honestly feeling really bad today about my loneliness in school. But seeing all the comments here makes me feel less alone and that other people are going thru it too. I wish there was a sign above everyone's head that would tell you if they needed friends or wanted you to come over and say hi.
Hahaha that would make everything so much easier and better haha.
Being an introvert sucks because networking in college is (sadly) vital nowadays to secure job opportunities in the future. I used to like being an introvert. Now it seems like a huge obstacle to a better life.
Especially in the world of work
@Tricks Are for pimps I still did that. During sixth form (16-18) I joined a lot of schemes and went to networking events and did internships. I definitely think it's possible to be introverted and not shy. But it still makes it a bit harder.
@Tricks Are for pimps Both shy and insecure. I know I should be networking but it sounds daunting.
Yea, I'm trying to break out of it.... the thing is, the more you tell yourself "I'm an introvert/I'm a hopeless introvert" that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and you act how you have defined yourself. And yea, I used to appreciate introversion but in college especially it's beginning to hurt a lot
Being a guy introvert is harder because girls expect us to approach. I did a few times and it always got awkward. That's it I'm dying alone lol
Keep going dude, it takes practice, honestly the key is to talk as if you know them already, try not to filter what youre about to say to the girl
Fuck girls and the tradition to always approach them first.
@@kate1703 id say the reason most people get in a relationship through social circle activities such as school, work, or volunteering is because 1) a lot of guys are too afraid to approach a girl randomly that they find attractive, and sometimes the only guys that do have the courage to do it are a little creepy or pushy in the approach and 2) social circle allows you to interact with the person in a way that is natural, allowing you to show your personality over a longer period of time, and the reason frienships/relationships grow is due to the factors of time spent together, common interests, and of course attraction can be built
Stay strong man....
My shyness invokes the approach anxiety clause ... feels like 'Inside Out' in me lmao *yikes*
you posted this video at the perfect time! Im a 3rd year in college and lately I've been feeling sad about not having a huge social circle and not having a true "college experience." You reminded me to be thankful for the few best friends I have and to not pressure myself to make lots of friends just for the sake of having more friends. Absolutely needed this thank you 👏👏
I LOVE IT couldn’t have said it better myself!
Feeling same right now! Lying alone in my dorm room.
This comment is everything I fell..i I'm also a third year dental student but I have social anxiety.. I'm never center of attention . Everyone is friends with me but not best friends with. But I'm working on it. Thank you so much
Janhavi kulkarni I’m also a third year and feel the same way. I’d say I have more acquaintances than friends. It’s been a difficult time to adjust socially, but here’s to trying! :)
I started university this year and I’d say I’m pretty introverted, I found that I tend to make friends with a very small amount of individual people rather than large friend groups. It’s more comfortable to stick with one person.
Same here, from being in a big friend group definitely made me feel uncomfortable and that it is better to stick to one person
I started college a month ago across the country from my home and my friends and this is the best video i could have watched right now. I've been so stuck wondering why everyone already made cliques and friends while I sit alone in my dorm on weekends because i don't have plans. This was the reminder that i needed. I've been feeling so sorry for myself because my friends back home or my roommates here have been having a huge social life and i've been pretty lonely the past month. thank you for this!!!
Ashley Kadleck I’m in the exact same situation sis I feel you hang in there
Ikr
This is exactly what I'm going through too wow, I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one
Ashley Kadleck wow were in the exact same situation, I’m not kidding
Needed this so much rn. I had started noticing my introvertism since 7th grade and I would feel miserable that I couldn't connect and talk easily with children of my own class (I suck at small talk). In 9th grade I found a girl best friend with whom I could share any sort of shit and I've never had such a close friend in my life (sadly she's moved to another part of the country) . Now in 10th grade I embrace my introversion and I'm not desperate to make friends just for the sake of it. Now I'm only left with one great friend (and few other good friends) and I sometimes feel jealous watching girl groups who have been forever best friends and I feel like my current friendships won't last till the next year.
