The Crane Wives - Never Love an Anchor (Lyric Video)

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    To celebrate the release of Foxlore AND Coyote Stories on vinyl, we'll be posting a series of lyric videos highlighting songs from both records!
    Full Lyrics:
    On some level I think I always understood
    That these hands of mine were clumsy, not clever
    And I tried to do the best that I could
    But try as I might I could not bring myself to hold you
    It's a secret I keep tucked inside my chest
    With this heart of mine thats guilty, not remorseful
    There is love that doesn't have a place to rest
    But it would've buried you if it had settled on your shoulders
    On some level, I think I always understood
    That a ship could never really love an anchor
    So I did the only thing that I could
    And severed the rope to set you sailing from my harbor
    There are times when I still wonder about you
    You are someone I have loved but never known
    And you'll never see the reasons I had
    For keeping my claws away when they were close enough to hurt you
    I am selfish, I am broken, I am cruel
    I am all the things they might've said to you
    Do you ever think of me and my two hands
    And wonder why
    They never soothed your fevers
    And wonder why
    They never tied your shoes
    And wonder why
    They never held you gently
    And wonder why
    They never had the chance to lose you

КОМЕНТАРІ • 516

  • @RowanB6
    @RowanB6 2 роки тому +5942

    whoever wrote up the descriptions for the nonverbal parts of the lyrics, hats off to you in particular.

    • @garfield-guy
      @garfield-guy Рік тому +165

      yeah like it’s very detailed aswell

    • @LinkEX
      @LinkEX Рік тому +240

      I learned a lot not only about the symbolism behind the instruments in this particular song, but on how music can be described in general.

    • @tumblingartist
      @tumblingartist Рік тому +59

      They’re really nice

    • @jayleejeez3621
      @jayleejeez3621 Рік тому +17

      Mhm

    • @xxstrawberryeyeballsxx
      @xxstrawberryeyeballsxx 11 місяців тому +32

      It makes the experience a bit richer imo

  • @dumbmusorowan
    @dumbmusorowan 2 роки тому +4796

    shout out to them gay pirates for introducing me to this song it's so good

    • @user-vt8ii4ei9c
      @user-vt8ii4ei9c 2 роки тому +522

      Same reason I’m here
      Love them gay pirates

    • @thecranewives
      @thecranewives  2 роки тому +1168

      #gentlebeard🧡

    • @goldengirl253
      @goldengirl253 2 роки тому +196

      @@thecranewives #gentlebeard 👍🏽

    • @kreciaax413
      @kreciaax413 2 роки тому +65

      same, im in love

    • @The-lb6po
      @The-lb6po 2 роки тому +39

      yes yes yes samee im soo in love

  • @lamnad
    @lamnad 2 роки тому +3467

    When I hear this song, I imagine a parent giving their child up for adoption knowing that if they kept the child they would have a terrible life.

    • @grexcat7589
      @grexcat7589 Рік тому +100

      that's what I was thinking

    • @SupremeViola
      @SupremeViola Рік тому +478

      This song really made me think about how so little music talks about love that ISN'T romantic love, let alone the complex love of a birth parent for a child they simply couldn't be a 'proper parent' to.

    • @flowerchild2496
      @flowerchild2496 Рік тому +177

      These hands are clumsy not clever always gets me.. a mother's hands are clever..

    • @joyc.e.7511
      @joyc.e.7511 Рік тому +15

      @@SupremeViola Same here.

    • @dextro_whatever
      @dextro_whatever Рік тому +22

      That was the vibe I got

  • @Abraham-gf1oi
    @Abraham-gf1oi 2 роки тому +2525

    I’m adopted, and I imagine this song was sort of my biological mother’s thoughts when she gave me up

    • @sashabarsuhn7945
      @sashabarsuhn7945 2 роки тому +135

      Wait because same, makes it hit harder that way to me

    • @ed6705
      @ed6705 2 роки тому +116

      The song made me feel quite emotional, but it's this comment that made me cry.

    • @Dosia142
      @Dosia142 Рік тому +17

      @@ed6705 exactly

    • @jjju3
      @jjju3 Рік тому +24

      This is an absolutely beautiful interpretation

    • @user-uh2le2zf3p
      @user-uh2le2zf3p Рік тому +9

      Same.. absolute same...

  • @wendigowithaninternetconne9594
    @wendigowithaninternetconne9594 2 роки тому +3744

    “A ship can never love an anchor” if theres one thing you guys are seriously god tier at is metaphor. They always roll of your tounge in such a beautiful way. And then you go and expand on the metaphor too “i cut you free and watched you sail away” it just. SO GOOD!

    • @freyaluzdeath8444
      @freyaluzdeath8444 Рік тому +39

      Their so good they even wrote a song called Metaphor!

    • @felicitysmoakandwillgraham6453
      @felicitysmoakandwillgraham6453 Рік тому +16

      Have u listened to the band, The Amazing Devil? They are incredible too!

