Yes, many women pay VERY CLOSE attention to how you dress. Especially when you first meet. I actually experimented many times with all sorts of clothing, and was very surprised how much difference that makes!
I see the faux pas here in Montana anytime I got out socially! I work on making sure I have clothes that fit my body and use colors/styles/ patterns that stay classy over time. Doesn't mean I'm a "fashionista" but I work on updating within my means. And yet, some women here think even casual is "overdressed." I know I when I make the effort I look good because I am worth it.
Just heard about a recent study of 100 women that were asked if they would go out on a date, sleep with, get involved with a guy does his style matter in their decision. ALL of them said they would be more inclined to get "busy" with guys that dressed well over those that don't. However, and the interesting part, when a similar group of men where asked the same question only 1% said that a girl's style matters. Just goes to tell you that basically women are dressing up to impress/ward-off other women and it has little to no impact on a guy's decision to get involved with them.
I wear the Merrill shoes in your description, when I walk my dog, with lady friend, and while at work. They are very good supportive shoes for walking. As far as a date, I wear mostly dark jeans, and nice shirts, with boots ( Thursday boots for example.)
Although I have been married for the past 41 years I did adhere to many of these rules when I was younger and still dating. The major problem I have had for most of my life is I am on the short side( under 5'-6") I have always had trouble getting pants and shorts to fit. Probably close to 30 years ago they pretty much stopped making shoes my size. Go to any shoe store in the men's section and the sizes start at 7 than walk over to the boys and they stop at 5 and if you get lucky 5 1/2. I am a size 6 same as my father was but when I ask I am always told they can't help me. I actually have to buy dress loafers in the women's department because a size 8 is a perfect fit. I recently went to 4 different stores looking for a new pair of jeans I cannot find any with the right waist size and they're all to long. The last pair of dress pants I bought had to be shorten 6".
SHOES!!! I bought a pair of all-white sneakers at the beginning of the summer based on your recommendation and holy cow! I cannot tell you how many compliments I received. I've been divorced for five years and two of my children (ages 22 and 20) asked me if I was getting ready to date again. LOL. I just got a pair of brown leather sneaks based on the recommendation of the woman I'm dating (so, yes, I guess I was planning on dating again. LOL). She loved my white sneaks, saying it suggested to her I cared about my clothing and overall appearance. I enjoy the videos. Keep up the good work!
Legend, John. I must say you are my favourite men's fashion UA-camr. The only times I wear white socks are at the gym, playing sports, or with sweat pants. Is ok to wear white socks with sweat pants?
Great advice as always, after losing just over 3 st in weight I needed to change my style. I have never been more happy and your guidance has really helped. Thanks for all the vlogs.
I hope men are really following up with your advice because "in my opinion" your are right. First impressions are critical in any situation and unfortunately, before we open our mouths, clothes are noticed first. John, you are the master!
Great advice - after 40 almost everything should be tailored (it’s our secret weapon guys). But good tailors are hard to find. I’d like to see a video with tips for screening tailors. Do they use pins instead of chalk? Can they communicate in your primary language? Do they give advice on what would be flattering on your body type? Help John. How do we separate the craftsmen from the hacks? There’s such a difference in skill level and price…
This is such great style recommendations. It seems 75 to 80 % of guys don't care about how they look where I live. ( Indiana). I'm always getting compliments about how I look like I stepped out of a gq magazine. Thanks for your continuing help John!
😂 YES. All of the style advice in once succinct video! Thank you for this (from a happily married lady). Now I just need a way to get my husband to believe white crew socks and lace-less Merrill’s with Khaki shorts are a no go! 😊
Hi John. As far as boring and dated patterns are concerned not only can you see what stores are currently selling you can also tell what's fallen out of favor by seeing what gets donated to thrift stores . Peace . 🙂
*I MAKE BESPOKE* historical mens suits 1890 to 1930 - this is my TOP TIP and I can not stress this enough *GET YOUR CLOTHES ALTERED TO FIT YOU* Rich people don't look rich cos their clothes are expensive, they look rich cos their clothes FIT. Buy second-hand [seriously buy second-hand, if a garment is good enough to sell second-hand its high quality] and then spend the little bit of money to have ALL your trousers, jeans, shirts, jackets altered to fit. $20 for a 2nd hand jacket + $20 for it altering will look like a $1500 jacket.
