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You & Keegan love each other so you should express to him how you are feeling. It doesn't mean you aren't also looking forward to moving in with him. It's perfectly normal & human to experience both emotions. Keegan seems like a pretty cool guy. I think he will understand. Wishing you both a Happy Christmas! 🎄🦌🤶🎅❄️
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Yes Joel, you probably don't remember, but I've said for years you and Lia could be my children/grandchildren. I'm your 75 yr old Florida Gran. Love your channels. Merry Christmas to you, Keegan, Parents, Lia and Lucy! 🤩❤
I can understand that sometimes it could be a little overwhelming when your heart is overflowed with conflicted emotions. Jumping into the unknown could be really frightening. But it also the salt we need in life to make big moves and get out of our comfort zone.
Your conflicted feelings are totally understandable, Joel, and I'm sure Keegan and Lucy get it. Although you are embarking on an exciting new adventure living with Keegan, it's also very stressful to leave behind what you've known and loved. Once you settle in, and get sweet Ava back, I'm sure you'll feel much better. I wish you and all your loved ones a very Merry Christmas!
I'm a 60 year old grandmother and I have always thought of you and Lia as my grandchildren or children. I haven't been a grandmother that long, and you two are the ages of my kids.
Love the cow!!! This may not help and you may not understand the USA region references but...When I was a little younger than you, I was in a suburb in Michigan and because of lack of jobs, myself and friends decided to move a long distance (over 20 hours) to Oklahoma City. I knew nothing about it and thought it must be awful and just full of backwards people and cowboys. I cried sooo hard to my mother but really had no choice. Well, 20 years past and to this day, I look back on those years as the best of my life. I laugh at how upset I was about making that long trip. So just hold on. Something tells me some great blessings are coming your way for you and Keegan. He really is just adorable, precious and seems to have a good soul. So rare these days.
I moved from Southern California for my bf in Dallas texas, I get it, it’s a culture shock, its leaving people behind , memories but you can make new ones and always visit your old Stomping grounds. Hang in there, allow your self to cry because I did. It’s a pretty weird time.
Being aware and honest about what you're feeling is so good, Joel. Sometimes these strong waves of emotion are like being in a car sliding on ice. It's counterproductive to jam on the brakes and try to ignore or push away the feelings; just steer into it, be "in it" and eventually, when you don't even realize it, the lonely, uncomfortable newness will dissipate and things will start to feel routine and comfy again. Giving myself the permission to feel my feelings and knowing that it's normal and WILL get better, helps take some of the anxiety and scariness away.
Was gonna say similar. Glad ti hear you're feeling thru the hard feelings it makes room for the more pleasant ones to be fully felt. Also, it's evidence of all the good you have had there and with Lucy. All really big things you'll be missing getting to have memories with regularly.
Joel I think that it is normal to feel a bit down when you are experiencing a life changing event like moving, especially when you have been in London for so long. But you will be like Lia going to London for meetings with friends and business. Everyone would have concerns about making a life changing move. I think that you have said you lived on a farm when you were younger, so you have experience living in a rural area before. You were talking about Keegans Nan and you were doing the kind of video she watches, lol.Look at it this way you showed your viewers parts of London and not you can show us something different than that, the English countryside. I think that it will turn out just fine. I hope that you enjoy your Christmas 🎄 time with your family and friends ❤️.
I like bemoaning whether it is a word or not. Just allow yourself to worry for up to 30 seconds at a time, then flip the script to happy thoughts. Merry Christmas Joel!
No matter how amazing and exciting the future is, getting there is almost always bittersweet. So happy to see you embracing the new but also cherishing the old. You're doing it right, Joel! Just be patient with yourself.
Hi Joel try not to be stressed live in the moment and be happy that you’re a healthy young man I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis so I am literally home 24 seven I can’t travel anymore I’m stuck at home going to physical therapy getting shots in pain so enjoy your life never take your health for granted because something like this can come up and kick you in the ass when you’ve been healthy your entire life love watching your Vids smile kiddo you’re living a charmed life
Hey there! I also have MS, and yes it sucks mightily, but I encourage you find a new purpose for yourself. When I got diagnosed I thought it was just my herniated disc getting worse and worst case scenario I'd need surgery. Nope, and that first attack left a ton of lesions on my spinal cord so I could no longer work as a paramedic, a job I really loved and was pretty damn good at. It also meant loss of income, fighting for 3 years to get on disability etc etc not to mention the toll it's taken on my family. Regardless, I got a therapist and found new ways to look at my life. Instead of thinking of it as the tattered remains of my old life this is a new but different one. Trust me, it's a much nicer and more peaceful way to live. Consider reframing how you think, friend. Peace 💗
I understand how you feel I moved from London to Newcastle 2 years ago this week so many emotions but settled down now and enjoying Northern life and just got a box chocolates from the neighbour good luck with the move xx
Love seeing you and Keegan together ❤️ I am middle 70’s and I will be gladly be your Nan! But, I do live in Canada so we won’t see each other, we can FaceTime. Good luck with the move and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy and Healthy New Year 🎄
London is always going to pull at your heart strings. I felt the same way when I left London having lived there for ten years. It's almost like a grieving process, except you're not grieving the loss of a person. Instead, you're grieving the loss of a place, and a moment in your history, which helped define the person that you are. It gets easier over time, especially if you make frequent trips back to the city.
