"Taking your own life. Interesting expression, taking it from who? Once it's over, it's not you who'll miss it. Your own death is something that happens to everybody else. *Your life is not your own, keep your hands off it.* " this quote saved me so many times in so many ways.
Great vid! Can u help. im intrested is it ok to use footage from tv series partly im your YT videos and what can happen in the worst case-only demotetization or ban?
That speech from "The Lying Detective" helped pull me out of depression because it made me realize that I wouldn't be hurting myself, I'd be hurting my family and my friends. And it was something I could never take back.
It is truly special what words can do once said in the right order in the right tone of speach. It can break you, it can build you up. It van kill you and make you live once again. Words said in the right way are truly magical
I started crying when John started punching Sherlock, I think it was too much. I mean yes, his wife died but that wasn't Sherlock's fault. And he just started beating the crap out of him, while he was that high, already on the floor - it was just too much
@@allyouneedislove3218 And he felt like he deserved it. "Let him do it. He's entitled to. I killed his wife." Oh, Sherlock... Always so perceptive about everything except yourself.
So happy to see you are all stil going, life is hard but it can be beautiful as well. I found this the most powerful part of Sherlock. Please find it if you need it!
I was very depressed when i watched this episode and i had decided that i was going to take my life that night.. for some reason i felt compelled to watch this episode before I was going to do it. I watched this and i broke down and cried and it saved my life. THANK YOU SHERLOCK And to the writers of sherlock. I don't think they know how much these lines have helped people.
That quote hit me hard When you die , just like that a second and the pain is all over. That when you will stop hearing the sound of birds at the morning Thats when you stop seeing the flowers on summer That when you smelling the smell of fresh autumn That when you stop feeling snow But just like that boom everything is over. The pain is over You wont feel anything anymore Its the people who are still living that will have to deal with that Its your family who will have to bury you It your friends who will have to give a speech on your funeral Its the people who love you that will have to live their whole lives thinking its their fault So keep your hands off you life
@@alderaan1931 Then scream it out, dont keep it in. Everything feels a mess now but it will get better, it always does, are you gonna wait for it to get better. I wrote this 9 month ago, and no its not correct. Dont stay alive for everyone else, Stay alive for yourself. Give yourself a second chance
teens scream sometimes I’m 14... and suffer from depression and anxiety. I’ve had anxiety since I was 4. But last year I started taking action and hurting myself. I went to the mental hospital and a bunch of other crap went on. I’m now in thearpy.. which honestly isn’t helping me rn because I’m not with the right person. But I highly advise you to seek help. YOU NEED IT. Your life is beautiful.. don’t make it go to waste. People love you, I love you. Keep your head up.. because better things will come. God gives his biggest soldiers the biggest battles because they can take it. And he would never put you in a situation that you can’t handle. You are so worth it and I just wish I can hug you through a screen. It’s not selfish to look at yourself before anybody else and see your needs. Be yourself because nobody else can, and that’s why we were all born differently. It may feel like your world is crushing down on you but I promise you it’s not. You may not take the time to read this, but if you do then I love you.
@@alderaan1931 Then you have to start somewhere. Its not easy at all, but its worth all the hardwork. Maybe he things that i do won't work for you but honestly these are very important steps. Say thank you instead of 'no I'm not' when someone compliments you, don't say No I'm not or deny it, just say thank you. Do things your way. Add extra chocolate to your ice cream just because you feel like it. Go and wash your face and change your clothes when you feel like crying. Cut people off, toxic people dont deserve to be in your life. You are climbing up, you cant have someone pull you down. I know you wont be able to say "Oh you're great and amazing!" To yourself, and that's okay. Just go from " Im ugly" to "I dont look that nice today, should i change my shirt?" Or from "Im a failure" to "I failed at this, i need to do something to not fail again at this" Give yourself a solution and not just an answer. You are so strong for going through this and still loving everyone around you. Give yourself a chance too
@@alderaan1931 Thank you, you just made my day :). You are an amazing human being and you deserve the world. I would love to talk to you more, do you have an Instagram account? Or something like that? I just wanted to say that even though I dont really know you, but im so proud of you for getting better even after all that happened to you. Dont give up on yourself! Did you realise how korean people like to say "Fighting!" A lot? It means that im not able to help you solve your problems, but i can be by your side while you do. It means you have to keep on fighting, till you have nothing left to lose. It doesn't have to mean something big or important. We always are fighting. Fighting to wakeup, fighting to fall asleep, fighting to live. It just means that you are so strong and you deserve to have a fighting chance. Please take care of yourself, and if you have a Instagram account that would be amazing. Fighting!💜
@@alderaan1931 No no, your english is great. I will dm you tomorrow, because i was taking a break from it for the past week and finally start using it tmr. Talk to you later!
It actually made me cry tbh Edit: Im going to word that better The way he hurt Sherlock made me cry. Especially when Sherlock let him beat him up. And the way Sherlock never said anything abt it and was silently hurting made me sad.
Remember Reinbach Fall ep and also remember John’s speech on Sherlock’s grave for Sherlock and also watch many happy returns on UA-cam then think about it again 👍🏼
You'll need grow more sympathy for grieving people then... Grief changes people and sometimes being a good friend means letting your friend play out their grief where it won't hurt anyone else, on you... Because your friend would do the same for you.