Great style advice as always. All sensible stuff. Here's what I don't get though... Most men ( including myself) accept advice like this as constructive criticism, and, if guilty, decide to do better. But when one lists what women have to change up in their style... Example... Lose weight...the women scream blue murder. Keep the videos coming. We're happy to look dapper for the discerning ladies out there.
Good video. Glad to see I have not many any of aforementioned fashion choices in this video for years. My boss (CFO) wears white socks to work all the time. I am sure he has no idea how bad this looks. I wish there was a decent way I could tell him.
I agree with everything; white socks, baggy pants, dated style, pants with pleats, oversize clothing, if you want to look from the past, it's ideal. However oversize clothing and pants with pleats are coming back, some brands are reintroducing these styles, even if I will never wear that again.
I love your outlook on style and fashion. Also how to improve our lives to help and let us know a lot of men are going through the same problems in life. Thank you for caring!!
Fit, fit, fit, fit, fit, fit, fit! Well fitted clothes will do more for how we look than almost anything else we can do no matter how we're built. And, shoes. The other feedback I've heard a lot is how good or bad our fingernails look. Chewed down nails, torn cuticles that look they were bleeding a half hour ago are a no-go for a lot of women.
“Ross Dress For Less” I visited a few stores in Florida Tampa Bay we have something similar in England called “TK Maxx” if you are lucky on the day you might end up with a designer label bargain.
You might lose some guys with "dress to impress." I say present the best version of yourself. Less pressure. Easier to focus on what to do and what not to do. Feel relaxed. Look relaxed. Come across as genuine. Women sense if you're being genuine or trying too hard. Go to any occasion and you can sense the guys who are wearing something they "have to" wear. As you've said many times, fit is crucial.
I will make my shirt, my vest and the pair of trousers I will wear for my next date. Being long and slim it is my only chance of getting anything that really fits.
99% sure that I am not making any of those mistakes - the 1% is an oversized jumper that I wear indoors when it's cold but it won't get replaced when worn out!
Solid advice most of which if not all you've said before. However, from what you have repeatedly aired appearantly still needs emphasis or clarification. On the issue of pleats, I find it interesting that it is the higher, trendiest clothiers that show much of this style and yet many of the pants are not tapered. I guess it's me, I must be missing something.
No cargo shorts, regardless of length, unless you are camping or hiking! That was one fashion trend I got correct before i found your channel (oh no white socks either). But your tips have kicked my style "quotient" into high gear and I appreciate it
Legend always. And as always a great video John. Well I flew back to Cleveland this week to have some work done at the Cleveland Clinic the best hospital system in my opinion in the world. Anyhow when you mentioned White socks I had to chuckle being here in Cleveland if you wear white socks from the part of Cleveland where I came from and this is not my opinion this is how it is you were immediately labeled blue collar and you worked in the Chevy or the Ford plant. You could only wear white socks going to the gym. This was as a kid as well as an adult. It is freezing cold here and there was actually snow last night. I do find it so ironic how people will make the comment oh you're so judgmental. The entire world is based on judgment and opinion. And it does matter
Thanks for sharing, everything is a tick for me however when putting on shorts, it should be not too far above the knee, such shorts should be reserved for beaches, in door relaxation etc.
100% on everything John as usual except I do wear white no show socks with white trainers. Black socks with black trainers and yes of course not on dates.
What men need to realise is that how you dress, walk, talk, carry yourself etc is all part of how we communicate, non verbally with the world. Not just the person we are engaging with but everyone who can see us. C'mon men, what sort of message do you want to communicate to the world about you?
Great video. What are your thoughts on shirts where the inside color isn’t finished to match the outside print. Some manufacturers don’t put in the effort to print both sides, especially on darker shirts like the one you are wearing. I know where that shirt is from and I’m disappointed that the care isn’t put in to it. A purposeful contrast would be great but I feel these are unfinished.
Why not do both? I have limits to the amount of space in my closet (and my budget for clothing), so I'm *not* going to buy every shirt that I like. Since I'm only choosing a few shirts out of the ones I like, why would I want to pick the ones that will create a negative impression?
@@karlr750 Because opinions vary. One person might look at something you're wearing and hate it. Another person can look at what you're wearing and love it. You can't please everyone so just please yourself and buy what you like.
