Dating Coach Reacts to LOVE ON THE SPECTRUM U.S. | Autistic Dating Show Review
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Lmao with the advice about eye contact. As a person with autism, eye contact makes it harder to focus and process the words that are being said. I am more comfortable with less eye contact and I don’t take it as someone being rude, although I know it can be perceived that way or as disinterest for neurotypicals. It’s hard out here 😅
Just be you ♥️
yes right!! i recently started liking to socialize but keeping eye contact is still kind of a no go. i guess that’s just him being neurortypical, it’s different for us, just like you said.
I would've hoped he'd have done just A BIT of research before making the video.
+1. Exactly.
Right!
Knowing Abbey and David are still together makes seeing their fist date so much more special to me for some reason.
I agree with you ❤
It gives us hope
Love that in season 2 they actually go to Africa together. Their Lion King duet was adorable.
it was the best
I almost teared up at that moment it was so cute
You can’t suggest that ND don’t avert their eyes. Sometimes we can’t use eye contact the same way that NT can. It is a particularly difficult thing for many ND people.
"I am glad, I'm so young from YOUR perspective" *smiles and adjusts in his seat* Dude just roasted his dad so smooth. Love it! 😂 He was so pleased with himself 🤣 and you know what? I am pleased with him too.
Just a note on the eye contact : for some on the spectrum eye contact and emotional expression can incentivise a sensory overload in the subcortical system resulting in discomfort and sometimes pain. For me, I am unable to process input information and speak coherently. The severity depends on how well I feel I know the person and what my stress levels are like.
The energy in this show is so damn pure
I can relate to Abbey saying she doesn’t feel human. Thank goodness I now know why. It wasn’t fun not knowing about autism and feeling inhuman. Now I feel more human knowing.
same ! diagnosis explains so much
Netflix has released season 2 and David takes Abby to Africa, and it's so damn beautiful and pure ❤ they're truly a match made in heaven. They're comfortable with each other and accept themselves the way they are ❤
18:23 He doesn't need to use eye contact. Im autistic, and eye contact is hard, and i won't be able to concentrate. On anything. Then I get anxious. Looking away helps.
I just got diagnosed autistic and I agree…I can maintain eye contact (probably full blown staring) if I’m in love but if we aren’t in love I can’t look someone in the eye for very long at all and find it much much easier to just look away.
A lot of people don't understand. It's frustrating
James is my favorite. He's reasonably confident, extremely thoughtful, and has a lot of interesting knowledge to share.
I have autism, I have been diagnosed with it when I was 6 years old and I discovered it when I was 12. I'm 20 years old, an aspiring filmmaker and no, I still haven't got my first kiss yet. But hey, life goes on, right?
You will!! Keep the faith!
20 is nothing! There's plenty of time for that stuff 😎
I’m 24. And I haven’t been kissed either. I mean I did have opportunities where I know some men would have kissed me I just didn’t like them
Seems to become a bigger problem past 25
Dont be in a hurry! It will happen and it will be exactly what you want!
The advice to a group of autistic people to PRACTICE EYE CONTACT is wild lol
That’s the top most stereotypical symptom and it can be physically uncomfortable and actually make focus a lot harder, especially being AuDHD.
10:00 even as someone very low down on the spectrum, what James said is 2x as powerful. It takes a lot of energy to look someone in the face or the eyes. To find someone where I'll never be anxious while making eye contact is profound. James will find that person.
True. I totally relate.
Anthony on giving without being needy or coming off as a simp: "If you never saw this person again would you be at a 10 in happiness? If so, then you can do anything you want."
This and the whole commentary around the 15 min mark hit hard for me. Reminds me of what I think of as the "Elf" mindset when Will Farrell goes on the first date with Zooey Deschanel in Elf: Enthusiastic about life and happy to share with others but not dependent on any one person for happiness
I adore this show! I have adhd and I know autism isn’t close but it just opens your eyes to see that everybody has their own struggles in life and these people are troopers! I hope they all find love they all seem so sweet! It’s sad that we
ostracize people like this they are just like us! So glad this show exits and ty Anthony for the lovely review so cute
Adhd and autism are actually relatively close
I have autism. A more mild diagnosis but this show is sad for me
Actually ADHD and Autism are close cousins! We are all neurodivergent queens and kings and everything in between 🧠👑
@@018milliondollarbaby i like to think of ADHD as Autism’s hyper cousin
Thank you all for the info I didn’t realize they were so similar! Hello neuro divergent family!