@@Dani_the_crow well idk how it works given I’m not one nor am I a professional. But the fact is that Sherlock was most likely confirmed as a sociopath or some crap and just learned how to cope with that and humanity more. Then again I don’t have any background on the subject
@@sharko3211 based on his behaviors in the show I imagine he was self diagnosed. Just considering I think it would be out of character for him to defer to a doctor on something because that would require him to admit he doesn't know everything.
This is acting! You can see the pain in Sherlocks eyes after John said "Yes you did" he almost teared up and Sherlock isn't a person that just cries, but this killed him. It broke his heart completly because he blames his self and John, his only friend, seems to hate him for it.
I committed suicide right around the same time as the series 2 episode finale aired. I didn't see the ending. I didn't know what Moriarty drive Sherlock to do or how he did it. I came back thankfully to some good doctors and saw the ending after I got out of the hospital. I was crushed. Then series 3 came along and showed how Sherlock was okay somewhat. But I wasn't. I wasn't okay and I was mad. He got to be okay and I didn't. I was now an addict to all sorts of things just so I could feel again. Some prescribed and some now. Then series 4 rolled around and this was after I tossed some of my addictions. I was holding off on watching it. I only got to the part where Mary talks to Ajay in that room. I knew there wouldn't be anything good left in the series. I holded off for two years and finally caved. I couldn't believe it. Sherlock is an addict because of pain too. And then this scene came up. It hurt me so much. But in a good way. It's been years since my attempt and I've come along way. I'm not an addict to things that can kill me anymore. I'm not suicidal either. In fact I had a recent involuntary brush with death and it showed me how much meaning I've made for myself. This is despite having burnt bridges and being somewhat alone. I have me. The most important person in my life. Young person reading this or whoever is reading this. It does get better with time. Slowly but surely.
Wonderful editing! Benedict was absolutely incredible in this episode... In fact, both, Ben and Martin were. They were amazing throughout the whole series (especially since season 3) in portraying huge range of human's states and emotions, but The Lying Detective was simply a stunning acting class from both of them! And "Your life is not your own" thought (from an original A.C.Doyle story) is so true and meaningful...
For someone who deals with bad anxiety, I was very touched by this. I usually bottle up my feelings because I’m afraid of making a mistake or embarrassing myself, but I realize that letting my emotions out and telling someone or expressing them in any way possible, is helpful to not only me but my loved ones by letting them know they haven’t done nothing wrong so they don’t have to constantly worry. Thank you for this.
It's so comforting and surreal to see so many comments on how this scene from Sherlock saved someone's life as it did mine. I remember watching this scene as a 14 year old thinking it was so powerful and raw. Little did I know it would the most important less than 60 second speech I'd ever hear a year later. I held onto those words so tightly, "Your death is something that happens to everyone else. Your life is not your own. Keep your hands off it." I held it so tightly during the months that I was suicidal constantly trying to remind myself that it wouldn't be worth it even though I only felt like a burden to others that needed to be lifted and removed. It's just so crazy and surreal looking back years later in a much better place. This scene most definitely contributed to saving my life... thank you Sherlock 💙
Suicide is a bell you can’t un-ring, and it cripples those left behind. They won’t just “bounce back” or “not notice” or “be OK”. They won’t be OK. You are the only one that can fill the space that is you. There is no other. Even if you feel that you don’t know the significance of your part here, you do have one, and it’s important. It may take a lifetime to see what it is, but it does matter. Even if you feel you’re just “filling space”, you may never know just how much space you’re filling in someone’s heart, even if they never tell you. They may not even be a close friend, you could be the only person even at your job, or as a customer, or anywhere, that someone else can relate to, or looks forward to seeing, you may be keeping someone afloat just by your greeting in passing, you just don’t know. People who have died leave a hole that cannot be filled by anyone else, it’s unfixable. When it’s on purpose, it’s all the worse, it’s saying “I don’t care if I destroy everyone’s life and make it so they never sleep again, never leave the house again, even lose everything because of it...”. It’s like they didn’t just kill themselves, they killed everyone that loved them, too. Their lives are over, too, gone to nothing more than a day-to-day struggle to survive. I know several people whose lives have been totally destroyed by a suicide or more than one, my own included. Don’t abandon the people who count on you, even if you think you aren’t doing anything important, you are. You may just not know it. Even of you only talk to people rarely, even those rare moments matter a lot to someone. You’re valuable and you matter. Don’t ever forget it!!
Take it from someone who has thought taking their life would help their family and friends get farther in life but it really just sets them back and I'm grateful I survived cause some people don't and so now I live my life to the fullest and try to help other from making the same mistakes I have.
