Heather, I can't begin to thank you enough for being so vulnerable and sharing your relationship experiences in order to help others who are navigating similar paths. I have also been seeing a man for 6 weeks now and my avoidant attachment issues have definitely been resurfacing. Girl, you described my thought process to a tee. But, just as you and Mr. Yellowstone are doing, we are trying to keep our communication lines open and bring anything in question to the table right away. We also decided to be exclusive very early on and so we are now pacing ourselves, taking it day by day and making sure not to not fall into heavy places too often and have fun while getting to know each other at this early stage. God is definitely using you to bring hope to others and help them to rediscover their worth in order to grow in a healthy relationship with the person whom He's created for them. Thank you for your fashion content as well! Love it all. God bless you as your continue your journey.
I can no longer resonate with what is considered “in or out” of style now that I’m past 40. I wear what I like not what society or social media influencers deems “fashionable”
That is totally fine! For me - I LIKE following trends & I knew burgundy was the new color and it made me think of different options I have for that trend. It keeps me on my toes about styling what I already have in different ways.
I’ve been hyper-vigilant in some past relationships and ready to run away first. I’ve done lots of talk therapy again and again on this topic but EMDR was the therapy that finally helped me. The book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller is excellent. I’ve been in a “normal” (haha) no fear/no running relationship for a year and a half and it’s great, he’s great, and I’m great, too. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Freedom to be present without hyper-vigilance is amazing. Enjoy your time together.
Oh wow!!!! I absolutely did the same mind games with myself as you had going on. My mind told me because he wasn’t texting as much that he had lost interest. The amount of work that I’ve done to overcome those fears is a lot. My first overcoming action is to avoid being clingy, needy, chasing. My next action is to run out on them before they run out on me. I think mastering one action is great but I am still a work in progress on the “running out.” Thanks for your story.
My my. If you value yourself and have no immediate 😮need for a man,it would be beneficial to your personal growth to just turn loose the men and work on your own ‘challenges’. Men have an innate sense of when a woman is desperate. Something to consider. Gameplaying always gets exposed and sometimes in the most embarrassing ways.
LOL Combat boots are a style not a trend, will always wear them, I also always wear a cowboy boot if I feel like it. Not sure why anyone would choose to not wear something they like because they suddenly realized it might not be trending.
Yes - I am over sensitive and how you explain all of this what your going through is such a help to me. I’m understanding more and more and you are helping me more than you realize. Thank you
Thanks Heather, you grabbed my attention with your open discussion of attachment styles, I grew up with chaos , I do overthink relationships and the mention of “ hyper vigilance” woke me up. Off to order the book
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Annnnd now that I saw the end I understand 😂 Girl stop trying to please others- wear your combat boots. They will NEVER be out of style if they are YOUR STYLE. Good gracious who are you!
It’s nice to hear you are seeing someone good luck and like you said relationships take time as long as you both respect each other and are honest with one another everything will work out happy new year
Happy Saturday Heather! Looking fab as always! I hope you had a great Christmas and wishing you endless health, happiness and love for the New Year and beyond!❤❤❤❤❤
Child of an alcoholic here, Heather. Hyoervigilsnce is my middle name🤣although, it did not really manifest in the running away behavior you struggle with. Keep plugging away and love yourself. Try to relax and enjoy the ride wherever it may lead. If we are constantly thinking “what if” we are never fully enjoying the moment. Life is to precious to borrow trouble. I know easier said than done, but we are all works in progress, right? Rushing you much love and new adventures in the coming year!❤️
I totally relate to your experience with Mr .Yellowstone 100% when the abandonment wound/ childhood trauma flares up, learning how to understand him, how to regulate my emotions and nervous system as I speak and not to react to his quiet - distant needed times has been a challenge this 2024 but feeling pretty confident and positive about it for 2025, We are making progress.. Thanks for sharing
Heather, I like how Mr. Y is so open and honest. You don’t find out that often! Also, I think it’s totally normal to be hyper vigilant when you first start a relationship, even with girlfriends, because you don’t really know that person that well , and have no idea what the other is thinking. Give it a few months and you’ll probably be more comfortable and at ease :)
Thanks for the updates Heather! This fall my fave shoe shop convinced me to get a pair of soft black metallic cowboy booties. They are just above ankle so cute! They told me this was the look!Also bought metallic sneakers and a couple in patent, one in dark bottle green, one in black. Been wearing regularly, so much cuter than GG.
