How to Get Over the Fear of Commitment - Teal Swan
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- Опубліковано 25 вер 2015
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The fear of commitment is a perpetual state of avoidance. Whether it’s the hesitation to commit to a relationship or a career or a decision or whatever else, it’s like trying to drive through life with the parking brake on. In this episode, Teal explains what the fear of commitment is really about and how to let go of that fear so that you can commit to the things you wish to commit to.
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I got chills when you said "You cannot get this life wrong." I realize I have been subconsciously believing this and I need to let that belief go. Thank you!!
Never realized how afraid of loosing freedom I've been. Thx!
i feel you. teal has been the genuinely most compassionate person i've had touch my life in any capacity. the rest were always of my failures reflecting badly upon them. ironically, these are the very same people who're so cautious to avoid mistakes they avoid life altogether to not appear stupid in society.
Damn...... That's ..... Amazing
I was watching this to help someone else... it ended up being about me.
This is more often the case.
This is so true 😭
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The Universe is ironic isn't it 😂 great job for figuring it out tho!
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Summary - How to get over the fear of commitment
1. Realize you are committed to something else -> Committed to your freedom.
2. Realize the damage that not committing has done to your life.
3. Love the aspect of you that is afraid of committing.
4. Become aware of your needs, Don't suppress your needs and Meet your needs.
5. Get deeply in touch with you feelings.
6. Let go the idea of perfect.
7. Practice meditation.
8. Commit to improve your self esteem.
Thank you
I didn’t even watch the video, but your summary spoke to me. I am committed to my idea of freedom - because that’s how things have been for me for a long time. Now I’m afraid of letting anyone in and take up space.
Thank you.
This just nailed my entire life…beyond enlightening, Teal. Eighteen minutes that yielded greater help than five years of talk therapy.
how is everything after 4 years?
@@dyzoly Glad for your note that put this video in front of me again! Members of this club definitely need reminders of the wisdom here. : )
👍🏿 great to hear this
I turn on subtitles and take pages of notes on her videos for added comprehension. Her stuff is gold.
I’m a therapist and wish I could like this comment more than once. There is so much depth in her videos and practical things to improve. I’m a huge fan and learning lots myself. It’s really helping me out with my own healing process
story of my life. 23 years of being single, always avoid responsability, And never fully commit to what i like.
Hope you have worked something out
Same, 22 years single woman always avoiding relationships before it goes too deep. Running away from everything I want.
Same.
Update: I got into something to give commitment a shot but it ended with me realizing the dude himself has commitment issues
@@BD638 lolll how are you doing now? I respect you giving it a shot a lot and i hope you will find what youre looking for
I'll be watching this one many times over.
Hey its been 6 years, is it time to revisit this video? I hope you've overcome!
This woman read my entire 37 years on earth in under 6 minutes!!!! 🤯 I’m amazed. I now have hope. This video was published in 2015 and it took my desperation to understand myself and why I won’t commit that aligned me to this video in this moment. All the work I’ve done has opened my mind and heart to receive this message. I finally have hope in my ability to change my issues with committing. I’m very scared in this moment but I am also extremely exited. Thank you.
I feel the same. Finally I arrive at this moment, like stepping into the darkness, with nothing but a flash light and some love, and I'm afraid but excited.
36 years later
Aw thanks for this! afraid of commiting to a career path! I need to stop thinking of career paths as death sentences xp.
Do your life purpose reading with christine Pavlina
It is.
I love this because it goes beyond something like commitment in a relationship ... It transfers to regular life and making decisions.
I can’t thank you enough for this! This is going to change my life!!! 🙏🏼
“You cannot get this life wrong, so break free from the paralysis. You have been thinking that commitment is the thing that is going to trap you when in fact it is the very thing currently that is going to set you free!” 🙌🏼
I just got in a relationship and I'm afraid of committing. Haha teal you are so on point. This is definitely a vibrational video.
Update plz?
What are you afraid of?
Teal how do you do it. Literally, every week, your message is EXACTLY what i need to hear.
Wow, I realized I have a problem with fear of relationships but always painted it with "I want to be free"
I grew up in an unloving home with a father who controlled everything we do, and seeing my mom watching this and not getting out of the toxic relationship she is in, made me realize there might never be a way out if u picked a wrong partner..
I promised myself at the age of 8 that I would never be in any relationship, that I would forever be single just to protect myself, and even tho I had some feelings and crushes on guys I made sure to never show it or express it.. I have never accepted a date in my life.
Am older now and I feel like I really can't yet overcome it, if anything it's worse, now I have my friends who are in terrible relationships and marriages that is literally destroying their lives, so the risk of it is not even worth at all compared to the risk of just being single..
I know it's not a healthy way to live in fear, and am sure have lost some good opportunities, but it's almost impossible to erase all the damage I have seen from relationships..