    • @its_just_seb
      @its_just_seb Рік тому +66

      but if it weren't for the anchor, the ship would drift aimlessly when it desires to stay put. that's why the ship carries the anchor everywhere it goes

    • @phoebe2675
      @phoebe2675 Рік тому +79

      @@its_just_seb that’s what makes the metaphor even better imo
      Some parents do things that they see as the best choice and it makes sense in their head, but to everyone else it makes no sense
      And it can even represent a feeling of loneliness and the kid was never able to find a place to call home

  • @femmeslash
    @femmeslash 2 роки тому +2396

    "You are someone I have loved but never known" truly just makes something in my heart Snap every time I hear it, i adore this whole album so much

  • @xxpandagalaxyxx5655
    @xxpandagalaxyxx5655 Рік тому +518

    Honestly this song explains why I don't want children pretty perfectly. My greatest act of love towards my nonexistent children is to never have them in the first place. As I know I have too many issues not to dig my claws into them like my parents did to me despite their best efforts not to.

    • @winged_cat_4571
      @winged_cat_4571 5 місяців тому +6

      Same tbh

    • @socialistrepublicofvietnam1500
      @socialistrepublicofvietnam1500 5 місяців тому +5

      Same

    • @marrowbrown
      @marrowbrown 3 місяці тому +2

      same

    • @bee549
      @bee549 3 місяці тому +7

      I think this is very beautifully put and I feel the exact same way. This will be ringing in my head forever, in the best way,

    • @DostoyevskyTolstoy
      @DostoyevskyTolstoy Місяць тому

      I don't fear for the children I will never get to hold.
      I worry only for the sake of the ones I WILL someday hold, knowing full-well that they may not even be mine...
      I *will* be gentle, when it comes time.
      And until it happens, I'll rest easy knowing that I never dropped a bag that I was ever meant to endlessly hold.
      She's not me. And I sincerely hope to leave before she can ever know the full contempt I may yet find within myself to express back to her.
      Because it's not her fault. It wasn't her fault.
      Because it's not my fault. It wasn't ever my fault, between us.
      What happened in 2003 was a mystery and a tragedy to us both. And God bless every second of it.

  • @zeldie2375
    @zeldie2375 Рік тому +482

    I know everyone sees this as a parent-child song but as a person with BPD and this song really resonates with me. This is how I feel in every relationship I’ve had, friendship, love, or whatever. Ever since I was a child I felt like a ship could never love an anchor and ruin relationships because of that.

    • @rrush5613
      @rrush5613 Рік тому +30

      My friend, that's what I've been thinking! For me it was a surprise to find another (about child - parent relationship) interpretation of song's meaning in the comments.
      I'm sure u r a beautiful person, you are not an anchor, please keep fighting with negative thoughts like that ❤️

    • @zeldie2375
      @zeldie2375 Рік тому +17

      @@rrush5613 I’m glad to find someone who feels the same way! And thank you so much, friend. Your comment is genuinely super kind and really made my night 🥹💞 Same to you!! For you to say something so sweet I’m sure you’re a wonderful person.

    • @ArtingFromScratch
      @ArtingFromScratch Рік тому +5

      Omg me tooooooo

    • @holysoup2954
      @holysoup2954 11 місяців тому +3

      me 2 i love u

    • @JenjiJ
      @JenjiJ 11 місяців тому +5

      It’s the same for me too, and I wanna just say that I love your existence and I’m so happy you’re here. Thank you for fighting every day to be here, you deserve to live every moment feeling loved and happiness, just as much as anybody else, dearest ❤

  • @SueMeriah
    @SueMeriah 2 роки тому +1576

    I'm very grateful for your music because yours and the Oh Hello's were the only bands I listened to for about two months straight as I was contemplating leaving my abusive home after decades. Especially this song, Can't Go Back, Curses, The Moon Will Sing and Keep You Safe I played on loop. "No amount of waiting will make you brave, no amount of fear will keep you safe", yeah, no shit. You probably weren't talking about abuse, but still. I was enlightened.
    One day in April I packed my bags and did not return. I feel like a different person and got lots of help.
    I'm applying for jobs at various (online) magazines and you guys just *need* more exposure. Imma pitch y'all in about 0 time flat, first day at the office lol. Sheesh.

    • @musyasunflowaa
      @musyasunflowaa 2 роки тому +48

      Hey, how are you doing now?

    • @dontbesuchaleaf
      @dontbesuchaleaf 2 роки тому +76

      I don’t know you but I am so proud of you, leaving an abusive situation takes serious guts, I hope you’re doing well now

    • @ketokeko
      @ketokeko 2 роки тому +21

      omfg i'm so proud of you

    • @henrikfitch4017
      @henrikfitch4017 2 роки тому +37

      You are way braver than I could ever be. It must take unbelievable amounts of courage to escape such a situation. I hope you are in a good place now and I wish you all the best.