I just found your UA-cam channel. Please, continue being brave and talk to your man. I've been in a relationship for 9 years (married 3) and almost ran at the beginning, but he continues to validate my feelings and makes me feel safe. I'm so happy I didn't run. ❤ You deserve to be happy ❤
“We’re committed TODAY we’re all in TODAY…” that’s such a disservice to yourself, you are not valuing yourself and who you are and all that you have to give. Three months of giving your heart soul and body to someone has its tolls when it falls apart. It is better to hold back on the physical and get to know the mind and heart of a person. It actually leads to deeper intimacy in marriage. Physical intimacy in premarital relationships really holds us back because there will come a time in old age when all you can give is your mind and you want that to be enough. If it is enough now it will be enough later in life. My husband was the first person I took this advice with. We were engaged at 3 months and married at 8. He is my best friend and I’ve been married to him for 17 years now. I know his character is on point and he is a gem. Even in rough times I knew there was no one better because I picked him for who he was and nothing else.
I totally agree with you! It was a disservice to myself which is why I ended it with him. I will share the story in next week's video. Thank you for your wisdom.
I am thankful for my relationship. He makes it really easy. He's fun, and i trust him, and he will literally do anything for me. I wouldn't call it a hiccup your issue. You've talked and cleared the air.. that's what couples do. I wouldn't worry too much and just enjoy the beginning of the relationship. I always look back at the start of the relationship with joy. 😊
Loved this video Heather! Hope you had a wonderful Christmas. I love cowboy boots!! I wear so many & love Freebird boots!! Totally addicted. But I’m a classic lady with a cowgirl edge & love mixing a bit of the two. Sometimes I keep it totally classic. But since I’m a horse gal I add the different types of boots too. Also Love the suede camel & chocolate brown! Burgundy is one of my favs too! PS, i feel you did exactly the right thing with communication, great job! 👍🏼🥰 sending love & 🙏🏼praying it goes well. 💝💐💚🎄❤️☃️
Love your videos Heather. Ive watched you since you started out. I dont comment often but I wanted to tell you this. YOU are beautiful also. I dont know you at all but I'm proud of you too. You've got guts and you're tough in the best feminine way. Good for you for sharing your life the way you do. That can Not be easy! I was raised in quite the same way, I 100% understand what you feel and do because of it. I do it too and it's a hard habit to break. But we CAN and talking about it helps, we got this! Here's to a blessed New Year, 2025 is going to be the Best. ❤😊
Years ago there was a Chanel magazine ad with a Marie Antoinette theme dress and bouffant hair, sneakers in brilliant metallic gold platform, absolutely gorgeous! Other than that, sneakers are somewhat tacky looking with anything other than workout wear. So sorry😢, it works on an unconscious level😃. Ladies, elevate your style.
I’m more of the female that cannot make eye contact easily because it’s a cultural thing. However, the fact that he’s spending time with you in person reveals that Mr Yellowstone does care for you.
Hello darling you are beautiful inside and out and you empower us women, I love hearing your vulnerability and I grew up with an alcoholic mother and definitely coped and still sometimes struggle with hyper vigilance and abandonment issues. Been married 12 years and what you said is right. If he is a good man it is worth the work❤😘 you are my fashion icon and love the burgundy babe
Helpful video thank you . Always looking to keep up with what’s trending ahead. As far as the addidas shoes go , I like them , but I’m 54 and they seem a little more youthful, I am going to look into the Dolce Vita shoes and they come in Metallics, love the boots . Keep the relationships organic let them happen naturally . I believe When it’s meant to be you feel it pretty quick . It’s ok if it’s not meant to be , don’t over analyze everything . Stay positive in your relationship. 😊👍. You’re doing great . 😊
Heather new relationships are hard but more then that they can be scary and pur greatest fear is fear of tbe unknown. I do the same as you for the same reasons but im glad to see you working on it i am.trying. stay strong you are a beautiful person inside and out and he aint no fool to let you go im sure. Wishing you all.the best. Thank you for sharing it is helping others like myself
Hopey you had a nice holiday Heather! I love platforms bc I feel like they give needed padding on the ball of my foot. However they're at the back of my closet bc I know in 2 years they'll be back! I need a pair of burgundy shoes. It's hard to wear bc they're bama and OU colors though lol (from a TX girl)
Hi Heather I loved this video and I don’t mean just the shoes lol which was helpful of course I am impressed your sharing your love life with your audience don’t be afraid to discuss your feelings in a relationship it’s the best thing to do just talk don’t assume things you know what they say when you assume lol lol Happy New Year 🎉🎉
Love this video!!! Shoes and personal story ❤❤❤❤ only thing is I can't wear any of these heels 😢😢😢 my arthritis and starting bunions nope. Yes I am survivor mode brain and hyper vigilant. 🙏 Have a blessed day