@@Joey21071 , you're right, you're right, you're wrong, and I can prove it. Tastes differ, and you can't please everyone. You're absolutely right on both of those accounts. But if you're just pleasing yourself, and not taking into account who *else* might be pleased or displeased, then you're shooting yourself in the foot. I wear clothes that I like, and I'm not recommending that anyone do differently. But I *also* keep in mind what other people will like. Most specifically, it's in my interest to wear clothes that *my wife* thinks I look sexy in … since she's the one person in this world whom I'm having sex with. Even for guys who are still single, it's still beneficial to consider what other people think. PROOF THAT IT MATTERS: Don't take my word for this. Test this on your own. Take a screenshot of John, then crop it down so you can just see the subtle polka dot shirt he's wearing. Then go online and search through photos from "That 70s Show," and pick *any patterned shirt* you find. Crop that photo down so just the shirt is visible. Take your two photos to every single woman you know. Ask each of them which shirt would work better if a guy was on a first date *with her* (dinner & a movie). Tastes differ. Some women will prefer John's shirt, while others will prefer the 70s style shirt. (And some will love both, while others hate both.) Do the two shirts get the same number of votes, or does one shirt get wildly more votes than the other? If one shirt does far better than the other, then paying attention to what other people think matters … even if they all have different opinions. If you want to be really strategic about it, then it's not as simple as picking the shirts (or outfits) that get the most votes. Sometimes it's better to choose the less popular option. As an example, I look like a nerd (due to genetics). I also *am* a nerd, so there's truth in advertising. The *only* women who will be attracted to me are the ones who like nerdy guys. Therefore, I want to cater to *those* women, not the majority. Today I'm wearing an olive turtleneck, charcoal slacks, burgundy boots, and a gray-brown tweed jacket. I look like a put-together college professor. My wife loves the look.
@@karlr750 See I can't do that. More importantly, I would never do that. I wear a bowler hat. Do you think a lot of people like bowler hats? Probably not. They probably view them as being outdated. Do I care what they think? No. I still wear my bowler hat because I like it. I don't need to see how many people like my bowler hat to see if I like it and should wear it. I wear it because I like it.
All great suggestions for common style mistakes! The only other thing I would mention is: PLEASE NO low rider SAGGY BUTT PANTS. So nasty! Makes me appreciate this mature style group tbh. LEGEND
Just an idea for you and request. In past videos you’ve worn really nice shirts, sweaters, pants, or shoes. The shirt today is an excellent example. A simple list in the video description section of, shirt by xxx, pants by xxx, watch from xxx, would point us to quality sources. Just a thought. Thanks
So, my husband is a 100% jeans man. Black T-shirts. He will only wear chinos to an extremely dressy event. How can he elevate his preferred biker style without sacrificing his comfort zone?
@@40OverFashion he’s open to change, but I guess he doesn’t want to look like a businessman or someone who plays lots of golf 😂😂😂 (no offense - I think you’re adorable - and I mean that in a totally innocent way)
What you wear should always matter and women are correct to judge it. If I met a woman and she dressed like a slob, then it tells me she has no respect for herself.
If you're looking to Date/Mate find someone who wants to use you for biological and monetary resources in regards to their own future aspirations, then go on then, watch, buy all the stuff & be mindful of your consumer/appearance. If you just want to make an honest living, live a Holy life, keep to yourself & help people in your community while enjoying your own hobbies interests; what you wear doesn't matter.
Clothiers are showing a lot of pleated pants lately...they really do look classy in a vintage sort of way...just make sure that your sweater/shirt/shoes have that same sort of vibe...
Everyone who says choice of clothing doesn't matter is a liar or self-deluded. Because choice of clothing is the first evidence of the choices a person makes, everyone uses clothing as the first evidence of determining the character of people we meet. Everyone uses clothing choice as a factor in our initial evaluation of people we meet. (Well, people who truly don't get mugged a lot.) Smart people continue to "collect data" as they get to know the new person better, including just walking closer to them as they pass on the sidewalk, but clothing is always a factor in how we initially evaluate other people.
People in general, but men specifically have gotten significantly lazy and lost their standard out in public; regardless of Covid as an excuse. Even basic grooming has gone out the door unfortunately.