    • @SueMeriah
      @SueMeriah 2 роки тому +125

      I had no idea this comment got so much attention. Thank you guys so much, you are very sweet :)

  • @allikillion3733
    @allikillion3733 2 роки тому +698

    ah yes, my favorite song that made me cry every time i heard it for a month. /pos
    life tip: singing this feels really cathartic, especially if you feel you’ve done something wrong or that you need to apologize but don’t know why or who to tell. the line “i am selfish, i am broken, i am cruel. i am all the things they might have said to you” feels like finally admitting a fault and it can be so refreshing

  • @cassiefromooo
    @cassiefromooo 2 роки тому +150

    thank you that one stede animatic for introducing me to this song i have been irreversibly changed

  • @Indigo_404
    @Indigo_404 Рік тому +220

    Ok I need somewhere to rant about this but this song fits my d&d character perfectly
    He’s a sailor who lost his wife & kids in an attack on his town. The reason why he sails with the party is to try and find them again. And even though he has kids, this song isn’t about them; this is his feelings about his party. He tries not to get attached to them so that, when he finds his family and leaves, they don’t get hurt. However, everyone already sees him as an “anchor”, making that hard.
    Edit: He had an adopted daughter in the party and last session she died! This song hurts even more now :’D

    • @Phoenixqueen77
      @Phoenixqueen77 Рік тому +17

      I was wondering if anyone else ascribed this to their D&D characters. Specifically, he's a character me and the DM worked on together, my druid's father. He loved her. He never wanted her, but he loved her. And he was a monster. And he didn't know how to handle it, but after a certain point, he was so afraid she'd grow up to be like him, so he let her go. It terrified him when she ran away, and he searched for her, but only to make sure she was safe. The Underdark is dangerous. She vowed never to return there, but had to, because of a tome he bought. They got to have one good conversation. And then she got killed for challenging a priestess of Lolth. When she was killed, he finally had the excuse to finish off her mother (the priestess.) He's so unbelievably broken over her death and she'll never know how much he really cared for her. He was the one that got to bury her, back up on the surface, under the stars she loved so much. Now, present day, he works at an orphanage run by a mindflayer. Maybe he wants to make up for his neglect.

    • @Indigo_404
      @Indigo_404 8 місяців тому +1

      @@Phoenixqueen77 that's super cool!!

  • @bjorn4215
    @bjorn4215 2 роки тому +855

    Again another song that’s absolutely amazing.
    I can really see this as a parent-child relationship. It’s actually giving me some ideas for my own story. Can really see it as a mother who had no choice but to give her child away or abandon them, for whatever reason they had. The mother feels guilty, she carries that burden. While it hurts her she felt she would’ve only harmed her child if she stayed tied to it.
    Beautiful lyrics:))

    • @agirlforgod6955
      @agirlforgod6955 2 роки тому +12

      Oooh, is this story anyplace people can read it? If you wish it to stay locked inside your (VERY BEAUTIFUL) heart, that's fine. ❤️ You are amazing regardless 😊

    • @bjorn4215
      @bjorn4215 2 роки тому +10

      The story hasn’t been made yet, so I’m sorry to say no. I haven’t worked much on it at all truthfully, thank you for the kind words though:)

    • @funnylittlecreature
      @funnylittlecreature 2 роки тому +10

      Oh shit that’s why this song is so emotional for me!!! it’s the mommy issues again, should have guessed

    • @cheetahlover6589
      @cheetahlover6589 Рік тому +4

      Someone made a Warrior cats video with it about a parent and kid. Flamepaw and Sparkpelt

    • @chaosdancer1239
      @chaosdancer1239 Рік тому +1

      I agree with you about the mother and child angle, but I think that this song could also fit with the idea of an overprotective and toxic older twin that has to come with terms with what they have done when their younger sibling goes missing.

  • @Tyxaar
    @Tyxaar 2 роки тому +287

    This song speaks strangely close to me, and the interpretation it as a parent-child relationship. As someone who never intends to have kids, in a way I can relate to someone made to take care of one they don't desire, a child who they love deeply, but cannot grow attached to, cannot truly know or understand, someone who only weighs down the child's life instead of uplifting them as a true parent would, and is deeply guilty of that fact. It's sad, yet honest and speaks to the realities of many parents who never desired kids, children they loved but never knew.

  • @hebert0
    @hebert0 2 роки тому +281

    This one is special, always brings me peace, like it is okay to set someone sailing from your harbor. "At some level i think i always understood", always makes me emotional

  • @finnd6338
    @finnd6338 Рік тому +192

    so many people found this band because of last life/double life- i found it right before last life started i absolutely love when fandoms get indie bands more attention

    • @lemonmoonlavender
      @lemonmoonlavender Рік тому +40

      i thank life smp for shoving this band into my hands and running away on all fours before i could even ask what it was doing, im not giving it back

    • @BudgieCute
      @BudgieCute Рік тому +19

      oh definitely!! i found this through a life series animatic and now this is my favourite band!

    • @aoarashi3025
      @aoarashi3025 Рік тому +7

      Same! I'm glad I'm not the only one.

    • @poggerlicious
      @poggerlicious Рік тому +8

      the fact some crane wives fans came here from the life series makes me so happy, im so glad the fandom has mutual interests! 🥹

    • @Emaberanger
      @Emaberanger Рік тому

      same- this is now some of the only music i listen to

  • @pureseaweed517
    @pureseaweed517 2 роки тому +301

    so here's my theory for this song
    a young girl accidentally had a baby with a high school boyfriend or something and she gives her child up because she couldn't care for it
    there are a lot of lyrics in the song that tell that story in my head but it's probably not actually what the song is about

    • @loganlee6099
      @loganlee6099 2 роки тому +55

      We recently covered this in the Tumblr group chat and I wanna say this song is actually what Emilee imagined hearing from her own mother

    • @pureseaweed517
      @pureseaweed517 2 роки тому +7

      @@loganlee6099 oh wow
      I was kinda close
      Cool

    • @pureseaweed517
      @pureseaweed517 2 роки тому +10

      @@loganlee6099 if its not too much of a bother whats the chat called? Id love to check it out :)

    • @loganlee6099
      @loganlee6099 2 роки тому +10

      @@pureseaweed517 crane wives baAAABY

    • @DJ-lr8wn
      @DJ-lr8wn 2 роки тому +8

      Woah! Another Oh Hellos fan!