hey same i relate with what ur saying a lot and im just finishing 10th grade and starting gr11 this Monday, im in this new school and i dont have that many friends but i do have some that I consider them close but never really like *best* friends and in the back of my mind i feel like the relationships i have now won’t go for that long, hopefully it would tho. Usually i would see those tight knit big girl groups in school and posting a lot of pics in insta together and that would make me feel like shit tbh, because i would overthink about “why couldnt i be confident and have a big group of friends like that”, but i realise having a couple of true friends is better than have fake ppl in my life. Also i hate how unconfident and socially awkward i am lol but introvertism isnt always a bad thing i guess
I'm literally sitting here, 2 weeks into university, watching youtube videos in the library by myself when this popped up 🙏🏼
Thank you for talking about this!! In a world that promotes extroversion it’s a good reminder that introverts are normal and aren’t all shy or socially awkward 😊
I’m glad this just popped up. I looooove my alone time and keep to myself, but it’s weird because I had a breakdown last night wondering why I’m feeling so lonely.
Awww...hope it got better for you ♥️
I had breakdown at night too
@@haleemahzaheer7798 it actually did get better, thank you :) I hope you are okay!
@@mj-zl7kf Good I'm ok too ( ;
introverts unite! i love when u talk about being an introvert, it makes me feel less alone. i've read that book too!
Yes focus on yourself first than others. It's healthier for your overall health and mind. Then you're able to connect with the right people by doing so. 🤷♀️ i love being alone honestly
Very true.
omggg one of my favorite videos you have ever made!! i remember you mentioning in your college vlogs a while back saying something to the extent that being introvert and wanting to stay in rather than go out is not a bad thing- it is simply a way of resting and restoring your energy level. that has always stuck with me and i genuinely think about it everyday! i hope to find my group of friends just like you did, but i’m realizing now that the quality of friends is so much more important that quantity. i also liked how you mentioned transferring schools because it is something i did after my freshman year of college and i could not be happier where i am now.
im honestly sad you graduated because there won’t be anymore college vlogs to inspire me to be productive but thankfully i can rewatch them! 🤣 but i’m even more excited to see your future videos documenting your new path, especially once you move!!! cheers to the new journey!
I love the editing of this video! The title slides are super cute. I'm a junior in college and I'm so happy I figured out early on that I also love being alone sometimes. It's helped me not get so upset when people say no to doing stuff like going to concerts, cuz I'll just go alone and still have a great time!
Loved your video. I know the problem I struggle with in college is making close friends. I met a lot of people my 1st year but didn't connect with them and as time went by I saw that the people I talked to in the beginning were starting to be in friend groups and I felt sad I wasn't a part of one. I also had trouble being by myself since I was a freshman I didn't want to eat lunch alone or study alone but now that I am a junior I learned that it is okay to eat by yourself and study alone because I work better that way and not in groups. I joined at least 3 clubs this year so I can meet more people and improve on my communication skills. I know if I want to make close friends I need to put in the effort and not wait for others to approach me. I learned to accept that I am a person who is very independent and loves to have alone time but also wants to make deep connections with others. I hope this helps anyone out there in college. :)
As an introvert myself, I thought "Quiet" was a gem. I happened to be taking a class at the time and I used it as a reference to help someone understand that nothing is wrong with being an introvert. Introverts can be successful too 😊
I started my first year of college and I wanted to be popular and all, but then when I was with large group of ppl I always felt left out and not much of energy with em, so I started to be alone n have a little group of friends and iam very happy, my large of friends are good but i dont feel real being with them. Things r going great, and iam happy. My mind always says that it's a bad decision leaving the large group and not being popular but sometimes u have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. So happy to see all the introverts over here, thank u! Love urself, be ur self n dont give a crap abt anyone!
I definitely had a similar thought process in my first year of college. I was thinking about transferring from Emory because I feel like I wasn't making close friends but I'd glad I gave myself some time to really take in and enjoy what Emory has to offer as well as really learning to love to have alone time. Now I have literally a handful of close friends and it's been awesome.
