Fighting FAIR: How to Argue Without Breaking Hearts (+ Our Most Awkward Public Fight)

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 119

  • @tyeishabernice
    @tyeishabernice Місяць тому +9

    “Feel free to say what you disagree with- “ Jess: oh they do. 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @ttaylor1627
    @ttaylor1627 Місяць тому +12

    Quietness is not peace. Cause we can stew in the quiet.

  • @rshortstuff104
    @rshortstuff104 Місяць тому +39

    You guys are maturing so beautifully. I love the strong foundation and principles of God embedded into your relationship and journey as individuals and as a couple. You are both growing and evolving. I love the authenticity, vulnerability and transparency of these podcast.🤗 Great session. Keep striving.

  • @sheena.m7802
    @sheena.m7802 Місяць тому +18

    Guys one thing that i find helps my relationship is that when im trying to have a hard conversation i usually hold my husband's hand and hug him . Doing that helps us or some sort of physical touch .

  • @latunjaconner1045
    @latunjaconner1045 Місяць тому +21

    I struggled early in my marriage with trying to "keep the peace". Now, over 30yrs into marriage, I try to "seek peace and pursue it" (1Peter 3:11) which helps me to SEARCH for ways to achieve peace that might be uncomfortable for me. That sometimes means asking myself difficult questions about WHY I'm upset BEFORE I have a difficult conversation with my husband. The phrase "the story I'm telling myself" helps my husband to understand what's going on in my brain. This helps with misunderstandings. And sometimes I realize that I'm just upset with my own self!😊 I love seeing you young couples having such important conversations. Keep up the good work!❤️

  • @feliciamayfield2375
    @feliciamayfield2375 Місяць тому +1

    Woooow! Are you a peace keeper or peace maker? That was good! I just realized I am in fact a peace keeper. SMH. Going forward I will work hard to be the peace maker!❤

  • @KnitsByNayla
    @KnitsByNayla Місяць тому +19

    I hope my future husband is listening to this podcast somewhere in the world.
    This convo is so helpful in all aspects of relationships. Thanks for sharing!

    • @KnitsByNayla
      @KnitsByNayla Місяць тому

      Also I did see your hand grab air in the beginning and laughed to myself hoping that your feelings wouldn’t get hurt Jess! He didn’t mean to miss it! 😂😅

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +1

      He better be taking notes! lol.

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +1

      LOLL my hand grabbed the air so hard lol

  • @iamsdoula
    @iamsdoula Місяць тому +23

    The "always" and "never" doesnt fly with my husband😂😂

  • @AmberxCausey
    @AmberxCausey Місяць тому +4

    35:26 “I’m scared” is the realest 🤣😭

  • @keilah4039
    @keilah4039 Місяць тому +29

    When Mr + Mrs Wallace upload an episode on hard conversations with your spouse, and your husband (of fifteen months) literallyyy just shared with you how you hurt his feelings a few days ago while you navigate a long-distance marriage . . . 🥺

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +12

      Praying for y'all, this is a big one!

    • @keilah4039
      @keilah4039 Місяць тому

      @BetweenTheWallsPod Bless you. 🙏🏾

  • @winterfresh22
    @winterfresh22 Місяць тому +1

    Love that You pointed out how the things we watch can affect the way we choose to carry ourselves definitely feel that shows like that are misrepresentation of how mature full grown women married or single should communicate. And it's so hyped up so applauded that it makes women think we need to have that bad b*txh energy to be considered real or to be known as the chic who don't play that.

  • @angelaveal8989
    @angelaveal8989 Місяць тому +4

    Enjoyed this conversation very much. I've been married for nearly 27 years. When I feel that I need to have a difficult conversation with my hubby, I have learned to 1st go to God in prayer. Trusting Him to let me know if this conversation needs to be had. If that is the case, when and what needs to be said so that it's done 100% in love so it will be received. Sometimes, it may take my hubby a bit to take in what was said, but it tends to work out for the good of our relationship, home, and family life.