I'm 25 with high functioning autism and had half a dozen relationships spaning from 3 months to 9 months.
I understand the wish to be like other people as it is hard to do the most basic things that others take for granted.
The difficulties with smells, noises, touching, bright lights and tastes is hard to over come. Going out for dinner is extremely difficult but is a must for dating.
We autistic people don't do eye contact well or at all. For me eye contact for more than a second or 2 is painful
This is my favourite show of all time and I want to be best friends with everyone on this show and the Australian version. Thank you for highlighting this show :)
Dani is so cute and pure like a real life Velma from scooby doo
She's an adult
She has the best style by far! all her date looks were hits
This is seriously my new favorite show! 😍. Abby and David are my favorite couple so far! So wholesome and heart warming!
I love Abby but Connor is my favorite... he's so funny!!!
I've watched every season. It's pure joy
14:00 - I'd be lying if I said I didn't cry through that whole section about wanting to give selflessly, and not needing to worry about it becoming "safe enough to give". "Focus on how you feeling on the inside". I have anxiety, and it is so easy to get wrapped up in saying or doing the right things, or overanalyzing conversations. Thanks Anthony.
This season was great glad I got to see you react to it!
I truly enjoyed this video! I am autistic and lgbtq. I'm planning on trying the dating scene. My parents are in support. I enjoyed your reaction to the show!
Well, you've got alot going for you.
Yes we need a second episode!!!
I love this video, please do more on this show!
Love this show, so excited to see you on skilshare and what else you put out. I've watched all seasons of Love on the spectrum plus some, it really is rejuvenating and reminds me. Just to be me.
I have so enjoyed the series as well, and have fallen in love with all the characters. Some of them have even got their own UA-cam channels now. Abby is so fun to watch and of course all of them are amazing humans. It’s beautiful to see how different autism can affect different people too.🙏🏻💕✨
Loved this season and last AND her, shes such a character, so fun and enjoyable to watch, I want to hang out with her! She rocks!!!!! Love all these ppl
Loved this so much 💗🤩😂! Please make part 2-6 ! 🙌🏻😂
I really love James' family dynamic lol they're so loving and fun
Second episode! ❤ this feed back I'm sure could be valuable to people on the spectrum.
Keep going! So many twists and turns especially with Dani’s story!!
Loved this!
I love your energy throughout this video! When you laugh, I cannot help laughing with you!
It is because we are both ENFPs?
And these people on the show are great! I also would like to meet them in real life!
Please make more videos on this series 💕
I loved this show !!!! Also, Steve is such a sweetheart oh my goodness 😭
steve was totally my fave!!!
omg I love your reaction. I hope you react to the rest of the show
Interesting insights as always
Yes, more of this please!!! The other people are great as well!
Can't wait for you to react to season 2!
So i went to high school with dani and i'm still friends with her. she lives with her aunt and uncle not her parents. She had a lot of problems with solomon because of some of his behaviors. it ended baaaaaaaaaaadly. I also know that she was drunk during the scene where she met solomon.
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loved this season and did y'all know David and Abbey are still together! they post online!
this new season they have gotten so close
Doesn't need to be a video, but you should definitely watch sidemen 1vs20 with filly. It's a lot better than the first 2
Absolutely 👌🏾🔥🔥🔥
Agreed!!!
Please this would be quality
Please do the whole show
I’m very recently diagnosed autistic at age 42 and I find it just very interesting the neurotypical thinking about eye contact. I find it easiest to think and talk freely when I am looking away from someone’s face, unless we are already in an established relationship and in love and I can stare into his eyes and say I love you. But just any intellectual conversation even with someone I am so close to, it is easiest to focus on other things with my eyes to allow the thoughts to flow. I have found the best early dates for me involve walking or hiking where you can just look ahead of you and focus on the conversation and not worry about looking or not looking at the other person.