Completely agree with 2:53-3:27. I am a single dude in LA so I do put in the extra effort to meet people. Even talking to someone on the street can make your day (and even theirs). I've recently been trying meetups (the website) and going to social events - and doing so, I meet a wide palette of people with different stories, backgrounds and experiences. It's really fun! and Sometimes you go home with life lessons.
4:24-4:34: Nailed it again. This is exactly what I've been talking to my friends about: "How do I bring up my background without sounding like a dick?". I am trying to market myself as a brand, but I don't know how to bring it up sometimes. "Hi. I'm Ajay. I graduated with a Masters at USC and run a UA-cam channel where I talk about Artificial Intelligence & Machine Learning. Let's connect!". The info is fine, but it's how to slip it in that is important. Don't just shove it in peoples' faces when they don't ask or don't seem interested.
Imagine this (I'm sure you can relate @annemarie). You're friend invites you to hang with her group of friends (you've never met any of them before). And just in conversation, she be like "Hey every one. This is Anne Marie. And by the way, did you know she is a major UA-camr?". I cringe at times when my friends do that to me.
This year is my first year of college. I started a month ago. And I don’t approach ppl, I wait for others to approach me bc I’m kinda scared of being rejected. But the problem is, is that the only ppl that approach me are guys, which I don’t mind, but I just don’t really like how they only approach me bc they’re interested in me as a girlfriend, not just a friend. 😐 like I just want friends, I don’t need a bf right now. It’s been a whole month, and not a single girl has approach me. I want girl friends, but it’s such a struggle. And idk if it’s bc some ppl think I don’t speak English cuz I am Asian, and my college is predominantly white.
Jajajaja Pre I'm Asian too and studying abroad in the US.
Just talk to them first.
Day 1. Smile and say hi to people you usually see
Day 2. Ask How they're doing
Day 3. Ask their names, what are they studying, talk about yourself
Day 4. Ask for their numbers, say "We should hang out"
After that. Speak your mind. And be observant and receptive, helpful as you've always been. Live healthily. Don't be affected by anyone's lifestyles.
People will not only like but also respect you.
With guys: act like you're awkward, know nothing and talk to them like with friends
join clubs!
Predominately white are the least friendly colleges.
I am currently at one and it's like I don't exist.
I'm a sophomore in college and everything you said is so true! I love being an introvert in college tho
I accepted the fact that I really like being alone, that I'm introverted, that I have social anxiety when going to new place and talking in front of a crowd and talking to new people. That some things will not go as you want it to.
Back in senior highschool, I transfer to a different school because I want a new environment, new friends, meet new people and to end my introvertedness etc. or so I thought, I was so positive that people will just approach you like in the movies but I was wrong since I transferred in my senior years, Everybody is like acquainted to each other already and I'm left alone and me being introverted and having social anxiety make things worse, But I actually tried to talk to them but I got little to no response and they seem uninterested. But theirs this one time before I transfer back to my old school they invited me to come and sit with them I was happy then but they just kinda flat out ignore me like why invite me to just ignore me and sooooo I chicken out, after a month I transfer back to my old school back in my comfort zone, to the few people I feel comfortable with, which I kinda don't regret it,
Because seriously I was so unhappy back then that I feel like crying every time I take the bus to my new school actually I cried so yeah maybe because of frustration and anxiety I don't know how to explain how I feel back then, also feel so tired and I even lose weight because of all of that, so I regret nothing transfering back.
Now maybe thanks to virtual classes I'm in the comfort of my room but Next year will be the end of VR classes in my country I think, So I need to move to college dorm, sooo more reports in front of the class physically, more talking, more people, more group works but this time physically and just thinking about it makes me me feeeel uncomfortable, I don't know how to explain it. I really want ot change because I can't be like this when I finish college.
So here I am in UA-cam lookin for videos, finding comfort that theirs people like me, that I'm not alone, and I want to just share this here.
