@@fandomchild_ws It was a genuine question, but hey, everyone has their breakthrough. Yours will come. This may seem a bit hypocritical, but I do urge you to slowly pull away from being someone to vent to. Yeah it's really hard to do that, but trust me, this schist is a loop. A constant cycle you get addicted to but don't wanna be in. You will get better if you start the healing process yourself. I haven't taken the following advice but I urge you to do so: You can't help people when you yourself are barely even half functioning Love yourself. And if you think you are unworthy you are wrong. If you think you are selfish you are wrong. If you vent and people say that "you rant too much" *they* are wrong. Free yourself, I plead with you. Don't be stuck here. You are beautiful, compassionate and incredibly kind. If anyone says otherwise, including you yourself, they are wrong. Remember that wounds heal, but scars only fade till there's a reminder. Embrace them as a reminder that you pulled through. You are incredibly strong. I know you can do this. Sending lots of love ❤️❤️
@@Khhaos Oh my, thank you so much, this made me cry- I’ll definitely try. And I would love for you to try as well. If this isn’t healthy for me, it wouldn’t be healthy for you either. Why don’t I come back in a week or so and ask you how you’re doing? I’ll set myself a reminder. Us friends stick together, remember that. You’re also beautiful and great, and no one can change that. You know how I know you’re a good person at heart? You *chose* to help someone in need (that someone being me). You didn’t have to do that, you know? Choose who you want to give your advice to. If you find that you have to continuously give someone advice and they still have the same problem over and over again, it isn’t worth it to waste your breath on them A healthy way to vent/write things you can’t say to others is to write it down in Notes. You can always change and delete it whenever you want. That’s a step forward to recovery, I believe. Eventually you might be able to be more open about it, and if other people just brush it off or get annoyed, it’s their loss. They can’t put in the effort to be a good enough friend and that’s their problem. Not yours Try out this method for a bit and see how it goes. I have tried it a couple of times and it does help sometimes :)
10/10 for me! I swear I’m the therapist friend and all my fiends tell me “u need to speak up for ur self blah blah blah” then when I don’t realize they are sad the get so mad at me then I stand up for myself JUST LIKE THEY DO and they say “you didn’t have to be so ride about it!!” Like am I missing something?! I don’t understand! When I complain about something that’s been bugging me they say “it’s not that bad” or they turn it around and make it about them! Since I’m the therapist friend I guess I just can’t show any emotions besides empathy!!
The thing that hits the hardest as a therapist friend is feeling bad about putting boundaries that cause both of you to fall out of the friendship. And then, years later learning that they've been friends with someone you know and that they've been a "better therapist friend" than you, so much that they're feeling a lot better now.
I don’t go to therapy because I don’t tell my parents how I’ve been feeling lately making it hard for me to express emotions other then faking a smile. I cry randomly as well.
10/10 fingers down which i did not expect! Idk if I like being the therapist friend or not lol- I mean I'm helping others but it causes my downfall, I like seeing others doing good tho? But tbh it helps me practice my acting skill and helps me try not to cry bc i love acting. ✨️
You managed to stay this far I'm fucking proud of you. If it's not okay come see me. Talk to me If you want to cry, cry. Tears are no more serious. If you're sad relax, take a glass of water, and write your thoughts, then rest and do something you love. don't feel good, inhale and exhale and take a stuffed animal and hold it tight Don't neglect yourself for something wrong. You have to learn to love yourself no matter what makes us different. If you succeed in accepting yourself, believe me you will be much better than before, just relax listening to music escaping from reality is a way of accepting don't like before you love someone love-your body.Accept it promise you everything will be fine,rest draw do something you really love it's hard to accept yourself but as soon as you do it will you have made you feel s better don't do like me to hate who you are
All of them besides the Last,I make sure not to have outburst so the on emotion I'll show is happiness or I'll go neutral if you see one of my outburst "I'm sorry" your one the only people that know, if I get upset I walk away so you don't see me like that and then graspe my hands to together very tightly and calm myself down :)
10\10 I’m also a therapist friend and a mom friend I’m mentally unstable and slowly going insane also does anyone relate that there are people online that say the nicest things when you don’t even know them but you’ve known friends and family for a long time yet they aren’t as nice and caring as the random person online I want to be that person so if you’re reading this you are amazing important awesome you deserve love so I love you and have the best day ever ❤️
10/10 fingers but i hate centering myself and talking about my worries so nothing ever gets let out and its just bottled up making me a nervous wreck and it makes me want to be the therapy friend to focus on other people! 😃 😭
Lady's and gents, we have 2 fingers still up. 💪🏻 I've also turned into a therapy friend. It's cause i want to think im doing something good for people and be supportive, but i actually suck at it, lol. Idk why people tell me their problems, im not wise or anything. 😢
9.5 fingers. I can make friends but I have been hurt by past friendships so much I feel unworthy to be a friend to people anymore sometimes and if I don't do stuff I feel like they lose interest in what I have to say.