It's interesting just how much impact confidence has, I'm also autistic but didn't realize it until a year ago. Had struggled with any form of social interactions and identity issues. A year later and I'm working weekends in a popular techno club, getting compliments for my charisma or my appearance (all while being as true to my nature as the situation allows)
I really strongly believe anyone is able to make a beautiful and an insecure impression, depending on your comfort zone
Woww loved this sooo much 😍😂 Made me laugh a few times, these people are soooooo cute damn they have more social skills and are funnier than most people 🤣
i hope you make another video about love on the spectrum!
You give great advice
I may be potentially undiagnosed so I don’t know how actual diagnosed autistic people feel about this show, but to me I found it really wholesome and enjoyed it so much more than other dating shows out there because these people actually have character and a personality and special interests that aren’t limited to partying 😂 no hate no shade I just personally found Love on the Spectrum to be very eye opening and engaging, I was rooting for every single person on the show. Not something I could say for the likes of Love Island or 90 Day Fiancé. Anyway, if any autistic people want to respond with how they felt about the show, by all means go for it :))
I likely gonna get diagnosed I enjoyed this show
I'm autistic (diagnosed) and.. it was a bit difficult at first because seeing some of my quirks displayed is so unusual to me it was almost scary at first lol especially bc I've tried to unlearn those behaviors in order to fit in for so long. but as I got used to it I even started questioning myself why I go to the lengths of hiding those parts of my demeanor when it'd be much easier and more genuine to own up to them and be confident about who I am.
Basically, this show wasn't only amazingly heartfelt and inspiring to people who may not understand or know much about autism, it was inspiring to me as an autistic person as well.
I love this! I only ask that you learm more about autism and eye contact. Eye contact is so incredibly personal and its hard to follow the conversation because of over stimulation ❤
I absolutely need to see what happens next.
people with autism don't usually like eye contact, so I don't think it's a good tip.
Me.
ND people often rush all kinds of relationships.
We can feel like someone is our best friend, who feels like we are an acquaintance. That is what is happening with Dani.
She later learns not to do this.
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With autistic people, our neurological systems can get overwhelmed. Solomon has a meltdown a bit later in the series. He is getting close to one here.
nice commentary! really enjoyed this being a much more healthy and relationship focused approach rather then the stereotypical and toxic, "molding yourself into somebody else to pick somebody up" suff.
This coach is awesome!!!!
15:51 "Hold up, wait a minute, sum aint right"
Omggg I need to see what happens next !! Where do I watch this? 😭
Netflix
I am also on the Spectrum.I will be turning seventy in March.My husband and I have been married for 49 years.I met him in college.I had a feeling he liked me but he was very shy and quiet.He did,however,ask me out on a date a couple of weeks later and we have been together ever since.He is dyslectic so together we make one decent person.This was so long ago.Nothing was understood about our conditions.I was considered to be a big pain in the ass by my relatives and everyone who knew my husband when he was a kid thought he was intellectually diminished.He had great difficulty with reading,spelling and getting people’s names right.But he was and still is a math whiz.He could do the most complicated mathematical functions in his head.I could not even give somebody change for a quarter.So I have watched all of the Love on the Spectrum shows and can certainly identify with some of the people.I am happy people like us are not considered freaks today like we were sixty years ago.Great video.Hope to see more from you and not just because you have the same first name as my son does.
David is so smooth man.
I love this
Abbey has said something that ND people will. She doesn’t know the proper way to respond. She wanted to check with her Mum before agreeing to another date. That is how she has structured her life. That is the safest thing for her and that is 100% correct.
So sad Dani said she didnt want him because his career isnt on track. Hes in college for goodness sake.
She's so picky and unrealistically specific I'm afraid she'll end up alone.