After watching this I realize that looking back, I haven't committed to much of anything out of fear of abandonment. If I don't give over all of my energy, then it can't be taken away. Now I realize that free will isn't about avoiding a commitment, its about choosing what we commit to. Think my life is about to change. Thank you Teal.
I’m with you. Didn’t this feel like getting hit over the head with a 2 x 4? This makes such perfect sense. I’m watching this two years after you, so I’m behind the game, but I’m going to try. Sure wish I could’ve seen this decades ago.
Come back here if u need it
I hope that's been working for you
where has this video been my whole life
So often your topics relate to what I'm dealing with right when you upload them.
Lol I was just about to post this same comment and it was the first one I saw dafaq is it with these syncronicities. I had a real creepy one today, almost passed out
I know lol. Today I was explaining to a colleague at work the last time we had a full solar eclipse was 1999, and as I said this I just happened to look down at a product that was £19.99p
+David Krolak She is riding the same star beams as you are David. Many others are too
+Adamkww93 I get a bizzare amount of syncronicities, what is that saying to you/me??
+David Krolak Just thinking the same thing and saw your post! amazing how that works...
This just changed my life. I don’t know how you know this, but even the sentences are from scenes of my life, even from this very week
…… I had no idea it was because of this but now I remember….. 9 years of lonely struggle!
Teal you are amazing!
Ofcourse she is the best
Having a long term commitment to personal sovereignty and freedom makes is unsettling to commit to lower vibration things such as 3d jobs/careers. Many 3d 'commitments' are only part of the journey and can always shift into something higher vibration without fear or hindrance in a smooth transition to something more heart spaced and perhaps life purpose based. Fear will stop anyone in there tracks if one can't expand beyond fear to a higher vibration. Just think what's the best that can happen, never focus on the negative only the possibilities that you can and will align to, because we are creators/co-creators, like vibrational energy aligns. That's some of my random thoughts anyhow. Thanks Teal, always feel expansive after hearing your words of wisdom. Much gratitude and love.
Zach Tele solid interpretation
Had a relationship with an avoidant person once, this was very eye-opening. There are so many things I recently learned about relationships and why humans decide for certain things even though they seem to be bad for themselves or their partners. It all starts to make sense.
you are amazing ...this "problem" has really been giving me a hard time at all kinds of things in my life ,as long as i can remember... ur words hit me hard and i was crying through almost the whole video... thanks for all the clarifications and advices..when u find urself in a situation where u cant explain it in a logical way, desperation can drown u and all that "fogginess" and "why's" can really drive someone insane so easily...
keep doing what u re doing!
Amen to that
The inner critic in me because of my narcisstic mom... & I just wanna put this out there that Teal is NOT a narcisstic... I DON'T feel the mind trap from her that I have felt with a certain someone in my life. Your welcome, Teal!!! 💗💗💗
The fact that you said at the end that you are justified in not wanting to commit to things in life or take responsibility really means a lot to me, thank you. I hear the perspective of "you NEED to commit to making your life better" as though it is wrong to fear commitment and growth, so hearing that really helped ease my self-invalidation
I am a full time commitment-phobe... and I feel lots of guilt and pain because of it.
This video was exactly what I needed. Sometimes it's scary but beautiful how that happens. You're really awesome Teal Swan.
Only you understand me teal! Thanks🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Seriously how can people talk bad about her.. She tells the truth and tries to help us..
This video feels like my first stepping stone to me understanding my fear of commitment to relationships. Millions of thanks for your information Teal. I am an instant fan.
Every week you explain where I'm at. I believe this is a constant channel for the growth of all of us. Every week you take me to the next lesson. I know these are bad analogies but truly, it's like last week I did my homework, to be ready for this week. I think this video for me right now, is probably the most important since you announced 2.0. I'm only committing to not commit at the moment. I used to be able to just go and do something new. But this year has been the hardest of my life in regards to full time internal and shadow work. Can I even thank you Teal ? Thank you truly isn't enough. You know, I have committed to something this year. My commitment was made over a year ago when I had just split with a lady. My commitment to myself was this "I'm going to fully embrace this pain and work on my shadow". Today is my birthday. I'm 44. I know exactly where I was this time last year physically. But mentally and spiritually.....I flew to and around the moon and grew more than the last 10 years, in a physical place that I always believed it could never be done. I have to be honest, I'm scared. I'm scared I will end up going backwards. But at the same time I know I won't. It's a lack of confidence too I think. But in saying that, I'm more confident than ever in other areas. It's bizzare ! I need to know why I feel this way about the next part of my free life.....I've always been able to just move on. For some reason I haven't had my intuition tap me on the shoulder as to where I need to go physically. Yes, I know, maybe I need to stay where I am, but my intuition gives me enough to know that I must move on also. I do apologize for taking up comment space ;-)) You're wonderful, thank you Teal
Thank you so much for the free content Teal💜 I watch a video almost every day and write down my awnsers to the questions. It got me out of depression and self hate and it is getting better every day. The Law of Attraction Community damaged me a lot an I was constantly anxious. I really thank you from my heart 🙏🏽
Teal! This video has spoken to me more than any of your other videos. Thank you so much for your wise words!!!
everything you mentioned in that video reflects my life. i have a long way to go thank you
This is amazing. Everything is on point from my confirming my fear to why it started and what to change in my life. Thank you so much! Can’t believe I can get this for free instead of enrolling in a session or a series of it.