  • @SHMEowow
    @SHMEowow 2 роки тому +182

    I can't sing along to this without getting choked up. I usually get close to the end, but the line "and wonder why I'll never tie your shoes" hits so hard. Like most of the song feels pretty grown up and its moving, but that line I feel really shows how a child would think of the situation. Hits me in the ouches :,^(

  • @swampghost835
    @swampghost835 2 роки тому +360

    SOOOO glad the crane wives are getting more recognition thanks to this song and ofmd. they deserve every bit of clout they get

    • @cors3401
      @cors3401 Рік тому +3

      Yeah, it’s awesome!! (Also: your name is cthulu and your profile pic is BERNARD? That’s a legendary combination)

    • @pixeldoll.
      @pixeldoll. 6 місяців тому

      My god.. I love ofmd and this song..

  • @maxwellstefan8868
    @maxwellstefan8868 2 роки тому +65

    I totally read this song as being from a parent to a child and THAT hurts me

  • @GP-jj7zn
    @GP-jj7zn 2 роки тому +221

    When i was little my dad got really sick and passed out and i didnt know what to do so i sat beside him and cried and he always thought i did nothing when i did everything i could. The lyrics "Ever wonder why these hands never soothed your fevers" really hit home. But in a good way. Yes, it brought up bad memories, but it gave those bad memories some cheery lyrics and made it less of a burden. Made me feel less of a burden. Made me feel that maybe one day ill work up the courage to get the help i need.

    • @Simplertimesoflife
      @Simplertimesoflife Рік тому +37

      You were a child what was he expecting you to do to help a grown man?

    • @willowoodz
      @willowoodz Рік тому +32

      you, as the child, were never in a position to help a full grown man like that. i hope today you realize that you are much more deserving of peace than you realize, and i send u lots of hope and love dear stranger. i can’t imagine having had gone through that at such a young age, let alone with one’s own father. take care of urself 💓💓

  • @siaracee5939
    @siaracee5939 Рік тому +52

    To me this feels like a mother who gives up her baby because she knows she won't do a good job parenting. Maybe she got pregnant too young or was going to put her career first, maybe she never wanted children. But whatever the reason, she gives birth, looks at that little tiny thing, and knows it deserves better than anything she could ever give.
    She thinks of it, of course, from time to time. When her day is quiet and her mind starts to wonder,
    who soothes your fevers? Who ties your shoes? Who holds you gently? Who, I wonder, sees you, an anchor, and feels relief to know that you are home? That you are theirs?
    But she never asks, her day gains sound, sooner or later.
    And she merely wonders.

  • @clairebear9652
    @clairebear9652 Рік тому +58

    This song inspired me to write a poem “Falling in love is a bittersweet game
    You never know what you may lose or gain
    Holding on may bring more pain
    While letting go may sever ties between my heart and brain
    1 try and try to hold on and gain the upper hand
    you and i being together is as lkely as finding a grain bf rice in a pool full of sand”

  • @jackson5511
    @jackson5511 4 місяці тому +5

    My dad and I used to listen to The Crane Wives on our way to work.
    When he was diognosed the music helped me through, and it helps me now. I don't know why but this song in particular and the line "they never had a chance to lose you" stuck with me. It was fast, stage 4 before anyone knew it, my only friend to help me through hard time, my only friend who seen me grow up, to sooth the hurt.
    I miss you dad.

  • @pumpkinwizard9080
    @pumpkinwizard9080 2 роки тому +208

    One of the first songs I heard from you guys, I still remember being drawn by the artwork and then just blasting this album and the fool in her wedding gown for the rest of the year and my life, lots of luv

  • @sakaehayashi8991
    @sakaehayashi8991 2 роки тому +52

    I don't exactly recall how I came across The Crane Wives at first. I believe it was on a personalized Spotify playlist. I vaguely remember being busy with something so I could drop it and simply like the song, so in the back of my mind while taking care of my business I kept counting how many songs back it was. I believe it was... The Garden? In any case, as time passed I kept murmurign to myself 'four songs ago... five... six...' before I finally could finish up, go back and like the song. I went ahead and checked the discography before just kind of breaking down and crying.
    The songs that all seem to have this theme with femininity, both empowering and soul-crushing, making me feel understood yet so out of place all at the same time. I came across Tongues & Teeth, at that point I kind of just looped it while sitting in bed letting it blast from my speakers. I just felt so... argh. Whatever the words aren't coming to me right now. In any case, I struggled and still struggle with many issues. I'm 25 with absolutely no prospect or hope for the future, with my transphobic family badgering me nigh daily so I just sit down and listen to a bunch of Crane Wives to cope and distract myself from certain desires.
    I apologize for venting here, the comment section is so... positive, I couldn't help myself. I suppose what I'm trying to say is: thank you for this beautiful and unique music.