Been suffering with chronic clinical depression since I was 8 - I am 19 right now - and unable to work because of it. Most days I cannot get out of my bed and just cry all day. People keep asking me in real life what I'm doing now workwise, or say that I should be working in my age. And it always breaks me further, making me wish I wasn't here anymore since I can't do what is expected of me. I can never be cured with this case of disease. After the first relapse you have a 50% chance, and every next one lowers it further, and I have up to 6 "relapses" every single year with the aforementioned situations. I have made a similar edit like your video, that I keep watching and listening to when I'm at my lowest, but I like how deep your video is. You really did an amazing job with editing. Best regards Xx
Please don’t identify with their statistics, or any labels anyone puts on you. You are not a label. You’re a human being of value. 10 years from now they’ll say something totally different, and there are always the outliers, those that are outside the statistics. And remember, it’s illegal for theml to use the word “cure”, so if course they’ll say there isn’t one. You’re here for a reason, and you don’t have to figure out what that is on some socially-mandated time table. People will pressure you to be a worker bee, but please don’t assimilate that, don’t make it part of you. A fish is lousy at climbing trees, and an elephant wasn’t made to swim long distances, monkeys don’t live underground, and ants can’t swing from tree to tree. Most people get frustrated because they try to be something they aren’t, when others pressure them, and it can take them time to find what they are. When that happens, the goal should just be exploring the options of interest, whatever is affordable, and doing what is enjoyable and not what isn’t. No one should pursue something they hate, and I see it a lot when someone is pressured to make others happy. People that love you want you to do what makes you happy and everyone else doesn’t matter. Depression also comes from unresolved anger, forgiving the worst people in the world can be hard, but it doesn’t mean you think what they did is ok, or that you need to still be around them or even be nice to them, it just means they aren’t worth you allowing them to steal one more second of your future by dragging anything they did along with you. And finally...no one can be what you are in the world, just by being you, you may not yet see it, but no special feats of wonder are required. You are your own unique frequency, and like an orchestra, your part matters, or the whole tune is off. And you would leave an unfillable hole behind. It’s the worst thing, a life full of holes where people should be, which is all the more reason to stick around. You don’t owe anyone an explanation of what you can and cannot do. These extremely inconsiderate people would not be demanding that someone in a wheelchair jump up and walk, let alone run, so please don’t let their rude and arrogant remarks affect you. Forgive yourself for not meeting your own expectations, and allow yourself the time out you need. You probably have good reasons, not that you need them because you don’t, but you probably still do have good reasons for feeling depressed. In the meantime, there are little things you can do for yourself, focus on those, however small, focus on what little things make you happier, and not on what you cannot do. You’re here because you matter. When people push and poke at you, remind them we are all like different plants from different seeds, we are meant to be different things and we grow or don’t grow under various conditions, their needs are not all the same, so they can stop comparing you to anyone else. Some seeds may take years to even germinate. The conditions need to be just right. And digging them up to see if they’re going to sprout soon won’t help anything, it only harms the seed and sets its growth back. And seeds are not expected to know everything about the conditions they need to grow. The simply grow when everything they need falls into place, so people would do well to either be as nurturing as you need, respecting your space, limitations and abilities, or just leave you alone, to let you grow at your own rate. 💕
You know I have a weird kind of a habit that I want to find a 100% answer to these type of things in such a way that anyone in any place who hears it will stop having doubts about it, not because I myself was suffering but there might be people who are endlessly waiting for an answer which gives them relief. You know many times I myself thought what if I am in the same place and this did made me anxious many times and not to mention got confused with myself many times (Stupid me). You know what have I come up with..... " I did not decide when this life started and I do not get to decide when it will end " . Now since this is the case, where the hell does discussion about living or dying comes from if does not at all come under my jurisdiction? Fair enough? Now I am relieved of the quest for an answer because it was never mine to find. The only thing that's in my hands to live it and live fully. I think no one is suicidal but everyone wants to find an answer as to why they should be alive. So this means they themselves never want to end life instead they want a good enough purpose to live. Now just look at this, you yourself gave the reason. Even at your worst you are finding answers to live this means you really have no plans to die and you never had. Even though you have no reasons but still wanting to live is such a great thirst for life you can have. Right now you might be finding a reason to live and there will be one day when you don't even require a reason to tell you to live because you will be at your best and I want you to see that day and realise what an idiot you were to think about all those stupid things. And that day could be anytime maybe next week or next month but once it's there you will know. I hope I have not gone too much in deep please forgive me if I have said something that offended anyone. And if by chance you feel this helped even 40% please do reply will be happy to listen from you. P.S. - 40% because here in my country this is the passing score for any subject 😂.
Good editing, well done. Remember, suicide is permanent solution to a temporary problem. Live your life one day at a time, always believing tomorrow will be a better day.
You can just see another part of Sherlock die when John says yes you did, you can see the devastation and defeat in his eyes and while face And that breaks my heart
Thats really only missing the I'm at the bottom of a pit and I'm still falling and.. I'm never climbing out And Look at me! Can't do it. Not now. Not alone. And it would be the most perfect video ever omg
'Sometimes perspective comes far too late. You cannot trust yourself. You think you can, but you can’t. Not because you are selfish. You cannot live for anyone else’s sake. As much as you may want to, you can’t stay alive just because other people want you alive. You cannot stay alive for your parents. You cannot stay alive for your friends. And you have no responsibility to stay alive for them. You have no responsibility to anyone but yourself to live." from the book _Two Boys Kissing_
Season 4 my heart broke into a million pieces for Sherlock, the way John treated him was not okay, beating him up when he's already nearly dying from drug overdose and guilt But at the same time I don't really blame John, he was grieving, probably in the stage of anger
Sherlock was grieving too, not just the loss of Mary but also the devastating loss and blame of John. Instead of beating up the man who almost died saving him and his family several times, John could've just let himself be comforted.. which I'm sure Sherlock was dying to do (and he did, in that last hug scene). Would've saved both John and Sherlock.
As someone who suffers from depression ive thought about ending all multiple times. It's not till recently i saw this show and honestly this has made me see suicide in a different light. Means alot especially coming from someone i admire in a way. Thanks for this video.