You need to do videos for the young incels out there who complain about not being able to get a woman, guys need to remember there is competition out there, you go for a job interview dressed to beat The opposition, you should do the same on a date!
I think another mistake is having a “uniform” where there is no variety in your wardrobe. I see guys that wear those hike boot things everyday with baggy jeans, white socks, and a short sleeve plaid shirt everyday. They own the same shirt in 5 colors and wear a different color each day. The only change is if they wear a jacket or not depending on how cold it is.
I am guilty of wearing tall White socks, with my shorts (for 20 years). No wonder the women have been running away from me. Now I am aware of how bad this looks. Time for me to buy colored socks. Now, I will become a chic magnet ! .
Man, congratulations on changing that. I am curious on why you thought that wasn’t a crazy look. I myself I’m trying to lose weight I’ve gained about 35 pounds of last two years. Normally I’ve been very fit because I exercise five days a week but I got off track just haven’t been feeling well so I just went on semi glue tide and that’s really helping me over the hump..
Everything that we do matters!! The way we talk, walk, posture, fitness level, hairstyle, and.... the way that we dress, matters!
Absolutely!
Agreed 👍🏾
It matters for women just as well 👍🏼
Fill your bank account with millions of dollars and you will be more attractive to women.
Just don’t jump thru hoops for them, or take their dating advice ffs!...🤦♂️
Yes, many women pay VERY CLOSE attention to how you dress. Especially when you first meet. I actually experimented many times with all sorts of clothing, and was very surprised how much difference that makes!
I see the faux pas here in Montana anytime I got out socially! I work on making sure I have clothes that fit my body and use colors/styles/ patterns that stay classy over time. Doesn't mean I'm a "fashionista" but I work on updating within my means. And yet, some women here think even casual is "overdressed." I know I when I make the effort I look good because I am worth it.
Spot on. If you focus on your style, even just a little you're ahead of many men out there.
True!
Just heard about a recent study of 100 women that were asked if they would go out on a date, sleep with, get involved with a guy does his style matter in their decision. ALL of them said they would be more inclined to get "busy" with guys that dressed well over those that don't. However, and the interesting part, when a similar group of men where asked the same question only 1% said that a girl's style matters. Just goes to tell you that basically women are dressing up to impress/ward-off other women and it has little to no impact on a guy's decision to get involved with them.
Hmmm….lots of guys out there looking for just one thing, I guess.
Women are estimating your financial worth based on your clothes. Beware.
I wear the Merrill shoes in your description, when I walk my dog, with lady friend, and while at work. They are very good supportive shoes for walking. As far as a date, I wear mostly dark jeans, and nice shirts, with boots ( Thursday boots for example.)
"Butt bling" 😂😂😂
Great advice John 👍🏻
Ha! Thank you!
pleated pants were really popular where I was from during the 80s. Everybody wanted to look like Don Johnson from Miami Vice, Lol.
Although I have been married for the past 41 years I did adhere to many of these rules when I was younger and still dating. The major problem I have had for most of my life is I am on the short side( under 5'-6") I have always had trouble getting pants and shorts to fit. Probably close to 30 years ago they pretty much stopped making shoes my size. Go to any shoe store in the men's section and the sizes start at 7 than walk over to the boys and they stop at 5 and if you get lucky 5 1/2. I am a size 6 same as my father was but when I ask I am always told they can't help me. I actually have to buy dress loafers in the women's department because a size 8 is a perfect fit. I recently went to 4 different stores looking for a new pair of jeans I cannot find any with the right waist size and they're all to long. The last pair of dress pants I bought had to be shorten 6".
SHOES!!! I bought a pair of all-white sneakers at the beginning of the summer based on your recommendation and holy cow! I cannot tell you how many compliments I received. I've been divorced for five years and two of my children (ages 22 and 20) asked me if I was getting ready to date again. LOL. I just got a pair of brown leather sneaks based on the recommendation of the woman I'm dating (so, yes, I guess I was planning on dating again. LOL). She loved my white sneaks, saying it suggested to her I cared about my clothing and overall appearance. I enjoy the videos. Keep up the good work!
Thank you Michael!
Legend, John. I must say you are my favourite men's fashion UA-camr. The only times I wear white socks are at the gym, playing sports, or with sweat pants. Is ok to wear white socks with sweat pants?