6:50am Heather I love your style, did all that those looks in my younger days ! Honestly how many of us in our 60’s can ? Some of us don’t have the figure and $ to pull off these looks :) Maybe you can find looks that still bring out the “Sexy” that is a little more age appropriate :) I understand the man “issues” I’m “hyper vigilant” in relationships as well. Communication is key ..we get banged up as little girls and sadly we carry the baggage with us …been in therapy for years and still get that knee jerk reaction cause I am so sensitive ..HAPPY NEW YEAR TO U AND ALL ! 🎉
I love the styles. But, could you please measure the heels before you say a comfortable 3” heel I’ve followed for over a year and really cringe when it’s visible to the eye. They are over 3” heels. I like you. Do not lies or misinformation. Please correct me if I’m wrong ❤
I love my Golden Goose sneakers. I dont hsve the ultra beat up, already worn ones. Mine are the Francy, Slide, Pure Star and Mid Stars. I get the look of suede converss but more comfortable and better quality. My Gooses have lasted over 8 years and still great. Converse must have had quality control issues because they only last about a year before the soles start coming unglued. The ones that look like they were drig through a mud hole are not cute. I am retired Air Force. The last thing I want on my feet are any boots which look like combat boots and definitely no camouflage. When you spend 20 years having to wear it, you tend not to want to do it as fashion. Love your outfit combinations and how the shoe looks with it. I appreciate it.
Hi Heather! I love the color burgundy too. Is red (for shoes) still in style? Maybe red is considered too bright? On the relationship front, I think talking it out is always the right choice. Loving yourself means that you honor every feeling inside of you. ❤
Thanks for the breakdown! A bit off-topic, but I wanted to ask: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). How should I go about transferring them to Binance?
Nice looks Heather. I added burgundy booties and a sweater. Already have a nice bag in that color. Check out the Milan Street style vids to catch ornate furs. I would love to dogsit for you and have a playdate with your beautiful furkid and my Yorkie girl but we live far apart. Can you show her off sometime? She's so precious 💞
Look No. 3 ❤❤❤ I'm currently on the hunt for metallic sneakers. So far the ones I purchased from dolce vita didn't work (8.5 too small, 9 too big, sigh). I'll keep trying !!
( I have a pair of Camper metallic sneakers I like a lot ~ very comfy, too {and my feet are slightly wide}. Be ***SURE to order Campers, though, at least 1.5 if not 2 sizes LARGER than your normal size; it's so worth it though ❣️
So that was good that yall had that conversation but did he say why he was quiet and distant those times you picked up on that? Just wondering, don’t have to share that with us but hope you found out 🙏❤️
Hi, Heather. I'm new to your blog. I love your style, but I see that most of your attire is with pointed toe heels, which not only is impractical with my simple life, it's also painful. Also, I'm in South Texas and going through menopause. Any extra layers like a jacket would set me on fire, 🔥 Any suggestions? On the dating front, I haven't dated much, as I've been married since 18 for almost 32 years. However, I have experienced something similar throughout my marriage. My father was distant from me. So, I still struggle with rejection. I've learned that it's quite simple, really. Men and women process things differently for the most part. I think we tend to over analyze too much and that can have a negative effect on the relationship and cause him to withdraw and hold back on communication for fear of being misunderstood or having it thrown back at them in the future. My experience is that when I put my faith in Jesus and confidently live my life knowing God is in control, my insecurities subside, and our relationship blossoms. I pray that you rest in the fact that you are loved by Almighty God and that you allow him to heal you completely. One more thing. I'm sure I'll get some backlash for this, but I would highly suggest saving intimacy for marriage. God set it up that way for a reason. Much blessings to you.
Never putting away my Golden Goose sneakers. Embellishments and suede are trendy these days with sneakers and my GG happen to be embellished and suede, so perfect! 😊
Yes being uncomfortable is something we want to avoid .. a childhood of uncomfortable makes my tolerance to it low, I guess being uncomfortable is the way out now
crop jackets are out, long and barn are in, bombers out. Metallic silver, suede and rich browns in. Love Spanx outfit and LA hat! Hate baggy jeans on anyone not lean and tall w pointy shoes, yuck! Leopard and cheetah out, zebra and snakeskin in. Hate Stilettos!! Yay!! Love the frame jeans w pointy shoes
Every video where you talk about Yellowstone you mention a “ hiccup” you all had and then you are the one that always communicates your concerns to him… you have valid concerns but it makes me wonder why its always you broaching the honest conversation with him….you are very clear in what you communicate and since he lives 2.5 hours away I’m wondering if six months from now if you will still be ok with someone who reacts to valid points you bring up but never initiates concerns with you? I actually don’t say this from a point of judgment, I just say this as someone in her 50’s that has a live in boyfriend of ten years ( that I love) but it took a long while to get used to being the only one broaching honest discussions and communicating… I know a lot of guys aren’t as comfortable discussing issues but its all about what you are willing to put up with in your life… no matter how great someone seems 6 weeks in…. He’s still 2.5 hours away and you seem to be the main one bringing up real issues- is he just not comfortable communicating his concerns so seems distant? That happens a lot….