I just finished highschool and will be going to uni in a few months. My highschool life was not that great/spectacular. I always wanted to feel that "highschool experience" talked about in movies and even in real life,,although it is much more exaggerated in movies.Majority of my friends were popular extroverts and I often felt left out bcs of that.
Once my teacher asked the class what they think about me and some student said "sometimes we forget that she exists". I was really hurt by that and cried in the bathroom stall. I don't think that it was right of her to ask like that,,if she really wanted to know me better she could have asked me on a personal level but that is besides the point.
It was situations like these which really made me self conscious and impacted my confidence. While I went through the constant sense of feeling left out in school I kept thinking to myself,it will all be over when I go to uni bcs I can start on a clean slate there because nobody would know me and I could be a whole different person(in a good way) there. But now that I have come closer to actually implementing that, I feel scared and uncertain if I can make friends and have fun in uni. Sometimes I try to motivate myself by thinking that this is my one and only life and I wouldn't want it to be boring, but I don't know if my life will be a memorable one. Thank you to anyone who read all this.
My mom told me that when I was a baby, I was so quiet and behave. She told me I would stare at people, especially my sister, as if I was observing her.
I'm in 1st year university atm. I'm introverted myself, but I've managed to find people who I can connect with, which I will admit happened through a stroke of luck, and minimal effort. Even though I have met some people, I feel like I have to meet more people as it increases the chances of connecting with more like-minded people-I feel like it's a waste if I don't make an effort to meet more people. Being an introvert in a quiet home environment is awesome and I can stay alone for as long as I want and be happy. When it comes to an environment like university however, you see everyone in groups, talking and doing things with one another. Observing this before I met anyone gradually made me miserable, and I believe that's human nature; we have a hard-wired desire to be part of a group and to be accepted-a sense of belonging, especially when surrounded by so many groups and people in a pretty foreign and stressful environment.
I am a USC student and I definitely think this school in particular is suited much better for extroverts. For anyone out there who is an introvert and happens to be considering USC, unless you have a very specific benefit available here in particular or already have friends here, I highly recommend you explore other options. The general vibe is of a massive party school filled with networks of people who all know each other. Coming in alone and introverted will require you to be very lucky or very lonely
Which usc? South Carolina or southern Cali I know I’m years late
I soooooooooooo understand what you mean about loving yourself, i’ve noticed as an extremely introverted person once I grew up, at a certain point I started feeling more confident in myself and i started doing things alone more often but feeling comfortable with it, its very empowering.
Needed this video so badly!
im in my final year of uni and never made lasting friendships. im easy to make friends with but they never last lol. the day the semester ends, is usually the last day i ever talk to them. i could scroll through my contacts of so many "friends" i made throughout the years, and only have 1 where i actually talked with recently. it's pretty bad but i learned to just accept it. the problem was because I(nor these friends) never made an effort to hang out outside of class. we would just hang out for school projects, homework, and thats it. i also think it could be because of my major(computer science). lots of them were introverted nerds so we just never hanged out lol. reason i say all of this is because maybe people can learn from my experience and do better. try to make friends outside of classes. like join a club, volunteer for some campus activity, or get an on-campus job. if you rely on just making friends from classes, you may not talk to them after it.
I related with so many things in this video T_T making friends, taking time to get used to college, playing up my achievements, being comfortable by myself
Oh I'm freshman and it's really hard to be sociable and approachable. I hate being alone in places where i know exactly no one . I feel like crying and hiding . I want to make friends but college is far cry from high school where introverts are more welcome. I dont mind my own company but when i go outside i feel suffocated and crave a friend's presence .
It helps to imagine everyone in college as all potential friends. Like just see a new person as one of ur current friends, it makes u much more excited to meet a person!
@@mschell350 it can be hard still ! You can't deceive your mind that easily!
Lol I am an introvert and used to be embarrassed about it. It’s funny because I study tarot and advanced astrology and my birth chart indicated I am an introverted person because a majority of the planets were below the horizon on the exact time and place I was born. Before I learned tarot and reading other cards many card readers told me I am introverted and kind of a loner because it will lead me on the path to learn divination which it did. I think it’s funny because a lot of extroverted people in my workplace think l am interesting and always wants to meet up with me to look at their birth charts and giving them readings.
