Fighting FAIR: How to Argue Without Breaking Hearts (+ Our Most Awkward Public Fight)
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“Feel free to say what you disagree with- “ Jess: oh they do. 😂😂😂😂😂
loud and proud too lol
Quietness is not peace. Cause we can stew in the quiet.
You guys are maturing so beautifully. I love the strong foundation and principles of God embedded into your relationship and journey as individuals and as a couple. You are both growing and evolving. I love the authenticity, vulnerability and transparency of these podcast.🤗 Great session. Keep striving.
This means so much to us, thank you!
Guys one thing that i find helps my relationship is that when im trying to have a hard conversation i usually hold my husband's hand and hug him . Doing that helps us or some sort of physical touch .
Ooh that’s a good tip
I struggled early in my marriage with trying to "keep the peace". Now, over 30yrs into marriage, I try to "seek peace and pursue it" (1Peter 3:11) which helps me to SEARCH for ways to achieve peace that might be uncomfortable for me. That sometimes means asking myself difficult questions about WHY I'm upset BEFORE I have a difficult conversation with my husband. The phrase "the story I'm telling myself" helps my husband to understand what's going on in my brain. This helps with misunderstandings. And sometimes I realize that I'm just upset with my own self!😊 I love seeing you young couples having such important conversations. Keep up the good work!❤️
Thanks for sharing!
I like this one! Thank you 😊
Woooow! Are you a peace keeper or peace maker? That was good! I just realized I am in fact a peace keeper. SMH. Going forward I will work hard to be the peace maker!❤
I hope my future husband is listening to this podcast somewhere in the world.
This convo is so helpful in all aspects of relationships. Thanks for sharing!
Also I did see your hand grab air in the beginning and laughed to myself hoping that your feelings wouldn’t get hurt Jess! He didn’t mean to miss it! 😂😅
He better be taking notes! lol.
LOLL my hand grabbed the air so hard lol
The "always" and "never" doesnt fly with my husband😂😂
That’s a no gooooo
35:26 “I’m scared” is the realest 🤣😭
When Mr + Mrs Wallace upload an episode on hard conversations with your spouse, and your husband (of fifteen months) literallyyy just shared with you how you hurt his feelings a few days ago while you navigate a long-distance marriage . . . 🥺
Praying for y'all, this is a big one!
@BetweenTheWallsPod Bless you. 🙏🏾
Love that You pointed out how the things we watch can affect the way we choose to carry ourselves definitely feel that shows like that are misrepresentation of how mature full grown women married or single should communicate. And it's so hyped up so applauded that it makes women think we need to have that bad b*txh energy to be considered real or to be known as the chic who don't play that.
Enjoyed this conversation very much. I've been married for nearly 27 years. When I feel that I need to have a difficult conversation with my hubby, I have learned to 1st go to God in prayer. Trusting Him to let me know if this conversation needs to be had. If that is the case, when and what needs to be said so that it's done 100% in love so it will be received. Sometimes, it may take my hubby a bit to take in what was said, but it tends to work out for the good of our relationship, home, and family life.
I like that jess keeps changing the decor around in these podcasts i love to see the settings "personality" change with the podcast topics lol
Can you guys do a video on submission please? What does it look like in your relationship? How do you make decisions? What does leadership and submission look like practically in your relationship?
I sometimes struggle and wonder how others navigate it, in the context we live in
I second this!! ❤❤🤞🏿
I love this podcast so much 😆💕
thank you sis!!
Peace is not a result of an action, you can go to war and still be at Peace.
Remember God was at peace in storm when he was in the sea.
I needed this! I have such a hard time having tough conversations. My anxiety would be at an all time high and I would end up not saying anything, just to end up resenting them and I don’t want that. I literally had to have the toughest conversation with my boyfriend on my birthday (omg it was crazyyy 😂) and I literally had to journal about my feelings, thoughts, and what I wanted the outcome to be. I had to pray and also wrote out a list of things that I wanted to say/ask because when I’m heated or having a tough convo I can’t think straight and don’t say what needs to be said. To make a long story short things have resolved and we are better 😊. I felt like a cinder block lifted off of my chest.
One thing I’m preparing myself for for when I get married is exactly this. I’m not always the best at hard conversations because I’m the kinda person who doesn’t like to talk when I’m upset. Like no, let’s wait 4 days to have this convo so that I won’t say something I regret 😭 Knowing that I might marry someone with a completely different argument style… Lord help me with maturity🥴
FOUR DAYS?! lol. Yeah that’s a tough one.
37:36 I absolutely love this! A huge take away for me! I tend to try to keep the peace in all of my relationships (family, friends, romantic) because I hate confrontation, but its important to have hard conversations when needed
THIS!!! was everything ❤
This was a great conversation! ❤
thank you!
I absolutely love this conversation. Wheeew I’m mad at that man right now 😅, but that’s my mans so I gottah stick beside him. I keep praying everyday for God to protect our marriage.
Ain’t nobody perfect!! We’re all tryna figure it out.
This conversation is right on time for me. I struggle with this daily haha I used to address every issue right then no matter the time. Now I try to pick my battles and sometimes that leads to me holding stuff in longer than I should.
i feel this sis lol we're all still learning and growing, you got this
Same sis!
I haven’t watched them in a while but Isis and Josh use to pick a day once a week to touch bases with everything (spiritual, financial, mental rather good or bad) and I think that’s a great idea so things won’t always seem like it’s only brought up during disagreements/arguments.
Great conversation!