It's sad to me, cause she didn't even ask him if he would be willing to work towards the same goals. I just liked their chemistry.😢
The fact that it’s season 2 and they went to Africa!!!! Oooohh I hope there’s an review/reaction of that
Love this video. Would have liked to see 10k likes or 100k views so we get a second video! I like your style, Anthony. It's so healthy, which on UA-cam is saying a Lot.
this show makes me smile 😊
Please do more
I'm from Australia…i love our version and the USA version. They are all such beautiful people. My son has ASD…the most real and honest person. Unfortunately, he is always judged, rejected and used. A very sad world when you cannot be your own individual self without being judged because you are different and not a clone. Thank you Anthony for not being negative and judgemental. Your positivity is refreshing. The beautiful people with ASD does not define you…just being yourself the problems are not with you it is with others.
This was interesting
A suggestion, can you do Natalia Dyers and Charlie Heaton?
Hey thanks for the video. Why did you remove your reaction to the movie titanic from your channel I cannot seem to find it anymore. It’s a pitty since I really enjoyed it.
1:26 I am in the spectrum and actually I have the same feeling. Like I it would be easier to be typical
Dani fell in love with a guy and didn’t even get his name right. Tremendous.
So wholesome 🥺👉👈
So patronising. They're not automatically "inspiring" and "innocent" just because they have a disability.
@@robokill387 some people are afraid to put themselves out there because they feel like they will be judged so it’s nice to see this representation. And I wasn’t commenting on their disability. I think that their interactions are wholesome because the people are sweet, honest, and open about how they feel.
Dad speaks the truth!
❤
I agree.. Love on the spectrum is my favourite show too! 😂❤🎉
can you do caleb mclaughlin and sadie sink from stranger things please?
I also have autism and say "wow" the same way Dani does and it made me giggle, it was like I heard myself 🤭
Autistic people do relationships better than neurotypical people. They are direct with each other and say what’s on their mind. One reason why I fail at romance is I feel like I have to analyze the other person just to understand how they’re feeling. They never just say what they’re feeling. I feel i’m in a grey zone where I don’t do well with neurotypical people but not “autistic enough” to do well with the autistic people.
James has the coolest stuff
heya, this might be very random and ik you kinda are done with aaron burris and veronica merral reactions, but they posted a video answering akward marrage questions and i think it would be really interesting if you could react. thanks
I love Dani she so funny and James too he’s a hoot and Abby is so sweet and adorable I love her and David they are so sweet together season 2 is wonderful definitely love this show having a child on the spectrum this show has definitely given me alot on how dating can be successful regardless of disabilities
Suggestion, watching addams family, 90s version
denim looks good on you Anthony
God damnit, you're putting a lot of pressure on me. I really wanna see a second episode, but we're 4 weeks after release and need 93k more views to get to 100k. I got stuff to do besides hitting rewind. :-/
17:02 its her aunt and yes, it was a great suggestion to take a shot. It's not like she's chugging the whole bottle
This guy is giving advice for neurotypicals to people with autism.
James is my favorite. His interaction with his mom and dad makes me laugh so much!
As for Dani....this clip out of context shows her good side. (it doesn't show how poorly treated Solomon after) She's easily my least favorite of the bunch. All she wants is a rich successful man WHO runs an Animation Studio. She literally won't settle for anything else, she's that specific...she's exhausting.
Arent they all so fun, loving, real and Sweet!!!!! Id love to meet them all! I care for special needs children and Love the blunt honesty ! Its a GREAT quality I feel.
PLEASE KEEP WATCHING OMG
can you please do a kelly wakasa and ashley alexander part 3 now that they are official ??
I binged this entire show in one day a couple weeks ago! I loved every minute of it, all of them were so awesome! 🥹💛
His monotone speaking would definitely make me think I'm boring him if I didn't know him 😭
23:00 and dont forget the shot of tequila
You should react to Mille and Noah’s relationship it might be interesting since they are long time and childhood friends
You can‘t leave me hanging like that! What about Danny? Did he actually leaver her there by herself and never came back?
You should make a video on Camren please ! Lauren and Camila Cabello