This hit me hard, not like many others here saying “it saved me” or “it helped me” for me it was “I wish I knew the quote”. Some time ago by best friend got really close to killing herself and just hearing her say to me “there’s nothing I can do” hurt me so much, I’m forever thankful to whatever encouraged me to tell her how much I care about her because it ended up making her change her mind but I just wish I knew how to explain to her that “her life is not her own” and that if she ended her suffering it would cause so much more. I thank you.
I saw this episode for the first time in one of my lowest moments ever and it really hit. Ive thought about it all through my recovery and today i decided to watch sherlock again and it made me realize how much progress ive made.
I first encountered this quote in the Arthur Conan Doyle story, and it really struck a nerve then. When I heard it on Sherlock, it meant even more. And now, in my own darkness, it is ... a knot.
i never had suicidal thoughts (thankfully) but i've seen people online that have. it's sad, and most of the time they don't even want help. this video is amazing.
Since he only hallucinated "Faith" (what a great metaphor to be honest), and he took this gun from her coat and threw it into the water - was that John's gun? Did he have it this whole time?
It's true. There was this family secret, my great-grandmother didn't reveale and I wanted to know so badly. After more than a decade of curiosity, my great-grandmother told me, seems as if I was the one she could confide in, a year before she passed... I am glad she relieved her soul, hopefully, and yet, I wish I'd rather not know.
i am not suicidal but sometimes i wish it's better if i am dead but i know that my mother can't survive my demise so i will make sure everything in my power to remain not dead
Yesterday I learned that in a crowd of 2000 people are roughly 12 suicidal. Now, look at the like/dislike ratio. Could possibly someone have a look for those disliking this?
Great vid! Can u help. im intrested is it ok to use footage from tv series partly im your YT videos and what can happen in the worst case-only demotetization or ban?
why tf can I not find the raw clip. Not to hate on the work you've done at all, but there are so many edited, music overlayed versions and all I want is the raw scene. wth
And you’d be willing to pass down that life of agony to others? You’ll inflict pain into everyone who loves you, even if you think you have no one who does. Keep your hands off your life, or else others will die with you.
You have your pains but once you end your life, you transfer that pain to oh so many others. If you don’t want to live in this pain, seek some help, please. Talk to a therapist, or someone you can just talk to. Maybe contact a lifeline. But please. Don’t give up, I know it’s hard. I know you must’ve been fighting for so long. But please. Get help.
"Taking your own life. Interesting expression, taking it from who? Once it's over, it's not you who'll miss it. Your own death is something that happens to everybody else. *Your life is not your own, keep your hands off it.* " this quote saved me so many times in so many ways.
Me too
As someone who's struggled with suicidal thoughts I just wanna say thank you.
Carolina Moreno if I could like this more than once, I would. Instead I will say, yes yes yes yes yes yes
Carolina Moreno hang on there, it'll be Allright, I passed through that too
Bless you, Carolina 🐥🕯❤
Great vid! Can u help. im intrested is it ok to use footage from tv series partly im your YT videos and what can happen in the worst case-only demotetization or ban?
That speech from "The Lying Detective" helped pull me out of depression because it made me realize that I wouldn't be hurting myself, I'd be hurting my family and my friends.
And it was something I could never take back.
Honestly, same...
It is truly special what words can do once said in the right order in the right tone of speach. It can break you, it can build you up. It van kill you and make you live once again. Words said in the right way are truly magical
I nearly started crying when Sherlock said "i killed his wife"
but when John said "Yes you did" i broke...
I started crying when John started punching Sherlock, I think it was too much. I mean yes, his wife died but that wasn't Sherlock's fault. And he just started beating the crap out of him, while he was that high, already on the floor - it was just too much
@@allyouneedislove3218 And he felt like he deserved it.
"Let him do it. He's entitled to. I killed his wife."
Oh, Sherlock... Always so perceptive about everything except yourself.
Still hurting over these two.. in 2021
That quote has saved me a few times, such a beautiful video thank you.
The fact that this quote has saved this many people so many times (myself included) is really sad but kind of beautiful
@@adrianugh4689ehr seems like this is the power of tv shows.
Doctor Who and HIMYM saved me a few times and i recently found this show too.
Same, it saved my life, not so long ago.
So happy to see you are all stil going, life is hard but it can be beautiful as well. I found this the most powerful part of Sherlock. Please find it if you need it!
This quote saves me every time
I was very depressed when i watched this episode and i had decided that i was going to take my life that night.. for some reason i felt compelled to watch this episode before I was going to do it. I watched this and i broke down and cried and it saved my life. THANK YOU SHERLOCK And to the writers of sherlock. I don't think they know how much these lines have helped people.
That quote hit me hard
When you die , just like that a second and the pain is all over.
That when you will stop hearing the sound of birds at the morning
Thats when you stop seeing the flowers on summer
That when you smelling the smell of fresh autumn
That when you stop feeling snow
But just like that boom everything is over.
The pain is over
You wont feel anything anymore
Its the people who are still living that will have to deal with that
Its your family who will have to bury you
It your friends who will have to give a speech on your funeral
Its the people who love you that will have to live their whole lives thinking its their fault
So keep your hands off you life
@@alderaan1931 Then scream it out, dont keep it in. Everything feels a mess now but it will get better, it always does, are you gonna wait for it to get better. I wrote this 9 month ago, and no its not correct.
