Jordan Peterson ~ When You're Too Different From Others
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- Jordan Peterson ~ When You're Too Different Than Others
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"It is not worth an intelligent man's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that."
-G.H. Hardy
Lol mankind.
Go away Kilgrave
Well it's worth it if he wants to maximize his chances of survival... and most smart guys want that.
@@Big-guy1981 Ton pseudo c'est une cible pour les trolls racistes de youtube... à moins que tu sois antillais peut-être?
@@Big-guy1981 smart guys identify the violent morons and stay off their toes, not actually shut their brain off. But your right, in the land of the blind the man with one eye is burned at the stake.
Someone told me “97% of people don’t like me” i told her to hang out with only the 3% who do like her, then she would be around 100% of the people who liked her.
The problem is PRECISELY the immense hardships of finding at least 1 individual of those 3%. I still haven't.
Besh good point but it's very hard to find good people and/or people you can connect with in this day and age of technology and superficial relationships. Dating is a completely wildcard too for that reason.
@@timefortee At the time of writing, there are about 7.8 billion people in the world. 3% of that is still 234 million. Go find some of them. They are out there.
@@BlackHayTV yes, in theory they are. But did you consider the possibility that a lot of them might be concentrated in certain social milieus and even geographic areas, not to mention other factors... Do you really think I haven't tried (I still am), it's not fun.
@@timefortee Not in theory, but simple mathematics based on your claimed percentage. There are good people everywhere. It just takes time to find your tribe.
Listening to him make me feel less alone
You can listen to me bb
@@Sh0n0 You may start with listening to yourself first mate...
@@BrotherTree1 DONT TEll ME how to live my life
@@Sh0n0 you shouldn't talk like that
Kuraitsuki Lavi like what
"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not."
---- Kurt Cobain
@James Randall I left that one out for the kid's sake, but...yup.
James Randall Good tip haha
James Randall You too, Sir.
James Randall easy to say when you're a heroin addict . Harder to believe from someone that killed himself.
@Love or Leave! It's a gr8 one to live by. Unfortunately it kinda blows up in my face...I find that I'm hated for who I am and who I am not haha.😂 But for the rest of ya, this approach should work just fine. 😁
If everyone put their energy into being the best version of themselves instead of worrying what others think about them, their lives would be more interesting and fulfilling.
Exactly!
Yes! You would get things done and better yourself to the point you’re much more entertained by self.
It's so hard though, anxiety, low self esteem, low confidence, depression,stress, and everything/everyone can add to that, how do you learn to stop caring and focusing on yourself?
gz you need to find your passion. something that makes you feel like you belong. i was depressed doing drugs and worrying about looking cool before i found mma. having goals and something to work for everyday will give you confidence in yourself and you will stop worrying about what others think and you’ll be truly happy. this is just from my experience
@@gz5603 Find your "tribe"... people who share your interests and are willing to give you a chance. When you align yourself with people of your choice, you get results of your choice. Forge a reality of your own.
To all the "misfits", when it starts getting tough remind yourself of the joy of getting closer to the truth, stay strong boys..✌🏾
I don't want to be that guy but I don't think that you spelled "tough" correctly. If I am correct, then please correct it because what you have said has the potential to help lots of comment scrolling people. Thanks for the motivational comment though.
@@aadisam3190 well sadly you became that guy....to the utter despair of rest of the world You became that guy...its a sad sad vision to behold
Aadi Sam lol thank you, I read the sentence 3 times trying to understand it
@Andrea boys only! no girls allowed! i'm sure there's some girls seeking the truth aswell
lost, but trying man
Both the Shaman and the Insane person have visonary experiences. The difference is that the Shaman manages to become the 'master' rather than the 'victim' of this burdensome gift.
But victim and master are a matter of perception.
@@stevenewsom3269yes indeed, and it is the perception of who you are that determines your reality
@@Tankiann One of the reasons why words are so powerful... they can change a person for both the better and the worse.
Experienced it myself in elementary school, where I was part of a class full of designer clothed children as one with patched jeans and the like. That the (main) classroom teachers were both fresh from university didn't help. My mother told me once that I changed from a smiling and laughing kid into a quiet one. I was the odd one out and got hammered for it, not all the time and definitely not by all (had a classfoto where I scratched some faces of those that bullied... good that I lost it) but often enough that it stung and since I had a late start into speaking due to infected ears I had no defense against words with my own words. So I closed up as to not letting meanspirited words hit me... took a few years to open up again.
And to get back to the "perception of self" part... one can in my situation either perceive it as oneself not being like the others and kind of abandon/change oneself in hopes to fit in or one can be stubborn and try to weather the storm and not change to fit in, but maybe to stick out further and create a personality based on it.
@@JerbilKonai great story, reminds me the importance of making decitions for yourself and not others. Also remember that we live in a world where people forces you to either close up emotionaly or give up your emotioons in orther to fit in, i think its great you choose the first one cause now that you have opened up again you are stronger than ever while remaining true to yourself.
Just to add, Your thoughts are as powerfull as your words.
@@Tankiann Can attest to that too...
In... highschool would be the equivalent I'd say (11th or 12th grade of 12) I had a phase where I wrote some poems due to stress (the part of germany where I live had the bright idea to cram the years 5 to 13 into one less year and I felt it)... and I can tell you, bad thoughts one can actualize bring some creativity, but I noticed that it darkened myself to often think of bad things (I rather be forgetful ^^)
And apparently my poems were so dark and out of the blue that after I (posted/glued) them to the outside of my door and left for school my mother was panicking that I'd be suicidal (I'm not though I'm still not the best with spoken words so me not telling anyone would be imaginable)
I’m always in search of meaning for some reason I can’t stop thinking about shit that don’t matter to others
dakz lacrimosa same here!
Yes it’s a never ending story
It’s magic when you meet a kindred soul
@@maddart4445
M♡A♡G♡I♡C.....
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@DavetheSlave ... Believe IT, or NOT... EVERYTHING eminates... from the depths of...
HEAVEN...
It Is No Measure of Health to be Well-Adjusted to a Profoundly Sick Society
Proud to be mal adjusted Martin Luther king 🤴
"There is no salvation in becoming adapted to world which is crazy." Henry Miller
It isnt a measure of health, but it is a measure of fitness and fitness is what nature care foremost
Gamers rise up
magnus4g63 Hmm. When was society not sick? By what do you measure social health?
Acknowledging that my loneliness and frustration comes from me being too different often triggers people to mock, saying “wow, you’re just SO unique and special compared to everyone else, aren’t you?” , which fuels the loneliness and frustration even more. But reading these comments have really comforted me.