  • @asteerd4676
    @asteerd4676 Рік тому +49

    I usually don't comment videos on yt, but discovering new masterpieces from this band, makes me want to share my love with the world.
    "Never Love an Anchor" is very smart with its metaphors, but I want to focus on my favorite part - meaning. Writing from perspektive of a broken woman, who abandoned her child, is really hard. It's easy to cross a line, showing her as a victim or antagonizing her completly. In this song you can understand the mother, seeing her worries, guilt. She feels like a monster, telling herself that she's selfish and cruel. But she didn't really see a better solution, so she "did a only thing she could". She was cornered. But at the same time, you can imagine perspektive of her child, who was neglected and probably felt unloved, like a burden for the rest of their life.
    In some weird way this song is very painful and comforting at the same time. I've cried first time listening to it. Thank you for creating this masterpiece Crane Wives, I hope your band gets more and more atention, because it deserves it all.
    And messege for everyone, who related to this song a bit to much, remember, you deserve all love and happines, pain you've expierienced wasn't your fault. Stay safe.

  • @Yeah-eu5cp
    @Yeah-eu5cp 2 роки тому +45

    This song is so haunting and I love it so much but god will anything hit me as hard as the last few lyrics. "I never had the chance to lose you" as a concept is so harrowing I don't even know where to begin

  • @BlindStarLily
    @BlindStarLily Рік тому +27

    Gods, I adore this song. It really helped mee get a bit of perspective for the novel I’m currently writing. This song makes me imagine a parent giving their child up for adoption, or transferring custody to a family member who can actually care for the child. The way I view it for my story, though, is the mother emotionally distancing herself from her daughter as a means of keeping the daughter safe from her mother’s history and worldview. Beautiful song, as always

  • @isactuallyspiderman7600
    @isactuallyspiderman7600 2 роки тому +78

    im so glad that more people are finding out about the crane wives. ive been listening for a few years now and not a lot of people have heard of them so it makes my heart happy that people are finding out how amazing these guys are!

  • @mitcharlotte672
    @mitcharlotte672 2 роки тому +24

    You know, this song feels right.
    Bittersweet.

  • @kaih.8766
    @kaih.8766 2 роки тому +31

    this song feels like broken familial love
    and l love it

  • @kitcat8676
    @kitcat8676 6 місяців тому +11

    God this song hits so hard, loving someone and being afraid of hurting them is so surreal, and letting them go because you can't bare what you view yourself as, taking all the negative aspects others ascribe to them because you're sure they got it from you its so much, and as someone with ocd hits closer than it ought to, got me sobbing over here.

  • @lostlittleghostfriend
    @lostlittleghostfriend 2 роки тому +84

    This is one of my most played songs period. In fact, my music app keeps track or that and this song is in the top 10

  • @d1dsheptun
    @d1dsheptun 7 місяців тому +7

    "i am all the things they might have said to you" hits so hard i will not elaborate

  • @dirkus1319
    @dirkus1319 2 роки тому +55

    Our Flag Means Death is breaking me and I'm coping by listening to this nonstop

    • @dubiouskazoo1873
      @dubiouskazoo1873 Рік тому +1

      Finally binged the series in less than two days- finished this afternoon and UGH.
      same.
      been scrolling spotify and the hellsite.

  • @BRICKPIECES
    @BRICKPIECES 6 місяців тому +4

    "There is love that doesn't have a place to rest, but it would have buried you if it had settled on your shoulders" is such a damn good line

  • @pipperminty
    @pipperminty 4 місяці тому +6

    My birth mother gave me up for adoption when I was just born. She was poor, had no experience with children, and knew she wouldn’t be able to care for me the way another mother could. She was so afraid I would hate her for doing so that she legally cut contact, I wasn’t even allowed to know her name until I turned 18. Sometimes I do think about her and wonder what it would be like if she had soothed my fevers, or tied my shoes, or held me gently, but truthfully? I’m thankful to her for loving me enough to give me what she felt would be my best life. I hope more people realize that the ships in your life *can* understand you letting them sail on. ❤

  • @Annisrealandsoami
    @Annisrealandsoami 6 місяців тому +8

    I always had trouble keeping friends. Something would always change. I relate to this song because it voices the thoughts and feelings of losing a connection for better or worse. It’s all the ‘what if’s of that loss of connection. It’s knowing that you’re not good for people, that you would’ve hurt them. It wondering of how close we could’ve been if we stayed in touch.

  • @PuppyLove2468
    @PuppyLove2468 2 роки тому +17

    oh wow the nonverbal parts are described! thats super cool and good for accessibility!

  • @vampirem-tu6rh
    @vampirem-tu6rh 2 роки тому +50

    It so crazy to believe that I’m this century, people can create such beautiful, meaningful music. It feels like something out of a movie or a fairy tail. This song was my first of many from this band and I couldn’t be happier. Anytime I hear this I’m on the brink of tears. You’re all so talented

  • @doodlerbee9015
    @doodlerbee9015 11 місяців тому +10

    Every single time I hear this song I'm struck by how much I connect with it. I hear it as a song from a mother / parent to the child they had to give away because they knew they couldn't provide a healthy home for the child, which is so meaningful for me.
    My mother was someone who refused to let go, to the point she would ignore her the suffering of her children out of fear they could be taken away. I can't help but think how much better we all would have been if she'd cared enough to even just risk letting us go.
    I also connect with this song as someone who's chosen to never have children, and likely will never foster or adopt either. I know between my disabilities and upbringing I wouldn't be able to provide the necessary care to a child, as much as I love kids and wish I could provide a safe space for some of the children out there in need of one.
    As a result, this song manages to be both a message to the children I will never have. I'm letting them go before they even come to me because I know there would only be harm otherwise.