I don’t know how but I’ve always had clarity to what I want. It comes from within me. It’s so strong that I focus fully in that and if it doesn’t work I have the satisfaction of knowing it was not up to me.
You are very lucky! I wish I were like that.
thank you very much for making it so clear! It took me years and years to find out why I wasn't doing what I should do. I avoid everything, but I found out a little while ago that there's no escape.... and that all the dreams I have will not happen....so sad. But I am on the right track now. Thank you again for your video!
15:50 this brought me to tears. I feel very seen
Thank you so much Teal. I've been having a lot of concerns with this issue the last 2 years and this video really gave me peace of mind.
That is the best video on Fear of Commitment I have seen so far. Thanks for that Teal!
The validation at the end was what I needed. Thank you, Teal.
Powerful. I think I will be listening again! Thanks to the friend who sent me this link!
Chills...This is a BIG realisation for me today, thank you Teal for your awareness and wisdom, and compassion, you are a goddess
You are absolutely amazing!!! You pinned down every feeling , every thought about my problem and I now know what I really have, coz it was unclear, every time I had to come to it. The best thing was to discover where I got this commitment scare and the childhood trauma... thank you dad, thank you mom. Especially the paralysis.. how many years did I have to live like that. Well, at least I know my strengths , when I realise what is the problem, I get very methodical to get rid of it. It is scary when you don't know what's happening to you and why.
how did you discover it and how did you heal?
Thank you so much for uploading. Seriously needed it right now.. I realized I'm so committed to distraction rather than what I want my focus to be on. This really shed a lot of light for me.
Perfect timing. Thank you so much Teal :) You're incredible.
I love you, TEAL. Thank you for coming into my life. I'm at the precipice considering the commitment of a leadership program. Your 18 minutes made the difference. I'm jumping in.
the way you speak, calmly, how you look into the camera, it really makes feel and understand everything you're saying. Outstanding job.
I love you so much Teal, Thank you for making videos to help the collective heal. ♡
Thanking the Universe for this word! Definitely needed it
Thank you so much Teal Swan!! I felt so excited learning this new piece to the puzzle of my mind! Thank you!!
Thanks for the update and for the most important help you gave us
The best information on this topic by far. Thank you, Teal. 🙌🙌🙌
Thank you Teal. Always insightful and helpful. Every video you put out I just love. 💖 You are such a blessing Teal 💖
I have listened to this video and cried a river. You have described me completely.. Am still crying...
Oh I loved this one! Thank you Teal🙏🏻 yet again 💎💫🌅🩷
4:50...this hits the nail right on the head. Growing up, my mom has always been so controlling. I didn't see it as much as a kid but as I got older (I'm 21 now), it's more recognizable. This is why I'm having commitment issues with my girlfriend who I've been with for a year. It finally clicks, and it finally makes sense.
WOW! That was unbelievable! Your videos always arrive EXACTLY in time for the next "lesson" that I am dealing with. That was SO Powerful! Thank you SO MUCH for helping me rebuild my life ... one teensy bit at a time. I have been watching you the last year and have turned so many people towards you :-). I am so Blessed with your Wisdom! Thank you Teal :-). Best of everything to you Pretty One! Love, Julie
This’s such an amazing and healing video! Thank you very much for taking time and making this video! It’s helped me a lot!
Wow this was so much truth and spoke to my soul so deeply that I actually cried.
I don’t comment much but this FAR surpassed anything I expected to see on UA-cam and honestly helped me more than any counseling or therapy session I’ve ever been to! Bless your soul and your insight!! I will truly carry this lesson and message with me in future relationships.
Reminder since us of this group need this. Remind me too in the future please, someone!
Thank you! This was VERY helpful! Now I want to commit to myself and what is important to me - to self love.
one of your videos started playing right after I watched someone else, and since then I’ve been watching and watching & have been so grateful. Some of the videos are blowing my mind (in a good way...lol). I’m so thankful, I’ve been telling people when I think they are open to it... and I try to let the advertisements play all the way through in hopes it will help your financial plan to try to change our government.... I hope it helps.