Heather, my lovely, Mr. Yellowstone is NOT the guy for you. When it’s right, it’s right. Your person will be “insta-couple.” While your childhood trauma might appear when triggered, the idea that you rushed into things will not be an issue. Why? Because when it’s right, it’s right. If you take nothing from this comment, take this- there is no magic formula for the correct time of becoming a couple or exclusive, or engaged or married. Couples that have lived together for years before marriage, still end up divorced. Couples that have known each other for 2 months, and then got married, have stayed married for decades. There is no right or wrong way on the timing of when to be an actual couple. But what you will know in your bones, is that the guy is your person. Mr. Yellowstone is not your person. He’s Mr. Right now. Not your forever man. I believe with every fiber of my being, that when you meet your man, your soul will recognize him and you will feel God at work. ❤
Very well said. I also feel that Mr. Yellowstone is Heather’s guy for right now and is not her forever guy. Her forever guy is out there. Heather will know when she meets him. ❤️
You were so right! We broke up and I know in my bones it was the best thing I could have ever done - details to come later. Thank you for your wise words!!
@ Do NOT be sad or beat yourself up over the ending of this relationship Heather. You made the right decision. Be happy that you learned a valuable lesson and that you are on your way to being one step closer to your forever guy. I am most definitely speaking from experience. I met my husband in Dallas and he was definitely worth the wait. There are plenty of available men for you in Dallas. You just haven’t met him yet. I have a feeling 2025 is going to be your year! 🤗
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Heather, I can't begin to thank you enough for being so vulnerable and sharing your relationship experiences in order to help others who are navigating similar paths. I have also been seeing a man for 6 weeks now and my avoidant attachment issues have definitely been resurfacing. Girl, you described my thought process to a tee. But, just as you and Mr. Yellowstone are doing, we are trying to keep our communication lines open and bring anything in question to the table right away. We also decided to be exclusive very early on and so we are now pacing ourselves, taking it day by day and making sure not to not fall into heavy places too often and have fun while getting to know each other at this early stage. God is definitely using you to bring hope to others and help them to rediscover their worth in order to grow in a healthy relationship with the person whom He's created for them. Thank you for your fashion content as well! Love it all. God bless you as your continue your journey.
Combat boots never go out of style 😂
I can no longer resonate with what is considered “in or out” of style now that I’m past 40. I wear what I like not what society or social media influencers deems “fashionable”
What's weird is you watched this video despite the title.
That is totally fine! For me - I LIKE following trends & I knew burgundy was the new color and it made me think of different options I have for that trend. It keeps me on my toes about styling what I already have in different ways.
Thanks!
I’ve been hyper-vigilant in some past relationships and ready to run away first. I’ve done lots of talk therapy again and again on this topic but EMDR was the therapy that finally helped me. The book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller is excellent. I’ve been in a “normal” (haha) no fear/no running relationship for a year and a half and it’s great, he’s great, and I’m great, too. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Freedom to be present without hyper-vigilance is amazing. Enjoy your time together.
Oh wow!!!! I absolutely did the same mind games with myself as you had going on. My mind told me because he wasn’t texting as much that he had lost interest. The amount of work that I’ve done to overcome those fears is a lot. My first overcoming action is to avoid being clingy, needy, chasing. My next action is to run out on them before they run out on me. I think mastering one action is great but I am still a work in progress on the “running out.” Thanks for your story.
It takes so much courage to break those patterns!
My my. If you value yourself and have no immediate 😮need for a man,it would be beneficial to your personal growth to just turn loose the men and work on your own ‘challenges’. Men have an innate sense of when a woman is desperate. Something to consider. Gameplaying always gets exposed and sometimes in the most embarrassing ways.
I love your stories at the end of your videos! Thanks for sharing with us 🤎
I just turned 55. My tired old feet can't wear heels like that anymore🤣
The sky-high stilettos remind me of the Real Housewives 🤣
LOL Combat boots are a style not a trend, will always wear them, I also always wear a cowboy boot if I feel like it. Not sure why anyone would choose to not wear something they like because they suddenly realized it might not be trending.