It's normal to feel stressed and sad before such a big change. But it's gonna be okay Joel. Just take deep breaths and take it one day at the time. Keegand will help you to settle down and London is just a trip away
Hi Joel, what you’re feeling is normal. I went through the same thing myself. It’s very daunting and pushes you out of your comfort zone. Change is something we all worry about, especially when we second guess ourselves. Have I made the right move, will I make friends or fit in etc….. I’m giving up a lot to move there….and so on. Once you have moved and settle into yours and Keegan’s new routine. Something you both will need time to adjust to, you’ll have a moment of I just love my life and what on earth was I worried about. The other thing is Lucy is moving on with her life as well. You both are. Nothing in life is set in concrete. So just grow with your life, no matter where it takes you. It’s called living. Good luck my friend, love and best wishes from Melbourne Australia.
The sadness is because you're leaving a large part of your life behind, to experience something new, something born of love. I hope your future is as bright as it looks to me.
Probably the reason why your ‘blues’ has been exacerbated was that you didn’t have Ava with you and you were “ homesick” to see her. Give her a hug, a pat & a kiss from Oklahoma❣️💋
Love seeing you become a country boy! I’ve a feeling you’ll adjust quickly, especially with Keegan’s help. Stages of grief and mourning are very normal, especially after a change of area! Many blessings on your move to Yorkshire. Really looking forward to seeing the cultural comparisons. This will give you a lot of great new content!
Joel, it’s perfectly normal to have mixed feelings. Don’t limit yourself. There’s so much to discover all around the north. I’m excited to see what you get up to!!
This might only be an American thing but you should look into something called Gak Traks. They strap onto your shoes/boots and have little spikes on the bottom for gripping while you walk. I am not old enough to be your Nan but I would still adopt you. I have to say since Keegan has been in your videos and you have been up north more your British accent is much stronger. It doesn't seem as Americanised. I LOVE IT!! I am still trying to understand Keegan but I wonder if my brain gets stuck on some words he says and then I think I can't understand him. I watch his vlogs too so it will come. Maybe Keegan would be willing to play part of the Christmas song for us that he has been practicing.Thank you for your videos. Merry Christmas to both of you. 🎄🎁🎄🎁
Yes, Joel- 'bemoaning' is indeed a word, and is appropriate for the feeling you are expressing. It's just an older way of saying 'moaning about...', though in the sense of 'lamenting' rather than 'complaining'.
Change is always surprising no matter how much you experience it. You are living your life, Joel and to find someone to share it with is a true blessing. Never feel bad for feeling however you feel about it, second guessing is natural....but it seems you are in loving hands, so how can that be bad? You are growing, my friend and that is what makes a life well lived.
I disagree, too quick/too fast and he bought that house for him and Lucy! Keegan should move to London instead, yes he has kids but my cousin moved my 2 fav cousins from Kent up north! Relationship lasted for 12 very long years but she is back in Kent now! My cousins one moved back to Kent and the other is at uni in Stoke-on-Trent + then moving back to Kent afterwards.
Joel, just give it some time. Talking about it can help. Remember this a relationship and its important to share your feelings bottle up feelings can exhibit themselves in different ways. Be blessed, bigger and better things are coming your way.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰.
Yorkshire reminds me of New England here in the States. There is really a sense of peace that comes over you when your just with yourself and the silence of the environment. You can be ib a stadium of 20,000 and still eexperience one of those lonely in our head moments its only natural. My Grandmother use to say "I order to appreciate sweetness we must first experience bitterness" LOL I come from a Portuguese /Italian family so there is a saying for everything. Only the best for the Holidays to you, Keegan, and the extended families. 🎀🎁🎄
Joel, wishing you and Keegan a merry Christmas hope the two of you are very happy with your future together… I love all your postings merry Christmas again thanks, John
Keep meaning to ask. How's Lucy doing with all this change and losing you and Ava!? Can we have a video with the two of you on your fun together and or goodbye vibes? q&a with Lucy and you about all the moving etc?
I’m 75 years old and I’ve been a fan of you and Lia since the Skinny Legend days. I love you bunches and I totally get why you feel both sad and excited ❤❤❤
Joel, you'll be fine once everything starts happening. The uncertain feeling is natural. I moved from my home area after decades of being there. I moved by myself to a place 6 hours away. If was scary and fun at the same time. I've been here three years and it feels like home now. Good luck to you both.
that sadness is valid, as you left a part of life there in London, but that will fade with time as you build a life in Yorkshire with Keegan. It's beautiful there however! Best of luck and best wishes for you
It is normal for mixture of emotions towards changes of routines and new location that you are going to live. It will equally be joyful exciting to be doing new things and exploring new locations to find your new life's favorite places and things to do. Your emotions will feel like rollercoaster until you do finally settle in your new life. 🙂
Having lived in Alaska and Seattle and Texas most of my life, my experiences with winter snow and cold temps are so much better than the hot temps here in AZ. Most of July has been 110 and above and we are finally getting a brief break for a few days then back to 110 and above for who knows how long as this year has been so different from previous years, I am just about ready to move out of here and head back North. We basically have one season here....summer! We might get to freezing once or twice during the winter but our temps then usually are in the 60's and 70's, so not much of a winter!!!!