“Put a finger down if you put on a smile so everyone thinks that you’re fine” That was literally me every day for like half the school year but now I’m fine 😅
im the therapist friend. I honestly hate it. no one checks up on me or even asks if im okay. im just… there. ofc there is one friend that acknowledges me all the time and asks if im okay. i love her as a friend, and i hope she stays w me forever. otherwise, I hold my feelings in all the time. i want people to think im okay. when really. im overthinking or panicking abt something or just really stressed out.
I’m the therapist and I had 10 fingers down... Tbh it’s hard to be therapist bc they always ask u yo help them Even at night and your like: “I don’t wanna do this again.....” I barely get sleep:( BUT ILL ALWAYZ BE THERE.
I honestly wanna be the therapist friend, and ik everyone who is one says it sucks but I wanna be that person who has great advice, and who anyone can talk to. Edit: Yall it was edited for punctuation lol
10/10 fingers down and this is why I go to therapy 😂
Same here
I probably should go to therapy
i probably should but i can't afford it :)
i will get better by myself ig
Same 😅
Same
I put all 10 fingers down lol. *I just love being the therapist friend and not being able to afford therapy…*
Same lol
Dude defined my life and others at the same time
Hey man, you ok?
@@Khhaos If this is a genuine question, no, I’m not ok, and I only seem to be getting worse each day. Thank you for asking though
@@fandomchild_ws It was a genuine question, but hey, everyone has their breakthrough. Yours will come. This may seem a bit hypocritical, but I do urge you to slowly pull away from being someone to vent to. Yeah it's really hard to do that, but trust me, this schist is a loop. A constant cycle you get addicted to but don't wanna be in. You will get better if you start the healing process yourself. I haven't taken the following advice but I urge you to do so:
You can't help people when you yourself are barely even half functioning
Love yourself. And if you think you are unworthy you are wrong. If you think you are selfish you are wrong. If you vent and people say that "you rant too much" *they* are wrong. Free yourself, I plead with you. Don't be stuck here. You are beautiful, compassionate and incredibly kind. If anyone says otherwise, including you yourself, they are wrong. Remember that wounds heal, but scars only fade till there's a reminder. Embrace them as a reminder that you pulled through. You are incredibly strong. I know you can do this. Sending lots of love ❤️❤️
@@Khhaos Oh my, thank you so much, this made me cry-
I’ll definitely try. And I would love for you to try as well. If this isn’t healthy for me, it wouldn’t be healthy for you either. Why don’t I come back in a week or so and ask you how you’re doing? I’ll set myself a reminder. Us friends stick together, remember that. You’re also beautiful and great, and no one can change that. You know how I know you’re a good person at heart? You *chose* to help someone in need (that someone being me). You didn’t have to do that, you know? Choose who you want to give your advice to. If you find that you have to continuously give someone advice and they still have the same problem over and over again, it isn’t worth it to waste your breath on them
A healthy way to vent/write things you can’t say to others is to write it down in Notes. You can always change and delete it whenever you want. That’s a step forward to recovery, I believe. Eventually you might be able to be more open about it, and if other people just brush it off or get annoyed, it’s their loss. They can’t put in the effort to be a good enough friend and that’s their problem. Not yours
Try out this method for a bit and see how it goes. I have tried it a couple of times and it does help sometimes :)
“I’m the not mentally unstable”
gets 10/10.
Me at the end : ✊🏼✊🏼
Same 😅
Same 😅😔
Same
Fr fr same
10/10 for me! I swear I’m the therapist friend and all my fiends tell me “u need to speak up for ur self blah blah blah” then when I don’t realize they are sad the get so mad at me then I stand up for myself JUST LIKE THEY DO and they say “you didn’t have to be so ride about it!!” Like am I missing something?! I don’t understand! When I complain about something that’s been bugging me they say “it’s not that bad” or they turn it around and make it about them! Since I’m the therapist friend I guess I just can’t show any emotions besides empathy!!