Wow! This really hit home hard. She’s absolutely right about everything she said. I’m living proof of that. What I wouldn’t give to have known this at least 20 years ago. Teal, you’re brilliant. 💕💕
A friend sent me this about 3 years ago, and I watched the video again now. This time from a different angle. Most people think that not wanting to be in a relationship is the same as phobia to commitment. A commitment phobic may be eager to have a romantic relationship, a family, may love someone deeply but the idea of committed relationship makes them feel an acute anxiety and turmoil to the extreme of loosing that person they love. It happened to me, and I worked hard the following years to make sure the history didn’t repeat. Now I realized that that phobia has “levels”. While my kind was more subtle and difficult to identify than others, perhaps a little less extreme or less obviously damaging, the reality is that it prevented me from engaging in true love relationships were I didn’t have to put and expiry date in my head not to feel trapped.
Now as a joke of the universe I met someone with a phobia to commitment so extreme and at the same time so lost and with so much love inside that person that separation from him feels like giving up on me. Even if we stop out love relationship I want him to find the peace I have today, with or without me. It breaks my heart seeing him suffering. What a process this is… :/
im barely 5 min in and my jaw is on the floor
this topic is huge for me & the fact that this is helping me become more aware of it when it used to be subconscious --- I'm deeply grateful --- now I can choose to commit consciously & what I wanna commit to
Reminder of this video!
I'll be forever grateful to you and for you Teal.
This was such a great video. Thank you so much Teal.
Heart warming and confidence building.. Beautifully presented thankyou Teal Swan
This just changed my life ! Thank you so much, Teal !
Just what I needed to hear, thanks Teal! This one really hit home for me
Great video and will check out those others ones recommended. Thanks Teal
God I love this gift of a person!
Your so awesome! Thank you, you really help with the struggles I go through.
Thank you Universe,Teal!Love and miracles!
Very deep, thank you. You made me realize my roadblocks after struggling with it for nearly half my life. Thanks Teal. Much homework to do now.
I needed this. Every word of it. Thank you 💕🙏
Thank you for this amazing medicine.... I have needed to face this inside of me for ages, now I am going to actively take steps to help myself. I have a deep fear of commitment for every single reason that you listed in this video. Thank you, I feel like I just had a therapy session
OMG. You were reading my mind to do this video topic this week. thank you. it is so helpful! every time you post a video it is what was on mind mind that week!
That's amazing video, thanks!
Been working on myself for the past 10 years, closed off most limiting beliefs except this one - commitment to jobs - and I'm so glad I saw this video today, extremely timely! Just so sick and tired hearing myself whinge about how my work/business progress is slow because I haven't been able to commit my energy and mindframe to it properly!
I'm so super grateful for you!!! Thank you, Teal.❤
Thanks, I do watch yours videos for a long time. The truth is always needed to hear.
You always make so much sense. Just what I needed to see/hear.
This women just read my whole life. I am so glad I found this video. Already subscribed 💓
Life changing wisdom. Brought me out of unbearble anxiety, which was about to sabotage yet another relationship. Life changing!!! 40 years old and never understood myself better than right now. Hellish life due to childhood and adolescent control and climate of fear. "You WILL be perfect, according to MY DEFINITION of perfect." I was aware of this injustice and resented it from about 9 years of age. I was told repeatedly that life was unbearable, not just difficult, if I didnt get TOP MARKS, life would devour me. Fear, not love. Acceptance was banned. Thank you so much Teal Swan, the single most important thing Ive ever watched anywhere.
A few hours before I watched this video, a Catholic priest (a young, wise, sincere man) told me he would " pray for me to have wisdom". This video has changed my life. His prayer was answered. Thats no coincidence.
Needed a re watch so good 🥰
Thanks Teal, as always your words bring me back to life.
Perfect! Thank you.
Please dont take it otherwise but I need to say I love you.......what a message that I have been longing to hear......You really moved me!!! Period.....I am breaking free from all this chains that are stopping me from claiming my Victory!!!Thank you
This is totally me.. Needed this!!!!!
You're so spot on for my life right now!
This video is a game changer, I have been living in fear of commitment all my life...
She's soo calm 😊😊and explain things better
This is brilliant! Great job, Teal and Blake.
Thank you so much for opening my eyes and helping me help my self. ❤
Brilliant, thank you for this video Teal. I will listen to this a few times to make sure I retain as much information as possible to help me. This is me completely. I am in love but just can't get to him because of my commitment phobia.
That was beautiful. Gave me goosebumps at the end. Thanks for the video
Perfect as always. Thank you
I normally hate this kinda stuff, but wow, this is so spot on. I gotta watch this like a million more times
your smile at the end of the video is priceless, teal...it means victory
Wow!!! Teal so gets me!!!! Thank you for understanding me even more than I do.. and putting it into words and pix that I understand.. That's # 2 of mind blowing knowledge. Now I knew a little but, the way you put it..I sooooo get it.
Your help has such a positive impact on my life. Thank you!