Dont stay alive for everyone else,
Stay alive for yourself. Give yourself a second chance
teens scream sometimes I’m 14... and suffer from depression and anxiety. I’ve had anxiety since I was 4. But last year I started taking action and hurting myself. I went to the mental hospital and a bunch of other crap went on. I’m now in thearpy.. which honestly isn’t helping me rn because I’m not with the right person. But I highly advise you to seek help. YOU NEED IT. Your life is beautiful.. don’t make it go to waste. People love you, I love you. Keep your head up.. because better things will come. God gives his biggest soldiers the biggest battles because they can take it. And he would never put you in a situation that you can’t handle. You are so worth it and I just wish I can hug you through a screen. It’s not selfish to look at yourself before anybody else and see your needs. Be yourself because nobody else can, and that’s why we were all born differently. It may feel like your world is crushing down on you but I promise you it’s not. You may not take the time to read this, but if you do then I love you.
@@alderaan1931 Then you have to start somewhere. Its not easy at all, but its worth all the hardwork. Maybe he things that i do won't work for you but honestly these are very important steps.
Say thank you instead of 'no I'm not' when someone compliments you, don't say No I'm not or deny it, just say thank you.
Do things your way. Add extra chocolate to your ice cream just because you feel like it. Go and wash your face and change your clothes when you feel like crying. Cut people off, toxic people dont deserve to be in your life. You are climbing up, you cant have someone pull you down. I know you wont be able to say "Oh you're great and amazing!" To yourself, and that's okay. Just go from " Im ugly" to "I dont look that nice today, should i change my shirt?" Or from "Im a failure" to "I failed at this, i need to do something to not fail again at this" Give yourself a solution and not just an answer.
You are so strong for going through this and still loving everyone around you. Give yourself a chance too
@@alderaan1931 Thank you, you just made my day :). You are an amazing human being and you deserve the world. I would love to talk to you more, do you have an Instagram account? Or something like that?
I just wanted to say that even though I dont really know you, but im so proud of you for getting better even after all that happened to you. Dont give up on yourself!
Did you realise how korean people like to say "Fighting!" A lot?
It means that im not able to help you solve your problems, but i can be by your side while you do. It means you have to keep on fighting, till you have nothing left to lose. It doesn't have to mean something big or important. We always are fighting. Fighting to wakeup, fighting to fall asleep, fighting to live. It just means that you are so strong and you deserve to have a fighting chance.
Please take care of yourself, and if you have a Instagram account that would be amazing. Fighting!💜
@@alderaan1931 No no, your english is great. I will dm you tomorrow, because i was taking a break from it for the past week and finally start using it tmr. Talk to you later!
Once you've opened your heart, you can't close it again...
The way John treated Sherlock after Mary died had me so mad. It really made me think about how Sherlock loves John so much more than John loves him
Jaita Nolting It wasn’t even Sherlock’s fault and he just started acting like everything he does makes his life worse and it makes me sad.
It actually made me cry tbh
Edit: Im going to word that better
The way he hurt Sherlock made me cry. Especially when Sherlock let him beat him up. And the way Sherlock never said anything abt it and was silently hurting made me sad.
Remember Reinbach Fall ep and also remember John’s speech on Sherlock’s grave for Sherlock and also watch many happy returns on UA-cam then think about it again 👍🏼
You'll need grow more sympathy for grieving people then... Grief changes people and sometimes being a good friend means letting your friend play out their grief where it won't hurt anyone else, on you... Because your friend would do the same for you.
John's character is the only thing that pissed me off about series 4
And after all this Sherlock still thinks hes a sociopath
I mean... he kinda is... or was...
Idk less of one now than he was before
@@sharko3211 you dont just grow out of sociopathy
@@Dani_the_crow well idk how it works given I’m not one nor am I a professional. But the fact is that Sherlock was most likely confirmed as a sociopath or some crap and just learned how to cope with that and humanity more. Then again I don’t have any background on the subject
@@sharko3211 based on his behaviors in the show I imagine he was self diagnosed. Just considering I think it would be out of character for him to defer to a doctor on something because that would require him to admit he doesn't know everything.
High functioning sociopath*
This is acting!
You can see the pain in Sherlocks eyes after John said "Yes you did" he almost teared up and Sherlock isn't a person that just cries, but this killed him. It broke his heart completly because he blames his self and John, his only friend, seems to hate him for it.
I committed suicide right around the same time as the series 2 episode finale aired. I didn't see the ending. I didn't know what Moriarty drive Sherlock to do or how he did it. I came back thankfully to some good doctors and saw the ending after I got out of the hospital. I was crushed. Then series 3 came along and showed how Sherlock was okay somewhat. But I wasn't. I wasn't okay and I was mad. He got to be okay and I didn't. I was now an addict to all sorts of things just so I could feel again. Some prescribed and some now. Then series 4 rolled around and this was after I tossed some of my addictions. I was holding off on watching it. I only got to the part where Mary talks to Ajay in that room. I knew there wouldn't be anything good left in the series. I holded off for two years and finally caved. I couldn't believe it. Sherlock is an addict because of pain too. And then this scene came up. It hurt me so much. But in a good way. It's been years since my attempt and I've come along way. I'm not an addict to things that can kill me anymore. I'm not suicidal either. In fact I had a recent involuntary brush with death and it showed me how much meaning I've made for myself. This is despite having burnt bridges and being somewhat alone. I have me. The most important person in my life. Young person reading this or whoever is reading this. It does get better with time. Slowly but surely.