In another video you did about four weeks ago, you actually told everyone that you expected that you would feel blue when you first moved. So in a sense you were expecting this. It would be nice to make some friends up there, very much like you did when you first posted in London. years and years ago. I remember those days back in London, and you were trying out different church's and trying ways to meet people. You were pretty blue back then too, but things got way better over time. Plus the sun has not been shining that much lately., It will look so nice up there when the spring and summer comes!
The whole world is feeling this energy. We have to learn that we must simply recognize that there will be days when we can do nothing and doing Nothing is actually good. Acceptance, patient and tolerance and trust. We cannot control our world or environment sometimes. Too much thinking is a hindrance. Just take care and turn the thoughts to Gratitude.....it truly heals.
Change is always hard; especially, in your adulthood. Do not be sad about Lucy. Your friendship appears so strong, and it would not matter if the two of you lived on different continents. When you get Ava back, your sadness will drift. I am happy that you have someone to share your life with in the future. Have. Merry Christmas. May 2023 bring the best to you and Keegan, plus your fur babies. ❤
I am almost old enough to be your Nan, 71. You absolutely do need to let Lucy and Keegan know how you feel about this move. Moving is a big life unit change, and going from London to Yorkshire, Lucy to Keegan is going to be monumental. Don’t try to do this alone. Get help. Read, meditate, talk, handle it. Stuffing it down will not make it go away. That hurts. Give yourself time to adjust and don’t judge yourself. Try to feel happier and a little more at peace each day. Wishing you the very best. Susan ❤️
Oh Joel all beginnings are endings it’s bitter sweet. It’s why I love the idea of Aloha because it means both. All the best and have a wonderful holidays! ❤
God of War is a great game. I just got it for my boys for an early Christmas present. Extra time with Keegan is a good thing. Love your videos together. Been watching him on UA-cam also...great on camera...both of you ❤❤
Well …I found your channel mid November. Love it!!! And you! It’s normal to feel sad when you have just made a move in your life. I’m 60, so I can be your Nan. Happy holidays from south Louisiana!❤
Hi Joel, you are making big changes in your life so you will feel the effects of such a change, moving North out of the city, so many different things, you will feel home sick for a while…but with Keegan by your side I’m sure you will be fine. Love will find a way 😊
Joel, it's ok to feel sad. The sadness doesn't have to do with Keegan or your feelings for him, but rather the life you know in London. He for sure understands. It will take some time to adjust - as it does in any situation. Don't be hard on yourself.
I have moved about 25 times now. What you have to try and reconcile is that your new move is going to be a brand new adventure. And that London will always be there. The option that you can always go back if you hate it is comforting. And then moving becomes less daunting
Your feelings are entirely normal. Its a big thing you're doing but its also exciting and, if we don't take chances and try new things how will we move on? I've learned over the years that things never stay the same and for you, its time for a change. Besides Lucy will move on too and you will always be friends. Look forward.
It is very normal to have your mixed emotions. You are giving up the life you built for yourself Allow yourself to grieve it and look forward to the many many years with Keagan and kids
Most major change is upsetting, Joel, at least for a little while...even those we look forward to. Once you are settled in, and open completely to taking in the local culture, you will find those aspects that resonate with you. They may be vastly different from the ones you leave behind...yet will soon become your new norm. Besides - there are lots of big cities to visit should you need a 'fix'! 🤗
Joel your a love just calm down , breathe and relax . Change is scary but your going to have a lot of it your only 30ish. Relax and be glad you've someone you goes and you love as well 💕 Breathe snd have a joyous holiday season, for both you and Keegan all of your extended family !!
Grandma here. Joel I am in my mid seventies, does that count. I have three grandchildren and I absolutely love being a grandma. It's the best! You can count on me to be a substitute "Nan". Love to both of you boys. Have a very Merry Christmas.
Your feeling are ok Joel. Perfectly normal. Any change is hard no matter if you want it . It’s ok to feel that way. You’re feelings are normal & you will adapt at your on pace with Keegan’s help.❤️❤️
You'll feel all types of ways about a huge life change....and all of those feelings are perfectly justified. Let yourself feel them and work through them. I'd bet that both Keegan AND Lucy will be understanding about your ups and downs.
I love that Keegan has to translate bud for you. Lol. It's like me and my spouse. He's from the southern US and I'm from the west coast of Canada. Over ten years together and there's still certain words he and I say differently.
Joel, YakTrax fit over sneakers & are great for walking on ice. I wore mine for two seasons on ice and snow and felt like a superhero. Highly recommend. 😊
57 here. I'm so glad you are finding some older people here to share with. The only Nan I've evver known died when I was a teenager.Maybe that's one of the reasons why I enjoy being around people much older. Moving and transitioning can be quite challenging. I look forward to seeing how your experience unfolds.
You always have options, and London will always be there. You can visit often and move back if you decide to. It's not going anywhere, and you made the drive multiple times. You'll adjust, Joely!
Change is HARD! And changing your living environment is, well, a biggie. So, all that you're feeling is valid and normal. ❤️ Definitely talk to Keegan about this stuff, and Lucy too! 😊
This is test if Keegan is the one. Time will tell. Your emotions will settle over time if everything is ok. You still have your house if long term this does not work out. So you are better off then you think. Maybe keep it as a southern home.