  • @Emogamer-tp8vo
    @Emogamer-tp8vo 2 роки тому +18

    Someone recommended me this band and usually i listen to metal but I'm glad that person expanded my horizon

    • @localsatanist
      @localsatanist 2 роки тому +3

      you could say that you
      want to be brought the horizon
      it was a bad joke I'm sorry

    • @Emogamer-tp8vo
      @Emogamer-tp8vo 2 роки тому

      @@localsatanist lmfao take my like you clever bastard 😂

  • @wolframshibuya2693
    @wolframshibuya2693 Рік тому +11

    *in tears*
    We don’t need to unpack ALL of that

  • @pantamonte
    @pantamonte 2 роки тому +55

    While i've heard 2 Crane Wives songs a while back, it has only been recently that I have begun to listen to more. I gotta say...Man have I been missing out. I am absolutely in love with the lyrics and it seems to really tug at my heart in ways I can't describe. I'll be sure to listen more often ^^ Truly addicting

  • @hairscythe2257
    @hairscythe2257 Рік тому +26

    I can't hear this song without crying.
    I'm someone who's always struggled with isolation, ever since my father and my best friend commited suicide when I was a child. I'd kept myself away from other people, because they were my "anchors," a codependent symbol instead of a person, something to keep me down on earth instead of going insane. And I wondered how they'd feel when I had to start sailing again, because I didn't need them, because I was so used to nothing being permanent.
    And I wonder about all the people I've left behind, because the pain of the people of BEING left behind feels like karmic retribution.
    EDIT: edited for spelling

  • @ZuMii_Idled
    @ZuMii_Idled Рік тому +16

    This comment section really making appreciate just how much of a narrative masterpiece this is

  • @eyekandi
    @eyekandi 2 роки тому +12

    this song feels so much like a child to parent song to me. I love it sm

  • @timosstein2300
    @timosstein2300 2 роки тому +7

    screaming and crying in OFMD

  • @kacchandoarts6008
    @kacchandoarts6008 Місяць тому +2

    This song really brought me understanding between me and my mother. We used to treat eachother like enemies and lately she working on healing herself and me also get myself on my own therapist and healing journey which brought us comfort on both when she stopped trying to fix me and let me get on my own road. Love this song so much

  • @Scatterbrained_Watching
    @Scatterbrained_Watching 2 роки тому +9

    One of the most relatable songs of all time, gosh

  • @kichi7401
    @kichi7401 2 роки тому +23

    i'm mad that i missed the premiere of this video, but this song is one of my favorites and even as someone who has never really felt a connection with a more parental perspective, it has just. a lot of raw feelings. especially with the lyrics towards the end. it can address neglectful parents, but it also sympathizes and addresses parents that have good intent but dont act on it in a multitude of thigns. just.... crane wives is beautiful. lyrically, music wise, it's just chefs kiss

  • @trashleytheartist
    @trashleytheartist 2 роки тому +41

    This is such an amazing song, one of my favourites for sure!
    I love those guitar parts... Though that may have more to do with my love of the guitar rather than the song itself but still! ❤️

  • @Ooggoogoogoo
    @Ooggoogoogoo Рік тому +23

    I have an abusive, neglectful mother, and I know that it stems from her childhood, like generational trauma, and this song brings me so much comfort in trying to accept myself and do my best to not to let history repeat itself again, but god does it hurt to hear, because those hands never soothed my fevers, never tied my shoes, never held me gently, so instead they lost me.

  • @WendollStar
    @WendollStar 2 роки тому +30

    My brilliant & wonderful 14 yr old turned me onto this song/band and now I’m obsessed! (I’m not sobbing mournfully in my car…….. you are! J/k it’s me. I am 😭)

  • @JustAnEntity5292
    @JustAnEntity5292 2 роки тому +39

    just binge listened to all your songs today, and this has gotta be my personal favorite. all your songs give me a sense of closure in a way, but this one really speaks to my heart. thank you for giving words to feelings many of us can’t verbalize ourselves

  • @ghostlylilacs7144
    @ghostlylilacs7144 5 місяців тому +3

    i dedicate this song to my late mother who passed last sunday, christmas eve. it was her favourite holiday.
    she wasn't an amazing mother at first, drunk constantly because of the suicide of her past love that died only a couple of weeks before i was born. but i like to think over time, she began to care for me. and throughout the repeated generational trauma, she always did.
    as i type this, i miss her. she died of infection of blood. i am only eighteen years old, yet i have to live the rest of my life without my mom.

  • @yipyip4177
    @yipyip4177 2 роки тому +16

    ABSOLUTELY OBSSESSED WITH ALL YOUR MUSIC.... ALWAYS GOT ME MELTING...... BLESS U....