I totally agree! Doc Martens have been around for decades!
@ love my docs! Super comfortable too, just got the Leona style, they are a little more slim lined than my 1460’s.
💯🎯❣️
Yes - I am over sensitive and how you explain all of this what your going through is such a help to me. I’m understanding more and more and you are helping me more than you realize. Thank you
So glad you’re finding it helpful! ❤️
Thanks Heather, you grabbed my attention with your open discussion of attachment styles, I grew up with chaos , I do overthink relationships and the mention of “ hyper vigilance” woke me up. Off to order the book
So glad it resonated with you! ❤️
I hope you had a merry Christmas, Heather. You are a very dear person with a beautiful personality.
I love the Walmart bag but it is NOT real leather. I checked the website and it clearly says it is polyurethene. That doesn’t mean it is not a great bag but your audience should know. 👍
I love the attachment, styles and learning about them. Mine is the secure attachment style. Also, I love your shoe pics and especially the burgundy
Annnnd now that I saw the end I understand 😂
Girl stop trying to please others- wear your combat boots. They will NEVER be out of style if they are YOUR STYLE. Good gracious who are you!
Those blue sambas look exactly like my roller skates I had in the 70s. So cool!😮
You always help me look current with my jean outfits. Thank you❤
It’s nice to hear you are seeing someone good luck and like you said relationships take time as long as you both respect each other and are honest with one another everything will work out happy new year
Platform shoes and sneakers are super comfortable. Absolutely not going out of style now.
My most favorite style tip is the hottest color of shoe to wear in 2025 is burgundy which is a gorgeous color.
Great shoe options, thank you
De-center men
Thank you for sharing your personal story😊❤.
Happy Saturday Heather! Looking fab as always! I hope you had a great Christmas and wishing you endless health, happiness and love for the New Year and beyond!❤❤❤❤❤
Child of an alcoholic here, Heather. Hyoervigilsnce is my middle name🤣although, it did not really manifest in the running away behavior you struggle with. Keep plugging away and love yourself. Try to relax and enjoy the ride wherever it may lead. If we are constantly thinking “what if” we are never fully enjoying the moment. Life is to precious to borrow trouble. I know easier said than done, but we are all works in progress, right? Rushing you much love and new adventures in the coming year!❤️
Can’t find the link to all the jeans
I totally relate to your experience with Mr .Yellowstone 100% when the abandonment wound/ childhood trauma flares up, learning how to understand him, how to regulate my emotions and nervous system as I speak and not to react to his quiet - distant needed times has been a challenge this 2024 but feeling pretty confident and positive about it for 2025, We are making progress.. Thanks for sharing
Heather, I like how Mr. Y is so open and honest. You don’t find out that often!
Also, I think it’s totally normal to be hyper vigilant when you first start a relationship, even with girlfriends, because you don’t really know that person that well , and have no idea what the other is thinking. Give it a few months and you’ll probably be more comfortable and at ease :)
You would look great in adidas sambas, so fun all the colors and comfort.
I just purchased a beautiful suede pair of Golden Goose that have metallic flashing! They're amazing!
Thanks for the updates Heather! This fall my fave shoe shop convinced me to get a pair of soft black metallic cowboy booties. They are just above ankle so cute! They told me this was the look!Also bought metallic sneakers and a couple in patent, one in dark bottle green, one in black. Been wearing regularly, so much cuter than GG.
I just found your UA-cam channel. Please, continue being brave and talk to your man. I've been in a relationship for 9 years (married 3) and almost ran at the beginning, but he continues to validate my feelings and makes me feel safe. I'm so happy I didn't run. ❤ You deserve to be happy ❤
“We’re committed TODAY we’re all in TODAY…” that’s such a disservice to yourself, you are not valuing yourself and who you are and all that you have to give. Three months of giving your heart soul and body to someone has its tolls when it falls apart. It is better to hold back on the physical and get to know the mind and heart of a person. It actually leads to deeper intimacy in marriage. Physical intimacy in premarital relationships really holds us back because there will come a time in old age when all you can give is your mind and you want that to be enough. If it is enough now it will be enough later in life.
My husband was the first person I took this advice with. We were engaged at 3 months and married at 8. He is my best friend and I’ve been married to him for 17 years now. I know his character is on point and he is a gem. Even in rough times I knew there was no one better because I picked him for who he was and nothing else.
Absolutely agree 100%. We have been married 47 years. The physical part did not come into the relationship until we knew we were married. 💕
I totally agree with you! It was a disservice to myself which is why I ended it with him. I will share the story in next week's video. Thank you for your wisdom.