Yeah i start thinking, "all you do i try to be different". No man, i just wanna fit in
I get you, I use to be incomprehensible since early youth and it got me instea of being actually different and unique im stereotypical and mundane. Dont fall into traps of cattle
Too different humans are often get bullied rejected for no fucking reason. No matter whatever they do, everyone just mock them. Even if that person hold own ground, everyone still mock them as narcissist. Seriously.
Its either change yourself fully like them or be yourself as lonely.
Only more mature person or a bigger area can save them.
People say that because your lack of need TO fit in makes them uncomfortable and insecure with themselves, what they do and what they know they feel a strong need to do. Even schooling discourages difference and individuality… People are conditioned to dislike how you live. Keep doing you… You WILL be happier if you embrace who you are and what you love. 🙌🏼
In those moments you just agree seriously with their obvious sarcasm. Make you’re voice of real meaning more powerful then their 1st grade humour
Why doesn't the camera person understand that just because Jordan moves, doesn't mean the camera needs to move.
Hit the wide shot and relax bro.
He is a 7mar
I think whoever shot this wants the Blair Witch effect, lol
😂
Sitting front row in a lecture filming with a phone. Just moving the phone with their head as they are actually interested and not focused on the filming.
🤣🤣🤣 Right! Are they on a ship? I'm feeling dizzy!
Being a contrarian does not win you many friends. It's like you're living in another realm of reality entirely and no one gets you.
If you can stomach it, being a contrarian trader will make you a lot of money, once you have the experience. It will take 3 to 5 years of 5 hours a night to learn it, but once you do, it is well worth it. Just don't tell anyone what you actually do.
that's because being a contrarian isn''t a good thing. it's the same mindset as being a yes-man, just with a totally opposite method.
A lot of people think having any view of your own makes you a contrarian nowadays 😂
Yeah, I hear you
Preach.
My experience is that people either despise me for being how I am or madly love me
same here.
@@kevinoswald4136 ☺️👋
Oh same
I'm mostly mocked at made fun of and misunderstood by many. Because I'm not like any other person they have come across they're quick to turn against me.
@Gary Russ Thats not true. I ve been an outcast as a kid cause I had no self confidence. Now I m confident and really popular even if there are haters besides. I care less and less about them.
Usually the people who are okay being alone are also the strongest . They learnt to depend on themselves .
When you realise that you are too different from the people around you, one option is to embrace who you are and look for like minded people to have meaningful relationships with. The problem with this is that, if you intent to function well in society, it is essential to have your voice heard when it matters. This requires you to have a reasonable social standing in your workplace as well as in your place of residence. This brings me to the other option; get into a process of understanding your personality traits and identify the ones that are preventing you from being a functioning member in your society. I think JBPs self authoring programme is intended towards this end. This process takes time and will be painful and anxiety inducing, but you come out of this more complete than you were before ( although I am not implying a definite end point). This is not to say that you fake your personality, rather, it is about the belief in your ability to adapt, if you are willing to put in the work/sacrifice required for this.
I would say that choosing the first option may not be inherently wrong. But, if you have a family (or plan to) and a regular job and live in a mainstream place, it would cost you highly (not necessarily monetary) to live like that.
To conclude, I think that the second option, although difficult is the right way for most people who feel different and alienated. The important aspect is to have patience and take it slow as failures are unavoidable. Believe in your ability to adapt and change while recognising your limitations and most importantly being kind to yourself so that you don't become a tyrant to yourself.
You're on point
That’s pretty apt. It doesn’t matter what you want or what you feel, societies have expectations and a modus operandi. It’s built around the majority for good reason. It promotes order and stability. If you can’t find a way to adapt to it, your only viable option is separation and that is an incredibly difficult path to walk.
Thank you
Society can go jump. Speaking my truth is meaning and purpose enough for me. I will be what I am, others be damned. Accept me or not, I do not care. To pursue truth even when it leads you beyond the bounds of others is the noblest of causes. To wander far into the wilderness to wrestle fire from the hands of Gods, that is my calling, that is my nature. I will 99% fail - but that is what it is, that is what I am. You can keep your withering laurels.
A shaman is someone who is master of their visions, not a victim of their visions (like a schizophrenic). Love that. Very insightful
Shaman a master of visions. No. Shamans encounter visions, not create them. They interpret visions. That is what makes them visions: mystical.
@@nagihangot6133 I have to say I think they do both, creating visions as well, hence master of visions, both being able to create visions such as for setting or visualizing goals or creating manifestations to be brought to life. They have to know how to do it themselves otherwise they may not trust outsourced visions. Of course being able to trust yourself and help fight off negative energies, I assume you’d have to be grounded in the skill of producing an antidote to unwanted visions or the power to stay focused and in line with positivity. I hope I made that somewhat clear, don’t want to be too specific or vague.
I first became aware that I was different than everyone else when I was 5 years old in kindergarten. We were asked to draw a house, a tree, the sun & some clouds. I drew a 3 dimensional house with windows, curtains, door, pitched roof and a chimney with smoke coming out of it. I drew a winding path that was broader at the bottom & narrowed as it reached the door. I drew a horizon line halfway up behind the house. I drew billowy clouds with the sun peeking out from behind them, above & behind the house. To the left, I drew a tree with limbs, branches & clumps of leaves & a few roots exposed above tufts of grass at the base. I drew a squirrel hole on the trunk and a few apples on the tree. Then I looked around the room at the 30 other kid’s drawings and was shocked to find no one’s drawing looked like mine! Every one of them drew a lollipop tree with a squirrel hole & apples, a one sided house on top of the horizon line, a straight path that looked like a ladder, circles for clouds and a sun coming out of the top left corner of the paper! I thought there was something wrong with me or my eyesight! 30 kids must not be wrong!? So, I turned my paper over & copied their drawings so no one would think I was crazy! Our teacher had been circling the room as she told us what items to include in our drawings & had been looking at each one as she passed by. When she saw my new drawing, she asked me what happened to my first drawing. I told her that mine was wrong because everyone else’s was the same except mine. I turned it over so she could see my finished drawing. She held it up for all to see & told the class that they were all wrong and mine was correct! Then she took us outside to look at actual trees & clouds & buildings with all the details I had drawn.
This was a huge eye opener for me to not follow the crowd. To trust what I see. Not to be like everyone else. I never forgot this lesson. I was just 5 years old!
I also liked to draw the same type of picture! You forgot a ....fence! :)
That teacher held your life in her hands that day. God bless her. Some shamans become teachers. Like Jordan.
There are places you can visit only through your own knowledge, only through your own wisdom.
And now you're an estate agent?
A great story, with an unexpected twist.
It’s very lonely and frustrating being “too different.” It sucks the motivation out of my life and doesn’t help my depression. A lot of things seem pointless now.