  • @flyoutfate7462
    @flyoutfate7462 Рік тому +7

    This makes me think both of parents and of general interpersonal relationships. Perfect timing for a character I'm making

  • @ZoesChoice
    @ZoesChoice Рік тому +9

    I’m a pirate for work and my pirate name is Anchor
    And man, as someone with dating issues, this hits very close to home

  • @niesson9456
    @niesson9456 Рік тому +7

    I was brought here by a fan made animation about the Double Life series in Minecraft... The lyrics really is something... And it suited the situation too. The animator did a great job of painting an imagery of the music and emotions it evokes, along with the Double Life plot. This is one of the few songs that never fail to make me cry...

  • @fatherplatypus2316
    @fatherplatypus2316 Рік тому +7

    Songs like this are severely underappreciated. The instrument is joyful, but the meaning was no less than heartbreaking

  • @youraveragemexorican
    @youraveragemexorican Рік тому +15

    Kinda late, but you guys sing like literal animals-and I mean that in the BEST way possible.
    Something about the way you sing gives the genuine feeling of if someone gave a wild beast a voice, especially in songs like Curses, The Moon Will Sing and Take Me to War

  • @lemonboy1102
    @lemonboy1102 Рік тому +9

    i love this song so much, it’s agonizing but beautiful, especially since it’s about a mother and child. my mother was in this same position but she chose to keep me and i think it would’ve been a better life for me if she hadn’t

  • @Kaii540
    @Kaii540 7 місяців тому +5

    As an adopted child _wow_ . I never really thought about it but some of these lines hit really deep

  • @amyrice4337
    @amyrice4337 Рік тому +6

    “On some level I think understood, that these hands of mine are clumsy not clever “ hits so hard.

  • @the_indecisiveartist_5850
    @the_indecisiveartist_5850 2 роки тому +5

    You know how when you relax, your head just becomes completely loose? Like if your body is no longer tense, and a certain feeling of joy consumes you? Not overwhelming, nor faint? Well, this song is one of those few which made me feel calm in so long. A classmate of mine told me I looked very tense a while ago, and now after the song has ended I can't help, but feel the tightness in my jaw and neck. It resonates so strongly with me for some odd reason. I am glad to have found it, it was a very pleasant experience.

  • @kawkabbarralimara8237
    @kawkabbarralimara8237 2 роки тому +16

    Found this band today ❤️

  • @abbyc6306
    @abbyc6306 Рік тому +6

    this song has been stuck in my head for weeks now and i'm the opposite of mad about it ITS JUST SO GORGEOUS

  • @wendigowithaninternetconne9594
    @wendigowithaninternetconne9594 2 роки тому +18

    I also havent seen anyone mention this is like the mirror image of tounges and teeth

    • @jessicahill6207
      @jessicahill6207 2 роки тому +1

      How to Rest is also in this vein somewhere

  • @vellaha7819
    @vellaha7819 Рік тому +3

    FINALLY I COULDNT FIND THE SONG LETS GO! Love.

  • @Zimcrazedfangirl
    @Zimcrazedfangirl 2 роки тому +7

    I'm so glad I stumbled on this band, their sound is the perfect description of the particular melancholy which permeates my life

  • @R0zieP0zey
    @R0zieP0zey 3 місяці тому +4

    Feels like a song a woman would sing to the child they never had because they were too broken from their childhood trauma to even think of having children. Which honestly is pretty relatable.

    • @cheesyweezyslay
      @cheesyweezyslay 2 місяці тому +1

      For me it feels like a woman who had a kid she didn't want, she unintentionnaly neglected the kid because she wasnt ready for them. She loved the kid but wasn't ready, the kid left as soon as they could, and the mom is reflecting on things she could've done when they were living together

  • @CrumbOfSerotonin
    @CrumbOfSerotonin Рік тому +4

    My mom and I had a huge rift until she took her own life when I was 18 and I like to think this song represents the bond an abusive parent might have with their kid in that mindset. It touched a deep, weak spot in my armor when I heard the latter third of the song the first time.

  • @juliaaa-
    @juliaaa- 2 роки тому +19

    I've been obsessed with your guy's music lately. ^^ This is so good! ♡︎

  • @sachsoup
    @sachsoup Рік тому +4

    I love the opening/intro so much. I'm listening to this right now so I could analyze it for my English assignment.

  • @natasharanawake6866
    @natasharanawake6866 7 місяців тому +3

    This is just such a beautiful, heartbreaking masterpiece - just brings back so much. But gosh it reminds me of Good Omens....

  • @deaddog7611
    @deaddog7611 2 роки тому +5

    This is the only song that has made me cry a little every time I hear it. Sparks such emotion… thank you.

  • @kacipowers4390
    @kacipowers4390 4 місяці тому +2

    My favorite part about her ship-anchor metaphor is that she isnt calling herseld the ship being tied down by the child/etc (however you interpert) but as the anchor who had to set the ship free 🥺

  • @CurtisSlaubaugh
    @CurtisSlaubaugh 2 роки тому +6

    It's been so long since the first time I heard this song, but it still makes me cry. Geez.