Literally really what I needed to hear right now, love this
I feel bad when people ask me: what do you do for fun on the weekend and I genuinely don’t really do anything most weekends.😂 I feel like I’m the weird one in college, when people are always partying or hanging out 24/7. I am an introvert, and I’m not super super into parties, but I wouldn’t be mad if someone invited me to them! I feel as sometimes if people know you’re an introvert they don’t invite you to social events, especially typical events in college such as parties. I don’t really like to drink either, but I don’t care if other people do and would still like to hang out with my friends!
Being an introvert is not easy for me.i just hate this life
4 months into College and no friends. No friends in elementary, middle school, and high school I don't know what I was expecting.
I read that book last year and it gave me so much more confidence and helped me better understand what being an introvert meant and why I wasn't destined for failure for being a "shy kid." Highly recommend it to anyone feeling down about their identity.
I needed this right now
I literally bought that book freshmen year and I just graduated college and I never read it cause I was lazy 🤦🏾♀️
i needed this omg, it was my first long day at uni from 11-6 with a 3 hour break and i planned to go out for lunch with this friend i made from my course and she said sure we will go at this time and when i went to her she said she already ate her lunch bc she brought it from home- and thats when it made me burst into tears, i havent cried so much in a public place because of that- but i also realised thanks to you- i should learn to love my own company as well. although i love my own company at home where i feel recharged and everything i just chicken out in public so i dont have the label as the 'loner' like i did back in secondary school and it took me 13 years to find my best friends and two of my best friends moved out for uni while another friend started work- i still have my mutuals from college but they end speaking in their language and dont even apologise for leaving me out like that- sorry for this long rant :(
All of these are seriously so tree really love your videos and your mindset
Love this video. I recommend that book to all introverts. It's really good. Was excited to see that you brought it up in this video.
This video was soo good soo many good tips thank you so much for sharing it really opened my eyes to a different perspective 🥰🥰🥰
introverted or not, i can't ever understand how people need 'someone' to run errands with, go to the shop with etc how annoying!!
You’ll never be lonely if you’re friends with yourself!!
Thank you for talking about this. I make a page in my journal about introverts/introversion so thank you for the ideas and sharing your experiences
Thank you for this video ! Needed this
4:13 this makes us, introverted guys second guess ourselves when we actually want to talk about our achievements. Just saying it was a bit sexist
IM NOT SURE IF ANYONE COULD HAVE CREATED A BETTER VIDEO AROUND INTROVERTS.
now that ive got your attention. Here's a book that you (Anne) or anyone reading this will like to read.
Book's called "You're Not Listening"
It's not focused on introverts like what "Quiet" was, but this book focuses on "listening" in general.
I believe introverts have taken the brunt of the self-blame and self-doubt when everyone's focusing on who can talk best. But the truth is, we need to listen more and introverts, I believe, we have an advantage here. Have a read at the book. it pushes for sharing of more authentic stories and listening to each other more.
I'd leave you with a few paragraphs that struck me.
'Listening is about the experience of being experienced. It’s when someone takes an interest in who you are and what you are doing. The lack of being known and accepted in this way leads to feelings of inadequacy and emptiness. What makes us feel most lonely and isolated in life is less often the results of a devastating traumatic event than the accumulation of occasions when nothing happened but something profitably could have. it’s the missed opportunity to connect when you weren’t listening or someone wasn’t really listening to you.
If you engage in conversations and start listening to everyone as you would scan headlines on a celebrity gossip website, you won’t discover the poetry and wisdom that is within people. And you withhold the gift that the people who love you, or could love you, most desire.’
To anyone reading this and going through tough moments of doubt and blame as an introvert, I believe in you. Keep going.
At first I used to think introverts don't belong in this world and are poised to retain jobs below their skill level since most jobs require effective social communication.