Fast forward End of June 2021, I still feel like an alien, still have a few bouts of depression sometimes, nothing major…but Im now motivated to push myself forward with education and a career path ☺️
Update: Doing much better and I’m in a better place in life. I’m being myself and more carefree and responsible. It’s a great new chapter :)
I hope you find the vision and inner strength to see that being a loner is a great life. The reality is that the average person who is not comfortable enough in their skin to be alone, envys those who are.
Read "Party of One: A loners Manifesto" by Anneli Rufus
An ex-girlfriends parents bought it for me as a gift. It really changed the way I looked at my desire to be alone vs lonliness.
Find what you love to do and work at that. It’ll help you and lead you to a greater purpose
You have the power to make your self happy and to mimic the stupid behaviors to fit in Have pity on the poor Neanderthal
There are others like you, seek them out, but eagles do soar alone
I thrive on it.
I don’t want to assume that he’s talking about me because of confirmation bias, but I can’t help but feel at 26 yo I’ve always been that weird friend everyone came to for emotional articulation and I always search for meaning in every little thing. I do the weirdest things to give even strangers something different to think about and show them their strengths.
I think that is remarkable and extremely valuable. That is an intrinsic virtue that I wish to develop further myself.
BrotherTree1
And you can! The only way I learned to develop this is articulating my own emotions and deepest desires and beliefs. I forced an observer in my head that questioned my every thought-became careful and tactful in my speech and actions and meaningful in as many ways as possible. Dealing with yourself will give you every tool you need to help others deal with themselves.
@@TheAeoxEternal That's really great to hear from you! I'm very similar but the lines are still blurry at times... I think it's a work in progress and perhaps always will be in a state of constant refinement. I am noticing the voice of reason in my conscience but the differentiation is not completely there yet as I mentioned, and also undergoing some significant resistance with my ego which can be confusing. But although blurry at times, I have noticed significantly improved self awareness which had resulted also in some emotional maturity and awareness of choice, leading to less probability for impulses (despite still feeling frustrated) in undesirable situations especially when the framework in mind (whether conscious or unconscious) don't desirably go as planned. I've been meaning to get more into meditation practices which may help aid in those processes.
Not to have confirmation bias either but you expressing this made me feel less alone
Just want you to know you're not alone! I'm very, very similar (at age 23) so hopefully we can find our respective purposes!
Jordan B Peterson.. My Internet Dad. I admire you and I love you. I am thankful to God for having you.
🤣🤣🤣
@@nagihangot6133 shutup göt
I to adopted JBP as my father on Father’s Day 2019. What a wealth of knowledge, a man of principle AND a terrific communicator.
Me too man this man can teach everyone something.
wtf...
"To be so different that you're incomprehensible" I've never been able to articulate this but this is one of my biggest fears
Relax, you're totally safe. We understand you clearly.
One of my projects is I always make sure that I can trace out my thought from a grounding of easy to communicate universal familiarity, because even if I’m in a thoughtfully different place, I still can find them in mind and heart, and reach out in a way they can receive. Maybe not completely embrace where I’m at, but at least you get to feel a warm mental handshake with them which is comforting :)
An ancient Chinese proverb says, "Nail who sticks out the most gets hit the hardest."
it has been goin on a long time - i dont know i dont see myself but time and time again no matter where i go same old - unique different peculiar - crazy who are you etc - ok what am i different from and how in the world did i get like this ?
That's why you need to learn to camouflage sometimes... if not you may be a target around ignorant or plain evil group of people.
@@Nathaly0886 ...and that's my story with those 2 groups. I hate them both.
The taller the tree the stronger the wind, I believe is also a Chinese proverb.
And ancient IKEA proverb says ‘he who reads the instructions gets it built the quickest.’
Whenever I’m depressed, memories of his videos appear and it makes me feel so much more comfortable
Same here. He really can help you stabilize yourself. He covers a lot of practical areas.
Since we're giving advice, here's some, disregard hastily scrawled misspelled interjections... keep up the openness to meaning. Minister to others, but don't be used carelessly, my friend. Get peace where you can, and give it to others. Peace.
:) I love him, but several times I became unwell.
Give up food cooked in industrially processed seed oils and never be depressed ever again.
Must be often, lachrymose
Peterson teaching in the classroom is like brad pitt acting in your living room. Students of UofT had a celebrity amongst them, yet they decided to kick him out. Ironically, I can't thank UofT enough.
CalviNNation the professor they needed. But not the one they deserved
Other than the fact Brad Pitt is a terrible actor with nothing to offer, I agree with your point.
@@icarusalchemist1398 That's rediculous and you know it. He may not be one of the best but to say be is terrible is just someone trying to sound edgy
I had to google that. I had know idea he was Canadian.
actually he is still technically employed there as a professor but is not teaching a class atm. or well he was six months ago i dont know about now
This man is brilliant. I can listen to him explore ideas all day.
He just tells people what they wanna hear, it makes them feel special, thats why he is great salesman
Edge HODL well in this case I think he’s just teaching a class I don’t think he’s intentionally trying to make people feel special 😂
The guy bores me in every way but i agree with him, just don't like his style or way he talks.
@@mauve9266 I don't like the guy but i agree i don't think he is trying to make us feel special.
I often do!
I realized that I'm never alone my best friend is me and it's a relief to think that.... don't let the bad thoughts get to you hope all the people reading this gets the love and peace that they deserve 💓💓💓
Bless ❤️
@@simoncat true
As an asperger, this almost made me cry, honestly.
You and me both.