0:38 Totally enjoyed the unexpected ASMR thank you 🙏🏾
lolll thank you!!
Excellent podcast! Thank you❤for sharing!
thank you!!
I rewinded video to see your hand grab air… and your face at that moment 🤣🤣🤣
LOLLLL i was like OH
When you start watching the podcast before the vlog.....man...you know the conversation be fia!
As someone with serious misophonia, the ASMR…😤😖 I will fast forward every time lol. Excited to see content creators collectively get past this. Ok, now on to the convo lol. 🙏🏾
lol I’m with you 😂 -Jon
praying for ya lol - Jess
😂😂 Lawd I'm the team that loves seeing Jess happy and love seeing Jon annoyed🤭... I'm team compromise.... Love you all🫶🏾✝️💙
Love this ❤️
Such a great message. I have been trying to find my balance on when to have tough conversations.
Lol jess i love that you tell on yourself bc you are not alone sis sometimes when i hear what i said aloud i gotta switch it up and come with summin better bc i can't have me out here sounding like that or lookin like I'm in the wrong 😅😅
lol no literally im like wait a minute now sis you have a chance to redeem yourself haha
@BetweenTheWallsPod exactlyyyyyyy plus extra brownie points for self correction/reflection 😂🤣 I mean ik we're not keeping score but every point counts! Lol
I enjoyed this episode best believe ❤😊
thank you!!
This is my first time watching and I'm loving the conversation. Thanks for the transparency and sharing.
Thanks so much! Glad you're here.
I’m not married, but it’s like me and Jess are the same in how we think and act. I always wanted to keep peace. I was in a relationship for 9yrs and when it came to hard conversations I was always defensive or had a reason for why I did instead of calming down to understand. Even though that relationship ended, before it did I have been trying and working on how and when to respond. Also trying to understood how the person feel.
I am working on that tension peace myself, I grew up not having any major conversations in my household and it’s so tough as an adult to reverse that and be in a serious relationship. I’m trying but it’s so hard to just start certain conversations and I thought by my current age that I would have figured it out.
It takes swallowing pride and feeling naked which is VERY hard! It’s a God thing for sure.
That tension peace is a real thing for sure. Y'all all up in my house 😂
lolll we up in our house too sis dont worry haha
I rebuke that! Get some real peace up in there!
@@BetweenTheWallsPod I'm trying but it's such a stronghold. I guess I'm just pushing it down as you mention but hey, there's never many arguments 🤷🏾♀️ Except the one's in my head 🤣
19:13 Jess said, oh no, I meant it.
I was looking for this 😂
with my chest lol
Yay second. So happy for this post after dance class.
Glad this was your post-dance class watch!
Jonathan & that mean ol side eye when Jess conveniently decided to be thirsty in the beginning…
Jessica!!!! Ten toooeeeeessssss!!! 😅😂
This is gonna be gooooooood!!
So excited for the vlog❤
Yay! Thank you!
I grew up in a joking household too and my bf grew up in a very different more positive environment. Lmbo I’m taking mental notes just in case we get married lol
❤❤ the topic.
Hope you enjoy it!
There is just something about a fresh hair cut . 🤷🏾♀️😂
im tryna tell youuuu lol we don't make the rules loll
I agree, it like instantly erases everything I was about to say 😂😂😂 fresh haircut and nice outfit 😍😍
Lol i hate to hear ppl eat, but i do love asmr, i love the gulps lol....
loll omg same!
Love your channel ❤
we love you!! always supporting
Thank you for your vulnerability
thank you for listening
This is on time because i just watch the movie “war room” this morning for the first time lol
Wheww, heard about that one lol
I've watched it like 3 times this weekend and the Forge twice. 💙💙💙 them both
@@BetweenTheWallsPodYou and Jonathan should definitely watch it.
Cuss-outable.... I need this terminology! How much for this?!!!
Same ! Hate that ASMR. This ain't the channel sooooo why do it 😂
Oki on to the convo 😁
lol not that serious it's just a joke friends lol
@@BetweenTheWallsPodI find it funny lol
Omg, did you guys intentionally wear red and green scarves/bandanas for Christmas vibes? 😏
lolll we did not but when i realized it made me so happy lol
Fake peace is the worst! Great conversation!❤
Another great conversation, keep the great work guys
Thank you :)
We would love for you guys to watch the Ultimatum & give your feedback as a married couple!
I want to fake a podcast with my boyfriend from now on just so we can communicate like this on a regular.
There's something called generalization in speech and it's used to underscore the frequency with which something happens and that's ok... So when someone says why do you always what they are really saying is generally you do this or that in other words more often than not you do xyz
I liked the ASMR!!!😭
THANK YOU!! lollll
Hi Jessica and Johnathan, just for clarification, did you say Julie and Michelle got married?
Jhulian
@BetweenTheWallsPod ohhhh okay 👍
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hey sis!
@ 🫶🏾, Amazing discussion! Good to see you both!
Johnathan is more on the peaceful , non confrontational side. Jessica, how do you handle this when you are use to alpha man who stir the pot? When you have the Holy Spirit it should calm you but I’m afraid I would turn down the nice guy like Johnathan . I hope that makes sense ? Not that he’s nice but that he’s not confrontational. Do you always feel protected ?
i can def understand that, that was something we talked about before getting married and i expressed my concern with "what happens if.." but being non confrontational and being a protector don't go hand in hand and he's shown me that. give the nice guy a chance sis lol
@ thanks girl ! ❤️
Great perspectives... there were a lot of nuggets! 🫶🏾
thank you!!