  • @gabriellecharles710
    @gabriellecharles710 Місяць тому +4

    I like that jess keeps changing the decor around in these podcasts i love to see the settings "personality" change with the podcast topics lol

  • @suziesmith9076
    @suziesmith9076 Місяць тому +4

    Can you guys do a video on submission please? What does it look like in your relationship? How do you make decisions? What does leadership and submission look like practically in your relationship?
    I sometimes struggle and wonder how others navigate it, in the context we live in

    • @Itsbritt_22
      @Itsbritt_22 Місяць тому +1

      I second this!! ❤❤🤞🏿

  • @saphirefrancis8589
    @saphirefrancis8589 Місяць тому +8

    I love this podcast so much 😆💕

  • @wiser0185
    @wiser0185 Місяць тому +2

    Peace is not a result of an action, you can go to war and still be at Peace.
    Remember God was at peace in storm when he was in the sea.

  • @ThatgirlNYE
    @ThatgirlNYE Місяць тому +1

    I needed this! I have such a hard time having tough conversations. My anxiety would be at an all time high and I would end up not saying anything, just to end up resenting them and I don’t want that. I literally had to have the toughest conversation with my boyfriend on my birthday (omg it was crazyyy 😂) and I literally had to journal about my feelings, thoughts, and what I wanted the outcome to be. I had to pray and also wrote out a list of things that I wanted to say/ask because when I’m heated or having a tough convo I can’t think straight and don’t say what needs to be said. To make a long story short things have resolved and we are better 😊. I felt like a cinder block lifted off of my chest.

  • @JvstHere
    @JvstHere Місяць тому +6

    One thing I’m preparing myself for for when I get married is exactly this. I’m not always the best at hard conversations because I’m the kinda person who doesn’t like to talk when I’m upset. Like no, let’s wait 4 days to have this convo so that I won’t say something I regret 😭 Knowing that I might marry someone with a completely different argument style… Lord help me with maturity🥴

  • @ThatsSoLea
    @ThatsSoLea Місяць тому +2

    37:36 I absolutely love this! A huge take away for me! I tend to try to keep the peace in all of my relationships (family, friends, romantic) because I hate confrontation, but its important to have hard conversations when needed

  • @Adanmadu
    @Adanmadu Місяць тому +2

    THIS!!! was everything ❤

  • @tiffany6548
    @tiffany6548 Місяць тому +1

    This was a great conversation! ❤

  • @marikathomas2941
    @marikathomas2941 Місяць тому +5

    I absolutely love this conversation. Wheeew I’m mad at that man right now 😅, but that’s my mans so I gottah stick beside him. I keep praying everyday for God to protect our marriage.

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +4

      Ain’t nobody perfect!! We’re all tryna figure it out.

  • @Stephh709
    @Stephh709 Місяць тому +3

    This conversation is right on time for me. I struggle with this daily haha I used to address every issue right then no matter the time. Now I try to pick my battles and sometimes that leads to me holding stuff in longer than I should.

  • @BalanceLifeBoss
    @BalanceLifeBoss Місяць тому +1

    I haven’t watched them in a while but Isis and Josh use to pick a day once a week to touch bases with everything (spiritual, financial, mental rather good or bad) and I think that’s a great idea so things won’t always seem like it’s only brought up during disagreements/arguments.

  • @atashajordan
    @atashajordan Місяць тому +1

    Great conversation!

  • @TalithaNCummi
    @TalithaNCummi Місяць тому

    0:38 Totally enjoyed the unexpected ASMR thank you 🙏🏾

  • @Lady_Clare4
    @Lady_Clare4 Місяць тому +2

    Excellent podcast! Thank you❤for sharing!

  • @lharvey0587
    @lharvey0587 Місяць тому

    I rewinded video to see your hand grab air… and your face at that moment 🤣🤣🤣

  • @MsGR09
    @MsGR09 Місяць тому +1

    When you start watching the podcast before the vlog.....man...you know the conversation be fia!