So I wasn't the only one... Thanks for your comment.❤
I’ve tried to fit in with people for 35 years and this year I’ve decided to give up. Now I’m just leaving society, I might work on a couple of personal projects but mainly that’s due to pass time while waiting to die. I’d probably take my life if it wasn’t so painful, sounds bleak but it’s actually logical as life is just suffering and struggling. I came from a poor, odd family, got bullied at school, did a lot of drugs (found connections with humans then until the drug years ended so realised that was artificial friendships) then I went to uni late, did exceptionally well in engineering and earned a tonne of money. Spent all that on dumb things I thought would make me happy, none of it did. Recently, I lost all that because of some morons I worked with but I think I’m happier without all that stuff and the pressure. I feel like I’ve tried everything life has to offer now. It was enjoyable when I was younger (especially when I tried good ecstasy back in the early 2000s - an experience I still to this day regard as the peak of my life, overshadowing all other achievements that a normal person strives for) The only thing I haven’t tried is having a kid which most people say is what life is about but I think that’s just cruel in this climate and how bad the world is getting. The kid will suffer as we did, struggle to find jobs, see the planet is dying, then watch their parent die before dying themselves, etc. I think if we’re honest the only people who enjoy life are either on drugs (which is transient) or are too stupid to have thought about it properly. I believe if you aren’t depressed and anxious, you haven’t thought hard enough. Even though it’s horrible to feel so alone, so down and so sick of listening to stupid people everywhere you look, I’d still say we’re better off being intelligent and alone. I would never want to be like these other people just because they ‘fit in’ better. People are idiots more than ever now, sheepish, judgemental herd mentality with lives so void of meaning that they find your originality offensive and have nothing better to do than live on social media to reassure themselves (I don’t class YT as social media, if used effectively, it’s the perfect educational tool). My only advice after all this time is, get out of the rat race ASAP as it will take your soul being forced to deal with these people. Even if that means living on the breadline for a few years while you come up with better ways of living. The typical life is no way to live, working for 60 years, just to buy some overpriced bricks while being a slave to a bunch of useless, hateful, closed minded zombies for some company that doesn’t care about you. Find love, peace, nature, good food, etc and spend time working on what you like even if it doesn’t make you much money. You’ll be richer in more meaningful ways. If you want a truly meaningful task and struggle to come up with something, Ive figured the most important problem, way ahead of climate change, etc. Is the brain. Study things like neuralink or CRISPR and help out in those areas. Reprogramming humans to not be so flawed, stupid, etc is the only way to fix this and if you think hard enough then all problems in our experience arise from issues with the brain. Whether that be psychological (depression, psychopathy, etc), physical (spinal injury, etc), even climate change (lack of empathy for future generations and greed for resources, etc), it all boils down to the flaws in the human brain. Good luck fellow loners, I wish you all well 😘
Scary how relatable your words are, you sound like a smart guy so i'll try to leave some words of encouragement. You have to admit that happiness is a choice. Once you truly believe that your happiness is a choice despite how fucked up society has become, then you will be able to overcome your suffering. But you have to believe it is possible is the first step. If we are intelligent we should be able to figure out how to be happy. Easier said than done but i think well get there. Best wishes.
Jerry thank you for the words of encouragement but I just don’t feel like that’s the case any more. I used to think like that but recently so many negative things have happened in my life that I’ve come to believe that isn’t the case. The numbers just don’t work out in my favour. There’s only one of me and although I can try to remain happy and ignore the other people it’s just impossible since there are so many of them compared. It’s a losing battle, one I’ve already lost. I’m always searching for answers though so I’m always open to ideas but I doubt anything short of re-engineering humans at a fundamental level will help.
Extremely poor excuses for not having a child! Do it anyway! You'll never know the joy and satisfaction until you try.
Life is a very mixed bag - It’s scary and beautiful and delicious and Gross - But something I know for sure - Is that - it is worth living - and while most people are born in vein - when your awake to this whole facade we live in - we get to experience life even more deeply and if we choose to fight that good fight we may even become the pioneers of the deeper meaning we have found and possibly evoke change.
why not show the middle finger to this hell-world by being the good guy? the best version of yourself?
I was always an eccentric loner, for as long as I can remember. It's the main reason I had to quit social media years ago as it amplified any feelings of difference.
I've learnt how vitally important it is to still try to remain connected with others even though it is near impossible to be accepted wholly for who you are. There are only a small handful you will find who can do this. 'I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not'
Nice to see I'm not the only one. When people ask how to find me on social media and I reply I don't have Facebook, snapchat, etc. They look at me as if something is wrong with me!! Maybe there is! Lol! But I do not have any desire to share my life/day with "friends" I barely know. It all feels very narcissistic to me.
Women are obsessed with social status, look at who they date.. The top 10% ... The whole I want a good man is complete BS... They want a man that challenges their convictions.
@@TheJbiz84 all women?
Same here. I've always been a loner and it used to really bother me. At some point, I realized that most people I meet won't understand or even like me, but I can still be happy with only myself. Now, I just try to be there for other people and not expect anything in return. I make an effort to understand my coworkers, family members, and peers and enjoy giving and doing something kind for them, even if they don't acknowledge it or give me anything back. Having this mindset that it's okay to give without receiving helps me to be content and at peace with who I am and what I have.
I quit social media too. It gets me weird looks from my peers sometimes, but it doesn't do anything for me. No number of followers can ever take the place of the one or two close friends I've always wanted, and it made me feel like I couldn't be accepted unless I changed myself and became someone I wasn't, and someone I wouldn't respect or even like much.
Anyways, I completely agree. Staying connected is always important. You can be happy even if you're not fully understood.
Unknown he said woman not “all women”...
I've always been different. It bothered my mom tremendously. She wanted me to fit in and be liked. I can interact properly with society when I need and feel that is sufficient.
A few among us have a higher level of consciousness.
This will change soon.
@KireRike ok
KireRike past life 😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🧠⚰️
Those that don't, believe that they do; those who do don't boast about it, but instead use their knowledge to help people around them and create great things. If you're going, "I'm a visionary and people just don't see it," you yourself are either communicating something incorrectly or, most likely, you're just not as much of a hot-shot as you think you are.
AMONGUS
I am one of those who grew up not needing others because I knew wey more than most people ( in terms of wisdom). I developed discernment at an early age. I have learned to just accept it as normal. That is all can do. There is no competition going on... it is what is.
Proverbs 26:12
I'm quite unhappy, I always seem to think, say and do things that are different to what the majority of people are thinking, saying and doing. It's got to the point that I avoid people because I know that I'm always going to be the odd one out. I don't socialise at all and I have big problems with maintaining relationships although I used to find it quite easy to initiate a new relationship. I really don't know why this is and I think about it a lot, then I start judging myself and passing verdicts on my sanity. I've never had a " best friend " that has lasted more than a couple of years at the most. Like I said earlier, all of this is making me feel unhappy and sometimes I feel that I am completely different from every other person on this planet. I refuse to initiate any sort of relationship with someone of the opposite sex because, even if it did last for a while, I know that it's going to end badly, and I just couldn't face another broken heart. I know that I should be seeking professional advice but I'm not even confident enough to make the first step. I'm a 62 year old man with two divorces behind me, I've got issues with alcohol plus loads more stuff that I can't put down in words, but I just skip through life ignoring it and pretending that I'm a normal, well adjusted person. Is there anyone else out there who thinks like I do.
Therapy will help you big time if you commit to it
Yes you are completely different from everyone else in the world just like anybody else. We are all unique beings but trust me I relate to your experiences and I'm only 27. Haven't had divorces yet because I haven't gotten married yet but here is the thing. I have accepted the world for what it is, life becomes a bit more easier that way. You have start meditating, it will help you big time. By meditation I'm not talking about the ones we see in the movies, I'm talking about just sitting around enjoying some music and taking some none alchoholic wine just by yourself and just empty and free your mind like nothing exists in the world but you. Do that often for some few days and you will see the benefit. Try not to take alcohol during this time but rather do something you enjoy like reading, listening to music, taking pictures, tennis, gulf, Polo riding, watching soccer or basketball or rugby or any sports and during such time you will definitely have human contacts which will stimulate your emotions and then you go home or sit at a park and do your meditation. You will be much happirr and getting relationships will be much easier that way. Go for therapy. Well just a small tip I think will help you. I wish you all the best.