Thank you
Damn, glad it helped a little,
I’m so proud of you for staying and for being here you are important and we want you
Hope you're still well, it was very brave to write this comment and I thank you.
I attempted with an OD, wasn’t very fun 🥰
"Your life is not your own, so keep your hands off it!"
I think of that a lot. It's saved me.
John's little "It's not okay" at 3:51 broke my heart.
Wonderful editing! Benedict was absolutely incredible in this episode... In fact, both, Ben and Martin were. They were amazing throughout the whole series (especially since season 3) in portraying huge range of human's states and emotions, but The Lying Detective was simply a stunning acting class from both of them! And "Your life is not your own" thought (from an original A.C.Doyle story) is so true and meaningful...
For someone who deals with bad anxiety, I was very touched by this. I usually bottle up my feelings because I’m afraid of making a mistake or embarrassing myself, but I realize that letting my emotions out and telling someone or expressing them in any way possible, is helpful to not only me but my loved ones by letting them know they haven’t done nothing wrong so they don’t have to constantly worry. Thank you for this.
It's so comforting and surreal to see so many comments on how this scene from Sherlock saved someone's life as it did mine. I remember watching this scene as a 14 year old thinking it was so powerful and raw. Little did I know it would the most important less than 60 second speech I'd ever hear a year later. I held onto those words so tightly, "Your death is something that happens to everyone else. Your life is not your own. Keep your hands off it." I held it so tightly during the months that I was suicidal constantly trying to remind myself that it wouldn't be worth it even though I only felt like a burden to others that needed to be lifted and removed. It's just so crazy and surreal looking back years later in a much better place. This scene most definitely contributed to saving my life... thank you Sherlock 💙
Suicide is a bell you can’t un-ring, and it cripples those left behind. They won’t just “bounce back” or “not notice” or “be OK”. They won’t be OK. You are the only one that can fill the space that is you. There is no other. Even if you feel that you don’t know the significance of your part here, you do have one, and it’s important. It may take a lifetime to see what it is, but it does matter.
Even if you feel you’re just “filling space”, you may never know just how much space you’re filling in someone’s heart, even if they never tell you. They may not even be a close friend, you could be the only person even at your job, or as a customer, or anywhere, that someone else can relate to, or looks forward to seeing, you may be keeping someone afloat just by your greeting in passing, you just don’t know.
People who have died leave a hole that cannot be filled by anyone else, it’s unfixable. When it’s on purpose, it’s all the worse, it’s saying “I don’t care if I destroy everyone’s life and make it so they never sleep again, never leave the house again, even lose everything because of it...”. It’s like they didn’t just kill themselves, they killed everyone that loved them, too. Their lives are over, too, gone to nothing more than a day-to-day struggle to survive. I know several people whose lives have been totally destroyed by a suicide or more than one, my own included.
Don’t abandon the people who count on you, even if you think you aren’t doing anything important, you are. You may just not know it. Even of you only talk to people rarely, even those rare moments matter a lot to someone. You’re valuable and you matter. Don’t ever forget it!!
Never a truer word spoken.
Take it from someone who has thought taking their life would help their family and friends get farther in life but it really just sets them back and I'm grateful I survived cause some people don't and so now I live my life to the fullest and try to help other from making the same mistakes I have.
Been suffering with chronic clinical depression since I was 8 - I am 19 right now - and unable to work because of it. Most days I cannot get out of my bed and just cry all day.
People keep asking me in real life what I'm doing now workwise, or say that I should be working in my age.
And it always breaks me further, making me wish I wasn't here anymore since I can't do what is expected of me.
I can never be cured with this case of disease. After the first relapse you have a 50% chance, and every next one lowers it further, and I have up to 6 "relapses" every single year with the aforementioned situations.
I have made a similar edit like your video, that I keep watching and listening to when I'm at my lowest, but I like how deep your video is. You really did an amazing job with editing.
Best regards Xx
Please don’t identify with their statistics, or any labels anyone puts on you. You are not a label. You’re a human being of value. 10 years from now they’ll say something totally different, and there are always the outliers, those that are outside the statistics. And remember, it’s illegal for theml to use the word “cure”, so if course they’ll say there isn’t one.
You’re here for a reason, and you don’t have to figure out what that is on some socially-mandated time table. People will pressure you to be a worker bee, but please don’t assimilate that, don’t make it part of you. A fish is lousy at climbing trees, and an elephant wasn’t made to swim long distances, monkeys don’t live underground, and ants can’t swing from tree to tree.
Most people get frustrated because they try to be something they aren’t, when others pressure them, and it can take them time to find what they are. When that happens, the goal should just be exploring the options of interest, whatever is affordable, and doing what is enjoyable and not what isn’t. No one should pursue something they hate, and I see it a lot when someone is pressured to make others happy. People that love you want you to do what makes you happy and everyone else doesn’t matter.
Depression also comes from unresolved anger, forgiving the worst people in the world can be hard, but it doesn’t mean you think what they did is ok, or that you need to still be around them or even be nice to them, it just means they aren’t worth you allowing them to steal one more second of your future by dragging anything they did along with you.