9/10 fingers as the therapist friend. I need therapy lmao
Same bro same
Ayeee! Me too! How are my fellow therapist friends doing?
@@MusicLover-mf5pz qwq
Same. Us therapist freinds really need to go to therapy lol 🥲
I got 10/10 but again I have trust issues I don’t trust anyone but myself
The thing that hits the hardest as a therapist friend is feeling bad about putting boundaries that cause both of you to fall out of the friendship. And then, years later learning that they've been friends with someone you know and that they've been a "better therapist friend" than you, so much that they're feeling a lot better now.
I don’t go to therapy because I don’t tell my parents how I’ve been feeling lately making it hard for me to express emotions other then faking a smile. I cry randomly as well.
we are completely the same!
hey, if you ever feel like venting to someone, i'm always here :)
Same. I’m here with u. Xxx
10/10 fingers down which i did not expect! Idk if I like being the therapist friend or not lol- I mean I'm helping others but it causes my downfall, I like seeing others doing good tho? But tbh it helps me practice my acting skill and helps me try not to cry bc i love acting. ✨️
The fact that the person didn’t complete the whole sentence but I could relate to it only in the half way only hit hard. Got 10/10
All of my fingers are down and my “friend” is sending me these vent paragraphs as we speak…
Okay but she’s so freaking pretty 😭
You managed to stay this far I'm fucking proud of you. If it's not okay come see me. Talk to me If you want to cry, cry. Tears are no more serious. If you're sad relax, take a glass of water, and write your thoughts, then rest and do something you love. don't feel good, inhale and exhale and take a stuffed animal and hold it tight Don't neglect yourself for something wrong. You have to learn to love yourself no matter what makes us different. If you succeed in accepting yourself, believe me you will be much better than before, just relax listening to music escaping from reality is a way of accepting don't like before you love someone love-your body.Accept it promise you everything will be fine,rest draw do something you really love it's hard to accept yourself but as soon as you do it will you have made you feel s better don't do like me to hate who you are
oh uh 1 finger up for mehシ︎
Same
Same
Same
Same
Oh look at that, all fingers down
All of them besides the Last,I make sure not to have outburst so the on emotion I'll show is happiness or I'll go neutral if you see one of my outburst "I'm sorry" your one the only people that know, if I get upset I walk away so you don't see me like that and then graspe my hands to together very tightly and calm myself down :)
1 finger left for me :) this is why I got therapy:)
sameeee
11/10 😂😂
And that’s why I go to therapy 👍🤣
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10\10 I’m also a therapist friend and a mom friend I’m mentally unstable and slowly going insane also does anyone relate that there are people online that say the nicest things when you don’t even know them but you’ve known friends and family for a long time yet they aren’t as nice and caring as the random person online I want to be that person so if you’re reading this you are amazing important awesome you deserve love so I love you and have the best day ever ❤️
Not me with all fingers down-
10/10 I love how I'm trying to keep others alive while struggling to be alive
10/10, and this is why I'm the therapist friend..
9/10 I always try to be there for my friends but I never speak about my deep struggles, only about the ones that are easier to talk about like stress
Being the Therapist friend is great I got a 10 out of 10.
Are you okay?
10/10.. I'm the therapist friend...
9/10 fingers only thing I don’t have is the friends thing as I overthink that they hurt me but they really don’t sooo 😅
All my fingers down and I realize I really need to go to therapy 😩
10 fingers down, I genuinely want to be a therapist in the future sooo🧍
10/10 fingers but i hate centering myself and talking about my worries so nothing ever gets let out and its just bottled up making me a nervous wreck and it makes me want to be the therapy friend to focus on other people! 😃 😭
9/10. I think that’s a good score to have.
Three fingers down I just balled my hands into fists and it was accurate LMAOOO
9 / 10 ;-;
Lady's and gents, we have 2 fingers still up. 💪🏻
I've also turned into a therapy friend. It's cause i want to think im doing something good for people and be supportive, but i actually suck at it, lol. Idk why people tell me their problems, im not wise or anything. 😢
"You're not the therapist friend" bro 9/10
9.5 fingers. I can make friends but I have been hurt by past friendships so much I feel unworthy to be a friend to people anymore sometimes and if I don't do stuff I feel like they lose interest in what I have to say.