People in relationships can grow apart, it is normal. However, abusive assholes manage to get the woman to stay with them and actively resist leaving. If those assholes can make it so that their relationships don't end, I'm sure you can either. You just need to prove you wrong
Without aggression or cohertion************
What I meant is that some people, no matter how bad do they have it, keep staying there and won't leave when they can. Even when they treat them badly***
Yes there is someone here who thinks like you do. Perhaps your younger self of 33.
For me the key was to:
- make sure I truly understand my own neurology (giftedness, autism, that sort of thing)
- realize what kind of household I came from (passive dad, hypercritical mom)
And then the 'solution' to the "not confident enough to seek professional advice" thing turned out to be to reach out in a more low-grade way to people around me.
There is a telephone line in my country called "The Listening Line" where other non-therapist humans will pick up and act like a human being and converse with you about anything you want, anonymously. This helped me become less dependent on dad, resulting in my actually talking more with my dad / friend about everyday events such as some social interaction with the car repair man that is about to go south. We would analyze quite extensively what exactly is going on and come up with a new way of behaving that would maximize my chances of saving the interaction. And it works.
Once I did this a couple of times, I realized that I don't want to live life alone and that you really should and want to talk to others and ask them for help, even with seemingly little things. As a result of learning these new social-emotional skills, I'm now saving more interactions and relationships from ruin.
It is like.. up to a point, you can therapy yourself.
Heck, a therapist would merely enhance what (process) is already there. Therapists can't just.. cast Therapy on you, lol.
So I'd say: find ways to open up to the world in ways that feel safe and attainable to you.
And then work your way "up" from there.
Eventually you may or may not set foot in the "official" therapy world.
But you can also create that kind of world (healing environment) for yourself, long before or without doing so.
Alienation is real, once you surpass a level of intellect or experience within a group or peers.
Why aren't people advancing to a new, better group of peers.
@@j_freed That's what I was wondering.
How?
also the tendencie to interllectualize everything to the Point of alienation sometimes it's choice, Just because you are smarter or surpass "there" Level doesn't mean that you have to Always prove obssesively that you're the smartest, sometimes it's to reconise the Potential & learning curve in everyone, i think Most people are not perticualy the try to be Always perticuarly born smart they become "smart" by down playing others you Not also give them the Feeling they never will be smart or getting smarter they also hate being around you, better is that they Like being around you because you don't of yourself being smart and assume in others more Potential that they show currently have, because i think even the smartest people are limited in a way and there a many ways where you can Show being smart not just one, it's Not about Prestige or Status when you realize that you are all one and those
transcence your own feeling of smartness & uniqueness because you realize you're ordinary but Not that special, the smartest people have often the biggest Ego's and there are not really wise.
@@j_freed Sometimes you can't. But eventually it gets better. This is (or was at least in my case) due to inadequacies and temporary limitations in your environment. As your environment changes and you get better at skills, your opportunities to have peers changes. Sometimes for better, other times for worse.
Sometimes you don't have the power to change your environment for a long time (during k-12 schooling for example, for those that really can't find others like them). Eventually you have the power to change it again.
Young people like me also need time to get better socially. If you have felt alone and alienated you also tend to have worse social skills. But that improves over time too. So in some ways you have to "graduate" to a new group, but sometimes the group you had before no longer worked. So there is a chunk of time where you don't fit anywhere.
I know from experience. It takes time. My advice for anyone in this sort of limbo state is to remember what is important to you in a social sense, stay strong, and stay patient. Find ways to build social skills, and work on finding a better environment for yourself if/when you can. Things will get better, I promise!
I’ve found that I’m much different than others. But not everyone. And it’s not a bad different, like a low self esteem and longing for others acceptance. It’s seeing through how people are. Why they are and what they portray. I see the insecurity, self - entitlement, ego, which all in turn is driven by lack of self and acceptance. Just wanting to look great she look powerful etc. I keep out of it. It’s low quality living and I know what’s behind all that shit. Whether I’m judged on being judgmental for what I just said, I don’t give a fuck. I’m allowed to stay away from shit that disgusts me.
Guys I thought of an interesting solution to feeling somewhat isolated, depressed and anxious because of not fitting on with society, as well as being very inquisitive as to why people do things.
I seriously think that because of this, we isolate ourselves and therefore deprive ourselves of our emotional need of belonging. There is the common and mass society that we could join if we wanted to, but to join that society means to abandon our own principles and to consciously conform to that culture.
Personally, I find todays culture to be extremely narcissistic and psychopathic.
And so the solution I propose is to create and/or find a group of people that share the same mindset as you. There are not many people, but I do believe that the root of our negative emotion is the fact that we are not satisfying our innate need for belonging to a group because of the reasons mentioned above.
The society we are presented with may not be one we choose, but I believe we must choose some sort of society to be able to function at optimal mental health.
What do you guys think?
This is so true, I realized I needed the social aspect and connections to be successful so I joined a procrastination program. it was expensive for a student like me but the membership is for life and I am in touch with many people who want to be more efficient and better themself, where we support each other while sharing what works, doesn't work and trying new methods to conquer procrastination and become more efficient in order to archive our visions, dreams, and goals in life. I choose the procrastination category because that is a universal denominator that can be used for people to connect and relate to each other.
Thank you and Very Beautifully written. :)
Thank you guys ❤ When we are part of a group, our ideas and values are validated. In essence, WE are validated. Just now you vaildated me, and I validated you. It felt so so good. It is a human need to be loved and accepted. This is also why i see social media to be so prevelant and addicting, it satisfies our deepest need.
On second revision though, I think belonging to a group is only one of many variables that go into our overall well-being. Think of 15 candles standing side by side in a dark room, some bigger, and some smaller. The total amount of light emitted from the combined candles represents how much positive emotion we have.
Belonging to a group is probably one of the bigger and more important candles, and when lit, contributes largely to our emotional well-being. Other candles are still very important though. These could be physical health, hygiene, nutrition, sleep, career satisfaction, etc.
This is how I see life and mental health. So if you are feeling down, depressed and unmotivated, you may want to look at what activities it is that you spend your energy and willpower on.
If all your candles are off, start with excercise. This will give you the most efficient and best return on your emotional investment.
Vasco Gamero interesting way to see life different qualities in the candle analogy. mine is more of a responsability circle around me that shrinks and grows depending on my actions and competence and finding ways to be more efficient.
Each "cake slice" I add into the circle is a task/skill or virtue that I want to focus on. I refined them and choose to focus on 7 common denominating things that underlies everything that I need to master to get what I want in life.