Yeah, I agree with the importance of getting the style down properly. The way you look can dictate interactions at any age.
Great advice as always, after losing just over 3 st in weight I needed to change my style. I have never been more happy and your guidance has really helped. Thanks for all the vlogs.
You’re very welcome! Congratulations!
Great advice John.it’s surprising how many older guys need a helping hand on their style.
I hope men are really following up with your advice because "in my opinion" your are right. First impressions are critical in any situation and unfortunately, before we open our mouths, clothes are noticed first.
John, you are the master!
Thanks Roberto!
Great advice - after 40 almost everything should be tailored (it’s our secret weapon guys). But good tailors are hard to find. I’d like to see a video with tips for screening tailors. Do they use pins instead of chalk? Can they communicate in your primary language? Do they give advice on what would be flattering on your body type? Help John. How do we separate the craftsmen from the hacks? There’s such a difference in skill level and price…
Thanks Douglas!
This is such great style recommendations. It seems 75 to 80 % of guys don't care about how they look where I live. ( Indiana). I'm always getting compliments about how I look like I stepped out of a gq magazine. Thanks for your continuing help John!
It's like John says, the bar is set so low that all you have to do is try and you're going to look more stylish than almost all men out there.
You’re very welcome!
My generation looked at anybody who dressed properly as losers
Great video and advice! Thank you.😊
Spot on John, you’re looking refreshed brother- I always enjoy the content.
Thank you very much!
Thanks. Please do a part 2
😂 YES. All of the style advice in once succinct video! Thank you for this (from a happily married lady). Now I just need a way to get my husband to believe white crew socks and lace-less Merrill’s with Khaki shorts are a no go! 😊
Ha! Good luck Jamie!
My coworker wears white crew socks and Merrills.
Hi John. As far as boring and dated patterns are concerned not only can you see what stores are currently selling you can also tell what's fallen out of favor by seeing what gets donated to thrift stores . Peace . 🙂
True!
@@40OverFashion it depends on where the thrift store is located.
You're one of the few niche channels to call out the rubbish styles and provide something attainable. When sh** fits, you are more wanted! Simple!
Thanks for watching Daniel!
*I MAKE BESPOKE* historical mens suits 1890 to 1930 - this is my TOP TIP and I can not stress this enough *GET YOUR CLOTHES ALTERED TO FIT YOU*
Rich people don't look rich cos their clothes are expensive, they look rich cos their clothes FIT. Buy second-hand [seriously buy second-hand, if a garment is good enough to sell second-hand its high quality] and then spend the little bit of money to have ALL your trousers, jeans, shirts, jackets altered to fit. $20 for a 2nd hand jacket + $20 for it altering will look like a $1500 jacket.
Great style advice as always. All sensible stuff. Here's what I don't get though... Most men ( including myself) accept advice like this as constructive criticism, and, if guilty, decide to do better. But when one lists what women have to change up in their style... Example... Lose weight...the women scream blue murder. Keep the videos coming. We're happy to look dapper for the discerning ladies out there.
True! Thanks for commenting!
Good video. Glad to see I have not many any of aforementioned fashion choices in this video for years. My boss (CFO) wears white socks to work all the time. I am sure he has no idea how bad this looks. I wish there was a decent way I could tell him.
I agree with everything; white socks, baggy pants, dated style, pants with pleats, oversize clothing, if you want to look from the past, it's ideal. However oversize clothing and pants with pleats are coming back, some brands are reintroducing these styles, even if I will never wear that again.
I love your outlook on style and fashion.
Also how to improve our lives to help and let us know a lot of men are going through the same problems in life.
Thank you for caring!!
You’re welcome Peter! Thanks for watching!
Legend. Happy Thanksgiving!😃 Absolutely love your channel.🙏🏼😌💯
Thank you!
John - I LOVE that shirt. I'm not usually a huge fan of navy blue, but that shade is awesome and the contrasting cuffs are great. Got a link?
Hey, thanks Dave! The shirt is custom made to measure from the tailor store. I got it a few years back.
@@40OverFashion gah! just my luck. I have been tiptoeing toward that type of solution but a couple of my measurements need to go down a little first.