  • @kim_316
    @kim_316 Місяць тому +10

    As someone with serious misophonia, the ASMR…😤😖 I will fast forward every time lol. Excited to see content creators collectively get past this. Ok, now on to the convo lol. 🙏🏾

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +17

      lol I’m with you 😂 -Jon

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +18

      praying for ya lol - Jess

    • @simplii_shea2212
      @simplii_shea2212 Місяць тому

      😂😂 Lawd I'm the team that loves seeing Jess happy and love seeing Jon annoyed🤭... I'm team compromise.... Love you all🫶🏾✝️💙

  • @KatelynFleming-v1i
    @KatelynFleming-v1i Місяць тому +1

    Love this ❤️

  • @Southern.Ice27
    @Southern.Ice27 Місяць тому

    Such a great message. I have been trying to find my balance on when to have tough conversations.

  • @winterfresh22
    @winterfresh22 Місяць тому

    Lol jess i love that you tell on yourself bc you are not alone sis sometimes when i hear what i said aloud i gotta switch it up and come with summin better bc i can't have me out here sounding like that or lookin like I'm in the wrong 😅😅

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +1

      lol no literally im like wait a minute now sis you have a chance to redeem yourself haha

    • @winterfresh22
      @winterfresh22 Місяць тому

      @BetweenTheWallsPod exactlyyyyyyy plus extra brownie points for self correction/reflection 😂🤣 I mean ik we're not keeping score but every point counts! Lol

  • @5worthknowing
    @5worthknowing Місяць тому +2

    I enjoyed this episode best believe ❤😊

  • @thereal1_p37
    @thereal1_p37 Місяць тому

    This is my first time watching and I'm loving the conversation. Thanks for the transparency and sharing.

  • @kyradavis1449
    @kyradavis1449 Місяць тому

    I’m not married, but it’s like me and Jess are the same in how we think and act. I always wanted to keep peace. I was in a relationship for 9yrs and when it came to hard conversations I was always defensive or had a reason for why I did instead of calming down to understand. Even though that relationship ended, before it did I have been trying and working on how and when to respond. Also trying to understood how the person feel.

  • @Joyinthe__House
    @Joyinthe__House Місяць тому +1

    I am working on that tension peace myself, I grew up not having any major conversations in my household and it’s so tough as an adult to reverse that and be in a serious relationship. I’m trying but it’s so hard to just start certain conversations and I thought by my current age that I would have figured it out.

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +1

      It takes swallowing pride and feeling naked which is VERY hard! It’s a God thing for sure.

  • @shonta111
    @shonta111 Місяць тому +7

    That tension peace is a real thing for sure. Y'all all up in my house 😂

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +2

      lolll we up in our house too sis dont worry haha

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +3

      I rebuke that! Get some real peace up in there!

    • @shonta111
      @shonta111 Місяць тому

      @@BetweenTheWallsPod I'm trying but it's such a stronghold. I guess I'm just pushing it down as you mention but hey, there's never many arguments 🤷🏾‍♀️ Except the one's in my head 🤣

  • @Mrs_Bonnee
    @Mrs_Bonnee Місяць тому +3

    19:13 Jess said, oh no, I meant it.

  • @angelmarshall2076
    @angelmarshall2076 Місяць тому +1

    Yay second. So happy for this post after dance class.

  • @Just1MeRayanae
    @Just1MeRayanae Місяць тому +1

    Jonathan & that mean ol side eye when Jess conveniently decided to be thirsty in the beginning…
    Jessica!!!! Ten toooeeeeessssss!!! 😅😂
    This is gonna be gooooooood!!

  • @shonta111
    @shonta111 Місяць тому +1

    So excited for the vlog❤

  • @JadaGenise
    @JadaGenise Місяць тому +1

    I grew up in a joking household too and my bf grew up in a very different more positive environment. Lmbo I’m taking mental notes just in case we get married lol

  • @myrnaj4502
    @myrnaj4502 Місяць тому +3

    ❤❤ the topic.