Completely agree.
I am thankful for my relationship. He makes it really easy. He's fun, and i trust him, and he will literally do anything for me. I wouldn't call it a hiccup your issue. You've talked and cleared the air.. that's what couples do. I wouldn't worry too much and just enjoy the beginning of the relationship. I always look back at the start of the relationship with joy. 😊
Loved this video Heather! Hope you had a wonderful Christmas. I love cowboy boots!! I wear so many & love Freebird boots!! Totally addicted. But I’m a classic lady with a cowgirl edge & love mixing a bit of the two. Sometimes I keep it totally classic. But since I’m a horse gal I add the different types of boots too. Also Love the suede camel & chocolate brown! Burgundy is one of my favs too!
PS, i feel you did exactly the right thing with communication, great job! 👍🏼🥰 sending love & 🙏🏼praying it goes well. 💝💐💚🎄❤️☃️
Thank you for sharing your experiences, Heather! I really do learn from them too!
You are so welcome! 💕
It's always hard to talk about things. I'm glad you pushed yourself.
Love the cowboy boots!
Love your videos Heather. Ive watched you since you started out. I dont comment often but I wanted to tell you this. YOU are beautiful also. I dont know you at all but I'm proud of you too. You've got guts and you're tough in the best feminine way. Good for you for sharing your life the way you do. That can Not be easy! I was raised in quite the same way, I 100% understand what you feel and do because of it. I do it too and it's a hard habit to break. But we CAN and talking about it helps, we got this! Here's to a blessed New Year, 2025 is going to be the Best. ❤😊
Thank you so much for your kind words, I really appreciate it! ❤️
Golden goose are ugly
I have always thought that and they are $500!
Heather! Great video. You have described me exactly in my relationship. You r helping
Many people Jana - Texas I love
Love your tips!!! ❤️
Years ago there was a Chanel magazine ad with a Marie Antoinette theme dress and bouffant hair, sneakers in brilliant metallic gold platform, absolutely gorgeous! Other than that, sneakers are somewhat tacky looking with anything other than workout wear. So sorry😢, it works on an unconscious level😃. Ladies, elevate your style.
Love Express jeans ❤
I’m more of the female that cannot make eye contact easily because it’s a cultural thing. However, the fact that he’s spending time with you in person reveals that Mr Yellowstone does care for you.
Loved your vulnerability. I’m in for 2025, now subscribed.
Love metallic sneakers with wide leg pants.
I bought the burgundy clutch bag. It is absolutely stunning. I loved it so much. I bought other colors too.
Hello darling you are beautiful inside and out and you empower us women, I love hearing your vulnerability and I grew up with an alcoholic mother and definitely coped and still sometimes struggle with hyper vigilance and abandonment issues. Been married 12 years and what you said is right. If he is a good man it is worth the work❤😘 you are my fashion icon and love the burgundy babe
I am so glad you find my videos empowering! ❤️
Helpful video thank you . Always looking to keep up with what’s trending ahead. As far as the addidas shoes go , I like them , but I’m 54 and they seem a little more youthful, I am going to look into the Dolce Vita shoes and they come in Metallics, love the boots . Keep the relationships organic let them happen naturally . I believe
When it’s meant to be you feel it pretty quick . It’s ok if it’s not meant to be , don’t over analyze everything . Stay positive in your relationship. 😊👍. You’re doing great . 😊
I have the dolce vita notice sneakers in crinkled silver, they are super comfy, I think you would love them
I love those cowboy boots and that whole outfit! I’m a LA girl, so where can I shop the boots?
Heather new relationships are hard but more then that they can be scary and pur greatest fear is fear of tbe unknown. I do the same as you for the same reasons but im glad to see you working on it i am.trying. stay strong you are a beautiful person inside and out and he aint no fool to let you go im sure. Wishing you all.the best. Thank you for sharing it is helping others like myself
Thank you for your kind words!💕
The green bomber you wore with the leopard booties ❤....do you know what brand that was???