10/10 fingers down,as the therapist friend,I need myself a therapist friend
Put a finger down if your mom thinks ur dads cheating
Me:putting a finger down😢
10/10 fingers and im the terapist friend 😂
* not me only having 3 fingers at the end 😂💀 *
The fact that I put all fingers down is “great”
9/10 😢
10:10 fingers down… I should probably get a therapist, as I’m the therapist friend 😅
As the therapist friend I've had all down but I'm good it's not like someone ever knew how I actually feel like .
I put down 7. I have just been trying to keep calm in the group chats I’m in, trying to be the good guy and I’m just left feeling pushed around
“Put a finger down if you put on a smile so everyone thinks that you’re fine”
That was literally me every day for like half the school year but now I’m fine 😅
10/10 fingers this is why I need therapy love being the therapist friend heh
9/10 my friends haven’t checked on me in forever :)
9/10 fingers down bro 😭😭
10/10, dang never knew that I needed therapy this much
10/10 fingers down! This is why I lie to my therapist!
All of my fingers went down . Therapist friend that me
Your a lucky girl✨
10/10 and i still do go to therapyyyyy
10/10 instead of getting therapy i give therapy to my friends
8 fingers down, huh. I was both expecting more fingers down and less fingers down at the same time.
9/10
no fingers up for me:)
"No way Im emotionally unstable"
*9/10* oh.
10/10 the little think that this hurts
Me at the end;✊☝️
9/10 🥲 also as a therapist friend 🥹
I put all my fingers down, and im also the therapy friend
Tehe no fingers left im so stable 🤪💅
10/10 and I don’t get therapy! I’m definently okay!
*mum walks in *
Mum: What are you doing with ur hands?
Me: its hard to explain ✊😀✊
9/10 fingers down
I put down all my fingers and I’m a therapist friend too
Ouch- two fingers up for me ;-;
I put all time fingers down😭😭
im the therapist friend. I honestly hate it. no one checks up on me or even asks if im okay. im just… there. ofc there is one friend that acknowledges me all the time and asks if im okay. i love her as a friend, and i hope she stays w me forever. otherwise, I hold my feelings in all the time. i want people to think im okay. when really. im overthinking or panicking abt something or just really stressed out.
10/10 and im the therapist friend. Lord help 😭😭
everything except the confidence one 🤸
*pov: you put all of ur fingers down and STILL don't go to therapy* that's just me 😃
I’m the therapist and I had 10 fingers down...
Tbh it’s hard to be therapist bc they always ask u yo help them
Even at night and your like:
“I don’t wanna do this again.....”
I barely get sleep:(
BUT ILL ALWAYZ BE THERE.
10/10 fingers down and I also have a therapist but don’t talk to them 😂😂
10/10 I need help fr
*i put all my fingers down*
oh well
10 fingers down… this is why I’m going back to therapy😝
I put all my fingers down lmao
WHERE DID MY FINGERS GO?
I honestly wanna be the therapist friend, and ik everyone who is one says it sucks but I wanna be that person who has great advice, and who anyone can talk to.
Edit: Yall it was edited for punctuation lol
Oh look at that, I ran out of fingers-
10/10 😀
My fingers said bye!👋
WoW im SUPER EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE 😂😭💔
I’m the therapist friend… and I put 8 fingers down
10/10 and my mom wonders why my doctor strongly recommended therapy
All of em 🥲
I seriously need therapy 😀
10/10 as the therapist friend 🤌
😦 Ngl I wasn’t expecting them to describe my entire life like… 10/10, no wonder I’m in therapy.
Me at nine fingers thinking “surely I can’t relate to all of these right? WHAT THE-“ umm yeah I’m 10/10…
10/10 as the therapist friend
10/10 fingers down lol guess I need therapy now pffft lol😂. I have issues 😢😅
10/10 guess i am emotionally unstable and nobody knows 😂. And yes I am the therapist friend 🤣
all 10 fingers were down LOL!!!
9/10 :)
Yay! I got a perfect score! 10/10!🎉🤣
All my fingers were down in seconds
At the beginning: 🙌
At the end: ✊👌
9/10 as the therapist friend