Nice pack. On my xmas list. Like the products you been mentioning
Thank you for watching!
John!! Killing it lately. Happy Monday... amazing content in this! #legend #clothesmatter
Thank you Eric! Cheers!
Fit, fit, fit, fit, fit, fit, fit! Well fitted clothes will do more for how we look than almost anything else we can do no matter how we're built. And, shoes. The other feedback I've heard a lot is how good or bad our fingernails look. Chewed down nails, torn cuticles that look they were bleeding a half hour ago are a no-go for a lot of women.
Thanks Jeff!
Legend, great content, John!
Thank you!
Great tips John. Thank you.
Thanks for watching Ron!
Great video John!
Thank you for watching Chris!
Agree with most everything except the pleats. Pleats are classy. Lands End offers them in their selections of trousers for men.
Love all the suggestions. I appreciate it. Thank you
#Legend
Thanks Gregg!
Thanks for the advice John ! You have good week man .
Thanks Juan!
“Ross Dress For Less” I visited a few stores in Florida Tampa Bay we have something similar in England called “TK Maxx” if you are lucky on the day you might end up with a designer label bargain.
Great advice as usual John many thanks from the UK 👍
You might lose some guys with "dress to impress." I say present the best version of yourself. Less pressure. Easier to focus on what to do and what not to do. Feel relaxed. Look relaxed. Come across as genuine. Women sense if you're being genuine or trying too hard. Go to any occasion and you can sense the guys who are wearing something they "have to" wear. As you've said many times, fit is crucial.
I will make my shirt, my vest and the pair of trousers I will wear for my next date. Being long and slim it is my only chance of getting anything that really fits.
Great video glad you posted keep them coming thanks
Thank you!
99% sure that I am not making any of those mistakes - the 1% is an oversized jumper that I wear indoors when it's cold but it won't get replaced when worn out!
White socks with anything but sneakers or football cleats was looked as as being a rube or a redneck when I was in high school
Thank you
algo bump... great stuff as always sir.
Look good, feel good, exude confidence. Boom!
Great Video. Thank you for posting.
Thank you for watching!
Solid advice most of which if not all you've said before. However, from what you have repeatedly aired appearantly still needs emphasis or clarification. On the issue of pleats, I find it interesting that it is the higher, trendiest clothiers that show much of this style and yet many of the pants are not tapered. I guess it's me, I must be missing something.
No cargo shorts, regardless of length, unless you are camping or hiking! That was one fashion trend I got correct before i found your channel (oh no white socks either). But your tips have kicked my style "quotient" into high gear and I appreciate it
Thanks Paul!
Thanks John … another great video ..
Thank you very much!
Legend! Great Advice! Thanks John. Cheers 🥂
Cheers!
Legend always. And as always a great video John. Well I flew back to Cleveland this week to have some work done at the Cleveland Clinic the best hospital system in my opinion in the world. Anyhow when you mentioned White socks I had to chuckle being here in Cleveland if you wear white socks from the part of Cleveland where I came from and this is not my opinion this is how it is you were immediately labeled blue collar and you worked in the Chevy or the Ford plant. You could only wear white socks going to the gym. This was as a kid as well as an adult. It is freezing cold here and there was actually snow last night.
I do find it so ironic how people will make the comment oh you're so judgmental. The entire world is based on judgment and opinion. And it does matter
Absolutely! Thanks for commenting Robert!
Thanks for sharing, everything is a tick for me however when putting on shorts, it should be not too far above the knee, such shorts should be reserved for beaches, in door relaxation etc.
Love it! Great content. 👌
Thanks for the insight, John
You’re very welcome! Thanks for watching Norman!
100% on everything John as usual except I do wear white no show socks with white trainers. Black socks with black trainers and yes of course not on dates.
White socks 😱why would anyone wear them outside of the gym. I have not worn them in 40 years. Great video.
Thanks William!
What men need to realise is that how you dress, walk, talk, carry yourself etc is all part of how we communicate, non verbally with the world.
Not just the person we are engaging with but everyone who can see us.
C'mon men, what sort of message do you want to communicate to the world about you?
Single pleat trousers are good, on chinos...no pleats.