  • @dominiquerashelle2054
    @dominiquerashelle2054 Місяць тому +9

    There is just something about a fresh hair cut . 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +1

      im tryna tell youuuu lol we don't make the rules loll

    • @Joyinthe__House
      @Joyinthe__House Місяць тому

      I agree, it like instantly erases everything I was about to say 😂😂😂 fresh haircut and nice outfit 😍😍

  • @1babytee1
    @1babytee1 Місяць тому

    Lol i hate to hear ppl eat, but i do love asmr, i love the gulps lol....

  • @unapologeticallyromel7096
    @unapologeticallyromel7096 Місяць тому +1

    Love your channel ❤

  • @letshegomancoe4481
    @letshegomancoe4481 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for your vulnerability

  • @deasharoberts8915
    @deasharoberts8915 Місяць тому +4

    This is on time because i just watch the movie “war room” this morning for the first time lol

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому

      Wheww, heard about that one lol

    • @shonta111
      @shonta111 Місяць тому

      I've watched it like 3 times this weekend and the Forge twice. 💙💙💙 them both

    • @sali6522
      @sali6522 Місяць тому

      ​@@BetweenTheWallsPodYou and Jonathan should definitely watch it.

  • @indriadrayton1132
    @indriadrayton1132 Місяць тому +2

    Cuss-outable.... I need this terminology! How much for this?!!!

  • @mleangc
    @mleangc Місяць тому +3

    Same ! Hate that ASMR. This ain't the channel sooooo why do it 😂
    Oki on to the convo 😁

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +6

      lol not that serious it's just a joke friends lol

    • @Itsbritt_22
      @Itsbritt_22 Місяць тому

      @@BetweenTheWallsPodI find it funny lol

  • @belindasaint-louis9170
    @belindasaint-louis9170 Місяць тому +4

    Omg, did you guys intentionally wear red and green scarves/bandanas for Christmas vibes? 😏

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +5

      lolll we did not but when i realized it made me so happy lol

  • @Nikki...
    @Nikki... Місяць тому +2

    Fake peace is the worst! Great conversation!❤

  • @vanessaosei-bonsu8603
    @vanessaosei-bonsu8603 Місяць тому +1

    Another great conversation, keep the great work guys

  • @geordayne
    @geordayne Місяць тому

    We would love for you guys to watch the Ultimatum & give your feedback as a married couple!

  • @shaymurphy2457
    @shaymurphy2457 Місяць тому

    I want to fake a podcast with my boyfriend from now on just so we can communicate like this on a regular.

  • @laurajn.pierre8724
    @laurajn.pierre8724 Місяць тому

    There's something called generalization in speech and it's used to underscore the frequency with which something happens and that's ok... So when someone says why do you always what they are really saying is generally you do this or that in other words more often than not you do xyz

  • @Stecie101
    @Stecie101 Місяць тому +3

    I liked the ASMR!!!😭

  • @shanellesealy2467
    @shanellesealy2467 Місяць тому +1

    Hi Jessica and Johnathan, just for clarification, did you say Julie and Michelle got married?

  • @soulsistahfalesha3478
    @soulsistahfalesha3478 Місяць тому +1

    ❤❤

  • @Lovelyparadise1
    @Lovelyparadise1 Місяць тому

    Johnathan is more on the peaceful , non confrontational side. Jessica, how do you handle this when you are use to alpha man who stir the pot? When you have the Holy Spirit it should calm you but I’m afraid I would turn down the nice guy like Johnathan . I hope that makes sense ? Not that he’s nice but that he’s not confrontational. Do you always feel protected ?

    • @BetweenTheWallsPod
      @BetweenTheWallsPod  Місяць тому +2

      i can def understand that, that was something we talked about before getting married and i expressed my concern with "what happens if.." but being non confrontational and being a protector don't go hand in hand and he's shown me that. give the nice guy a chance sis lol

    • @Lovelyparadise1
      @Lovelyparadise1 Місяць тому

      @ thanks girl ! ❤️

  • @stephj.4317
    @stephj.4317 Місяць тому +2

    Great perspectives... there were a lot of nuggets! 🫶🏾