Other things like family and relationship will follow and fall into place once I master these.
1. physical strenght and good man (enbody my protective masculine instinct of being a protector, be a good man in etics and possess good masculine qualities)
2. Learn to be an assertive communicator
3. be emotional resilient to hardship and setbacks by using stoicism.
4. be financially educated( know how to earnmoney, keep, protect, save, invest it. not to mention avoid pay taxes in a legal way.
5. effectove networking with other successful people to sat updated, help and support.
6. Have a good physical precence, (be self aware of the social and nonverbal ques I emitt to ther people and how I carry my self, look, dressed, eye contact, shaking hands. exedera)
7. Continual education, stay humble and sharp, be handy, in different skills, learn wood carving, plumming, auto repair, surivival skills, leadership, exedera.
You totally spoke my mind. Thanks👍
Other than the feeding on the bark of trees, this sounds like me.
Well, you are still young...
same a little bit maybe not keeping the knowledge because our culture has different people for that
I wish i could say the same. Unfortunately I eat the tree bark
I wonder if most of us attracted to this video identify with the shamanic figure...
Mateus Malheiros. Maybe. I know I'm like that, and it's very lonely.
I feel like I’ve never been more alone in my life. The least I can do is be okay with it. I just feel like I can’t unsee some truths that I’ve learned and am more self aware in a sense than others, and that makes me feel different, and more alone.
I relate with this. Ive never felt more alone in my life even though I have lots of people around me. Maybe you meant it the same, but in my case truths about myself. Then I think maybe if I see these "truths" about myself as absolute I wont find the mental conviction to change which plays right into the self forfulling prophecy.
I am constantly looking for these "truths" to be invalidated. These nagging thoughts which feed insecurity.
Anyway, I am self aware moreso than others, which makes, the older I get, connecting with people harder. Just when, the older I get, really connecting with someone can mean so much and so rarely occurs lately.
When Peterson begins with “Alright... so.... now... the Shaman,” you know it’s gonna be good.
“So different you’re incomprehensible”? Welcome to my life.
Ditto.
Ditthey wd she set up a club!! Lol
We shd set up a club s what I meant.. See.. Lol
Incomprehensible is one word the last time i checked
Same
"To be so different that you are incomprehensible. That's the sort of horror you don't want to encounter." Ah, yes. That summarizes all my training thus far to become a world teacher.
Just got fired last week because I made the new boss feel nervous. Probably because I took one look at him and instantly saw that he's a snake. It's like breathing to me, I look and I see and then I cannot unsee.
I get that. Hope you find a new job where there are no snakes.
Hardly believable u can judge someone's character just by one look. Experts therapists need lot of session to make the same assumptions about someone.
Maybe u need to reevaluate why u judge people the way u do.
@@haryen8876 no, some of us are empaths. We keep a distance from certain people and aren't shocked when the person we know is untrustworthy ends up being exposed as an abuser. I tried to warn people the first time and I was told, no, you just don't like this person. We found out years later she was a child abuser and took her to court. I wasn't the victim but people need to listen to empaths
@@haryen8876 "Experts therapists need lot of session to make the same assumptions about someone" - Are you such an expert? Or just another one google-smart genius of our times?
As an empath, I can get close to someone and feel their energy. I’ve been this way since I was young and the times I don’t listen to it and give people the benefit of the doubt, mostly because of that pink warm spot between their legs, I regret it severely. Always, always trust that feeling if you are an empath.
I wish I had a teacher like Mr. Peterson back when I was in school he’s a great lecturer
The giver (book/movie) is a fantastic example of this lecture. Love connecting the dots from JP’s lectures and seeing how utile they are irl. Peace to all of y’all and keep garnering knowledge!
I just love watching his hand gestures. :) Such an interesting man.
When you're a giant, you can have your head in the clouds and your feet firmly on the ground.
I shed tears over this.
He’s describing what Jung called Introverted intuition
yeah true! its my first function! I am guessing many misfits out there are Ni users, cuz it enables u to see the full picture and go deep into the meanings which many ppl find boring and useless
Very true. As an INFJ I am obsessed with the pursuit of meaning and constantly searching. JK Rowling’s is also an INFJ. Ni for its users sometimes feels like a blessing , sometimes not.
@@Roy97h it has its perks
@@clockwork6480 You say "many misfits out there are Ni users" pardon my ignorance but what is an Ni user?
@@anthonyredmond6713 Ni is introverted intuition, a cognitive function according to Carl Jung, there are many articles abt it on the internet, you can check them out if u like
the most hurtfull thing about being too different is seeing the people you love look at you with both pitty and disgust,but they try thier best to hide it from you.
There is different, and then there are different.
as momma frigga said in endgame "Everyone fails at who they're supposed to be, Thor. The measure of a person, of a hero, is how well they succeed at being who they are."
Thank you Jordan Peterson.
I hear you...thank you for the understanding. Hard times struggle now.
Love him or hate him... he's smart.
Actually, he's not that smart; he's just very elocuent and convincing for most people. But he's interpretations and comments show he's narrow-minded and doesn't look deep enough into phenomena. Take, for example, the comment "it's bad enough to be different". He's implying, and even encouraging, that, in order not to feel uncomfortable or rejected, people better comply with that which society considers "normal" and acceptable, so you can fit in and mould to dominant cultural stereotypes. How is that better, if you have to suppress and repress who you are and could be? It's sick! It takes courage to be different and people should be proud of it. Eventually, you'll find a more authentic community to fit in.
J R His achievements, education, professional publications, and where he has taught is evidence enough he is intelligent. The argument isn’t whether he is intelligent, it’s how intelligent.
@@BadMannerKorea Thats survivor bias.
And btw, he almost killed himself with drugs.
@@halleffect5439 How is it survivorship bias by saying the guy is intelligent? Nobody denies he’s delusional about how food cures his daughters auto immune disease, and I know all about his drug issues and going to Russia. He’s still a smart guy.
@@BadMannerKorea You said he is intelligent because he has achieved.
I personally find him intelligent and he is a good talker.
But the things which made him successfull may not work on others. I mean i accept arguments, but he is obviously not always right, like you mentioned.
Good to see that some of his fans are reflective.
I couldn’t care less of people that don’t like me for who I am, but it’s getting to be troublesome because I have no friends at this point! Anyone relate?
Get your face tattooed fully and see if its true
"No price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself"- Nietszche
It can be rough out there and the temptation of joining the crowd is there.
I know he’s not talking to me but this speech speaks to me. For most of my life I’ve felt that the beliefs and way of living for society in general is something I can’t comprehend.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me and all of us. I really, really needed this exact video in order to not get complitly insane.
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Too Different's what's kept me happy.