You will be fine Joel, I’m sure you will have moments of feeling homesick but don’t let it overwhelm you, take a deep breath and enjoy yr new adventure with yr gorgeous partner, have fun my darling Joel 🎉🎉🎉❤️🎄🥂
I’ve come to adore your channel Joel, to the point where it’s now hands-down my favourite UA-cam channel. As admirable as it is that you Vlog your anxieties and fears, I do worry sometimes that you give almost too much of yourself to the point where some people can forget that you have a whole life away from the lens and take you for granted. Making a move like this is no small decision, and obviously one you have both discussed at length. It’s natural to have worries - because that comes from a place of love, wanting as much as possible to slot in to place. *Take your time.* There will be bumps in the road, but moving past them together is what will forge your bond even stronger. Recognising and accepting each others habits and idiosyncrasies and maintaining open and honest communication is key. I came to this channel around the time you and Keegan had been dating for a short while and seeing the change in you (having worked thru as many of your vlogs I could in order) was truly beautiful to behold. You literally *glow* when you’re with him (is there some way we can have you run our national grid?!?) 😋 and he so obviously adores you. You 2 are one of the fortunate ones as you both found your special person when you least expected it. Just trust in the process and realise that part of the commitment you’re both making here is that you’re jumping into the unknown *2GETHER.* As much as I love seeing videos of you both, I really hope I see less of them for the next several months so you can both settle and experience this important and special time together, rather than allowing everyone in. This is all a long-winded way of saying: trust the process, and lean-in to each other when any irrational fears arise. You got this Mr - so jump-in and go grab your life! 🥰 🎄 *Happy Christmas boys!* ✨
Hiya Joel, please be careful of the black ice around town, You'll get used to the town You and Keegan live in, don't forget to open a new P.O Box so we can send You nice goodies, have a Merry Christmas and a happy new year, this is Choppy in Whitehaven, Cumbria, England
Keegan always seems to be eating, well chewing, and yet he is slim, muscled slim, but not plump in any way. Love his facial expressions as Joel babbles on lol I'm thinking they're good for each other. I understand both not wanting to show PDA, however, I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off either. Love the surroundings of Keegan's village, neighborhood, whatever it's called.
Lovely vlog, glad to be getting them pretty regularly! 🙂 In NJ, we have so many Dunkin Donuts, and we DO have holiday cups, I’m sad for you guys in the UK. Keep expressing those feelings so you can process them, we’re here to listen. ❤❤❤
Moving to an unfamiliar area can make you feel anxious and insecure. You may also feel like you are not in control of your life and that everything is happening too quickly. Sadness is a normal reaction to closing a chapter in your life and opening another. Concentrate on merging your two lives, communicate more and with equal voice.
Joel you can grieve the death of your old life, and ALSO be excited for your new life, i am sure lucy and keegan can both understand it as all of us on the other side of the screen as well!
Most of the comments others made say what I was going to write. Just focus on what it’s going to feel like waking up in Yorkshire with big, adorable silly Keegan every day. He loves you so much. The sad will pass. ❤❤❤❤
You are bound to feel bittersweet about the move--but you two are such a beautiful couple---I know in your heart it is the right move for both of your futures! HAPPY HOLIDAY!😊🍾🍷🍸
I think it’s very normal to miss London in your first stage of ‘moving’ and ‘changes’, especially to somewhere far. I could imagine how that bittersweet feeling if I moved from Sydney to Melbourne for good. But just like everything else, it will subside and eventually diminish with time, leaving only beautiful memories to revisit one day.
Very understandable Joel. Flip that coin and you'll see Joel, unattached and living in London, but wondering if the love of his life will be just around the corner. It rarely happens that easily. You and Kegan go through alot to be together, this is the true test of love. It's not about convenience but the willingness to give and take.
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You & Keegan love each other so you should express to him how you are feeling. It doesn't mean you aren't also looking forward to moving in with him. It's perfectly normal & human to experience both emotions. Keegan seems like a pretty cool guy. I think he will understand. Wishing you both a Happy Christmas! 🎄🦌🤶🎅❄️
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Yes Joel, you probably don't remember, but I've said for years you and Lia could be my children/grandchildren. I'm your 75 yr old Florida Gran. Love your channels. Merry Christmas to you, Keegan, Parents, Lia and Lucy! 🤩❤
I can understand that sometimes it could be a little overwhelming when your heart is overflowed with conflicted emotions. Jumping into the unknown could be really frightening. But it also the salt we need in life to make big moves and get out of our comfort zone.
Alright Bob! Cried with laughter, you moving up north is going to be priceless!
Your conflicted feelings are totally understandable, Joel, and I'm sure Keegan and Lucy get it. Although you are embarking on an exciting new adventure living with Keegan, it's also very stressful to leave behind what you've known and loved. Once you settle in, and get sweet Ava back, I'm sure you'll feel much better. I wish you and all your loved ones a very Merry Christmas!
My little stroganoff! 😂 You are so funny. Thank you for bringing a much needed smile to my face. Cheers, Bob! 😂😂
I'm a 60 year old grandmother and I have always thought of you and Lia as my grandchildren or children. I haven't been a grandmother that long, and you two are the ages of my kids.
I'm 61. Glad I'm not the only 60 plus person here!
I'm 73 and started watching him when he and Lia went to Vegas
I am a 65 year old Nan, to 3 boys, have been following Joel for a while now, and just adore him.