@@tamiwingrove5604 here is the link
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Fashion is very individual. In the same way people are different , fashion is too. Just do you as long as it comes out good 👍 😊
Hopey you had a nice holiday Heather! I love platforms bc I feel like they give needed padding on the ball of my foot. However they're at the back of my closet bc I know in 2 years they'll be back! I need a pair of burgundy shoes. It's hard to wear bc they're bama and OU colors though lol (from a TX girl)
Hi Heather I loved this video and I don’t mean just the shoes lol which was helpful of course I am impressed your sharing your love life with your audience don’t be afraid to discuss your feelings in a relationship it’s the best thing to do just talk don’t assume things you know what they say when you assume lol lol Happy New Year 🎉🎉
I agree! Open communication is key to a happy relationship. 😊
Chaos to hyper vigilant .. totally get it 😢
Love this video!!! Shoes and personal story ❤❤❤❤ only thing is I can't wear any of these heels 😢😢😢 my arthritis and starting bunions nope. Yes I am survivor mode brain and hyper vigilant. 🙏 Have a blessed day
Thank you for sharing and I absolutely am the same way in relationships❤
Hi there, is the link that you gave for the bag that you were showing real leather? I am only seeing PU. Thank you.
@@mikijava9575 I thought it was real leather but it’s not but it looks and feels like real leather
always follow your advice happy new year
i really like some styles!
Lov😊e your videos! What is your opinion of Mary Jane shoes for 2025? I know they may not be your style but will they still be on trend? Thank you!
We all r not getting down with kitten heels
Where can we get these jeans and boots?
6:50am Heather I love your style, did all that those looks in my younger days ! Honestly how many of us in our 60’s can ? Some of us don’t have the figure and $ to pull off these looks :) Maybe you can find looks that still bring out the “Sexy” that is a little more age appropriate :) I understand the man “issues” I’m “hyper vigilant” in relationships as well. Communication is key ..we get banged up as little girls and sadly we carry the baggage with us …been in therapy for years and still get that knee jerk reaction cause I am so sensitive ..HAPPY NEW YEAR TO U AND ALL ! 🎉
I love the styles. But, could you please measure the heels before you say a comfortable 3” heel I’ve followed for over a year and really cringe when it’s visible to the eye. They are over 3” heels.
I like you. Do not lies or misinformation.
Please correct me if I’m wrong ❤
We have very similar jackets. I bought mine for inexpensive on MOTF but the quality is supurb.
love burgandy too
I love my Golden Goose sneakers. I dont hsve the ultra beat up, already worn ones. Mine are the Francy, Slide, Pure Star and Mid Stars. I get the look of suede converss but more comfortable and better quality. My Gooses have lasted over 8 years and still great. Converse must have had quality control issues because they only last about a year before the soles start coming unglued. The ones that look like they were drig through a mud hole are not cute.
I am retired Air Force. The last thing I want on my feet are any boots which look like combat boots and definitely no camouflage. When you spend 20 years having to wear it, you tend not to want to do it as fashion.
Love your outfit combinations and how the shoe looks with it. I appreciate it.
I am wearing whatever l have in my investment closet
👍🏻Thank you!! Gorg🎀
Hi Heather! I love the color burgundy too. Is red (for shoes) still in style? Maybe red is considered too bright? On the relationship front, I think talking it out is always the right choice. Loving yourself means that you honor every feeling inside of you. ❤
I did see that red is in, but Heather would know more than I do.
Gosh I got rid of my platform 15 years ago then came back finally yesterday I was planning to buy some because i can’t walk in normal heels anymore 😂
Thanks for the breakdown! A bit off-topic, but I wanted to ask: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). How should I go about transferring them to Binance?
Why are wide sneakers popular. I will never. But everything else a go
Nice looks Heather. I added burgundy booties and a sweater. Already have a nice bag in that color.
Check out the Milan Street style vids to catch ornate furs. I would love to dogsit for you and have a playdate with your beautiful furkid and my Yorkie girl but we live far apart. Can you show her off sometime? She's so precious 💞
Look No. 3 ❤❤❤ I'm currently on the hunt for metallic sneakers. So far the ones I purchased from dolce vita didn't work (8.5 too small, 9 too big, sigh). I'll keep trying !!
( I have a pair of Camper metallic sneakers I like a lot ~ very comfy, too {and my feet are slightly wide}. Be ***SURE to order Campers, though, at least 1.5 if not 2 sizes LARGER than your normal size; it's so worth it though ❣️
Bared Footwear has some super cute metallic sneakers and they’re comfy too. 😊
So that was good that yall had that conversation but did he say why he was quiet and distant those times you picked up on that? Just wondering, don’t have to share that with us but hope you found out 🙏❤️
Love Burgundy also!
Hi, Heather. I'm new to your blog. I love your style, but I see that most of your attire is with pointed toe heels, which not only is impractical with my simple life, it's also painful. Also, I'm in South Texas and going through menopause. Any extra layers like a jacket would set me on fire, 🔥 Any suggestions?