But then it came to me that it's what makes us unique & gives us special traits that the common folk don't have. These can be beneficial to society in general & when you think about it, Mark Zuckerberg, possibly the greatest introvert built the foundation of social networking is just crazy.
So instead of hating it & being miserable, I took it at face value & as a gift, to utilise what had been given to me, & I've been happier ever since.
And trust me, that shows on your face & you'll automatically become much more attractive too, if that was one of your insecurities.
Ultimately, I asked myself:
*_Who would I be, if not me?_*
lmao im like socially awkward with low self esteem and the fact that im going to uni with over thousands of students lowkey scares me
So helpful, it's nice to know there are people in the same boat as me!
I am my own best friend since forever
Ahhhh I miss your college posts. Can’t believe I’m done now too
Thank you fot making this!♥️
this video came at THE perfect time, and is really speaking to my soul ngl
I need my alone time too 👏👏
i really love my alone time
Right on time! I’m just starting uni :)
The problem with me is that i don’t really know what to ask or talk about so i end up just not talking to anyone. Plus i don’t want to be annoying so i just keep quiet
Me has no friends
make friends
Ha nice joke
This is such good advice!!! Yes I don’t want to be friends with only people that look like me 😏 I wish more people were more open to meeting new people that doesn’t always look like them. It seems as if they’re staying in their bubble
I just found this video and I really needed this, thank you so much!! 💗
Thanks for sharing. I definitely needed this video. ❤️❤️
College is so hard for me because all of my friends and extroverts. When I’m around people, I want to talk to them and be the center of attention, but after a bit, I want to be alone to recharge. No one gets that. They think I always want to talk, but it’s way too much for me. I can’t be anywhere without having to talk with someone. It so hard, because I don’t want them to leave because I don’t like them, I just can’t be around anyone 24/7.
You are my favorite UA-camr and this is exactly the reason why! I honestly love your sit down videos where you just talk about your advice and your experience on different things about life. I've been feeling kind of lonely recently, I feel like I don't really have any actual friends to hang out with, I only really hang out with my boyfriend and my roommate, but everybody else has their own friend group and belongs somewhere. What you said in this video really allowed me to look at this from a different perspective! AND I'm curious, are you an INFJ? (I am!)
Literally just moved into uni today and this comes up in my recommended👀🤷♀️
Yesss I can totally relate 👏
Good timing on this video lemme tell ya. UA-cam, you know me so well... *turns off phone, deletes history and cookies
Know me too damn well...
Great Video, just overall good everyday reminder!
I'm an EXTRAVERT! but...I am socially awkward, claustrophobic, hate being touched, and LOVE my alone time. I can keep talking forever...if I know you well. I normally hang with the introverts... bc I act like one. I prefer to talk to people over mics and ways people can't touch me. Please don't tell me I'm an ambivert or an indecisive introvert. Have a good day, my fellow peeps!
I hear that all the time with extroverts. Theirs a misconception about that.
That could be Ambivert.
I dated an over the top extrovert who said he was also introvert as he told me and I observed that side of him as I got to know him a lot better. But I internally knew him well enough as time pass by that their was a misconception. But anyways.
Introvert constantly feels like an outsider even with love ones.
Being alone comes from Self from others.
It’s not about taking alone time to recharge.
It’s the difference between “I’m alone” vs “I need some time alone”
Introverts can take alone time in a crowded bookstore full of strangers.
Beings alone comes from a state of emotional separation. It’s that wall we place between us and the external.
We can do this while having people in our lives.
People who have many friends can still feel alone.
People who feel most alone consistently hold attributes and takes actions that separate themselves , exclude themselves and hold themselves ‘incomparable’ to others.
I love that men are generally more introverted though 90% of the ones calling themselves an introvert are females like just why
watch Thomas Frank.
watch Frank James.
This comment section makes me feel safe ☺️
It is so annoying when one of my friends Keep inviting me to go out or run errands with her like seriously I also need my alone time urgg
Literally got recommended this the night before I leave for college
Kid Rico cool how are u doing now?