Welcome to Yorkshire , i do hope you find true peace of mind and happiness here 💕🙏💕
Love the cow!!! This may not help and you may not understand the USA region references but...When I was a little younger than you, I was in a suburb in Michigan and because of lack of jobs, myself and friends decided to move a long distance (over 20 hours) to Oklahoma City. I knew nothing about it and thought it must be awful and just full of backwards people and cowboys. I cried sooo hard to my mother but really had no choice. Well, 20 years past and to this day, I look back on those years as the best of my life. I laugh at how upset I was about making that long trip. So just hold on. Something tells me some great blessings are coming your way for you and Keegan. He really is just adorable, precious and seems to have a good soul. So rare these days.
I moved from Southern California for my bf in Dallas texas, I get it, it’s a culture shock, its leaving people behind , memories but you can make new ones and always visit your old Stomping grounds.
Hang in there, allow your self to cry because I did. It’s a pretty weird time.
My cousin moved for her bf, She is now back living in Kent after over a decade very long years!
Being aware and honest about what you're feeling is so good, Joel. Sometimes these strong waves of emotion are like being in a car sliding on ice. It's counterproductive to jam on the brakes and try to ignore or push away the feelings; just steer into it, be "in it" and eventually, when you don't even realize it, the lonely, uncomfortable newness will dissipate and things will start to feel routine and comfy again. Giving myself the permission to feel my feelings and knowing that it's normal and WILL get better, helps take some of the anxiety and scariness away.
Was gonna say similar. Glad ti hear you're feeling thru the hard feelings it makes room for the more pleasant ones to be fully felt. Also, it's evidence of all the good you have had there and with Lucy. All really big things you'll be missing getting to have memories with regularly.
Joel I think that it is normal to feel a bit down when you are experiencing a life changing event like moving, especially when you have been in London for so long. But you will be like Lia going to London for meetings with friends and business. Everyone would have concerns about making a life changing move. I think that you have said you lived on a farm when you were younger, so you have experience living in a rural area before. You were talking about Keegans Nan and you were doing the kind of video she watches, lol.Look at it this way you showed your viewers parts of London and not you can show us something different than that, the English countryside. I think that it will turn out just fine. I hope that you enjoy your Christmas 🎄 time with your family and friends ❤️.
I like bemoaning whether it is a word or not. Just allow yourself to worry for up to 30 seconds at a time, then flip the script to happy thoughts. Merry Christmas Joel!
No matter how amazing and exciting the future is, getting there is almost always bittersweet. So happy to see you embracing the new but also cherishing the old. You're doing it right, Joel! Just be patient with yourself.
Hi Joel try not to be stressed live in the moment and be happy that you’re a healthy young man I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis so I am literally home 24 seven I can’t travel anymore I’m stuck at home going to physical therapy getting shots in pain so enjoy your life never take your health for granted because something like this can come up and kick you in the ass when you’ve been healthy your entire life love watching your Vids smile kiddo you’re living a charmed life
Hey there! I also have MS, and yes it sucks mightily, but I encourage you find a new purpose for yourself. When I got diagnosed I thought it was just my herniated disc getting worse and worst case scenario I'd need surgery. Nope, and that first attack left a ton of lesions on my spinal cord so I could no longer work as a paramedic, a job I really loved and was pretty damn good at. It also meant loss of income, fighting for 3 years to get on disability etc etc not to mention the toll it's taken on my family. Regardless, I got a therapist and found new ways to look at my life. Instead of thinking of it as the tattered remains of my old life this is a new but different one. Trust me, it's a much nicer and more peaceful way to live. Consider reframing how you think, friend. Peace 💗
Peace & Loveee! Everything passes, happiness is waiting for you 💫
I understand how you feel I moved from London to Newcastle 2 years ago this week so many emotions but settled down now and enjoying Northern life and just got a box chocolates from the neighbour good luck with the move xx
Love seeing you and Keegan together ❤️ I am middle 70’s and I will be gladly be your Nan! But, I do live in Canada so we won’t see each other, we can FaceTime. Good luck with the move and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy and Healthy New Year 🎄
London is always going to pull at your heart strings. I felt the same way when I left London having lived there for ten years. It's almost like a grieving process, except you're not grieving the loss of a person. Instead, you're grieving the loss of a place, and a moment in your history, which helped define the person that you are. It gets easier over time, especially if you make frequent trips back to the city.
It's normal to feel stressed and sad before such a big change. But it's gonna be okay Joel. Just take deep breaths and take it one day at the time.
Keegand will help you to settle down and London is just a trip away
Hi Joel, what you’re feeling is normal. I went through the same thing myself. It’s very daunting and pushes you out of your comfort zone. Change is something we all worry about, especially when we second guess ourselves. Have I made the right move, will I make friends or fit in etc….. I’m giving up a lot to move there….and so on. Once you have moved and settle into yours and Keegan’s new routine. Something you both will need time to adjust to, you’ll have a moment of I just love my life and what on earth was I worried about. The other thing is Lucy is moving on with her life as well. You both are. Nothing in life is set in concrete. So just grow with your life, no matter where it takes you. It’s called living. Good luck my friend, love and best wishes from Melbourne Australia.
The sadness is because you're leaving a large part of your life behind, to experience something new, something born of love. I hope your future is as bright as it looks to me.