On the dating front, I haven't dated much, as I've been married since 18 for almost 32 years. However, I have experienced something similar throughout my marriage. My father was distant from me. So, I still struggle with rejection. I've learned that it's quite simple, really. Men and women process things differently for the most part. I think we tend to over analyze too much and that can have a negative effect on the relationship and cause him to withdraw and hold back on communication for fear of being misunderstood or having it thrown back at them in the future. My experience is that when I put my faith in Jesus and confidently live my life knowing God is in control, my insecurities subside, and our relationship blossoms. I pray that you rest in the fact that you are loved by Almighty God and that you allow him to heal you completely. One more thing. I'm sure I'll get some backlash for this, but I would highly suggest saving intimacy for marriage. God set it up that way for a reason. Much blessings to you.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I love what you said about trusting God and confidently living your life.
@HeatherAndersonFashionOver40 I'm glad to hear that . Hope it helps. I said a pryer for you today. 🤗🙏
Never putting away my Golden Goose sneakers. Embellishments and suede are trendy these days with sneakers and my GG happen to be embellished and suede, so perfect! 😊
Yes being uncomfortable is something we want to avoid .. a childhood of uncomfortable makes my tolerance to it low, I guess being uncomfortable is the way out now
Leopard out, but I like it still. Zebra and snakeskin are the animal prints for 2025
crop jackets are out, long and barn are in, bombers out. Metallic silver, suede and rich browns in. Love Spanx outfit and LA hat! Hate baggy jeans on anyone not lean and tall w pointy shoes, yuck! Leopard and cheetah out, zebra and snakeskin in. Hate Stilettos!! Yay!! Love the frame jeans w pointy shoes
Combats out Riding hoots and cowboy in but NOT in gold - Silver!!
Some older shoe trends are what some people are looking for they can’t get anymore
Unfortunately because Im a 14, I cannot wear Express anymore. They top out at size 12.
Maybe do a video on hair….
Chanel s/s25 had lots of platforms!
Every video where you talk about Yellowstone you mention a “ hiccup” you all had and then you are the one that always communicates your concerns to him… you have valid concerns but it makes me wonder why its always you broaching the honest conversation with him….you are very clear in what you communicate and since he lives 2.5 hours away I’m wondering if six months from now if you will still be ok with someone who reacts to valid points you bring up but never initiates concerns with you? I actually don’t say this from a point of judgment, I just say this as someone in her 50’s that has a live in boyfriend of ten years ( that I love) but it took a long while to get used to being the only one broaching honest discussions and communicating… I know a lot of guys aren’t as comfortable discussing issues but its all about what you are willing to put up with in your life… no matter how great someone seems 6 weeks in…. He’s still 2.5 hours away and you seem to be the main one bringing up real issues- is he just not comfortable communicating his concerns so seems distant? That happens a lot….
3” heels are not comfortable if you like to walk. I only wear them if going to a party where I’m standing in one place. 😂
Love 💗 Burgandy.
Nordstrom has platforms everywhere even in their salon shoes and designer etc Gucci line
Take a break...it's too fast
Healthy is not rushing the relationship
By the way I saw those boots from Veronica but the price but they did feel a bit comfortable…
I meant to say. Do not like lies or misinformation
Is kitten heels one of them l hope😂
Heather, my lovely, Mr. Yellowstone is NOT the guy for you. When it’s right, it’s right. Your person will be “insta-couple.” While your childhood trauma might appear when triggered, the idea that you rushed into things will not be an issue. Why? Because when it’s right, it’s right. If you take nothing from this comment, take this- there is no magic formula for the correct time of becoming a couple or exclusive, or engaged or married. Couples that have lived together for years before marriage, still end up divorced. Couples that have known each other for 2 months, and then got married, have stayed married for decades. There is no right or wrong way on the timing of when to be an actual couple. But what you will know in your bones, is that the guy is your person. Mr. Yellowstone is not your person. He’s Mr. Right now. Not your forever man. I believe with every fiber of my being, that when you meet your man, your soul will recognize him and you will feel God at work. ❤
Very well said. I also feel that Mr. Yellowstone is Heather’s guy for right now and is not her forever guy. Her forever guy is out there. Heather will know when she meets him. ❤️
You were so right! We broke up and I know in my bones it was the best thing I could have ever done - details to come later. Thank you for your wise words!!
@ Do NOT be sad or beat yourself up over the ending of this relationship Heather. You made the right decision. Be happy that you learned a valuable lesson and that you are on your way to being one step closer to your forever guy. I am most definitely speaking from experience. I met my husband in Dallas and he was definitely worth the wait. There are plenty of available men for you in Dallas. You just haven’t met him yet. I have a feeling 2025 is going to be your year! 🤗
lol noway ! Gotta be kidding that green skirt is hideous
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