Anyone else have no idea how others see you? When I think about certain people I work with, I know instantly what other people in the office think of them or how they would describe them. Yet when I think about how people at work would describe me, I honestly have no idea.
This is common.
Wow, surprised to have never seen this snippet of lecture before! Tremendous depth and clarity in how he expresses these ideas.
His “alright so” is so cute. Wonderful lecture again
Everyone thinks they're special now.
And rightly, so...?
@@jessicasmith7102 now we gotta party like its 1939
Why don’t you like people happy? Whenever someone makes things brighter for them out of their dark days you just love to ruin it again?
@@ceftomapothelyamburcsvlafr2734 How did you tie ''thinking you're special'' with ''being happy''??
Is someone telling you you're special an excuse big enough to make you happy ??
Jessica Smith if everyone’s special, nobody is. Life ain’t a fairy tale
I have a lot of experience where im alienated by my peers but i wonder at time, is it because i lack the understanding to actually communicate with other or do they just see me as the odd ball that should be left out, i do talk to myself but only to hear my thoughts, ive always felt i did it as a way to keep me from going insane ive never had some one who would actually listen to me, im was always left out of conversation or when i did join the conversations it would just stop, i never had anything worth talking about but i always gave my best effort to relate to people, ive come to realize maybe i dont need to vocalize my thoughts, parents never took me to get check to see if could get some help because i guess i seemed normal enough but i feel like it would have helped in the long run
The reason why I'm always going with this is that it has never happened to be in your head and I am deeply grateful that you are a true human being in this life of consciousness
Jordan Peterson is uniquely gifted at explaining complex abstract ideas in ways that all of us, almost intuitively, can understand & relate to.
3:50 "A lot of what cultures learn in an articulated sense, a lot of what they become conscious of, is presented to them by artists in somewhat unconscious form long before the full meaning of whats been portrayed is articulated"
I'm a med undergrad and I would skip neuro for a life lecture of Jordan Peterson
love that man. thank you jordan.
Thanks!! I needed this.
Someone has to be the Keeper of the Flame...
Has he played Dark Souls ?
GWYN. WE KNOW ITS YOU. WE HAVE BEEN DOWN THIS ROAD BEFORE. YOUR AGE IS OVER.
@@Darth_Bateman
Ha Ha that Great
You ll remain with the cursed
Dark Souls III For Life
@@sheldoncooper8199 I started with DS3, (love it) played Bloodborne for quite a long while.......and now I'm actually getting into (GASP!!) Dark Souls 2! After that I'll do DS1 then Demon's Souls, I might as well do this all backwards :D (I'll be returning to DS3 and BB from time to time as well)
@@DigitalHaze65536
I STILL need to Play Bloodborne shame om me i just dislike the Fact that you cant Block in that Game and that The Armors are just fashion But i like the Setting and the Monsters
I played through DS 3 probably 6 Times and i will buy DS 1 Remastered next
I just pretend DS 2 doesnt exist i seriously dislike that Game.
I love DS 3 So much will still play it in 2026 i am certain.
Check out the Speed Runner Nemz38 he beat the Game 180 Times
@@sheldoncooper8199 I have to admit I'm a shield guy too........but the way Bloodborne plays it's not like trying to play DS without a shield, your guy moves faster, has more stamina, ect. You can upgrade your defense and HP with Carol Runes, and the armor helps A LITTLE. (obviously not like a Havels set) Shields do work well in DS3 though........it's funny to just RUN OVER the likes of Pontif or Twin Princess with a Havels Greatshield and a strong build wielding something like a Lothric Ultra Greatsword :)
This state of being causes me much suffering...
I hear you brother
I love who he is talking about . it completes my life. Thank you so much ...
I read here many inspirational thougths. Thank you people I need it, it's sometimes hard to stay on the line when deal with tough things . I am leaving this comment section a bit stronger. Thank you!
I feel you, brother. You’re a good soul.
I’m 73 and to a fair degree have always “marched to a different drum”. Often I feel that the critics and nay-sayers are my best motivators and bring out my best efforts, I have also had a long history of hearing loss which though limiting in some areas also has an upside in that I can often focus more fully on a subject when needed. I have the greatest regard for true independent thinkers , they don’t come along that often and they give us so much if they can offer a new perspective on some aspect of life. My other great interest is the management of chaos, this I think is one of the most worthwhile mental pursuits one can consider as at one time or another we will all face a chaotic situation. There are processes that can be learnt that will really help us turn chaos into order. Having dealt with both fire and flood I have seen the value of good chaos management. A quote I read somewhere said bravery runs about to the limit of our training ; l’d certainly prefer to be well trained over being blindly brave, l know which is more effective and useful. Davox from Oz.
Can you elaborate more about these processes? Most of the time I hear descriptions of the present, but no solutions.
Being different has an effect, most people will not want to talk to you, most people are also shallow and uninteresting, but those that do want to talk to you will either be your best friends, the love of your life, or someone you will hate with all that you are. Difference is a filter, and your opinions and views are what allows someone past it, often because they think similar, or are equally as odd as you are.
This can breed loneliness, we are told repeatedly that we must "fit" into society, reality is we need only function in it. It's not so much that we are alone, or that we are different, or that we don't fit in, it's that we feel alone, that we can't relate to most people. We in a way cause our own loneliness, by simply being unable to think like everyone else.
Ultimately I'd say do not worry, we all find our group, the people we belong with, and because we all know its value, or should know, we are more likely to stick together, which in today's society loyalty and commitment seem to be absent.
He is a genius. I have listened to him for a long long time . listening his speech helps me learn to live.
I needed to hear this today. Different is the right word.
Man that's so scary when he talked about the schizophrenia hearing voices and things like that because i too hear voices and have been diagnosed with BP1 (the worst one) and find myself getting on fairly well in life. But that's only because i cope and I have also been diagnosed with autism. It is an illusion. I was born into and awoke from this depressing world, early in life , I would see through my high mind and see people literally fragmented. I was "just too much" and people didn't understand me, and still don't. But Hearing voices and stuff like that just means your intuitive, and perhaps you have esp.Which is a gift i think But modern science doesn't recognize this because it's not profitable for them.
I hope you are doing well
Certainly not autism. Unless your drug problem is not to severe you should be fine with basic treatment.
Most voices you hear are from when your mind was very active but you were very tired and you went to sleep half black out or comatose at the same time a tv or radio was playing somewhere or someone talking when you went out or during that time, and your memory keeps recalling it .
How do you see people fragmented. Can you please try to explain it to me, I'm very curious
@@admirkalari6451 When I was really young I used to see people , or I think it was a lady she was very nervous but I remember looking at her and just noticing fragmentation in her appearance. It was very un settling. I knew she struggled with some kind of mental illness , like she has so much to do and her mind was everywhere. I saw what she was going through. Just buy looking at her. It was strange.
Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream by night.
Hats off to you JBP, i like you. You speak from the heart, there is no lying in you.
People has told me throughout my whole life that I'm wierd, not normal, special etc. Sometimes throughout my life during hard times I have begun to think it is because Im not 'normal' - it has taken me 30 years to understand that beeing unusual is something to embrace. Really, it is..!!
JP makes me wish I had furthered my education instead of taking the anti-establishment and angry route to adulthood. On the other hand I would not have found my soulmate had I taken a different path.
Always look forward without regret and gain wisdom from the past.
@Mr.Anonymous I completely changed careers at 30. The first 3 years were horrible and more challenging than I would have liked but it was a great decision looking back.
Your experience is a great example of being blessed in spite of ourselves.
@@CynsingsStudios It is amazing how much has changed in six months. The wisdom and experience of past generations points to a very dark future in Canada. Pseudo-education, misinformation and propaganda has exploded on all sides and most Canadians don't feel the need to get engaged. To quote Spock, "Fascinating."
I like the analogy made with a person who has Schizophrenia, and undoubtedly, its why I came here. I'm possibly 2 standard deviations to the right of the curve, maybe an INFJ (Myers/Briggs), and have paranoid schizophrenia. I love my solitude, I do dream, have intuition, people look up to me I have learnt, and people often seek my advice. Weird, weird, weird.
This is for me. I am a visionary. I live with my head in the clouds but my feet on the ground. I’m also pretty conscientious. I feel pretty special
This is a gem and treasure of a lecture!
INTJ here, I feel lonely because of lack of intellectual discussions of future prospects of how to implement a realistic eutopia on earth. People are busy with drama, violence or escape of either a healthy passion of love of life or engaging in the avoidance of their greatest fears, which ultimately and probably is our greatest solutions to our greatests problems. Anyone else feels this?
broadbandtogod sometimes people doesn’t want to talk about this
I’m an intp I hope I can find a friend like intj
Intp. I feel you bro.
Alekai I’m a girl so it’s not bro.. you’re also an intp?
Ed M good advice thanks I’m applying this lately
I simply don't know how to be a friend.
To get close to others, you have to realize that everybody is the same inside. Our brains (the hardware) all work the same, they are biochemical computers. People have different thought patterns and are saturated in different pursuits, skills and interests. But at the deepest level, we all deal with survival, procreation, getting access to resources by ourself or by intergrating into a subset of society. You might find people in similar challenges as you. You might find comfort in the fact that you're not worse off than a lot of others. You might find stability and security by investing your energy into some society and getting powerful support in exchange. I think CoachRedPill said security is when you know you have people around you and they will definitely catch you when you fall, they will be there when you need them. A friendship or any relationship is an investment. You have to put forth something from your own pocket to receive back in the long run. Give love and support because you know it's the right thing, don't expect things back. Not all but some people will step up and do their part when you need them to.
Same here. I've been alienated and condescended throughout my entire life, with little to no friends by my side,I feel so empty all time. It's not that I'm a selfish person, it's because of that deficit that I have nothing to give to people.
The first step in being a friend to someone else, is to be a friend to yourself. Treat yourself fairly, be honest with yourself, and try to lift yourself up - to be the best you that you can be. _[To avoid vagueness, that means figuring out who you want to be, the sort of person you'd respect, and then... as opportunities present themselves, encourage yourself to do the things that get you where you want to be. Along the way, mistakes will be made - so don't forget to forgive yourself either. Self-forgiveness is not the same as making excuses, it's recognizing a need for change, resolving to change, actually making the change, and moving forward while letting go of resentment over a misstep.]_
Once you can do all of that for yourself, you'll know what is needed to be a friend to someone else.
Be advised though, very few people undergo this level of self-scrutiny. Most people can count the number of friends they have on one hand. If you see someone surrounded by friends... somebody's lying. Either their "friends" are lying about who they are, or the popular person is lying to themselves about their relationships. Either way, they're in for a severe letdown, and probably when they need friends the most. Expecting to have more than 5 real friends, is probably an unreasonable expectation. Good Luck. 👍
MrSaemichlaus
“Don’t expect things back” yes, within reason. If you have friends who never give back, and constantly take. These are not friends..
@@MrSaemichlaus Thats is simply untrue. Please research the validity of your statements (the brain related) before misleading others
Thanks JP , that was fascinating .
I think it's important to separate being different from not understanding your difference. We are all different and it is hard to properly open up and share that with others but I think a huge disservice plays out if I try to tell myself those around me don't understand and cannot comprehend my thought process.
We all literally see the world so differently in little meticulous and nuanced ways. But what I have learned through hours upon hours in daily understanding of myself is the more I develop an idea and foundation of who I am and what I believe in the more I become my own person, confident and individual to those around me, but also this better understanding with myself very directly translates to a more transparent relationship with those around me.
Having a sense of difference from those around me, especially family, is an important tug my soul is trying to get me to notice to better establish that connection with my consciousness and the pure divinity we all share. Following that difference chops away little by little the commonalities and blindness that would otherwise stir and propagate slowly leading way to what it is I am meant to do.
However while chopping away those commonalities and shared ground will reinvent and establish a more fulfilling life founded on structured and intentional thinking, it is a VERY challenging and isolating path.
If you feel a sense of difference from those around you, feel empowered and chase it. Always build bridges and authentic connection between you and another person instead of allowing these misunderstood differences to blur your relationships because we all have our differences. We all simply find out in different times and show them in different ways. Understand yours, grow, and connect.
Best of luck to you all in your lives 👃🏽🧡.
The lunatic, the lover and the poet
Are of imagination all compact:
william shakespeare
Thank u Morris.....
I will say it was a long process of meditation and release work until I reached the zero point and welcomed the beyond within. I have visions and am guided; all without drugs. Drugs can be a gateway and a trap. Learn how to connect to the universe from within, without the need for drugs to do it for you.
What does your average day look like?
Thank you. Always impressed with your insight and delivery. Good work means a lot.
We have to be the light that guides the way forward.
Yo I am a shizophrenic shamanic outcast.
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me too
Me three
My tip, don't follow ideologies or religions, or at least do it as least as possible. Follow your gut, your intuition and pay attention to nature and your environment. The world is your teacher.
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This guys brain work on a whole different level
Laptop in his back pocket
Thank you for helping me understand myself beter once again jordan, thank you so much!!
You’re a brilliant Doctor
"But you are a chosen generation, a ROYAL PRIESTHOOD, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light; " ~ 1 Peter 2:9
Life is hard when you're too different from everyone else...i have asperger and believe me it is HARD...
Same 💗
Dr. Peterson is my Shaman.
I love his mind! Just love him!!!