I would be sad to move from London. Moving seldom goes to plan. Psychologist say it’s the third most stressful thing you experience in life.
Joel, you put a smile on my face and a chuckle on my heart.
Probably the reason why your ‘blues’ has been exacerbated was that you didn’t have Ava with you and you were “ homesick” to see her. Give her a hug, a pat & a kiss from Oklahoma❣️💋
I love that you have found such a funny and smart man to love! Be happy
Love seeing you become a country boy! I’ve a feeling you’ll adjust quickly, especially with Keegan’s help. Stages of grief and mourning are very normal, especially after a change of area! Many blessings on your move to Yorkshire. Really looking forward to seeing the cultural comparisons. This will give you a lot of great new content!
It’s ok to be sad but look forward to your new life with Keegan and all the new memories you will make ❤❤❤❤
It is normal that you are sad. It is a big step but once you will have setteld down with all your stuff and Ava with you, you will be happy and fine.
That doesn't work for everyone though!
My cousin did that, and over a decade later though a very long time is now back living in Kent.
Haha you are adorable and hilarious! I just started watching and enjoy it so much! I wish I was old enough to been of your Nans!
Change is always hard even if it’s for a good reason. You’re such a kind person and I’m sure Lucy and Keegan would understand your feelings.
Joel, it’s perfectly normal to have mixed feelings. Don’t limit yourself. There’s so much to discover all around the north. I’m excited to see what you get up to!!
I'm 75!!!! I'll adopt you!!! Love to watch your videos!
This might only be an American thing but you should look into something called Gak Traks. They strap onto your shoes/boots and have little spikes on the bottom for gripping while you walk. I am not old enough to be your Nan but I would still adopt you. I have to say since Keegan has been in your videos and you have been up north more your British accent is much stronger. It doesn't seem as Americanised. I LOVE IT!! I am still trying to understand Keegan but I wonder if my brain gets stuck on some words he says and then I think I can't understand him. I watch his vlogs too so it will come. Maybe Keegan would be willing to play part of the Christmas song for us that he has been practicing.Thank you for your videos. Merry Christmas to both of you. 🎄🎁🎄🎁
Hi Joel . You and Keegan are lovely guys . Very sensible too Enjoy Christmas and Best Wishes for 2023
Yes, Joel- 'bemoaning' is indeed a word, and is appropriate for the feeling you are expressing. It's just an older way of saying 'moaning about...', though in the sense of 'lamenting' rather than 'complaining'.
Change is always surprising no matter how much you experience it. You are living your life, Joel and to find someone to share it with is a true blessing. Never feel bad for feeling however you feel about it, second guessing is natural....but it seems you are in loving hands, so how can that be bad? You are growing, my friend and that is what makes a life well lived.
I disagree, too quick/too fast and he bought that house for him and Lucy!
Keegan should move to London instead, yes he has kids but my cousin moved my 2 fav cousins from Kent up north!
Relationship lasted for 12 very long years but she is back in Kent now!
My cousins one moved back to Kent and the other is at uni in Stoke-on-Trent + then moving back to Kent afterwards.
Joel, just give it some time. Talking about it can help. Remember this a relationship and its important to share your feelings bottle up feelings can exhibit themselves in different ways. Be blessed, bigger and better things are coming your way.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰.
Yorkshire reminds me of New England here in the States. There is really a sense of peace that comes over you when your just with yourself and the silence of the environment. You can be ib a stadium of 20,000 and still eexperience one of those lonely in our head moments its only natural. My Grandmother use to say "I order to appreciate sweetness we must first experience bitterness" LOL I come from a Portuguese /Italian family so there is a saying for everything. Only the best for the Holidays to you, Keegan, and the extended families. 🎀🎁🎄
Joel, wishing you and Keegan a merry Christmas hope the two of you are very happy with your future together… I love all your postings merry Christmas again thanks, John
Keep meaning to ask. How's Lucy doing with all this change and losing you and Ava!? Can we have a video with the two of you on your fun together and or goodbye vibes? q&a with Lucy and you about all the moving etc?
Moving is always emotional but Keegan's love for you will get you through it!
I’m 75 years old and I’ve been a fan of you and Lia since the Skinny Legend days. I love you bunches and I totally get why you feel both sad and excited ❤❤❤
Joel, you'll be fine once everything starts happening. The uncertain feeling is natural. I moved from my home area after decades of being there. I moved by myself to a place 6 hours away. If was scary and fun at the same time. I've been here three years and it feels like home now. Good luck to you both.
that sadness is valid, as you left a part of life there in London, but that will fade with time as you build a life in Yorkshire with Keegan. It's beautiful there however! Best of luck and best wishes for you
It is normal for mixture of emotions towards changes of routines and new location that you are going to live. It will equally be joyful exciting to be doing new things and exploring new locations to find your new life's favorite places and things to do. Your emotions will feel like rollercoaster until you do finally settle in your new life. 🙂
Having lived in Alaska and Seattle and Texas most of my life, my experiences with winter snow and cold temps are so much better than the hot temps here in AZ. Most of July has been 110 and above and we are finally getting a brief break for a few days then back to 110 and above for who knows how long as this year has been so different from previous years, I am just about ready to move out of here and head back North. We basically have one season here....summer! We might get to freezing once or twice during the winter but our temps then usually are in the 60's and 70's, so not much of a winter!!!!