As an introvert freshman I could talk to people face to face (not as natural as extroverts) but yeah i'd say it's pretty good, I'm not socially awkward, I'm group chatly awkward. probably a new disease in a pandemic like this.
Sometimes I eat by myself & it's always the loudest people who seem bothered by it. I heard them gossiping about me. Meanwhile I'm totally fine, just enjoying my alone time. Tired of small talks at University and noisy people lol
I am an introvert but not because I have a problem talking to new people but because I find most humans annoying and uninteresting.The only time when I will be very social is when I am trying to find out what people are like and when I get bored of them I will stop talking to them.
I went to college this year and all the people i know is from my flat. it is a giant flat with 18 people, and I'm so drained by having to talk to them and keep my nice image with all of them who i just don't click with.
2nd year on collage (i call It university) still alone :(
In engineering most ppl are shy( like me) like me so its hard to Connect to ppl
Jesús this didnt happen to me on high school wtf
Shyness and introversion is different.
Such an intelligent, helpful video!
Can you make a vid on telling people about a channel? You mentioned that it took you 5 years to really start telling people. I’m kind of scared to be telling people who aren’t my close friends 😂😬
I get anxious when I’m alone a lot though. I worry what people think of me 😣
Guys I am from India. First year in college in India sucks. Perverted people are everywhere. No one is like minded. However the advantage is that less social you are, the better. But the sadness still remains
Are you an ambivert?
Lel, I was an introvert before I knew it. Apparently, I always cried when someone else came to me when I was younger ;-;
Y'all extroverts will never understand. They get so confused when I need my "recharge hour" in the day. lol.
I"m so stressed Being an introvert , i just started My last year of uni and i was super sad that i'll have to be on My own again for another semester and not being able to stay at home cuz i get stressed easily when i'm alone i think a lot and get negative i realy need help i'm soo alone in an environnement full of people
Yup. that book is bomb!
Really interesting video! My situation is the following: I am a Belgian (corona)freshman, and my major is kinda weird so we're only about 60 to do it. That's not a lot, and unfortunately, except for one, I didn't feel any connection with them. Plus I'm not on campus (which is sad, but less than in the US because belgian campusses are pretty boring compared to american ones). Plus there's corona. I mean what do I do if I don't feel a connection with these people? Cause yeah it's not bad to be an introvert. But I realize I would have so much more fun with other people, even though it would be exhausting.
I literally can’t go to the back of my classroom to get a computer because I feel like everyone’s watching me. I have to ask my friend to go with me even thought it’s literally right there. Ah I hate it. Like I know they’re not watching me. That’s why it frustrates me. Advice? :/
My advice is to count to five and just do the thing you told yourself you would/should (get up to get the computer so you can’t turn back, tap the person sitting next to you on the plane to say you need to go to the bathroom, etc). At first, you’ll still get embarrassed and have a rush of adrenaline, maybe your cheeks will get red or you’ll start sweating. But each time you do it, it’ll become easier and over time, you’ll realize you can ask anyone for anything and nothing bad will come of it (obviously within limits). Try it out!! 😊
annemariechase thanks for the advice! I’ll try it out today. Some days are better than others but I hope I get better.
Being a transfer student, to me it’s worst. It’s just me maybe.
Seng Jhing not just you I feel that. I almost feel rushed to make friends super fast because I’m only going to be where I am for 2 years instead of the normal 4+
@@alecgoldstein5498 Rip, I want to do my Master in Sweden, but I am so afraid of not connecting with anyone and then sitting there like yeahhhh....
@@alecgoldstein5498 Yeah that is true for me as well
@@Lucas-if8wt finding someone to connect is the hardest and people have their own preferences on what friend do they want.
I consider myself an Introvert too 💯🗣🗣
If anything you're an extrovert who likes to be alone. Labels for people are so stupid but oh well most people don't even understand them.
Extroverts like being around people.
Thank you so much 😇 really Thank you