Totally agree 👍
That's a nice back pack! Is it available in 🇨🇦
Great video. What are your thoughts on shirts where the inside color isn’t finished to match the outside print. Some manufacturers don’t put in the effort to print both sides, especially on darker shirts like the one you are wearing. I know where that shirt is from and I’m disappointed that the care isn’t put in to it. A purposeful contrast would be great but I feel these are unfinished.
When it comes to patterns on shirts, I think it's best to buy what you like and not worry about what someone else thinks is out of date or boring.
Why not do both? I have limits to the amount of space in my closet (and my budget for clothing), so I'm *not* going to buy every shirt that I like. Since I'm only choosing a few shirts out of the ones I like, why would I want to pick the ones that will create a negative impression?
@@karlr750 Because opinions vary. One person might look at something you're wearing and hate it. Another person can look at what you're wearing and love it. You can't please everyone so just please yourself and buy what you like.
@@Joey21071 , you're right, you're right, you're wrong, and I can prove it.
Tastes differ, and you can't please everyone. You're absolutely right on both of those accounts. But if you're just pleasing yourself, and not taking into account who *else* might be pleased or displeased, then you're shooting yourself in the foot.
I wear clothes that I like, and I'm not recommending that anyone do differently. But I *also* keep in mind what other people will like.
Most specifically, it's in my interest to wear clothes that *my wife* thinks I look sexy in … since she's the one person in this world whom I'm having sex with.
Even for guys who are still single, it's still beneficial to consider what other people think.
PROOF THAT IT MATTERS:
Don't take my word for this. Test this on your own. Take a screenshot of John, then crop it down so you can just see the subtle polka dot shirt he's wearing. Then go online and search through photos from "That 70s Show," and pick *any patterned shirt* you find. Crop that photo down so just the shirt is visible.
Take your two photos to every single woman you know. Ask each of them which shirt would work better if a guy was on a first date *with her* (dinner & a movie).
Tastes differ. Some women will prefer John's shirt, while others will prefer the 70s style shirt. (And some will love both, while others hate both.) Do the two shirts get the same number of votes, or does one shirt get wildly more votes than the other? If one shirt does far better than the other, then paying attention to what other people think matters … even if they all have different opinions.
If you want to be really strategic about it, then it's not as simple as picking the shirts (or outfits) that get the most votes. Sometimes it's better to choose the less popular option.
As an example, I look like a nerd (due to genetics). I also *am* a nerd, so there's truth in advertising. The *only* women who will be attracted to me are the ones who like nerdy guys. Therefore, I want to cater to *those* women, not the majority. Today I'm wearing an olive turtleneck, charcoal slacks, burgundy boots, and a gray-brown tweed jacket. I look like a put-together college professor. My wife loves the look.
@@karlr750 See I can't do that. More importantly, I would never do that. I wear a bowler hat. Do you think a lot of people like bowler hats? Probably not. They probably view them as being outdated. Do I care what they think? No. I still wear my bowler hat because I like it. I don't need to see how many people like my bowler hat to see if I like it and should wear it. I wear it because I like it.
All great suggestions for common style mistakes! The only other thing I would mention is: PLEASE NO low rider SAGGY BUTT PANTS. So nasty! Makes me appreciate this mature style group tbh. LEGEND
Im 64. Another fashion no no is when guys wear the same color pants as the shirt, or both in a neutral shade
Pleated trouser enjoyer here.
Not sure if you'll see this, but what shirt are you wearing in this video?
It’s a made to measure shirt from The Tailor Store.
@@40OverFashion thanks!
Mo,if you're wearing white sneakers, white socks are actually appropriate, colored socks with white sneakers is wrong
Jeans with butt-bling or crazy contrast stitching. Can we just put some tape over the decoration or maybe cut patches out and flip them around?
Hi John another great video 👍how’s the car doing .Regards. Christopher Barker
Ha! It’s doing well, thanks!
People in America always say "it is what it is" until it applies to them then its not lmaoo sorry just makes me laugh every time
I'm 53 and STILL care how i look whether i am single or not(Im not...got a hot Dominican woman...lol).
Just an idea for you and request. In past videos you’ve worn really nice shirts, sweaters, pants, or shoes. The shirt today is an excellent example. A simple list in the video description section of, shirt by xxx, pants by xxx, watch from xxx, would point us to quality sources. Just a thought. Thanks
Thank you! The shirt in this video was custom from the Tailor Store. Thanks again for the suggestion.