In another video you did about four weeks ago, you actually told everyone that you expected that you would feel blue when you first moved. So in a sense you were expecting this. It would be nice to make some friends up there, very much like you did when you first posted in London. years and years ago. I remember those days back in London, and you were trying out different church's and trying ways to meet people. You were pretty blue back then too, but things got way better over time. Plus the sun has not been shining that much lately., It will look so nice up there when the spring and summer comes!
The whole world is feeling this energy. We have to learn that we must simply recognize that there will be days when we can do nothing and doing Nothing is actually good. Acceptance, patient and tolerance and trust. We cannot control our world or environment sometimes. Too much thinking is a hindrance. Just take care and turn the thoughts to Gratitude.....it truly heals.
Merry Christmas to you, Keegan and the children. I’m so happy for you! Xx
Change is always hard; especially, in your adulthood. Do not be sad about Lucy. Your friendship appears so strong, and it would not matter if the two of you lived on different continents. When you get Ava back, your sadness will drift. I am happy that you have someone to share your life with in the future. Have. Merry Christmas. May 2023 bring the best to you and Keegan, plus your fur babies. ❤
Sometimes things go wrong so when it goes right you appreciated more
I am almost old enough to be your Nan, 71. You absolutely do need to let Lucy and Keegan know how you feel about this move. Moving is a big life unit change, and going from London to Yorkshire, Lucy to Keegan is going to be monumental. Don’t try to do this alone. Get help. Read, meditate, talk, handle it. Stuffing it down will not make it go away. That hurts. Give yourself time to adjust and don’t judge yourself. Try to feel happier and a little more at peace each day. Wishing you the very best. Susan ❤️
Oh Joel all beginnings are endings it’s bitter sweet. It’s why I love the idea of Aloha because it means both. All the best and have a wonderful holidays! ❤
You guys are lucky a little bit of snow. In Michigan we are getting up to 6 inches. My 🎄. Starting Friday night 🥶🥶
God of War is a great game. I just got it for my boys for an early Christmas present. Extra time with Keegan is a good thing. Love your videos together. Been watching him on UA-cam also...great on camera...both of you ❤❤
Well …I found your channel mid November. Love it!!! And you! It’s normal to feel sad when you have just made a move in your life. I’m 60, so I can be your Nan.
Happy holidays from south Louisiana!❤
Love your videos. Happy you guys are happy.
Such a beautiful place!
Hi Joel, you are making big changes in your life so you will feel the effects of such a change, moving North out of the city, so many different things, you will feel home sick for a while…but with Keegan by your side I’m sure you will be fine. Love will find a way 😊
Joel, it's ok to feel sad. The sadness doesn't have to do with Keegan or your feelings for him, but rather the life you know in London. He for sure understands. It will take some time to adjust - as it does in any situation. Don't be hard on yourself.
I have moved about 25 times now. What you have to try and reconcile is that your new move is going to be a brand new adventure. And that London will always be there. The option that you can always go back if you hate it is comforting. And then moving becomes less daunting
Sending hugs and cuddles 🤗 Happy Christmas
Merry Christmas Bob and Keegan! 😂😂
Your feelings are entirely normal. Its a big thing you're doing but its also exciting and, if we don't take chances and try new things how will we move on? I've learned over the years that things never stay the same and for you, its time for a change. Besides Lucy will move on too and you will always be friends. Look forward.
It is very normal to have your mixed emotions.
You are giving up the life you built for yourself
Allow yourself to grieve it and look forward to the many many years with Keagan and kids
Most major change is upsetting, Joel, at least for a little while...even those we look forward to. Once you are settled in, and open completely to taking in the local culture, you will find those aspects that resonate with you. They may be vastly different from the ones you leave behind...yet will soon become your new norm. Besides - there are lots of big cities to visit should you need a 'fix'! 🤗
It's very normal to greive what you are leaving behind even if your excited for where you're going
Joel your a love just calm down , breathe and relax . Change is scary but your going to have a lot of it your only 30ish. Relax and be glad you've someone you goes and you love as well 💕 Breathe snd have a joyous holiday season, for both you and Keegan all of your extended family !!
You love and loves you as well
You probably havent noticed but there is a yorkshire twang coming through in your speech 🤣🤣
Grandma here. Joel I am in my mid seventies, does that count. I have three grandchildren and I absolutely love being a grandma. It's the best! You can count on me to be a substitute "Nan". Love to both of you boys. Have a very Merry Christmas.
Your feeling are ok Joel. Perfectly normal. Any change is hard no matter if you want it .
It’s ok to feel that way. You’re feelings are normal & you will adapt at your on pace with
Keegan’s help.❤️❤️
You'll feel all types of ways about a huge life change....and all of those feelings are perfectly justified. Let yourself feel them and work through them. I'd bet that both Keegan AND Lucy will be understanding about your ups and downs.
I love that Keegan has to translate bud for you. Lol. It's like me and my spouse. He's from the southern US and I'm from the west coast of Canada. Over ten years together and there's still certain words he and I say differently.
Joel, YakTrax fit over sneakers & are great for walking on ice. I wore mine for two seasons on ice and snow and felt like a superhero. Highly recommend. 😊
Merry Christmas guys!