  • @yipyip4177
    @yipyip4177 2 роки тому +9

    SMASHING MY HEAD ON THE WALL RN

  • @Lunarhowlz377
    @Lunarhowlz377 2 роки тому +4

    Gosh I've been listening to this band for about 4 years now and I'll never get over how beautiful and haunted their music is, truly makes me feel at home

  • @gh0styfr13nd
    @gh0styfr13nd 8 місяців тому +1

    "And wonder why they never had the chance to loose you" Thanks I'm crying

  • @HeyItsJayDC
    @HeyItsJayDC Рік тому +5

    I always imagined a sort of reprise to this from the perspective of the child, as a sort of call and response song in the form of letters from the child to the mother in a back and forth manner.
    At first, the child would be accusatory, but as the song went on, they would come to understand why their mother left them.

  • @Rayan_Does_Videos
    @Rayan_Does_Videos Рік тому +20

    I can relate to this song a lot. Even though i'm not a parent, being only 17 years old,
    I feel like my mom had failed me so much. She says that i'm some kind of person she regrets having.
    She says i can't be bi or anything since it's not in the bible.
    She cared more about my younger brother then she does with me or my big brother.
    Edit:thanks for 10 likes

    • @kanonball
      @kanonball Рік тому +3

      i just turned 17 today and sending you an online hug 💞

    • @Rayan_Does_Videos
      @Rayan_Does_Videos Рік тому +1

      @@kanonball aww thanks. Like your username XD

  • @skorook2309
    @skorook2309 2 роки тому +3

    Please get merch!! I would buy it in a heartbeat!!

  • @FREDBEARSFAMILYDlNER
    @FREDBEARSFAMILYDlNER Рік тому +2

    i usually don’t leave comments on anything but WOW. this song is so beautifully written it drives me insane. i know it’s about a mother and her child, but it reminds me of one of my exes, he was the ship and i was the anchor i think. but every single line is so well put together, i can pick them apart and relate them to every little thing that happened between him and i. he didn’t think he could ever properly love me, so he left. he served the rope and sat me sailing from his harbor. i still love him, and i think he still loves me. he says he does. i think part of why this song hits so hard is because i see him as nothing but a scared child who wasn’t ready for the world. regardless i love this song. it’s very well written. definitely one of my favorites.

  • @Fatal.optimist
    @Fatal.optimist 9 місяців тому +2

    This gives me a bit of comfort known this might be how my mom feels while shes distancing herself from me. I love you mommy, forever

  • @katrobertson2000
    @katrobertson2000 2 роки тому +3

    This song really hits me. A partner once said it was like dragging an anchor through mud loving me. It cut me deeply and still hurts to think about, but this song is very cathartic to listen to and sing aloud. Thank you for producing and sharing your beautiful music, I've listened to every song you guys have put out on any platform I have that you're on. It started with Tongues and Teeth as a suggestion on here, and you instantly became my favourite band. Almost every song resonates with a part of me, and your melodies and voices are pure 24k gold. The world is blessed to have you and your music in it.

  • @enragedmonkey7706
    @enragedmonkey7706 2 роки тому +9

    I absolutely love your music. It is a unique sound that I haven't heard anywhere else. I am currently going through a phase where I am just burnt out when it comes to most music but I have no problem listening to y'all's catalog. I cannot put into words how much I enjoy it. I am thankful for your existence.

  • @kaimarquez4375
    @kaimarquez4375 7 місяців тому +1

    As someone who grew up with a pair of anchors, this song gets me sobbing every time I sing along

  • @BurdieFromHell
    @BurdieFromHell Рік тому +4

    This is the kinda song you listen to over and over again, then cry a bit, then wonder why it makes you sad, and then you realize your childhood sucked.

  • @euyuyuu
    @euyuyuu 2 роки тому +5

    nice to see all my fellow our flag means death fans here being sad and depressed

  • @SakuraKinomoto11
    @SakuraKinomoto11 2 роки тому +6

    I dream of hearing you guys in concert one day! Says just another overseas fan.. 😭🇦🇷 Love your songs! 💕

  • @runner9849
    @runner9849 2 роки тому +9

    "A ship could never love an anchor" I know that. I know..

  • @francislelievre5172
    @francislelievre5172 2 роки тому +3

    really appreciate the subtitles

  • @tia7753
    @tia7753 2 роки тому +12

    Love this song!

  • @bramble_under_the_hill
    @bramble_under_the_hill 5 місяців тому +3

    I was in an abusive marriage for close to sixteen years, and to protect the child that came out of the relationship I basically gave up care of them to my mother. I wasn't meant to be a parent, and I knew it, but my ex sure the hell wasn't either, and they didn't realize the damage they would do. Doing this has resulted in my child flourishing; they're about to start college a year early, all kinds of scholarships. It messed up my relationship with my family, but... I am selfish, I am broken, I am cruel; with a heart that is guilty, not remorseful.

    • @multiwinter
      @multiwinter 5 місяців тому

      Thank u for bringing them Into thr world best decision you cold have made❤ at least you had a chance to loose them❤ I feel this song relate to me I had miscarriage ❤ hope u feeling better

  • @traumatizedbysmile8399
    @traumatizedbysmile8399 2 роки тому +5

    You guys just make amazing songs.
    There’s no bad song.

  • @pippastrelle
    @pippastrelle Рік тому +2

    I've never seen a music video so thoughtful as to capture the feeling of the instrumentals as well. Thank you.