John. Having some trouble finding men’s slim shorts with smaller leg openings. Any recommendations? Thanks!
Try looking at some of the more trendier stores like H&M, American Eagle, Zara and express.
It’s still a backpack… I’d rather carry a leather ruck or saddleback messenger
Those Merrills are GREAT for cutting the lawn! Trust me
And that's about it! Why people wear those hideous shoes is completely beyond me
So, my husband is a 100% jeans man. Black T-shirts. He will only wear chinos to an extremely dressy event. How can he elevate his preferred biker style without sacrificing his comfort zone?
That might be a tough call, because he might not want to change. Maybe start with different colors of jeans first.
@@40OverFashion he’s open to change, but I guess he doesn’t want to look like a businessman or someone who plays lots of golf 😂😂😂 (no offense - I think you’re adorable - and I mean that in a totally innocent way)
Legend: girls from 20’s to my age like what I wear! Even in my Rockabilly look! 😊I think 😮
Stick to my Kriega back pack thank you.
Where’s that shirt from? I like it.
It’s a custom shirt from a few years ago from the Tailor Store.
Thanks
What you wear should always matter and women are correct to judge it. If I met a woman and she dressed like a slob, then it tells me she has no respect for herself.
Exactly! Thanks for commenting!
When in doubt, ask yourself "would a gay man wear this?" If the answer is "no," put it down and walk away. - Me 2022
If you're looking to Date/Mate find someone who wants to use you for biological and monetary resources in regards to their own future aspirations, then go on then, watch, buy all the stuff & be mindful of your consumer/appearance. If you just want to make an honest living, live a Holy life, keep to yourself & help people in your community while enjoying your own hobbies interests; what you wear doesn't matter.
Clothiers are showing a lot of pleated pants lately...they really do look classy in a vintage sort of way...just make sure that your sweater/shirt/shoes have that same sort of vibe...
Everyone who says choice of clothing doesn't matter is a liar or self-deluded. Because choice of clothing is the first evidence of the choices a person makes, everyone uses clothing as the first evidence of determining the character of people we meet. Everyone uses clothing choice as a factor in our initial evaluation of people we meet. (Well, people who truly don't get mugged a lot.)
Smart people continue to "collect data" as they get to know the new person better, including just walking closer to them as they pass on the sidewalk, but clothing is always a factor in how we initially evaluate other people.
True! Thanks for commenting!
People in general, but men specifically have gotten significantly lazy and lost their standard out in public; regardless of Covid as an excuse. Even basic grooming has gone out the door unfortunately.
At least you didn't encourage guys to wear dark socks with shorts.
One thing is for sure.....you never get a second chance to make that first impression.
I saw a guy in his 50’s today wearing a nice blazer and shirt underneath, with a pair of nylon hiking pants and rotten blundstones….lolol…..
I would like to ask these women if you don't have a fashion sense, how much net worth you need to overcome it.
Haha! Good point!
Thats why japan fashion sense i killer
You need to do videos for the young incels out there who complain about not being able to get a woman, guys need to remember there is competition out there, you go for a job interview dressed to beat The opposition, you should do the same on a date!
Great point!
I think another mistake is having a “uniform” where there is no variety in your wardrobe. I see guys that wear those hike boot things everyday with baggy jeans, white socks, and a short sleeve plaid shirt everyday. They own the same shirt in 5 colors and wear a different color each day. The only change is if they wear a jacket or not depending on how cold it is.
The message that sends is that the guy is rigid in his thinking and therefore boring.
I am guilty of wearing tall White socks,
with my shorts (for 20 years).
No wonder the women have been running away from me.
Now I am aware of how bad this looks.
Time for me to buy colored socks.
Now, I will become a chic magnet !
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Man, congratulations on changing that. I am curious on why you thought that wasn’t a crazy look. I myself I’m trying to lose weight I’ve gained about 35 pounds of last two years. Normally I’ve been very fit because I exercise five days a week but I got off track just haven’t been feeling well so I just went on semi glue tide and that’s really helping me over the hump..
No backpack, use a leather briefcase. You’ll look like you at least some money.
Actually the clothes you should and do matter. A lot.
I must apologise but I just don't get backpacks. Men carry a bag, boys wear one.