57 here. I'm so glad you are finding some older people here to share with. The only Nan I've evver known died when I was a teenager.Maybe that's one of the reasons why I enjoy being around people much older. Moving and transitioning can be quite challenging. I look forward to seeing how your experience unfolds.
You always have options, and London will always be there. You can visit often and move back if you decide to. It's not going anywhere, and you made the drive multiple times. You'll adjust, Joely!
Change is HARD! And changing your living environment is, well, a biggie. So, all that you're feeling is valid and normal. ❤️ Definitely talk to Keegan about this stuff, and Lucy too! 😊
This is test if Keegan is the one. Time will tell. Your emotions will settle over time if everything is ok.
You still have your house if long term this does not work out. So you are better off then you think.
Maybe keep it as a southern home.
You will be fine Joel, I’m sure you will have moments of feeling homesick but don’t let it overwhelm you, take a deep breath and enjoy yr new adventure with yr gorgeous partner, have fun my darling Joel 🎉🎉🎉❤️🎄🥂
It's perfectly OK to simultaneously mourn the closing of one phase of your life - yet be excited about the next. It's just being human.
Moving north 😁 what an adventure! It’s a challenge to make it the best!
Hug an Ava! You'll feel better!
Show nan this one www.youtube.com/@AndrewBeavers she might like him.
I’ve come to adore your channel Joel, to the point where it’s now hands-down my favourite UA-cam channel.
As admirable as it is that you Vlog your anxieties and fears, I do worry sometimes that you give almost too much of yourself to the point where some people can forget that you have a whole life away from the lens and take you for granted.
Making a move like this is no small decision, and obviously one you have both discussed at length. It’s natural to have worries - because that comes from a place of love, wanting as much as possible to slot in to place.
*Take your time.*
There will be bumps in the road, but moving past them together is what will forge your bond even stronger. Recognising and accepting each others habits and idiosyncrasies and maintaining open and honest communication is key.
I came to this channel around the time you and Keegan had been dating for a short while and seeing the change in you (having worked thru as many of your vlogs I could in order) was truly beautiful to behold. You literally *glow* when you’re with him (is there some way we can have you run our national grid?!?) 😋 and he so obviously adores you.
You 2 are one of the fortunate ones as you both found your special person when you least expected it. Just trust in the process and realise that part of the commitment you’re both making here is that you’re jumping into the unknown *2GETHER.*
As much as I love seeing videos of you both, I really hope I see less of them for the next several months so you can both settle and experience this important and special time together, rather than allowing everyone in.
This is all a long-winded way of saying: trust the process, and lean-in to each other when any irrational fears arise. You got this Mr - so jump-in and go grab your life! 🥰
🎄 *Happy Christmas boys!* ✨
Joel, love your relationship with Keegan. Really sweet! ❤😊
Hiya Joel, please be careful of the black ice around town, You'll get used to the town You and Keegan live in, don't forget to open a new P.O Box so we can send You nice goodies, have a Merry Christmas and a happy new year, this is Choppy in Whitehaven, Cumbria, England
Keegan always seems to be eating, well chewing, and yet he is slim, muscled slim, but not plump in any way. Love his facial expressions as Joel babbles on lol I'm thinking they're good for each other. I understand both not wanting to show PDA, however, I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off either. Love the surroundings of Keegan's village, neighborhood, whatever it's called.
Lovely vlog, glad to be getting them pretty regularly! 🙂 In NJ, we have so many Dunkin Donuts, and we DO have holiday cups, I’m sad for you guys in the UK. Keep expressing those feelings so you can process them, we’re here to listen. ❤❤❤
Moving to an unfamiliar area can make you feel anxious and insecure. You may also feel like you are not in control of your life and that everything is happening too quickly. Sadness is a normal reaction to closing a chapter in your life and opening another. Concentrate on merging your two lives, communicate more and with equal voice.
Before Keegan chimed in I thought maybe it was like the Aussie phrase Bob's your uncle 😁
Joel you can grieve the death of your old life, and ALSO be excited for your new life, i am sure lucy and keegan can both understand it as all of us on the other side of the screen as well!
Most of the comments others made say what I was going to write. Just focus on what it’s going to feel like waking up in Yorkshire with big, adorable silly Keegan every day. He loves you so much. The sad will pass. ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for your vlog Joel, I really needed it today!!😊
You are bound to feel bittersweet about the move--but you two are such a beautiful couple---I know in your heart it is the right move for both of your futures! HAPPY HOLIDAY!😊🍾🍷🍸
Joel’s back in his Signature Purple Accent Jacket. ‘Living my London life but in Yorkshire’ is a great book title.
This is a matter of perspective. You’re sad to leave London life behind, and happy to live with your love, I’m sure everyone will understand
I think it’s very normal to miss London in your first stage of ‘moving’ and ‘changes’, especially to somewhere far. I could imagine how that bittersweet feeling if I moved from Sydney to Melbourne for good. But just like everything else, it will subside and eventually diminish with time, leaving only beautiful memories to revisit one day.
Doesn't work for everyone Kevin!
Very understandable Joel. Flip that coin and you'll see Joel, unattached and living in London, but wondering if the love of his life will be just around the corner. It rarely happens that easily. You and Kegan go through alot to be together, this is the true test of love. It's not about convenience but the willingness to give and take.
Very well said.