And finally...no one can be what you are in the world, just by being you, you may not yet see it, but no special feats of wonder are required. You are your own unique frequency, and like an orchestra, your part matters, or the whole tune is off. And you would leave an unfillable hole behind. It’s the worst thing, a life full of holes where people should be, which is all the more reason to stick around.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation of what you can and cannot do. These extremely inconsiderate people would not be demanding that someone in a wheelchair jump up and walk, let alone run, so please don’t let their rude and arrogant remarks affect you. Forgive yourself for not meeting your own expectations, and allow yourself the time out you need. You probably have good reasons, not that you need them because you don’t, but you probably still do have good reasons for feeling depressed. In the meantime, there are little things you can do for yourself, focus on those, however small, focus on what little things make you happier, and not on what you cannot do. You’re here because you matter.
When people push and poke at you, remind them we are all like different plants from different seeds, we are meant to be different things and we grow or don’t grow under various conditions, their needs are not all the same, so they can stop comparing you to anyone else. Some seeds may take years to even germinate. The conditions need to be just right. And digging them up to see if they’re going to sprout soon won’t help anything, it only harms the seed and sets its growth back. And seeds are not expected to know everything about the conditions they need to grow. The simply grow when everything they need falls into place, so people would do well to either be as nurturing as you need, respecting your space, limitations and abilities, or just leave you alone, to let you grow at your own rate. 💕
I'm here for you love if you ever want to talk. I've suffered from the same thing. I hope you're well.
@@misskim2058 you are a fucking hero my guy. Couldn't have said it better myself.
Hope you are doing better now
You know I have a weird kind of a habit that I want to find a 100% answer to these type of things in such a way that anyone in any place who hears it will stop having doubts about it, not because I myself was suffering but there might be people who are endlessly waiting for an answer which gives them relief. You know many times I myself thought what if I am in the same place and this did made me anxious many times and not to mention got confused with myself many times (Stupid me).
You know what have I come up with..... " I did not decide when this life started and I do not get to decide when it will end " . Now since this is the case, where the hell does discussion about living or dying comes from if does not at all come under my jurisdiction? Fair enough? Now I am relieved of the quest for an answer because it was never mine to find. The only thing that's in my hands to live it and live fully.
I think no one is suicidal but everyone wants to find an answer as to why they should be alive. So this means they themselves never want to end life instead they want a good enough purpose to live.
Now just look at this, you yourself gave the reason. Even at your worst you are finding answers to live this means you really have no plans to die and you never had. Even though you have no reasons but still wanting to live is such a great thirst for life you can have. Right now you might be finding a reason to live and there will be one day when you don't even require a reason to tell you to live because you will be at your best and I want you to see that day and realise what an idiot you were to think about all those stupid things. And that day could be anytime maybe next week or next month but once it's there you will know.
I hope I have not gone too much in deep please forgive me if I have said something that offended anyone. And if by chance you feel this helped even 40% please do reply will be happy to listen from you.
P.S. - 40% because here in my country this is the passing score for any subject 😂.
Good editing, well done.
Remember, suicide is permanent solution to a temporary problem. Live your life one day at a time, always believing tomorrow will be a better day.
You can just see another part of Sherlock die when John says yes you did, you can see the devastation and defeat in his eyes and while face
And that breaks my heart
Sherlock Holmes has saved my life a couple of times.
The fact that this quote has saved this many people so many times (myself included) is really sad but kind of beautiful
Thats really only missing the
I'm at the bottom of a pit and I'm still falling and.. I'm never climbing out
And
Look at me! Can't do it. Not now.
Not alone.
And it would be the most perfect video ever omg
I came to that conclusion way before I saw Sherlock... It saved my life to think about who cared for me
'Sometimes perspective comes far too late. You cannot trust yourself. You think you can, but you can’t. Not because you are selfish. You cannot live for anyone else’s sake. As much as you may want to, you can’t stay alive just because other people want you alive. You cannot stay alive for your parents. You cannot stay alive for your friends. And you have no responsibility to stay alive for them. You have no responsibility to anyone but yourself to live."
from the book _Two Boys Kissing_
This quote shook me back then, it shakes me now... This show was a masterpiece
This episode saved my life and I will be forever thankful.
this speech has saved me so many times
thank you
Bloody brilliant editing work, well done!
why doesn't this have more likes.
Season 4 my heart broke into a million pieces for Sherlock, the way John treated him was not okay, beating him up when he's already nearly dying from drug overdose and guilt
But at the same time I don't really blame John, he was grieving, probably in the stage of anger
Sherlock was grieving too, not just the loss of Mary but also the devastating loss and blame of John. Instead of beating up the man who almost died saving him and his family several times, John could've just let himself be comforted.. which I'm sure Sherlock was dying to do (and he did, in that last hug scene). Would've saved both John and Sherlock.
That legitimately made me cry. I felt so sorry for Sherlock when John started hitting him. Just wanted to give him a hug.
As someone who suffers from depression ive thought about ending all multiple times. It's not till recently i saw this show and honestly this has made me see suicide in a different light. Means alot especially coming from someone i admire in a way. Thanks for this video.
This hit me hard, not like many others here saying “it saved me” or “it helped me” for me it was “I wish I knew the quote”.
Some time ago by best friend got really close to killing herself and just hearing her say to me “there’s nothing I can do” hurt me so much, I’m forever thankful to whatever encouraged me to tell her how much I care about her because it ended up making her change her mind but I just wish I knew how to explain to her that “her life is not her own” and that if she ended her suffering it would cause so much more.
I thank you.
This made me cry so much
Amazing video! I was looking for something like that.Very touching and truly beautiful.Great job
Thank you for putting this togeather. Its such a beautiful and moving compilation. That quote at the start moves me every time.
This broke me so bad when I watched it for the first time
And now it’s happening again
This is so beautiful yet so painful to watch
I saw this episode for the first time in one of my lowest moments ever and it really hit. Ive thought about it all through my recovery and today i decided to watch sherlock again and it made me realize how much progress ive made.
GREAT EDITING!!!! Great work all around, what a fitting tribute to one of the best quotes from one of my favorite shows!
Watching after 4 yrs and still hurts 😭
I first encountered this quote in the Arthur Conan Doyle story, and it really struck a nerve then. When I heard it on Sherlock, it meant even more. And now, in my own darkness, it is ... a knot.
This line saved lives they never know
i never had suicidal thoughts (thankfully) but i've seen people online that have. it's sad, and most of the time they don't even want help.
this video is amazing.
I'm crying Jesus this is really heart warming
This is the most amazing video I`ve ever seen
My heart hurts after watching this
this is amazing!!! you have real talent ;u; i would love to see more sherlock edits, you capture the emotions intended so well!
So well done my heart aches so bad it was that beautiful.
This is beautiful... I am blown away
I've got goosebumps It's a masterpiece, thank you for this edit!
Ahhh I LOVE it!!! I was looking for great Sherlock edits like this and I would love to see more :D great job
Was watching Chester Bennington and Chris Cornell performance and this landed on my feed. I’m struggling but this helps. 🌹
this is the best edit i've ever seen
He’s indeed a philosopher. Mycroft was right.
Awww yes :') Mycroft truly knows Sherlock best.
im not going to lie but this episode, this dialogue sequence saved my life in 2021 :(
Incredible.
I'm like a minute into the video but it's already so amazing, bless you
This is beautiful.
These eyes full of so many pain!!!
Since he only hallucinated "Faith" (what a great metaphor to be honest), and he took this gun from her coat and threw it into the water - was that John's gun? Did he have it this whole time?
I thought that was Eurus?
He didn't hallucinated her, it was Eurus pretending to be Faith. Faith in the beggining of the episode and John's therapist - it's all Eurus.
Thanks you so much for this
And they decide they'd rather not know...
Can't blame me for my trust issues it rings so true.
It's true. There was this family secret, my great-grandmother didn't reveale and I wanted to know so badly. After more than a decade of curiosity, my great-grandmother told me, seems as if I was the one she could confide in, a year before she passed... I am glad she relieved her soul, hopefully, and yet, I wish I'd rather not know.
Thank you for the video, I needed this. ❤️
this is why & when I began hating John. Trust me I won't change. Mary killed herself.
Please god let me live.
Your going to be fine, okay? Someday, some place, you're going to be okay 💕
"Yes you did."
Sherlock : *Lie down*
*try not to cry*
*cry*
This video just saved me, bruh
I really love this!!
If my life is not mine then it's not theirs either. I cannot keep my hands off it. I don't want it anymore.
Wow, good editing
But the Editing ❤️
i am not suicidal but sometimes i wish it's better if i am dead
but i know that my mother can't survive my demise
so i will make sure everything in my power to remain not dead
omg I cried
Remember that time when Sherlock kinda accidentally went on a date with his sister
I think he was like just hanging around with a friend who reminds him his best friend /lover who used to walks with a walking stick 😉
Yesterday I learned that in a crowd of 2000 people are roughly 12 suicidal. Now, look at the like/dislike ratio. Could possibly someone have a look for those disliking this?
I still dont understand "you can keep your scars" can someone explain?
I want a friend like John
Great vid! Can u help. im intrested is it ok to use footage from tv series partly im your YT videos and what can happen in the worst case-only demotetization or ban?
why tf can I not find the raw clip. Not to hate on the work you've done at all, but there are so many edited, music overlayed versions and all I want is the raw scene. wth
Where did you get the original clips? I want to make a similar video but can't find the clips anywhere!
Thank you
That ending music is *wow*
What is it?
It's funny how depression, made me lose so many memories
Who is still alive because of Sherlock?
"So I will steal it"
0:06
no it's not okay... but it is what it is.
That is quite deep🤔
what if theres nobody who cares about me? nobody will miss me, bcs i have no one left.
Can you save my life
Pity for dislike ones
Actually yes, it is.
Is pretty selfish to expect someone to live his entire Life in pain just because someone maybe get sad.
Glad to see someone calling out this crock of shit.
no, it's pretty selfish to do something that you know will breake everyone that loves you
And you’d be willing to pass down that life of agony to others? You’ll inflict pain into everyone who loves you, even if you think you have no one who does. Keep your hands off your life, or else others will die with you.
You have your pains but once you end your life, you transfer that pain to oh so many others. If you don’t want to live in this pain, seek some help, please. Talk to a therapist, or someone you can just talk to. Maybe contact a lifeline. But please. Don’t give up, I know it’s hard. I know you must’ve been fighting for so long. But please. Get help.
I killed!?
It's too much of the Watsons that killed the series. Way too much.
Fuck.
Liars
As someone who's struggled with suicidal thoughts I just wanna say thank you.